My GF is getting too fat

[IamRAMBO24]

I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years. I really think I want to marry her and I told her so. Well now she is getting a bit too comfortable in the relationship.

The other night, we were getting it on, and the bed f*cking broke. The next morning, through a bit of digging, I found out she weighs over 200 pounds now. Keep in mind, she was a sexy 140 when we dated.

So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight. That was like a $400 bed set and I can't afford buying new beds. That's as bad as the time when I bought the first set of Xbox 360s and they would only last for a couple of months.

How do you tell a girl to lose weight without offending her. She knows she's fat, I know she's fat, all her friends know she's fat, heck, even her dead auntie is visiting her in her dreams telling her she's fat, but it's just a topic of conversation I just can't bring up directly.

I still love her, but damn, she needs to lose a few pounds because that love is going to dwindle when another expensive bed set is broken. Sorry if I sound superficial, but this is a serious problem in our relationship.

[alenleomessi]

200 muthaf*cking pounds? :roll:

[Jyap9675]

200 pounds? U can't be serious. Show us a pic of before and after

[maybeshewill13]

LMFAO 200lbs? Holy shit.. You should go for runs and suggest she comes with you. Or start going to the gym and make up some shit about how it would be fun if she went with you. Do things together and it'll help encourage her.

[Burgz V2]

whoa when I read the title i was gonna say something along the lines of "youre a douchebag, you shouldnt care blah blah blah" but gaining 60 lbs is crazy.

Do you weigh a lot? maybe she feels like she can get away with it.

The best way is to offer to do a "couples fitness/yoga/pilates" course together or something, like make it seem like you want to spend more time with her. I'm sure if you can find out a way to find out her weight then you can figure out a way to ask her :lol

[niko]

If you are dating someone for seven years and not married ditch them and start over. SEVEN YEARS?

Aside from that tell her the truth. She's getting big and it's unhealthy and you're not going to stay around to watch her get sicker and sicker.

:lol OP is a chubby chaser...

[nathanjizzle]

if you dont already have a gym membership, get 2 of them. tell her she needs to work out.

[Just2McFly]

Chubby chasers unite:lol

[Riddler]

I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years.




So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight.


after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.

[BRabbiT]

after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.


+1


talk to her about it. tell her it's on your mind. plant that seed.


i was in a similar situation in my last relationship.

i ended up hurting her feelings. we broke up soon afterward.

but i had to say something. i started to resent her. i'd cringe every time she overate.

[Bandito]

Just tell her that she's overweight but don't tell her she's fat though. Or heck just tell her that you're both getting fat and you both need to go to they gym and eat healthier because you want to spend more time with her when you both get older.

[BrooklynZoo]

how big are you?

PAUSE

[Faptastrophe]

Narrow all your doors by a foot, then pretend everything is normal. She should work it out.

[Bosnian Sajo]

after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.

Bullshit :oldlol: That would be the most awkward thing ever.

Do you guys have a mutual friend you both are close to? If so, there is your key to help get this situation fixed. Talk to her about it, don't just be like "shes fat af and it needs to change", be real genuine about it. She might even work out with her to give her that extra motivation. If you guys don't have that mutual friend well...still try talking to one of her friends you know a little better :lol

[red1]

LOL thanks for the laugh op. One of my buddies had to deal with the same issue, they started working out together and now she is in much better shape. Just gotta join the gym together and start eating healthy at home, the bitch will love you even more if you help her get in fit.

[ErhnamDjinn]

lmao i like girls with a little bit of meat on them, but 200lbs dafuq hahaha, i would suggest taking jogs or hikes together. damn 200lbs

[DeuceWallaces]

Dude, 140 is still pretty damn big girl unless she's 5'10+

[HardwoodLegend]

Do you think of Winter Pierzina in your head when boning her?

Anyway, I think this thread is bogus. You found out she's 200 lbs. through a "bit of digging"? That's not something you need to dig around to find out. 140 lbs to 200 lbs should be plain as day from a visual standpoint.

Or is love really that blind?

[Duderonomy]

My friend had a girl like that was thick but still attractive than gained 50-70 pounds over 2 years time. He married her anyway. Not sure if I'm happy for him he's not superfiscial, But damn she ballooned.

[DwadeOverLebron]

I started a thread with a similar issue except.. I dunno what happened to the thread, i put it up in the fall..

Anyways to make a long story short, I started dating this girl and she weighed approx. 165 @ 5'5.. when we first started dating.. she was one of those girls that was really self conscience about her weight but hid it very well, but when I got to know her better I could tell she wanted to lose weight really bad. One thing she had going for her was that she was very smart (med school) and she had determination and strong will. She took criticism very well so I was very blunt with her. I saw the way she lived and I told her I would help her lose weight cuz she has diabetes history in her family and i used that to help me mask the real reason she needed to lose weight in order for me to pull my pants down and give it to her. I turned her world upside down. From everything to upping her temp of her place to 75 degrees (she had it at 68 and had a ceiling fan on 24/7) I went through her fridge and threw away everything fat, carby, and bad. I played tennis with her 4-6 hours per day 2-3 times a week and also went to the gym with her. She was really into cross fit (it seems to be the trend right now) but I told her cross fit is only good when it's used in small intervals to shock her body in between long cardio work outs. She really really needed cardio which she hated to do...

Now 7 months later she's at 132 now and she's aiming to reach 125. I told her if she hits 125 I would make her my official gf and she agreed and uses that as her motivation. She's also very young 22, I'm 32, but her confidence level has shot through the roof. She now admits she was fat, when in the beginning I used to see her eyes tear up if someone hinted that she was over weight. She also changed her major to pharmacy from MD, and I totally called her out saying that since she lost her weight she doesn't feel the need to justify being fat and become a doctor (I was kidding of course) but she looked at me and smiled and goes.. yeah maybe your right. Only problem she had was that she lost so much weight drastically so fast she had a hormonal imbalance which we had to taper off dieting till they got back to normal.

