Anyone else on here introverted?

[Jameerthefear]

Homecoming is coming up soon for me and I already know it's going to be exactly like last year: me sitting at home and watching anime. Not necessarily a bad thing since I hate crowds of people, but I always feel bad about it. Like "oh i should have went" or something like that. I'm always thinking of girls I wanna ask out, but I know I never will because it's so hard for me to get out of my comfort zone. I'm not really socially awkward just terrible at interacting with people I don't know.

Anyways I'm just one of those people who prefer to just be alone. Social interaction tires my body out completely. It was really bad how much I stayed in the house over the summer since I got out of shape for the season and now I'm paying for it. To give you an estimate I don't think I even had 2k posts before this Summer started. Everytime someone wanted to hang out I made excuses. I may sound like a complete loser here, but I'm just really bad at interacting outside of my circle of friends. Unless we're talking about the NBA or something.

Sorry ISH had to get that off my chest. I want to here more about you guys though, so /discuss :cheers:

[BrooklynZoo]

im sure a lot on here are. esp the trolls

[Budadiiii]

I enjoy both being with people and being by myself to think about personal things without distraction. If I'm with people for an extended period of time I can get worn out or agitated, likewise with being alone, so with most things, a balance is a recipe for sanity

[Le Shaqtus]

The test and experts says I'm an introvert but honestly I'm like 60% Introvert 40% Extrovert

Naturally I'm an introvert but I do enjoy the company of people and going to social gatherings i.e parties, concerts, bars/clubs etc. I do like socializing and the company of others (Which is ironic because I hate people) but deep down I do like being by myself maybe just watching basketball with a beer in my hand or something, that makes me happy.

There is nothing wrong with being either. Social anxiety is a part of life, besides you're gonna experience a shit ton of it since you're young as *****, 15-17 was an awkward time for me and it will be for you too, but it'll be a good time if you know how to be happy.

Also go to homecoming, you're only in high school once unless you want to be a super senior.

[B-Low]

I'm the exact opposite. I'm a complete extrovert. I lose my mind when I'm just sitting at home alone or not talking to anyone. Honestly I think it's because I'm a severe overthinker. When I'm alone I spend way too much time thinking, and all kinds of shit runs thru my head. Stress about work, life, etc. I like to keep myself distracted by interacting with other people. There was a thread about texting a few months ago and like I said there's months where I send 10,000-12,000 texts. I dunno I just love social interaction.

The only time where I 100% prefer to be alone is when I work out. I don't do gyms, don't do group workouts, don't exercise with friends. That's my "me" time. Everything else I prefer to be around groups of people

[TheSilentKiller]

I moved during my sophomore year of high school so I became pretty introverted during high school. As a senior in college I am much more outgoing now and having a much better time with life.

[Jameerthefear]

The test and experts says I'm an introvert but honestly I'm like 60% Introvert 40% Extrovert

Naturally I'm an introvert but I do enjoy the company of people and going to social gatherings i.e parties, concerts, bars/clubs etc. I do like socializing and the company of others (Which is ironic because I hate people) but deep down I do like being by myself maybe just watching basketball with a beer in my hand or something, that makes me happy.

There is nothing wrong with being either. Social anxiety is a part of life, besides you're gonna experience a shit ton of it since you're young as *****, 15-17 was an awkward time for me and it will be for you too, but it'll be a good time if you know how to be happy.

Also go to homecoming, you're only in high school once unless you want to be a super senior.
I'll think about going. If someone asks me out I'll go :D

[Le Shaqtus]

I'll think about going. If someone asks me out I'll go :D

Dawg you gotta ask a girl :lol this is America, ain't no girl gonna come out and ask you to prom unless:

1) You're going with a girl who's a friend
2) Some girl really wants to jump your gentlemans vegetables.

Thats a mans job

[CeltsGarlic]

More extrovert. I hate being alone on weekends, so I dont. Unless I dont have any plans, or no friends are available which obviously sometimes happens, I dont mind sitting alone, and playing pc games, watching tv playing basketball alone. Im just that cool with myself.

friends tho make everything better. But I get tired of them after a while. We once spend 2 weeks 3 guys just hanging together, living at each other places. That was 2-3 years ago. I was 17-18 I think.

[Le Shaqtus]

I hate being alone at weekends

This more than anything, I don't care on the weekdays because I'm at school but I hate doing nothing on a weekend unless there's a big game or something. Other than that I need to be out of the house.

[ace23]

Most people on message boards are.

[Jameerthefear]

Dawg you gotta ask a girl :lol this is America, ain't no girl gonna come out and ask you to prom unless:

1) You're going with a girl who's a friend
2) Some girl really wants to jump your gentlemans vegetables.

Thats a mans job
Talking to girls is hard.

[mmsupra]

Man just be like I'm a Magic fan and they be like oh yea word then the rest is history:roll:

[Le Shaqtus]

Talking to girls is hard.

F*cking tell me about it dude.

Trying having your girlfriend leave you for someone else, it totally kills all your confidence :oldlol: Just talk to girls in your classes.

[gts]

Talking to girls is hard.

They don't bite. It never hurts to ask. Don't go for the social butterfly, find a girl who seems quiet like you, maybe a bit shy/reserved and ask her to the homecoming. She might say no and that's ok but she might say yes.

[iamgine]

I am 100% introvert according to some test.

The thought of going out meeting new people is very unpleasant to me.

Dinners, birthday, weddings. All events with meaningless small talk and conversations. They are all very unpleasant.

Watching anime is pretty gay though. At least watch a good series...LOST or something.

[HardwoodLegend]

I don't know how one could watch anime on such a regular basis.

