Basically at the end of the semester is the last time I'm going to see my crush,.....

[Umad101]

Should I just lay it all out there to her

BACK STORY-
I met this girl couple weeks ago, heard from her friend that she thought i was really cute. only chilled with one time really. She told me that she only busy and never goes cuz of school and two jobs. I asked her out last week, she said she could that day cuz she had to work and babysit(if she was interested she would at least reschedule). I never really get to see her at school cuz we have different classes. We both have this class meeting we go to. The last one is in like 2 weeks, should I go up to her at the end of the meeting and just lay it all out there and tell her my feelings cuz I'm never going to see her again.

I was going to basically say something like this:
"I really like u, the first day I saw u I really couldn't take my eyes off u cuz ur so cute and adorable. There where day I couldn't eat, sleep, focus cuz the whole time I was thinking of u. I don't know if u feel the same way but I just want to get this off my Chest with no regrets"

Something like that but with better wording and more thought to it. I mean don't mind get rejected cuz after this semester I'm not going to see her again

Thoughts?

Cliffs
Last time I'm going to see my crush
Planing on tell her my true feelings

[CeltsGarlic]

You should, but do you have balls to do it?

[rufuspaul]

I don't understand why you won't see her again after this semester. Is she moving or something?

[Umad101]

I don't understand why you won't see her again after this semester. Is she moving or something?
Na I'm transferring to another university

[Umad101]

You should, but do you have balls to do it?
I do have the balls to do it. I asked another forum the same question and they told me that it was beta shit to do and it will never work. These kind of things only happen in movies

[bmulls]

I was going to basically say something like this:
"I really like u, you should let me take you out"


Leave it right there, the rest of that shit is weird and kind of creepy for a girl you barely know

[Umad101]

Leave it right there, the rest of that shit is weird and kind of creepy for a girl you barely know
I already told her that did u even read the op?

[LongBeachLakers]

I did some beta shit a few days ago lol... Told a girl over text that im trying to get over a small crush I have for her... Lol she replied back, "but you have a girlfriend". I tried to play it off like I didn't :lol

[Riddler]

Na I'm transferring to another university

So?

Get her e-mail address... try to stay in touch with her.

IDK man, if there's no way you can hang out with her before you leave, then I see no point in telling her the way she made you feel.

All you're gonna do is create an awkward situation...


Maybe you should take this approach... after your class meeting, give her a letter with all your contact information... Letter or No Letter,... Just put the emphasis on how much it would mean to you if you got to spend one last time with her before you transfer to another university.

By doing this, you're telling her how you feel without actually saying it.

[bmulls]

I already told her that did u even read the op?

The first time you asked her she could have legitimately had work or whatever. If she wanted to go out with you she would be talking to you, maybe dropping hints. If she didn't have work or she doesn't really like you then you are just going to make a super awkward situation where she tries to let you down easy. Confessing your love to somebody you've hung out with 1 time is ridiculous bud. You ask her out 1 more time and if she says no or she's busy then you know she's not interested and you can just smile, say OK and walk away.

[chazzy]

There where day I couldn't eat, sleep, focus cuz the whole time I was thinking of u.
stop

[BuGzBuNNy]

http://youtu.be/0_BdbKYW2-A

Don't care if I get rejected
At least then I won't regret
Regret the fact I
Missed a chance for romance at least
I'll walk away knowing
I tried my best, then I'm going
I'm going on with my day
Cause at least she heard me say...

:applause:

[heyhey]

Na I'm transferring to another university

do you have a good reason for doing this? transferring sucks man. I transferred in middle school and high school and it was tough. I felt like i had to reinvent myself and lost touch with who i was for a while, took me a bit to get on track.

onto your question, don't be confessing that shit b4 u two even been on a legit date. that's weird as hell. just ask her out and be cool, let ur action speak for u.

[Take Your Lumps]

Instead of telling her your true feelings like a little girl, you may instead want to think about presenting her with a proto-masculine display to win her heart (and vag).

Something like this would work:

http://thechive.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/funny-gifs-weight-lifting-on-a-motorcycle.gif

[LJJ]

Sumida? Is that you?

[rufuspaul]

Instead of telling her your true feelings like a little girl, you may instead want to think about presenting her with a proto-masculine display to win her heart (and vag).

