ever get with a girl you work with?

[Abd El-Krim]

For the past month I've been crushing like some schoolboy bitch on this girl I work with. She's clearly into me, but I'm hesitant to make a move. We are both well-established at the company, and I'm worried that if it goes bad shit could be awkward as all hell.

Can this type of thing ever end well? I feel like she's the type I could settle down with. Please advise, ISH.

[AirTupac]

http://i748.photobucket.com/albums/xx124/ohkimosabe/GIFS/tumblr_l6jzs6ehMy1qa4o6wo1_400.gif

[NoGunzJustSkillz]

it'll never work...you never date a female you meet at a bar...ever.

[ZeN]

shit gets complicated with the quickness

[Skywalker]

http://i748.photobucket.com/albums/xx124/ohkimosabe/GIFS/tumblr_l6jzs6ehMy1qa4o6wo1_400.gif

worst GIF use ever?

[Balla_Status]

It can only get messy only if one of you guys becomes the boss of one another. That can become a clear ethics violation. Because clearly, there will be favoritism involved.

With that said, love happens. I know 3 couples that work together and got married. Things have been fine for them.

I've almost gotten with a girl I worked with. I'm glad it never happened though. She's fat, ugly and works in the same company (different countries though).

[QuebecBaller]

worst experience of my life...

[RidonKs]

http://savasplace.com/content/files/Image/blog_posts/2008/05/george-constanza.jpg

George: Ava was one of the reasons I used to like going to work. She was a
friend. Now we sleep together and suddenly, I don't know how to talk to her.
Every time I go to the bathroom I pass her desk. I have to plan little patterns.
I spend half my day writing! Then afterwards, I sit in my office and analyze
how it went. If it was a good conversation, I don't go to the bathroom for the
rest of the day. I see her laughing and talking with other people, they're all
so loose and relaxed, I think, 'that used to be me. I want to go back there
again.'

Jerry: What are you gonna do?

George: I have no choice, I'm quitting.

[Abd El-Krim]

It can only get messy only if one of you guys becomes the boss of one another. That can become a clear ethics violation. Because clearly, there will be favoritism involved.

With that said, love happens. I know 3 couples that work together and got married. Things have been fine for them.

I've almost gotten with a girl I worked with. I'm glad it never happened though. She's fat, ugly and works in the same company (different countries though).

:oldlol: fat and ugly, what gives?

Good point though. I'm above her in rank and a few years older, but I don't really foresee a scenario where I'd be directly managing her. I guess I'm more concerned about the social aspects of everything - people talking and what not.

[AirTupac]

worst GIF use ever?

Not when I'm laughing at the OP...

[B-Low]

Don't do it don't do it don't do it.

The way to go: keep in touch with them on a friendship level and once one of you finds another job, call/text and say you miss working with them, meet up for lunch, proceed to smash. But NOT while you still work together

[Lakers Legend#32]

You know that old saying, don't sh!t where you eat.

[B-Low]

With that said, love happens. I know 3 couples that work together and got married. Things have been fine for them.

http://the-office.maxupdates.tv/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/The-Office-Jim-and-Pam.jpg

[AirTupac]

http://the-office.maxupdates.tv/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/The-Office-Jim-and-Pam.jpg

Pam at her prime :bowdown:
Pam now :(

[andgar923]

For the past month I've been crushing like some schoolboy bitch on this girl I work with. She's clearly into me, but I'm hesitant to make a move. We are both well-established at the company, and I'm worried that if it goes bad shit could be awkward as all hell.

Can this type of thing ever end well? I feel like she's the type I could settle down with. Please advise, ISH.

DON'T DO IT!

This situation has been replayed millions of times and it almost never ends well.

Try your best to avoid it, to get over her, there isn't a clear easy way out, but it seems like you like her and it's not just sexual which is the worst. Look for the slightest flaw and magnify that shit if it helps you get over her. Cause if you don't soon, it'll end badly.

[andgar923]

I'd bang her and worry about the rest later. I make poor choices though.
:roll:

:oldlol:

[Abd El-Krim]

DON'T DO IT!

This situation has been replayed millions of times and it almost never ends well.