It's not bad. I'll watch some anime after watching 20 or so films, but to have it be the majority of one's viewing is bizarre.

[Jameerthefear]

They don't bite. It never hurts to ask. Don't go for the social butterfly, find a girl who seems quiet like you, maybe a bit shy/reserved and ask her to the homecoming. She might say no and that's ok but she might say yes.
I try, but it turns out badly usually :lol

[HardwoodLegend]

Trying having your girlfriend leave you for someone else, it totally kills all your confidence :oldlol: Just talk to girls in your classes.

What did he have that you didn't? Did you ever figure it out?

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Look kid I'm as big of a natural loner as any who likes to think and embraces solitude but being an introvert is no excuse for not getting your social needs met or providing companionship to others. All you have to do is get rid of any of your self-consciousness and just express yourself.

All it means is that you get energized from staying away from people. Your habits make your destiny. So get on it. Because there are more than 300 milli people out there in the U.S. and chances are you're not a special snowflake. There are others interested in spending time with you.

[B-Low]

I try, but it turns out badly usually :lol

It's simple really tho. Just make small talk and adjust on the fly. Don't start a conversation to specifically talk about Homecoming, but instead work it into a conversation you're already having

You: "So are you going to Homecoming?"

If she says yes, she'll more than likely ask if you are too. If she already says she's got a date/she's going, then just play it off and move on

You: "Nah probably not. Not really my kinda thing. Have fun though"

If she says no...

You: "Oh how come?"

If she says she's not going because she doesn't have a date...

You: "yeah me neither" (kinda gague the look on her face after that. you'll be able to tell if she's thinking 'go with me')

If she looks like she might want you to ask her

You: "well if you wanna go maybe we could go together?"

Worst that will really happen if you word it like that is she'll say "maybe" to leave the option open

[gts]

I try, but it turns out badly usually :lol


Keep trying, be yourself. Don't try and act cool or strike a pose :lol

I was the shiest/shyest? sp* kid in school around girls, luckily I was also the most stubborn. if I could get over it anyone can

[Le Shaqtus]

What did he have that you didn't? Did you ever figure it out?

If I knew I'd tell you but I have no idea, I'm pretty much over it at this point though, I'll live :lol The only problem is I have to start meeting people now.

[Jameerthefear]

It's simple really tho. Just make small talk and adjust on the fly. Don't start a conversation to specifically talk about Homecoming, but instead work it into a conversation you're already having

You: "So are you going to Homecoming?"

If she says yes, she'll more than likely ask if you are too. If she already says she's got a date/she's going, then just play it off and move on

You: "Nah probably not. Not really my kinda thing. Have fun though"

If she says no...

You: "Oh how come?"

If she says she's not going because she doesn't have a date...

You: "yeah me neither" (kinda gague the look on her face after that. you'll be able to tell if she's thinking 'go with me')

If she looks like she might want you to ask her

You: "well if you wanna go maybe we could go together?"

Worst that will really happen if you word it like that is she'll say "maybe" to leave the option open
The problem is that for me anything that can go wrong will go wrong in some way. I'll say something unbelievably stupid.

Keep trying, be yourself. Don't try and act cool or strike a pose :lol

I was the shiest/shyest? sp* kid in school around girls, luckily I was also the most stubborn. if I could get over it anyone can
Don't worry i couldn't act cool if i tried :lol

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Talking to girls is hard.

You serious?

It's the easiest thing in the world.

The hard part is building stable male friendships IMO.

[CeltsGarlic]

dont be scary pants, jameer. Remember when Jameer banked that 3 against the celtics? Bank yo girl the same way.

[B-Low]

The problem is that for me anything that can go wrong will go wrong in some way. I'll say something unbelievably stupid.

The thing to remember is girls love to talk. Too damn much. But in your case use that to your advantage. The less you say the better.

Just react with as few words as possible. Don't try to be cool or funny, just react lol. If she asks how your day is going, say "pretty good, how bout yours". If she asks if you're excited for Homecoming, say "eh maybe a little, how bout you?". Shit if she even asks what your favorite food is say "I'll eat just about anything, how bout you?"

Let her do the majority of the talking and just react when you see a window

[CeltsGarlic]

The thing to remember is girls love to talk. Too damn much. But in your case use that to your advantage. The less you say the better.

Just react with as few words as possible. Don't try to be cool or funny, just react lol. If she asks how your day is going, say "pretty good, how bout yours". If she asks if you're excited for Homecoming, say "eh maybe a little, how bout you?". Shit if she even asks what your favorite food is say "I'll eat just about anything, how bout you?"

Let her do the majority of the talking and just react when you see a window

"how many other gurls you had sex before", "eh, I had my fair share, how about you?"

[gts]

The problem is that for me anything that can go wrong will go wrong in some way. I'll say something unbelievably stupid.

Don't worry i couldn't act cool if i tried :lol

Everybody says something stupid. You'll say something dumb she'll say something dumb.. Don't worry about it.

Is there a certain girl you'd like to ask? Is that what's causing all the trepidation?

[TheReal Kendall]

Homecoming is coming up soon for me and I already know it's going to be exactly like last year: me sitting at home and watching anime. Not necessarily a bad thing since I hate crowds of people, but I always feel bad about it. Like "oh i should have went" or something like that. I'm always thinking of girls I wanna ask out, but I know I never will because it's so hard for me to get out of my comfort zone. I'm not really socially awkward just terrible at interacting with people I don't know.

Anyways I'm just one of those people who prefer to just be alone. Social interaction tires my body out completely. It was really bad how much I stayed in the house over the summer since I got out of shape for the season and now I'm paying for it. To give you an estimate I don't think I even had 2k posts before this Summer started. Everytime someone wanted to hang out I made excuses. I may sound like a complete loser here, but I'm just really bad at interacting outside of my circle of friends. Unless we're talking about the NBA or something.

