Should I have slept with her?

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.

My life used to have excitement now it is rather mundane, this girl makes me feel young again.

So staff party was yesterday(wife was out of town) and she wants to slow dance with me in front of all my work colleagues, of course I said no and we had a big fight. She is leaving the office and I may never see her again.

I am in love with her and feel like a wimp for not sealing the deal, however there would be bad consequences if I did.

Do you think I made a mistake not sleeping with her?

[KingBeasley08]

You got a four year-old kid brah. Don't be an ass

[Qwyjibo]

Probably not now that you've dug yourself into a hole with the marriage and a kid.

[ace23]

You got a four year-old kid brah. Don't be an ass
This.

Not sure why you got married to and had children. You clearly weren't prepared mentally.

[Meticode]

I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

It was tough and I still think of her. It just wasn't for the sex we had a intense relationship. As far as not being emotionally ready to merry that's not true. I love my wife and have been with her for 10 years, you can and just might fall in love with another women. It sucks, I am guessing this might be what they call a midlife crisis.

Thanks for the advice. Still doesn't make it any easier.

[1987_Lakers]

I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.
:roll:

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

And for those that judge, remember until you walk in another mans shoes try to keep an open mind.

[GASOL IS GOAT]

Wow you're an idiot. Your wife's out of town... Wtf do you think she's doing? Your wife is clearly fcking another man, you should have just slept with your coworker :facepalm

[Meticode]

:roll:
What's so funny?

[fsvr54]

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.


Are you really though?

[1987_Lakers]

What's so funny?

Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.

[Meticode]

If you still love your wife and you love your kids, the moment you stick your ***** in that ****** that you're not married to and you finish, the very second you finish you're going to feel guilty as hell afterwards.

If you don't feel guilty you don't love your kids or wife.

[Meticode]

Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.
She is great, my actions were my actions alone. And what I did was a mistake. You wouldn't understand I suppose.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

If you still love your wife and you love your kids, the moment you stick your ***** in that ****** that you're not married to and you finish, the very second you finish you're going to feel guilty as hell afterwards.

If you don't feel guilty you don't love your kids or wife.


I think you are right. This is why I opened up online, to get another opinion from someone who has been there already.

Thanks

Also agree with you Kaspah

[AintNoSunshine]

So you are that close to ruining your marriage and the family environment that your "awesome 4 yo" could grow up in, for some sex.

You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place:facepalm

[Balla_Status]

You got married way too early bro.

[dude77]

hmm .. iffy situation .. it could work if you knew the coworker wouldn't cause any problems .. but you never know ..

and lol@wife being out of town .. where did she go ? for all we know, she's getting plowed by some bbc while you're anguishing over this

[LEFT4DEAD]

hmm .. iffy situation .. it could work if you knew the coworker wouldn't cause any problems .. but you never know ..

and lol@wife being out of town .. where did she go ? for all we know, she's getting plowed by some bbc while you're anguishing over this
Beat me to it :applause:

[rufuspaul]

Someone needs to tell the OP that slow dancing ≠ sex.

[fiddy]

I just went through the thread and....its official. ISH IS GAY.

[DukeDelonte13]

you don't want that onus on you.

Besides, she's 25. I'm no cheater, but the rule of cheating is you always have to "cheat up". Don't cheat on someone who has far less to lose than you. This girl isn't married, she probably wouldn't think twice about f*cking your sh*t up if it all hits the fan.

you did good.

[dude77]

you don't want that onus on you.

Besides, she's 25. I'm no cheater, but the rule of cheating is you always have to "cheat up". Don't cheat on someone who has far less to lose than you. This girl isn't married, she probably wouldn't think twice about f*cking your sh*t up if it all hits the fan.

you did good.

ah this makes a lot of sense .. well said

[brownmamba00]

Yes

[Nick Young]

GJ not slowdancing in front of everyone, be descreet, but if you could have gotten away with it without anyone knowing, you should go for it.

There is no Disney lala one true love bullshit. It is possible to love more then one woman at once. Just ask any mormon.

The guilt is all a personal belief thing. If it goes against your personal beliefs, you will feel guilty so don't do it. If it doesn't go against your personal beliefs, go for it and there will be no repurcussions as long as you don't let any nosy work gossip hos find out about it.

Don't stop yourself from doing something perfectly natural like this just because Disney lala PC society tells you it is wrong.

