Knowing your girlfriends sexual past, good or bad idea?

[LongBeachLakers]

Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?

[imnew09]

Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?

80 men before my c0ck? :facepalm

[irondarts]

80 men? Jesus christ that's a lot. I don't know, if the number was that high it would probably be an issue.

[JMT]

You've spent 3+ years together and feel strongly enough about her to at least think of a life together.

You seem to have no thought that she's cheated on you during that time.

WTF would you worry about ancient history as opposed to the opinion you've developed of a person you know and care about?

Life is easy. People make it difficult.

[Nick Young]

her ***** must be looser than laffy taffy

[-p.tiddy-]

That probably means the actual number is around 200 or so

I have a few male friends that have slept around that much, so the only way the math makes sense is if there are also women that have slept around that much as well...



that's rough if you really like her, idk...tough call

[Draz]

its a good thing to know within the first few months before you get serious because it can hurt in the long run finding out. If she slept with many men and you aren't as equal to with woman you'll feel a bit strange. 80 men? she tryna break a record?

[Nick Young]

That probably means the actual number is around 200 or so

I have a few male friends that have slept around that much, so the only way the math makes sense is if there are also women that have slept around that much as well...



that's rough if you really like her, idk...tough call
This is true, it's like they said in American Pie II, for boys divide their number by three to get the truth, for girls, multiply it by 3.

So if she says 80, it means more like 240

[Dictator]

Wilt's sister?

[SourPatchKids]

Only date virgins.

[Rasheed1]

It depends.. Only advice I ever give to other dudes on the subject is

"Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers"

If you can handle it? go ahead and ask


If you can't? acknowledge that and don't ask.. If you trust her, then that's what is important.

When you cant' handle it, you f*ck your own head up by finding out thing s you don't need to know.

Women do things.... don't doubt it.. but you don't always need to know everything

[Mach_3]

Honestly if you care about her that much, that number shouldn't mean much to you. But just know that your girlfriend is a h0, you can't take the h0 out of a woman...ever

[Scholar]

I don't know. It's funny how true the statement "ignorance is bliss" really is. I'd rather not know the woman I'd contemplate spending my life with has slept with so many men.

I think in the long run, that would be a deal breaker for me. I can understand some people saying, "Well, the past is the past." But no. I don't like to think that way unless it's minuscule matters. A woman sleeping with 80 men isn't a small problem to me.

[-p.tiddy-]

If I have slept with a woman I think I can get a decent gauge on how many men she has been with without her telling me a damn thing...

It's usually pretty obvious when a girl has been around...



If you really "know" her then it should be fairly obvious I think

[Overdrive]

Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?

Don't know if that's a real question or a hypothetical one, but for in case:
Usually a girl doesn't go from 80 cocks to a single one. So either it's made up or the feelings are that strong that cocks don't matter anymore.

So in case it's about you, if she was true to you after having that much **** you're probably special to her. It might hurt, but think about that. Even if you didn't know she had that much she always had 'em, but that's the past. She didn't change, she didn't cheat on you. Maybe talk about it why she settled down.

If it's hypothetical, I would want to know but it should be clear that history shouldn't come up that much. I wouldn't want that 80 cocks be rubbed into my face all the time. Neclecting the past is way worse though. Things might accidently come up late or at the worst moments.

[Geriatric]

I don't think it would bother me too much though. I just wouldn't want to know who the guys were. If she banged a dude I knew that'd be really weird to me.

Even if you don't know the names it's gonna depend on how good you are at letting stuff go. If you are paranoid about it you're gonna find yourself sitting in movie theaters, sporting events, etc. knowing that odds are pretty good at least one guy in there has had it in with your girl at some point.:banghead:

[LA_Showtime]

When I'm having sex the last thing on my mind is who else ****ed this chick. If you're thinking about other guys while you're having sex then you're probably gay.

[Crown&Coke]

if she was a mad ho, there will be some signs before the 3 yrs.

and her "friends" who are secretly jealous of her will probably tell you some dirt a time or few.

I am not one to ask for a number, but I'm not looking for a long term thing right now either. but if she's been around the block a few hundred times I don't think i would be able to handle that. I would rather play the fool and not know

[plowking]

What do you do with a girls number? Is it ever honest? Some like to make you jealous and say more, some don't want to seem slutty and say less, others are just honest and say the actual amount.
I take it all with a grain of salt. If you want to be together, that is all that matters.

[Bladers]

man you rather not know. it will mess you up i promise.

[Sarcastic]

There is absolutely nothing good about knowing the number, unless she is a virgin. Any number greater than zero is gonna piss you off.