All in all, I am so proud of her and she is just glowing in confidence and self esteem. I also got a future gf that treats me great and looks good, which btw she is head over heels about me since day one but even much more so today cuz we went through a lot during this process. A skinny girls bod but a fat girls personality.. isn't that every mans dream? She can also cook up a storm which is a huge plus for me and she's into healthy cooking now, it's funny cuz I've gained weight myself since being with her and she tells me that I have to start working out.

Wow I've written a novel.. But to help you out bro.. just be dead honest and put the weight towards (no pun intended) it being a future health issue/hazard. Also make her feel that she's not doing it alone and you got to support her as much as you can. There have been times where I would be starving (she lived right behind a popeyes chicken mind you) but it would be too late for her to eat so I starved with her together. You have to make sacrifices with her.. hope this helps out.

[G-Funk]

Op is a tank driver!:oldlol:

[IamRAMBO24]

Man. You fcked up.

As the man you set the tone in the relationship.

I remind my girl probably once a week to stay fit. I don't let her eat junk food, and if we're out to eat she can have good food obviously, but I won't let her order soup, an appetizer, entree and dessert. I tell her how I don't tolerate that and won't have a fat girlfriend. It's in her head now.

i refuse to be one of those dudes in public with his girl, and she eats more than me, or just course after course of already super fat restaurant food. Females are tiny dude, all they need is a salad with some chicken in there. Anything else is over eating.

Girls want to look good for their men but if you ain't laying the law down or making her feel sexy, this is what happens.

Yea you are right, I slipped a bit. When you are in a relationship with someone for a long time, they are just like a blank slate to you. You don't really look at them; they are just like an object that you put your ***** in. I don't mean to sound like a douche about it, but I guess that's just my way of accepting her for who she is.

There were hints I should of picked up early on: she was very sensitive when she was gaining weight; she would cry and always ask me if I thought she was pretty and all this stuff and I would usually just shrug my shoulder without ever really looking at her. I know I should of noticed how much she was eating, but it never really crossed my mind HOW MUCH weight she was gaining. If we go to Jack in the Box, I would usually order a Jumbo Jack with 2 tacos and she would get an ultimate bacon cheeseburger combo (over 2,000 calories) and she would finish it faster than me and ask for one of my taco.

As a good man, I like to see my GF happy, and when she's eating she seems very happy.

[IamRAMBO24]

if you dont already have a gym membership, get 2 of them. tell her she needs to work out.

This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.

When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm

Man this is going to be an uphill battle.

[dunksby]

It's a conspiracy man I tell ya, 70% of the Americans are overweight (36% obese such as your own gf), how the hell can you do that to people? I dunno man...









































































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[IamRAMBO24]

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Personally, I fail to see this as an insult; if it's anything, I consider people who don't believe in life on other planets as dense and stupid. If you know anything about the galaxy, you would know there are literally billions of stars and within those stars solar system, there are planets similar to ours, so we are talking about billions upon billions upon billions of possibilities out there.

[RoseCity07]

I've learned a lot in this thread. There are a lot of insecure men masking it under the guise of "I'm the man and I put my foot down". What a bunch of bullshit. You're the biggest p*ussy of all if you have to put a weight restriction on someone you supposedly love.

[BallsOut]

+1


talk to her about it. tell her it's on your mind. plant that seed.


i was in a similar situation in my last relationship.

i ended up hurting her feelings. we broke up soon afterward.

but i had to say something. i started to resent her. i'd cringe every time she overate.

Didn't you break it off with a fat roommate a few days ago. Something you want to tell us? :yaohappy: :yaohappy:

[All Net]

Dude, 140 is still pretty damn big girl unless she's 5'10+

huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.

[Balla_Status]

Date a foreign chick.

[Jyap9675]

This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.

When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm

Man this is going to be an uphill battle.

Damn, you sound like a nice guy. What's your motivation for her losing weight? Do you still find her attractive?

[DeuceWallaces]

huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.

Taking into account women being generally a few inches shorter, if not more, and much lower muscle mass 140 is a good sized girl unless she's fairly tall.

There is no way any girl under 6' is "pretty damn skinny" and weighs 168. Lol.

[Rubio2Gasol]

huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.

:coleman: How tall?

Full grown men weigh 168....

[DeuceWallaces]

Yeah, listen to this dumb somofabitch.

Lol, Google Image "170 lbs woman" and get back to me.

[Bucket_Nakedz]

my girl is about 5'7 and a buck 60. some would call her average, but i think she's skinny. im trynna plump her up some mo'.

ain't nuttin wrong wit dat mean, son. op, fukk your bed. u should have acted like a man, and punished her by getting balls deep!

[Duderonomy]

Yeah, listen to this dumb somofabitch.

Lol, Google Image "170 lbs woman" and get back to me.
http://i1054.photobucket.com/albums/s486/chunkeystudent/Untitled.jpg

[All Net]

Taking into account women being generally a few inches shorter, if not more, and much lower muscle mass 140 is a good sized girl unless she's fairly tall.

There is no way any girl under 6' is "pretty damn skinny" and weighs 168. Lol.

Maybe skinny is too strong a word but she certainly looks good..thinks shes about 5'8 but saying that she does go gym and does weights. like bench for example so maybe that explains alot.

[All Net]

:coleman: How tall?

Full grown men weigh 168....

Yeah they are, small and skinny men who rarely lift many weights.

[Bandito]

This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.

When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm

Man this is going to be an uphill battle.
It's normal to be starving 2 hour after breakfast bro. Instead of eating candy just eat fruit like grapes or an apple. You are supposed to eat 3 meals a day with 3 snacks a day. It keep your metabolism running and helps you lose weight. Of course what you eat in those meals is what makes you either lose or gain weight of course.