Try your best to avoid it, to get over her, there isn't a clear easy way out, but it seems like you like her and it's not just sexual which is the worst. Look for the slightest flaw and magnify that shit if it helps you get over her. Cause if you don't soon, it'll end badly.

Yeah I've turned down a few lays in the workplace - easy to do when that's all it is. But this girl is funny/smart/sexy/etc. Definitely got me messed up in the head to even be thinking about it. I've only been stuck like this 2 times before.

I'm going to keep playing the long game but damn, if I bump into her out one night or end up traveling with her for work it will be impossible. Maybe I can get her fired...

[mlh1981]

Don't go fishing off the company pier.

[Rake2204]

http://savasplace.com/content/files/Image/blog_posts/2008/05/george-constanza.jpg

George: Ava was one of the reasons I used to like going to work. She was a
friend. Now we sleep together and suddenly, I don't know how to talk to her.
Every time I go to the bathroom I pass her desk. I have to plan little patterns.
I spend half my day writing! Then afterwards, I sit in my office and analyze
how it went. If it was a good conversation, I don't go to the bathroom for the
rest of the day. I see her laughing and talking with other people, they're all
so loose and relaxed, I think, 'that used to be me. I want to go back there
again.'

Jerry: What are you gonna do?

George: I have no choice, I'm quitting.
Prettay timely reference.

How do you guys feel about a situation where the employ is relatively temporary, meaning one or both may be done working at this particular job by summer?

[RidonKs]

Yeah I've turned down a few lays in the workplace - easy to do when that's all it is. But this girl is funny/smart/sexy/etc. Definitely got me messed up in the head to even be thinking about it. I've only been stuck like this 2 times before.

I'm going to keep playing the long game but damn, if I bump into her out one night or end up traveling with her for work it will be impossible. Maybe I can get her fired...
i dunno... if you're actually interested in a long term relationship and this girl meets your quota like you've said, i'd say f*ck the rest and go for it. only if you're relatively certain she doesn't have some personality trait that will eventually drive you nuts, though you can never be totally certain about something like that. if there's even a 20% chance she might turn into 'the one', well...

and in the case of a messy break-up, well, can you just overpower that shit and put yourself above the awkwardness? i just admitted to a girl/best friend of mine that i've been head over heels for her for about five years... this girl is so goddamn perfect and i wanted her so bad that over the past few months, i actually managed to read into the smallest details of our interactions -- a smile here, an invitation to a movie there, arm on the shoulder, stuff that had been going on since we f*cking met -- and convince myself she was completely in love with me. i was 100% on it and giddy as shit. then one fateful night i drop by her house for a quick visit and woooops!!! there she is with another guy, Dan or something. i managed to get out of there without making a total fool of myself (though walking down the stairs shellshocked, i slipped on the ice and fell on my ass), but it tore me apart. she noticed my reaction and apparently had been feeling bad for the past week, realizing i still thought we had a chance. then a few nights ago i finally got the opportunity to have 'the talk' with her where i explained what had been going on in my head for the past few months, and she told me concretely (though i sorta had to egg the words outta her), nope, i've never seen you as more than a friend, sorry... but i had long ago decided the friendship was worth getting over this bullshit because we get along so well and she's somebody i truly respect. now i feel like the ice, at least on my end, has been broken and i can carry on, find somebody new, stop obsessing about her 24/7. and the common point in our stories is that i also work with her twice a week... and that's something i'm just gonna have to face up to and not let it overwhelm my psyche. personally i think i'm up to the task.

point is, if shit does go sour, you don't reckon you'll be able to stay above the drama and behave like a civilized adult when you're around her anyway? it sure as shit ain't easy but some people are capable. and if it drives her crazy, well f*ck it that's great, she'll quit and it's sunshine and rainbows all over again.

maybe this is the absolute wrong thing you wanna hear at this point and i'm giving horrendous advice given that i have little experience in the matter apart from the story above. nevertheless, it's rare to meet a chick who has all of the features you described above and who you think you have a legitimate shot with... i say go klondike or bust.

[Abd El-Krim]

Damn, that's a depressing story. Other than the part about Dan who sounds really cool. At least you know now, right?

[RidonKs]

exactly. and i feel a million times better as a result. but for that week and a half, between finding out that she was actively dating somebody not named me and having the conversation that solidified my worst fears, i literally drove myself up the wall. every second i was awake, i wanted to think of her. never went through any sorta obsession like that before in my life, i actually had to build a psychological barrier with a few chosen topics where every time she popped into my head, i'd mentally hop tracks over to something else lol

funniest part about it was the way finally spilling all the beans actually came along; we were walking away from work about to go our separate ways, she asked me why i had been so quiet that night at work, i said (very obviously) "you probably aren't the right one to talk to about it"... and she immediately understood. but then her next words were "btw, i wanted to apologize to you for last sunday night, i should have told you". and in my retarded head, trying to use ANYTHING to convince me she was into me, the first thought was "shit, she's apologizing not for accidentally leading me on but because SHES LOVED ME THE WHOLE TIME FINALLY EVERYTHING IS WORKING OUT!"

the one thing i learned was that the mind can interpret anything in a way preferable to the loins, truths get stretched, bias selects evidence, and the rest of the situation gets buried so deep you forget the mountains of contradictory facts that should have brought you to the right conclusion in the first place

anyway, i'm still a little heartsick, but nothing a new love interest won't let me overcome... hopefully that comes along soon, i've never been much for just 'picking up'.



but enough about me... you didn't answer so i'll reiterate... you don't think you could plow on through the awkwardness, talk to her up front about it, just normalize shit through sheer power of will.... on the chance it goes bad? with full knowledge of the potential for uber happiness if everything works out like a romcom?

[andgar923]

Yeah I've turned down a few lays in the workplace - easy to do when that's all it is. But this girl is funny/smart/sexy/etc. Definitely got me messed up in the head to even be thinking about it. I've only been stuck like this 2 times before.

I'm going to keep playing the long game but damn, if I bump into her out one night or end up traveling with her for work it will be impossible. Maybe I can get her fired...

I wrote about my experience last year.

It was hell for me for 6 long months, I simply couldn't function at work. If she was there I spent my time trying to spend time with her, when she wasn't there, I spent my time thinking about her. I was like you, this girl is pretty, cute, sweet, sexy, she was my type to a tee. There's other girls where I work, some that are wayyy hotter, and not to brag, but some of them want me (badly). But I don't care for them at all. This girl tho, drove me crazy like only 1 other girl has in my life.

But there was some major problems.

For starters, we work together... and I've been there and done that, and it doesn't work well, unless it's purely sexual... even then.

And worst part of all.....

She's married with a kid, I'm engaged.

I tried my hardest to get over her, but I couldn't. So I finally told her how I felt.

I can't stand her now, she's a selfish c#nt attention whore. Not because she didn't feel the same, on the contrary. She never told me how she felt, even tho if we kept hanging out with each other, both of us would've fallen in love and she would've left her husband. She actually told my other co-worker how I "messed things up". And as we all know women, she had a plan... my guess is she wanted me to breakup with my fianc

[L.Kizzle]

This one chick I haven't even mashed yet don't talk to me anymore. At work she asked me to help her with something and I said no, now everytime she see me she just walk past like I don't exist anymore, lol dumb bi t ch.

[Nick Young]

i dunno... if you're actually interested in a long term relationship and this girl meets your quota like you've said, i'd say f*ck the rest and go for it. only if you're relatively certain she doesn't have some personality trait that will eventually drive you nuts, though you can never be totally certain about something like that. if there's even a 20% chance she might turn into 'the one', well...

and in the case of a messy break-up, well, can you just overpower that shit and put yourself above the awkwardness? i just admitted to a girl/best friend of mine that i've been head over heels for her for about five years... this girl is so goddamn perfect and i wanted her so bad that over the past few months, i actually managed to read into the smallest details of our interactions -- a smile here, an invitation to a movie there, arm on the shoulder, stuff that had been going on since we f*cking met -- and convince myself she was completely in love with me. i was 100% on it and giddy as shit. then one fateful night i drop by her house for a quick visit and woooops!!! there she is with another guy, Dan or something. i managed to get out of there without making a total fool of myself (though walking down the stairs shellshocked, i slipped on the ice and fell on my ass), but it tore me apart. she noticed my reaction and apparently had been feeling bad for the past week, realizing i still thought we had a chance. then a few nights ago i finally got the opportunity to have 'the talk' with her where i explained what had been going on in my head for the past few months, and she told me concretely (though i sorta had to egg the words outta her), nope, i've never seen you as more than a friend, sorry... but i had long ago decided the friendship was worth getting over this bullshit because we get along so well and she's somebody i truly respect. now i feel like the ice, at least on my end, has been broken and i can carry on, find somebody new, stop obsessing about her 24/7. and the common point in our stories is that i also work with her twice a week... and that's something i'm just gonna have to face up to and not let it overwhelm my psyche. personally i think i'm up to the task.

