I think I've lost contact with a girl I like a whole lot

[BuGzBuNNy]

I can text her but it'd be the 4th text by me in a row and it'd probably just push her further away. I will see her again. This is only because I know a class she's in this semester (the time and place) and I WILL go there, ha. Call it what you want but if I don't I will most likely NEVER see her again. If I didn't have a way of seeing her again I can't imagine how I'd feel.

This situation has me worried about my future. She's occupied more of my time than anything else over the past year. She's the only girl I've known that I'd spend the rest of my life with. I met her in a class a year ago this time. We've NEVER hung out. The only way we've kept in contact is through text and she'd often forget to respond to my messages. I never whined about it or brought it up. I didn't really think she was intentionally ignoring my messages.

When we started talking she'd recently got out of an 8 year relationship and has a kid by the guy thats now almost 2. This is one of the reasons she says she couldn't get back in a relationship just yet. That and a busy schedule. I completely understood that and basically told her I would wait as long as it took.

Here's how the previous 5 texts went (something like this)
Me (~2 weeks ago): "Do you know that I think about you every day? Just wondering."
Her (~4 hours later): "I'm surprised after what I put you through with my ex! I still can't believe all that happened! How has your semester been?"
Me (that same day): "I don't care about that, I'm just glad I haven't chased you away. I can still remember at the beginning of the semester when you told me some guy in your previous class had been trying to date you lol. You probably said the same thing about me the semester after that ha. All is going well in school. Do you have any siblings?"
Me (this past Monday): Sent her a picture of me smiling and said "Your turn"
Me (Tuesday): "I've made such a fool of myself. Sorry if I annoyed you along the way. You never even gave me your number to begin with, it was part of us being in the same group. I just hate that we never got to know each other, thats whats killing me the most."

:facepalm

Ask and I'll tell.

[TheReal Kendall]

Plenty fish in the sea

[BrooklynZoo]

I can text her but it'd be the 4th text by me in a row and it'd probably just push her further away. I will see her again. This is only because I know a class she's in this semester (the time and place) and I WILL go there, ha. Call it what you want but if I don't I will most likely NEVER see her again. If I didn't have a way of seeing her again I can't imagine how I'd feel.

This situation has me worried about my future. She's occupied more of my time than anything else over the past year. She's the only girl I've known that I'd spend the rest of my life with. I met her in a class a year ago this time. We've NEVER hung out. The only way we've kept in contact is through text and she'd often forget to respond to my messages. I never whined about it or brought it up. I didn't really think she was intentionally ignoring my messages.

When we started talking she'd recently got out of an 8 year relationship and has a kid by the guy thats now almost 2. This is one of the reasons she says she couldn't get back in a relationship just yet. That and a busy schedule. I completely understood that and basically told her I would wait as long as it took.

Here's how the previous 5 texts went (something like this)
Me (~2 weeks ago): "Do you know that I think about you every day? Just wondering."
Her (~4 hours later): "I'm surprised after what I put you through with my ex! I still can't believe all that happened! How has your semester been?"
Me (that same day): "I don't care about that, I'm just glad I haven't chased you away. I can still remember at the beginning of the semester when you told me some guy in your previous class had been trying to date you lol. You probably said the same thing about me the semester after that ha. All is going well in school. Do you have any siblings?"
Me (this past Monday): Sent her a picture of me smiling and said "Your turn"
Me (Tuesday): "I've made such a fool of myself. Sorry if I annoyed you along the way. You never even gave me your number to begin with, it was part of us being in the same group. I just hate that we never got to know each other, thats whats killing me the most."

:facepalm

Ask and I'll tell.

please tell me you're kidding

[BuGzBuNNy]

please tell me you're kidding
nope

[DonDadda59]

http://img.thesun.co.uk/multimedia/archive/01753/thirsty-o_1753747a.gif

[BuGzBuNNy]

I don't get it ^

urban dictionary; too eager to get something? possibly so

[oh the horror]

So you'd spend the rest of your life with a woman you've never Hung out with? Mostly texts?



I've gotten too old for this new generation.

[airchibundo507]

you would never ever EVER say that first text unless you knew 100% she likes you as much as you like her. I'm talking in the infatuation phase of an early relationship after you've taken her on multiple dates and all the vibes are excellent. your first mistake is that your oblivious to the fact that she's not into you. that first text is super creepy to her given that she doesn't like you back. she never responded by sharing her feelings about you, she merely attempted to digress to a lighter and more platonic topic, to which you responded with a novel again bereft with details of your attraction to her. you pushed her away. there's a lot of girls out there but learn from your mistakes. every relationship is a power struggle and if you present yourself as desperate, needy, clingy, etc, the other person sees you as less desirable. that's why hotties dig jerks that treat them like shit, while nice guys who are desperate and obsequious are friend zoned

[TheGreatDeraj]

for the sake of your manhood i sure hope this is a joke.

The background story was very awkward and then I cringed throughout the entire text "conversation".

