View Full Version : If you caught your girlfriend lying, break up?
LongBeachLakers
08-20-2011, 06:56 AM
My girlfriend lied about going to play pool with some friends but what she really did was she went clubbing and danced with a bunch of guys. This was the first time I caught her lying. Should I break up?
bballer
08-20-2011, 07:09 AM
She can't lie if she's dead, just sayin.
purplch0de
08-20-2011, 07:41 AM
yeah obv. theres trust issues. how long is the relationship?
Rnbizzle
08-20-2011, 07:45 AM
She can't lie if she's dead, just sayin.
:lol
:wtf:
LongBeachLakers
08-20-2011, 07:56 AM
yeah obv. theres trust issues. how long is the relationship?
2 years. So I'm assuming she's been lying the whole time and not her first
. How should I confront her? Just leave and not say a thing or say why?
Stuckey
08-20-2011, 07:58 AM
absolutely
no doubt about it, that's just
unacceptable
Go Getter
08-20-2011, 08:04 AM
"The women in my life, cause confusion and shit, so like Nino in New Jack, I holla cancel that B@$#%!"
Naw, for real, would she forgive you if you got caught like she did?
It's a sticky situation by my gut says cut her off.
Kebab Stall
08-20-2011, 08:05 AM
If she's lying to you, there's definitely trust issues which need to be resolved. You should confront about it, but just don't dive in head first and attack her about it.
LongBeachLakers
08-20-2011, 08:07 AM
absolutely
no doubt about it, that's just
unacceptable
Kinda sucks because I've been nothing but loyal to her and she does this. I feel gutted to be honest. I'm packing up right now, I haven't confronted her yet. She says that she's having a girls night out but I feel that a girls night out is for single people not when you're in a relationship.
She lied about where she was going and what shell be doing. If she wants to be single that bad I'll let her be. If I leave shell lose her job cause she uses my truck to get to work. I'm tired of being supportive and loyal to her and have her lie like this.
She was probably lying because she expected you to act like a little bitch about it and completely overreact.
Kind of like you are doing now eh.
LongBeachLakers
08-20-2011, 08:16 AM
She was probably lying because she expected you to act like a little bitch about it and completely overreact.
Kind of like you are doing now eh.
Hell yea I would overreact cause I know what clubs are like. And what girls and guys do there. I'm only reacting this way because she lied. If she told the truth I would have been initially upset and then ok with it.
the_chosen_1
08-20-2011, 08:20 AM
Leave!
We all know clubs are the place people go to get laid.
She goes and dances with guys and lies? What do you think she is up to? Save yourself the headache
hammer2010
08-20-2011, 08:23 AM
My girlfriend lied about going to play pool with some friends but what she really did was she went clubbing and danced with a bunch of guys. This was the first time I caught her lying. Should I break up?
How do you know she was dancing with guys? Sure she lied but you are creating scenarios in your head that may not be true. A lot of girls with boyfriends go to clubs with their friends and just stay with their friends. Some don't even talk to random guys. Leaving a gf of 2 years for a reason like this is stupid and you will regret it if you love her. However you should confront her and talk this out. A lot of times things like this are a blessing in a relationship if you handle it properly, and can lead to being more open with one another.
LongBeachLakers
08-20-2011, 08:38 AM
How do you know she was dancing with guys? Sure she lied but you are creating scenarios in your head that may not be true. A lot of girls with boyfriends go to clubs with their friends and just stay with their friends. Some don't even talk to random guys. Leaving a gf of 2 years for a reason like this is stupid and you will regret it if you love her. However you should confront her and talk this out. A lot of times things like this are a blessing in a relationship if you handle it properly, and can lead to being more open with one another.
I read her text(which I shouldnt), and she says she just wants to dance and told her friend she lied to me about where she was goin. I know I shouldnt have been snooping but she seemed suspicious .
step_back
08-20-2011, 08:40 AM
http://www.savealegacy.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/BEAT_INJURED_RAGE_MAN-WOMAN-SLAP.jpg
This will sort her out.
hammer2010
08-20-2011, 08:44 AM
I read her text(which I shouldnt), and she says she just wants to dance and told her friend she lied to me about where she was goin. I know I shouldnt have been snooping but she seemed suspicious .
