Help me pick up on this girl

[EMERE]

I've never held a conversation longer then 15 seconds with a stranger, especially girls, its like I don't know what to talk about, probably explains my living situation as a 20 year old right now, with no car, still riding the bus to school, and all the rest of no lifer goods. But I didn't make this thread for you all to feel sorry for me, I made this thread because of the title


i have this girl in my weight training class in college who I always stare at when she's not looking or even she's looking, I just want to make her know that I'm interested in her, but the problem is that I've never held a conversation with her, so I'm like an unknown identity to her, and to make things worse, next week is when we have the finals, so I'm gonna be seeing her for the last time, our class will be inside a room but in the sessions that we had in the past, she always sat kinda far away from me, that didn't stop me from starring at her of course


God damn ISH, she's the only girl I've drooled over, she's the only one I keep having dreams about day in and day out, I don't view her as a sex object, I view her as a women I'd love to fall in love with, If my ugly ass could ever get a girl that beautiful, I'd be very fortunate indeed.

But I need to talk to her before she leaves me, even if its the last day, I have to say something.. what though?

[niko]

Go say hi and ask her out. Hey, it's your last day. We should get together, want to go do x,y,z etc.

[tmacattack33]

I've never held a conversation longer then 15 seconds with a stranger, especially girls, its like I don't know what to talk about, probably explains my living situation as a 20 year old right now, with no car, still riding the bus to school, and all the rest of no lifer goods. But I didn't make this thread for you all to feel sorry for me, I made this thread because of the title


i have this girl in my weight training class in college who I always stare at when she's not looking or even she's looking, I just want to make her know that I'm interested in her, but the problem is that I've never held a conversation with her, so I'm like an unknown identity to her, and to make things worse, next week is when we have the finals, so I'm gonna be seeing her for the last time, our class will be inside a room but in the sessions that we had in the past, she always sat kinda far away from me, that didn't stop me from starring at her of course


God damn ISH, she's the only girl I've drooled over, she's the only one I keep having dreams about day in and day out, I don't view her as a sex object, I view her as a women I'd love to fall in love with, If my ugly ass could ever get a girl that beautiful, I'd be very fortunate indeed.

But I need to talk to her before she leaves me, even if its the last day, I have to say something.. what though?

At some point, every single person that you know in your life was a stranger. So I'm sure you've talked to them longer than 15 seconds at some point.

[tmacattack33]

And as for tips for this, I don't know. I think you already lost because it'd be hard to talk to her out of no where on the last day of class and get her number.

Spontaneous pick ups like that happen, but they can't be forced...it might happen one day out of no where, but that'll happen only by chance. You can't think about one specific girl to have it happen to and go force it to happen.

You can try though, but don't expect much.

[EMERE]

Go say hi and ask her out. Hey, it's your last day. We should get together, want to go do x,y,z etc.But the problem is, I don't know how she'll react when she knows I don't have a car to pick her up, or no money to buy her dinner.

I don't know if she's about that simple life...

What if I get too nervous and **** up? If I do it, it will be my first time ever picking up on a girl...

All the excuses I'm saying, it's no wonder why I've never had a girlfriend

[TheSilentKiller]

Just ****ing talk to her. Worst case scenario she says no and you are no worse off than you are now.

[EMERE]

At some point, every single person that you know in your life was a stranger. So I'm sure you've talked to them longer than 15 seconds at some point.But I don't have a lot of friends or social life whatsoever, I have about 3 friends who in just occasions, say a week, I talk to, I have this fat friend, he's a good guy, but his a loser like me.

[EMERE]

Pics or you Manti Te'o us.If you don't believe me fine, you don't have to. The only reason why I share all of this through the net, is because there's a screen hiding me, so its easy for me to vent everything that's happening in my life.

[knickballer]

You have to do an ice breaker type of thing

Maybe when your class is over you leave at the same exact time and talk about how sore you are from the training session and then you ask her the same thing and what not. Then you can lead on to other things. Then you can ask if you want to workout together sometime, add her on FB/Instagram and sooner or later she'll be knocking out your male heir :D

[EMERE]

And as for tips for this, I don't know. I think you already lost because it'd be hard to talk to her out of no where on the last day of class and get her number.

Spontaneous pick ups like that happen, but they can't be forced...it might happen one day out of no where, but that'll happen only by chance. You can't think about one specific girl to have it happen to and go force it to happen.

You can try though, but don't expect much.Now that you mention spontaneous talks, the other day she asked me if I had left a water bottle near her work out area, that was my chance to talk to her a little bit, and you know what I said? "No" and shaked my head:rolleyes: couldn't think of anything smart:rolleyes:

The only spontaneous talk we ever had:rolleyes:

[EMERE]

You have to do an ice breaker type of thing

Maybe when your class is over you leave at the same exact time and talk about how sore you are from the training session and then you ask her the same thing and what not. Then you can lead on to other things. Then you can ask if you want to workout together sometime, add her on FB/Instagram and sooner or later she'll be knocking out your male heir :DBut we have a test, an actual written test, so I don't know if she's leaving earlier than me or I'm leaving earlier than her

I can't wait for her outside like a creep, she'll just get creeped out. So I guess I leave it to destiny, if destiny is kind with me, we'll somehow say something to each other.