Sorry ISH had to get that off my chest. I want to here more about you guys though, so /discuss :cheers:

You need to get out and enjoy your youth bro.

When you get older you gonna wish you would've went to all the functions.

Get out and meet a girl and get your knob wet:cheers:

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Everybody says something stupid. You'll say something dumb she'll say something dumb.. Don't worry about it.

Is there a certain girl you'd like to ask? Is that what's causing all the trepidation?

I'm nowhere near as witty or sharp as I was five years ago and it hasn't affected my social life one bit.

Back when I was a teen I was one of those dudes who can come up with the most outrageous clever stuff on the fly.. a pun, a reference, a rant, a story you name it. Now I just talk like a normal boring ass adult with a splash of charm here and there and it achieves the same exact result. Good times.

Make no mistake about it as dudes.. whenever we hear a riposte or a solid dialogue exchange in a film or a damn good comeback or a solid aphorism chock full of meaning; a light bulb goes off and RINGS "DING DING DING HIGH QUALITY".. but that stuff don't play out in real life. We're far more interested in actions and feelings it seems.

I'd imagine the people freaking about if they say something stupid have literally no reference as to how utterly uncaring most people are towards others. At worst they'd call you an idiot. So what? We all are. But a name is just a name like a rose is a rose and a crane beats a GoRapz.

[gts]

I'm nowhere near as witty or sharp as I was five years ago and it hasn't affected my social life one bit.

Back when I was a teen I was one of those dudes who can come up with the most outrageous clever stuff on the fly.. a pun, a reference, a rant, a story you name it. Now I just talk like a normal boring ass adult with a splash of charm here and there and it achieves the same exact result. Good times.

Make no mistake about it as dudes.. whenever we hear a riposte or a solid dialogue exchange in a film or a damn good comeback or a solid aphorism chock full of meaning; a light bulb goes off and RINGS "DING DING DING HIGH QUALITY".. but that stuff don't play out in real life. We're far more interested in actions and feelings it seems.

I'd imagine the people freaking about if they say something stupid have literally no reference as to how utterly uncaring most people are towards others. At worst they'd call you an idiot. So what? We all are. But a name is just a name like a rose is a rose and a crane beats a GoRapz.

I think the biggest false assumption we make is when we go into an uncomfortable situation we assume the other person or persons are at ease and feeling comfortable, when the truth is they're just as nervous as you are.

It's been a while since I was around here but if you remember I'm a driver coach, I used to hate getting up in front of a group till it dawned on me one morning, shit these people are about to climb into a racecar for their first time they're scared shitless, I've got the easy part :lol

[Stuckey]

I'm a super extrovert

I can't be alone. When I'm home alone and no one to chill with, I walk around my neighborhood and force convos with strangers. Picked up quite a few cuties with this extroversion "problem".

I almost always go to the bball court to talk with my friends there even when I don't plan to play though most times, I get peer pressured to even if I'm wearing flip flops.

Anyways, I use to be a big introvert because I was a socially retarded narcissist. I broke outta my shell when I lost weight and got a lot of unexpected attention.

You should force yourself out of your comfort zones and experience whatever it is you want to experience.

[COnDEMnED]

Homecoming is coming up soon for me and I already know it's going to be exactly like last year: me sitting at home and watching anime. Not necessarily a bad thing since I hate crowds of people, but I always feel bad about it. Like "oh i should have went" or something like that. I'm always thinking of girls I wanna ask out, but I know I never will because it's so hard for me to get out of my comfort zone. I'm not really socially awkward just terrible at interacting with people I don't know.

Anyways I'm just one of those people who prefer to just be alone. Social interaction tires my body out completely. It was really bad how much I stayed in the house over the summer since I got out of shape for the season and now I'm paying for it. To give you an estimate I don't think I even had 2k posts before this Summer started. Everytime someone wanted to hang out I made excuses. I may sound like a complete loser here, but I'm just really bad at interacting outside of my circle of friends. Unless we're talking about the NBA or something.

Sorry ISH had to get that off my chest. I want to here more about you guys though, so /discuss :cheers:
For my high school graduation, way back when, I opted to ditch the graduation ceremony and go party with a case of beer I convinced my uncle to buy me. I found a friend or two who wanted to join me, had my diploma sent to me in the mail. I regret nothing. :cheers:

[Jameerthefear]

The thing to remember is girls love to talk. Too damn much. But in your case use that to your advantage. The less you say the better.

Just react with as few words as possible. Don't try to be cool or funny, just react lol. If she asks how your day is going, say "pretty good, how bout yours". If she asks if you're excited for Homecoming, say "eh maybe a little, how bout you?". Shit if she even asks what your favorite food is say "I'll eat just about anything, how bout you?"

Let her do the majority of the talking and just react when you see a window
the girl i like is someone that probably wouldn't go to homecoming, so where should i ask her to go?
also forgot about the issue of her being white too.

[gts]

the girl i like is someone that probably wouldn't go to homecoming, so where should i ask her to go?
also forgot about the issue of her being white too. Is there a homecoming game before the homecoming dance?

[HarryCallahan]

the girl i like is someone that probably wouldn't go to homecoming, so where should i ask her to go?
also forgot about the issue of her being white too.

Does it matter? Are her folks racist?

[SpurrDurr]

I think you could find some sort of girl thru social media channels, that will change everything in your life.

It will boost your confidence, push you out of your comfort zone and eventually it ll make easier talking to other girls.

Nonetheless while you are in a relationship other girls value you more and try to hit on you harder.