[LA_Showtime]

You guys are picky. I would rather sleep with a whore than a virgin. At least I'll have fun, right?

[Myth]

Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?

Is this a real scenario for you, or just a hypothetical situation? My first thought is: I believe a strong relationship is built on communication, so I would want to have a conversation about previous experiences, and this would take place WAY before 3 years has passed. Second, if she avoids such conversations, I would want to know even more and CERTAINLY wouldn't wait 3 years. Third, if a girl I'm with dropped a bombshell within a couple months that she has f*cked 80 guys, that would bother me, but if the girl makes me happy, she isn't pumped full of diseases, and that portion of her life is over, then I would work to get over it because at that point it is my issue and not hers. Hopefully, I could get over it. Finally, if a girl led me to believe that she had an average sex life previously or just a bit more than average, and then reveals that she had misled me for 3 years and had f*cked 80 guys, that would probably be a big enough deception for me to never trust her again and I would more than likely leave her. Not for sure, but my instinct says "what else does she keep from me?"

[Kblaze8855]

Ive not wanted to know for many years. Gotta leave questions like that in your teens. care about hers when you want her to care about yours.

[Zedja]

Make it even. Sleep with about 80 women.

[dude77]

80 means more like 120 or like someone else said 200 .. but it's definitely more than 80 .. which means that she's an ultra whore .. best of the best .. they always downplay the number ..

I'd have more of a problem that she told you this 3 yrs later .. she lied to begin with by being evasive about the topic .. that means she felt shame over that and she was being already being deceptive at the beginning ..

what else has she lied to you about ?(that you don't know about of course) that stud coworker she's been blowing at lunch break ?(remember sex comes easy to her .. she doesn't need much/if any at all emotional attachment) ..

if she's banged that many, that means she has absolutely no qualms about fking any guy .. I highly doubt she's suddenly going to retire her pssy and give it solely to you .. unless you're some holy god that we don't know about which in that case props to you .. but otherwise, that's not realistic from chicks like this .. she'll 'get hers' even if/when you're married .. even if not at the beginning .. she'll get that itch eventually .. I'd have a huge problem with this

[Kobe 4 The Win]

Don't ask, don't tell, don't pursue.

I don't talk about the dirt that I did when I was single and I don't want to know what my girl did. No good can come from this conversation.

[Myth]

80 means more like 120 or like someone else said 200 .. but it's definitely more than 80 .. which means that she's an ultra whore .. best of the best .. they always downplay the number ..

I'd have more of a problem that she told you this 3 yrs later .. she lied to begin with by being evasive about the topic .. that means she felt shame over that and she was being already being deceptive at the beginning ..

what else has she lied to you about ?(that you don't know about of course) that stud coworker she's been blowing at lunch break ?(remember sex comes easy to her .. she doesn't need much/if any at all emotional attachment) ..

if she's banged that many, that means she has absolutely no qualms about fking any guy .. I highly doubt she's suddenly going to retire her pssy and give it solely to you .. unless you're some holy god that we don't know about which in that case props to you .. but otherwise, that's not realistic from chicks like this .. she'll 'get hers' even if/when you're married .. even if not at the beginning .. she'll get that itch eventually .. I'd have a huge problem with this

Exactly.

[ace23]

You guys are picky. I would rather sleep with a whore than a virgin. At least I'll have fun, right?
This :oldlol:

How do you **** 80 dudes, though? That's ****ing crazy; props to her.

[Myth]

This :oldlol:

How do you **** 80 dudes, though? That's ****ing crazy; props to her.

It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.

[KDTrey5]

80 other niggehs? :yaohappy:

[chosen_one6]

It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.


This.

I know how some women can be. I've had sex with a good amount of women (won't say the number because it really doesn't matter) and it was incredibly easy to get them into bed. Even got it in within hours of first meeting them. It could be my looks, personality, or their willingness to sleep with a guy they barely know, I'll never find out the reason. It doesn't matter though.

My dad always told me, "If a girl wants to have sex, she's going to have sex. There's nothing you can do to stop her." And it's true. If you're not giving her the d***, then some other dude is. This can cause some men to become incredibly insecure because this is always in the back of their head. (I know because I've been there before)

To answer the original question, I never ask and I've rarely had a girl ask me. When they do, I lie about it if I care about them (which I think the majority of people do.) What they've done in their past really doesn't concern me, because if I really care about her I only care about the present and the future.

[Myth]

What they've done in their past really doesn't concern me, because if I really care about her I only care about the present and the future.

So if you were with a girl you loved, you wouldn't be curious about her childhood even?

[guy]

This is true, it's like they said in American Pie II, for boys divide their number by three to get the truth, for girls, multiply it by 3.

So if she says 80, it means more like 240

In this case, I doubt it. If its something that she was hiding and it was bothering her that much, I would think she would just tell the whole truth instead of half-assing it. 80 is alot already, but 80 vs. 240 is a smaller difference then 20 vs. 60 for example, not mathematically but in how a person would react.

[chosen_one6]

So if you were with a girl you loved, you wouldn't be curious about her childhood even?

That statement was really meant more for relationships and sexual history. I didn't make that clear though so that's my bad.

[BrickingStar]

:biggums: 80 men holy shit. How does it fill sticking you're dick in there it must be like trying to stick it through a hooley hoop

[Myth]

That statement was really meant more for relationships and sexual history. I didn't make that clear though so that's my bad.

I was just teasing. But I always ask out of pure curiosity. When I'm with a girl that I love, I want to know all about her life, the good and the bad. It gives me a better understanding of who she is, just like knowing about her childhood would.

[chosen_one6]

I was just teasing. But I always ask out of pure curiosity. When I'm with a girl that I love, I want to know all about her life, the good and the bad. It gives me a better understanding of who she is, just like knowing about her childhood would.

I like it when my girl is open but when they start talking about history with the opposite sex it always pushes a button that I don't like to be pressed. It's weird, I feel like a little kid that sees his crush talking to another guy.

[miamiandorlando]

rather know, everyone has a past, doesn't change the person you love today.

that's what i tell myself but in reality the past drives me craxy

[Myth]

I like it when my girl is open but when they start talking about history with the opposite sex it always pushes a button that I don't like to be pressed. It's weird, I feel like a little kid that sees his crush talking to another guy.

So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.

[chosen_one6]

So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.

It doesn't concern me in the sense that it has nothing to do with what her and I have going on. So therefore in my mind what happened with her relationship history is irrelevant. However when it has been brought up, then yes I do start to get a little weird but I try to fight it off. For me, it's natural and it lets me know I truly do care for the girl.

[sagr32]

I don't really try and get into that but that goes both ways in the relationship for me because it can lead to the more inexperienced partner feeling insecure. But when it gets down to it you should always be able to tell if your girl is inexperienced, experienced, or a downright slut.

[PHX_Phan]

Don't ask if you can't handle it. No doubt there's part of every girls past that the guy would rather believe never happened. If you like the person in front of you today then it shouldn't matter.








...but 80 dudes? I'm pretty good about putting a girls past out of mind but that would be a deal breaker for me. That is not a normal past.

[GOBB]

80 dudes? I've met some freaks that slept around and didnt come nowhere near that number. At any rate, dont ask what you cant handle. Thats the bottomline. If after 3 whole years nothing is wrong with the relationship stuff like that is something that shouldnt derail you two being together imo.

This topic smells like an exagerration. How many did your girlfriend tell you she actually slept with OP?

[GOBB]

I don't know. It's funny how true the statement "ignorance is bliss" really is. I'd rather not know the woman I'd contemplate spending my life with has slept with so many men.

I think in the long run, that would be a deal breaker for me. I can understand some people saying, "Well, the past is the past." But no. I don't like to think that way unless it's minuscule matters. A woman sleeping with 80 men isn't a small problem to me.

So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.

So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.

What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.

[dude77]

So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.

So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.

What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.


you're right in that he should've never probed further into it .. let the past stay where it is, the past .. he liked everything about her .. great .. but he did find out .. it's done .. now he knows .. now he knows what most guys would dread knowing .. it's out in the open .. you don't have a problem knowing that your bride to be has had 80+ cocks in her snatch, mouth, ass ?

and how do you know she hasn't cheated on him .. her reputation says otherwise ..

his 'lady' has been used and abused like a cuum rag .. like an escort .. that's what his gf basically was before him .. an escort .. no, she was worse than an escort because she probably didn't get paid for each of those encounters :oldlol: .. would you marry an escort ? if you would, props to you for overlooking that .. but most men wouldn't

[lakers_forever]

Is this a real scenario for you, or just a hypothetical situation? My first thought is: I believe a strong relationship is built on communication, so I would want to have a conversation about previous experiences, and this would take place WAY before 3 years has passed. Second, if she avoids such conversations, I would want to know even more and CERTAINLY wouldn't wait 3 years. Third, if a girl I'm with dropped a bombshell within a couple months that she has f*cked 80 guys, that would bother me, but if the girl makes me happy, she isn't pumped full of diseases, and that portion of her life is over, then I would work to get over it because at that point it is my issue and not hers. Hopefully, I could get over it. Finally, if a girl led me to believe that she had an average sex life previously or just a bit more than average, and then reveals that she had misled me for 3 years and had f*cked 80 guys, that would probably be a big enough deception for me to never trust her again and I would more than likely leave her. Not for sure, but my instinct says "what else does she keep from me?"


But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother?

I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.

[dude77]

But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother ?

I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.

amen .. most guys would agree with that .. that's fkn insane .. the only guys I can see overlooking that are guys who are absolutely desperate and longing for companionship from anyone

[niko]

It's not relevant unless it's something that will come up in the future (like it's a guy who is always around and you'll find out, or she has a kid, etc.). You can't worry about that past. And note: Guys want these virginal partners because they were never touched and they were jealous, please note that everyone gets curious. I'm not sure it's a good idea to be the first and only, as they'll be with you when the thought crosses their mind of what they missed.

And if you start finding out way too much (like you run into a guy every other day) then yes, she might have been a hoe and i don't think it's wrong if that changes your opinion on the woman.

[DCL]

if she only had a few, cool.

if she opened up for half the army, best not to know.

[shawbryant]

you should pretend to be confident and saying:
'80, ah, it doesn't matter,eh, 'cause I am gonna own your 1 inch deeper ****** which 80 men have never explored'

[DropStep]

Sleeping with 80 dudes is more than some Porn stars careers. Sleeping with 80 dudes means she has some serious problems relationships. It means she cant stay in a relationship but cant live with out one. I had a female friend who slept about 34 guys and she was about 19 at that time. She was batshit crazy.

The number of girls/boys someone says multiply/divide it by 3. If its a guy, take the number of girls they said and divide it by 3, if it's a girl take the number of guys and multiply if my 3.

[Flagrant 2]

80?

http://i.imgur.com/XNhfI.gif

[Raz]

Stupid thread. Who cares? I have been with over 40, and it's not an issue. If both parties are just upfront about this, it shouldn't be an issue. If one person has an issue, then move on. I wouldn't want to be with someone that is petty and cares about stuff like that.

[Ne 1]

It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.

Exactly.

And why some women can't understand this simple concept has always baffled me. Men have to compete with one another to get picked as a mate or sexual partner. They have to display that they have the best genes or the most value. Women have to compete to with one another, but only for the BEST male. They can have sex any time they choose and can pick any mate they want, just not always with the best choice. However if they were to lower their standards as men have to do, they would get to pick from a long line of men. "Getting laid" is not something that can happen every day for the average guy. He has to navigate the maze of a women delicately in social situations to convince her he's the best pick. If a woman goes to a bar, night club or even a dating website looking for sex, and only wants sex, she will have ZERO problems getting it. Therefore, over time, women have gained negative connotations, because they are not "beating anyone" or doing anything remotely impressive, they are simply manipulating basic human biology for sexual gratification. And thus, terms such as "slut" and "whore" were manifested. I didn't even need to go into this long winded rant to make my point- think female prostitution. Is there a reason the porn industry is so huge but only for the male population? Is there a reason female prostitution is a global epidemic, but you don't hear problems about male prostitution? Why a female prostitute/female escort can make quite the living, while male prostitution isn't very profitable for the average guy?

[Raz]

The number of girls/boys someone says multiply/divide it by 3. If its a guy, take the number of girls they said and divide it by 3, if it's a girl take the number of guys and multiply if my 3.


Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.

80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.

[LJJ]

Don't know if that's a real question or a hypothetical one, but for in case:
Usually a girl doesn't go from 80 cocks to a single one.

You could argue the other side you know.

That a girl who has been around knows what she wants, while a girl with very limited experience will start to get the hunger.

[dude77]

Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.

80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.

wow :oldlol:

[Riddler]

Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.

80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.


Are you serious?

80 isn't that many for a 28 year old chick?



Anyways... I guess if you've been with the chick for three years and your dick hasn't fallen off yet...
it might not be such a big deal, but before you enter into a serious relationship... you might want to do a little interrogating.


I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...

Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.



I usually work my way into the "NUMBER" question... I don't just flat out ask "HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU F*CKED?"

it usually goes something like this:

"Ever been with a black guy? Ever hooked up with a chick? Do you still know the exact
number of guys you've been with (if not, can you give me an estimate)?"

[dude77]

let's do the math .. 80 by the age of 28 .. that's 8 every year since age 18 .. that's ****ing 1 guy about every 1.5 months for 10 yrs straight .. na not much at all

this 18 yr old told me she had fked 12 guys in the past year(she was a virgin the year before) .. so that actually means about 20 guys in a year .. that's more than one guy every month she was fking .. and then she told me this gem .. she said she wanted to fk 100 guys by the age of 32 .. said she wanted to 'have fun while she was still young' .. say you're in your 30s and you meet this girl after she's done with her 'adventure' .. you'd be proud to bring that home to mama raz ? :oldlol:

[Riddler]

I try to hook up with chicks that have been in long term relationships...

If a woman's (age 25-35) longest relationship is only a year or two...
something is probably wrong with her, and more importantly...
it usually means she's slept with a lot of dudes.

If you're hooking up with chick that's been in a 7-8 year relationship...
Unless she's a cheating scandalous whore, it usually means the number
of guys she's slept with is pretty low.

[Raz]

let's do the math .. 80 by the age of 28 .. that's 8 every year since age 18 .. that's ****ing 1 guy about every 1.5 months for 10 yrs straight .. na not much at all

this 18 yr old told me she had fked 12 guys in the past year(she was a virgin the year before) .. so that actually means about 20 guys in a year .. that's more than one guy every month she was fking .. and then she told me this gem .. she said she wanted to fk 100 guys by the age of 32 .. said she wanted to 'have fun while she was still young' .. say you're in your 30s and you meet this girl after she's done with her 'adventure' .. you'd be proud to bring that home to mama raz ? :oldlol:


I wouldn't care. It depends on the person they are today. I know I have been with quite a few people, so I can't judge. If I could erase some of them, sure, that would be great. However, it's all a learning curve - helped me to be the man I am today.

8 people a year is not that many.

[-p.tiddy-]

Are you serious?

80 isn't that many for a 28 year old chick?



Anyways... I guess if you've been with the chick for three years and your dick hasn't fallen off yet...
it might not be such a big deal, but before you enter into a serious relationship... you might want to do a little interrogating.


I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...

Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.



I usually work my way into the "NUMBER" question... I don't just flat out ask "HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU F*CKED?"

it usually goes something like this:

"Ever been with a black guy? Ever hooked up with a chick? Do you still know the exact
number of guys you've been with (if not, can you give me an estimate)?"
yeah I agree, the "number" is bound to come up in conversation one way or another just due to talking about sex and past sexual experiences with a girl...it's kind of unavoidable unless you just keep that subject hush hush altogether

[Riddler]

You sound like an insane person.

okay? :confusedshrug:


Let me clarify:

On the dating website that I use to go to...

The profile would state what the woman's longest relationship has been.


For example:


http://i613.photobucket.com/albums/tt216/Doomsday2036/Screenshot2012-08-16at111000AM.png

This chick is 29 years old and the longest relationship she's been in is under a year.... I'll pass.

[Raz]

You sound like an insane person.

He also sounds insecure.

[DaHeezy]

If she's sticks around after sleeping with 80 doods you must be a champ in the sack. Just make sure she's not targeting 80 more.

Personally I'd rather know that detail than finding out she had slept with a close friend before I had met her.

[-p.tiddy-]

He also sounds insecure.
how is that?...he is making perfect sense to me

[-p.tiddy-]

okay? :confusedshrug:


Let me clarify:

On the dating website that I use to go to...

The profile would state what the woman's longest relationship has been.


For example:


http://i613.photobucket.com/albums/tt216/Doomsday2036/Screenshot2012-08-16at111000AM.png

This chick is 29 years old and the longest relationship she's been in is under a year.... I'll pass.
yeah she is insane or weighs 300 lbs...one or the other

if she had her shit together she would have been a few long term relationships...

[dude77]

so raz you'd be ok with marrying a porn star or an escort .. taking her as your beloved wife .. that's crazy shit .. to each his own

[Riddler]

He also sounds insecure.

what part of my post made me sound insecure?... please explain.

[Raz]

how is that?...he is making perfect sense to me

It's clear he has issues with how many ***** have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.

Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.

A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

[dude77]

It's clear he has issues with how many ***** have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.

Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.

A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

has nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the chick having self respect .. if she doesn't have any self respect as a lady why should I respect her ? in fact, that's just it .. I won't respect her if I know she's stuffed 80 different cocks into her mouth .. bitches who go around sucking every guy's dick are trashy and not worthy of being made into a wife .. of course though .. there will always be some sucker out there who will marry them after they've been used up like a cuum rag ..

[dude77]

so what's the story op .. is this person you or what's the deal

[-p.tiddy-]

It's clear he has issues with how many ***** have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.

Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.

A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

there is nothing insecure about wanting a girl that doesn't have a damn sex addiction...

[Tarik One]

It depends.. Only advice I ever give to other dudes on the subject is

"Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers"

If you can handle it? go ahead and ask


If you can't? acknowledge that and don't ask.. If you trust her, then that's what is important.

When you cant' handle it, you f*ck your own head up by finding out thing s you don't need to know.

Women do things.... don't doubt it.. but you don't always need to know everything

Reminds me of that Chris Rock joke: "No matter how many she says, to us it's always going to be too many. "TWO! Well I guess that's how you were raised"

[Riddler]

It's clear he has issues with how many ***** have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.



I'll admit that I might feel a little insecure if the girl I'm with has f*cked 80 black guys before me... Maybe then I'll be a little worried if I "measure up".

Also... I remember learning about STD's in High School... You must have skipped class that day. (That's the main reason I want to know my partners
sexual history).

And most of the women I date want a serious relationship... I'm the one
that's trying to keep things casual...

[Raz]

has nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the chick having self respect .. if she doesn't have any self respect as a lady why should I respect her ? in fact, that's just it .. I won't respect her if I know she's stuffed 80 different cocks into her mouth .. bitches who go around sucking every guy's dick are trashy and not worthy of being made into a wife .. of course though .. there will always be some sucker out there who will marry them after they've been used up like a cuum rag ..

Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?

[Snoop_Cat]

Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?

I personally do. To give an arbitrary number of what's more acceptable, perhaps 20-25 at most for me - this applying to both guys and girls.

Not to say that I hold sex sacred or overly value sex, but to me a girl (or guy) that's slept with ~80 guys DOES make me uncomfortable. Whether it be because of fears of measuring up, uncomfortable with the idea she's just straight up been with so many guys, jealousy.

I think it's perfectly reasonable for any guy (or girl) to feel like that when a prospective girlfriend/boyfriend has been with 80+ people, it feels like that they don't hold at least some sort of standard for giving it away and that they don't value their bodies somewhat (not saying that this is the case, but human nature would incline most to feel this way).

Since you're so liberal on the idea of sexual partners - would you be the kind willing to date/marry porn stars and prostitutes or is that a different scale.

[-p.tiddy-]

I think for me at my age for a woman

1-10 partners = inexperienced
10-20 partners = normal
20-30 partners = a little more than average
30-40 partners = "been around"
40+ = will likely cheat on you eventually, possible sex addiction

[dude77]

Do you hold the same standard to men?


why would I feel the need to ?

you liberals/feminists crack me up ..

contrary to what y'all have been brainwashing the masses with for decades now .. men and women are not equal .. not the same .. not anything .. so we are not going to have the same standards

[PHX_Phan]

A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

:rolleyes: No one said anything about virgins. Every guy expects a girl to have a past but 80 different partners is a shit load especially while still in the 20's. There's being insecure and then there's identifying a pattern and seeing a problem. I think 80 dudes falls under the latter.

I would say the same about a guy having 80 different women. I have two buddies that are like that and try to increase their number every chance they get. After seeing them with so many different girls I always feel bad for the next, and they probably don't come close to 80 combined.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

a necessary evil. people can change.. but they usually don't. and bad habits stay bad habits and they come creeping back with a vengeance...

[dude77]

a necessary evil. people can change.. but they usually don't. and bad habits stay bad habits and they come creeping back with a vengeance...

well said .. eventually .. always .. at some point .. having a pattern of banging that many people will show up again no doubt .. I don't believe at all that a chick like that will stay faithful in the long haul

[GOBB]

you're right in that he should've never probed further into it .. let the past stay where it is, the past .. he liked everything about her .. great .. but he did find out .. it's done .. now he knows .. now he knows what most guys would dread knowing .. it's out in the open .. you don't have a problem knowing that your bride to be has had 80+ cocks in her snatch, mouth, ass ?

and how do you know she hasn't cheated on him .. her reputation says otherwise ..

his 'lady' has been used and abused like a cuum rag .. like an escort .. that's what his gf basically was before him .. an escort .. no, she was worse than an escort because she probably didn't get paid for each of those encounters :oldlol: .. would you marry an escort ? if you would, props to you for overlooking that .. but most men wouldn't

You're just making up stuff as you post. How do we know he isnt bisexual and likes it up the ass more than getting blowjobs huh? You see, I can add stuff as I post to sound like a moron too. Only you do it naturally. Good job, good effort.

[Myth]

But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say.

There probably is a limit. I don't know what it is, because it depends on my reaction in the actual event of finding out such info. If I can handle the info and my life remains good with the girl, then fine. If I can't handle the info and it wears on my psyche, then it becomes a deal breaker. 80 very well may be above my limit already, but I'm not ending a relationship based on a number, I would end the relationship based on my reaction to the number.


Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time?

Yes. But again, it depends on my reaction to knowing such info. Part of my reaction would likely depend on how long ago it was. If it was something she tried 10 years ago, that would be easier to get past and just attribute to her past. If she did that 10 days before we dated, I'm pretty sure my reaction would be to get away fast.


What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother?

No and no. I am positive I would have a negative reaction to those that I couldn't get over. I have strong moral objections to both of those behaviors. Having sex with multiple people is something I can understand, because it is something I could see myself doing, although not to the same level.


I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.

I probably wouldn't either, but it isn't an automatic deal breaker. As I said, my reaction dictates if I will be with somebody, not a number.

[dude77]

You're just making up stuff as you post. How do we know he isnt bisexual and likes it up the ass more than getting blowjobs huh? You see, I can add stuff as I post to sound like a moron too. Only you do it naturally. Good job, good effort.

:facepalm the point is .. if it's true that she's been with 80+ men .. she's damaged goods .. no, calling her damaged goods would be a compliment

[Myth]

I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...

Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.



Very true. As I said earlier, I always talk about sexual past with a girl I care about because I am curious about her experiences. As you said, sex is a fun subject. I'd hate to be in a relationship for 3 years and never have been open enough to talk about sexual experiences. I'm not marrying a girl that I feel like certain subjects have to be avoided forever.

[Dragonyeuw]

80 sounds like a lot, but truthfully any nearly 30 year old woman who is reasonably good-looking and goes clubbing can bed 80 guys without much effort. It takes more effort for a guy to bed 80 women, than a woman to bed 80 guys. A single woman who wants no attachments can get laid every weekend she goes out. That's 4 guys in a month, 48 guys just in a year. Sounds slutty, but not crazy to imagine depending on the female. I dated a girl years ago who I know was sexually liberated (i.e been around a few times), but hey it wasn't like I was a virgin and we had fun.

[chosen_one6]

What about how many guys they've sucked off? I guarantee you women will lie about that 100% of the time. My girlfriend was a pro at it after the first time but I don't even want to know how often she's done it.

[lakers_forever]

There probably is a limit. I don't know what it is, because it depends on my reaction in the actual event of finding out such info. If I can handle the info and my life remains good with the girl, then fine. If I can't handle the info and it wears on my psyche, then it becomes a deal breaker. 80 very well may be above my limit already, but I'm not ending a relationship based on a number, I would end the relationship based on my reaction to the number.



Yes. But again, it depends on my reaction to knowing such info. Part of my reaction would likely depend on how long ago it was. If it was something she tried 10 years ago, that would be easier to get past and just attribute to her past. If she did that 10 days before we dated, I'm pretty sure my reaction would be to get away fast.



No and no. I am positive I would have a negative reaction to those that I couldn't get over. I have strong moral objections to both of those behaviors. Having sex with multiple people is something I can understand, because it is something I could see myself doing, although not to the same level.



I probably wouldn't either, but it isn't an automatic deal breaker. As I said, my reaction dictates if I will be with somebody, not a number.

Thanks for the honest replies. :cheers:

[Myth]

Thanks for the honest replies. :cheers:

:cheers:

[ClutchOver9000]

80 dudes?!? And she tells me 3 years later?

Yea...if it was me finding that out, our relationship's future would look very very bleak

[Derka]

I don't care if she did weekly double anals after morning oatmeal. Her past is her past.

Besides, I know for a fact none of the women I've slept with really want the scoop on the many chances I've taken with the well-being of my dick.

[Rake2204]

This thread reminds me of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpQqH4H_SUQ

[dude77]

This thread reminds me of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpQqH4H_SUQ


:roll: I remember this .. definitely fits the thread

edit: except for the snowballing part :eek:

[Myth]

This thread reminds me of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpQqH4H_SUQ

I was hoping they included the final part to that clip. :oldlol:

[ILLsmak]

If I have slept with a woman I think I can get a decent gauge on how many men she has been with without her telling me a damn thing...

It's usually pretty obvious when a girl has been around...



If you really "know" her then it should be fairly obvious I think

Yeah...

and it shouldn't really matter, depending. As long as she's not all used up. If her body is still alright who cares?

I used to be all jelly when I was a teen. I'd be worried about what lead her to do that, but it's just the same as anything else. She could have been a drug addict, too, would you forgive that?

I don't think many girls have slept with 240 men. haha 80 I don't even believe. In fact I believe that once you went over a certain number you wouldn't even be able to count them. Think about it, can you count all of the girls you've known in your life?

It's like looking back and trying to remember how many times you *********ed or how many times you smoked weed. Not to mention she probably wasn't sober. 80 guys is a lot of guys, though, no doubt. Most of the sluts I know don't even KNOW 80 guys. That's some serious party/bar hopping/one night stand shit. You can't fulfill that number with people you actually know.