[DukeDelonte13]

GJ not slowdancing in front of everyone, be descreet, but if you could have gotten away with it without anyone knowing, you should go for it.

There is no Disney lala one true love bullshit. It is possible to love more then one woman at once. Just ask any mormon.

The guilt is all a personal belief thing. If it goes against your personal beliefs, you will feel guilty so don't do it. If it doesn't go against your personal beliefs, go for it and there will be no repurcussions as long as you don't let any nosy work gossip hos find out about it.

Don't stop yourself from doing something perfectly natural like this just because Disney lala PC society tells you it is wrong.


What Disney lala PC stuff are you talking about? The guy is married with a kid. I think OP cares more about f*cking his family up that what general societal expectations are. It doesn't matter what society thinks, what matters is explaining to your kid that mommy and daddy can't be with each other any more because daddy had to f*ck some office ho. OP doesn't want his kid and the mother of said kid resenting him for a lifetime.

[Nick Young]

What Disney lala PC stuff are you talking about? The guy is married with a kid. I think OP cares more about f*cking his family up that what general societal expectations are. It doesn't matter what society thinks, what matters is explaining to your kid that mommy and daddy can't be with each other any more because daddy had to f*ck some office ho. OP doesn't want his kid and the mother of said kid resenting him for a lifetime.
If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.

[eriX]

If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.

This is exactly why our society will never function the way it should. :facepalm

[Nick Young]

I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.
WTF man you used to be obsessed with her and even mentioned her in every post on this message board.

Are you living proof that life long married monogamy is not healthy or natural for humans? Even a man as in love with his wife as you are even cheated on her.

[DukeDelonte13]

If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.


that's true, but that's also a big time gamble. It doesn't matter if OP goes about everything perfectly, it's the office girl that can make everything come down. Scary sh*t if you ask me.

[Nick Young]

This is exactly why our society will never function the way it should. :facepalm
Sorry it's just the truth. If you expect everyone in society to have integrity and do the "right thing" all the time, you are naive and hopeless.

That's why all socialists/communists are naive and hopeless morons.

[Nick Young]

that's true, but that's also a big time gamble. It doesn't matter if OP goes about everything perfectly, it's the office girl that can make everything come down. Scary sh*t if you ask me.
Exactly, even if he does everything right, if the young woman goes nuts and catches feelings she can bring everything down. However its up to the OP to judge whether she's legit. Most chicks who get in to this kind of thing in the first place are nuts, but others are probably cool with it. Maybe office ho has done this loads before and would just f*ck him and peace out.

If that were the case, if I was OP I'd bang office slut if given the chance 10 times out of 10.

But again you're right, she's the wildcard here.

[Nick Young]

This nick young guy has absolutely no idea what he's talking about
You could learn alot from this Nick Young guy

[Fresh Kid]

you did tha right thing man. Especially since u have a kid and wife. I can relate to how pissed and hurt when my parentz divorced when i was 5 mainly cuz my mom found out that my dad cheated on her with a so called friend, I was young but I had a feeling something was wierd about tha situation when he always was with her all tha time had me watching ninja turtles in a room by myself while he and her went to tha other room by themselves. Yea man you did tha right thang, cuz that would of hurt your marriage and tha kid if your wife found out. I know u say you dont get that much excitement out of tha marriage, but try spicing it up man, do something extra special for her and she will return tha favor. you'll never know man.

[rufuspaul]

Thank God! I've spent years in therapy because I though I f*cked my aunt at a wedding.


:roll:

[imdaman99]

Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.
I think he used to do that because she was likely spying on his posts here :roll:

At least I hope so! At 1 point or another, I figured out my ex was googling my nick. I know she was checking my hotmail... I barely used that shit and she found out some shawty from another country was coming here to visit and wanted to chill (JUST AS FRIENDS). That shit was unhealthy and I eventually got the f out of it. It came to me having to filter my thoughts because she was googling everyday. I HOPE that's why Meti was doing it... lol although that shit ain't healthy :oldlol:

[Crown&Coke]

she works with you, that is too close to home (although I do not believe you should cheat on your wife)

Think about it, how easy would it be for someone to spill a couple beans and the whole house comes crashing down.

The simple question is, is it worth it?

That will answer your question, no one else can

[Mr. Jabbar]

had you slept with her you would have felt awfully bad and guilty the next day, and the day after it too, 3rd day tho all guilt is gone, works like a charm

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

Some very interesting replies, lol at the slow dance with the aunte.
If I slow danced with her in front of all the other wives people would be talking.