Just don't be picky for your 1st girl and try to drop a bit your anime fixation, it's weird tbh.

[1987_Lakers]

I used to be extremely introverted, I've become a little more extroverted in the last couple of years, but I still consider myself introverted.

I'm the type of guy that can be at a crazy party & enjoy myself then be completely alone the next day and not be bored.

[ukballer]

I'm definitely an introvert too. I like spending time with my close friends, but going to parties with lots of new people around isn't an easy and normal thing for me to do. I don't being in my own company though, and I enjoy the simple things in life too like playing video games, watching TV, playing sport etc which helps me get over any initial annoyance at myself for passing up on a few things.

[johndeeregreen]

Homecoming is coming up soon for me and I already know it's going to be exactly like last year: me sitting at home and watching anime. Not necessarily a bad thing since I hate crowds of people, but I always feel bad about it. Like "oh i should have went" or something like that. I'm always thinking of girls I wanna ask out, but I know I never will because it's so hard for me to get out of my comfort zone. I'm not really socially awkward just terrible at interacting with people I don't know.

Anyways I'm just one of those people who prefer to just be alone. Social interaction tires my body out completely. It was really bad how much I stayed in the house over the summer since I got out of shape for the season and now I'm paying for it. To give you an estimate I don't think I even had 2k posts before this Summer started. Everytime someone wanted to hang out I made excuses. I may sound like a complete loser here, but I'm just really bad at interacting outside of my circle of friends. Unless we're talking about the NBA or something.

Sorry ISH had to get that off my chest. I want to here more about you guys though, so /discuss :cheers:
There's a difference between introvert and just socially inept. You don't want to be the latter, and although it may take you out of your comfort zone you need to make a bit of an effort. You can't expect people and friendships to just come to you. I understand that you value your alone time, I am much the same, but you don't want to completely cut yourself off. That's gonna set you up for a lot of difficulty in your life. You've gotta to at least be able to function socially.

This is one of the few great parts about anonymity and the Internet. Obviously these feelings are something OP would have a tough time discussing openly with a group of people in real life, and yet he's able to come here and get this off his back, get some advice (good and bad), and understand that others have had similar experiences. All basically without fear.

Best of luck to ya kid.

[GOBB]

Talking to girls is hard.

How else are you going to learn? Trial and error. Practice.

Put yourself out there, start to gain more confidence. If you think reading people's posts will work and happen over night? You're fooling yourself. You're not going to spew what B Low typed out tomorrow and wallah talkin to girls is easy now. It doesn't work that way especially for someone like you.

Takes time. Not a day not a week not a month.

Go to homecoming. You're anime smut stash won't disappear

[Dresta]

I'm the exact opposite. I'm a complete extrovert. I lose my mind when I'm just sitting at home alone or not talking to anyone. Honestly I think it's because I'm a severe overthinker. When I'm alone I spend way too much time thinking, and all kinds of shit runs thru my head. Stress about work, life, etc. I like to keep myself distracted by interacting with other people. There was a thread about texting a few months ago and like I said there's months where I send 10,000-12,000 texts. I dunno I just love social interaction.

The only time where I 100% prefer to be alone is when I work out. I don't do gyms, don't do group workouts, don't exercise with friends. That's my "me" time. Everything else I prefer to be around groups of people
Sounds like you're an introvert that's saturating his brain with so much crap in order to avoid confronting your own thoughts. Basically, a moron.

Only people that have something to hide from themselves can't handle being alone.

@OP - You can be introverted and not socially awkward: simply think about how you should act, what the best ways to come across are, what girls find attractive etc. Then have a couple drinks to calm the nerves and do it again and again until it's second nature. Many of the people you think are impressive socially are heavily insecure and vain, in fact, at your age they probably all are.

[treadster]

I'm an introvert. While i like to talk to my friend and making friends from total strangers, i usually enjoy just being alone playing games, watching TV and reading some good book.

[treadster]

Talking to girls is hard.
Not really, just act like yourself. If you try to act cool you probably make a fool out of yourself.

[Jameerthefear]

Does it matter? Are her folks racist?
Kind of complicated in Alabama. At least where I live, and I really don't want the drama.

There's a difference between introvert and just socially inept. You don't want to be the latter, and although it may take you out of your comfort zone you need to make a bit of an effort. You can't expect people and friendships to just come to you. I understand that you value your alone time, I am much the same, but you don't want to completely cut yourself off. That's gonna set you up for a lot of difficulty in your life. You've gotta to at least be able to function socially.

This is one of the few great parts about anonymity and the Internet. Obviously these feelings are something OP would have a tough time discussing openly with a group of people in real life, and yet he's able to come here and get this off his back, get some advice (good and bad), and understand that others have had similar experiences. All basically without fear.

Best of luck to ya kid.
thanks man. :cheers: i've told people stuff here that I never would have revealed in real life to anyone :D

How else are you going to learn? Trial and error. Practice.

Put yourself out there, start to gain more confidence. If you think reading people's posts will work and happen over night? You're fooling yourself. You're not going to spew what B Low typed out tomorrow and wallah talkin to girls is easy now. It doesn't work that way especially for someone like you.

Takes time. Not a day not a week not a month.

Go to homecoming. You're anime smut stash won't disappear
I'll work on it :D


@OP - You can be introverted and not socially awkward: simply think about how you should act, what the best ways to come across are, what girls find attractive etc. Then have a couple drinks to calm the nerves and do it again and again until it's second nature. Many of the people you think are impressive socially are heavily insecure and vain, in fact, at your age they probably all are.
I can't really have a couple of drinks :lol

[Scholar]

I'm an extrovert living an introvert's lifestyle. It's mostly by choice because it's not like I'm being forced to work a 12 hour/day graveyard shift that causes me to sleep through most of the day.

