how do YOU approach girls?

[BrooklynZoo]

I dont approach a ton of girls, but when I do I've usually had a couple drinks in me and I'll go with a simple "hello"/"how are you?" and possibly a "can I buy you a drink?" Since there are so many ladies men on ISH, how and where do YOU approach girls?

[Styles p]

with a chloroform rag.

[SyRyanYang]

Approaching in a bar/pub is relatively easier. How do you approach girls elsewhere?

[d.bball.guy]

I whip it out.

[knickballer]

Approaching in a bar/pub is relatively easier. How do you approach girls elsewhere?

Depends. If your in school you can get friendly to a chick and ask to have a study "date" and what not.

[knickballer]

I whip it out.

This also works.

[-p.tiddy-]

Approaching in a bar/pub is relatively easier. How do you approach girls elsewhere?
yep this


at a bar/club just offer to buy a drink...it's fairly easy

but in the past when single sometimes I would see a hot girl at a grocery store, or other places...that is much more difficult.

"oh hey, I like Special K Cereal too!"..."hello nice to meet you!, what is your name?"...

it's just awkward...

[Patrick Chewing]

I dont approach a ton of girls, but when I do I've usually had a couple drinks in me and I'll go with a simple "hello"/"how are you?" and possibly a "can I buy you a drink?" Since there are so many ladies men on ISH, how and where do YOU approach girls?


:facepalm

You walk up to a girl and you're already asking her 20 questions???

Geez.

Confidence, man. Confidence. This depends on what type of place you're in, but how about walking up to them and telling them you heard that this establishment makes a great cocktail (pick one) and you'd be honored if they joined you for one. You're not asking any questions and you're using your charm. Charm works depending on your presentation (i.e. smile, clothing, smell, approachability).

[pauk]

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[OhNoTimNoSho]

EY, ey, ey bitch. I got dick, wanna ****?

[IamRAMBO24]

Dancing.

Girls love it when a guy can dance. I just go out there and pretend I want to have a lot of babies. You can just groove with them without even saying all the lame openers like "hi" "what is your name." I've had a few girls told me I'm the best dancer they have ever seen, so if you dance like a stiff and just humping the air, then it might not work for you.

[niko]

Dancing.

Girls love it when a guy can dance. I just go out there and pretend I want to have a lot of babies. You can just groove with them without even saying all the lame openers like "hi" "what is your name." I've had a few girls told me I'm the best dancer they have ever seen, so if you dance like a stiff and just humping the air, then it might not work for you.
Is there ever anything you ever say that's not just made up bullshit?

[rezznor]

i approach from their blind spot and lick em on the face

[Rasheed1]

there are many different ways to approach women, and some ways work on some women and some ways dont. There is no magic words you spit and she instantly falls for you.

If you are in public and have your eye on a female you like? you just have to be observant and able to capitalize on any opening you may have. If she drops something, pick it up and start a convo about what she dropped. If she is reading a book you know something about, figure a way to spark something up.

I met a nice woman the other day simply because we both walked by a carload of kids getting stopped by the police... She obviously walked near the scene so the cops would see her and know people were watching, I followed right behind her and then we talked about that..

Corny lines dont usually work unless she already is likes you and if that is the case? it is pretty hard to mess that up

If you like wild chicks.. go where they hang out...

I used to mess with girls who go both ways, and that meant getting me a friend (girl) who liked girls.. Once me and her decided to go out and pull girls together, we did all types of sh*t like role play in the clubs and take them home.

If you want 3somes? hang with strippers, and get to know them well. strippers are freaky and they do all types of sh*t and will put you on if they feel like they can trust you..

use your nogon and these things start to become easy. you just have to be on your toes and have something ready for any situation

[DonDadda59]

With poetry

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[BrooklynZoo]

:facepalm

You walk up to a girl and you're already asking her 20 questions???

Geez.

Confidence, man. Confidence. This depends on what type of place you're in, but how about walking up to them and telling them you heard that this establishment makes a great cocktail (pick one) and you'd be honored if they joined you for one. You're not asking any questions and you're using your charm. Charm works depending on your presentation (i.e. smile, clothing, smell, approachability).

since when is how are you? can I buy u a drink? 20 questions lol

and saying "id be honored if you would join me for a cocktail" is a little corny to me, but if it works for you, I cant really knock it

[PHX_Phan]

The key for me is to put as little thought into it as possible. Look for a small opening and be yourself - small talk seems to come easiest when you're not worried about how you're coming off. Subject matter isn't really important, if she's interested then she'll pick up her end of the conversation.

Be casual and gauge her interest. If she doesn't seem all that into you, quit wasting time and move onto the next.

[Just2McFly]

yep this


at a bar/club just offer to buy a drink...it's fairly easy

but in the past when single sometimes I would see a hot girl at a grocery store, or other places...that is much more difficult.

"oh hey, I like Special K Cereal too!"..."hello nice to meet you!, what is your name?"...

it's just awkward...
so you introduce yourself by spending money on them? the f*ck? are you even anywhere near half the mendoza line with that?

[-p.tiddy-]

so you introduce yourself by spending money on them? the f*ck? are you even anywhere near half the mendoza line with that?
yes you offer to buy them a drink...that is very customary

if they are attracted to you they accept, if they aren't they say "no thanks"...simple as that

girls expect that at bars/clubs

at first it is always about looks/physical attraction...there is no magic "line" that wins them over...they know if they are capable of fcking you or not pretty much right away, and only acting like an asshole/idiot will ruin that although in some cases acting like an asshole actually helps.

[Just2McFly]

yes you offer to buy them a drink...that is very customary

if they are attracted to you they accept, if they aren't they say "no thanks"...simple as that

girls expect that at bars/clubs

at first it is always about looks/physical attraction...there is no magic "line" that wins them over...they know if they are capable of fcking you or not pretty much right away, and only acting like an asshole/idiot will ruin that although in some cases acting like an asshole actually helps.
or they could take you up on your offer because they want free alcohol....

[SyRyanYang]

so you introduce yourself by spending money on them? the f*ck? are you even anywhere near half the mendoza line with that?

Are you 12?
Buying women drinks is like common courtesy
:biggums:

[Just2McFly]

Are you 12?
Buying women drinks is like common courtesy
:biggums:
I like my money

[DonDadda59]

Are you 12?
Buying women drinks is like common courtesy
:biggums:

Darkness is right. Plenty of girls go out without cash knowing some sucker will spend his paycheck buying her drinks all night when she has 0 interest in him.

[-p.tiddy-]

some girls will do that, cept they have to hang out with you and drink...

all pssy costs money...all of it

alcohol is cheap the route if anything

[IamRAMBO24]

Is there ever anything you ever say that's not just made up bullshit?

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[Just2McFly]

some girls will do that, cept they have to hang out with you and drink...

all pssy costs money...all of it

alcohol is cheap the route if anything
Everything, not just pssy, comes at a cost. That doesn't mean I have to throw money away just to bust a nut.

[Rasheed1]

all pssy costs money...all of it




not true....

Ive f*cked girls without spending a nickel..

I could meet a girl at someone's house, and take her home that night, smash and return her to his house before 6 am when her girlfriends get up and leave from f*cking him.. dont even drive her home.. lol just return her where I found her.

[-p.tiddy-]

not true....

Ive f*cked girls without spending a nickel..