Thanks ISH friends anyway:applause:

[knickballer]

But we have a test, an actual written test, so I don't know if she's leaving earlier than me or I'm leaving earlier than her

I can't wait for her outside like a creep, she'll just get creeped out. So I guess I leave it to destiny, if destiny is kind with me, we'll somehow say something to each other.

Thanks ISH friends anyway:applause:

NP

Don't know how your gym class thing goes but maybe somehow you "magically"(aka stalk her) run into before the test and ask her if she's ready, did she like the class, how stupid it is, etc, etc.

But I can imagine it's going to be difficult to do that unless you have spies around campus lol

[alenleomessi]

you said you are ugly.. maybe she stares at you because you are ugly?


im joking.. i say few shots before the exam could possibly get the job done

[KobesFinger]

Keep it brief and get her number. Use the number to arrange a date. Get to know her on the date.

[glidedrxlr22]

I'm surprised nobody has said...."whip out your cawk"

[knickballer]

I'm surprised nobody has said...."whip out your cawk"

Slow down there. We don't want to make it to easy for him

Whipping out he cawk is always a solid backup plan

[EMERE]

Keep it brief and get her number. Use the number to arrange a date. Get to know her on the date.Like, "Hello, can I have your number" type of brief?

[EMERE]

NP

Don't know how your gym class thing goes but maybe somehow you "magically"(aka stalk her) run into before the test and ask her if she's ready, did she like the class, how stupid it is, etc, etc.

But I can imagine it's going to be difficult to do that unless you have spies around campus lolExactly, I wouldn't know where she comes from come the exam day, I can't sit next to her either because like I said, the past sessions we've had in there we always sat in the same seat and apart from each other

[EMERE]

you said you are ugly.. maybe she stares at you because you are ugly?


im joking.. i say few shots before the exam could possibly get the job doneThat's how my dad picked up on my mom:bowdown:

[Jailblazers7]

Like, "Hello, can I have your number" type of brief?

lol you need to say a little more than that. Say hi and introduce yourself first. Then put in a little segue like "did you like the class...it's crazy we've never talked during class this semester...etc" Then you ask for her number.

The direct approach is always good but you can't just straight up ask for her number without introducing yourself at all. The only place that might work is at the bar or if you are incredibly handsome lol.

[ace23]

Like, "Hello, can I have your number" type of brief?
More like, "So you going to give me your number or what?"

[KobesFinger]

Like, "Hello, can I have your number" type of brief?

Nah, go in your contacts and make a new one then walk up to her and put the phone in her hand and stare at her

[EMERE]

lol you need to say a little more than that. Say hi and introduce yourself first. Then put in a little segue like "did you like the class...it's crazy we've never talked during class this semester...etc" Then you ask for her number.

The direct approach is always good but you can't just straight up ask for her number without introducing yourself at all. The only place that might work is at the bar or if you are incredibly handsome lol.Yeah that's what I thought

Kinda hard to pick up that easily when your not that... handsome at all:oldlol:

But don't you think it'll be to weird if I wait for her tho?

[EMERE]

More like, "So you going to give me your number or what?"She'll be bother by that because she'll think I'm demanding it:oldlol:

[EMERE]

Nah, go in your contacts and make a new one then walk up to her and put the phone in her hand and stare at herImagine how awkward that would be:oldlol:

[TheReal Kendall]

I don't get why people on here have so much trouble talking to chicks.

I think I have more trouble talking to dudes than chicks but I guess that's just me.

I didn't read all of that but just go up to her and talk to her. Give her compliments and try to make her smile.

If you can make her smile then you in there like swimwear.

[KobesFinger]

Imagine how awkward that would be:oldlol:

At least you'll definitely be memorable. :D

You say you've never spoken to her, but you look at her and notice sometimes she's looking? Relax and smile. Don't do a rape face. Even if she doesn't smile the first time, keep doing it and eventually she'll smile back. That's when you go talk to her. Ask her what her name is, make a tiny bit of small talk and then be out. I want to emphasize tiny, you don't want it to drag or she'll get bored and you'll stall. Blitzkrieg.

Before you get off, say something like, "hey, I'm going to X now but it was nice talking to you. Could I get your number and we can talk some more?" The worst she can say is no. If she does say no, use that as experience for next time. If she says yes, talk a little more and arrange a date. It doesn't need to be extravagant, just some coffee or even if its you two just sitting or walking and talking then its still good.

What do you think of that OP?