No candy, no fast food, no pork and eat a lot of fiber. Eating some protein as a snack (like yogurt) helps losing weight.

[Bandito]

Yeah they are, small and skinny men who rarely lift many weights.
i am 192 5'11'' man. I was 160 when I didn't lift weights.:roll:

[Sicknote]

1. How f*cking full of yourself are you? You won't make her your girlfriend until she reaches an arbitrary weight? Like you're some great incentive to do something for...

2. 10 year age gap, and exerting this kind of control over a young, most likely inexperienced girl.

3. And you're on board with her changing from med school to working in a pharmacy?

Way to screw up this bitch's life. I'd rather have a chubby doctor with a need to prove something than an in shape chick filling pill bottles and getting railed by an old guy with an inflated ego.


ether, the shit that make ya soul burn slow :applause: :roll:

[imdaman99]

sexy 140 you say? hmmmmmm... i guess 140 could be veluptuous, if you like meat. or she is 5'10

you're just gonna have to man up and let her know. 7 years is a long time to not take it any further. have you farted around her before without giggling and saying oops or sorry?

[Rubio2Gasol]

Just from experience in life 168 sounds big for a girl. Not obese - but not at all skinny. But if she lifts weights heavy she might be an anomaly.

[All Net]

i am 192 5'11'' man. I was 160 when I didn't lift weights.:roll:

I suppose given my height I find certain heights small compared to other normal sized people :lol

[All Net]

It's normal to be starving 2 hour after breakfast bro. Instead of eating candy just eat fruit like grapes or an apple. You are supposed to eat 3 meals a day with 3 snacks a day. It keep your metabolism running and helps you lose weight. Of course what you eat in those meals is what makes you either lose or gain weight of course.

No candy, no fast food, no pork and eat a lot of fiber. Eating some protein as a snack (like yogurt) helps losing weight.

Plenty of

fish
Chicken
tuna
fruit

certainly helped me alot...that and going gym 4-5 times a week.

[Draz]

Stopped reading after "dating for 7 years"

God damn the poor girl, you got her stressing she might go 10 years without a proposal from you! No wonder she gained weight for every year after 3 years of you dating her.

Depression = Gain of weight

You best propose to her soon, before she hits 250-300 pounds.

My tip for you, is to straight up call her fat. I did it to my ex she got SO mad and went on a diet, a bad one too. Starving herself, not eating, etc. She got REAL thin, like banging thin. We ended up breaking up because I cheated, but she looks banging now because of ME. Now the next guy is hitting that. Jeez. Do it the right way bro.

Take her out to White castle, sit down and have this very serious and emotional talk.

Jokes aside.

Lets be real men about it, be human being. If you truly love this girl, you anticipate loving her for the remainder of your life, as you have for the past several years, you don't just talk about her like this. For one, if she seen this, that you're low enough to not reach out to a friend to the least, but to a forums full of random people on how their opinion matters to change her appearance or not, she wouldn't be satisfied and would be devastated.

You need to talk to her, without sending the message that she needs to approve appearance wise. The best advice I can give to you, is try engaging into activities that will help both her, and yourself. Go join the gym, pretend it's for yourself and you want to do it with her rather than for her. It'll encourage yourself to also improve, I'm sure you're not as perfect as she sees you and as you see her to be. It goes both ways.

Engaging in physical activities like joining the gym, playing sports, running / jogging, equals spending quality time with her. It'll improve your bond, friendship, and also train you to accept her more for who she is.

The bottom line is, don't change someone you love because your attracted to them any less than what you first seen them out to be in the beginning. People change. I'm not sure of your age, but even you yourself will be dropping and expectations of her to you will also be in mind, but I'm sure she wouldn't point that out, she loves you for who you are.

Don't ruin your relationship / future marriage because of how the person who's accepted you for 7 years and possibly a life time, because of your own selfish desires. If you're interested in her health, then let it be for health. Not because you want to walk down the street with a smoking hot girlfriend / wife, turning heads.

I rather go back to my ex girlfriend who had an AMAZING personality, than have any girlfriend with a banging body because she pleases me in bed, but never be able to please my heart.

Good luck.

[DwadeOverLebron]

1. How f*cking full of yourself are you? You won't make her your girlfriend until she reaches an arbitrary weight? Like you're some great incentive to do something for...

2. 10 year age gap, and exerting this kind of control over a young, most likely inexperienced girl.

3. And you're on board with her changing from med school to working in a pharmacy?

Way to screw up this bitch's life. I'd rather have a chubby doctor with a need to prove something than an in shape chick filling pill bottles and getting railed by an old guy with an inflated ego.

1. Sorry man didn't mean to get you angry but I don't think I'm full of myself at all. She wanted this very bad and all I'm doing was help her achieve this. At this point we pretty much are gf and bf with out the title and facebook status updates. She trusts me and I trust her and we are committed to each other, it's just we aren't "Official".. I believe gf and bf are just labels and titles anyways.. no big deal to me and she knows this. But it is a big deal to her. Anyways we've been working out great and we are both happy and that's all that matters isn't it?

2. Yeah ten year gap but she is very mature for her age altho she does have her 22 yr old moments but I just look at it as cute. FYI she is turning 23 next month so technically it's 9 years if that helps.

3. Well I want what ever she wants for herself. Her parents are both rn's, so she is very familiar with the dr's/hospital lifestyles. Med school, residency's, and tuition costs will have her starting her career between approx. the ages of 32-34 in serious debt. which also means she will have to work and go to school for the next 10 yrs to support herself during that time. As opposed to pharmacy school in which she works at currently CVS, she's already a lead tech. She'll finish pharmacy school when she's 24-26 with CVS potentially giving her a full ride scholarship or at bare minimum school grants if she signs a contract to work for them after she graduates. After she told me all this, I was like yeah stay with pharmacy. I don't think I messed this girls life.. I sincerely believe I'm making it better, easier, and less stressful. I feel like we compliment each other great.