I could meet a girl at someone's house, and take her home that night, smash and return her to his house before 6 am when her girlfriends get up and leave from f*cking him.. dont even drive her home.. lol just return her where I found her.
yeah that can happen at high school and college parties where everyone is broke...but in the adult world money is needed for the most part...obviously there are some exceptions

[-p.tiddy-]

Everything, not just pssy, comes at a cost. That doesn't mean I have to throw money away just to bust a nut.
A wise woman once told me that girls didn't like scrubs...hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride, tryin to holla and shit

[red1]

No lie buying girls drinks is one of the softest, most chump-like things a man can do. If the bitch doesnt suck your dick or at least jerk you off on a semi-regular basis then she ain't getting shit. This is not false machismo, it is common sense for those of you who lack it and need to be taught to think this way

[-p.tiddy-]

No lie buying girls drinks is one of the softest, most chump-like things a man can do. If the bitch doesnt suck your dick or at least jerk you off on a semi-regular basis then she ain't getting shit. This is not false machismo, it is common sense for those of you who lack it and need to be taught to think this way
:facepalm

you can't be old enough to drink legally...there is no way

[-p.tiddy-]

if you can't afford to spring a little money for women then you have absolutely no business at all even being in a night club...

[Rasheed1]

yeah that can happen at high school and college parties where everyone is broke...but in the adult world money is needed for the most part...obviously there are some exceptions

it doesnt have to be high school or college..

you just have to know people who know people...

I used to know enough strippers & wild ass chicks that we could have go-go night at my crib

I could have chicks come pick me up and bring me to a party because they know I happen to have the chronic and they wanna smoke... meet a girl during a wild party and take her in the bathroom..

if you set your world up in a certain way? you can get alot of ass without paying for any of it..

Now, if you do sh*t in a conventional way? hell yeah it costs money.

but if you know girls who have alot of girlfriends, and they like to party and they like to come your house because they know you party? you can get laid without spending anything

[-p.tiddy-]

how is supplying them with pot any different than buying them drinks?

[Rasheed1]

how is supplying them with pot any different than buying them drinks?


who said I buy it for them? :oldlol:

People call me because they say.... "these girls aint gonna f*ck us if we dont get them some pot..... hmmmm who do we call?"

[Just2McFly]

if you can't afford to spring a little money for women then you have absolutely no business at all even being in a night club...
I'm not even fiscally conservative by any means, I just like blowing money on myself, not random people I meet in bars.

Also, I'm no dummy. Most chicks just want free drinks, I let others quench their thirst. I would rather just talk to them.

[-p.tiddy-]

who said I buy it for them? :oldlol:

People call me because they say.... "these girls aint gonna f*ck us if we dont get them some pot..... hmmmm who do we call?"
they are smoking your pot right?...that is what you said

do you get pot for free or something?

[red1]

:facepalm

you can't be old enough to drink legally...there is no way
You serious? You grab drinks for every hoe who smiles at you and flirts for a few mins?

[Rasheed1]

they are smoking your pot right?...that is what you said

do you get pot for free or something?



hell yeah I can get chronic for free... That what I mean when I say "knowing people who know people"

[-p.tiddy-]

hell yeah I can get chronic for free... That what I mean when I say "knowing people who know people"
okay...you got a hook up then

you're still giving them something of value...but fair enough

[-p.tiddy-]

You serious? You grab drinks for every hoe who smiles at you and flirts for a few mins?
yes, when I was single me and my buddies would do that pretty much every night we went out...but you have to understand we weren't broke ass jobless cheap fcks, so it didn't seem like such a crazy idea to us.

[red1]

yes, when I was single me and my buddies would do that pretty much every night we went out...but you have to understand we weren't broke ass jobless cheap fcks, so it didn't seem like such a crazy idea to us.
Not buying drinks for strange hoes = broke ass jobless cheap fck?

confirmed chump

[-p.tiddy-]

"strange hoes"?


if you see a group of girls that came to the club together laughing it up and without men, they all came fully expecting to get hit on and have men offer them drinks...it is extremely common...it is pretty much the entire purpose of the club

if your group doesn't buy them a drink some other group of dudes will...and your shot is gone

[Rasheed1]

okay...you got a hook up then

you're still giving them something of value...but fair enough


I got alot of hook ups... But thats the point..

If you set yourself up so you get what you want with minimal effort? then you dont find yourself at the club every weekend buying a bunch of women drinks when you dont even know if they like you or if they are just using you to get drunk..

broads are ruthless.. they'll spend all your cash and then stiff you & sleep good tonight..

I had multiple things running.. I had a girl who liked girls. we would go and pull chicks together and menage em..

I would get calls at work from girls telling me "dont make no plans tonight, me my friends are coming over, and they like to have a good time" ... that means 'Im wild for the night'...

Word up, I set it up, so I get more p*ssy than the law allows

[red1]

"strange hoes"?


if you see a group of girls that came to the club together laughing it up and without men, they all came fully expecting to get hit on and have men offer them drinks...it is extremely common.

if your group doesn't buy them a drink some other group of dudes will...and your shot is gone
Every situation is different but 99.9% of the time if you are buying drinks for a woman you just met then you are being a sucker.

[IamRAMBO24]

Every situation is different but 99.9% of the time if you are buying drinks for a woman you just met then you are being a sucker.

This is true. If you got game and enough confidence, you can pick up a girl without buying her a drink, heck, you might even be able to convince her to buy you a drink, but if you are ugly, no game, and the only creative pick up line you can muster up is, "Nice shoes, wanna f*ck," then you might need a bit of alcohol to get her drunk enough so she'll forget your face. I wrote about this in my other blog (which, not surprisingly, no one even cared to read), so I'll post it again here.

"One thing great about clubs is alcohol. God gave us beer so ugly guys won't be spending their Saturday nights tugging away to MAXIM. It's the magical elixir that turns fat, ugly, bald, morally reprehensible guys into hot Rockstars. Get ready to buy her that extra shot of vodka or play some sort of drinking game so she'll forget your face is something straight out of a mug shot. If you still can't get with her after she's pissed out drunk, then I would recommend picking up a book called "Man's guide to dating Men." You know you don't have much of a chance with a girl if she still thinks you're ugly when she's drunk."

[-p.tiddy-]

99.9% of the time? lol

not true at all...

if you don't understand how normal and customary it is to buy a woman a drink then you just haven't been out that much, or are very young.

and if buying a few drinks is too much money for you to handle then you shouldn't be going out...

[cuad]

I approach women with a rag doused in chloroform.... F*ck, that was the first reply to this thread.

[Rasheed1]

like I said... Broads are ruthless.. they will run your pockets and leave you hanging if you just gonna play the role..


if you see a group of girls that came to the club together laughing it up and without men, they all came fully expecting to get hit on and have men offer them drinks

they are laughing because they know they are about to get some free booze from some suckers and then tell them dudes to get lost :oldlol:

that doesnt mean clubs are totally out of the question.. I mean, I like to dress up and go to the VIP lounge, but you gotta buy at least 1 bottle of some expensive sh*t just to get in... 4, 5 hundred dollars on wine just for them to let you in.. Yeah the females flock to you and its fun... but you gotta have other outlets..

You cant be at the club every weekend burning up your dollars trying to see if girls even like you or not.. females are on to that and they will bleed you dry and not think twice about it..

[red1]

99.9% of the time? lol

not true at all...

if you don't understand how normal and customary it is to buy a woman a drink then you just haven't been out that much, or are very young.

and if buying a few drinks is too much money for you to handle then you shouldn't be going out...
Wrong on both counts. Why do you keep saying that not buying drinks means someone is cheap. It has nothing to do with money.

[cuad]

I know how this goes....

The PUA people say: Don't buy drinks 'cause it sends her the message that just being with you isn't enough.

The AFC people say: Buy the ****in' girl a drink 'cause it's conventional.

And while both sides struggle to find the balance between the conventional approach and the over-simplified logical approach...

Asspies like me say: I ain't buyin' drinks for nobody 'cause alcohall is bad for you and because there's no reason to drink anything but water anyway.

[-p.tiddy-]

Wrong on both counts. Why do you keep saying that not buying drinks means someone is cheap. It has nothing to do with money.
oh right, it's all about the principle of it right? :oldlol:

[red1]

oh right, it's all about the principle of it right? :oldlol:
yes. exactly

[-p.tiddy-]

if you just flat out refuse to buy a girl a drink then you are the very definition of "cheap"


do you refuse to buy a girl dinner too?...or a movie?