[KingBeasley08]

you would never ever EVER say that first text unless you knew 100% she likes you as much as you like her. I'm talking in the infatuation phase of an early relationship after you've taken her on multiple dates and all the vibes are excellent. your first mistake is that your oblivious to the fact that she's not into you. that first text is super creepy to her given that she doesn't like you back. she never responded by sharing her feelings about you, she merely attempted to digress to a lighter and more platonic topic, to which you responded with a novel again bereft with details of your attraction to her. you pushed her away. there's a lot of girls out there but learn from your mistakes. every relationship is a power struggle and if you present yourself as desperate, needy, clingy, etc, the other person sees you as less desirable. that's why hotties dig jerks that treat them like shit, while nice guys who are desperate and obsequious are friend zoned
This. Never make it seem like you're obsessed with her. Let her know that you're into her but also plant the seed that you don't need her. No offense, but through your creepy/obsessive texts, I'm not surprised that she's keeping away a little.

[BuGzBuNNy]

So you'd spend the rest of your life with a woman you've never Hung out with? Mostly texts?



I've gotten too old for this new generation.
I was in the same class as her for a full semester. We were in the same group and worked together. She's the most charming person I've been around and she has the most innocent heart ever. My feelings toward her are so pure and genuine.

[BuGzBuNNy]

you would never ever EVER say that first text unless you knew 100% she likes you as much as you like her. I'm talking in the infatuation phase of an early relationship after you've taken her on multiple dates and all the vibes are excellent. your first mistake is that your oblivious to the fact that she's not into you. that first text is super creepy to her given that she doesn't like you back. she never responded by sharing her feelings about you, she merely attempted to digress to a lighter and more platonic topic, to which you responded with a novel again bereft with details of your attraction to her. you pushed her away. there's a lot of girls out there but learn from your mistakes. every relationship is a power struggle and if you present yourself as desperate, needy, clingy, etc, the other person sees you as less desirable. that's why hotties dig jerks that treat them like shit, while nice guys who are desperate and obsequious are friend zonedThanks for the response :cheers: I am completely aware of all that though.

She's not the type to pursue a jerk, she wants the nice guy type, if nothing more than for her daughters sake. You'd need to know more of the story to understand I guess..

[BuGzBuNNy]

for the sake of your manhood i sure hope this is a joke.

The background story was very awkward and then I cringed throughout the entire text "conversation".
Trust me no ones cringing harder than I do when I read that. I'm mostly laughing though just thinking of how my friends would be clowning me.

[DeuceWallaces]

I was in the same class as her for a full semester. We were in the same group and worked together. She's the most charming person I've been around and she has the most innocent heart ever. My feelings toward her are so pure and genuine.

Jesus christ grow up kid. You haven't even been on a date.

[BuGzBuNNy]

Jesus christ grow up kid. You haven't even been on a date.
http://i43.tinypic.com/r6zr6c.jpg

that you?

[BrooklynZoo]

You're in stalker territory bro. She could be laughing it up with her friends/ex at your expense or working on a restraining order. You either need to ask her/find out where you stand with her (which isn't looking too good) and accept it, or you need to just fall back and if she wants your attention she will contact you.

The fact that you stress that you never hung out with her should clue u in on how bad youre lookin

[Jailblazers7]

You are a ****ing creep dude. She is clearly not interested and you need to just let it go. She already has one child to worry about and doesn't need another one stalking her after class.

I don't usually like to be this harsh on ISH but you seriously need to wake up.

[Bcogswell]

You would spend the rest of your life with her but you've never even hung out? :roll: :roll:

[BuGzBuNNy]

You're in stalker territory bro. She could be laughing it up with her friends/ex at your expense or working on a restraining order. You either need to ask her/find out where you stand with her (which isn't looking too good) and accept it, or you need to just fall back and if she wants your attention she will contact you. I know that doesn't happen though. I know its over between her and her ex, their relationship is strictly twined to their daughter. Earlier this year her ex had another girl call me pretending to be her, basically telling me that she was married to him and that I should back off. The next day, she sent me this extremely long text apologizing about him calling me and basically explained their situation and how he got my number in the first place. She also told me that she always wanted to keep in touch with me because she thought I was "such a nice guy" in this text. I seriously doubt she shares our texts with anyone.


The fact that you stress that you never hung out with her should clue u in on how bad youre lookinWe've gotten close to hanging out though, thats the thing that sucks. I do honestly believe that she's just extremely busy. She's told me about how her life has changed so much since her daughter was born. I feel like she's in that mode right now where all that matters to her is her daughter. Between work and school she wasn't off one day of the week last semester.

[Maniak]

I had a girl who I was attracted to and vice-versa who's been an important part of my life over the last year. We hung out constantly. But I eventually ****ed it up and now we don't talk anymore. Shit hurts but you just have to let go sometimes.
similar thing happened to me.

take it on the chin and move on.

i advise next time to take a less...creepy approach.

[oh the horror]

I was in the same class as her for a full semester. We were in the same group and worked together. She's the most charming person I've been around and she has the most innocent heart ever. My feelings toward her are so pure and genuine.


How long has it been again since actual contact? Text or whatever.

[BuGzBuNNy]

You are a ****ing creep dude. She is clearly not interested and you need to just let it go. She already has one child to worry about and doesn't need another one stalking her after class.

I don't usually like to be this harsh on ISH but you seriously need to wake up.
Look...I realize how the op makes the situation seem. But you just don't have the whole story like I do.

[BuGzBuNNy]

How long has it been again since actual contact? Text or whatever.
The text I sent her on Tuesday in the OP is the last time I've messaged her.