[EMERE]

At least you'll definitely be memorable. :D

You say you've never spoken to her, but you look at her and notice sometimes she's looking? Relax and smile. Don't do a rape face. Even if she doesn't smile the first time, keep doing it and eventually she'll smile back. That's when you go talk to her. Ask her what her name is, make a tiny bit of small talk and then be out. I want to emphasize tiny, you don't want it to drag or she'll get bored and you'll stall. Blitzkrieg.

Before you get off, say something like, "hey, I'm going to X now but it was nice talking to you. Could I get your number and we can talk some more?" The worst she can say is no. If she does say no, use that as experience for next time. If she says yes, talk a little more and arrange a date. It doesn't need to be extravagant, just some coffee or even if its you two just sitting or walking and talking then its still good.

What do you think of that OP?I think its a perfect strategy, but I want to clear something, I never said she looked at me directly, but the only reason why I feel like talking to her, is because she seems like the quiet type too, I'd never see her talk to anyone at all.

Somewhere inside of me hopes she's just like me, the quiet type and shy type, with a dose of social anxiety:oldlol:, but that's highly unlikely seeing how pretty she is. I'm going to see her next week for the last time, we'll be inside a room, we'll be taking a test, so I don't really know if I'll bump heads with her, because I don't know who'll finish the test first.

I had my chances, but this time around destiny is in charged and will decide if I talk to her or not.

[Bandito]

I think its a perfect strategy, but I want to clear something, I never said she looked at me directly, but the only reason why I feel like talking to her, is because she seems like the quiet type too, I'd never see her talk to anyone at all.

Somewhere inside of me hopes she's just like me, the quiet type and shy type, with a dose of social anxiety:oldlol:, but that's highly unlikely seeing how pretty she is. I'm going to see her next week for the last time, we'll be inside a room, we'll be taking a test, so I don't really know if I'll bump heads with her, because I don't know who'll finish the test first.

I had my chances, but this time around destiny is in charged and will decide if I talk to her or not.
Destiny:facepalm

That's a bag of bullcrap. If you like her just tell her and ask her out. "Loving someone from afar is a lie." Be a man and just tell her she's cute and you like her.

[KobesFinger]

I think its a perfect strategy, but I want to clear something, I never said she looked at me directly, but the only reason why I feel like talking to her, is because she seems like the quiet type too, I'd never see her talk to anyone at all.

Somewhere inside of me hopes she's just like me, the quiet type and shy type, with a dose of social anxiety:oldlol:, but that's highly unlikely seeing how pretty she is. I'm going to see her next week for the last time, we'll be inside a room, we'll be taking a test, so I don't really know if I'll bump heads with her, because I don't know who'll finish the test first.

I had my chances, but this time around destiny is in charged and will decide if I talk to her or not.

I don't like the concept of destiny. I'll give you an example of why. Last week I was at a restaurant having Xmas dinner with one of the university's societies. There was a waitress who I thought looked really nice. Me and the guy sitting opposite both wanted the number. He decided to play it cool and be more passive, hoping she'd notice him. She didn't, so he broke out. I did the smiles thing the whole night and noticed that as the night went on she smiled more and more at me.

I decided to go up to the bar just before we all left. I introduced myself but fvcked up by stalling, and ended up getting accidentaly cawkblocked by a friend.

If everything went the same way but I left it to destiny as the guy sitting opposite me did, we probably wouldn't have spoken.

[tmacattack33]

I think its a perfect strategy, but I want to clear something, I never said she looked at me directly, but the only reason why I feel like talking to her, is because she seems like the quiet type too, I'd never see her talk to anyone at all.

Somewhere inside of me hopes she's just like me, the quiet type and shy type, with a dose of social anxiety:oldlol:, but that's highly unlikely seeing how pretty she is. I'm going to see her next week for the last time, we'll be inside a room, we'll be taking a test, so I don't really know if I'll bump heads with her, because I don't know who'll finish the test first.

I had my chances, but this time around destiny is in charged and will decide if I talk to her or not.

It doesn't matter how good she looks, she might still have social anxiety.

And the fact that she's hot might even amplify it...she might be self conscious about the fact that she's so hot but yet doesn't have any or many friends. I knew a girl just like this...and as someone with social anxiety myself, that would make sense. For example, you yourself can use the fact that you apparently are ugly as an excuse for why you don't have many friends. A hot girl can't... they know that their personalities must REALLY be terrible if they can't make friends. Think about it.

And if she looks good and you've never seen her talk to anyone else then yeah she might have it.

[EMERE]

Destiny:facepalm

That's a bag of bullcrap. If you like her just tell her and ask her out. "Loving someone from afar is a lie." Be a man and just tell her she's cute and you like her.So you want me to creep her out by just making it seem that I'm really desperate? :biggums:


The problem is, I am desperate :cry:

[EMERE]

I don't like the concept of destiny. I'll give you an example of why. Last week I was at a restaurant having Xmas dinner with one of the university's societies. There was a waitress who I thought looked really nice. Me and the guy sitting opposite both wanted the number. He decided to play it cool and be more passive, hoping she'd notice him. She didn't, so he broke out. I did the smiles thing the whole night and noticed that as the night went on she smiled more and more at me.

I decided to go up to the bar just before we all left. I introduced myself but fvcked up by stalling, and ended up getting accidentaly cawkblocked by a friend.

If everything went the same way but I left it to destiny as the guy sitting opposite me did, we probably wouldn't have spoken.You seem to have experience with this :oldlol:

but yeah you're right, its better if we make situations happen, instead of hoping they'd come to us.

[Bandito]

So you want me to creep her out by just making it seem that I'm really desperate? :biggums:


The problem is, I am desperate :cry:
Just tell her she's cute and you wanna go have a cup of coffee or a soda. Then whatever happens, happens.

[Bandito]

He said

Help me pick up... On.. This girl

:oldlol:

Just go for it, we all get rejected, part of being a dude. You'll be like man this was so easy I can't believe what I was shy about
I've been rejected so much is not even funny. But those rejections helped me a lot in knowing what to say and what not to say when trying to ask girls out.

[KobesFinger]

You seem to have experience with this :oldlol:

but yeah you're right, its better if we make situations happen, instead of hoping they'd come to us.

Yeah, if you don't ask then you don't get. Unless she's very forward and direct or you're insanely hot/rich/famous, its very unlikely you'll get somewhere with a girl without you doing something. The only reason why I don't say impossible is because sometimes friends like to play cupid.

My advice is to relax and go for it. If she says no, you're unlikely to see her again if its finals so theres no awkwardness. If she says yes you'll have a method of contacting her (don't add her on fb, follow her on twitter etc. if you don't talk to her). But if you don't ask, it'll bug the crap out of you until you find another girl.

[Dictator]

:oldlol:

[Unstoppabull]

Just go up to her after class and f*cking talk to her. Say anything, make small talk. That's it. Or you can go home, jack off in a container, save it. The next morning warm it up, pour it on your dick and jack off with it. Then save all of that come in a container. The next morning shit in a rag, pour the *** on it, and roll it around your dick and *********e. It will trick your mind into thinking you are having **** with that chick and will make you come harder and longer.

[kNIOKAS]

Slip her a note:

I'm this goofy guy that's staring at you. Sorry for that, I hope you don't mind. I would like to meet you somewhere sometime, but how about now?


and then approach her ask about a piece of paper you lost.



have balls, I've done similar.

[Balla_Status]

OP, are you an engineering major?

[D-Wade316]

You gotta learn how to socialize within a group brah. Or you can find yourself a buddy whom you could learn tricks from. One-on-one convo, especially with a stranger, requires a lot of spontaneity. It would even be more difficult if you had no business with the person.

[East_Stone_Ya]

I've been rejected so much is not even funny. But those rejections helped me a lot in knowing what to say and what not to say when trying to ask girls out.

exactly it helps you to improve..you know next time what not to say

[KobesFinger]

How's it going OP? Did you see her again?

[artex]

Try now !! I've noticed that around this time (last week or two) in college/uni people are ready and psyched on going out/asking that one person they've been eye balling all semester . Just go for it ! the hardest part for anything is starting and taking that first step .

Or you can borrow my ultimate technique - find a cheap locket (swapmeet) and write "I will always have time for you" on the inside latch , gift to her and then proceed to get her pregnant

In all seriousness just go for it mayn

Sendin good
Vibes your way

[chosen_one6]

First thing you need to do is gain confidence in yourself. If you're not confident in yourself women can see it right away and they will never give you the time of day. There will be another one, just keep working on improving yourself mentally and physically.

[veilside23]

first of all love is a risk... The only risks i regret in life are the things i didnt do..

dont feel the same way bro.. because you will never know unless you take the risk.

since you said you have the same personality a simple hi and just tell her that you want to get to know her . I dont think she would think you are stalking if you wait for her before or after the exam. I would suggest that you try to talk to her before the exam.

because if she is done with the exam ahead of you. then that is the time you will regret and have what if scenario's in your mind.

goodluck dude

[EMERE]

How's it going OP? Did you see her again?I have the class on Wednesday, honestly I've been thinking about it non stop :oldlol:

Like what approach to take, of course I know you guys give good advice and all, but its easier said then done.. I've been put on these type of situations before where people take me to meet their friends but for some reason I always remain quiet and I give out a bad aura and the girls end up not talking to me at all because of my poor conversation skills.. its like my mind goes blank and suddenly I have no balls at all.. god damn it self esteem..

[Budadiiii]

Hey bro.. just some more advice that could potentially help you out Wednesday.

Refrain from ejaculating this week and I recommend you google "edging" if you don't already know what that means.