OP, I just read your last message. And from what I read, it's going to be extremely difficult to nearly impossible. First, she has to want to get rid of the weight first and foremost. IF she doesn't have the will and desire to lose it, it will never happen and you should except this and her since you love her. A smoker will not quit smoking unless he absolutely wants to quit. Same thing with her. In order to fix a problem you need to recognize it first. She has to know she's over weight. And it seems your scared to break the news or don't know how to tactfully say it with out hurting her feelings. But like i mention earlier you have to be blunt and honest. Sit her down and be like we both need to live a healthier life style, and make up a story about some guy at work who had a heart attack and he was only 29, found out he has serious diabetes and he wasn't even fat. Scare the crap out of her, see if that works.

Also one thing I didn't mention that was also vital to her weight loss was we both eased up on the alcohol. I'm not that much of a drinker to begin with and she completely quit even tho she worked at a nightclub doing cocktail waitressing. So yeah ease up on the drinking, that's HUGE for weight loss FYI.

[Jackass18]

You've been with her for 7 years and you still don't know how to communicate with her? Just shoot that bitch and get another one.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Start a new diet.

Eat as much as you want.

Just within a 4 hour window.

Start with protein based meal and veggies.

THe rest is whatever hse craves.

Easy winner.

[DeuceWallaces]

1. Sorry man didn't mean to get you angry but I don't think I'm full of myself at all. She wanted this very bad and all I'm doing was help her achieve this. At this point we pretty much are gf and bf with out the title and facebook status updates. She trusts me and I trust her and we are committed to each other, it's just we aren't "Official".. I believe gf and bf are just labels and titles anyways.. no big deal to me and she knows this. But it is a big deal to her. Anyways we've been working out great and we are both happy and that's all that matters isn't it?

2. Yeah ten year gap but she is very mature for her age altho she does have her 22 yr old moments but I just look at it as cute. FYI she is turning 23 next month so technically it's 9 years if that helps.

3. Well I want what ever she wants for herself. Her parents are both rn's, so she is very familiar with the dr's/hospital lifestyles. Med school, residency's, and tuition costs will have her starting her career between approx. the ages of 32-34 in serious debt. which also means she will have to work and go to school for the next 10 yrs to support herself during that time. As opposed to pharmacy school in which she works at currently CVS, she's already a lead tech. She'll finish pharmacy school when she's 24-26 with CVS potentially giving her a full ride scholarship or at bare minimum school grants if she signs a contract to work for them after she graduates. After she told me all this, I was like yeah stay with pharmacy. I don't think I messed this girls life.. I sincerely believe I'm making it better, easier, and less stressful. I feel like we compliment each other great.

OP, I just read your last message. And from what I read, it's going to be extremely difficult to nearly impossible. First, she has to want to get rid of the weight first and foremost. IF she doesn't have the will and desire to lose it, it will never happen and you should except this and her since you love her. A smoker will not quit smoking unless he absolutely wants to quit. Same thing with her. In order to fix a problem you need to recognize it first. She has to know she's over weight. And it seems your scared to break the news or don't know how to tactfully say it with out hurting her feelings. But like i mention earlier you have to be blunt and honest. Sit her down and be like we both need to live a healthier life style, and make up a story about some guy at work who had a heart attack and he was only 29, found out he has serious diabetes and he wasn't even fat. Scare the crap out of her, see if that works.

Also one thing I didn't mention that was also vital to her weight loss was we both eased up on the alcohol. I'm not that much of a drinker to begin with and she completely quit even tho she worked at a nightclub doing cocktail waitressing. So yeah ease up on the drinking, that's HUGE for weight loss FYI.

You're probably very full of yourself. It also say a lot about some loser who's 32 and has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than him cos he can't pull real women.

[lpublic_enemyl]

say that we need to eat healthier and WE shud go to the gym, use we and don't tell her she is fat

[DeuceWallaces]

Maybe skinny is too strong a word but she certainly looks good..thinks shes about 5'8 but saying that she does go gym and does weights. like bench for example so maybe that explains alot.

There is no way any chick who is 5'8 looks good at 170 or could be even considered remotely skinny. Six foot-two WNBA players who have tons of lean muscle mass weigh 170. You're full of shit; just admit it.

[ace23]

There is no way any chick who is 5'8 looks good at 170
:oldlol: :roll: You smashing twigs, homie. How big are you?

[DeuceWallaces]

I'm not adverse to a medium sized chick. My personal woman is 5'4 120 and fairly skinny but does not work out at all. You're bangin fat chick if you think 170 below 6'2 is acceptable.

[All Net]

There is no way any chick who is 5'8 looks good at 170 or could be even considered remotely skinny. Six foot-two WNBA players who have tons of lean muscle mass weigh 170. You're full of shit; just admit it.

to me there's nothing worse than really skinny girls. Not that attractive at all...girls at 160-165 look plenty good...god knows why you are acting like that means they are fat. Which they aren't close to...Obviously aren't close to being skinny but certainly not big. There is a middle ground of course.

Just like really fit girls aren't super skinny.

[DeuceWallaces]

to me there's nothing worse than really skinny girls. Not that attractive at all...girls at 160-165 look plenty good...god knows why you are acting like that means they are fat. Which they aren't close to...Obviously aren't close to being skinny but certainly not big. There is a middle ground of course.

Just like really fit girls aren't super skinny.

It's obvious you have no clue. A girl who's not a collegiate or professional athlete at 160-165 is big. In fact that is really big. No way around it. Women are short, have no muscle, and high fat percentage. There is of course middle ground but it's about 30 lbs below what you think it is. Maybe your lady is pulling the wool over yer eyes, or you're just trying to convince yourself otherwise, but you are clueless.