point is, if shit does go sour, you don't reckon you'll be able to stay above the drama and behave like a civilized adult when you're around her anyway? it sure as shit ain't easy but some people are capable. and if it drives her crazy, well f*ck it that's great, she'll quit and it's sunshine and rainbows all over again.

maybe this is the absolute wrong thing you wanna hear at this point and i'm giving horrendous advice given that i have little experience in the matter apart from the story above. nevertheless, it's rare to meet a chick who has all of the features you described above and who you think you have a legitimate shot with... i say go klondike or bust.
damn 5 years, sorry, feel for you dude, I went through same thing but only lasted 2 years and ended when I turned 16 so isn't quite the same but that sucks dick.

After that I learned to never let yourself get in to friend zone of girls I meet who I feel attracted to after getting to know them at first. Kiss of death.

[RidonKs]

damn 5 years, sorry, feel for you dude, I went through same thing but only lasted 2 years and ended when I turned 16 so isn't quite the same but that sucks dick.

After that I learned to never let yourself get in to friend zone of girls I meet who I feel attracted to after getting to know them at first. Kiss of death.
yeah... it was definitely a learning experience. thankfully it came at a time in my life where i'm finally gaining some confidence and i can deal without falling off the map. i just need to learn to get out there and f*ck some women haphazardly without it turning into a 'thing'. never done that but i've learned how charming i really am with a bit of a serpent tongue, so i'm expecting big things in the near future. just gotta put myself out there.

[Abd El-Krim]

exactly. and i feel a million times better as a result. but for that week and a half, between finding out that she was actively dating somebody not named me and having the conversation that solidified my worst fears, i literally drove myself up the wall. every second i was awake, i wanted to think of her. never went through any sorta obsession like that before in my life, i actually had to build a psychological barrier with a few chosen topics where every time she popped into my head, i'd mentally hop tracks over to something else lol

funniest part about it was the way finally spilling all the beans actually came along; we were walking away from work about to go our separate ways, she asked me why i had been so quiet that night at work, i said (very obviously) "you probably aren't the right one to talk to about it"... and she immediately understood. but then her next words were "btw, i wanted to apologize to you for last sunday night, i should have told you". and in my retarded head, trying to use ANYTHING to convince me she was into me, the first thought was "shit, she's apologizing not for accidentally leading me on but because SHES LOVED ME THE WHOLE TIME FINALLY EVERYTHING IS WORKING OUT!"

the one thing i learned was that the mind can interpret anything in a way preferable to the loins, truths get stretched, bias selects evidence, and the rest of the situation gets buried so deep you forget the mountains of contradictory facts that should have brought you to the right conclusion in the first place

anyway, i'm still a little heartsick, but nothing a new love interest won't let me overcome... hopefully that comes along soon, i've never been much for just 'picking up'.



but enough about me... you didn't answer so i'll reiterate... you don't think you could plow on through the awkwardness, talk to her up front about it, just normalize shit through sheer power of will.... on the chance it goes bad? with full knowledge of the potential for uber happiness if everything works out like a romcom?

I'm not worried about my ability to handle the situation, but this girl may turn out to be an absolute nutjob once we get involved. I tend to attract those types. And people talk. There are those I work with who would frown upon me using the staff as a hunting grounds. Those are my main concerns.

How would an up front conversation about that go? That's not really my style either. In this instance we both know each other pretty well so I suppose there could be some sort of graceful way to address the topic of workplace relationships ahead of time. Experience just makes me shy away from that. Nothing gets you friend-zoned faster than telling a girl you like her, you have to show her. She is very career oriented so for all I know she has the same reservations if not more. And of course, there's no way to discuss the possibility of her being batshit.