I used to hang out with friends and always try to do something fun every chance I'd get a few years back, but now I just work, eat, and sleep. Those are my 3 daily routines.

There are definitely days when I feel like I might go crazy if I don't have some sort of social interaction, and usually I would just end up calling a friend and arranging plans, but now all my friends have moved on to bigger, better things. My best friend, the only dude I was regularly keeping in touch with, just moved last Thursday out of state for college.

Now it's come down to having to make new friends or just hangin out with family. Making new friends is difficult for me at the moment since I have practically 0 opportunities to go out and meet new people. :facepalm


Wow... Re-reading my post made me realize I sound like a loser, but I'm really not. As I said earlier, lifestyle changes have drastically altered my "-vert" from extro- to intro-.

[Unstoppabull]

Staying at home watching anime? Geez, if you're staying, at least watch something good, like Breaking Bad or something. Just go. You won't have homecoming forever. Like B-Low, said start a convo by initiating small talk, then work your way towards asking them there. Even if you don't have a date, so what? Just go. Plenty of people go alone.

Here's a cool trick to my brother taught me when we were at a really awkward wedding once. He said that if you are ever in an awkward situation where you don't know anyone or have anybody to talk to, you should keep drinking until the situation doesn't feel awkward anymore, either you will get drunk and start talking to the people or you will eventually black out and won't have to worry about talking. Ya, works great for socially awkward people. I asked him what if there isn't any alcohol around when this happens, he then says "well then you are ****ed" as he takes a big swig of his whiskey.

[K]

Talking to girls is hard.

You have to master the skill of making the girl do the talking for you without making her feel unappreciated, young sensei.

[Segatti]

Why would you want to talk with a 3d pig disgusting when you have many lovely 2d waifus at your disposal? :confusedshrug:

[Thorn]

There's an entire thread somewhere dedicated to awkward moments and a lot of people who posted there mentioned feeling introverted. I'd say a majority of posters (especially the regulars) are introverted.

[Goldrush25]

How else are you going to learn? Trial and error. Practice.

Put yourself out there, start to gain more confidence. If you think reading people's posts will work and happen over night? You're fooling yourself. You're not going to spew what B Low typed out tomorrow and wallah talkin to girls is easy now. It doesn't work that way especially for someone like you.

Takes time. Not a day not a week not a month.

Go to homecoming. You're anime smut stash won't disappear

That's true. I guess the problem with that is that guys like me (the OP, and presumably a lot of bright but introverted men) is that you can do everything right when talking to a girl, and she still ends up not interested. Now, because of experience, I know that there could be millions of reasons why a girl wouldn't be interested, most of which have nothing to do with the guy. But for most of us that still messes with us. I envy guys that just let rejection roll off of their backs like water.

[Jameerthefear]

Why would you want to talk with a 3d pig disgusting when you have many lovely 2d waifus at your disposal? :confusedshrug:
you're speaking truths segatti :applause:

[Jameerthefear]

God dammnit Jameer take my advice from page 3.
What if there are only ugly chicks left tho :confusedshrug:

[Jameerthefear]

Bro, there is always the hot one that is forgotten.

Tell me, are all the hot chicks you know have a date already?
Not all, but I don't have a chance with most of them :lol

[Jameerthefear]

PAGE 2. MOTHER ****ER

GOD DAMNIT JAMEER.

YOU GO THROUGH THE FRIENDS, THE ****ING FRIENDS

THEY. GET. SO. EXCITED. WHEN. YOU. SAY. YOU. WANT. TO. ASK. ONE. OF. THEIR. FRIENDS.

I spend more time on these boards at school and at home when all my friends are off to college and working, that I actually conversant more with you guys, so I consider you my friends.

So if you don't do this my little brother, I will literally contact Anonymous, IP trace you, and slap you on the face if you don't go through with this.

Let me tell you a little secret. You know what the hardest part about getting a girl is? Breaking the ice for it.

Any girl can shut you down, than you end up right where you are if you didn't even bother to start something with her.

You're in high school, girls want attention from men. It's the gold mine for this.

I swear to god Jameer I will make you watch Yugi-Oh! if you do this.
You're making this sound way too easy...
think of all the things that could go wrong. I could trip over my feet, say something dumb etc. :/

[Jameerthefear]

TALK. TO. HER. GOD. DARN. FRIENDS. JAMEER.

Pull friend A aside and say,

"Hey I was thinking about asking [Jameer's Future Date] to homecoming, do you think she would want to go with me?"

Friend A will get SUPER excited, tell all of her B-Z, help you out with an idea. It's so simple my man.

You won't do anything dumb, adrenaline will kick in, even if you are asking her friend, you will be fine.

Do it my brotha.
did you read the "assgrab" thread? i screwed up completely and it lasted for 6 seconds...

[Jameerthefear]

THIS ISN'T THE ASSGRAB THREAD JAMEER.

Follow my advice to the promise land, believe me have faith.
I'm going to try to do something today though. If this fails I blame you

[HarryCallahan]

Listen to your uncle Kyle. Beetches get off on getting other beethches the D.

[Jameerthefear]

Listen to your uncle Kyle. Beetches get off on getting other beethches the D.
but why? :biggums:

[HarryCallahan]

but why? :biggums:

Beetches be crazy man. I doubt we'll ever figure out why they are, the way they are. Just go with the flow and try and use their insanity to your advantage. Talk to her friends.

[treadster]

:lol This thread has turned into a motivational thread for jameer.

[HarryCallahan]

:lol This thread has turned into a motivational thread for jameer.

He's ISH's little bro, and he needs our help. It's not easy being a; Black, anime loving, Orlando magic fan in Alabama...

[Bcogswell]

Your 13 and you have homecoming? :wtf:

[Jameerthefear]

Your 13 and you have homecoming? :wtf:
I'm 15

[Bcogswell]

I'm 15
Either way.. :cheers:

[Le Shaqtus]

did you read the "assgrab" thread? i screwed up completely and it lasted for 6 seconds...

6 seconds? Dear God.

Ass grab takes 1-2 seconds tops, squeeze then book.

Or give her the stank eye so she knows whats up.

[Jameerthefear]

6 seconds? Dear God.

Ass grab takes 1-2 seconds tops, squeeze then book.

Or give her the stank eye so she knows whats up.
I know :banghead: it just kind of happened. :lol

[Jameerthefear]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

[Heavincent]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

Keep your head up buddy.

[Scholar]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

Plenty of fish in the sea, buddy. Rejection from one chick should motivate you to try another. Don't let this bad experience prevent you from hollering at another broad. The funny thing about some girls is that if they reject you and you end up with someone else, they start wondering about what could've been & sometimes come hollering at you.

[Swaggin916]

If you label yourself as an introvert and put stock in it, then you aren't an introvert. I love being on my own and doing things by myself... I can get into a zone I can't get to when others are around and I love it. I love social interaction too just as much. I feel that both fuel each other. The things I learn while on my own I can share during social interaction and the energy I get from social interaction fuels my creativity. A true introvert is just like that though and doesn't need justification or labels to tell them what they are. they don't fear social interaction, they just don't get as much out of it. You sound like you are more like me... a balance of the two but spend more time on your own because it's less stressful.

That being said, I have a bit of social anxiety so it's not always easy to socialize and I don't go out of my way often to do it... but that is because I am not entirely comfortable with myself and rejection. That is dissipating though more and more each day. I have a lot of good qualities that I am focusing more on.

The main thing to realize is that your young and you care about the impression you make. It's a good thing. It's something to get excited about. I was just talking about this with my stepmom tonight who is 61... she told me she wish she cared about impressions as much as she did when she was my age (24). When you get older you tend to stop caring.

[B-Easy8]

Im a bit like you. I dont really enjoy going out and meeting new people. I enjoy being with my close friends/family but dont feel that comfortable in bars/clubs etc. Tonight I have an invite to go out, seeing as though its a Saturday night most people would jump on that, I personally want to stay home and watch the EPL.

In my opinion I really only want to go out if I can find a girl I like, but I hate going to those places to do it. I would rather just find a girl that I like and chill with her like I used to in high school than go to these shitty places.

My advice to you is to talk to girls the few times you do leave the house. If you get shot down, dont let it bother you.

I hope this helped, I havent really read any of the thread outside of the first post.

[Swaggin916]

Im a bit like you. I dont really enjoy going out and meeting new people. I enjoy being with my close friends/family but dont feel that comfortable in bars/clubs etc. Tonight I have an invite to go out, seeing as though its a Saturday night most people would jump on that, I personally want to stay home and watch the EPL.

In my opinion I really only want to go out if I can find a girl I like, but I hate going to those places to do it. I would rather just find a girl that I like and chill with her like I used to in high school than go to these shitty places.

My advice to you is to talk to girls the few times you do leave the house. If you get shot down, dont let it bother you.

I hope this helped, I havent really read any of the thread outside of the first post.

No worries dude most people don't go to clubs at all and go to bars only occasionally and that's only if it's with friends. There are much better ways to meet people. School, Jobs, friends of friends, meetup groups, and online dating are the ways to do it. If you frequent a certain store a lot too or bank or whatever and consistently have good convo with someone who works there that is cool too.

You think everyone goes when you are younger and don't know better cus you see the it in the movies and on TV.. and you think randos hook up left and right. That is just not the case at all lol.

[ILLsmak]

I'm close to 100% introvert, but I'm an INFJ, so most people don't know it.

Bein a nerd doesn't mean you're an introvert, either. The best way to describe it is... do you have to get away or do you feel you seek out social interaction?

I seek social interaction, but I can live without it. I can't live without being able to get away in some shape or form, thus I am an extreme introvert.

But I still dunno why you guys believe this Jameer dude is a real person lol.

-Smak

[Le Shaqtus]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

Trust me homes, girls are everywhere.

You think one is good, but a better one will come along. It's happened to me more often that not and it'll happen again.

Also she don't know what she missin' :pimp:

[Bandito]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything
Try again, and try again and try again until someone say yes.

[ace23]

A true introvert is just like that though and doesn't need justification or labels to tell them what they are. they don't fear social interaction, they just don't get as much out of it.
Most people who fear social interaction are introverts.

I want to say all, but there are probably exceptions.

[Jameerthefear]

Try again, and try again and try again until someone say yes.
fvck that i'm done. homecoming night is now officially "jameer stays home and rewatches the second season of railgun" night.

[AllenIverson3]

Never went to homecoming or any of that high school bs....

[treadster]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything
Don't be depressed, there will be other girl that will accept you.

[HarryCallahan]

fvck that i'm done. homecoming night is now officially "jameer stays home and rewatches the second season of railgun" night.

And jerks off to hentai...

[Jameerthefear]

And jerks off to hentai...
who knows...

[treadster]

OK, jameer is officially depressed.

[Bandito]

fvck that i'm done. homecoming night is now officially "jameer stays home and rewatches the second season of railgun" night.
Ok, whatever. I wouldn't give up if I was you, or just go stag and try to see if you can get lucky and prey for one of those chicks that get dumped in those parties.

[Swaggin916]

Most people who fear social interaction are introverts.

I want to say all, but there are probably exceptions.

I see your point I don't know the exact definition of introvert but if that was the case then the only reason you are introverted is because you are afraid. You might be quite gregarious if you didn't have that fear or got over that fear.

[longtime lurker]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

I'm gonna give you some tough love. Grow a pair and get over it. You've already done the hard part which was asking her and you survived, the world keeps spinning and life goes on. Don't give up. My suggestion is ask the baddest chick in your school or class whatever to go with you, if she says no then ask the next baddest chick and so on. I guarantee you there are a lot of girls that are dying for someone to ask them to homecoming.

Another option is to go to homecoming solo and strike up random conversations. Be that guy that social guy that can move from group to group.

[Jameerthefear]

I'm gonna give you some tough love. Grow a pair and get over it. You've already done the hard part which was asking her and you survived, the world keeps spinning and life goes on. Don't give up. My suggestion is ask the baddest chick in your school or class whatever to go with you, if she says no then ask the next baddest chick and so on. I guarantee you there are a lot of girls that are dying for someone to ask them to homecoming.

Another option is to go to homecoming solo and strike up random conversations. Be that guy that social guy that can move from group to group.
i'm terrible at striking up random conversations.

[HarryCallahan]

i'm terrible at striking up random conversations.

:cry: poor jameer.


Stop being a pvssy. You are a good conversationalist, you do it here all the time. Stop acting like everything's a big deal in three years you're off to college and won't see most of these people again. You have carte blanche to do whatever you want.

Teenage girls are SUPER easy to talk to. Just ask them about thing you know they're interested in "So hows track (or w/e) going?" *nod politely, feign interest* "Oh, great" *polite laughter* "So anyway can I finger your pvssy?" *finger pvssy*

Besides, now you've been rejected, you should know that it isn't as bad as you were afraid of.

[BrickingStar]

I know how you feel OP. Hopefully I can get off to a good start in college (started on monday freshman) because high school was terrible for me. I have depression and anxiety so I also take 20 mgs of Prozac (Fluoxetine). So far haven't really made any friends although it hasn't been any real social activity going on in any of my classes.

[Jameerthefear]

:cry: poor jameer.


Stop being a pvssy. You are a good conversationalist, you do it here all the time. Stop acting like everything's a big deal in three years you're off to college and won't see most of these people again. You have carte blanche to do whatever you want.

Teenage girls are SUPER easy to talk to. Just ask them about thing you know they're interested in "So hows track (or w/e) going?" *nod politely, feign interest* "Oh, great" *polite laughter* "So anyway can I finger your pvssy?" *finger pvssy*

Besides, now you've been rejected, you should know that it isn't as bad as you were afraid of.
i'm not a pvssy

[longtime lurker]

i'm terrible at striking up random conversations.

With that type of attitude you'd be terrible at doing anything. You're talking to teenagers not CEO's. It can be intimidating at first, but just remember it's not any easier for the person you're talking to. They're probably dying for someone to approach them and talk to them so they can avoid having to start a convo. Just keep things light, don't commit too much time and generally act disinterested in your surroundings. If you can approach a group of people and take command of the conversation even if it's just for a few minutes people will start to gravitate to you. What you say generally doesn't matter but it's all how you carry yourself and the vibe you give off.

[HarryCallahan]

i'm not a pvssy

Sorry, it's just with all the whining and the "I can't do this, I can't do that, i'm not good at this, i'm no good at that" talk I mistook you for a pvssy. I apologise.

[Jameerthefear]

With that type of attitude you'd be terrible at doing anything. You're talking to teenagers not CEO's. It can be intimidating at first, but just remember it's not any easier for the person you're talking to. They're probably dying for someone to approach them and talk to them so they can avoid having to start a convo. Just keep things light, don't commit too much time and generally act disinterested in your surroundings. If you can approach a group of people and take command of the conversation even if it's just for a few minutes people will start to gravitate to you. What you say generally doesn't matter but it's all how you carry yourself and the vibe you give off.
i did ask someone out. i tried and that's good enough for me. this thread wasn't even intended to be about me.

[MavsSuperFan]

aaaand she said no. fvck school and fvck everything

And you didnt really lose anything right?

Think of it this way you cant lose something you never had.

You asked her and she said no, that is the story of the vast majority of woman I have asked out

only famous dudes never get rejected.

Dont stop asking.


fvck that i'm done. homecoming night is now officially "jameer stays home and rewatches the second season of railgun" night.

Really what did you lose when she said no to you?

[Jameerthefear]

And you didnt really lose anything right?

Think of it this way you cant lose something you never had.

You asked her and she said no, that is the story of the vast majority of woman I have asked out

only famous dudes never get rejected.

Dont stop asking.



Really what did you lose when she said no to you?
A friend probably

[MavsSuperFan]

A friend probably
Nah, you just asked her out, she probably took it as a compliment.

Look she isnt attracted to you, it sucks but that doesnt mean no one is going to be attracted to you. You are probably just not her type.

If you are really attracted to her it maybe best for you to not be friends with her. But if want to repair the friendship and were friends previously, it should be easy. Just talk to her about the subjects you used to when you were friends.

But dont torture yourself, if you want something more and she doesnt its best to move on.

[Jameerthefear]

Nah, you just asked her out, she probably took it as a compliment.

Look she isnt attracted to you, it sucks but that doesnt mean no one is going to be attracted to you. You are probably just not her type.

If you are really attracted to her it maybe best for you to not be friends with her. But if want to repair the friendship and were friends previously, it should be easy. Just talk to her about the subjects you used to when you were friends.

But dont torture yourself, if you want something more and she doesnt its best to move on.
I have no other girl i'm close to though. i don't have a lot of girl friends.

[Rowe]

I think so.

[ace23]

I see your point I don't know the exact definition of introvert but if that was the case then the only reason you are introverted is because you are afraid. You might be quite gregarious if you didn't have that fear or got over that fear.
Read up on high/low-reactive temperaments. That "fear" is oftentimes the basis for introversion. It's not something someone can just "get over".

[Nilocon165]

My post count itself answers this question

Every once in a while I'll hang out with friends and I'm usually pretty extroverted, like I'm usually the one making all my friends laugh, but the next day I'm sitting at home doing nothing.

It doesn't help that I rarely make plans myself.

I feel like I may come off as a douche to them because of that, but the reality is that when I'm just with my close friends they always get invited to some bigger thing with people that I don't know and I'm just awkward around new people.

[Nilocon165]

My post count itself answers this question

Every once in a while I'll hang out with friends and I'm usually pretty extroverted, like I'm usually the one making all my friends laugh, but the next day I'm sitting at home doing nothing.

It doesn't help that I rarely make plans myself.

I feel like I may come off as a douche to them because of that, but the reality is that when I'm just with my close friends they always get invited to some bigger thing with people that I don't know and I'm just awkward around new people.
Lol this has happened a few times since I wrote that.

I just suck at speaking first.

Anyway, I talk to people at school, snapchat them, but I rarely hang out with anyone.

I don't really have a friend group, play no sports, and I usually just sit at home browsing the internet, watching shows, and occasionally go to the park and play ball

[highwhey]

Lol this has happened a few times since I wrote that.

I just suck at speaking first.

Anyway, I talk to people at school, snapchat them, but I rarely hang out with anyone.

I don't really have a friend group, play no sports, and I usually just sit at home browsing the internet, watching shows, and occasionally go to the park and play ball
https://66.media.tumblr.com/656f377252cdbcfc2c0857dba4db52e4/tumblr_nfxokau4P81rnk5hfo1_400.gif

[UK2K]

Lol this has happened a few times since I wrote that.

I just suck at speaking first.

Anyway, I talk to people at school, snapchat them, but I rarely hang out with anyone.

I don't really have a friend group, play no sports, and I usually just sit at home browsing the internet, watching shows, and occasionally go to the park and play ball

Start learning...

You'll hate everyone you work with, but if you company offers sports teams, get on em.

I just started volleyball a few months back for the first time (I am a ****ing beast, if I do say so myself) but between all the asses I get to stare at in those tight shorts (our ops manager has the fattest ass) and the fact I spend time with work associates outside of work, it makes it a lot easier to meet people.

[Nilocon165]

https://66.media.tumblr.com/656f377252cdbcfc2c0857dba4db52e4/tumblr_nfxokau4P81rnk5hfo1_400.gif
Sorry :(

I'm a p*ssy I know

[highwhey]

Sorry :(

I'm a p*ssy I know
don't say that :lol

just get over the anxiety if you feel anxious when you're in a social situation. sh1t is easy bro. i've seen some REALLY ugly dudes hit up women bc they are approachable and can start and maintain a conversation. you're overthinking it. every guy can do it. keep the *********ing to a minimum, that sh1t disrupts you're affinity to approaching women and expectations from a woman.

[warriorfan]

Nilocon's butthole is introverted

[Nilocon165]

Nilocon's butthole is introverted
My 3rd grade teacher who molested me and fondled my balls and superglued his pubes to my ear lobe and shoved an inflatable dildo up my asshole and proceeded to post naked selfies of me on his instagram 10 years later, where I recently had sex with him on a balcony in Eastern Europe is introverted

[HarryCallahan]

Progress update Jimmy!

I really hope you made some progress bruh

[Jameerthefear]

Progress update Jimmy!

I really hope you made some progress bruh
lol im in college now and slightly less autistic

[HarryCallahan]

How slightly? I know you still watching that 2d, but can you walk up to a (black) girl and just start talking? You on that tinder? Or are you still on the path to wizardry?

[Jameerthefear]

How slightly? I know you still watching that 2d, but can you walk up to a (black) girl and just start talking? You on that tinder? Or are you still on the path to wizardry?
i can't walk up to a girl but i can socialize with some. smart girls are harder tho

[poido123]

i can't walk up to a girl but i can socialize with some. smart girls are harder tho


You have social disorders, which is fine, many people have varying issues of depression, anxiety and all the rest, it's pretty normal.


But for you talk shit about my life choices and my opinions? Yeah, I don't hold much sympathy for you.


You should probably stay away form influentual groups like BLM, they love to prey on weak minded individuals like yourself.

[Jameerthefear]

You have social disorders, which is fine, many people have varying issues of depression, anxiety and all the rest, it's pretty normal.


But for you talk shit about my life choices and my opinions? Yeah, I don't hold much sympathy for you.


You should probably stay away form influentual groups like BLM, they love to prey on weak minded individuals like yourself.
I don't think I'll take advice from a complete jackass. Thanks for sharing though.

[poido123]

I don't think I'll take advice from a complete jackass. Thanks for sharing though.


Well I can talk to girls and strike up a conversation with people.


You haven't even had a job before.


But I'm the jackass? ok buddy

[Jameerthefear]

Well I can talk to girls and strike up a conversation with people.


You haven't even had a job before.


But I'm the jackass? ok buddy
Yes, you're a jackass. And I've worked 2 jobs before. Both at the same time.

[HarryCallahan]

i can't walk up to a girl but i can socialize with some. smart girls are harder tho
:no:

Stick to black girls.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Yes very awkward since I've been hanging out with a girl whose an extrovert to an extreme. Most of the time we hang out, she talks 85% of the time. I don't mind, I'm just a little mellow I guess.