[DeuceWallaces]

Here's a a woman 10 lbs less than your plenty good woman at different heights!

http://sosmash.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/average-woman-weights-154-pounds.jpeg

AllNet's girl has to be 6'2 and 10 lbs heavier lol.

[All Net]

Here's a a woman 10 lbs less than your plenty good woman at different heights!

http://sosmash.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/average-woman-weights-154-pounds.jpeg

AllNet's girl has to be 6'2 and 10 lbs heavier lol.

Actually considering my friend is actually slightly thinner than the girl who in that pic at 5'8 and size 12...unless she has basically been telling people a completely different weight to what she actually is. All I know is she is far from fat...

[ace23]

Just use this to look at 5'8, 170 lb females.

http://www.mybodygallery.com/search.html?height=5+8&weight=170&pant=any&shirt=any&zphoto=Large&new=1

[DeuceWallaces]

Actually considering my friend is actually slightly thinner than the girl who in that pic at 5'8 and size 12...unless she has basically been telling people a completely different weight to what she actually is. All I know is she is far from fat...

Except she weighs at least ten pound more.

[PHX_Phan]

How tall are these chicks? 160 is a big girl. I don't even like very skinny chicks and don't think I've ever dated one over 135.

[ShaqAttack3234]

Anyway, I think this thread is bogus.

That was my first thought once I started reading the OP. It seems like a joke.


Yeah they are, small and skinny men who rarely lift many weights.

No, an average height man with a low body fat % can carry a lot of muscle and weigh between 160-180. About 170 is hardly skinny unless you're over 6' or have thick bones and a frame that naturally carries a good amount of weight.

168 is pretty damn big for a girl 5'8". Couldn't say if she's fat or not without seeing her, but it's well above what most girls would weigh at that height. An example of girl who isn't fat and probably weighs about that would be Serena Williams, and she's unusually big. I'm about that height, and maxed out at almost 150, and when I was that weigh, I didn't look like some frail, skinny guy. I was cut and looked/was pretty strong.

[Baller1986]

Former WWE Wrestler Terri Poch aka the Original Tori. She's 5'8 (140 lbs).

http://pics.wikifeet.com/Terri-Poch-Feet-126301.jpg

http://www.geocities.ws/jb102dog/to.jpg

http://www.terripochunleaded.com/img/albums/wrestling/wwf/dx/full%202/n_aCAMKJGMQ.jpg

http://www.centerstagewrestling.com/media/pictures/tori3.jpg


http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xeig9b_tori-and-chyna_sport#.UUVuOvK4bes

[DeuceWallaces]

That was my first thought once I started reading the OP. It seems like a joke.



No, an average height man with a low body fat % can carry a lot of muscle and weigh between 160-180. About 170 is hardly skinny unless you're over 6' or have thick bones and a frame that naturally carries a good amount of weight.

168 is pretty damn big for a girl 5'8". Couldn't say if she's fat or not without seeing her, but it's well above what most girls would weigh at that height. An example of girl who isn't fat and probably weighs about that would be Serena Williams, and she's unusually big. I'm about that height, and maxed out at almost 150, and when I was that weigh, I didn't look like some frail, skinny guy. I was cut and looked/was pretty strong.

Uh, you can say any girl is fat if she's 170 and 5'8" or less. Apparently AllNet likes fat chicks, but that's cool because it's his own prerogative and I'm not gonna clown because of it.

[DeuceWallaces]

That was my first thought once I started reading the OP. It seems like a joke.



No, an average height man with a low body fat % can carry a lot of muscle and weigh between 160-180. About 170 is hardly skinny unless you're over 6' or have thick bones and a frame that naturally carries a good amount of weight.

168 is pretty damn big for a girl 5'8". Couldn't say if she's fat or not without seeing her, but it's well above what most girls would weigh at that height. An example of girl who isn't fat and probably weighs about that would be Serena Williams, and she's unusually big. I'm about that height, and maxed out at almost 150, and when I was that weigh, I didn't look like some frail, skinny guy. I was cut and looked/was pretty strong.

Yeah, Serena is 5'9 155 and thick as **** but AllNet knows girls who are average height, 170, and "pretty skinny" that aren't top 5 professional tennis players lol :oldlol: What a ****ing jackass.

[InspiredLebowski]

Here's a a woman 10 lbs less than your plenty good woman at different heights!

http://sosmash.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/average-woman-weights-154-pounds.jpeg

AllNet's girl has to be 6'2 and 10 lbs heavier lol. that 5'11 broad's not bad at all until you get below the waist

[TheMan]

1. How f*cking full of yourself are you? You won't make her your girlfriend until she reaches an arbitrary weight? Like you're some great incentive to do something for...

2. 10 year age gap, and exerting this kind of control over a young, most likely inexperienced girl.

3. And you're on board with her changing from med school to working in a pharmacy?

Way to screw up this bitch's life. I'd rather have a chubby doctor with a need to prove something than an in shape chick filling pill bottles and getting railed by an old guy with an inflated ego.
:applause:

[BRabbiT]

Didn't you break it off with a fat roommate a few days ago. Something you want to tell us? :yaohappy: :yaohappy:

nah, wrong decade:D

[magic chiongson]

my ex was 5'4" 110 lbs fresh outa college when we started dating. by the time we broke up 3 years she was around 130 lbs but she looked significantly bigger than that,especially when naked.

[Bandito]

that 5'11 broad's not bad at all until you get below the waist
what's wrong with her hips? They look like child bearing hips to me. Would hit multiple times if given the chance.:lol

[Andrei89]

If you NEED to tell your girlfriend to watch her weight then she is no good for you.

Some guys here reply with like " I dont let her eat "

LOL:lol :lol :lol

IF she would be a normal woman you would not have to tell her anything about her weight, she would take care of herself.

But I forgot, you guys live in mufakin "Muricaaa!

[Eat Like A Bosh]

Yea, a girl who's in the 160 or 170 range is fairly big for girl standards, unless she's unusually tall, say over 5'11". There's no way she's not even a little bit chubby, unless she's actually a pro athlete.