[red1]

if you just flat out refuse to buy a girl a drink then you are the very definition of "cheap"


do you refuse to buy a girl dinner too?...or a movie?
Are we even talking about the same thing? If you are at the club and some girl winks at you and asks you to grab her a drink what you do?

[-p.tiddy-]

Are we even talking about the same thing? If you are at the club and some girl winks at you and asks you to grab her a drink what you do?
I will offer to buy a girl a drink even without a wink from her...:eek:

it works sometimes too....actually it works a lot of times, you should try it

crazy shit huh?

[IamRAMBO24]

I will offer to buy a girl a drink even without a wink from her...:eek:

it works sometimes too....actually it works a lot of times, you should try it

crazy shit huh?

Buying drinks should be a last resort; not the first.

[red1]

I will offer to buy a girl a drink even without a wink from her...:eek:

it works sometimes too....actually it works a lot of times, you should try it

crazy shit huh?
:oldlol: You keep doing what you're doing and I'll do what I do. I hope you do know that you are a sucker though.

[Bucket_Nakedz]

"excuse me, hi. i noticed you are alone, and i couldn't help but to bring myself over and introduce myself. if you don't mind me asking, but are you single?" if she says she isn't, just reply,"well i am very happy for you. he must be a lucky guy."

if she says that she is, examine how she reacts to your question. if she is all giggly and cheesin - u in there, bruh. if she sort of indifferent, don't panic! just be calm, and conversate with her. yes, and i mean conversate. not converse, because only friend zoned weenies converse. a real player would be calm and look directly at her in eyes sort of listen to what she is saying.

be composed, and try not to smile a lot. you don't want her to feel like u a thirty ass mark. so a slight grin on one side of your mouf is good enough.

das all u get.

[Timmy D for MVP]

I don't anymore since I got the one girl I need.

But generally I would've walked.

I mean in all honesty you don't need a set of rules and tricks do you?

[Big_Dogg]

I never offer to buy a drink as an excuse to talk to a girl, if I start talking to them and feel like it's possible, only then would I buy them a drink, but not before.

Girls who ask you to buy them a drink are a flat out no no, they're just hoes looking for a free drink.

Basically what I'm saying is, keep control in your corner, buy them a drink when you want to, make them do things on your time, submitting to them too soon puts the balance of power in their corner, once you lose that, your game is done.

[MMM]

what if you don't drink or go to the bar/club????
:confusedshrug: :confusedshrug:

[Patrick Chewing]

what if you don't drink or go to the bar/club????
:confusedshrug: :confusedshrug:


I'm in my 30's and I left the bar/club scene about 5 good years ago I would say. Believe it or not, in this day and age, you're either meeting someone from work or meeting someone online. Met my GF online and it's been smooth sailing since.

After wasting so much money at bars and clubs, I rather have someone find the girls for me.

[Just2McFly]

I'm in my 30's and I left the bar/club scene about 5 good years ago I would say. Believe it or not, in this day and age, you're either meeting someone from work or meeting someone online. Met my GF online and it's been smooth sailing since.

After wasting so much money at bars and clubs, I rather have someone find the girls for me.
I really don't understand this. You live in NYC, a city with the second largest metro population in North America and you are really saying that you could only meet broads from work or online? I'm sure there are millions of events and places that are frequented by women around your age.

[maybeshewill13]

I don't, my missus wouldn't be happy.

[PrettyCool]

You gotta flash her some buttcrack.

[IamRAMBO24]

I'm in my 30's and I left the bar/club scene about 5 good years ago I would say. Believe it or not, in this day and age, you're either meeting someone from work or meeting someone online. Met my GF online and it's been smooth sailing since.

After wasting so much money at bars and clubs, I rather have someone find the girls for me.

Oh hell no, only fat chicks go online. I did this online thingy one time and the girl outright refused to show us (my friends and I) her pics (now we know why), so we decided to meet up with her and her friends at the mall. We didn't know what they looked like but we knew what they were wearing and how many of them were there, so when we got there, we saw a ton of hot chicks and I was thinking to myself, "This is gonna be great." Then we saw a group of girls that fit the description, so one of my buddies was like, "Oh hell no that can't be them" and he called them up from a distance. Sure enough it was them. These girls were husky. Then one of them started looking our way and we started hiding and then sped walk out of the mall like a bunch of pedos on to catch a predator.

[PHX_Phan]

I really don't understand this. You live in NYC, a city with the second largest metro population in North America and you are really saying that you could only meet broads from work or online? I'm sure there are millions of events and places that are frequented by women around your age.

My thoughts exactly.

I live between ASU Phoenix and Tempe campuses, and my friends act like you gotta go online to find girls or they always hook up with some chick they work with.

Get out, meet new people. There really is no excuse if you live in a large city, there are girls all over the place.

[PHX_Phan]

if you don't understand how normal and customary it is to buy a woman a drink then you just haven't been out that much, or are very young.

and if buying a few drinks is too much money for you to handle then you shouldn't be going out...

Sounds like something a chump would say.

It has nothing to do with the money and everything to do with the fact that you shouldn't have to buy someone anything just for them to talk to you.

I :facepalm every time a guy wonders why a chick just bailed on him after acting interested for over an hour. Were you buying her drinks? Well, no shit.

If she wants to **** you, she will do it regardless of whether or not you bought her a drink. And if she really does think her ***** is magical and requires a price tag, she can go find someone else to be the chump.

[nathanjizzle]

I dont approach a ton of girls, but when I do I've usually had a couple drinks in me and I'll go with a simple "hello"/"how are you?" and possibly a "can I buy you a drink?" Since there are so many ladies men on ISH, how and where do YOU approach girls?

the way your going about it is the correct way. girls dont want false bravado, they just want to have a real conversation. or anything thats pretentious or assuming.

[NuggetsFan]

who said I buy it for them? :oldlol:

People call me because they say.... "these girls aint gonna f*ck us if we dont get them some pot..... hmmmm who do we call?"

I'm not trying to be a dick but the girls you seem to be talking about are one's you don't really want to f*ck unless you have no other options or you can basically approach in any way. I've never banged a stripper so I could be wrong but "wild ass" chicks don't really need approach. Just a situation, like you said being at a party with them.

Anyways I just start a conversation. I'm kinda weird and a goofy guy so I play the social awkwardness card and just randomly start talking to 'em and try to get a laugh. Sometimes I'll get a what the f*ck is wrong with this dude look and it goes nowhere, sometimes it works. When you try to be the funny guy and you get rejected it's not even bad, still have a laugh.

Key for me has been numbers too. I approach every girl I find attractive if I'm single. Actually don't buy girls drinks much, I'm a cheap mother****er. I've actually spit game using that as a subject, like I'd buy you a drink but that would be far too cliche or whatever one liner pops into my head.

I'm 22, probably have to re-think as I get older. I actually seem to be getting less and less ***** every year I get older tbh :oldlol:

[gigantes]

how do YOU approach girls?
with great fearfulness and tremendous caution.

but every once in a while a switch gets thrown and i leap on them and wrestle them like fellow tiger cubs. generally that really appeals to their white-matter female brains, i.e. they like it.

problem is, that godammed switch is usually so elusive. :(

[JerrySteakhouse]

All I'm gonna say is, DON'T buy the girl a drink. EVER!! Make them buy you one if anything.

[Mach_3]

Sounds like something a chump would say.

It has nothing to do with the money and everything to do with the fact that you shouldn't have to buy someone anything just for them to talk to you.

I :facepalm every time a guy wonders why a chick just bailed on him after acting interested for over an hour. Were you buying her drinks? Well, no shit.

If she wants to **** you, she will do it regardless of whether or not you bought her a drink. And if she really does think her ***** is magical and requires a price tag, she can go find someone else to be the chump.


