Why do guys do the "wait a while before you call/text a girl" thing?

[dee-rose]

Do they really think it gives them a better shot?:confusedshrug:

[tgan3]

It does..

But every girl is different so it is not like it works all the time..and it works better if a girl already has some liking to you already.

From what I know if a girl messages you, if you reply instantly it shows that..
She is in control, she is the thing that you desire. If you read most dating advice it would encourage you to view yourself as "the prize". Replying instant lowers your status as "the prize".

If you decide to wait awhile, maybe a few hours before replying. She would be eagerly anticipating when you would reply her and everytime her phone receives a message her heart would jump in anticipation that it would be yours when maybe its from her other friends. By doing so, you are playing mind games with her and creating her desire to want you more and view you as "the prize".

[playtetris]

give her a chance to miss you

[TrueGreenFan]

It makes the ho think we're not so eager to hit it..... even tho that's far from the truth

[step_back]

We have to check our bank balance and make a decision whether or not we can pay for sex or be bothered to put up with your erratic, manipulative behaviour in order to get laid.

[Stuckey]

depends on how familiar you two are with each other

if it's in the middle of the day, nothing wrong with returning the msg 10 minutes later

the content of your text is what's important

[dee-rose]

It makes the ho think we're not so eager to hit it..... even tho that's far from the truth
Except it's obvious what they're doing.



We have to check our bank balance and make a decision whether or not we can pay for sex or be bothered to put up with your erratic, manipulative behaviour in order to get laid.
:cry: :cry: :cry:


give her a chance to miss you
This one makes the most sense

Just for clarification, I'm talking about when you first meet them

[mcrd101]

most of what i'd say has been said already. Although i kinda disagree with stuckey's interpretation. To me, the "waiting" is more not initiating a conversation and stuff rather than leaving them hanging for you to text them back in the middle of a convo. Although that can have the same effect, i think it's more "risky" and she may think you're not fun to talk to if you take awhile to reply.

case in point though: i was texting this girl for awhile, then periodically texted her, as in wouldn't text her for a few days, then have short convos when i did. then, i laid off for awhile, by the time i texted her again, she was saying she loved me and all that jazz

[niko]

Girls want you to want them but not need them. Calling them or messaging them 10 seconds after you meet them makes you seem needy. Needy is bad. Yes, if you don't call them tiil lwhenever it might also mean you don't give a **** about them but for some reason that is ok.

[joe]

Because male dating-advice sites tell us to, pretty much.

Nahhh well, there might be some truth in "giving her time to miss you." But I think guys take those sites too seriously, and follow their advice too much "by the book."

I say that because I did too at one point. I did a lot better with girls before I ever started reading those sites. It just makes you seem like a douche a lot of times. And unnatural. And most of the advice only works on insecure high school girls. So now I just be myself. Well... maybe I don't talk as much about economics with a girl buttt :D

[L.Kizzle]

give her a chance to miss you
Wait, is this your girlfriend or a random broad?

You can do this to yo gal, but wait to long for a random chick and she on to the next.

[JohnnySic]

What's texting?

[dee-rose]

I'm talking about when you first meet a girl and get her number. Wait a day or two, that's fine. But if you wait 5-7 she's gonna forget who you are. And then you'll say "oh, we met last week", and the instant thought becomes "why didnt you just text me last week, did your bro tell you it was uncool?" When guys wait that long, it's quite obvious what they're doing.

On the other hand, I get how the waiting thing CAN work, if she's insecure or has daddy issues or something.

[IGOTGAME]

Girls want you to want them but not need them. Calling them or messaging them 10 seconds after you meet them makes you seem needy. Needy is bad. Yes, if you don't call them tiil lwhenever it might also mean you don't give a **** about them but for some reason that is ok.

yeah, I was out this weekend and my female friend gave a guy her number. He texted her 2 hours later at 3:00AM trying to hang out the next day. Needless to say what happened to that text and his chances...