[DonDadda59]

I know that doesn't happen though. I know its over between her and her ex, their relationship is strictly twined to their daughter. Earlier this year her ex had another girl call me pretending to be her, basically telling me that she was married to him and that I should back off. The next day, she sent me this extremely long text apologizing about him calling me and basically explained their situation and how he got my number in the first place. She also told me that she always wanted to keep in touch with me because she thought I was "such a nice guy" in this text. I seriously doubt she shares our texts with anyone.

:facepalm

C'mon son, every man who's played the game knows that's just Female code for:

http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mehicb4ttK1rief6so1_500.jpg


We've gotten close to hanging out though, thats the thing that sucks. I do honestly believe that she's just extremely busy. She's told me about how her life has changed so much since her daughter was born. I feel like she's in that mode right now where all that matters to her is her daughter. Between work and school she wasn't off one day of the week last semester.

So basically she's always 'too busy' to ever hang out with you. She thinks you're a 'nice guy'. She doesn't even bother to respond to your stalkerish texts any more.

Are you really this clueless or just playing dumb? :coleman:

[ace23]

Delete her number now. You're making a fool of yourself.

[BuGzBuNNy]

:facepalm

C'mon son, every man who's played the game knows that's just Female code for:

http://31.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mehicb4ttK1rief6so1_500.jpg



So basically she's always 'too busy' to ever hang out with you. She thinks you're a 'nice guy'. She doesn't even bother to respond to your stalkerish texts any more.

Are you really this clueless or just playing dumb? :coleman:
You think I wouldn't know if she was the "act like I want a nice guy but really want a jerk" type? :coleman:

[oh the horror]

The text I sent her on Tuesday in the OP is the last time I've messaged her.



My advice is stop now. Let it simmer for about a week.

I know it sucks when you believe more should happen but if this woman doesn't contact you? That's your answer bro.


Believe me. We've all been there.

[Bcogswell]

Not only that, but he asked if she had siblings... :roll:

If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, but don't know simple information like sibling count, you're doing something incredibly wrong.

Yeah it just reeks of desperation. :oldlol:

Oh and OP..

http://i1281.photobucket.com/albums/a503/Cogswellb/rulesofengagement_zps83e13ccc.gif

[DonDadda59]

You think I wouldn't know if she was the "act like a want a nice guy but really want a jerk" type? :coleman:

Has nothing to do with her wanting a jerk or not.

Just sounds from everything you're telling us that this girl has absolutely no romantic interest in you whatsoever, but is too nice to let you know it outright. She labeled you as a 'really nice guy' (friend zone, brah), is always too busy to hang out with you (not even 10 min for a quick lunch?), and doesn't even bother to respond to your ridiculous texts.

Let me ask you this, and I want you to answer honestly- what has she done, said, etc to make it clear to you she wants to be anything but platonic... if even that?

[BuGzBuNNy]

My advice is stop now. Let it simmer for about a week.

I know it sucks when you believe more should happen but if this woman doesn't contact you? That's your answer bro.


Believe me. We've all been there.
:cheers:

Just want to make it clear that I...
...was completely aware of the responses I'd get from this thread
...am laughing about it harder than anyone else
...am the most chill guy in the world

Nonetheless it is all true

[BrooklynZoo]

Me (this past Monday): Sent her a picture of me smiling and said "Your turn"

http://forums.irowiki.org/attachment.php?attachmentid=3438&stc=1&d=1282862846
is this the pic you sent?

She sounds like she was pretty friendly with you but how do u explain her not responding to any of your sad sounding texts

[DonDadda59]

Believe me. We've all been there.

Exactly. Every man here has had salt thrown on their game and put in the friend zone like a Superman villain.

Just wondering if the OP just plain doesn't realize what's going on or if he's really that oblivious.

[BuGzBuNNy]

Has nothing to do with her wanting a jerk or not.

Just sounds from everything you're telling us that this girl has absolutely no romantic interest in you whatsoever, but is too nice to let you know it outright. She labeled you as a 'really nice guy' (friend zone, brah), is always too busy to hang out with you (not even 10 min for a quick lunch?), and doesn't even bother to respond to your ridiculous texts.

Let me ask you this, and I want you to answer honestly- what has she done, said, etc to make it clear to you she wants to be anything but platonic... if even that?I've never thought she wanted to be anything other than platonic. What more is there though? She's not the type that would ever have a f*ck buddy. She was in a relationship with this guy for 8 years and she's only 22 now. She's not going to marry a guy because she thinks he is hot. I just don't want to lose contact with her and then once she's ready for a relationship again I'll be there (bare with me, I know how awkward that sounds).

[DeuceWallaces]

No you don't realize how awkward and idiotic you sound. Likely because you're just an idiot kid with delusional fantasies and zero comprehension of what makes a solid relationship. Move on. You have no chance.

[Jameerthefear]

I can text her but it'd be the 4th text by me in a row and it'd probably just push her further away. I will see her again. This is only because I know a class she's in this semester (the time and place) and I WILL go there, ha. Call it what you want but if I don't I will most likely NEVER see her again. If I didn't have a way of seeing her again I can't imagine how I'd feel.

This situation has me worried about my future. She's occupied more of my time than anything else over the past year. She's the only girl I've known that I'd spend the rest of my life with. I met her in a class a year ago this time. We've NEVER hung out. The only way we've kept in contact is through text and she'd often forget to respond to my messages. I never whined about it or brought it up. I didn't really think she was intentionally ignoring my messages.