Another fact to think about is my marriage would survive regardless of a fling I might get caught for. It would be a little messy but it would survive.

She is not the type to go crazy and start yapping to the wife about anything.

Here is the kicker, she is going travelling in two weeks and will be gone for a long time. So the only repercussion would be on my conscience. However, I am not a liar and if my wife asked me straight up I would tell her the truth.

Shits not gonna happen anyways, just mulling it around in my head.lol

[longtime lurker]

If you're the type of guy that loves giving away half your money and only seeing your kids on the weekend then yeah you should have banged her.

[Fresh Kid]

Some very interesting replies, lol at the slow dance with the aunte.
If I slow danced with her in front of all the other wives people would be talking.

Another fact to think about is my marriage would survive regardless of a fling I might get caught for. It would be a little messy but it would survive.

She is not the type to go crazy and start yapping to the wife about anything.

Here is the kicker, she is going travelling in two weeks and will be gone for a long time. So the only repercussion would be on my conscience. However, I am not a liar and if my wife asked me straight up I would tell her the truth.

Shits not gonna happen anyways, just mulling it around in my head.lol
She might act like she don't care now but sooner or later down tha line she's gonna bring it up especially if shes mad at you about something else, but hey man its your choice, and lets say if tha gurl don't say anything to anybody you might feel guilty down tha line or start to like her a lot after you hit it especially if tha puhcee and her touches feel real amazing to you which could stir things up a bit.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

Well that's the problem, I am already in love with her and I haven't even slept with her. The girl and I have been through lots of intense situations ( my job involves high risk situations). She is gorgeous, smart and very funny.

So there was the dilemma, but I chose to be faithful in the end.

[Fresh Kid]

Well that's the problem, I am already in love with her and I haven't even slept with her. The girl and I have been through lots of intense situations ( my job involves high risk situations). She is gorgeous, smart and very funny.

So there was the dilemma, but I chose to be faithful in the end.
oh i feel you on that, you still made tha right choice though at tha end of tha day.

[Mr. Jabbar]

More info is needed. Is your wife a bitch and your son a total tw*t?

lmao

[HardwoodLegend]

What's in it for the co-worker? You said she's going traveling in two weeks and will be gone for a long time, so why would she bang an old dude who's beneath her in the sociosexual hierarchy?

Do yourself a favor and watch the film 'Scarlet Street' to see why you did the right thing.

[LJJ]

Some other 35 yo loser is going to tear that ***** up now. You just ruined someone else's marriage, fool.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

What's in it for the co-worker? You said she's going traveling in two weeks and will be gone for a long time, so why would she bang an old dude who's beneath her in the sociosexual hierarchy?

Do yourself a favor and watch the film 'Scarlet Street' to see why you did the right thing.


I am getting some great laughs at some of these posts.
She would ''BANG'' me because I have still have some game. Also you might be surprised, slightly older men with a bit of money and experience are very attractive to younger women. However, I think she didn't want a long term relationship with me,just an experience.

[n00bie]

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.

My life used to have excitement now it is rather mundane, this girl makes me feel young again.

So staff party was yesterday(wife was out of town) and she wants to slow dance with me in front of all my work colleagues, of course I said no and we had a big fight. She is leaving the office and I may never see her again.

I am in love with her and feel like a wimp for not sealing the deal, however there would be bad consequences if I did.

Do you think I made a mistake not sleeping with her?

You're an ass. You are not just cheating on you're wife, you are also cheating on your kid.

You're a horrible dad, and I feel sorry for your kid.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

You're an ass. You are not just cheating on you're wife, you are also cheating on your kid.

You're a horrible dad, and I feel sorry for your kid.


I am afraid noobie I may have hit a sore spot with you. I hope I did not bring up some old memories that made you feel unwanted/unloved.

[DukeDelonte13]

I am getting some great laughs at some of these posts.
She would ''BANG'' me because I have still have some game. Also you might be surprised, slightly older men with a bit of money and experience are very attractive to younger women. However, I think she didn't want a long term relationship with me,just an experience.


hook line and sinker.

[millwad]

I am afraid noobie I may have hit a sore spot with you. I hope I did not bring up some old memories that made you feel unwanted/unloved.