Basically you jack off but you stop before you're about to ***. Take it easy if you haven't done it before. Edging without ejaculating will definitely help. You'll be in that primitive mindset and you'll notice your energy and confidence will be greatly improved and talking/flirting with girls will come much more naturally. Just give it a try

[EMERE]

first of all I think I need to hold a job for more then a week without quitting because I can't socialize with people.

with a job comes the money, with the money comes things that girls like, such as a car, gifts, and whatever else they like.

money money runs the world fellas, good night see ya guys later

[EMERE]

Hey bro.. just some more advice that could potentially help you out Wednesday.

Refrain from ejaculating this week and I recommend you google "edging" if you don't already know what that means.

Basically you jack off but you stop before you're about to ***. Take it easy if you haven't done it before. Edging without ejaculating will definitely help. You'll be in that primitive mindset and you'll notice your energy and confidence will be greatly improved and talking/flirting with girls will come much more naturally. Just give it a tryI've tried that, I actually tried it when I was in High School, but it didn't help me at all, I was still the kid who didn't talk in class while everyone was talking.

Thanks though, goodnight

[ElPigto]

But the problem is, I don't know how she'll react when she knows I don't have a car to pick her up, or no money to buy her dinner.

I don't know if she's about that simple life...

What if I get too nervous and **** up? If I do it, it will be my first time ever picking up on a girl...

All the excuses I'm saying, it's no wonder why I've never had a girlfriend

Good luck bro, because most girls do not go for this type of guy initially. ****ing get rent a car and take out a loan. I usually wouldn't tell anyone to waste money on a girl, but **** it seems like you need to do something to make a better first impression bro.

[redboy]

1. talk to some dudes
2. walk to her and say "i want a female's opinion on this matter" and get into a conversation with her
3. ????
4. profit

[Jackass18]

But we have a test, an actual written test, so I don't know if she's leaving earlier than me or I'm leaving earlier than her

I can't wait for her outside like a creep, she'll just get creeped out. So I guess I leave it to destiny, if destiny is kind with me, we'll somehow say something to each other.

Thanks ISH friends anyway:applause:

Destiny? Your life is a movie? Go talk to her if you're that interested. The people who leave everything to 'destiny' are the ones that tend to let life pass them by. You have to grab things by the balls. If you're too shy to talk to her, then perhaps down a couple beers before class to loosen yourself up. You could do something simple like make small talk, ask what her name is, etc. and then say, "Hey, this class is going to be over soon... Wanna hang out sometime?" Then, get her number if she's interested. And if not, then you can go back to your room and jack it to her (amirite?).




I have the class on Wednesday, honestly I've been thinking about it non stop

You're overthinking it too much which will likely cause you to either puss out or be awkward when trying to talk to her. Stop thinking about it so much, grow some balls and just go do it. Most girls will let you down easy if they're not interested especially if they're the shy and quiet type. If you are rejected, then at least you tried and you now have some experience and should be more comfortable doing it next time. If you try, then you have a chance and eventually you'll meet someone. If you don't try, then you have very little chance and will probably end up getting some cats to fill the void of your loneliness. Do you want to be a man with a women or some lonely schmuck who spends his days watching Wheel of Fortune with his cats and writing Stargate fanfiction?

[KobesFinger]

I have the class on Wednesday, honestly I've been thinking about it non stop :oldlol:

Like what approach to take, of course I know you guys give good advice and all, but its easier said then done.. I've been put on these type of situations before where people take me to meet their friends but for some reason I always remain quiet and I give out a bad aura and the girls end up not talking to me at all because of my poor conversation skills.. its like my mind goes blank and suddenly I have no balls at all.. god damn it self esteem..

Reading this last comment makes me think you're just shy, which is fine. Don't dwell on the past or the negatives. They'll make you think you then you'll make excuses and won't do it, and then you'll be annoyed that you didn't.

Instead, focus on the good things that can come of this. You'll be more confident and you may get a number and a date. Even if you get one or neither, you'll still be able to say you tried. You'll know how you can improve next time.

Re: poor conversational skills. You don't need to know every news story thats happening now but read up on the big stories such as Mandela's death, Syria and China landing on the Moon. You'll have more to talk about. When you're talking to people, ask open ended questions like "what did you think of..." instead of "did you like...". Also stay up to date with films and music, especially artists who are popular across genres.

Pick up on what people say and use it to extend the conversation. If they say something you don't hear often or don't know anything about, get them to talk about that. An example of this is from a few months ago when one of my flat mates' friends from home stayed over. She was into horse-riding and I know fvck all about it so we talked about that.

[EMERE]

I'll respond to you guys later more calmly,veilside,chosen, el pigto, red boy, jackass18, Kobes fingers thank you friends.

I'm gonna do this for sure, this time I'm not taking the easy route, I've been doing that all my life.

[KingBeasley08]

I'll respond to you guys later more calmly,veilside,chosen, el pigto, red boy, jackass18, Kobes fingers thank you friends.