-Smak

[dude77]

I was hoping they included the final part to that clip. :oldlol:

ah I saw this awhile back .. what was it ?

[DonDadda59]

80 d*cks? That's a... fair amount of d*cks to say the least :oldlol:

That amounts to 16 basketball teams' starting lineup. Think about next time you look at your girl. Personally, I can't see myself marrying a chick who f*cked the starting 5 of the entire Eastern Conference of the NBA... plus one more team from the west.

Whole lotta d*cks on that resume.

[Myth]

ah I saw this awhile back .. what was it ?

I was referring to what the clip included at the end with the guy standing outside the store. When I said "I was hoping," I meant while I was watching.

[Myth]

Another clip that is relevant (posted on ISH before): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLT-zI1tPxA

[dude77]

I was referring to what the clip included at the end with the guy standing outside the store. When I said "I was hoping," I meant while I was watching.


got ya

[DonDadda59]

Puts you in good company though.

Lebron:bowdown:
Melo:bowdown:
5 guys in Charlotte:bowdown:

Only one can get mine:

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lh3z4gEphx1qbv8q9.png

Then I can raise the child they produce, name him Jesus, the son of Godbe... born by immaculate conception. Then sit back and watch that NBA money roll in :pimp:

[scandisk_]

This thread reminds me of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpQqH4H_SUQ

IN A ROW? :lol

[Raz]

There are a lot of the following types of people in this thread:
-virgins
-people from the bible belt
-virgins
-hypocrites (they think it's ok for a guy to have a lot of partners, but not a girl)

Let's see... I am 30, and I am currently in a 3 and a 1/2 year relationship. I have been in a 3 year relationship, a 9 month relationship, and a 6 month relationship. That's 4 women over 7 years and 9 months. You wanna know how many women fall outside of those times? It would be around about 36 (not sure on exact details - I started making a list awhile ago, and there are a few I'm forgetting for sure).

I started at 17 (just before my 18th birthday), so 36 women over 5 years. That's me going out most weekends with friends and trying to pick up probably 70% of the time. If a women had the same mindset as me, they could easily clock 80. Again, a lot of you are very judgemental, jealous, insecure types.

[PHX_Phan]

80 d*cks? That's a... fair amount of d*cks to say the least :oldlol:

That amounts to 16 basketball teams' starting lineup. Think about next time you look at your girl. Personally, I can't see myself marrying a chick who f*cked the starting 5 of the entire Eastern Conference of the NBA... plus one more team from the west.

Whole lotta d*cks on that resume.

:lol

[Raz]

80 d*cks? That's a... fair amount of d*cks to say the least :oldlol:

That amounts to 16 basketball teams' starting lineup. Think about next time you look at your girl. Personally, I can't see myself marrying a chick who f*cked the starting 5 of the entire Eastern Conference of the NBA... plus one more team from the west.

Whole lotta d*cks on that resume.

Ha, that is a funny way to think about it.

[niko]

There are a lot of the following types of people in this thread:
-virgins
-people from the bible belt
-virgins
-hypocrites (they think it's ok for a guy to have a lot of partners, but not a girl)

Let's see... I am 30, and I am currently in a 3 and a 1/2 year relationship. I have been in a 3 year relationship, a 9 month relationship, and a 6 month relationship. That's 4 women over 7 years and 9 months. You wanna know how many women fall outside of those times? It would be around about 36 (not sure on exact details - I started making a list awhile ago, and there are a few I'm forgetting for sure).

I started at 17 (just before my 18th birthday), so 36 women over 5 years. That's me going out most weekends with friends and trying to pick up probably 70% of the time. If a women had the same mindset as me, they could easily clock 80. Again, a lot of you are very judgemental, jealous, insecure types.

I wouldn't want my wife to have had 80 people prior to me. Outside of the disease possibility, a woman with 80 partners over a short time strikes me as just not selective enough for my tastes. I'd like her to have some standards higher than "has *****".

It doesn't bother you, that doesn't mean it's not a criteria that matters. Now, some of the people in this tread seem to want virginal women which strikes me as delusional and just i don't get why? But i think having a vague number somewhere between 0 and 80 is ok. not having one is ok, but having one is ok too.

My wife was kind of irritated that i seemed to have dated ever girl we passed near where i used to teach. Her point was it was prior, but it probably meant that i just grabbed anything that moved, which personality wise maybe meant i wasn't what she though. (i didn't, just a very terrible coincidence for me).

I almost hate to disagree with you though because you are so much more reasonable about these things taht a lot of people in ISH. :lol You missed some discussions in your time gone that your head would have exploded from the stupidity.