[boozehound]

a) thats a cheap ass bed at $400.
b) I am guessing you started dating her in HS?
c) how tall is she? 140 is pretty big to begin with. Damn 200. Thats what I weigh, and Im a 6'1" out of shape 34 year old dude.

[boozehound]

Here's a a woman 10 lbs less than your plenty good woman at different heights!

http://sosmash.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/average-woman-weights-154-pounds.jpeg

AllNet's girl has to be 6'2 and 10 lbs heavier lol.
girl at 5'11 looks alright. Any chick at 170 is definitely medically overweight unless shes over 6'.

[ShaqAttack3234]

Yeah, Serena is 5'9 155 and thick as **** but AllNet knows girls who are average height, 170, and "pretty skinny" that aren't top 5 professional tennis players lol :oldlol: What a ****ing jackass.

Serena is probably at least 170 herself, but with a big ass, big tits and unusually muscular arms and legs for a woman.

[GOBB]

i am 192 5'11'' man. I was 160 when I didn't lift weights.:roll:

Thats you tho, thats not men in general. You cant just tell someone what a full grown man stats are and thats that. :oldlol:

[magic chiongson]

spud webb accdg to basketball reference:

Height: 5-6 ▪ Weight: 133 lbs.

dana barros:

Height: 5-11 ▪ Weight: 163 lbs.

[Cali Syndicate]

60 lbs???

That's your bad.

[SwayDizzle]

It's over...

[NuggetsFan]

Jesus, did somebody actually try and say a 170 chick is skinny? That is a BIG girl. She's either fat/chubby or extremely muscular.

Skinny bitches for the win for me personally. I don't mind a girl with a little meat on her bones but I def prefer petite girls. Perhaps because I'm a skinny dude myself, but find it a myth that they have no "curves". Yeah generally don't have much of an ass but a skinny girl with a C cup looks pretty fit. Guess we all have different definitions of a skinny chick, but if you're GF was 140 pounds 7 years ago still seems like a decent sized girl. After 7 years you're relationship should be more about looks, atleast one would think. 200 pounds is massive, so I'd talk to her and tell her it's unhealthy or whatever and get her back down to 140-150 which seems pretty realistic.

[DwadeOverLebron]

You're probably very full of yourself. It also say a lot about some loser who's 32 and has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than him cos he can't pull real women.

Some might consider me as being full of myself, yes. But I am human and I admit that I can get away with things most people can't. I am who I am so it is what it is. What can I do? You would be the same if you were me. :confusedshrug:

Actually she was the one who threw herself at me. When I found out she was 22 I was shocked. But instead of looking at her like a 22 yr old who has low self esteem. I saw a beautiful girl with immense potential, who I can guide into the women of my dreams.. that just happens to be 22 now. I'm sorry if you think I'm some loser who has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than me. But in all honesty bro.. 22 girls > 32 women.. 85% of the time for me.. Hey I like em young and my friends are all envious that I can still do it. Some things aren't meant to be seen.. rather felt.

[SevereUpInHere]

Some might consider me as being full of myself, yes. But I am human and I admit that I can get away with things most people can't. I am who I am so it is what it is. What can I do? You would be the same if you were me. :confusedshrug:

Actually she was the one who threw herself at me. When I found out she was 22 I was shocked. But instead of looking at her like a 22 yr old who has low self esteem. I saw a beautiful girl with immense potential, who I can guide into the women of my dreams.. that just happens to be 22 now. I'm sorry if you think I'm some loser who has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than me. But in all honesty bro.. 22 girls > 32 women.. 85% of the time for me.. Hey I like em young and my friends are all envious that I can still do it. Some things aren't meant to be seen.. rather felt.

Sorry mate, but you sounds like a massive ****wit

Guide into the woman of your dreams? :facepalm

[GOBB]

Sorry mate, but you sounds like a massive ****wit

Guide into the woman of your dreams? :facepalm

:roll: :roll: :roll:

DwadeOverFemalesHisAge

[GOBB]

Some might consider me as being full of myself, yes. But I am human and I admit that I can get away with things most people can't. I am who I am so it is what it is. What can I do? You would be the same if you were me. :confusedshrug:

Actually she was the one who threw herself at me. When I found out she was 22 I was shocked. But instead of looking at her like a 22 yr old who has low self esteem. I saw a beautiful girl with immense potential, who I can guide into the women of my dreams.. that just happens to be 22 now. I'm sorry if you think I'm some loser who has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than me. But in all honesty bro.. 22 girls > 32 women.. 85% of the time for me.. Hey I like em young and my friends are all envious that I can still do it. Some things aren't meant to be seen.. rather felt.

If your friends are envious you can pick up a chick who is finally entering the real world why your dumbass has been living in it (with ur loser friends) for years? Then you all are one sad group of boys. You loser the title of men.

Get a real woman who doesnt have to text message mommy "How much do I have in my savings account?" you f*cking tool.

[DeuceWallaces]

Some might consider me as being full of myself, yes. But I am human and I admit that I can get away with things most people can't. I am who I am so it is what it is. What can I do? You would be the same if you were me. :confusedshrug:

Actually she was the one who threw herself at me. When I found out she was 22 I was shocked. But instead of looking at her like a 22 yr old who has low self esteem. I saw a beautiful girl with immense potential, who I can guide into the women of my dreams.. that just happens to be 22 now. I'm sorry if you think I'm some loser who has to resort to picking up chicks 10 years younger than me. But in all honesty bro.. 22 girls > 32 women.. 85% of the time for me.. Hey I like em young and my friends are all envious that I can still do it. Some things aren't meant to be seen.. rather felt.

Actually, I can't think of any scenario were some girl is better than a woman in her earlier thirties, bro. Especially if looks are fairly equal.