I'm gonna do this for sure, this time I'm not taking the easy route, I've been doing that all my life.
:applause:

[CeltsGarlic]

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[EMERE]

First thing you need to do is gain confidence in yourself. If you're not confident in yourself women can see it right away and they will never give you the time of day. There will be another one, just keep working on improving yourself mentally and physically.I'm gonna actually try this time, not doing anything doesn't help

If I try my first time and I'm scared shitless when I'm facing her(note this is my first time ever going up to a girl or talking to one in general) it'll be okay because at least I tried.

[EMERE]

Destiny? Your life is a movie? Go talk to her if you're that interested. The people who leave everything to 'destiny' are the ones that tend to let life pass them by. You have to grab things by the balls. If you're too shy to talk to her, then perhaps down a couple beers before class to loosen yourself up. You could do something simple like make small talk, ask what her name is, etc. and then say, "Hey, this class is going to be over soon... Wanna hang out sometime?" Then, get her number if she's interested. And if not, then you can go back to your room and jack it to her (amirite?).





You're overthinking it too much which will likely cause you to either puss out or be awkward when trying to talk to her. Stop thinking about it so much, grow some balls and just go do it. Most girls will let you down easy if they're not interested especially if they're the shy and quiet type. If you are rejected, then at least you tried and you now have some experience and should be more comfortable doing it next time. If you try, then you have a chance and eventually you'll meet someone. If you don't try, then you have very little chance and will probably end up getting some cats to fill the void of your loneliness. Do you want to be a man with a women or some lonely schmuck who spends his days watching Wheel of Fortune with his cats and writing Stargate fanfiction?Kinda funny you mentioned destiny.. I regret saying I'd leave it to destiny, I just sounded ridiculous. I was watching the first Home Alone movie, I don't know if you've seen it but I'm gonna still reference it, the main character(Macaulay Culkin) was inside a church when some guy approached him, well the guy basically went on how he hasn't talked to his son because they both had an argument in the past and the father said to his son he no longer wished to see him ever again

Macaulay Culkin then asks him to try and talk to his son again, the guy was like "Well I'm scared that he wont wanna talk to me anymore" Culkin then said "Well how do you know if you don't try it" "If he says no you can go long your business but you won't be worried anymore" talk about hitting the spot. I'm over thing because I'm imagining all the postive outcomes that could come from me doing this, what if she says yes, that she'd like to hang out?

[EMERE]

Good luck bro, because most girls do not go for this type of guy initially. ****ing get rent a car and take out a loan. I usually wouldn't tell anyone to waste money on a girl, but **** it seems like you need to do something to make a better first impression bro.Naa if she wants to meet me outside of school, I'll be honest with her and tell her my current situation.

[ace23]

I'm gonna actually try this time, not doing anything doesn't help

If I try my first time and I'm scared shitless when I'm facing her(note this is my first time ever going up to a girl or talking to one in general) it'll be okay because at least I tried.
:biggums:

[CelticBaller]

http://images.wikia.com/adventuretimewithfinnandjake/images/f/fe/Feels.png

[EMERE]

Reading this last comment makes me think you're just shy, which is fine. Don't dwell on the past or the negatives. They'll make you think you then you'll make excuses and won't do it, and then you'll be annoyed that you didn't.

Instead, focus on the good things that can come of this. You'll be more confident and you may get a number and a date. Even if you get one or neither, you'll still be able to say you tried. You'll know how you can improve next time.

Re: poor conversational skills. You don't need to know every news story thats happening now but read up on the big stories such as Mandela's death, Syria and China landing on the Moon. You'll have more to talk about. When you're talking to people, ask open ended questions like "what did you think of..." instead of "did you like...". Also stay up to date with films and music, especially artists who are popular across genres.

Pick up on what people say and use it to extend the conversation. If they say something you don't hear often or don't know anything about, get them to talk about that. An example of this is from a few months ago when one of my flat mates' friends from home stayed over. She was into horse-riding and I know fvck all about it so we talked about that.Do I have to introduce myself first though? Like "Hi, my name is.." or ask her for her name first? I want to keep it brief keep in mind. Its gonna be something quick and hopefully I'll get her number.

[EMERE]

:biggums:Yes, all I could do was fap to girls at home but never having the guts to talk to them.. I've been going through my life like that

Its not like I'm gay or anything, I've never tried talking to any girl at all.

ace I wrote fap instead of *********ion because for some odd reason this web site censors the word

thats why i edited this post ok

[ROCSteady]

Just tell her she's cute and you wanna go have a cup of coffee or a soda. Then whatever happens, happens.

Coffee I can understand. Who the hell asks a girl out for a soda these days? Sure it's the same trite way to break the ice, a beverage with caffeine but this is not 1954 and a female might be thinking :wtf: if you ask, "Wanna go get a coke sometime?" Like seriously

[KobesFinger]

Do I have to introduce myself first though? Like "Hi, my name is.." or ask her for her name first? I want to keep it brief keep in mind. Its gonna be something quick and hopefully I'll get her number.