This is the best advice in the entire thread. If a chick is attracted to you (note i said ATTRACTED to you and not LIKES you) all it takes is a little game to be able to pull her no matter what age she is.

And a big lmaoo to that guy who said it was customary to buy a girl a drink, thinking like that is the exact reason why women EXPECT this **** from men like they deserve it just for being a damn woman

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Same exact way I approach a guy only I'm more respectful to males

Usually a friendship starts when you share a complaint or something funny Bout the environment then branch off

That or just some I noticed such and such

Girls are easier to talk to than guys with guys I actually have to make sense (or else ill be called out on bs) and be funny with girls just say whatever lol

[Mach_3]

Also another thing i noticed is that women (people in general honestly) are less interested/attracted to people who they KNOW are very attracted to them. So when i approach a girl or we catch eyes or whatever i dont usually show how attracted i am to them, ill open up with something i noticed about them... maybe something i liked or disliked. Something else i do when i approach very attractive women is to purposely find something that i dont like about them or their appearance...usually helps to loosen my tongue up some and open up more and keep the conversation more interesting

[Mach_3]

I over think things too


I dont consider it overthinking when it works...ive never had to spend money on a female either :confusedshrug:

[-p.tiddy-]

All I'm gonna say is, DON'T buy the girl a drink. EVER!! Make them buy you one if anything.
:bowdown: omg you're such a PIMP:bowdown:

make them hoes PAY FOR YOUR SHIT PLAYA!!!...FCK DEM HOES!!!

bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks...lick on these nuts and suck tha dick...





oh wait, nevermind, you're just a broke kid

[-p.tiddy-]

This is the best advice in the entire thread. If a chick is attracted to you (note i said ATTRACTED to you and not LIKES you) all it takes is a little game to be able to pull her no matter what age she is.

And a big lmaoo to that guy who said it was customary to buy a girl a drink, thinking like that is the exact reason why women EXPECT this **** from men like they deserve it just for being a damn woman
it IS


god damn there are some broke mfers here...

a drink is like $5 :oldlol: ...I mean really, who gives a flying fck?

[-p.tiddy-]

Buying Women Drinks (http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_250/270_buying-women-drinks.html)

Ask Men dot com

good advice in there for some of you...

[PHX_Phan]

:facepalm
it IS


god damn there are some broke mfers here...

a drink is like $5 :oldlol: ...I mean really, who gives a flying fck?

You never were known for getting the point.

Wouldnt matter if the drink was 50 cents, I'm not gonna buy a chick a drink to try and pick up on her. Has nothing to do with acting like a thug or a badass, just dont be a chump.

[BrooklynZoo]

Buying girls drinks is nothing new guys. It might not be your approach, but laughing it off is pretty much just being naive or cheap. That said, yeah I think its best to gauge her interest before buying a drink for a random stranger. I can remember a friend of mine offering to buy a girl a drink, who then brought her friend into the mix. They then proceeded to bring the drinks back to their table leavin my boy hangin, so proceed with caution lol.

[BrooklynZoo]

:facepalm

You never were known for getting the point.

Wouldnt matter if the drink was 50 cents, I'm not gonna buy a chick a drink to try and pick up on her. Has nothing to do with acting like a thug or a badass, just dont be a chump.


so if u were clickin with the chick by the bar and you both had empty glasses in your hands, what does PHX_Phan do?

[-p.tiddy-]

:facepalm

You never were known for getting the point.

Wouldnt matter if the drink was 50 cents, I'm not gonna buy a chick a drink to try and pick up on her. Has nothing to do with acting like a thug or a badass, just dont be a chump.
it's called being a gentlemen...a "chump" would be the kid that refuses to buy girls anything because of principle (really just makes you look cheap, no one would believe you just have strong principles)


how do you take girls out to eat?...you expect them to pay for you?...or just dating in general?

[BrooklynZoo]

honestly when i was younger I did the whole cool guy thing where I didnt wanna put b*tches up on the pedestal and didn't want them havin me payin for their shit. But as I get older i realize that that's just part of the game... Not that I don't let girls pay for stuff too, the other day this chick picked up the $100+ dinner tab lol

[Just2McFly]

it's called being a gentlemen...a "chump" would be the kid that refuses to buy girls anything because of principle (really just makes you look cheap, no one would believe you just have strong principles)


how do you take girls out to eat?...you expect them to pay for you?...or just dating in general?

Don't label it as being a gentlemen. There is nothing chump-like about talking to woman without buying or offering to buy her a drink.

[PHX_Phan]

it's called being a gentlemen...a "chump" would be the kid that refuses to buy girls anything because of principle (really just makes you look cheap, no one would believe you just have strong principles)


how do you take girls out to eat?...you expect them to pay for you?...or just dating in general?

Do you always pay a girls way? What for? Do you need to do all that for her to be interested in you?

I don't spend any more money on a girl than I would any friend. I'll take a girl out and pay for dinner, but I'd also pick up the tab for a buddy if he wanted to go out and was worried about spending cash. I'm not a cheap person.


If a girl expects me to pay her way, then she's probably not my type, anyway. I go for more strong-minded and independent type of girls, it's really nothing to them to pay for their own meal and expect nothing but your company. :confusedshrug:

[-p.tiddy-]

yes, at first I always at very least OFFER to pay...not doing so would make for extreme awkwardness when the bill comes lol...

if I am living with a girl and she also has a job and we know each other in and out then I can get comfortable to the point of saying "it is your turn"...but at first meet?...I always at least offer like I said

[Rasheed1]

I'm not trying to be a dick but the girls you seem to be talking about are one's you don't really want to f*ck unless you have no other options or you can basically approach in any way. I've never banged a stripper so I could be wrong but "wild ass" chicks don't really need approach. Just a situation, like you said being at a party with them.

if you are a man? men like certain situations..

men generally like threesomes with 2 women. Men like wild sex (I know I did)

any man can get mundane sex with one girl, most girls take you thru the routine before they give the mundane sex. you spend money on her at the bar, then she pretends that she doesnt s*ck d*ck and she doesnt f*ck bla bla bla...

if you wann skip that and get to the freaky sh*t? you will meet women who will be more open to do the things that men want to do.

that doesnt mean I dont like to go to clubs and do conventional sh*t like other dudes... Like I said, I like VIP, and like to meet regular girls like everyone else... I like to meet all kinds of women.. But since I have that outlet where I can menage when I want? Im not pressed to buy girls drinks at the bar in order to get laid. I dont compete at the bar/club. I enter the club with the same demeanor a woman would.. Im just there to have have fun and pop some bottles... dance a little and be with my friends... this is all good because I got the other broads who will come over and double team team me.. I dont need to use the club as a place where I go to pull girls... If I meet some nice women there? then its all good, but I already got wild sh*t lined up when I want it.. Clubs are just for fun and dance and drinks and flossing...


Anyways I just start a conversation. I'm kinda weird and a goofy guy so I play the social awkwardness card and just randomly start talking to 'em and try to get a laugh. Sometimes I'll get a what the f*ck is wrong with this dude look and it goes nowhere, sometimes it works. When you try to be the funny guy and you get rejected it's not even bad, still have a laugh.

if you goofy? you need to just work on your basics. connecting and getting a connection with the women you desire to meet.. women like 'cute and crazy' but its difficult to display that in a public setting like a club... you need to be in the spotlight for a women to even take notice of your 'goofy attitude' in a cute way in a public setting like.. There already has to be something pulling to you (and that something is usually money).. I can spend money, but Im beyond burning it up trying to get laid ...


Key for me has been numbers too. I approach every girl I find attractive if I'm single. Actually don't buy girls drinks much, I'm a cheap mother****er. I've actually spit game using that as a subject, like I'd buy you a drink but that would be far too cliche or whatever one liner pops into my head.

like I already said... women will spend up your money if you let them.. alot of them come out knowing they'll get free drinks and they anticipate turning down alot of men. Women dont need to spit game.. they control what happens.. they can point at the guy they want and they get laid... men have game or be someone who women automatically know is the one (that usually comes in form of lots of money)





I'm 22, probably have to re-think as I get older. I actually seem to be getting less and less ***** every year I get older tbh :oldlol:


you have plenty of time..

the main point is to approach meeting women like you would approach anything else.. make sure you have a well rounded repertoire of actions and reactions to women and situations..