When we started talking she'd recently got out of an 8 year relationship and has a kid by the guy thats now almost 2. This is one of the reasons she says she couldn't get back in a relationship just yet. That and a busy schedule. I completely understood that and basically told her I would wait as long as it took.

Here's how the previous 5 texts went (something like this)
Me (~2 weeks ago): "Do you know that I think about you every day? Just wondering."
Her (~4 hours later): "I'm surprised after what I put you through with my ex! I still can't believe all that happened! How has your semester been?"
Me (that same day): "I don't care about that, I'm just glad I haven't chased you away. I can still remember at the beginning of the semester when you told me some guy in your previous class had been trying to date you lol. You probably said the same thing about me the semester after that ha. All is going well in school. Do you have any siblings?"
Me (this past Monday): Sent her a picture of me smiling and said "Your turn"
Me (Tuesday): "I've made such a fool of myself. Sorry if I annoyed you along the way. You never even gave me your number to begin with, it was part of us being in the same group. I just hate that we never got to know each other, thats whats killing me the most."

:facepalm

Ask and I'll tell.
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
that's weak bro...
but at one point i might try it

[DonDadda59]

I've never thought she wanted to be anything other than platonic. What more is there though? She's not the type that would ever have a f*ck buddy. She was in a relationship with this guy for 8 years and she's only 22 now. She's not going to marry a guy because she thinks he is hot. I just don't want to lose contact with her and then once she's ready for a relationship again I'll be there (bare with me, I know how awkward that sounds).

So you're a scavenger :oldlol:

I've seen your type way too many times. Every guy who's had a girlfriend has encountered your ilk. That weirdo, thirsty male 'friend' who plays the nice guy with the sole end goal of getting into her pants once you're out of the picture.

Just gonna hover around and wait for your turn to pick at whatever carcass is left on the bones. No better than a common vulture. Pathetic.

I'll bet good money too she still f*cks her ex from time to time.

[BrooklynZoo]

I've never thought she wanted to be anything other than platonic. What more is there though? She's not the type that would ever have a f*ck buddy. She was in a relationship with this guy for 8 years and she's only 22 now. She's not going to marry a guy because she thinks he is hot. I just don't want to lose contact with her and then once she's ready for a relationship again I'll be there (bare with me, I know how awkward that sounds).

if thats the case, then play the friend card, not the I want to hide in your closet card. Showing up at her class will probably turn out horrible for you. If she hasnt been replying to your texts, how awkward will it be when you hide out outside her classroom?

[Bcogswell]

:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:
that's weak bro...
but at one point i might try it

Come on Jameer, even your butt grab was more impressive than that. :oldlol:

[BuGzBuNNy]

http://forums.irowiki.org/attachment.php?attachmentid=3438&stc=1&d=1282862846
is this the pic you sent?This is http://i1321.photobucket.com/albums/u551/TXGuy92/ScreenShot2013-09-26at100031PM_zpse893d285.png
Have fun...


She sounds like she was pretty friendly with you but how do u explain her not responding to any of your sad sounding texts
At the time I honestly just thought it was due to things she had going on in life. When I found out she had a child by this guy I asked her something along the lines of "should I back off?" She made it very clear to me that she wanted to keep in touch.

[BuGzBuNNy]

if thats the case, then play the friend card, not the I want to hide in your closet card. Showing up at her class will probably turn out horrible for you. If she hasnt been replying to your texts, how awkward will it be when you hide out outside her classroom?
:oldlol: well I wouldn't just stand right outside thhe door, I'd probably hang out somewhere I know she's going to pass by. I can't imagine her blowing me off but if so then at least I'll be able to move on...

[boozehound]

people are being ***** in this thread, but I do think that OP is acting naive about the situation. She sounds like a very nice young lady, but she is not interested in you. Waiting around for her to be ready for a relationship is silly. Either you make her heart flutter or you dont (now, yes, sometimes longterm friends end up realizing they care for each other, but its rare). I think setting it up so you run into her on campus seems reasonable, but dont expect too much. She is probably back with her douchey ex. Dont dwell on it and let it ride. Who knows, maybe she texts you sometime down the road. But I would drop the texting for now.

[plowking]

Her response should tell you the whole deal.

She immediately switched to a different topic. She didn't reciprocate, or anything close to push the envelope further, so take it for what it is. She doesn't like you.

[Geriatric]

:oldlol: well I wouldn't just stand right outside thhe door, I'd probably hang out somewhere I know she's going to pass by. I can't imagine her blowing me off but if so then at least I'll be able to move on...

Dude if you show up where she is and you have no legit reason to already be there AFTER she hasn't responded to your repeated texts, her alarm bells will go off and she'll probably freak. Horrible move. I'd write it off like the others have said. If she reaches out to you (unlikely), then you're free to re-engage. If not, leave her alone.

[HardwoodLegend]

:oldlol: well I wouldn't just stand right outside thhe door, I'd probably hang out somewhere I know she's going to pass by. I can't imagine her blowing me off but if so then at least I'll be able to move on...

It's time to move on now.

She would probably blow you off in a delicate fashion that you wouldn't even be able to comprehend. You obviously aren't too good at taking a hint.

[HardwoodLegend]

This is http://i1321.photobucket.com/albums/u551/TXGuy92/ScreenShot2013-09-26at100031PM_zpse893d285.png
Have fun...

You ain't the one, bruh. She done wit you.

I can already tell how annoying you are with those overeager eyes.

[Jameerthefear]

i'm gonna bookmark this thread to help me later. i tend to do the same as you op, hook onto a girl i don't even know and do stupid things that i really don't want to put in detail. you're not alone bugzbunny! :cheers:

[BuGzBuNNy]

Dude if you show up where she is and you have no legit reason to already be there AFTER she hasn't responded to your repeated texts, her alarm bells will go off and she'll probably freak. Horrible move. I'd write it off like the others have said. If she reaches out to you (unlikely), then you're free to re-engage. If not, leave her alone.I seriously doubt she'd suspect I was there for her. Most likely she'll just think I was getting out of or going to a class. I honestly might not even say anything to her, I just want to get eye contact because I think that would rub her a certain way and she'd be able to read my feelings (lol).

Worst case scenario is that she straight up ignores me which is no worse than wondering what would've happened..

[BuGzBuNNy]

If she knew me personally, letting her go wouldn't be much of a problem. I just can't let the girl of my dreams slip away just because she didn't know me when she's soo close...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-scESgTnoUM

[MadeFromDust]

Eh she prolly just dropped her phone and broke it, losing all her contacts

[BuGzBuNNy]

You ain't the one, bruh. She done wit you.

I can already tell how annoying you are with those overeager eyes.
ha, I've literally never not gotten along with anyone

[b1imtf]

http://i.imgur.com/c2u9eA0.jpg
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

[BuGzBuNNy]

:oldlol:

[HardwoodLegend]

ha, I've literally never not gotten along with anyone

Was just messing with you, but you have a friendly look. The look that lands you in the friend zone.

[BuGzBuNNy]

people are being ***** in this thread, but I do think that OP is acting naive about the situation. She sounds like a very nice young lady, but she is not interested in you. Waiting around for her to be ready for a relationship is silly. Either you make her heart flutter or you dont (now, yes, sometimes longterm friends end up realizing they care for each other, but its rare). I think setting it up so you run into her on campus seems reasonable, but dont expect too much. She is probably back with her douchey ex. Dont dwell on it and let it ride. Who knows, maybe she texts you sometime down the road. But I would drop the texting for now.
:cheers:

The thing is...I feel like, she knows me for the guy I am in a classroom. Its almost as if I could just see her anywhere else things would be different. She's a spanish girl. I know she worries a lot about her daughter. She's probably not big on the idea of having a black guy as her daughters step dad..I know she's thought about that at least.

[Jameerthefear]

:cheers:

The thing is...I feel like, she knows me for the guy I am in a classroom. Its almost as if I could just see her anywhere else things would be different. She's a spanish girl. I know she worries a lot about her daughter. She's probably not big on the idea of having a black guy as her daughters step dad..I know she's thought about that at least.
chill dude you barely know her and you think you want to marry her? this sounds way too similar to myself...

[BrooklynZoo]

chill dude you barely know her and you think you want to marry her? this sounds way too similar to myself...

lol, how ironic

[BuGzBuNNy]

I saw her last Wednesday (not yesterday) in the parking lot and she was talking to a guy at his car. I pulled up in the spot right next to them. This was literally the first spot available I saw in a parking lot that fits probably around 500 cars. Once I realized that it was her I drove off. I've felt so empty inside since seeing this and I've eaten very little :oldlol:

I'm restless because I don't know if she saw me, which would kind of explain why she ignored my the text I sent Monday.

The look on his face said a thousand words, I know exactly how he felt. They're not dating because he didn't walk her to her car and I know he would've. I'm certain he is either in her classroom that she had just gotten out of and he wanted to show her something in his car, or she knew him from somewhere else and just so happen to run into him in the parking lot. Perhaps she does like this guy and thinks she may have something with him so thinks it would be inappropriate to continue texting me.

They looked so happy. Well, she always looks happy so I know I can't really take anything from that, but he looked like he just saw an angel (bare with me). If she didn't see me its because of tinted windows because she was right there.

[BuGzBuNNy]

chill dude you barely know her and you think you want to marry her? this sounds way too similar to myself...
She wouldn't get in a relationship with a guy she didn't think she could marry

[DonDadda59]

I saw her last Wednesday (not yesterday) in the parking lot and she was talking to a guy at his car. I pulled up in the spot right next to them. This was literally the first spot available I saw in a parking lot that fits probably around 500 cars. Once I realized that it was her I drove off. I've felt so empty inside since seeing this and I've eaten very little :oldlol:

I'm restless because I don't know if she saw me, which would kind of explain why she ignored my the text I sent Monday.

The look on his face said a thousand words, I know exactly how he felt. They're not dating because he didn't walk her to her car and I know he would've. I'm certain he is either in her classroom that she had just gotten out of and he wanted to show her something in his car, or she knew him from somewhere else and just so happen to run into him in the parking lot. Perhaps she does like this guy and thinks she may have something with him so thinks it would be inappropriate to continue texting me.

They looked so happy. Well, she always looks happy so I know I can't really take anything from that, but he looked like he just saw an angel (bare with me). If she didn't see me its because of tinted windows because she was right there.

I knew it :oldlol:

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[BuGzBuNNy]

I knew it :oldlol:

http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/108/335/trollthreadwarning.png
:confusedshrug: What about that post makes you think I'm making this up? funny though

[BuGzBuNNy]

I've gone to the gym at specific times hoping to run into someone. I think we've probably all done stuff like that. But context is important. On top of what I already mentioned, I had an ex get back in touch. She was devastated I didn't take things to the next level. I have a friend who is pushing for "more."

This shit is complicated man. I know sometimes it seems impossible to look the other way. Good luck.
:cheers:

[DonDadda59]

:confusedshrug: What about that post makes you think I'm making this up? funny though

C'mon, brah. You mean to tell me after all of the stuff you told us earlier, you creeping on her in your car, parking right next to her, and then peeling off is... normal behavior? :confusedshrug:

If she noticed you watching her from a distance while she was in a parking lot, you driving up to her, and then abruptly driving away, makes sense why she's not eager to respond to your obsessive texts about how you constantly think about her. Just put yourself in her shoes for a minute. The girl would be justified in getting a restraining order.

But, I'll just continue assuming you're having a good laugh trolling us. Otherwise this shit is beyond creepy. :biggums:

[BuGzBuNNy]

C'mon, brah. You mean to tell me after all of the stuff you told us earlier, you creeping on her in your car, parking right next to her, and then peeling off is... normal behavior? :confusedshrug: The only thing abnormal about the situation is that I drove off. I had no idea that was her in the spot right next to the one I pulled in.


If she noticed you watching her from a distance while she was in a parking lot, you driving up to her, and then abruptly driving away, makes sense why she's not eager to respond to your obsessive texts about how you constantly think about her. Just put yourself in her shoes for a minute. The girl would be justified in getting a restraining order.

But, I'll just continue assuming you're having a good laugh trolling us. Otherwise this shit is beyond creepy. :biggums:If she saw me it wasn't until I pulled completely in. Her face never gave me the impression that she ever saw me even though I looked directly at her face. They both realized that I drove off immediately after putting my car in park but only glanced for a second. I've only sent the last two texts since then, not the one about me always thinking about her :oldlol:

[DonDadda59]

The only thing abnormal about the situation is that I drove off. I had no idea that was her in the spot right next to the one I pulled in.

My dude... why did you even drive off? Was this really even just a chance encounter or were you following her?


If she saw me it wasn't until I pulled completely in. Her face never gave me the impression that she ever saw me even though I looked directly at her face. They both realized that I drove off immediately after putting my car in park but only glanced for a second. I've only sent the last two texts since then, not the one about me always thinking about her :oldlol:

Obviously something happened that made her less than enthusiastic about responding to you. Does she know what kind of car you drive?

Let me ask you- how did her 'ex' boyfriend get your number in the first place? :confusedshrug:

[BuGzBuNNy]

My dude... why did you even drive off? Was this really even just a chance encounter or were you following her?



Obviously something happened that made her less than enthusiastic about responding to you. Does she know what kind of car you drive?

Let me ask you- how did her 'ex' boyfriend get your number in the first place? :confusedshrug:
It was a chance encounter. She doesn't know what kind of car I drive. According to her he was looking at her phone when she went to get their daughter from his house and he saw where we had been texting. I had previously invited her to a Mavs game, the girl he had call me brought this up. It was a terrible attempt by him to convince me it was actually her. I was convinced though because the last thing I would suspect is what actually happened.

[BuGzBuNNy]

I know you said you don't hang out and all but just how little do you know this chick?
How do I quantify it? We were in the same class and group for a semester and we've kept in contact through text, thats it.

[DonDadda59]

It was a chance encounter.

So, by chance, she just happened to be hanging out with another guy in a parking lot you were in. You noticed how 'happy' they looked, even had a chance to study his face in depth to the point you knew 'how he felt'... all this while innocently looking for a parking space... and you chose the one right next to where they were standing... only to inexplicably pull away. You just go park somewhere else? Where were you going when you just happened to see them in the parking lot?

Just a stab in the dark, but did that make you sexually excited to get that close to her, see her face without her knowing (we're assuming) you were there?

You still haven't told me why you drove off (or why you chose to 'park' where you did after just randomly happening on them).



She doesn't know what kind of car I drive. According to her he was looking at her phone when she went to get their daughter from his house and he saw where we had been texting. I had previously invited her to a Mavs game, the girl he had call me brought this up. It was a terrible attempt by him to convince me it was actually her. I was convinced though because the last thing I would suspect is what actually happened.

And you're sure your girl had absolutely nothing to do with this? The dude, who she clearly is not f*cking, took it upon himself to get her phone, go through her texts, then concoct a scheme where he had a female friend impersonate the girl in an attempt to get you to stop... texting her?

This story checks out with you? :wtf:

[BuGzBuNNy]

So, by chance, she just happened to be hanging out with another guy in a parking lot you were in. You noticed how 'happy' they looked, even had a chance to study his face in depth to the point you knew 'how he felt'... all this while innocently looking for a parking space... and you chose the one right next to where they were standing... only to inexplicably pull away. You just go park somewhere else? Where were you going when you just happened to see them in the parking lot?

Just a stab in the dark, but did that make you sexually excited to get that close to her, see her face without her knowing (we're assuming) you were there?

You still haven't told me why you drove off (or why you chose to 'park' where you did after just randomly happening on them).
It was the business building on campus, we're both business majors, so that increases the likelihood of something thats still unlikely. I drove off because of my insecureness and didn't want her to see me while I was dressed down while they were all dressed up. In this parking lot there's always cars driving around waiting for a spot to open up so even if I were to try and manipulate my way into parking right next to his car it'd be near impossible. You're just going to have to take my word on it.


And you're sure your girl had absolutely nothing to do with this? The dude, who she clearly is not f*cking, took it upon himself to get her phone, go through her texts, then concoct a scheme where he had a female friend impersonate the girl in an attempt to get you to stop... texting her?

This story checks out with you? :wtf:I was called from a unanimous number by this girl in the middle of the night. I'm wondering why on earth she wouldn't call from her phone. I knew someone else was either on the line or in the same room because clearly they were telling her what to say. She couldn't even remember what class we had together after I asked her. She even hesitated to tell me her name. At the time I was thinking that maybe she was in an abusive relationship and was talking to me while she was in the bathroom or something while he was in the bedroom. But even that wouldn't make sense because I hadn't even talked to Lily (the girl I like) in at least 2-3 weeks. It was a random call and I don't even remember if I had plans of ever contacting her again.

[East_Stone_Ya]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wA0IUwtKwhE

[BuGzBuNNy]

I was called from a unanimous number by this girl in the middle of the night. I'm wondering why on earth she wouldn't call from her phone. I knew someone else was either on the line or in the same room because clearly they were telling her what to say. She couldn't even remember what class we had together after I asked her. She even hesitated to tell me her name. At the time I was thinking that maybe she was in an abusive relationship and was talking to me while she was in the bathroom or something while he was in the bedroom. But even that wouldn't make sense because I hadn't even talked to Lily (the girl I like) in at least 2-3 weeks. It was a random call and I don't even remember if I had plans of ever contacting her again.Just want to continue telling the story...

As soon as I got off the phone with the "fake girl", I texted Lily's real number basically confused about what had just happened and told her sorry and basically said my farewell.

The very next morning she texted me early apologizing and telling me she knew something had happened because at the same time I had texted her, her ex texted her asking how long she had been talking to me. I didn't respond until later that day. In her response afterward she said that she wished I had responded earlier because she was on campus and we could've met up.

[DonDadda59]

You're just going to have to take my word on it.

Yeah, I don't have to do that :oldlol:

Maybe it's just my interpretation, like I said could be way off base, but from your stories you come off as an overbearing borderline stalker. I'm sure Lily gets that same vibe, especially if she realized it was you 'randomly happening' to be in your car while she talked to some guy and then sped off inexplicably. I'd hate to hear how you'd react if, you know, you actually spent time with her.

Maybe it's a result of your sexually repressive religious upbringing, but sounds like you need to chill out. You clearly don't really know this girl at all, she never even gave you her number. But you're here talking about obsessive texts, bizarre parking lot incidents, and wanting to spend the rest of your life with her?

Focus on finding a girl who is actually interested in you, and cool it with the over the top shit. Do dinner and a movie and see where that goes.

Leave the weird serial killer/stalker shit behind (unless of course it's pathological, then seek professional help) :cheers:

[BuGzBuNNy]

Yeah, I don't have to do that :oldlol: Well than get out of the thread because thats all its based around, my word :confusedshrug:

[BuGzBuNNy]

Maybe it's just my interpretation, like I said could be way off base, but from your stories you come off as an overbearing borderline stalker. I'm sure Lily gets that same vibe, especially if she realized it was you 'randomly happening' to be in your car while she talked to some guy and then sped off inexplicably. I'd hate to hear how you'd react if, you know, you actually spent time with her.

Maybe it's a result of your sexually repressive religious upbringing, but sounds like you need to chill out. You clearly don't really know this girl at all, she never even gave you her number. But you're here talking about obsessive texts, bizarre parking lot incidents, and wanting to spend the rest of your life with her?

Focus on finding a girl who is actually interested in you, and cool it with the over the top shit. Do dinner and a movie and see where that goes.

Leave the weird serial killer/stalker shit behind (unless of course it's pathological, then seek professional help) :cheers:
:oldlol: this guy

[mugiwara]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wA0IUwtKwhE

:cheers:

Always post this on FB when it says ......... changed their relationship status to single.

story sounds fake.

[DonDadda59]

:oldlol: this guy

You still a virgin, brah?

We know sweet, innocent, looking for a husband Lily isn't. :oldlol:

You strike me as someone who gets off on weird shit like getting close enough to a girl to see her face and then running away before she can make you. Normal, healthy behavior obviously.

[TheMarkMadsen]

I can text her but it'd be the 4th text by me in a row and it'd probably just push her further away. I will see her again. This is only because I know a class she's in this semester (the time and place) and I WILL go there, ha. Call it what you want but if I don't I will most likely NEVER see her again. If I didn't have a way of seeing her again I can't imagine how I'd feel.

This situation has me worried about my future. She's occupied more of my time than anything else over the past year. She's the only girl I've known that I'd spend the rest of my life with. I met her in a class a year ago this time. We've NEVER hung out. The only way we've kept in contact is through text and she'd often forget to respond to my messages. I never whined about it or brought it up. I didn't really think she was intentionally ignoring my messages.

When we started talking she'd recently got out of an 8 year relationship and has a kid by the guy thats now almost 2. This is one of the reasons she says she couldn't get back in a relationship just yet. That and a busy schedule. I completely understood that and basically told her I would wait as long as it took.