Its not concrete. I usually say something like,"hi, what's your name?" then when they tell me, I say, "nice to meet you, I'm KobesFinger".

[EMERE]

guys can you say things that I could possibly say to her so I won't try and sound awkward?

I'm pretty awkward in general, but I wanna keep it to a minimal level so she won't hesitate to answer


Thank you

[ace23]

Yes, all I could do was fap to girls at home but never having the guts to talk to them.. I've been going through my life like that

Its not like I'm gay or anything, I've never tried talking to any girl at all.

ace I wrote fap instead of *********ion because for some odd reason this web site censors the word

thats why i edited this post ok
How can you go your whole life without talking to a girl?

Has a girl never spoken to you?

[EMERE]

Its not concrete. I usually say something like,"hi, what's your name?" then when they tell me, I say, "nice to meet you, I'm KobesFinger".the trick is facing her and saying things with authority, with confidence , eye contact and all that bs and make sure not to look like a creep right?

[ROCSteady]

The only commonplace you have with her right now since you don't have any convos is your course so try to casually place yourself around her and look her in the eyes (very important) and ask her what grade she thinks she got in the class. Take it from there, she did well, just remark on how it's a good class to boost GPA. Then ask what her main course of study is/ major. This can lead to what she really enjoys in life/ her passions. Convos need all kind of different avenues to go in before they get interesting.


Don't forget eye contact because if you don't have that, females will be turned off becuz it looks like you have zero power or control in the situation.

Good luck

[KobesFinger]

the trick is facing her and saying things with authority, with confidence , eye contact and all that bs and make sure not to look like a creep right?

Face her, yes. Eye contact, definitely. Authoritative voice, eeehh. I'm not sold on that. If its not your normal voice and demeanor I wouldn't try it. Key is to relax yourself. A good way of projecting and gaining self confidence is good posture. Stand upright, shoulders back without puffing your chest, head up and chin down.

[EMERE]

How can you go your whole life without talking to a girl?

Has a girl never spoken to you?Yeah back in Junior high, but I was never good with people in general and I never cared to make friendships. Only brief talks.

In High School though... no joking, I never talked to one and neither did they, and when a girl did talk to me, I'd usually get nervous and remain quiet and not extend the talk more, and that ****ed me up the most, because know, I see it as an impossible task to have conversations with them.

[EMERE]

Face her, yes. Eye contact, definitely. Authoritative voice, eeehh. I'm not sold on that. If its not your normal voice and demeanor I wouldn't try it. Key is to relax yourself. A good way of projecting and gaining self confidence is good posture. Stand upright, shoulders back without puffing your chest, head up and chin down.Okk I'll try it tomorrow in the morning, dude I've searched for pick up lines and most of them sound downright cheesy and I feel like if I say them I'm coming in too strong, I don't want that.


"It's a good thing you're not corn. [Why?] Because you're hot. You'd be popping all over!f" really?

[EMERE]

Lets say I'm waiting for her outside and she walks past by me, how do I not make it as if I'm waiting for her to pick up on her? Before she walks past by me, do I make eye contact with her and say "Hey, you look pretty"

:facepalm ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[KobesFinger]

Okk I'll try it tomorrow in the morning, dude I've searched for pick up lines and most of them sound downright cheesy and I feel like if I say them I'm coming in too strong, I don't want that.


"It's a good thing you're not corn. [Why?] Because you're hot. You'd be popping all over!f" really?

No no no no no don't use pick up lines. You won't sound like you're coming on too strong, you'll sound like a complete tool unless you have something hilarious up your sleeve.

[EMERE]

No no no no no don't use pick up lines. You won't sound like you're coming on too strong, you'll sound like a complete tool unless you have something hilarious up your sleeve.That;s what I thought, because I honestly can't picture myself saying any of these :oldlol:

So I guess I'll just go the sincere route

[KobesFinger]

Lets say I'm waiting for her outside and she walks past by me, how do I not make it as if I'm waiting for her to pick up on her? Before she walks past by me, do I make eye contact with her and say "Hey, you look pretty"

:facepalm ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

What I'd do:

1) Eye contact
2) Stop her
3) Introduction "I've seen you around, whats your name?"
4) Relevant small talk
5) g2g, wots ur num bbe?

Smiling throughout, just not a rapey one. I don't know what it is, chicks dig smiles. You can compliment her, I've never done it initially so I don't know but I don't see a drawback

[IInvented]

Pick up lines are overrated and she'll figure it out right away.... only time you should use pick up lines, maybe at a party. Other than that don't.