Something like this would work:

http://thechive.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/funny-gifs-weight-lifting-on-a-motorcycle.gif


:lol


Basically you have 2 choices at this point:

1. Paint Paris in her room.
2. Rape.

[blablabla]

:lol


Basically you have 2 choices at this point:

1. Paint Paris in her room.
2. Rape.
things you go to jail for

[Riddler]

Something like this would work:

http://thechive.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/funny-gifs-weight-lifting-on-a-motorcycle.gif


:oldlol:

:roll:

[nathanjizzle]

did anyone else feel more dumb reading this guys post.

my advice is to not lay it all out there, shes just going to tell you no.

[bagelred]

http://yeahnewyork.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/john-cusack-boombox1.jpg

[Umad101]

did anyone else feel more dumb reading this guys post.

my advice is to not lay it all out there, shes just going to tell you no.
What's so dumb about it?

[niko]

Just say, hey school is ending soon, we'll have more free time. Let's do something.

Not hard.

If you say "ive been secretly in love with you every second" out of the blue you are going to creep her out.

[chazzy]

OP, how would you feel if some girl you barely knew said "I couldn't eat sleep and focus cuz i was always thinking of you"

[code green]

"I really like u, the first day I saw u I really couldn't take my eyes off u cuz ur so cute and adorable. There where day I couldn't eat, sleep, focus cuz the whole time I was thinking of u. I don't know if u feel the same way but I just want to get this off my Chest with no regrets"


http://images.yuku.com.s3.amazonaws.com/image/gif/d043603d3c02fff6a0f73585eb225080407a3469.gif

You have a better chance at getting laid if you just say "Hey, you wanna go have sex before I leave?" Srs.

[DirkNowitzki41]

There where day I couldn't eat, sleep, focus cuz the whole time I was thinking of u

no

[BuGzBuNNy]

Yeah, what you have in the OP comes off creepy. Say something, just nothing like that

[niko]

You might as well write her a love note and make her a cool I LOVE YOU mixtape. You'll get the same response.

[OhNoTimNoSho]

If you actually at one point couldn't eat or sleep because of her, then you have no chance. Mostly because you have a ****** and not a *****.

[Joshumitsu]

Sometimes you can't change what will happen but you can choose how you will react.

Better to do this and look silly/sweet/etc than to regret not doing it for the next 5-10 years. Walk in there with conviction and no one in the world can touch you.

[Umad101]

Sometimes you can't change what will happen but you can choose how you will react.

Better to do this and look silly/sweet/etc than to regret not doing it for the next 5-10 years. Walk in there with conviction and no one in the world can touch you.
That basically what I'm saying I don't want to live the rest of my life wondering "what if"

[Meticode]

Whatever you do, do not tell her those feelings. That's way to hard to fast. Ask her out on a date again, if she makes an excuse just drop it. If she's honestly interested she'll make time for you.

Just to mention if you come off like that to a woman even after a few dates, it's still creepy. Much less never dating a girl and just hanging out with her.

[Umad101]

Whatever you do, do not tell her those feelings. That's way to hard to fast. Ask her out on a date again, if she makes an excuse just drop it. If she's honestly interested she'll make time for you.

Just to mention if you come off like that to a woman even after a few dates, it's still creepy. Much less never dating a girl and just hanging out with her.
True, best solid advice here

Also what about a girl who ur kinda been friends with for couple yrs. I haven't seen this girl in like a year would It be a good to spell my feelings for her when I see her(she was my first real crush, but never made a move thou)

[Legend of Josh]

That basically what I'm saying I don't want to live the rest of my life wondering "what if"

Dude, haha - you will encounter many, many new women in your future. You young cats crack me up with all this *puppy love* bullshit. LOL, dude, shouldn't you have experienced the *crush* phase in late middle-school / early high-school?

I'm not trying to knock you man, just sayin' ... can I honestly ask you, have you ever been in a worthwhile (meaning lengthy) relationship? Are you just a late bloomer, and it took until you got into college to "come into your own" and get balls enough to "holla" or talk to girls?

Seems like you got that Hawkerism effect. Hawk never even spoke to a female until his junior year of university. I think maybe he seen an actual in the flesh live ****** a month or two before his senior year ended. I don't even know if that's real talk.