It's clear you can't pick up a real woman, because it's likely that you're not a real man; just some loser punk hawkin' on girls with no self esteem and daddy issues.

Pathetic.

[Unstoppabull]

I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years. I really think I want to marry her and I told her so. Well now she is getting a bit too comfortable in the relationship.

The other night, we were getting it on, and the bed f*cking broke. The next morning, through a bit of digging, I found out she weighs over 200 pounds now. Keep in mind, she was a sexy 140 when we dated.

So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight. That was like a $400 bed set and I can't afford buying new beds. That's as bad as the time when I bought the first set of Xbox 360s and they would only last for a couple of months.

How do you tell a girl to lose weight without offending her. She knows she's fat, I know she's fat, all her friends know she's fat, heck, even her dead auntie is visiting her in her dreams telling her she's fat, but it's just a topic of conversation I just can't bring up directly.

I still love her, but damn, she needs to lose a few pounds because that love is going to dwindle when another expensive bed set is broken. Sorry if I sound superficial, but this is a serious problem in our relationship.
Geez, $400? That's a cheap bed set right there. You get what you pay for. Don't be afraid to shell out money for a better bed, it's well worth it. A bed is supposed to last for years. Pretty sure you can't really break a $2000 bed unless done intentionally.

[bdreason]

200lbs?

You're dating a linebacker homie. :oldlol:

[DwadeOverLebron]

Sorry mate, but you sounds like a massive ****wit

Guide into the woman of your dreams? :facepalm

Not sure what a eff-wit is.. but by eff-wit you are referring to a jab nasty, then my friend you can sit on a cool ranch doritos locos taco and admire it.

[SilkkTheShocker]

I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years. I really think I want to marry her and I told her so. Well now she is getting a bit too comfortable in the relationship.

The other night, we were getting it on, and the bed f*cking broke. The next morning, through a bit of digging, I found out she weighs over 200 pounds now. Keep in mind, she was a sexy 140 when we dated.

So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight. That was like a $400 bed set and I can't afford buying new beds. That's as bad as the time when I bought the first set of Xbox 360s and they would only last for a couple of months.

How do you tell a girl to lose weight without offending her. She knows she's fat, I know she's fat, all her friends know she's fat, heck, even her dead auntie is visiting her in her dreams telling her she's fat, but it's just a topic of conversation I just can't bring up directly.

I still love her, but damn, she needs to lose a few pounds because that love is going to dwindle when another expensive bed set is broken. Sorry if I sound superficial, but this is a serious problem in our relationship.


Pics?

[DwadeOverLebron]

:roll: :roll: :roll:

DwadeOverFemalesHisAge

:roll: :roll: :roll:

GettingOffonBasketballBoys

BOOM!

[DwadeOverLebron]

Actually, I can't think of any scenario were some girl is better than a woman in her earlier thirties, bro. Especially if looks are fairly equal.

It's clear you can't pick up a real woman, because it's likely that you're not a real man; just some loser punk hawkin' on girls with no self esteem and daddy issues.

Pathetic.

I agree with everything besides loser punk. Why don't you congratulate yourself with a cool ranch doritos tacos bro.. they mighty tasty.

[DukeDelonte13]

1. Sorry man didn't mean to get you angry but I don't think I'm full of myself at all. She wanted this very bad and all I'm doing was help her achieve this. At this point we pretty much are gf and bf with out the title and facebook status updates. She trusts me and I trust her and we are committed to each other, it's just we aren't "Official".. I believe gf and bf are just labels and titles anyways.. no big deal to me and she knows this. But it is a big deal to her. Anyways we've been working out great and we are both happy and that's all that matters isn't it?

2. Yeah ten year gap but she is very mature for her age altho she does have her 22 yr old moments but I just look at it as cute. FYI she is turning 23 next month so technically it's 9 years if that helps.

3. Well I want what ever she wants for herself. Her parents are both rn's, so she is very familiar with the dr's/hospital lifestyles. Med school, residency's, and tuition costs will have her starting her career between approx. the ages of 32-34 in serious debt. which also means she will have to work and go to school for the next 10 yrs to support herself during that time. As opposed to pharmacy school in which she works at currently CVS, she's already a lead tech. She'll finish pharmacy school when she's 24-26 with CVS potentially giving her a full ride scholarship or at bare minimum school grants if she signs a contract to work for them after she graduates. After she told me all this, I was like yeah stay with pharmacy. I don't think I messed this girls life.. I sincerely believe I'm making it better, easier, and less stressful. I feel like we compliment each other great.

OP, I just read your last message. And from what I read, it's going to be extremely difficult to nearly impossible. First, she has to want to get rid of the weight first and foremost. IF she doesn't have the will and desire to lose it, it will never happen and you should except this and her since you love her. A smoker will not quit smoking unless he absolutely wants to quit. Same thing with her. In order to fix a problem you need to recognize it first. She has to know she's over weight. And it seems your scared to break the news or don't know how to tactfully say it with out hurting her feelings. But like i mention earlier you have to be blunt and honest. Sit her down and be like we both need to live a healthier life style, and make up a story about some guy at work who had a heart attack and he was only 29, found out he has serious diabetes and he wasn't even fat. Scare the crap out of her, see if that works.

Also one thing I didn't mention that was also vital to her weight loss was we both eased up on the alcohol. I'm not that much of a drinker to begin with and she completely quit even tho she worked at a nightclub doing cocktail waitressing. So yeah ease up on the drinking, that's HUGE for weight loss FYI.


op's story is one thing, but your sh*t is messed up. You are totally playing a girl 10 years your junior and acting like you are such a good guy for it. I hope you are just delusional. It's one thing to have the age difference, but to lead this poor stupid girl on by promising you are gonna make it facebook official if she loses enough weight?

:biggums:


I don't know what's worse: you, or the dumb b*tch herself for being too dumb to realize what every single person who read your post does.

