Any guys here hook up with a married woman?

[code green]

A married client (33 years old, I'm 26) at my work added me on Facebook after a coworker told her I said I had been checking her out. A week later, we're basically talking all day and flirting to the point that it could probably get me killed if her husband were to read it. Her best friend is a client of ours too, and says she has a happy marriage with a good guy. But today she just asked for my number. I sent it to her, then regretted it instantly...just another way to get caught. It's bad enough we've been talking so much, I don't know how she's possibly spending time with her husband at all. My brain's telling me to back off, but unfortunately my dick's driving the car right now and I think I've got a good shot at this. Anyone else here ever been in a situation like this? And what did/would you do?


EDIT: There's no kids in the picture if it makes a difference.

[HardwoodLegend]

inb4 married dude responds with "yeah... my wife"

[L.Kizzle]

Yeah.

[d.bball.guy]

inb4 Meticode

[rezznor]

A married client (33 years old, I'm 26) at my work added me on Facebook after a coworker told her I said I had been checking her out. A week later, we're basically talking all day and flirting to the point that it could probably get me killed if her husband were to read it. Her best friend is a client of ours too, and says she has a happy marriage with a good guy. But today she just asked for my number. I sent it to her, then regretted it instantly...just another way to get caught. It's bad enough we've been talking so much, I don't know how she's possibly spending time with her husband at all. My brain's telling me to back off, but unfortunately my dick's driving the car right now and I think I've got a good shot at this. Anyone else here ever been in a situation like this? And what did/would you do?


EDIT: There's no kids in the picture if it makes a difference.
you are scum if you go through with this, and karma will come back to bite you in the ass. you don't **** with a man's family.

[magic chiongson]

i didn't know she was married, so i guess it didn't count :confusedshrug:

[IcanzIIravor]

A married client (33 years old, I'm 26) at my work added me on Facebook after a coworker told her I said I had been checking her out. A week later, we're basically talking all day and flirting to the point that it could probably get me killed if her husband were to read it. Her best friend is a client of ours too, and says she has a happy marriage with a good guy. But today she just asked for my number. I sent it to her, then regretted it instantly...just another way to get caught. It's bad enough we've been talking so much, I don't know how she's possibly spending time with her husband at all. My brain's telling me to back off, but unfortunately my dick's driving the car right now and I think I've got a good shot at this. Anyone else here ever been in a situation like this? And what did/would you do?


EDIT: There's no kids in the picture if it makes a difference.

Don't mix business with pleasure. If you do hook up and it goes sour and she blabs to your company you could be out on your ass. I always weight the worst case scenario before I go in on anything.

[Balla_Status]

Don't mix business with pleasure. If you do hook up and it goes sour and she blabs to your company you could be out on your ass. I always weight the worst case scenario before I go in on anything.

Won't go all the way to say not mix business with pleasure (case by case basis) but in this case ravor has it right.

She's a client. Don't hook it up.

[HarryCallahan]

Dive right in bro. :rockon:

[eriX]

If shes in a happy marriage and here you are tempting her to go cheat on her husband with you, then you are just trying to fk up their marriage. Some people on here cheering you on have no sense of moral or values. Everyone have desires and temptations, and some won't have the strength to suppress them. It is honestly up to you whether you want to take advantage of this or help them.

[Riddler]

week later, we're basically talking all day and flirting to the point that it could probably get me killed if her husband were to read it.

so what exactly was written?

[shadow]

the fact that she's married aside, you're saying she is a client. Sex can complicate things. Use the don't mix business with pleasure excuse and back off.

[falc39]

A married client (33 years old, I'm 26) at my work added me on Facebook after a coworker told her I said I had been checking her out. A week later, we're basically talking all day and flirting to the point that it could probably get me killed if her husband were to read it. Her best friend is a client of ours too, and says she has a happy marriage with a good guy. But today she just asked for my number. I sent it to her, then regretted it instantly...just another way to get caught. It's bad enough we've been talking so much, I don't know how she's possibly spending time with her husband at all. My brain's telling me to back off, but unfortunately my dick's driving the car right now and I think I've got a good shot at this. Anyone else here ever been in a situation like this? And what did/would you do?


EDIT: There's no kids in the picture if it makes a difference.

LOL i'm in a very similar situation as you right now, except with my hairstylist and a little further... she also has kids. im still deciding if I should go for it, she's pretty damn hot and she's pretty much throwing herself at me. the only thing keeping me is I have a date set up with a girl closer my age this weekend, and that I would feel a little guilty lol. if I was more desperate and on a dry spell i would prob be plowing by now.