Winging it wont get it... Women are picky and you need to understand what peaks their interest.. learn that? and you'll start to be able meet and seduce almost any woman you desire.

[Bandito]

Dancing.

Girls love it when a guy can dance. I just go out there and pretend I want to have a lot of babies. You can just groove with them without even saying all the lame openers like "hi" "what is your name." I've had a few girls told me I'm the best dancer they have ever seen, so if you dance like a stiff and just humping the air, then it might not work for you.If you been dating for 7 years trust me I am not listening to you for advice.


What I do is I have memorized some lame pickup lines to make girls smile awkwardly. After that I would say that I was sorry because I was trying to use a better pick up line but she was so pretty that I was bedazzled (Did I use this word right?) or astonished by her beauty. That would make her either make her smile or look at me weird. This doesn't work everytime mind you but it has worked. But it only works with girls 21 and above unless you have a sexy spanish accent like me....I miss the States...:cry:

Also paying her drinks and stuff like that doesn't hurt but don't pay more than 2. Remember you're trying to get to know her not make her drunk so another guys **** her (unless you are the one ****ing her :lol)

I am actually just ok picking up random girls. I have the main weakness that I don't dance because I don't like it. I have two left feet.

[joe]

I think the BEST THING TO DO, is not listen to other peoples advice. Because that just screws your head up. Just do anything you want.. there's no rule book, no guidelines. You have these guys out there like..."Approach her with a friendly hello.. ask this specific question.. call her after precisely 3 days.." NO!

Thinking along those lines will just make you stiff and awkward. I'd say just look at things from a larger perspective. You're a male who likes girls. There are girls out there who like males. You want to date/hook up with these girls. So you're going to try and make contact in anyway that feels right for you. You're a human being, you are designed to be able to figure out the details. Trust yourself, trust your instincts. And most of all, work on your confidence. Not just because "girls dig confidence," but because you dig confidence. It feels great. And once you're confident, you'll be in a position to trust those instincts.

So there's my advice.. don't listen to advice.

If I did have to give one piece of advice, I'd say don't be afraid of the "nice guy" syndrome, and start acting like a jerk. Girls don't like jerks.. they like you. You being you. You as yourself. The problem with "Nice guys," is that they are not nice guys. They are guys who lie about their intentions to girls, pretend to be their friends so they can trick them into sleeping with them later. And nobody likes a jerk, besides girls who like jerks. And why would you want a girl like that? Just be real, be yourself, be the BEST VERSION OF YOU...

[IamRAMBO24]

how do you take girls out to eat?...you expect them to pay for you?...

Hopefully ..

[SAKOTXA]

I read this whole thread...and only 2, maybe 3 actually know what you're talking about. :oldlol:

[MMM]

I read this whole thread...and only 2, maybe 3 actually know what you're talking about. :oldlol:

you just described the majority of the threads on this site..


nvm you can scratch that, 90 % of this forum has threads infested by trolls so the total is actually much lower.

[raprap]

I usually meet girls with my friends, so its not really hard for me. I just start with a simple hi and then ask about their background and shit.

[christian1923]

Is it that much of a struggle for you older guys to meet chicks?

In college it seems so easy either at a party most the girls are down to do shit, Or in school or work I just meet them and text them for a couple days then ask them to watch a movie at my house

[OhNoTimNoSho]

if you can't afford to spring a little money for women then you have absolutely no business at all even being in a night club...
Its pretty sad that you think its necessary to spend money on a woman to get with her. You dont htink she wants sex just as bad? You're putting her on a pedestal

[-p.tiddy-]

Its pretty sad that you think its necessary to spend money on a woman to get with her. You dont htink she wants sex just as bad? You're putting her on a pedestal
I don't think its necessary, I think buying a woman a drink is a normal ice breaker...

Honestly I think many in here are putting the drink on a pedestal as though buying a simple drink is some huge ordeal, wtf.

It's sad if I buy a woman a drink?...gtfo...its sad if you refuse to buy a woman a drink.

[Stuckey]

just be natural but make eye contact first, then smile

"hi, how's it going?" is a fine opener

make a comment that pertains to the environment, for example if she's in a mall, ask "so what are you buying today?" sh1t like that

then progress to medium talk with a few personal questions like "so, are you a student? what are you studying?" etc

[RidonKs]

you just gotta be spontaneous, preferably funny, and not dominate the conversation. avoid deep potentially uncomfortable conversations as well as boring small talk, keep the topics light, interesting, and don't linger on anything for too long unless its of significant mutual interest.


i completely scared off this girl i was chatting up at intermission of a play a week or two ago and in hindsight couldn't believe how dumb i was. anybody who's read my posts on this webside im sure can easily imagine my idiotic ass falling into this trap lol. we were talking about what she did, she said she studied historiography, mostly of biology.... which i took as a terrific clue to launch into a tirade on pop science interpretations of evolutionary and psychology and all this crap. i really didn't know much of what i was talking about, she clearly knew that, listened patiently but i could tell while i was ranting that i was fking up (i was high, thats my excuse)... and then after the show when we were talking and i was juuuust about to ask for her number, a cab pulled over she said a quick goodbye and the opportunity was lost.

lesson learned haha



Honestly I think many in here are putting the drink on a pedestal as though buying a simple drink is some huge ordeal, wtf.
most ishers are much younger than you which means most ishers are much poorer than you. i can only speak for myself but i suspect most under 25 guys aren't gonna be splashing money around if they don't have to. and the fact is, you don't. again it depends on the girl, and the odd girl you might be able to get with if you spend on her when otherwise she wouldn't give you the time of day... but for the majority of women its not exactly a prerequisite. just a safe easy opening if you can afford it.

[-p.tiddy-]

Donks, thought you had retired...good to see you post.

Yes I was thinking my age was a big factor in this debate...

[CeltsGarlic]

Mang, I just be myself, always smiling, crack some jokes. Quite easy for me. Next step is where it gets tough.

[-p.tiddy-]

now that I think about it, if you're under 25 then buying girls a drink as an opener is probably not that great...when I think back to myself at that age me and my friends were going to younger type clubs that had $2 drink specials and drinks were served in a plastic cup and dudes are runnin around with glow sticks like it's a fckin rave or something...and that just isn't the right setting at all to even try to act like a gentlemen

the setting I had and mind and was used to as of late is more like the bar in the movie Crazy Stupid Love

http://www.seeing-stars.com/locations/Crazy%20Stupid%20Love/PlusBar.jpg

^^^ more like that

and I think one of his character's rules was "don't ask if you can buy them a drink, tell them that you ARE buying them a drink"...something like that

[kNIOKAS]

Asl

[CeltsGarlic]

Mate, If I would be buying every chick I try to talk a drink I would be broke in 5 mins. I usually come to the club with enough to get 2-3 drinks. Im that cheap(20 y.o). And usually get drunk before the club.
parties are a different topic. Much better one.

[PHX_Phan]

now that I think about it, if you're under 25 then buying girls a drink as an opener is probably not that great...when I think back to myself at that age me and my friends were going to younger type clubs that had $2 drink specials and drinks were served in a plastic cup and dudes are runnin around with glow sticks like it's a fckin rave or something...and that just isn't the right setting at all to even try to act like a gentlemen

A lot of younger girls, at least the ones I meet, don't want a guy to spend money on them or 'take them out.' My current girl and last two exes didn't want me spending money on them. They made their own money and liked paying for their own food, movie ticket, or whatever it is we did.

If you're just trying to pick up a chick at a bar/club to ****, why do you want to spend money on them at all? A lot of them are there for the same reason - they want to ****.

[Myth]

I let my dick do the talking.

[chosen_one6]

Buying a girl a drink is an outdated method of picking up women. Just because it's the "social norm" to do so, does not mean it's the right thing to do. It used to be a social norm for colored people to sit in the back of the bus, but that is no longer the case.

I can spend the money on a drink for a woman if I really wanted to. But the key to getting a girl to be your gf/wife/**** buddy is to separate yourself from the pack. You have to make yourself stand out by being different. Women know when they go to a bar or club that some guy that thinks the nice guy route is the way to go will buy her a drink. I've never bought a girl a drink and never will. And I've slept with a lot of women in 6 years.

All you need is humor and confidence, and you'll at least get SOME play. If you have money, an education, and good looks then it only enhances your humor and confidence to another level.

[Myth]

But the key to getting a girl to be your gf/wife/**** buddy is to separate yourself from the pack. You have to make yourself stand out by being different.

This is why I fart the moment I am near the girl I want. I make sure it is obvious that it was intentional through grunting and grimacing. It shows confidence and dominance, both of which bitches love.

[Jailblazers7]

I tend to shy away from buying a girl a drink on a blind approach just because it feels strange to me. Buy a girl a drink so she will feel obligated to at least talk to me for a few minutes lol.

I'm more likely to buy a drink for a girl if she is a friend of a friend or I know her a little bit just because it feels a bit more natural.

[-p.tiddy-]

A lot of younger girls, at least the ones I meet, don't want a guy to spend money on them or 'take them out.' My current girl and last two exes didn't want me spending money on them. They made their own money and liked paying for their own food, movie ticket, or whatever it is we did.

If you're just trying to pick up a chick at a bar/club to ****, why do you want to spend money on them at all? A lot of them are there for the same reason - they want to ****.
it's just an easy opener...I don't view it as "spending money"...it's just a drink

you're at a bar...bars sell drinks, they are there drinking...makes perfect sense to me :confusedshrug:



I mean really, like I said in my first post, at first meet physical attraction is EVERYTHING...the "opener" is damn near meaningless unless you act like a complete a-hole. A woman already knows if she is capable of a fcking a man within like the first 2 minutes, your success has little to do with what your "opener" is unless it is just THAT bad...

girls aren't won over with certain "lines" at first meet...that isn't how it works...they are won over by natural physical attraction, how you look.


after first meet?...then personality comes into play, as well as money (yes it does, girls want a guy with a job, not a bum)

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

(Extreme no homo or no trasexual-o just dabbling in attempted female psych) If I was a chick I'd imagine that....

an older, established guy like -primetime- buying me a drink would be okay because he seems to be an expert around the neck of the woods, he seems to have that $$$$, and he seems to be more mature, wiser and doesn't give off the stink of neediness. So in that case, sure why not. Plus I know he's safe, I know he knows the staff, and he doesn't resemble a pedophile or a rapist no matter what kind of goons he hangs out with.

a guy like Rasheed1 who has a wife and has a certain ghetto, but intellectual appeal to him would fly over well since a) dude's got a ring --> means he can handle a woman and if he was to buy me a drink that's a gesture of etiquette and him looking uhh menacing doin gsomething nice is attractive. Something about contrast.

a guy like Donks talking about what he said he would sound aspergy and socially uncalibrated. What's bad about this is there is GREAT VALUE and COURAGE and INTELLECT in going on a rant and EXPRESSING a strong opinion of yours, but these kind of things don't fly well in smalltalk type social situations. If I read his rant in text I'd applaud him for his genius, but he wouldn't be any closer in the bedroom department.


But as BrooklynZoo stated, a young guy like him would not even be picked up on my radar (since they are a dime a dozen and on the immature ugh whatever side), and doing the buying drink gesture would not be appreciated one bit. I'd assume he was inexperienced and trying to buy my love... unless he really charmed the fukk out of me and was super cool and actually deliberately asked me "are you the kind of girl that does." as if he's selecting me. He would deliberately have to stand out by treating me like sh!t or doing something.. anything to set himself apart.


If Myth actually, forreal, busted out his c0ck and didn't apologize for it, I'd be intrigued. Dead Serious. Have seen this unfold before. Some dude got pantsed while we were doing co-ed sports in front of EVERYBODY and we all saw his flaccid d!ck, and uh it wasn't exactly impressive. He just stood there for like a few seconds and smiled, unflustered though and carried on. Later a bunch of chicks approached him that night and word on the street was that he had a threesome from handling that situation so smoothly

If Stuckey asked those boring ass typical fukking questions to me I'd pretend to be polite, but in the back of my head I'd be saying when the fukk will this guy go away?

What could probably help out these guys tremendously would be

a) if they had a chick as a companion by their side.. that would probably make me feel safer (never know who's a creeper)
b) they were well-dressed and socializing with EVERYBODY (they gotta prove somehow they're cool and in demand)
c) nothing in the way they spoke BLATANTLY said "I'm trying to fukk u or please like me" (because that's what i'm used to.)
d) they initiated and left before conversation got stale.

Just my .02

[-p.tiddy-]

thank you J$

would rep but that seems to have vanished at the moment lol

[PHX_Phan]

it's just an easy opener...I don't view it as "spending money"...it's just a drink

you're at a bar...bars sell drinks, they are there drinking...makes perfect sense to me :confusedshrug:



I mean really, like I said in my first post, at first meet physical attraction is EVERYTHING...the "opener" is damn near meaningless unless you act like a complete a-hole. A woman already knows if she is capable of a fcking a man within like the first 2 minutes, your success has little to do with what your "opener" is unless it is just THAT bad...

girls aren't won over with certain "lines" at first meet...that isn't how it works...they are won over by natural physical attraction, how you look.


after first meet?...then personality comes into play, as well as money (yes it does, girls want a guy with a job, not a bum)

I don't treat interactions with chicks any differently than I would meeting anyone new, male or female. Buying her a drink already puts you in a situation where you're trying for her attention. Don't do that. Chicks have guys trying for their attention all night. If she's into you, you'll have her attention.

I'd say half or more of my friends are female, and a lot of them will tell you they lose interest in a guy when he tries to 'take care of them' instead of just talk and try to get at them. It can do more harm for your case than good.

[-p.tiddy-]

I don't treat interactions with chicks any differently than I would meeting anyone new, male or female. Buying her a drink already puts you in a situation where you're trying for her attention. Don't do that. Chicks have guys trying for their attention all night. If she's into you, you'll have her attention.

I'd say half or more of my friends are female, and a lot of them will tell you they lose interest in a guy when he tries to 'take care of them' instead of just talk and try to get at them. It can do more harm for your case than good.
buying a girl a drink is just a friendly gesture...it isn't "taking care of them"...you're not paying their rent...(although most want that too but almost all deny it)

you SHOULD by nature treat women different than men...males are supposed to be the aggressors to females by nature...we are supposed to approach them and hit on them...that is what they get all dressed up for, that is what our testosterone is telling us to do...

if you are waiting for girls to approach you and buy you a drink?...then you're playing the role of the shy female...

[PHX_Phan]

buying a girl a drink is just a friendly gesture...it isn't "taking care of them"...you're not paying their rent...(although most want that too but almost all deny it)

you SHOULD by nature treat women different than men...males are supposed to be the aggressors to females by nature...we are supposed to approach them and hit on them...that is what they get all dressed up for, that is what our testosterone is telling us to do...

if you are waiting for girls to approach you and buy you a drink?...then you're playing the role of the shy female...

Whole purpose of me putting the '...' around it was so you wouldn't take it completely literally. It's all in the same idea. 'let me take care of that drink for you, let me get your coat, etc' A lot of these methods are outdated. Girls don't want that. They can take care of themselves. Not a lot of people follow those gender roles anymore.

Whoever said ANYTHING about waiting for a girl to approach you? No one. You seem to always make up retorts to your own argument to convey a point that no one tried to argue. You can approach a girl without offering to buy her shit, like her time is worth some type of gesture. She's a person, talk to her like one. You are putting it on a pedestal acting like you need to make an opening.

[-p.tiddy-]

Whole purpose of me putting the '...' around it was so you wouldn't take it completely literally. It's all in the same idea. 'let me take care of that drink for you, let me get your coat, etc' A lot of these methods are outdated. Girls don't want that. They can take care of themselves. Not a lot of people follow those gender roles anymore.

Whoever said ANYTHING about waiting for a girl to approach you? No one. You seem to always make up retorts to your own argument to convey a point that no one tried to argue. You can approach a girl without offering to buy her shit, like her time is worth some type of gesture. She's a person, talk to her like one. You are putting it on a pedestal acting like you need to make some type of opening.
in my opinion if a girl says that she doesn't like a guy because the guy is "takes care of them too much" that is basically just them just saying "I'm not attracted to him" in a nicer way...

and again, I don't view buying a drink as anything more than a friendly gesture...to me that isn't "putting them on a pedestal" at all...it's just another way of saying "you seem nice may I have a drink with you?"

I mean if buy my buddy a hot dog at Mavs game does that mean I am putting him on a pedestal? lol...drinks and hot dogs are not anything substantial at all

guess what though, plenty of women do like to be "put on a pedestal"...they want attention, they want to feel special, many girls LIKE being hit on, makes them feel wanted...

[-p.tiddy-]

VIDEO OF ME TEACHING PHX (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z6P_oIPwMmw)

:oldlol:

[DonDadda59]

(Extreme no homo or no trasexual-o just dabbling in attempted female psych) If I was a chick I'd imagine that....

an older, established guy like -primetime- buying me a drink would be okay because he seems to be an expert around the neck of the woods, he seems to have that $$$$, and he seems to be more mature, wiser and doesn't give off the stink of neediness. So in that case, sure why not. Plus I know he's safe, I know he knows the staff, and he doesn't resemble a pedophile or a rapist no matter what kind of goons he hangs out with.

a guy like Rasheed1 who has a wife and has a certain ghetto, but intellectual appeal to him would fly over well since a) dude's got a ring --> means he can handle a woman and if he was to buy me a drink that's a gesture of etiquette and him looking uhh menacing doin gsomething nice is attractive. Something about contrast.

a guy like Donks talking about what he said he would sound aspergy and socially uncalibrated. What's bad about this is there is GREAT VALUE and COURAGE and INTELLECT in going on a rant and EXPRESSING a strong opinion of yours, but these kind of things don't fly well in smalltalk type social situations. If I read his rant in text I'd applaud him for his genius, but he wouldn't be any closer in the bedroom department.


But as BrooklynZoo stated, a young guy like him would not even be picked up on my radar (since they are a dime a dozen and on the immature ugh whatever side), and doing the buying drink gesture would not be appreciated one bit. I'd assume he was inexperienced and trying to buy my love... unless he really charmed the fukk out of me and was super cool and actually deliberately asked me "are you the kind of girl that does." as if he's selecting me. He would deliberately have to stand out by treating me like sh!t or doing something.. anything to set himself apart.


If Myth actually, forreal, busted out his c0ck and didn't apologize for it, I'd be intrigued. Dead Serious. Have seen this unfold before. Some dude got pantsed while we were doing co-ed sports in front of EVERYBODY and we all saw his flaccid d!ck, and uh it wasn't exactly impressive. He just stood there for like a few seconds and smiled, unflustered though and carried on. Later a bunch of chicks approached him that night and word on the street was that he had a threesome from handling that situation so smoothly

If Stuckey asked those boring ass typical fukking questions to me I'd pretend to be polite, but in the back of my head I'd be saying when the fukk will this guy go away?

What could probably help out these guys tremendously would be

a) if they had a chick as a companion by their side.. that would probably make me feel safer (never know who's a creeper)
b) they were well-dressed and socializing with EVERYBODY (they gotta prove somehow they're cool and in demand)
c) nothing in the way they spoke BLATANTLY said "I'm trying to fukk u or please like me" (because that's what i'm used to.)
d) they initiated and left before conversation got stale.

Just my .02

J$- Queen Bitch (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6p3bwfjQiE) :pimp:

[PHX_Phan]

in my opinion if a girl says that she doesn't like a guy because the guy is "takes care of them too much" that is basically just them just saying "I'm not attracted to him" in a nicer way...

and again, I don't view buying a drink as anything more than a friendly gesture...to me that isn't "putting them on a pedestal" at all...it's just another way of saying "you seem nice may I have a drink with you?"

I mean if buy my buddy a hot dog at Mavs game does that mean I am putting him on a pedestal? lol...drinks and hot dogs are not anything substantial at all

guess what though, plenty of women do like to be "put on a pedestal"...they want attention, they want to feel special, many girls LIKE being hit on, makes them feel wanted...

I said they lose interest - as in they were attracted but dude's personality was a turn-off. You'd be surprised how many dudes completely **** up their chances at railing a chick because he approached the situation like a guy looking for love.

Yes, buying someone a drink is a friendly gesture..that you do for friends. Have I not been saying that this whole time? A chick you meet at the bar and know nothing about is not your friend. Would you buy a guy a drink to initiate a conversation with him? No, you'd probably just walk up and talk to him. Maybe if he seemed like he as having a real bad day, you might extend some kindness and refill his drink, but that's a different situation. You wouldn't just casually try to talk to a guy by buying him a drink.

[chosen_one6]

in my opinion if a girl says that she doesn't like a guy because the guy is "takes care of them too much" that is basically just them just saying "I'm not attracted to him" in a nicer way...

and again, I don't view buying a drink as anything more than a friendly gesture...to me that isn't "putting them on a pedestal" at all...it's just another way of saying "you seem nice may I have a drink with you?"

I mean if buy my buddy a hot dog at Mavs game does that mean I am putting him on a pedestal? lol...drinks and hot dogs are not anything substantial at all

guess what though, plenty of women do like to be "put on a pedestal"...they want attention, they want to feel special, many girls LIKE being hit on, makes them feel wanted...

So if you're at the mall are you going to offer to buy a girl lunch that you don't even know? I mean, everyone else is buying lunch right? So it's a nice gesture isn't it?

[-p.tiddy-]

So if you're at the mall are you going to offer to buy a girl lunch that you don't even know? I mean, everyone else is buying lunch right? So it's a nice gesture isn't it?
naw if a girl is at the mall eating lunch it is likely because she is hungry...

if a girl is at a bar all dressed up without a man it is likely because she wants to be hit on...


my first post in this thread:



at a bar/club just offer to buy a drink...it's fairly easy

but in the past when single sometimes I would see a hot girl at a grocery store, or other places...that is much more difficult.

"oh hey, I like Special K Cereal too!"..."hello nice to meet you!, what is your name?"...

it's just awkward...

I have had trouble approaching girls outside of that bar/club environment where it is natural and expected...it is because you are usually in a situation where they are not looking to be hit on...and could be married, or could be in a hurry, etc

[JerryWest]

sexually

[chosen_one6]

naw if a girl is at the mall eating lunch it is likely because she is hungry...

if a girl is at a bar all dressed up without a man it is likely because she wants to be hit on...


my first post in this thread:



I have had trouble approaching girls outside of that bar/club environment where it is natural and expected...it is because you are usually in a situation where they are not looking to be hit on...and could be married, or could be in a hurry, etc


So it has nothing to do with the fact that she may just want to dance that night? Or maybe she just wants to spend time with her friends/coworkers? Or maybe she just wants to get free drinks?

I've talked to too many women (admittedly mid-20's women) to realize that they don't go to the club/bar looking for a dude. However, I do realize that it may just be the type of women that I go for that don't go to the club looking for dudes to f*ck around with. I know there are women that do that but they would never be anything more than a FWB in my eyes.

Maybe I'll try buying a 10 girls a drink and see the success rate...it wouldn't hurt to try just to see what would happen.

[-p.tiddy-]

So it has nothing to do with the fact that she may just want to dance that night? Or maybe she just wants to spend time with her friends/coworkers? Or maybe she just wants to get free drinks?

I've talked to too many women (admittedly mid-20's women) to realize that they don't go to the club/bar looking for a dude. However, I do realize that it may just be the type of women that I go for that don't go to the club looking for dudes to f*ck around with. I know there are women that do that but they would never be anything more than a FWB in my eyes.

Maybe I'll try buying a 10 girls a drink and see the success rate...it wouldn't hurt to try just to see what would happen.
funny you say that, I swear to God I used to have my own 10-hit rule lol...try to hit on 10 girls in one night, almost every time you will hook up before reaching number 10...if you reach 10 with no luck then give up, that means you left your mojo at the crib

and yes some girls are there to dance, or hang out, and most of the time they will just say "no thank you" if you ask to have a drink with them...and you move on, no money spent.

[chosen_one6]

funny you say that, I swear to God I used to have my own 10-hit rule lol...try to hit on 10 girls in one night, almost every time you will hook up before reaching number 10...if you reach 10 with no luck then give up, that means you left your mojo at the crib

and yes some girls are there to dance, or hang out, and most of the time they will just say "no thank you" if you ask to have a drink with them...and you move on, no money spent.

I'll try it, just to spice it up a bit haha

[DonDadda59]

I have had trouble approaching girls outside of that bar/club environment where it is natural and expected...it is because you are usually in a situation where they are not looking to be hit on...and could be married, or could be in a hurry, etc

Serious question- do you think all the time you've spent in strip clubs (and I suppose clubs/bars in general) have skewed your view towards relating to women? Specifically, it seems that you equate love/sex/etc with money.

[-p.tiddy-]

Serious question- do you think all the time you've spent in strip clubs (and I suppose clubs/bars in general) have skewed your view towards relating to women? Specifically, it seems that you equate love/sex/etc with money.
I used to objectify women, yes...but I didn't view buying a drink as "money"...or relate "love" to money...sex maybe could be related to money, not love

strip club is different completely though...that really is all about money most of the time, never any "love" though

kind of a hard vague question...



I am happily married with a kid now, so that life is behind me...and we don't have any problems relating to each other

[Rasheed1]

a guy like Rasheed1 who has a wife and has a certain ghetto, but intellectual appeal to him would fly over well since a) dude's got a ring --> means he can handle a woman and if he was to buy me a drink that's a gesture of etiquette and him looking uhh menacing doin gsomething nice is attractive. Something about contrast.


Ill tell you this...

That is true to an extent... and it works best with white women... When white girls see me, they might be intimidated, but as soon as they realize that Im approachable and can relate to them on a few levels? they come at me pretty strong because to them? Im their ticket to "the black experience" :oldlol: works for me. I like white girls as much as like black girls and puerto rican girls... Asian girls come after that, but ive messed with some sexy asian women too.. I like them all

I leave no food on the table :pimp:

[Eat Like A Bosh]

It's ridiculous how many people are actually thinking about what to say to a girl. Stop worrying about what to say. Those Cheesy Pickup lines are overrated. Shouldn't rely on them to pick up girls. Buying drinks is perfectly fine, but don't overdo it. You shouldn't have to start off by buying a drink, just to get a girl to talk to you. Looking at you, P Titty.

It's not about what you say, it's how you say it. Sometimes I say even the most random shit you've ever heard and they still giggle. It's all about confidence. A confident guy can make a shitty joke funny, while an awkward guy can make even the best joke in the world awkward. So in the end, it doesn't matter what you say. Say whatever's on your mind.

Tl;DR: Women love confidence.

[-p.tiddy-]

It's ridiculous how many people are actually thinking about what to say to a girl. Stop worrying about what to say. Those Cheesy Pickup lines are overrated. Shouldn't rely on them to pick up girls. Buying drinks is perfectly fine, but don't overdo it. You shouldn't have to start off by buying a drink, just to get a girl to talk to you. Looking at you, P Titty.

It's not about what you say, it's how you say it. Sometimes I say even the most random shit you've ever heard and they still giggle. It's all about confidence. A confident guy can make a shitty joke funny, while an awkward guy can make even the best joke in the world awkward. So in the end, it doesn't matter what you say. Say whatever's on your mind.

Tl;DR: Women love confidence.
yeah it's all about physical attraction at first, not the "opener"...how you look and how you carry yourself is everything

I'll say this about "confidence" though, if you have too much of it you can come off cocky and douchy...some girls really like for a guy to act nervous and intimated by them, as though it was hard to work up the nerve to talk to them, makes them say "ah, he is so sweet!"...I have played the shy card a few times for that reason...they don't want to get the impression that you hit on girls for a living.

[Bigsmoke]

hey girl! let me feel on that booty!

[ILLsmak]

I dont approach a ton of girls, but when I do I've usually had a couple drinks in me and I'll go with a simple "hello"/"how are you?" and possibly a "can I buy you a drink?" Since there are so many ladies men on ISH, how and where do YOU approach girls?

Honestly dude... and I love posting in these threads because I know people doubt my shit, so take it as comedy.

There are very few girls that are approach-able. I look at girls. I make eye contact, but a girl has to do a lot of tricks before I'd even think of approaching her.

I mean, you should know it's GG before you go up to her just by how she acts. Girls will wait to be approached, too. And if they do, I don't... it has to be a magical situation. Sometimes when I am into a girl and she is digging my shit and she stops paying attention to me... or starts flirting with another guy, then I am like NO. And I'll put myself in front of her. But even then sometimes, I'm like eh.

The thing is, I don't want ***** like other people want *****. I want a girl who is worth it. As I've said in other threads, I've got a lot to lose, so I don't feel like I can go around sleeping with girls I don't trust.

If you go out to get *****, a girl will know it. Doesn't mean you can't get it, but that's giving her power, and you don't want the girl having power when you interact with her. I'd prefer power to be in each court.

All of these dudes like HOW DO I APPROACH WOMEN I WANT HOT GIRL AND *****... that's not it. Just be yourself, go places that girls are. Take your time. The best girls will wait for the best guy. If someone comes and snatches a girl from under you either A. She wasn't the best or B. You weren't the best... and we all know it's better to assume A.

-Smak

[Andrei89]

if you can't afford to spring a little money for women then you have absolutely no business at all even being in a night club...


I go to a night club to have a greta time.

Must I always approach girls?:lol :lol :lol

[Electric Slide]

yep this


at a bar/club just offer to buy a drink...it's fairly easy

but in the past when single sometimes I would see a hot girl at a grocery store, or other places...that is much more difficult.

"oh hey, I like Special K Cereal too!"..."hello nice to meet you!, what is your name?"...

it's just awkward...
It is only awkward if you think it is

The problem with most people like the OP is that they overthink it. There is no set way to do anything, just go out there and be yourself and the results will come.

[BrooklynZoo]

It is only awkward if you think it is

The problem with most people like the OP is that they overthink it. There is no set way to do anything, just go out there and be yourself and the results will come.


Everyone seems to think i have problems approaching girls cause I made this thread. I just asked how YOU approach girls.

[-p.tiddy-]

like this:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3tskgMudr1r7mvdfo1_500.gif

[sick_brah07]

like this:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3tskgMudr1r7mvdfo1_500.gif


LOLLL

Everyone has there own way

I have some weird tendencies, like never offering to buy the first drink don't know why it just makes me feel like I'm going to fail .... I'm sure the girl doesn't get affected by this I think it's just me being superstitious

I truly believe the key is to not give a crap, when you truly believe the girl is on your playing field she will like you or Atleast want something ... But the biggest mistake people make it pretending you don't give a crap girls will see straight through it

Another thing is the scenario an your personality