Here's some real talk though. You're going to have to shatter this being timid of girls thing you're going through. It'll eventually happen, I'm sure, but dude, just being man-to-man and trying to give some sound advice, you need to just not give a shit about rejection, the outcome or what's going to happen after the fact. Pull a Nike, and just do it.

[niko]

True, best solid advice here

Also what about a girl who ur kinda been friends with for couple yrs. I haven't seen this girl in like a year would It be a good to spell my feelings for her when I see her(she was my first real crush, but never made a move thou)

STOP TELLING GIRLS YOU ARE NOT DATING YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT THEM. You discuss feelings later on. After you have banged them. After they are asking about this. You have not even asked them on a date. What are you thinking about?

The point is to get the girl to go out with you and things to progress. The tact you want to take is going to prevent this from even starting.

[d.bball.guy]

Wait, so Kobe is not your crush? :wtf:

[Eat Like A Bosh]

"I really like u, the first day I saw u I really couldn't take my eyes off u cuz ur so cute and adorable. There where day I couldn't eat, sleep, focus cuz the whole time I was thinking of u. I don't know if u feel the same way but I just want to get this off my Chest with no regrets"
I wouldn't want to say that, just makes you sound desperate and needy. You're not even officially dating her am I right? And what do you mean you'll never see her again? Don't you have her number?

How could you have hanged out with her and never gotten her number?

Get her number, and ask her out for another date. If she's genuinely interested, she'll make time for it no matter what.

[Umad101]

Dude, haha - you will encounter many, many new women in your future. You young cats crack me up with all this *puppy love* bullshit. LOL, dude, shouldn't you have experienced the *crush* phase in late middle-school / early high-school?

I'm not trying to knock you man, just sayin' ... can I honestly ask you, have you ever been in a worthwhile (meaning lengthy) relationship? Are you just a late bloomer, and it took until you got into college to "come into your own" and get balls enough to "holla" or talk to girls?

Seems like you got that Hawkerism effect. Hawk never even spoke to a female until his junior year of university. I think maybe he seen an actual in the flesh live ****** a month or two before his senior year ended. I don't even know if that's real talk.

Here's some real talk though. You're going to have to shatter this being timid of girls thing you're going through. It'll eventually happen, I'm sure, but dude, just being man-to-man and trying to give some sound advice, you need to just not give a shit about rejection, the outcome or what's going to happen after the fact. Pull a Nike, and just do it.ya bro I went to a religious school all my life so there was never really a chance to interact with girls. Also I'm not looking to smash or anything(waiting till marriage for that). I just want a relationship with a good girl without the sexual shit till marriage. I haven't really talk to girl even while in college cuz I'm Muslim and want to wait till marriage. But I feel like I'm wasting my prime doing nothing but sitting and waiting. That why I really like this year cuz I genuinely think she is a nice girl

[Umad101]

I wouldn't want to say that, just makes you sound desperate and needy. You're not even officially dating her am I right? And what do you mean you'll never see her again? Don't you have her number?

How could you have hanged out with her and never gotten her number?

Get her number, and ask her out for another date. If she's genuinely interested, she'll make time for it no matter what.
Ya I got her number and I asked her out last week and she put the "can't busy" line on me

[Legend of Josh]

ya bro I went to a religious school all my life so there was never really a chance to interact with girls. Also I'm not looking to smash or anything(waiting till marriage for that). I just want a relationship with a good girl without the sexual shit till marriage. I haven't really talk to girl even while in college cuz I'm Muslim and want to wait till marriage. But I feel like I'm wasting my prime doing nothing but sitting and waiting. That why I really like this year cuz I genuinely think she is a nice girl

I can respect that. I'm going to be honest with you though. The dating pool of the girl you're seeking is going to be very shallow. Most girls have already had multiple sex partners in high school, so college is only going to amplify things for your typical college girl. It's going to be a challenge for you to meet someone in the same boat.

I'm sure there's some religious groups (probably mostly Christian though), organizations or meetings you can go to and meet up with people on or near campus who might be more inclined to share similar feelings you do. Being that you're Muslim though, it's going to be a challenge if you're looking for a Muslim girl your age and looking to wait until marriage, etc.