Ya girls love to dance. A lot of times there's nothing more to it. Dancing means dancing within their circle of friends in most instances. But obviously you know her better than I do. A couple red flags would be if her friends are whores or whorish... If her friends dislike or hate you.. And finally if she gets drunk. The smartest thing you can do with regards to girlfriends that I always adhere to is treat their friends like gold and they will look out for you. Girls are very easily swayed and persuaded by their friends especially if alcohol is involved regardless of whether she's a good girl or not. Only thing you need to address now is the fact that she lied to you, that's it. Anything else makes you seem insecure. Just my 2 cents. Good luck!
Kobe Jnr
08-20-2011, 08:54 AM
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iggy>
08-20-2011, 09:19 AM
Dont know if I would break up but I would definitely take her less serious.
Bladers
08-20-2011, 10:35 AM
Picture or GTFO!
eeeeeebro
08-20-2011, 10:42 AM
If you dont have a baby with her leave. BUT... leaving isnt easy to do IF you can well best of luck to you. ITs harder than said. You'll end up being apart someday though
:roll: Kid is packing up, while his makeup is smeared as he lets out this annoying cry every once in awhile. All because he was a snoop and read her text messages and noticed she went to the club and not pool hall as she said.
She was probably lying because she expected you to act like a little bitch about it and completely overreact.
Kind of like you are doing now eh.
Exactly. Now he's going to play the I was only going to overreact if she lied to me about it, not if she really wanted to go to a club. :no:
Go ahead and break up with her, you might be doing her a favor. I mean afterall, check her text message history since you're good at that. See what else she has said in private.
NauruDude
08-20-2011, 10:46 AM
My girlfriend always lies in the bed and the sofa? Why should I break up with her now? And I cant catch her then, she has to be falling for me to catch her.
Butters
08-20-2011, 11:22 AM
If she wanted to go clubbing with friends,she would have told you.The fact that she lied about it means she either feels you would throw a bitch fit,or she likes to grind on dong and has no intention mof you ever finding out.
Either way bro,next that chick.Life is to short to be stuck with a lying asshole.
Bladers
08-20-2011, 11:25 AM
If she wanted to go clubbing with friends,she would have told you.The fact that she lied about it means she either feels you would throw a bitch fit,or she likes to grind on dong and has no intention mof you ever finding out.
Either way bro,next that chick.Life is to short to be stuck with a lying asshole.
This
and you know, if you lied to you now, you know she has lied to you before.
and if she has lied to you before, it means she's up to no good.
Dolphin
08-20-2011, 11:26 AM
:roll: Kid is packing up, while his makeup is smeared as he lets out this annoying cry every once in awhile. All because he was a snoop and read her text messages and noticed she went to the club and not pool hall as she said.
Exactly. Now he's going to play the I was only going to overreact if she lied to me about it, not if she really wanted to go to a club. :no:
Go ahead and break up with her, you might be doing her a favor. I mean afterall, check her text message history since you're good at that. See what else she has said in private.
You and LJJ are trying to be funny and sure, this has nothing to do with you two or myself so I don't really give a rats ass what happens, but in all honestly if my gf started lying about little things like this, I would begin to wonder if she'd start lying about bigger things down the road (if she hasn't already).
ie. "I'm going to girlfriend's house to catch up with old friends" when she's really in a motel sucking a dude off. It's a slippery slope not standing up to your partner about lies like this. Especially when she's lying about being in a place where everyone is drunk and you're definitely gonna be grinded on and shit. Who says one night down the road when this happens again she won't say **** it and just go home with another dude?
"Honey, I'm not feeling good. I'm just gonna sleep at friend's house. Love you." Happens all the time.
The fact her friends seem to support this behavior of lying would be a red flag for me too.
Grinder
08-20-2011, 11:29 AM
So...
She lied to you about what she was doing
You're snooping around checking her text messages
Sounds like a shitty relationship with obvious trust issues on both ends. Break up.
Bladers
08-20-2011, 11:31 AM
Personally I say, keep the train running and don't tell her about it. Try to entrap her when you know shes lying in the future.