[beastmode]

naw man, don't be breaking up no families

[eriX]

http://www.wearysloth.com/Gallery/ActorsP/13537-20091.gif

did i say anything wrong? :confusedshrug:

[eriX]

If you don't get that picture you have no morals or values.

a quick google image searches shows me that in the movie true lies he is simon and seduces arnolds wife. Which is why i said everyone have desires or temptations etc... Doesn't this enhance what i said?

[East_Stone_Ya]

well she asked your number first right? if so then she is the one who made the move and is risking with her marriage. Only thing you should consider is how good of client she is to your company.

[LEFT4DEAD]

If women wants other man beside her husband than its not a happy marriage, no matter what anyone else said. But still I would not do it.

[beastmode]

bad news

[code green]

For people saying not to mix business with pleasure, I'm not going to be at this job much further. I'll be graduating next month from school, and this was just a college job to pay the bills.

PT, we're mostly feeling each other out at this point, but with some gems mixed in. She left my work yesterday (minidress and high heels) and immediately sent me a message telling me to stop checking out her ass. She's going to Florida tomorrow, and I'm going to be in Orlando in June for my new career; so she sent me a message asking if I was bummed out my trip wasn't earlier and brought up the "it's not cheating in a different area code" rule. Then she joked we could always change the rule to zip codes instead. Stuff like that.

I haven't gone through with it yet, obviously...but this is how affairs start, i'm sure. Just trying to decide if I should pull the plug now, or see what happens later on. I'm not being a creep and even mentioning cheating or the possibility of us hooking up when we talk...just flirting at this point.



As a bizarre sidepoint, I mentioned the fact that I'm Lebanese to her and she told me she used to work with another Lebanese person and mentioned his name. Ended up being my dad....they worked together 12 years ago when she was waitressing the restaurant my dad ran.

[n00bie]

LOL i'm in a very similar situation as you right now, except with my hairstylist and a little further... she also has kids. im still deciding if I should go for it, she's pretty damn hot and she's pretty much throwing herself at me. the only thing keeping me is I have a date set up with a girl closer my age this weekend, and that I would feel a little guilty lol. if I was more desperate and on a dry spell i would prob be plowing by now.

You are a ****ed up person for even considering this. Why risk breaking up someone's family? Especially when there's kids involved?

Seriously, man the **** up and leave her alone. :facepalm

[niko]

Are you that hard up that to get laid you'd add all these complications into your life? A married client? This is where you go for *****?

[HomieWeMajor]

If it ain't OP then the woman will just find another man to cheat with. Go for it

[HardwoodLegend]

If it ain't OP then the woman will just find another man to cheat with. Go for it

True.

Why is everyone talking about "breaking up a marriage"? If the woman is that into it, the marriage is already broken and the breakage was not of the OP's doing.

[B-Easy8]

Show us pics and we can tell you if she is worth it or not.

If she isn't really hot I would say that you shouldn't do anything.

But show us pics.

[falc39]

You are a ****ed up person for even considering this. Why risk breaking up someone's family? Especially when there's kids involved?

Seriously, man the **** up and leave her alone. :facepalm

I used to think like this, until how many events changed my perspective on this.

One problem is marriage these days is weak in itself. It has lost all sense of the spiritual. It's basically just a "social contract", or whatever the academics call it. There can be many reasons for this. Feminism, rejection of religion, Sex in the City, etc., don't really care the reason for it, but it's something that's very obvious. A lot of people, especially younger, just can't seem to take marriage seriously anymore. I can't say that's what I want, but I will admit that it's the reality from what I've observed.

Now for the more practical thinking... the problem is, she's doing most of the initiating. It's really all on her. I'm single. I didn't make any vows. She's the one who did. Even to get to this point, her husband must be ****ing up really bad. Like other posters said, it isn't a happy marriage, or at least it's a very unfulfilling one. Furthermore, even if I don't hit it, I can tell that she will jump on the next available **** and situation that presents herself. I talk to her a lot when she's cutting my hair and through text, she's so dtf it's hilarious. She's already telling me when her kids will be going to school and when she will have more free time.... i kid you not, and I didn't even ask. If it's not me, it will be some other guy.

Anyway, still undecided... depends how my date goes this weekend.

[n00bie]

I used to think like this, until how many events changed my perspective on this.

One problem is marriage these days is weak in itself. It has lost all sense of the spiritual. It's basically just a "social contract", or whatever the academics call it. There can be many reasons for this. Feminism, rejection of religion, Sex in the City, etc., don't really care the reason for it, but it's something that's very obvious. A lot of people, especially younger, just can't seem to take marriage as seriously anymore. I can't say that's what I want, but I will admit that it's the reality from what I've observed.

Now for the more practical thinking... the problem is, she's doing most of the initiating. It's really all on her. I'm single. I didn't make any vows. She's the one who did. Even get to this point, her husband must be ****ing up really bad. Like other posters said, it isn't a happy marriage, or at least it's a very unfulfilling one. Furthermore, even if I don't hit it, I can tell that she will jump on the next available **** and situation that presents herself. I talk to her a lot when she's cutting my hair and through text, she's so dtf it's hilarious. She's already telling me when her kids will be going to school and when she will have more free time.... i kid you not, and I didn't even ask. If it's not me, it will be some other guy.

Anyway, still undecided... depends how my date goes this weekend.

Just because she's willing to do something wrong, doesn't mean you should to. 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I don't give a **** about the husband. He might deserve it if he's a shitty husband, but the kids are innocent. Vag is not worth ****ing up a kid's life.

And yea, if you don't do it, it might be some other guy. But at least it won't be you having to live with that guilt for the rest of your life.

Seriously, does ***** mean that much to you guys? Is it that hard to get ***** from girls that are single?

[code green]

I'm in agreement that kids in the equation changes the conversation entirely, also if he's in the military serving our country. I personally wouldn't even respond to her if either of those were the case, but to each his own. The point of this thread was just to see what people thought of the situation, and whether they'd go for it or not. I honestly haven't decided yet.

[falc39]

I'm in agreement that kids in the equation changes the conversation entirely, also if he's in the military serving our country. I personally wouldn't even respond to her if either of those were the case, but to each his own. The point of this thread was just to see what people thought of the situation, and whether they'd go for it or not. I honestly haven't decided yet.

The weird thing in your situation is that coworker seems to be in on it. That adds to difficulty of being discreet. lol, and that's just weird she knew your dad.

[falc39]

Just because she's willing to do something wrong, doesn't mean you should to. 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I don't give a **** about the husband. He might deserve it if he's a shitty husband, but the kids are innocent. Vag is not worth ****ing up a kid's life.

And yea, if you don't do it, it might be some other guy. But at least it won't be you having to live with that guilt for the rest of your life.

Seriously, does ***** mean that much to you guys? Is it that hard to get ***** from girls that are single?

I know more about her and her husband than you ever would. It's a judgement call for me.

Guilt for the rest of my life? Youre talking like I'm about to murder someone . You realize how much this happens nowadays? A lot more than you think. You just never hear about most cases. Take the blinders off.

lol, I haven't even decided yet and white knights are already here negging me. :facepalm

Can't have an honest discussion here...

[rufuspaul]

When I was in dental school I had a 3 month affair with a married chick in my class. I was 23, she was 30. Her husband lived in their house in another city and she had an apartment in Chapel Hill and would see him on the weekends, Holidays, etc. All we did was ****. Never went out, never hardly even spoke to each other when we were in class. She would call and ask me to come over. We'd **** and then I'd head back to my apartment. It was crazy. I remember driving back to my place one night and thinking "what the **** is going on here?" :oldlol: I enjoyed the sex but otherwise really didn't have anything in common with this chick, other than the fact that we were both in dental school. I decided then to stop seeing her. As far as I know she's still married to the same dude.

[Derka]

Sounds like a lot of bullshit down the pipe of you go through with it all in the name of ass. There's other women you could jump that aren't married and intertwined into your professional life. I'd walk away.

[Just2McFly]

When I was in dental school I had a 3 month affair with a married chick in my class. I was 23, she was 30. Her husband lived in their house in another city and she had an apartment in Chapel Hill and would see him on the weekends, Holidays, etc. All we did was ****. Never went out, never hardly even spoke to each other when we were in class. She would call and ask me to come over. We'd **** and then I'd head back to my apartment. It was crazy. I remember driving back to my place one night and thinking "what the **** is going on here?" :oldlol: I enjoyed the sex but otherwise really didn't have anything in common with this chick, other than the fact that we were both in dental school. I decided then to stop seeing her. As far as I know she's still married to the same dude.
better keep check on your wife, karma dude

[rufuspaul]

better keep check on your wife, karma dude

:oldlol: Yeah no doubt. When I look back on that now it was more stress relief for both of us than anything else. I never met her husband. She didn't wear a ring or have any pics of him at her apt. I never really thought of it as cheating. :confusedshrug:

[HardwoodLegend]

:oldlol: Yeah no doubt. When I look back on that now it was more stress relief for both of us than anything else. I never met her husband. She didn't wear a ring or have any pics of him at her apt. I never really thought of it as cheating. :confusedshrug:

You didn't get any bad karma out of the deal.

I'm almost positive her husband was bangin out something of his own.

[boozehound]

It's not your responsibility to keep her marriage together. Go for it.
this is my view as well (for any relationship). Unless her husband is your friend, you have no obligation to keep her from straying.

[boozehound]

I'm in agreement that kids in the equation changes the conversation entirely, also if he's in the military serving our country. I personally wouldn't even respond to her if either of those were the case, but to each his own. The point of this thread was just to see what people thought of the situation, and whether they'd go for it or not. I honestly haven't decided yet.
kids, yes. Career path? No.

[CeltsGarlic]

bros before hoes, but you dont even know the guy, so fvck it/ her.

[n00bie]

I know more about her and her husband than you ever would. It's a judgement call for me.

Guilt for the rest of my life? Youre talking like I'm about to murder someone . You realize how much this happens nowadays? A lot more than you think. You just never hear about most cases. Take the blinders off.

lol, I haven't even decided yet and white knights are already here negging me. :facepalm

Can't have an honest discussion here...

Depending on how old the kids are, a broken home is pretty much like the end of the world.

Guess it's all worth it, since you get to stick your dick in a vag right?

[Bladers]

The siren call of puss*y renders all men powerless.

[chosen_one6]

Dude, if she's throwin her pu*sy at you then what makes you think she wouldnt do it to another guy if you turn it down?

Hubby obviously isn't putting it down anymore so she's looking elsewhere. Give her the D my man. Just be very careful not to get caught.

[TheReal Kendall]

I had a chance to get with this married chick that's 32. She was all over me in the club so I go her number and whatnot. She got a couple of kids and said her husband be out of town during the week and she said had no problem cheating on him(red flag). I couldn't go through with it cause you never know how crazy her husband was. Like messing with someone's wife people will kill you over that. She definitely isn't loyal to him and it ain't no telling how many times she done cheated on him. So I just decided not to text her anymore and deleted her number but I kinda regret it cause she was fine. At the end of the day though I wouldn't want anybody to pipe down my wife if I was married and I know I would be out for blood if they did. So I say don't do it.

[D.J.]

There's plenty of single girls out there. Mixing business with pleasure is bad for obvious reasons. But if the husband finds out and has even 1 screw loose, it will not end well for you. People have been killed over shit like this. The potential for drama is way too high.

[Rake2204]

As someone else mentioned in this thread, in situations like this, I tend to make myself think of the worst case scenario. I don't do this to be randomly pessimistic. Rather, I find it often brings me back down to Earth, where the right decision becomes clearer and more logical.

I believe in a lot of cases like this, we already know what we should do, we just have some trouble getting ourselves to that point. It's always tough to turn away from situations where one is hitting it off with an attractive member of the opposite sex. But for me, there's been a few times where I knew it just wasn't the right move to carry through with, so I found a way to get past it. I usually end up looking back and thinking about how I totally should have done it, but that's only because I'm completely disregarding all the reasons I didn't do it in the first place.

If it were me in this instance, I think the idea of a tryst would be outweighed by all the potential outcomes of following through with it. I'd still want it, but I'd find a way to quickly avert my attention and move on. Maybe she moves on to cheat with someone else. Maybe the strange turn of events of how I stomped everything out made her realize she was about to do something jacked up. Either way, at least I wouldn't have to deal with any potential consequences.

[nathanjizzle]

its obvious that girls out here are cold hearted she devils. be careful who your with and especially who you marry.

[Bladers]

Dude, if she's throwin her pu*sy at you then what makes you think she wouldnt do it to another guy if you turn it down?

Hubby obviously isn't putting it down anymore so she's looking elsewhere. Give her the D my man. Just be very careful not to get caught.

Why do people think that people cheat cause they partner ain't satisfying them in bed? or aint treating them right? no.

People cheat because they cheat. it 70% has nothing to do with whats happening at home. He might be the best husband ever. but women will still cheat on him with some homeless dude off the street if they could.

There are millions of people around the world in relationships cheating as i type. its not cause they relationship is in bad shape.

humans are always looking for thrillls and a new toy.

[chosen_one6]

Why do people think that people cheat cause they partner ain't satisfying them in bed? or aint treating them right? no.

People cheat because they cheat. it 70% has nothing to do with whats happening at home. He might be the best husband ever. but women will still cheat on him with some homeless dude off the street if they could.

There are millions of people around the world in relationships cheating as i type. its not cause they relationship is in bad shape.

humans are always looking for thrillls and a new toy.

Because it's true. I'm pretty sure I've talked to enough women to know. It just comes down to whether you can control the impulse or not to get better sex elsewhere.

[IcanzIIravor]

I would at least wait until she is no longer a client before hooking Up with her. The fact that others picked up on the flirting would also make me not pull the trigger until she is no longer a client or I am no longer working their.

[Bladers]

Because it's true. I'm pretty sure I've talked to enough women to know. It just comes down to whether you can control the impulse or not to get better sex elsewhere.

no its not true. that's what you have been programmed to believe.
you completely missed it. Its not "better sex". Its "new sex", a "new thrill", "sex itself".
It could be worse but to them its like a baby meeting santa claus.

Thats why when women cheat they get withdrawn from their partner, emotional, sexually, their everyday life change.

it has nothing to do with better sex. its simply sex. it could be worse yet they are more into it.

you need to look into psychology, i'm sure they have stuff on this.

remember its not "better" its just "sex". could be worse, yet u call it the best because its "new" and with someone "different".

50% of sex has to do with the mind and someone's mindset.

[L.Kizzle]

Lol, no one is gettin killed. Just get the psuuy, damn.

[Bladers]

Because it's true. I'm pretty sure I've talked to enough women to know. It just comes down to whether you can control the impulse or not to get better sex elsewhere.
Another angle to think about it from. At some point evry one of us has been cheated on. even the best of us. the ones with the best game and the biggest c*ck.

That shows u it has little to do with sex.

[red1]

if she was just dating the other guy and wasnt married to him then I would just go ahead with it and then just let the guy know that his girl is a hoe

since they are married it would be a scumbag move since you are condoning cheating

[chosen_one6]

no its not true. that's what you have been programmed to believe.
you completely missed it. Its not "better sex". Its "new sex", a "new thrill", "sex itself".
It could be worse but to them its like a baby meeting santa claus.

Thats why when women cheat they get withdrawn from their partner, emotional, sexually, their everyday life change.

it has nothing to do with better sex. its simply sex. it could be worse yet they are more into it.

you need to look into psychology, i'm sure they have stuff on this.

remember its not "better" its just "sex". could be worse, yet u call it the best because its "new" and with someone "different".

50% of sex has to do with the mind and someone's mindset.

Programmed to believe? The f*ck are you talking about?

I formed my opinion from the girls that I've had sex with and the girls that I've talked to.

I'm not saying it's all because they want better sex. Yes, some of it is because they want variety. However, in a relationship that has been going on as long as the one the OP is talking about, it's very likely that she's just no longer physically attracted to her man and/or he's not satisfying her sexually.

I GUARANTEE you if you lay it down on your woman and treat her right not just sexually but emotionally and mentally as well, she will stick with you through thick and thin.

[ace23]

It's really not that serious. **** her and move on.

[Bladers]

Programmed to believe? The f*ck are you talking about?

I formed my opinion from the girls that I've had sex with and the girls that I've talked to.

I'm not saying it's all because they want better sex. Yes, some of it is because they want variety. However, in a relationship that has been going on as long as the one the OP is talking about, it's very likely that she's just no longer physically attracted to her man and/or he's not satisfying her sexually.

I GUARANTEE you if you lay it down on your woman and treat her right not just sexually but emotionally and mentally as well, she will stick with you through thick and thin.

All am saying is, the people being cheated with wont necessarily be better at sex.
and that "better sex" is more subjective than it is objective, because theres so much that goes into it other than the physical friction.

[red1]

It's really not that serious. **** her and move on.
karma - your girl is gonna cheat on you sometime down the road

[chosen_one6]

All am saying is, the people being cheated with wont necessarily be better at sex.
and that "better sex" is more subjective than it is objective, because theres so much that goes into it other than the physical friction.

You're right, the person the woman or man ends up cheating with may not be that great at sex and then the cheater ultimately ends up regretting it and they never do it again OR they find someone else if they're really adamant on finding someone to fulfill their sexual desires.

Personally I feel that if it gets to that level then the relationship is dead anyway, but that's just my opinion.

[bmulls]

It's really not that serious. **** her and move on.

Or just find a different girl that isn't married and skip all the drama.

[D.J.]

Can't live life scared people may be nuts and kill you, homie.


The fact you and some of the others are condoning this is disturbing. There are tons of single women. Let her husband deal with her and find someone else who is single. Karma has a way of biting you in the ass.

[boozehound]

Another angle to think about it from. At some point evry one of us has been cheated on. even the best of us. the ones with the best game and the biggest c*ck.

That shows u it has little to do with sex.
wait. werent you a saving it till marriage virgin till 3 months ago? http://i.qkme.me/355srt.jpg