He's right though, you're kind of pathetic and I feel sorry for your kid as well. And this is coming from a person who has a great father, something you're not.

If you want to sleep with another women, divorce first.

[niko]

What do you want more? Drama? The possible loss of access to your four year old? Your great marriage to turn to shit? To pay half your income to your wife while she ****s other guys?

All of these are viable outcomes of this. Plus the girl isn't exactly going to keep you on the down low, she went mental that you wouldn't so something that would have got you in trouble.

Sex is fleeting, ****ing up your marriage for something short term makes no sense.

[CeltsGarlic]

you already know you gonna sleep with her. just embrace it and do it/her. no free will bro, just instincts.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

He's right though, you're kind of pathetic and I feel sorry for your kid as well. And this is coming from a person who has a great father, something you're not.

If you want to sleep with another women, divorce first.


Well Millwad, I am still a man. If you become an asexual being that's your prerogative.

When you grow up I hope you think back to this tread and try and to be a little more open minded.

[niko]

Well Millwad, I am still a man. If you become an asexual being that's your prerogative.

When you grow up I hope you think back to this tread and try and to be a little more open minded.
You have a four year old and you're considering to bang some chick from work because you're bored. You're a moron. I LIKE MY LIFE BUT I AM CONSIDERING ****ING IT UP, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

I say go for it, people tend to do what they want, i've seen so many people do this and then come crying (literally) I LOVE HER SO MUCH WHY DID SHE LEAVE ME? The best is the dads who get to see their Kids once a month so the kid's don't listen to them anymore.

:cheers:

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

Remember wanting to do something and actually doing it are two different things.

[niko]

Remember wanting to do something and actually doing it are two different things.
I have plenty of girls I've "wanted" to ****, asking someone if you should after you are already discussing it with them is a bit more, no?

[DeuceWallaces]

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.

My life used to have excitement now it is rather mundane, this girl makes me feel young again.

So staff party was yesterday(wife was out of town) and she wants to slow dance with me in front of all my work colleagues, of course I said no and we had a big fight. She is leaving the office and I may never see her again.

I am in love with her and feel like a wimp for not sealing the deal, however there would be bad consequences if I did.

Do you think I made a mistake not sleeping with her?

Nope, you're not.

[HardwoodLegend]

I am getting some great laughs at some of these posts.
She would ''BANG'' me because I have still have some game. Also you might be surprised, slightly older men with a bit of money and experience are very attractive to younger women. However, I think she didn't want a long term relationship with me,just an experience.

I'm not surprised. But, they usually are attracted to types like you for long-term stability and go behind your back for rendezvous with the pool cleaning Cabana boys. Or, maybe I'm not aware that there are also fleeting sexual fantasies women have about older men.

[niko]

Also doing something and getting caught are two different things ;)
It's not worth it. No **** is worth losing your wife, having to pay her to not be with you, and also not see your kids. OP trying to **** up his job too, I'm sure they'd love the drama.

People didn't get laid enough in their life prior to marriage, sex you do it, you're done, you move on. Saying you have a wonderful 4 year old but you may beed to cheat anyone either shows great immaturity or you're just thinking what you are missing is worht it.

[kNIOKAS]

You couldn't if you wanted to:lol


little weeny wanker


:facepalm

[niko]

JFK cheated on his wife and she was fine as hell

Again, dead. Shot in head. :facepalm Even though he had Marylin in Bed. (YO YO YO)

[HardwoodLegend]

Tiger Woods cheated on his wife and daughter, and they were fine as hell and adorable/awesome as hell respectively.

[niko]

Tiger Woods cheated on his wife and daughter, and they were fine as hell and adorable/awesome as hell respectively.
And his life and career went to shit. that's not a good example that cheating works out ok.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

Thanks Insidehoops, you saved me and my marriage.

Nico you are so right, just screw lots of broads early on and voila, no desire later in life, so easy.

Some of you guys are too much, I know its on when rosy cheeks is giving marriage advice.

Interesting to see who has some life experiences and those who are still stuck behind a screen. The self righteous ones are always a laugh.

[MP.Trey]

Real nggas have side pvssy and they tell their girl "this is just the way it is, if you wanna be with me you get used to it"

I ain't a real ngga though. My girl still cries bout her ex cause I don't fvk her as well as he did
:roll:

[niko]

Thanks Insidehoops, you saved me and my marriage.