[Levity]

I started a thread with a similar issue except.. I dunno what happened to the thread, i put it up in the fall..

Anyways to make a long story short, I started dating this girl and she weighed approx. 165 @ 5'5.. when we first started dating.. she was one of those girls that was really self conscience about her weight but hid it very well, but when I got to know her better I could tell she wanted to lose weight really bad. One thing she had going for her was that she was very smart (med school) and she had determination and strong will. She took criticism very well so I was very blunt with her. I saw the way she lived and I told her I would help her lose weight cuz she has diabetes history in her family and i used that to help me mask the real reason she needed to lose weight in order for me to pull my pants down and give it to her. I turned her world upside down. From everything to upping her temp of her place to 75 degrees (she had it at 68 and had a ceiling fan on 24/7) I went through her fridge and threw away everything fat, carby, and bad. I played tennis with her 4-6 hours per day 2-3 times a week and also went to the gym with her. She was really into cross fit (it seems to be the trend right now) but I told her cross fit is only good when it's used in small intervals to shock her body in between long cardio work outs. She really really needed cardio which she hated to do...

Now 7 months later she's at 132 now and she's aiming to reach 125. I told her if she hits 125 I would make her my official gf and she agreed and uses that as her motivation. She's also very young 22, I'm 32, but her confidence level has shot through the roof. She now admits she was fat, when in the beginning I used to see her eyes tear up if someone hinted that she was over weight. She also changed her major to pharmacy from MD, and I totally called her out saying that since she lost her weight she doesn't feel the need to justify being fat and become a doctor (I was kidding of course) but she looked at me and smiled and goes.. yeah maybe your right. Only problem she had was that she lost so much weight drastically so fast she had a hormonal imbalance which we had to taper off dieting till they got back to normal.

All in all, I am so proud of her and she is just glowing in confidence and self esteem. I also got a future gf that treats me great and looks good, which btw she is head over heels about me since day one but even much more so today cuz we went through a lot during this process. A skinny girls bod but a fat girls personality.. isn't that every mans dream? She can also cook up a storm which is a huge plus for me and she's into healthy cooking now, it's funny cuz I've gained weight myself since being with her and she tells me that I have to start working out.

Wow I've written a novel.. But to help you out bro.. just be dead honest and put the weight towards (no pun intended) it being a future health issue/hazard. Also make her feel that she's not doing it alone and you got to support her as much as you can. There have been times where I would be starving (she lived right behind a popeyes chicken mind you) but it would be too late for her to eat so I starved with her together. You have to make sacrifices with her.. hope this helps out.

hahah we have polar opposite definitions for the word short.

[LBJFTW]

hahah we have polar opposite definitions for the word short.

Can't imagine what the long version is. But yeah, seriously messed up that this guy won't be her "official" bf until she looses weight. There are much better motiviational tactics than that to acheive a goal.

[DeuceWallaces]

I agree with everything besides loser punk. Why don't you congratulate yourself with a cool ranch doritos tacos bro.. they mighty tasty.

If you agree with everything else, then by default you must agree that you are a loser.

And I only use the word "bro" to mock you; further proof of your douche-baggery.

[Mach_3]

huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.


Bro i have never met a normal sized chick who weighed over 140 who wasn't some type of fat. I need to see proof of this unless this chick is like 6'2 +

[$LakerGold]

@OP -- You can start by buying some healthy food? No more processed foods, no more butter, NOTHING. Just straight up Salad & Lean/Red meat. Somewhat encourage her to drink a lot of ice cold water (tell her you read it from a china study) -- it'll increase her metabolism, so it'll help in the process. Seriously, it's all in the food you eat too. I don't know the right word for this -- but maybe change the aura of the house? You know, let's say you have a bar inside your house ... Renovate that bitch and replace it with a treadmill. Replace your E! magazines with Gym stuffs ... Simple things like that will bring a change (Unless she's dead inside and have no motivation to change whatsoever).

Now that's over with. Don't tell her you bought all this shit because you want her to lose weight. Tell her you wanna start eating healthy, YOLO bitch! :D Don't invite her to your program, let her taste the stuffs you're eating instead, & don't ask if she likes it, just feed that girl. lol

Only really try to vocalize yourself of trying to help her if she wants it, if she tells you that she wants to lose weight -- then invite her to your program.

Hope I helped :D

[Myth]

OP sounds like a crappy BF.

Would not bang/10

[$LakerGold]

But her being 200 lbs. just shows how much you're gettin' laid for the past 7 years. I feel bad for you :(

[PHX_Phan]

I'd just nut up and tell her you're starting to have a problem with it. You've supposedly been together for seven years. She's probably not an idiot, so she'll know something is up if you start making subtle attempts at getting her to lose weight.

[DwadeOverLebron]

I'm korean if that clarifies anything.. bros.

[IamRAMBO24]

I'm korean if that clarifies anything.. bros.

Koreans are all douchebags? :confusedshrug:

[Jyap9675]

Koreans are very superficial I think. Hence, his behavior towards his gf.

[DwadeOverLebron]

Koreans are very superficial I think. Hence, his behavior towards his gf.

yes, Yes, and YES!!!

[DwadeOverLebron]

Koreans are all douchebags? :confusedshrug:

NO, korean douchebags are douchebags. I am a pretty korean boy with a mean jumpshot.

[IamRAMBO24]

NO, korean douchebags are douchebags. I am a pretty korean boy with a mean jumpshot.

Do you do a gangnam style crossover to go left?

[DwadeOverLebron]

Do you do a gangnam style crossover to go left?

Nope but I do dew it when I go right. :cheers: stay away from alcohol it will get you fat.

[Mach_3]

Nope but I do dew it when I go right. :cheers: stay away from beer it will get you fat.


fixed

[Bandito]

Nope but I do dew it when I go right. :cheers: stay away from beer it will get you fat.
Well that explains a lot.:roll: