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LT Ice Cream
09-09-2012, 01:01 AM
So i got into it with this girl at work, we went out a couple of times until she finally had a meltdown and told me she was in a relationship. I said I knew that the whole time, and she got even more mad, saying I was a selfish bastard for chasing anyway. Honestly, I don't think what I did was wrong. It's not like her boyfriend is my bro . . . I don't even know who he is. For all I know, he could be a sh!tbag and she's just needs a new man . . .

Batzman
09-09-2012, 01:03 AM
Generally yes. In your case, no.

no pun intended
09-09-2012, 01:03 AM
Why would you say that you knew that she had one the whole time?

Real Men Wear Green
09-09-2012, 01:05 AM
It depends: Can he kick your ass?

Also, just be aware that if she'll cheat on him she'd be willing to cheat on you.

Raz
09-09-2012, 01:08 AM
Also, just be aware that if she'll cheat on him she'd be willing to cheat on you.

This.

But it sounds like she was just a booty call. If she was going to cheat, she was going to cheat. You might as well benefit from it. As long as someone isn't married, and you're single, who cares?

Kobe 4 The Win
09-09-2012, 01:09 AM
Married = Wrong, Boyfriend = Free game

LT Ice Cream
09-09-2012, 01:10 AM
Why would you say that you knew that she had one the whole time?

I guess it was common knowledge at my workplace that she had a boyfriend, cuz everyone knows everyone elses business. So there was no way I was gonna play dumb around that one . . .
But the point is, shes the hottest chick at work and she sent me some pretty scandalous messages and never mentioned her bf until after we had been going out for about a week. So no, I don't think I'm in the wrong here. But apparently she thinks so, and so do my lady friends.

LBJMVP
09-09-2012, 01:11 AM
even if there is goalie, you always have to try and score :oldlol:

StroShow4
09-09-2012, 01:12 AM
Nah. If she wants to be with the dude she's with she'll show no interest in you anyway.

StroShow4
09-09-2012, 01:12 AM
even if there is goalie, you always have to try and score :oldlol:

:oldlol: :oldlol: :oldlol:

AK47DR91
09-09-2012, 01:14 AM
As long as you don't get emotionally attached to her and if she's the type to creep around, I say it's OK.

Some girls have no shame toying around with more than 1 boyfriend.

imnew09
09-09-2012, 01:14 AM
nah man. If he's not your bro, you're good.

LT Ice Cream
09-09-2012, 01:16 AM
even if there is goalie, you always have to try and score :oldlol:

Cool, I'm gonna keep this one in mind. :applause:

miller-time
09-09-2012, 01:34 AM
so if you were with her and some guy was chasing after her you would be sweet with that?

no it isn't ok. but worse than that, if she cheated or left him for you could you ever really trust her?

Timmy D for MVP
09-09-2012, 03:13 AM
Yes.

Don't even need to read what you said. The answer is yes.

AlonzoGOAT
09-09-2012, 04:54 AM
So i got into it with this girl at work, we went out a couple of times until she finally had a meltdown and told me she was in a relationship. I said I knew that the whole time, and she got even more mad, saying I was a selfish bastard for chasing anyway. Honestly, I don't think what I did was wrong. It's not like her boyfriend is my bro . . . I don't even know who he is. For all I know, he could be a sh!tbag and she's just needs a new man . . .
Stopped Reading right there. NO

G-Funk
09-09-2012, 04:57 AM
He would do it to u

LJJ
09-09-2012, 04:59 AM
If she's game she's game.


All somewhat attractive women know how to rid themselves of advances, they've been doing that since their teens.

QuebecBaller
09-09-2012, 08:24 AM
Also, just be aware that if she'll cheat on him she'd be willing to cheat on you.

This


Yes.

Don't even need to read what you said. The answer is yes.

This

And If you ask if it's wrong, than in my opinion, you deserve to have a girlfriend who will cheat on you many time

niko
09-09-2012, 08:32 AM
She has a boyfriend. She's not married. At some point if she's rejecting you i'd respect it and move on but other than that why not?

niko
09-09-2012, 08:36 AM
Some of you are like NO ABSOLUTELY NOT. NO NO.

Let me ask you, do you take a survey before you get with a girl? When i met my wife, i'm like 50/50 that she had some sort of boyfriend, albeit nont serious. I took her, he was gone, the end. (He called to beg her to come back at one point when i was there and i got to see her going NO I CANT, I UNDERSTAND YOURE UPSET, OF COURSE WERE FRIENDS conversation.)

TheSilentKiller
09-09-2012, 09:10 AM
so if you were with her and some guy was chasing after her you would be sweet with that?

no it isn't ok. but worse than that, if she cheated or left him for you could you ever really trust her?
This. Not worth it bro

code green
09-09-2012, 10:58 AM
This girl's got issues bro. Chase her to ****? Sure. To date? Hell, no. I've been in your situation before, except the girl was someone that I had been best friends with for the prior 7 years and assumed because of that it would never come back on me. It took 2 years, but sure enough, it happened. If she shows an inclination to cheat, that's not something that goes away. Funny enough, it was someone at her work too.

Raz
09-09-2012, 11:20 AM
Some of you are like NO ABSOLUTELY NOT. NO NO.

Let me ask you, do you take a survey before you get with a girl? When i met my wife, i'm like 50/50 that she had some sort of boyfriend, albeit nont serious. I took her, he was gone, the end. (He called to beg her to come back at one point when i was there and i got to see her going NO I CANT, I UNDERSTAND YOURE UPSET, OF COURSE WERE FRIENDS conversation.)

niko, you sly dog!