Nico you are so right, just screw lots of broads early on and voila, no desire later in life, so easy.

Some of you guys are too much, I know its on when rosy cheeks is giving marriage advice.

Interesting to see who has some life experiences and those who are still stuck behind a screen. The self righteous ones are always a laugh.
I don't have no desire. I just have sense. There is not one individual **** that is worth what will be equivalent of half my house, income and losing my kids. Where is this half a million dollar ****? Who would this woman be?

I'm telling you i see it, the dude nails the young girl, young girl has a fit when she gets tossed aside like a hooch, calls the wife, then dude is crying "IM SO SORRY,...I DIDNT MEAN TO DO IT (like his dick flew on its own inside the woman)". I do not want to be that sad crying begging guy who has to go to court for permission to see his kids.

[Fresh Kid]

Remember wanting to do something and actually doing it are two different things.
thats deep.

[hateraid]

I've been married for 9 years now and have a 9 year old. I've been with my girl for 18 years now. During that time I've had some girls who had a thing for me. Some of them fine as shit. I have never entertained them.

the thing I have always said to myself when these situations occur is this: What if this was my wife being proposed by another man? I sure as hell would be crushed if she entertained a man who wanted to have sex with her. Chances are she's a female so there probably has been those chances.

I commend you my friend on resisting temptation. A year down the road you'll come to a realization you did the right thing

[Fresh Kid]

I've been married for 9 years now and have a 9 year old. I've been with my girl for 18 years now. During that time I've had some girls who had a thing for me. Some of them fine as shit. I have never entertained them.

the thing I have always said to myself when these situations occur is this: What if this was my wife being proposed by another man? I sure as hell would be crushed if she entertained a man who wanted to have sex with her. Chances are she's a female so there probably has been those chances.

I commend you my friend on resisting temptation. A year down the road you'll come to a realization you did the right thing
Im glad u think like that man, cuz he knows he would be devasted if his wife cheated on him too, that wouldn't be right.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

I've been married for 9 years now and have a 9 year old. I've been with my girl for 18 years now. During that time I've had some girls who had a thing for me. Some of them fine as shit. I have never entertained them.

the thing I have always said to myself when these situations occur is this: What if this was my wife being proposed by another man? I sure as hell would be crushed if she entertained a man who wanted to have sex with her. Chances are she's a female so there probably has been those chances.

I commend you my friend on resisting temptation. A year down the road you'll come to a realization you did the right thing


That is why I opened up online, to get another mans perspective and credible advice.

Thank you

[Stempel, HERB]

half my income

Last I knew you were a drain on your wife racking up weeks of unemployment like a proud puerto rican man. You don't want to give up dat gravy train.

[niko]

Last I knew you were a drain on your wife racking up weeks of unemployment like a proud puerto rican man. You don't want to give up dat gravy train.
I have a $850k house in Brooklyn that's paid off. Right now I'm laid off. Yes, i am collecting unemployment, because for 20 years i paid my taxes into the system. And then i'll get a job, and pay back into the system again.

So kiss my ass.

[Pushxx]

Most everyone in this thread has given great advice. If she would let you cheat, she would cheat on you. Also, if she's taken: if she would cheat on him, she would cheat on you.

Think of how your wife would react if she knew your thoughts right now. She would probably be like "wtf give me a chance if you've got a problem."

It's up to you to make your own life exciting again with your wife instead of having another woman do it for you. Cheating is never worth it unless you don't care about the person you are cheating on. Then it's still not worth it.

[HardwoodLegend]

And his life and career went to shit. that's not a good example that cheating works out ok.

He's doing just fine, as is Bill Clinton.

[DeuceWallaces]

Thanks Insidehoops, you saved me and my marriage.

Nico you are so right, just screw lots of broads early on and voila, no desire later in life, so easy.

Some of you guys are too much, I know its on when rosy cheeks is giving marriage advice.

Interesting to see who has some life experiences and those who are still stuck behind a screen. The self righteous ones are always a laugh.

Oh gimme a break. I've been together with my current fiance for nearly 11 years and haven't had an issue. It's not that hard to be faithful. Hell I don't even have a kid and you were still willing to put that shit on the line, because you're bored and can't put the effort in to make your marriage interesting.

I'd also like to point out what a major ****ing loser you have to be for you to actually type "Thanks InsideHoops, you saved my marriage."

[Fresh Kid]

He's doing just fine, as is Bill Clinton.
Bill Clinton have tonz of money tho:coleman:

[riseagainst]

He's doing just fine, as is Bill Clinton.

i'd vote for Clinton if he runs for president again.

[SUNNYSIDEUP]

Oh gimme a break. I've been together with my current fiance for nearly 11 years and haven't had an issue. It's not that hard to be faithful. Hell I don't even have a kid and you were still willing to put that shit on the line, because you're bored and can't put the effort in to make your marriage interesting.

I'd also like to point out what a major ****ing loser you have to be for you to actually type "Thanks InsideHoops, you saved my marriage."

Sorry Deuce if I offended you, but how old are you anyway, 26-27. So you have been with the same girl since you were 15ish. Good for you.

I

[niko]

He's doing just fine, as is Bill Clinton.
No he's not. He lost his wife, almost all his sponsors, and the most important thing to him, winning majors is gone because he's so distracted that he plays like his balls are cut off.

The important things to Tiger (the most important being winning majors) are seemingly gone because of all the distractions. I don't think banging ho's is big on the list.

Some of you are pretty sad, was it that hard for you to get girls that you think cheating is this fantastic thing to do? YES I ****ED UP MY LIFE, BUT I PROVED I CAN PICK UP A DUMB 24 YEAR OLD. BECAUSE SOMEHOW THAT IS DIFFICULT.

[$LakerGold]

Sorry Deuce if I offended you, but how old are you anyway, 26-27. So you have been with the same girl since you were 15ish. Good for you.

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That dude is so salty for some reason. People don't take him seriously on here, so I'd suggest you do the same. He figured out how to wack off 11 years ago. FIANCE MY ASS. Got a face only a mother could love. :lol

I'm outta here:)

Btw, Deuce, did you fall from heaven? Cuz your face is F*CKED UP!

[DeuceWallaces]

Sorry Deuce if I offended you, but how old are you anyway, 26-27. So you have been with the same girl since you were 15ish. Good for you.

I'm 34 and wouldn't **** over my wife and kid because I'm an inept **** who can't make his marriage interesting. It doesn't take a lot of character to resist screwing over your wife and kid.

[niko]

I'm 34 and wouldn't **** over my wife and kid because I'm an inept **** who can't make his marriage interesting. It doesn't take a lot of character to resist screwing over your wife and kid.
People are stupid, they are basically taking an hour or so with a hoochie over their wife and kids. Little kids who count on you. Go jerk off or something. WTF...

[Scholar]

I'm late to this, but just wanted to say:

OP, you can't be a happily married man if you're contemplating cheating. Just the fact that you're looking elsewhere reveals you aren't truly happily married.


This point may have been made and refuted already. I wouldn't know.. I only read the first page. I might have to read through this thread later to get a clearer picture.

[LJJ]

I'm late to this, but just wanted to say:

OP, you can't be a happily married man if you're contemplating cheating. Just the fact that you're looking elsewhere reveals you aren't truly happily married.


This point may have been made and refuted already. I wouldn't know.. I only read the first page. I might have to read through this thread later to get a clearer picture.

It's been made, but it can't be properly refuted because it's true.

OP backed down because he's a coward, not for any other reason like loyalty. Yet he still wants us to give him daps for being a "responsible" father. It's pathetic really, in the most entertaining of ways. I've just been sitting back and enjoying the show.

[hateraid]

I'm late to this, but just wanted to say:

OP, you can't be a happily married man if you're contemplating cheating. Just the fact that you're looking elsewhere reveals you aren't truly happily married.


This point may have been made and refuted already. I wouldn't know.. I only read the first page. I might have to read through this thread later to get a clearer picture.

I don't agree with this. I think there is a difference between being unhappy and bored due to being sexually void. As a married man I would be lying if I said that I didn't think about smashing a hottie. The difference is I have will power and a conscience. But it doesn't mean I am unhappy with my married life. Some men are just weak in mind and can easily cave in to those urges. Afterall we do lose circulation to our brains once we are physically aroused

[ace23]

I thought Meticode was divorced.

[DeuceWallaces]

So meticode actually f*cked another bitch?

He came into a thread one night talking about emailing with on old high school friend or something and his wife went off. That's all I know.

The outwardly high and mighty are always the true douchebags.

[Ikill]

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old,
Theres your answer nothing more to it

[niko]

The outwardly high and mighty are always the true douchebags.

He always struck me as insecure over his marriage, the way he talked about his wife. She was virginal and supermodels paled in comparison. AND SHE WAS A VIRGIN UNTIL HIM, REMEMBER THAT!

[veilside23]

I commend you op for reaching out you almost had it but somehow still had the conscience not to do it. All things have fallen into its place you did the right thing to ask.

One thing that could back fire is since you guys are co workers and the girl might black mail you or anything. if not then problem is solved.

If you see your kid say sorry .. just the thought of cheating would actually hurt your wife it may not show but if you ask me once you tell her be ready and do not be defensive.

Communication is the key ... I believe none of this would have happen if you talk to your wife about it.

I also want to ask you a favor do not entertain the thought of i love her and tend to say you just dont love her anymore because all she wanted was the experience... What if another girl comes around and they want more?

i hope you realize that just the thought of cheating may lead to something one day. you may disregard it now but as you said you are a stable man and girls dig that specially if you are handsome. hell even if you are not if you have $$$$ girls wont even think twice of screwing your life.

Goodluck

[Draz]

Don't do it. When you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, fine. When you're married, you are obligated and should therefore stay committed.

[hateraid]

I commend you op for reaching out you almost had it but somehow still had the conscience not to do it. All things have fallen into its place you did the right thing to ask.

One thing that could back fire is since you guys are co workers and the girl might black mail you or anything. if not then problem is solved.

If you see your kid say sorry .. just the thought of cheating would actually hurt your wife it may not show but if you ask me once you tell her be ready and do not be defensive.

Communication is the key ... I believe none of this would have happen if you talk to your wife about it.

I also want to ask you a favor do not entertain the thought of i love her and tend to say you just dont love her anymore because all she wanted was the experience... What if another girl comes around and they want more?

i hope you realize that just the thought of cheating may lead to something one day. you may disregard it now but as you said you are a stable man and girls dig that specially if you are handsome. hell even if you are not if you have $$$$ girls wont even think twice of screwing your life.

Goodluck

Telling his wife this situation is the LAST thing he should do. Nothing happened so nothing to tell. Telling his wife he is sexually attracted to a co-worker who would engage back is not going to end well. there are certain things men should be permitted to hide and this is one of them.

If he does tell my suggestion is to bend the truth. Admit to the girl liking him, tell his wife he did not do anything, leave the part out where he wanted to screw her. It's the only way he comes out golden.

[Sarcastic]

8 pages and no pics of said 25 year old?

Fail thread.

[Budadiiii]

Oh gimme a break. I've been together with my current fiance for nearly 11 years and haven't had an issue. It's not that hard to be faithful. Hell I don't even have a kid and you were still willing to put that shit on the line, because you're bored and can't put the effort in to make your marriage interesting.

I'd also like to point out what a major ****ing loser you have to be for you to actually type "Thanks InsideHoops, you saved my marriage."
Look at you.

Of course it's easy to remain faithful when you look like you. No woman is throwing themselves at you. Absolute none.

Easy to talk about topics you will never fully understand. You're a legit troll.

[Meticode]

WTF man you used to be obsessed with her and even mentioned her in every post on this message board.

Are you living proof that life long married monogamy is not healthy or natural for humans? Even a man as in love with his wife as you are even cheated on her.
You never know how you're going to react to something until you're in that situation is all I can say. You can say you'll be as faithful as possible, but you can only hope that you'll be faithful if the opportunity comes. Actually doing it is a whole different story.

[red1]

Cheating is tricky. For someone in your situation that shit will come back to bite you in the ass, I doubt that you could keep something that started in the office under wraps. I don't see anything morally wrong about wanting to fulfill your natural desire to f*ck tons of women but the story changes when you involve a kid and a committed relationship. The way I would view it is that you have a lot more to lose then you have to gain when it comes to a quick fling. Assuming your wife does her best to hold up her end of the relationship would you even be able to blame her or your kid for thinking you are a piece of shit?

[redboy]

if you didn't have a child and you were unhappy with your relationship, you should have gone for it. but once you have a child that looks up to you as a role model and as a father, your responsibility in life changes. can you imagine how your child will react in ten years down the line if he finds out that you cheated on his mother? he's look at you as another crappy father that didn't take care of his family. man up, act like a dad and take responsibility for the actions and decisions you made in your life man

[red1]

And let's not kid ourselves, any man will cheat if put in the right situation. It's all about thinking ahead and avoiding putting yourself in tempting situations which is easier said then done. OP you didn't miss out this time, trust me. Perhaps if you hadn't been laid in years then yeah you should've jumped at it but for now just comfort yourself with your trusty left hand and take solace in the fact that you don't have to deal with the headache and regret that would've came up sooner or later if you took the 60 seconds to bang that tight 25-year old puzzy

[redboy]

And let's not kid ourselves, any man will cheat if put in the right situation. It's all about thinking ahead and avoiding putting yourself in tempting situations which is easier said then done. OP you didn't miss out this time, trust me. Perhaps if you hadn't been laid in years then yeah you should've jumped at it but for now just comfort yourself with your trusty left hand and take solace in the fact that you don't have to deal with the headache and regret that would've came up sooner or later if you took the 60 seconds to bang that tight 25-year old puzzy
yeah in the end it all comes down to short term vs. long term gratification. your body is made to lust after that *****. however, it isn't the sex part that matters. it's the consequence of the sex. think about it this way; 30 years down the road, are you going to be wishing you hit it or thankful that your kid didn't look at you like a deadbeat dad because you weren't satisfied with his mom?

[red1]

yeah in the end it all comes down to short term vs. long term gratification. your body is made to lust after that *****. however, it isn't the sex part that matters. it's the consequence of the sex. think about it this way; 30 years down the road, are you going to be wishing you hit it or thankful that your kid didn't look at you like a deadbeat dad because you weren't satisfied with his mom?
There are COUNTLESS men out there who were in OP's exact situation who wish they could go back in time and avoid doing exactly what the OP wanted to do. Consider yourself lucky OP because circumstance made a decision for you that you weren't ready to make

[IcanzIIravor]

You never know how you're going to react to something until you're in that situation is all I can say. You can say you'll be as faithful as possible, but you can only hope that you'll be faithful if the opportunity comes. Actually doing it is a whole different story.

For shame!

Glad you and the wife are working things out. You're on the short leash from hell though. Don't screw up.

[DeuceWallaces]

Look at you.

Of course it's easy to remain faithful when you look like you. No woman is throwing themselves at you. Absolute none.

Easy to talk about topics you will never fully understand. You're a legit troll.

Dude, look at you. You're a down syndrome internet troll. You have no idea what you're talking about.

[DeuceWallaces]

You never know how you're going to react to something until you're in that situation is all I can say. You can say you'll be as faithful as possible, but you can only hope that you'll be faithful if the opportunity comes. Actually doing it is a whole different story.

Pretty much every man in a relationship is presented with that situation at least once. The majority of us aren't weak enough to submit to it; you just think about the ones you love and how you'll hurt them. It's pretty easy if you have half a brain to do the right thing.

[Jameerthefear]

i like deucewallaces i dont understand y everyone hates on him

[ihoopallday]

:roll: What if this dudes wife got on his computer and found this thread. Like they say, "once you put it in the internet, it's there forever". But reading stuff like this makes me realize how unprepared people are for marriage. Sad stuff.

[hateraid]

if you didn't have a child and you were unhappy with your relationship, you should have gone for it. but once you have a child that looks up to you as a role model and as a father, your responsibility in life changes. can you imagine how your child will react in ten years down the line if he finds out that you cheated on his mother? he's look at you as another crappy father that didn't take care of his family. man up, act like a dad and take responsibility for the actions and decisions you made in your life man

I don't agree. Cheating doesn't make you a bad father nor a deadbeat. It makes you a bad husband. How does cheating mean he can't take care of his child?

[dude77]

lol@all these neutered, effeminate, domesticated betas in this thread


op if you wanna **** someone else .. go ahead .. men aren't meant to **** solely one ***** for the rest of their lives .. especially one that starts looking like roast beef curtains with a gaping hole in the middle .. that's why everyone's always @$#%$ cheating .. of course don't be stupid and do it in a way that puts you at a higher risk of being caught

[Nick Young]

lol@all these neutered, effeminate, domesticated betas in this thread


op if you wanna **** someone else .. go ahead .. men aren't meant to **** solely one ***** for the rest of their lives .. especially one that starts looking like roast beef curtains with a gaping hole in the middle .. that's why everyone's always @$#%$ cheating .. of course don't be stupid and do it in a way that puts you at a higher risk of being caught
u right, doe.