Here's how the previous 5 texts went (something like this)
Me (~2 weeks ago): "Do you know that I think about you every day? Just wondering."
Her (~4 hours later): "I'm surprised after what I put you through with my ex! I still can't believe all that happened! How has your semester been?"
Me (that same day): "I don't care about that, I'm just glad I haven't chased you away. I can still remember at the beginning of the semester when you told me some guy in your previous class had been trying to date you lol. You probably said the same thing about me the semester after that ha. All is going well in school. Do you have any siblings?"
]Me (this past Monday): Sent her a picture of me smiling and said "Your turn"[/B]
Me (Tuesday): "I've made such a fool of myself. Sorry if I annoyed you along the way. You never even gave me your number to begin with, it was part of us being in the same group. I just hate that we never got to know each other, thats whats killing me the most."

:facepalm

Ask and I'll tell.

:biggums:

[TheSilentKiller]

you should probably let this one go homie.

[BuGzBuNNy]

I know I said it's hard to look away. But my best advice is to back off. If you come across creepy even slightly you're gonna scare girls away. And you have.
:oldlol: what bad could come out of me showing up somewhere I know she'll be just to get some clarity? (its weird I know, but hey) At worse she blows me off, and I don't see that because its not like she has any reason to be mad at me...I'm really interested in what she'd say to me in that situation.

[BuGzBuNNy]

She wouldn't suspect I was there for her. She'd think I was going to or leaving a class..No reason for her to think I was seeking her in any way. I have classes in that same building throughout the week so its my territory just as much as it is hers lol

[DonDadda59]

http://www.discoversinging.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/siren.gif

This. And then he'll come back here and tell us it was just a coincidence that he just happened to be in her room, smelling her panties while she was in the shower, then jumped out the window and ran away when she came out. Nothing at all strange about that.

Dude is one of those weirdos from 'Luther' (catch the show if you haven't, highly recommended). Has Black Ted Bundy written all over him.

[BuGzBuNNy]

Man...a "casual coincidence" can be figured out. I guess this is not something you're going to let go of.
Na, I will definitely see her again. Thats certain. After that if she makes it clear she doesn't want to keep in contact with me than I'll have no other choice but to let go. Its not that big of a coincidence at all really, theres two main exits to the building that every business major has classes in and there's always people hanging out by them.

[Knicks101]

So does she have any siblings or what?

[Just2McFly]

http://i.imgur.com/KpDfnwd.jpg

[airchibundo507]

:oldlol: what bad could come out of me showing up somewhere I know she'll be just to get some clarity? (its weird I know, but hey) At worse she blows me off, and I don't see that because its not like she has any reason to be mad at me...I'm really interested in what she'd say to me in that situation.

My best friend's crazy ass ex (who cheated on him btw) called him 20 times in a three hour period a day after I told her over the phone to leave him alone and move on with her life. She then hacked into his student info online, found his schedule and waited outside of his evening class for him to emerge.

When your actions align with a crazy bitch, you are doing something wrong. Leave the fckin girl alone, kiddo.

[kNicKz]

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[Myth]

Jesus Christ, OP. :facepalm

[highwhey]

So you're a scavenger :oldlol:

I've seen your type way too many times. Every guy who's had a girlfriend has encountered your ilk. That weirdo, thirsty male 'friend' who plays the nice guy with the sole end goal of getting into her pants once you're out of the picture.

Just gonna hover around and wait for your turn to pick at whatever carcass is left on the bones. No better than a common vulture. Pathetic.

I'll bet good money too she still f*cks her ex from time to time.
No kidding, OP is probably sure to death she ain't feeling her ex anymore but I speak from experience when I say the ex aint never out of the picture completely. They all come crawling back to the ex at some point, especially if she has a kid with the fella.

OP: Stop now before you hurt yourself even more. It's going to hurt a lot more when you catch her with her ex. I would advise you to delete her number but im guessing you know it by memory since you come off as obsessed with her. Drop it! Move the fck on, your wasting time.

[mr beast]

Na, I will definitely see her again. Thats certain. After that if she makes it clear she doesn't want to keep in contact with me than I'll have no other choice but to let go. Its not that big of a coincidence at all really, theres two main exits to the building that every business major has classes in and there's always people hanging out by them.

i think it's pretty damn clear she doesnt want to keep in contact with you man. not returning texts, and even when she did she deferred the topic to school.

i know shit hurts but go find a new girl. if you keep stalking her in public eventually you will push her over the limit and she will emabrass you in public just to get you the hell away from her.

if you really want a shot with her, you need to get with another girl and she has to be some what hot and intimate with you. this will be your only shot to get her jealousy up and think you have some value instead of some self picture taking smiling creeping stalker

[Bcogswell]

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[Budadiiii]

Not sure what to think of this thread. In one sense, OP isn't ashamed of who he is as a human being. Even if that means being mocked and ridiculed for his beta mentality towards women and his awkward and undesirable personality.

Even posted the photo he sent to her without anybody demanding it in the slightest.

OP is a beta ****** and he's proud of it. :cheers:

:biggums:

[9erempiree]

This thread is pretty pathetic. Those texts are pathetic. This whole situation is pathetic because she's some girl the OP likes and not even his girlfriend.

He's going about it like she's his girlfriend that he's trying to win back.