[lpublic_enemyl]

i'm not that into texting but don't wait too long when u guys are actually dating girls get upset when u don't text them after they text u :confusedshrug: if u don't know each other or just met, text within a 12 hours to a day

[lpublic_enemyl]

i'm not that into texting but don't wait too long when u guys are actually dating girls get upset when u don't text them after they text u :confusedshrug: if u don't know each other or just met, text within a 12 hours to a day

[Stone Cold]

i'm not that into texting but don't wait too long when u guys are actually dating girls get upset when u don't text them after they text u :confusedshrug: if u don't know each other or just met, text within a 12 hours to a day

WHAT?

[niko]

yeah, I was out this weekend and my female friend gave a guy her number. He texted her 2 hours later at 3:00AM trying to hang out the next day. Needless to say what happened to that text and his chances...
my wife (before we were married) visited me in NY. we hooked up and she went home and i was sad but didn't email her or anything because i figured we may never see each other again. that, more than anything had her pursuing me hard. she was annoyed i did not email her and kept calling. 6-9 months later, she was in NY living with me.

for some reason girls don't want you to need them at the time but later in retrospect they want you to have needed them. (You'll hook up and they'll be like "yeah, i know you wanted to call me right away." But if you did, you have no chance.

Anyone whose had any experience with women knows they are not logical.

[L.Kizzle]

my wife (before we were married) visited me in NY. we hooked up and she went home and i was sad but didn't email her or anything because i figured we may never see each other again. that, more than anything had her pursuing me hard. she was annoyed i did not email her and kept calling. 6-9 months later, she was in NY living with me.

for some reason girls don't want you to need them at the time but later in retrospect they want you to have needed them. (You'll hook up and they'll be like "yeah, i know you wanted to call me right away." But if you did, you have no chance.

Anyone whose had any experience with women knows they are not logical.
Girls are stupid.

[-playmaker-]

the same reason some girls make guys wait for sex...

because they know that if you give it up right away we won't want that bad any more...too easy...no fun



guys don't want to be "easy" either...cause "easy" is unattractive

[lilojmayo]

It makes the ho think we're not so eager to hit it..... even tho that's far from the truth


This is what i usually do. text several hours apart even days if need be. most girls have low self esteem, so you gotta take advantage of it. While your waiting to text her hour between, all the time she is in here room jumping up and down that a guy wanna go out with her.

I text-ed some girl this question she said " dont text back fast like a wierdo. Wait a ll while.'

[mcrd101]

This is what i usually do. text several hours apart even days if need be. most girls have low self esteem, so you gotta take advantage of it. While your waiting to text her hour between, all the time she is in here room jumping up and down that a guy wanna go out with her.

I text-ed some girl this question she said " dont text back fast like a wierdo. Wait a ll while.'

to be fair though, it does depend on each situation/girl. ive been with plenty of girls who i texted frequently and didnt keep them waiting and everything went good.

my point is, you may have a higher success rate if you "keep them waiting" but i usually dont simply because i get bored easily so i end up talking to them. i know it's not the "right way" and i may endanger my chances of success with some girls but not so much that it effects me too much.

[$LakerGold]

So you wouldnt look desperate or needy. You gotta balance your shit out, if she thinks your needy.. thats where your in trouble.

[kaiiu]

ni99as still do that? :oldlol:

I be texting em the same day I met em. That waitin shit for the birds

[detroitkid816]

ni99as still do that? :oldlol:

I be texting em the same day I met em. That waitin shit for the birds
you ain't never lied doe. but niccas ain't up on da shit you be on breh. cut us some slack, jack. be cool, fool. be real, jill.

[joe]

ni99as still do that? :oldlol:

I be texting em the same day I met em. That waitin shit for the birds

Agreed. That waiting shit is indeed for the birds.

[Rose]

Always leave them wanting more?

Personally, I don't the make them wait shit when it comes to texting after I meet a girl. I text her the next day, ask her to hang out.

I think waiting only works on certain girls. But you have to make yourself less available so as to catch their eye.