I did the same thing. I met mine in the Philippines, she was dating some gay looking American, and I was dating a crazy chick from Canada - I had no reservations about it. If you can't even go on holiday with your girl, what kind of relationship is that.

I must admit, cheating is a bad way to start a relationship, but we have a rock solid union, and we're getting married in Cuba July 12th, 2013. Should be ah-mah-zing!
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2igtfjjK61r76lino1_250.gif

Raz
09-09-2012, 11:36 AM
I see no problem with it.

And I think it's nonsense that if you end up getting her she would be willing to cheat on you.

It really depends on the girl.

B-Low
09-09-2012, 11:37 AM
I've always had my own little traffic light system

Single/casually dating someone = Green Light. Self explanatory, GO!

Engaged = Yellow Light. Technically it's supposed to mean "slow it on down" but in reality it means "hurry up you don't have much time before that light turns green"

Married = Red Light. STOP cuz if you keep going it's gonna lead to trouble. Unless it's after 2am and nobody's looking.

Raz
09-09-2012, 11:54 AM
Yeah, and the situation. Two girls have cheated on their boyfriend with me, both of them didn't really like their boyfriends that much but were just the type that don't like being alone.

I'm about to sign off for the day, but I wanted to ask you if you're okay? You didn't reply in the other thread - and I was worried about you.

DetroitPiston
09-09-2012, 12:38 PM
I've always been of the opinion that if someone in a relationship is looking elsewhere, then the problem is with the person they're dating.

Now if you're trying to chase a person and they're happy in a relationship, I'd say leave it alone.

Smoke117
09-09-2012, 12:38 PM
I agree with the guy that said "if he can beat your ass then no". People get killed over shit like this, so if know nothing about this guy then you don't know what you are getting into. He may be some crazy ass jealous mother ****er that will knife anyone who looks at his girl and here you are trying to screw his gf? There are some crazy people out there and you should know what you are getting into.

B-Low
09-09-2012, 12:46 PM
I've always been of the opinion that if someone in a relationship is looking elsewhere, then the problem is with the person they're dating.

Now if you're trying to chase a person and they're happy in a relationship, I'd say leave it alone.

In all honesty, this is my real opinion on it.

If a girl is with a guy, and the guy treats her really well, I won't pursue no matter how much I like the girl. Other people have said "if a girl will cheat on her boyfriend, she'll cheat on you too". And that's only half true. If a girl will cheat on a GOOD guy, she'll cheat on another good guy too.

But if a girl is with a guy who treats her like shit, I see no problem trying to pry her away. A lotta girls are with shitty guys because they honestly don't believe they can do any better. But when they're presented with a guy that is willing to treat them right, they're just kinda drawn to him. Yes, they're still cheating, but it's more a matter of them building up the courage and confidence to leave. So again if a girl will cheat on a GOOD guy, she'll cheat on another good guy too. If a girl will cheat on a BAD guy, it could just mean she's looking for appreciation.

Base it more on the other guy than on the girl.

Timmy D for MVP
09-09-2012, 01:46 PM
I've always been of the opinion that if someone in a relationship is looking elsewhere, then the problem is with the person they're dating.

Now if you're trying to chase a person and they're happy in a relationship, I'd say leave it alone.

But it's not your problem.

Then say hey look I'm interested but idk what's goin on with you.

Guys on here are like: "Yeah, hell yeah lets do it bro!" But they'd shit their pants if it ever happened to them.

Draz
09-09-2012, 02:30 PM
In all honesty, this is my real opinion on it.

If a girl is with a guy, and the guy treats her really well, I won't pursue no matter how much I like the girl. Other people have said "if a girl will cheat on her boyfriend, she'll cheat on you too". And that's only half true. If a girl will cheat on a GOOD guy, she'll cheat on another good guy too.

But if a girl is with a guy who treats her like shit, I see no problem trying to pry her away. A lotta girls are with shitty guys because they honestly don't believe they can do any better. But when they're presented with a guy that is willing to treat them right, they're just kinda drawn to him. Yes, they're still cheating, but it's more a matter of them building up the courage and confidence to leave. So again if a girl will cheat on a GOOD guy, she'll cheat on another good guy too. If a girl will cheat on a BAD guy, it could just mean she's looking for appreciation.

Base it more on the other guy than on the girl.

/thread

Mach_3
09-09-2012, 03:49 PM
Rules of young money

Rule 1 Don't fcuk with nobody elses girl





Rule number 2, nobody has a girl! HOLLA!!!


:lol

dude77
09-09-2012, 04:25 PM
you encounter a hot chick .. 'befriend' her .. somewhere in there you find out she has a bf but she's receptive to your flrting/game .. lets face it .. you're gonna do it .. the only reason you wouldn't is because either A. you're married and faithful B. you're gay or C. you're just a pssy ..

so if she was a stranger and the bf is a stranger, sure .. if you know the bf(friend, sibling etc) then you gotta back off there .. it's a conscience thing .. be honest .. none of y'all will give a shit the day after, if you fk a 'stranger's' gf/wife

Nick Young
09-09-2012, 04:38 PM
Lawl it's a chick from your work and she got a bf. I'm sure no drama will come from this and the shit will never hit the fan:roll: :banana: :banana: :banana: