Do straight guys do this?

[joe]

Sit next to another guy on a couch (who they presume to be straight) with their legs touching the other guys legs? Even if there's enough legroom where you didn't have to sit that way?

Also, the same thing with arms? Just sitting close enough that your arms are touching another straight guys arms, even if you could easily just shuffle over a little bit and avoid it?

And not just momentarily brushing a guys leg/arm with your leg/arm, but sitting like that for a minute/a few minutes before getting up or changing positions?

Is this normal behavior for a straight male? Would you guys ever do these things? How would you react if another guy sat next to you like that?

What do you straight fellas think?

[joe]

Double question if you're Spanish or from South America- is it a cultural thing with you guys? Maybe sitting so close to someone is more the norm down there.

[miller-time]

I don't know, there probably are cultural differences (my friend lived with a Chinese exchange student that would hold hands or lock arms with him in public). But generally guys touching each other is avoided unless you are unaware or if you are in a confined space. I was in a cramped car not too long ago and I had to put my arm around a mate for the whole ride, but it was fine because it was practical. If I just put my arm around him on a couch he would probably move it away or give me a "what are you doing?" look.

But it would be the same (at least for me) with a girl. If I am just friends with her I would probably keep myself to myself. Although I've never had an extremely close girl friend (not girlfriend) so it might be different in that situation. Depends on them really.

[joe]

I don't know, there probably are cultural differences (my friend lived with a Chinese exchange student that would hold hands or lock arms with him in public). But generally guys touching each other is avoided unless you are unaware or if you are in a confined space. I was in a cramped car not too long ago and I had to put my arm around a mate for the hole ride, but it was fine because it was practical. If I just put my arm around him on a couch he would probably move it away or give me a "what are you doing?" look.

But it would be the same (at least for me) with a girl. If I am just friends with her I would probably keep myself to myself. Although I've never had an extremely close girl friend (not girlfriend) so it might be different in that situation. Depends on them really.

Hm

I've had a couple girls sit really close to me like that, and they were both interested in me (I found out later).

Now that I think about it, I do have a different male friend who would do this sometimes. But I know for sure he's straight, this other one I'm still analyzing. haha

[Ron Jeremy]

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[macmac]

Hm

I've had a couple girls sit really close to me like that, and they were both interested in me (I found out later).

Now that I think about it, I do have a different male friend who would do this sometimes. But I know for sure he's straight, this other one I'm still analyzing. haha

I think once you turn 10, you're not gonna worry so much about this kind of stuff

[joe]

I think once you turn 10, you're not gonna worry so much about this kind of stuff

Just answer the question biatch

[macmac]

Just answer the question biatch

It's a bit awkward when someone initiates random physical contact, Ill usually pull away instinctively, or ask them to move over if they're invading my personal space. Some people are more touchy feely than others. But i don't sit there and analyze their sexuality or what it could potentially mean. Its a non issue, unless the dude pulls his **** out and asks you to stroke it, you shouldn't be too worried about your knees brushing

[joe]

It's a bit awkward when someone initiates random physical contact, Ill usually pull away instinctively, or ask them to move over if they're invading my personal space. Some people are more touchy feely than others. But i don't sit there and analyze their sexuality or what it could potentially mean. Its a non issue, unless the dude pulls his **** out and asks you to stroke it, you shouldn't be too worried about your knees brushing

Thx, sorry for calling you a biatch :cry: :D

I'm analyzing his sexuality cause I WANT him to not be straight, know what I meannnn :P

[macmac]

Thx, sorry for calling you a biatch :cry: :D

I'm analyzing his sexuality cause I WANT him to not be straight, know what I meannnn :P

Ah well i dont have much advice on that. Must be hard to hit on someone on the dlo that might not ever even be on the market.

Isnt' there a gaydar app on the iphone? lol

[joe]

Ah well i dont have much advice on that. Must be hard to hit on someone on the dlo that might not ever even be on the market.

Isnt' there a gaydar app on the iphone? lol

I know. lol. And knowing if you're honest about how you feel they might hate you, and you can lose a friend.

lol If not there should be, because I wasn't born with one at alllll.

[miller-time]

I know. lol. And knowing if you're honest about how you feel they might hate you, and you can lose a friend.

Can you gauge his feelings towards homosexuality in general? I don't really see why he would hate you? Might make for an awkward friendship though, similar sort of thing if you hit on a friend that was a girl.

[joe]

Can you gauge his feelings towards homosexuality in general? I don't really see why he would hate you? Might make for an awkward friendship though, similar sort of thing if you hit on a friend that was a girl.

Yeah, he says he hates gay people/homosexuality. But he had a cousin come out recently and I guess that changed his perspective somewhat. But not really.

I should just take him at face value on this subject. But other times I wonder if he really is just hiding his own sexuality with that attitude. Not because of the stereotype that anti-gay people are secretly gay, but because of things like what I wrote in my initial post. But maybe that's just me hoping meaningless actions have meaning.

[Scholar]

I've noticed this is common among foreigners. I'm not xenophobic, but I do pay attention to how different foreigners act compared to what I consider the norm in American society.
For instance, at my job, I encounter a lot of foreign born truck drivers. Whenever they talk to me, they stand EXTREMELY close. I'll take a few steps back, they don't seem to understand why & just get closer. It continues until I have to ask them to stop standing so close. A few I've encountered have been confused by my dislike of them being so close, but most just leave it alone after that.
I have cousins who weren't born or raised in the USA. Now that they're here, they have a hard time forgetting their cultural differences. Whereas where they're from, it might be normal to see a group of straight men walking together hand-in-hand, they just don't seem to get that it's unacceptable in the US.

Lastly, I've never had a straight friend sit close to me like that. Usually my friends and I won't even sit on the same couch together. :oldlol: None of us are homophobic (or at least I like to believe) but we still avoid making any physical contact that would seem fruity.

[Jello]

Yeah, he says he hates gay people/homosexuality. But he had a cousin come out recently and I guess that changed his perspective somewhat. But not really.

I should just take him at face value on this subject. But other times I wonder if he really is just hiding his own sexuality with that attitude. Not because of the stereotype that anti-gay people are secretly gay, but because of things like what I wrote in my initial post. But maybe that's just me hoping meaningless actions have meaning.
Weren't you the guy that said you were bi?

[nathanjizzle]

american, no we dont do that, protocol is to not even urinate next to another man, you have to go to the next urinal over. but, in other cultures outside of america they are alot more friendly, in vietnam kids still hold hands as a sign of friendship, and young adults still put there arms around eachother as a sign of friendship.

[Charlie Sheen]

Yeah, he says he hates gay people/homosexuality. But he had a cousin come out recently and I guess that changed his perspective somewhat. But not really.

I should just take him at face value on this subject. But other times I wonder if he really is just hiding his own sexuality with that attitude. Not because of the stereotype that anti-gay people are secretly gay, but because of things like what I wrote in my initial post. But maybe that's just me hoping meaningless actions have meaning.

Does this friend know you like men? would it be a 2 punch combo of shocking news, you're bi and you think he's cute.

[Rubio2Gasol]

Double question if you're Spanish or from South America- is it a cultural thing with you guys? Maybe sitting so close to someone is more the norm down there.

I'm Spanish...it's normal. People from the States are always overly conservative about personal space and touching etc.

[Andrew Wiggins]

op is a fakkit

[PHX_Phan]

I don't think making a little skin-to-skin contact with another person makes you gay or straight if it's a female, so I don't think about it like that. I'm not going to assume a guy is gay if it was more comfortable for him to rest his leg and it happens to brush up against mine. :facepalm I'm the opposite where I might assume a guy is gay if he makes a big deal about things like that. I get the idea that its a front because dude fears being outed.

Then again, I don't care too much about what other people think about my actions. I went to PRIDE with a bunch of my gay friends. I'm sure most people assumed I was gay considering the group I was in, and I had a bunch of guys hit on me. No big deal. I know what I like and that's all that matters.

[Rubio2Gasol]

In this situation how well do you know this person? I mean it would be uncommon for complete strangers to deliberately do this.

[kentatm]

If its somebody I don't know I don't want them on top of me like that.

But guys I've been friends with for a bit its not an issue really.

Sure I'd want them to move over so I can stretch out but its not something I'd really care about.

I lived in a frat house in college though so I got used to not having enough space.

[knickballer]

If he's a foreigner then no since alot of cultures are okay with with their sexuality, some don't mind sleeping in a bed with another man or just doing a lot of touching in general.

But for Americans its different everyone wants to be independent and are weird when it comes to personal space. But if they are friends I'm guessing they are just fuxkng with eachither.

I like my personal space but I don't freak out if someone's in the next urinal or sits next to me. I mean the ancient Greeks were wrestling naked in the Olympics...

[Rubio2Gasol]

Unless you guys are extremely rich...if you want to travel across Europe or Latin America you have to get over stuff like this. Staying in hostels, rooms with 10 people in a small hotel room, there's nothing like privacy or personal space.

[LJJ]

If he's a foreigner then no since alot of cultures are okay with with their sexuality, some don't mind sleeping in a bed with another man or just doing a lot of touching in general.

Damn that is awkwardly worded. A lot cultures have different standards on platonic physical contact. Sex is completely out of the equation here.

[Eat Like A Bosh]

Personally I wouldn't consider that normal. It's just not the norm. I don't even do that with my closest guy friends, unless we're just joking around or simply in a confined space. I mean, it's natural human instinct to pull away when a stranger gets that close right? "You're invading my personal space"

But if they're from a different culture, then yea it's a whole different story. What country were they from again?

[knickballer]

Damn that is awkwardly worded. A lot cultures have different standards on platonic physical contact. Sex is completely out of the equation here.

Lol iwasnt talking about actual sexuak intercourse

My message got lost in translation since I'm typing on my phone

I'm just trying to say Americans are more worried when it comes to personal space

[joe]

I'm Spanish...it's normal. People from the States are always overly conservative about personal space and touching etc.

Thanks, I'm guessing that's probabbllyyy the misunderstanding.

[joe]

Does this friend know you like men? would it be a 2 punch combo of shocking news, you're bi and you think he's cute.

Nope, he has no idea. I think it would be way too shocking if I told him both of those things. The first one I think he could live with, the second one, unless he's secretly into guys, idk. I could see why he wouldn't want to hang out with me knowing that.

[joe]

op is a fakkit

Andrew Wiggins is.. a.. good basketball player..

:mad:

[lilblingy]

yes, something like that has happened between me and a best friend of mines. I honestly thought nothing of it.