So you can show up where she's at and...
http://lolsnaps.com/upload_pic/6617.gif
Nick Young
08-20-2011, 11:32 AM
you have to lay down boundaries with hos otherwise she's gonna keep doing it
tell her you dont care that she goes out with the girls clubbing, just you care that she lied about it and I'd ignore this ho for a week or two unless she tries to get contact with you and apologize, if she doesn't walk on to the next one
If you try to control her she just going to lie more and it will lead to her cheating if she didnt already, dont control the bird and let her fly free and if you dont trust her when out on her own not to cheat on you you shouldn't even be in a relationship with her
Rake2204
08-20-2011, 11:37 AM
If she wanted to go clubbing with friends,she would have told you.The fact that she lied about it means she either feels you would throw a bitch fit,or she likes to grind on dong and has no intention mof you ever finding out.
Either way bro,next that chick.Life is to short to be stuck with a lying asshole.
That's mostly my feelings as well. I'm a big believer in trust, for better or worse. I have a tough time rolling with a woman for whom I have learned I cannot trust.
So you would snoop through your ladies text messages?
I mean we dont even know how this guy acts in a relationship. He's probably a soft ass dude who constantly b!tches at little things. Was she wrong in lying about going to a pool hall and instead went to a club? Sure. But for all we know, she probably wants to go out and hang with friends, dance while he doesnt. She probably asked him to go with her to a club and he denied it. We really dont know how he has acted in the 2 years he went with her. But his actions of snooping through her personal things and packing up his stuff because he found out she lied about going to the pool hall and instead went to the club? That tells me a little something about him. The fact he created this cry cry scenerio of guys with boners pressed up on his ladies ass dancing the night away fondling her says a little something more about him.
We dont know the history here. But the way he is overreacting is like a chump. You've been with a female for 2 years and in a second you're packing up your stuff and asking strangers for advice over this? Get real. How are you communicating with us online and not the female you stayed with for 2 years? Maybe I'm too old and this is what happens in 2011. :confusedshrug:
Look at the example you created. Its drastic, its extreme. You left out the part where she took it in the ass, IN THE ASSSSSS. :roll:
Heat1011
08-20-2011, 12:12 PM
http://www.savealegacy.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/BEAT_INJURED_RAGE_MAN-WOMAN-SLAP.jpg
This will sort her out.
:lol :lol :lol
Yeah, if she was fraid to tell u the truth, that mean's she's most likely cheating on u hittin on random guys at the club
Rake2204
08-20-2011, 12:12 PM
So you would snoop through your ladies text messages?
I mean we dont even know how this guy acts in a relationship. He's probably a soft ass dude who constantly b!tches at little things. Was she wrong in lying about going to a pool hall and instead went to a club? Sure. But for all we know, she probably wants to go out and hang with friends, dance while he doesnt. She probably asked him to go with her to a club and he denied it. We really dont know how he has acted in the 2 years he went with her. But his actions of snooping through her personal things and packing up his stuff because he found out she lied about going to the pool hall and instead went to the club? That tells me a little something about him. The fact he created this cry cry scenerio of guys with boners pressed up on his ladies ass dancing the night away fondling her says a little something more about him.
We dont know the history here. But the way he is overreacting is like a chump. You've been with a female for 2 years and in a second you're packing up your stuff and asking strangers for advice over this? Get real. How are you communicating with us online and not the female you stayed with for 2 years? Maybe I'm too old and this is what happens in 2011. :confusedshrug:
Look at the example you created. Its drastic, its extreme. You left out the part where she took it in the ass, IN THE ASSSSSS. :roll:
One way or another, I think there's an issue in that relationship. Either she simply cannot be trusted, or as you mentioned, he has created a situation where she must lie about normal things to placate him.
Heat1011
08-20-2011, 12:14 PM
Personally I say, keep the train running and don't tell her about it. Try to entrap her when you know shes lying in the future.
So you can show up where she's at and...
http://lolsnaps.com/upload_pic/6617.gif
Love that Gif!
One way or another, I think there's an issue in that relationship. Either she simply cannot be trusted, or as you mentioned, he has created a situation where she must lie about normal things to placate him.