If she's shy like you say, it should be easier..... just go up to her and say, "Hey, i'm ____", then she'll tell you her name... ask her where she's from, what she's studying, etc.... from then, you should have a convo going on.... Just go with the flow and follow up on her answers.... Don't talk to much.... Tell her you gotta bounce and would like to get to know her more... Tell her, "can i have you number?" don't say please thou... if she gives it to you, good for you. If she doesn't... she'll make up some excuse.... if she does that, tell her, "well it was nice talking to you, cya around".... there.... don't be a *****!

[EMERE]

What I'd do:

1) Eye contact
2) Stop her
3) Introduction "I've seen you around, whats your name?"
4) Relevant small talk
5) g2g, wots ur num bbe?

Smiling throughout, just not a rapey one. I don't know what it is, chicks dig smiles. You can compliment her, I've never done it initially so I don't know but I don't see a drawback:bowdown: I'll try to keep in mind everything you've said

You've been of great help, thank you my dear friend:cheers:

[EMERE]

Pick up lines are overrated and she'll figure it out right away.... only time you should use pick up lines, maybe at a party. Other than that don't.

If she's shy like you say, it should be easier..... just go up to her and say, "Hey, i'm ____", then she'll tell you her name... ask her where she's from, what she's studying, etc.... from then, you should have a convo going on.... Just go with the flow and follow up on her answers.... Don't talk to much.... Tell her you gotta bounce and would like to get to know her more... Tell her, "can i have you number?" don't say please thou... if she gives it to you, good for you. If she doesn't... she'll make up some excuse.... if she does that, tell her, "well it was nice talking to you, cya around".... there.... don't be a *****!Yeah I'm gonna try and not introduce myself that quick, I'll probably start by asking her how well she thinks she did on the test and stuff like that. I'll be able to tell from her body language if she digs me or no.

[IInvented]

Yeah I'm gonna try and not introduce myself that quick, I'll probably start by asking her how well she thinks she did on the test and stuff like that. I'll be able to tell from her body language if she digs me or no.
Nah don't ask that... that's a bail out question... most typical to ask when u don't have anything to say. What are you gonna say after that? awkward silence gonna follow after that..

Just introduce yourself and go from there.... there isn't a more simple way to go about it than that.... i know because that's what i've done and it worked... just don't sound or look nervous.

[EMERE]

today is the day folks..

[ace23]

today is the day folks..
Record the audio. Just have your phone in your pocket.

[mugiwara]

today is the day folks..

Goooodluck!

Don't be afraid to wait after class for her if you do, she will think its sweet. Girls that aren't regularly hit on love that. You have no leverage so just be kind and sincere with as smile. You sound like you have kind eyes, use them.

Feeeeeeeeels

[ROCSteady]

I have zero faith in you but that doesn't matter. I'm in your corner and hope you have some success or at the very least, a building block to work from for the future

[EMERE]

At this point I can't afford thinking negatively, I'll do it and see what comes out of it.

[ace23]

Class this late? This close to Christmas?

[IInvented]

Update.....

[KobesFinger]

OP is either still smashing this chick or is out macking others with his new found confidence

[alenleomessi]

OP is either still smashing this chick or is out macking others with his new found confidence
OP is hunting with the new found confidence

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[Jackass18]

Is this guy in jail for rape or something?

[alenleomessi]

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shiieet

[veilside23]

At this point I can't afford thinking negatively, I'll do it and see what comes out of it.


dude what happen?

[KingBeasley08]

I think dude got cold feet. Either that or he ballin with this new confidence

[Saintsfan1992]

I have zero faith in you but that doesn't matter. I'm in your corner and hope you have some success or at the very least, a building block to work from for the future

All of this..

I know he froze up..

He thinks to much..

just go up and talk..

this shit isn't rocket science..

but for you it may be just as hard... :confusedshrug:

[Jackass18]

Meh, one of those threads.

'I think one of my neighbors might be a serial killer. I'm going to go investigate further', then you never hear from that poster again

'I think the government is spying on me', then you never hear from that poster again

'I just bought a house and I believe it's haunted', then you never hear from that poster again

'I think I got abducted by aliens', then you never hear from that poster again

'I have a nice apartment overlooking the East River', then you never hear from that poster again

[alenleomessi]

Meh, one of those threads.

'I think one of my neighbors might be a serial killer. I'm going to go investigate further', then you never hear from that poster again

'I think the government is spying on me', then you never hear from that poster again

'I just bought a house and I believe it's haunted', then you never hear from that poster again

'I think I got abducted by aliens', then you never hear from that poster again

'I have a nice apartment overlooking the East River', then you never hear from that poster again
only one i know is when someones mother wasnt back home for couple of hours he was worried and then he logged in after a month and said she was dead..

[Scholar]

Dude probably raped the girl when she smiled at him as he said, "Hi." Dat confidence tho. :applause:

[Peteballa]

This was an entertaining read

[ace23]

Class this late? This close to Christmas?
Confirmed troll.

[Bandito]

Confirmed troll.
Also a moron.