I do respect your position, and waiting by putting your love for God (Allah) first and foremost, that's cool man.

Good luck.

:cheers:

[Umad101]

I can respect that. I'm going to be honest with you though. The dating pool of the girl you're seeking is going to be very shallow. Most girls have already had multiple sex partners in high school, so college is only going to amplify things for your typical college girl. It's going to be a challenge for you to meet someone in the same boat.

I'm sure there's some religious groups (probably mostly Christian though), organizations or meetings you can go to and meet up with people on or near campus who might be more inclined to share similar feelings you do. Being that you're Muslim though, it's going to be a challenge if you're looking for a Muslim girl your age and looking to wait until marriage, etc.

I do respect your position, and waiting by putting your love for God (Allah) first and foremost, that's cool man.

Good luck.

:cheers:
Thanks bro really appreciate it. That why I don't really bother talking to girl cuz most of them out there is not what I'm really looking for

[Legend of Josh]

Ya I got her number and I asked her out last week and she put the "can't busy" line on me

It sounds like she's not interested. If she were, she'd be more than happy to let you take her out; she'd find a way to NOT be busy. I think she's just being nice. Look at this though dude, you really don't even know this girl. Having a crush on her or whatnot is a little premature.

Brush off your shoulders and move on to the next. What you need is practice practice practice. Just walk up to girls at random at every opportunity and just make simple conversation. That's what people do, they converse... and I know you haven't had much experience talking with girls b/c of your religious school past, etc. - but people talk to people, we're social creatures... and males and females talk to each other!

You walking up to a girl and just saying hi, what's up, what's your name, etc. - most are not going to be offended and blow you off... maybe one or two might be a stuck up bitch and *reject* you without blinking, but eventually if you talk to enough girls YOU WILL guaranteed 100% find girls who will want to talk to you, and will want you to take them out.

There's power in numbers.

[Umad101]

It sounds like she's not interested. If she were, she'd be more than happy to let you take her out; she'd find a way to NOT be busy. I think she's just being nice. Look at this though dude, you really don't even know this girl. Having a crush on her or whatnot is a little premature.

Brush off your shoulders and move on to the next. What you need is practice practice practice. Just walk up to girls at random at every opportunity and just make simple conversation. That's what people do, they converse... and I know you haven't had much experience talking with girls b/c of your religious school past, etc. - but people talk to people, we're social creatures... and males and females talk to each other!

You walking up to a girl and just saying hi, what's up, what's your name, etc. - most are not going to be offended and blow you off... maybe one or two might be a stuck up bitch and *reject* you without blinking, but eventually if you talk to enough girls YOU WILL guaranteed 100% find girls who will want to talk to you, and will want you to take them out.

There's power in numbers.
I know for a fact that she busy cuz she has two jobs and school. She told me this when I first met her. I know she kinda likes me cuz after the day I met her I heard from I friend of mine how she was talking about me the day after and thought I was cute. The busy line don't really phase me cuz I know she has a lot of stuff to do. But what confuses me is that if she was interested wouldn't she at least reschedule for another time?

[niko]

It sounds like she's not interested. If she were, she'd be more than happy to let you take her out; she'd find a way to NOT be busy. I think she's just being nice. Look at this though dude, you really don't even know this girl. Having a crush on her or whatnot is a little premature.

Brush off your shoulders and move on to the next. What you need is practice practice practice. Just walk up to girls at random at every opportunity and just make simple conversation. That's what people do, they converse... and I know you haven't had much experience talking with girls b/c of your religious school past, etc. - but people talk to people, we're social creatures... and males and females talk to each other!

You walking up to a girl and just saying hi, what's up, what's your name, etc. - most are not going to be offended and blow you off... maybe one or two might be a stuck up bitch and *reject* you without blinking, but eventually if you talk to enough girls YOU WILL guaranteed 100% find girls who will want to talk to you, and will want you to take them out.

There's power in numbers.

Listen to the man.:cheers: It sounds obvious but it's really not. People also shouldn't proactively put too many people in the "no" column. Sometimes someone seems like a no but you talk to them and realize they are very much inline with your thinking even though you thought they were not.

[spree43]

I dont understand, I might be missing something.