Anyway, my buddy called me a bitch over this whole situation earlier and I'm starting to agree. I need to just make a move already or decide to leave it alone because of the risks instead of theorizing potential outcomes, good or bad. Making a move is going to be hell of a lot easier than trying to reprogram my brain. And **** romcoms, that type of pipedream shit is what has me considering this in the first place.

[blablabla]

work?

bitch please

[Abd El-Krim]

[QUOTE=andgar923]I wrote about my experience last year.

It was hell for me for 6 long months, I simply couldn't function at work. If she was there I spent my time trying to spend time with her, when she wasn't there, I spent my time thinking about her. I was like you, this girl is pretty, cute, sweet, sexy, she was my type to a tee. There's other girls where I work, some that are wayyy hotter, and not to brag, but some of them want me (badly). But I don't care for them at all. This girl tho, drove me crazy like only 1 other girl has in my life.

But there was some major problems.

For starters, we work together... and I've been there and done that, and it doesn't work well, unless it's purely sexual... even then.

And worst part of all.....

She's married with a kid, I'm engaged.

I tried my hardest to get over her, but I couldn't. So I finally told her how I felt.

I can't stand her now, she's a selfish c#nt attention whore. Not because she didn't feel the same, on the contrary. She never told me how she felt, even tho if we kept hanging out with each other, both of us would've fallen in love and she would've left her husband. She actually told my other co-worker how I "messed things up". And as we all know women, she had a plan... my guess is she wanted me to breakup with my fianc

[andgar923]

lol @ you messing things up. What things? It's a risky enough situation as is but when both people are in relationships it has to end messy for somebody. And even had you been happy as a person can be - everyone you work with would be talking shit about how you'd gotten together and passing judgment about you as people. No win situation there. Sounds like you're lucky to have gotten out of that one.

I've always asked myself what exactly did I mess up. I'll never know cause we don't speak at all.

I didn't want people to be gossiping about us, but she opened her mouth and told people how I felt about her. She didn't solely tell her closest friend at work, she told damn near everybody behind my back. Why? I have no clue and I'll probably never know. Can you imagine if people at work knew how you felt about this girl behind your back? utter humiliation, I hated going to work, and hearing slight comments directed at me or behind my back. Seeing/hearing people whispering and then smile at me. People that were really cool and close to me were now acting distant, as it I had done something wrong. It was an awful time for me, not just at work but in general, cause it was always on my mind.

I share all this cause one never knows what they'll get into. You obviously have 'feelings' for this girl, and it isn't just a sexual attraction. Not to say that this will happen to you, but it's something to consider.

I'm not sure how your job is structured, or what your duties are, but my performance at work changed dramatically. Bad enough that my manager warned me about my performance, and I thought about quitting. Not just getting transferred, but actually quit altogether. One doesn't know how things will evolve or how they'll turn out, until it's too late.

Keep clear dude.

[RidonKs]

How would an up front conversation about that go? That's not really my style either. In this instance we both know each other pretty well so I suppose there could be some sort of graceful way to address the topic of workplace relationships ahead of time. Experience just makes me shy away from that. Nothing gets you friend-zoned faster than telling a girl you like her, you have to show her. She is very career oriented so for all I know she has the same reservations if not more. And of course, there's no way to discuss the possibility of her being batshit.
i meant a conversation post-split if that's what it comes to, as a way to confront the potential awkwardness head on. but then like you said, the batshit scenario is always possible and totally unpredictable, and if that's the case, the conversation could go... poorly.



that's a f*cking rough story andgar. never know how the chick will react, so you gotta be pretty damn certain before you try anything drastic.

[StateProperty]

Don't do it don't do it don't do it.

The way to go: keep in touch with them on a friendship level and once one of you finds another job, call/text and say you miss working with them, meet up for lunch, proceed to smash. But NOT while you still work together
This exact situation is going on with me right now within the last 3 weeks. Working to perfection. I've gotten with girls I've worked with and it sucks. Besides the awkwardness when things aren't going well, everyone is nosey and in your business. Whether its going good or bad. Don't do it.

[nathanjizzle]

For the past month I've been crushing like some schoolboy bitch on this girl I work with. She's clearly into me, but I'm hesitant to make a move. We are both well-established at the company, and I'm worried that if it goes bad shit could be awkward as all hell.

Can this type of thing ever end well? I feel like she's the type I could settle down with. Please advise, ISH.

ur right, Walmart is a big company. Dont jeopardize your chances of advancing to manager.

[Abd El-Krim]

Update - I'd been avoiding the shit out of this girl and pretty much forgot about her but last Friday I happened to be thinking with my dick and at the same time she made a strong play via text (I'm home and lonely with a bottle of vodka - might as well said 'come **** me').

On top of the extended buildup this was one of the sloppiest/roughest/drunken ham ****s I've ever dished out. Really good stuff - but I also screwed her straight out of my head and woke up wanting nothing to do with her.

So I made up a bunch of reasons why I was busy to get through the weekend but this week has been ugly. She's been stopping by with unusual frequency, always with some bs picture to show me on her phone or random story to relate. It couldn't be more obvious to people I work by that she has my jizz in her brain. And when she's not at my desk she's iming me and distracting the hell out of me. Plus she's asked me to go to some out of town wedding next week, and to do all this shit with her friends this weekend.

I must be stupid. There's nothing remotely special about this girl, I was just always seeing her at work where she acts and looks at the top of her game. That much couldn't be more clear, in retrospect. My only reason for even wanting to hit it again is so I can get her alone and in a situation where I can tell her I want to be discreet about things and hopefully slow this train down.

So yeah, oops.

[Derka]

Never.

Never with chicks I meet at a bar and never with chicks I work with. I won't even screw around with chicks I work with.

[G-Funk]

im so tempted to smash on this chick but its dangerous

[L.Kizzle]

Update - I'd been avoiding the shit out of this girl and pretty much forgot about her but last Friday I happened to be thinking with my dick and at the same time she made a strong play via text (I'm home and lonely with a bottle of vodka - might as well said 'come **** me').

On top of the extended buildup this was one of the sloppiest/roughest/drunken ham ****s I've ever dished out. Really good stuff - but I also screwed her straight out of my head and woke up wanting nothing to do with her.

So I made up a bunch of reasons why I was busy to get through the weekend but this week has been ugly. She's been stopping by with unusual frequency, always with some bs picture to show me on her phone or random story to relate. It couldn't be more obvious to people I work by that she has my jizz in her brain. And when she's not at my desk she's iming me and distracting the hell out of me. Plus she's asked me to go to some out of town wedding next week, and to do all this shit with her friends this weekend.

I must be stupid. There's nothing remotely special about this girl, I was just always seeing her at work where she acts and looks at the top of her game. That much couldn't be more clear, in retrospect. My only reason for even wanting to hit it again is so I can get her alone and in a situation where I can tell her I want to be discreet about things and hopefully slow this train down.

So yeah, oops.
You gotta know who you messing with. You can't mash everyone at work. I mashed this one chick, and we just keep it 100 between us. We're not all over each other and shit.

Now, there is this other broad that I know if I ash here, she probably would never leave me be.

[Heilige]

Update - I'd been avoiding the shit out of this girl and pretty much forgot about her but last Friday I happened to be thinking with my dick and at the same time she made a strong play via text (I'm home and lonely with a bottle of vodka - might as well said 'come **** me').

On top of the extended buildup this was one of the sloppiest/roughest/drunken ham ****s I've ever dished out. Really good stuff - but I also screwed her straight out of my head and woke up wanting nothing to do with her.

So I made up a bunch of reasons why I was busy to get through the weekend but this week has been ugly. She's been stopping by with unusual frequency, always with some bs picture to show me on her phone or random story to relate. It couldn't be more obvious to people I work by that she has my jizz in her brain. And when she's not at my desk she's iming me and distracting the hell out of me. Plus she's asked me to go to some out of town wedding next week, and to do all this shit with her friends this weekend.

I must be stupid. There's nothing remotely special about this girl, I was just always seeing her at work where she acts and looks at the top of her game. That much couldn't be more clear, in retrospect. My only reason for even wanting to hit it again is so I can get her alone and in a situation where I can tell her I want to be discreet about things and hopefully slow this train down.

So yeah, oops.


Earlier you said she was funny, smart, sexy, etc so what changed about her? She doesn't have those qualities anymore?

[L.Kizzle]

Earlier you said she was funny, smart, sexy, etc so what changed about her? She doesn't have those qualities anymore?
Every chick is funny, smart and sexy before you really get to know them. Once you get to know them, they are annoying, stupid and ugly.

[mmsupra]

I met my girl which is now my wife at the same work place, she ended up quitting when we got more serious.

[magic chiongson]

my current girl work at the same company i'm at, but i'd hardly call us workmates. we barely see each other at work and i have never personally worked together with her, although i did work closely with her boss, that's how i found her :D

[magic chiongson]

Every chick is funny, smart and sexy before you really get to know them. Once you get to know them, they are annoying, stupid and ugly.
you must have only met the annoying,stupid,ugly ones :D

or maybe you meant this:


Every chick is funny, smart and sexy before you really get to know them. Once you get married, they are annoying, stupid and ugly.

[Quickening]

Was dating a girl from work... wasn't hugely into her, attractive but no personality type of girl... so she ended up getting her attractive friend from work to talk to me, see if I was that interested I guess... me and her friend have been together since.

Can be VERY awkward in work when we are all in the same room.... morale of the story, don't get attractive friends to talk to guys for you.

[Abd El-Krim]

Earlier you said she was funny, smart, sexy, etc so what changed about her? She doesn't have those qualities anymore?

I guess she does, but to a lesser degree. Since I've posted this thread we've talked quite a bit and she puts on a front at work but is actually rather fragile. Somewhat damaged, even.

[Simple Jack]

i dunno... if you're actually interested in a long term relationship and this girl meets your quota like you've said, i'd say f*ck the rest and go for it. only if you're relatively certain she doesn't have some personality trait that will eventually drive you nuts, though you can never be totally certain about something like that. if there's even a 20% chance she might turn into 'the one', well...

and in the case of a messy break-up, well, can you just overpower that shit and put yourself above the awkwardness? i just admitted to a girl/best friend of mine that i've been head over heels for her for about five years... this girl is so goddamn perfect and i wanted her so bad that over the past few months, i actually managed to read into the smallest details of our interactions -- a smile here, an invitation to a movie there, arm on the shoulder, stuff that had been going on since we f*cking met -- and convince myself she was completely in love with me. i was 100% on it and giddy as shit. then one fateful night i drop by her house for a quick visit and woooops!!! there she is with another guy, Dan or something. i managed to get out of there without making a total fool of myself (though walking down the stairs shellshocked, i slipped on the ice and fell on my ass), but it tore me apart. she noticed my reaction and apparently had been feeling bad for the past week, realizing i still thought we had a chance. then a few nights ago i finally got the opportunity to have 'the talk' with her where i explained what had been going on in my head for the past few months, and she told me concretely (though i sorta had to egg the words outta her), nope, i've never seen you as more than a friend, sorry... but i had long ago decided the friendship was worth getting over this bullshit because we get along so well and she's somebody i truly respect. now i feel like the ice, at least on my end, has been broken and i can carry on, find somebody new, stop obsessing about her 24/7. and the common point in our stories is that i also work with her twice a week... and that's something i'm just gonna have to face up to and not let it overwhelm my psyche. personally i think i'm up to the task.

point is, if shit does go sour, you don't reckon you'll be able to stay above the drama and behave like a civilized adult when you're around her anyway? it sure as shit ain't easy but some people are capable. and if it drives her crazy, well f*ck it that's great, she'll quit and it's sunshine and rainbows all over again.

maybe this is the absolute wrong thing you wanna hear at this point and i'm giving horrendous advice given that i have little experience in the matter apart from the story above. nevertheless, it's rare to meet a chick who has all of the features you described above and who you think you have a legitimate shot with... i say go klondike or bust.


You still friends with the girl?

Happened to me as well but I had a different ending. Actually going through it now. One girl I was really into a few years ago and got rejected by (we remained really close friends for years after) just told me she wanted to date. So getting out of the friend zone isn't impossible; just difficult as shit.

[Ruh-Roh]

Man up, Carpe Diem, just do it. YOLO if you're into that shit, but if you are thinking this hard about it that you're posting on a message board you should probably just go and seal the deal now and be happy afterwards.

Unless you are directly threatened by company policy and that bothers you, don't. And if you are afraid of gossip or your reputation, probably don't either because she will tell some people.

Some women keep things to themselves, most don't. You be the judge.

[Dolphin]

For about eight months I wheeled the daughter of the guy who managed all of the stores in the region for that company. All three daughters worked there actually. I ****ed around with the middle one. She was 18 going into university when I first met her. I was a few years older. Not necessarily sketchy, but definitely not a girl I introduced to my friends. Kind of a nice feeling when her dad would come in and everyone in the department would shake his hands and I would think to myself "That hand has been places you don't wanna know about." lol

She was pretty good looking. Serbian. Model body (almost my height). Didn't **** with her the last six or so months I worked there and then didn't really talk to or see her again after I quit except for a couple times when I was working at a club. Nothing more than a head nod both ways. lol

Serbians have amazing high, but soft cheeks. I guess that goes for the other countries in that region too, but Serbians are awesome. Went through a streak of four or so around that time. For a couple of them, I didn't know they were part Serbian till after.

[JustinJDW]

Don't ever mix work and play. Recipe for disaster. Simple as that.

[lpublic_enemyl]

"don't poop where you eat"

[triangleoffense]

http://savasplace.com/content/files/Image/blog_posts/2008/05/george-constanza.jpg

George: Ava was one of the reasons I used to like going to work. She was a
friend. Now we sleep together and suddenly, I don't know how to talk to her.
Every time I go to the bathroom I pass her desk. I have to plan little patterns.
I spend half my day writing! Then afterwards, I sit in my office and analyze
how it went. If it was a good conversation, I don't go to the bathroom for the
rest of the day. I see her laughing and talking with other people, they're all
so loose and relaxed, I think, 'that used to be me. I want to go back there
again.'

Jerry: What are you gonna do?

George: I have no choice, I'm quitting.

lol, such an appropriate post.

In the end it comes down to how much you value your job compared to how much you like the girl.

[Ass Dan]

For the past month I've been crushing like some schoolboy bitch on this girl I work with. She's clearly into me, but I'm hesitant to make a move. We are both well-established at the company, and I'm worried that if it goes bad shit could be awkward as all hell.

Can this type of thing ever end well? I feel like she's the type I could settle down with. Please advise, ISH.


If she's cute and she can appreciate Georges Bataille you gotta go for it. Ask her what she thinks about 'The Story of the Eye'.

[Da KO King]

As someone that dipped into the company ink I will say this....


If you REALLY think this chic is relationship material get to know her extensively PRIOR to any sort of dating/talk about feelings/etc. When things go bad in these situations it happens quickly so you want to know ahead of time if her personality meshes with yours.

If this is just a notch on the belt situation I would advice against it. Women become possessive once you do the do.

[detroitkid816]

I easily could have smashed this chick that I work with by now, but she is hella volatile and what not. one day she's down and totally not the next. anyway, we texted for about 5 months before I even found out she was attracted to me. Once she revealed she wanted to smash, we texted about nothing else for a 2-3 week stretch. she's very sexual and as it turns out, she wanted all along to do all kinds of sh!t to me.

It's hard to conjure a concrete judgment in regards to smashing her.

I like her and she's cool as hell. She smokes weed, loves watching and talking football and basketball, and to a small extent likes me, greatest of all. she's incredibly and almost even intimidatingly intelligent, and very well read.

There''s a few problems though.
We fall in and out of "like" almost weekly by way of frivolous bullsh!t, and as said before, she's hella volatile and also quite assholish, forever reminding me that she doesn't need me. she also has an ex-boyfriend who she's in love with, who is better than me for her in just about every aspect and facet.

anyway. she plans to quit and move in a month or so, and we will most likely cease communication. she leaves about 15 minutes away, and we've hung out maybe 5-7 times, smoking the ganj just about each time. i really don't know how to play it

[jbot]

yep. ended up marrying her.