Definately agree there, I just chose the latter because of how he is acting in this thread. :oldlol:
Dolphin
08-20-2011, 12:24 PM
I think the only time I can accept snooping into a gf's phone, e-mail, etc. is if I seriously think she's cheating. I don't mean lying about going to a club. I mean actually having dude's on the side she sees.
If it's a long term relationship, there is a lot to lose by not knowing this. What if you get married later and THEN find out. If your gut tells you there's at least a 50/50 chance she's cheating then ya, I'd rather look like the ass who snooped than waste another second with that chick. At that point I wouldn't give a shit. It's not a b1tch move when there's so much on the line and you really think she's fooling around.
And if I find out she is cheating, then the amount of caring I'd have about me snooping would be somewhere between 0 and (-)100%.
-playmaker-
08-20-2011, 12:34 PM
If you suspect she is interested in other men then there is a very good chance that she is...
lilojmayo
08-20-2011, 12:35 PM
If you suspect she is interested in other men then there is a very good chance that she is...
a voice of reasoning
thatoneblackguy
08-20-2011, 01:00 PM
She's lying to you for a reason. She knows she's guilty.
G-Funk
08-20-2011, 07:44 PM
shake her... SHE LIED TO U TO GO OUT AND DANCE WITH COCKS!!!!! GET IT??????
Eat Like A Bosh
08-20-2011, 07:56 PM
Seems pretty obvious to me why she would lie...
Doomsday Dallas
08-20-2011, 08:24 PM
Good Lord... as if every relationship is going to be perfect.
So she lied about where she was going because she knew you'd be jealous
if she told you the truth.... big f*cking deal.
you should look at this as an opportunity to improve your relationship
instead of an opportunity to end it. (if you love her).
If she f*cks up again... then maybe you end it.
Gundress
08-20-2011, 08:32 PM
Call Cheaters..........that's the winner for you.
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Velocirap31
08-20-2011, 10:36 PM
Good Lord... as if every relationship is going to be perfect.
So she lied about where she was going because she knew you'd be jealous
if she told you the truth.... big f*cking deal.
you should look at this as an opportunity to improve your relationship
instead of an opportunity to end it. (if you love her).
If she f*cks up again... then maybe you end it.
This is what I was going to say. She didn't tell you because she obviously took you to be the jealous type who would freak out about this sort of thing. Dancing at a club is no big deal, don't be lame.
You've been with your girl for 2 years. She's lied to you, she went to the club, danced with guys, probably hooked up, cheated and got laid. Either, your to good for her, or your just a puppet. Dump her, make her feel the regret.
thatoneblackguy
08-21-2011, 12:01 AM
This is what I was going to say. She didn't tell you because she obviously took you to be the jealous type who would freak out about this sort of thing. Dancing at a club is no big deal, don't be lame.
Lying about it doesn't make it any better because if he find outs (in this case he did) then it just looks A LOT worse rather than just being up front about it.
Bitch is cheating on you.
I mean bro, everyone has their own opinions on this. But not everyone here spent 2 years with that girl like you have. What she has done shouldn't be drastically separate you two, by all means if all she did was go dance with friends and that's that, maybe you should work towards fixing the situation while she's in her fault then you and her being set free.
However if you do find out it was more then just dances, possibly flirting, screwing around, which possibly you never will and all trust will be in her hands after that, it's your decesion to make whether or not she deserves to learn the hard way. I know if my girl who I'm almost with for 2 years and done that, I would be highly pissed.
LA_Showtime
08-21-2011, 02:59 AM
Bunch of women in this thread...:wtf: Just ask her what she did and don't act or sound like a bitch when you do it. Don't accuse her...that'll just make her defensive and make the argument about the way you talk to her or stupid shit like that. Trust me, you'll know if she did anything.
LA_Showtime
08-21-2011, 03:04 AM
That's the suckers way out, confront her man! Let her see the fury in your eyes and hear it in your voice. Not loud fury, cold, ice like fury!
Or don't be a little kid about it and just ask her what's up. If it turns out she cheated or whatever just cut her off and don't answer her phone calls or text her back...that will destroy her.
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