You only have 2 weeks left. Do you want to tell her this so that you can bang her or do you want to tell her this just so that she knows how you feel.

I dont see you telling her this and then it turns into a long distance relationship or something.

[Umad101]

Bump


Just found out this ho is talking to like 3 dudes thru a friend

*** that.......on to the next one I guess

[Umad101]

4, I'm whispering in her butt right now, homie.
That made me lol

[SevereUpInHere]

Bump


Just found out this ho is talking to like 3 dudes thru a friend

*** that.......on to the next one I guess


A girl isn't a ho cos she's talking to other dudes. Dumb attitude to have. You're gonna have competition with any girl worth going after. It's not like you're going out either.

You've got a lot to learn young buck.

[Umad101]

A girl isn't a ho cos she's talking to other dudes. Dumb attitude to have. You're gonna have competition with any girl worth going after. It's not like you're going out either.

You've got a lot to learn young buck.
Dog she was leading me on. And I also heard from a friend that she a golddigger and sleep around, but my dumbass didn't want to believe. But this confirms it that she everything I didn't want in a girl

[SevereUpInHere]

Dog she was leading me on. And I also heard from a friend that she a golddigger and sleep around, but my dumbass didn't want to believe. But this confirms it that she everything I didn't want in a girl


:oldlol: She said she was busy when you asked her out. Talking to you, or other guys isn't leading anyone on.

Don't stress it my man, I can tell you're young, and it's all a learning experience. You'll figure it out.

[DirkNowitzki41]

4, I'm whispering in her butt right now, homie.

:oldlol: *******

[Meticode]

Also what about a girl who ur kinda been friends with for couple yrs. I haven't seen this girl in like a year would It be a good to spell my feelings for her when I see her(she was my first real crush, but never made a move thou)
Spilling feelings isn't something you do unless you're in a serious relationship and you work your way up to loving someone admitting to them you'er in love with them. Just out-right telling a woman you feel the way you do is just going to push them away in most cases becuase it comes off as clingy or desperate and not natural.

With your friend you've known for a couple years that you haven't seen in around a year, I would suggest asking her to hang out. Do not suggest a date. Just go about it casual like, "Hey, I we haven't hung out or spoke in a long while. You want to go catch some lunch or dinner sometime this week?"

Don't go to a movie. Date movies are horrible. You sit in silence for most of the date and don't even talk. Sit down, talk, converse, get her to laugh.

Gauge how she reacts off of that when you ask her to hang out. If she's making excuses then she's not interested probably. A good way to double-check that is if she says something like she's busy ask her, "Oh that's cool, what about next week sometime maybe if that's cool?"

If she shuts you down again, just let it go because it's not worth the time.

Edit: I just read the recent posts. Looks like not worth the time.

[airchibundo507]

Also, get that ho drunk.

I have a hard time believing you're socially awkward. You are hilarious, dude. If you dropped some of the lines you do on ISH in the real world, you would be a comedian.

[No_Look604]

add her on facebook and stalk her...I mean keep in touch with her lol

seriously though, I hate that about life these days...fcukin facebook...taking all the romanticism out of courtship.

anyways, OP...do it up!! Good luck and wish you all the best.

[No_Look604]

oh and dude, don't ****ing say the word "adorable" to her LOL trust!

[No_Look604]

"leading you on" = being polite and saying hello to you because you were standing with her friend...........RIIIGHT.

[Just2McFly]

What's wrong with adorable? It all depends on the context.

[Umad101]

Updated*

This bitch just texted me after I deleted her number after finding she messing around with two other guys from I friend

Should I even respond?

[airchibundo507]

Updated*

This bitch just texted me after I deleted her number after finding she messing around with two other guys from I friend

Should I even respond?

not in your position. but if you were thinking with your dick instead of your heart, what would you have to lose inviting her over to spend some alone time before you leave?

[bluechox2]

Updated*

This bitch just texted me after I deleted her number after finding she messing around with two other guys from I friend

Should I even respond?
respond, and since shes in the market for men, be like, i can show you a good time tonight...shes probably opened up shop if shes chatting up dudes, your chance to hit that ,

dont expect and long distance shit to happen, you know some other dudes gonna hit that up after ur gone

just one and done...go for it