How to help a friend that is extremely p-whipped?

[Nick Young]

Does anyone have any advice for helping out friends who are ridiculously ***** whipped?

My flat mate and one of my best friends started dating this chick 7 months ago who is like a 5/10 at best and has the added bonus of looking 14 years old. Sometimes it looks like a dad walking with his daughter and he's only 22. Its a combination of her being flat, no hips, short, doesnt wear makeup and dresses like a middle school girl, but that's not the point.

The point is this dude used to be cool but now all he talks about is his girlfriend, they've been dating 7 months and haven't even had sex. She's a hardcore repressed Christian and instilling her will upon him. Already he's told me they've talked about getting married within the next year. This guy is throwing his life down the toilet for a 5/10 prude christian with a boring personality.

I used to do a business with him and my other friend, but since this girl came in 7 months ago he's effectively done nothing to contribute to the business at all. It's pretty much just me and my non-whipped friend with him still tagging on, but not really contributing anything. He's effectively been dropped and he doesn't even give a shit. The business is making money but he's just happy to dote on his girlfriend and work in a super market instead of reaping the rewards.


This guy used to be cool but now he acts like a limp dicked ****** who can't do anything without asking his girlfriend if it's ok first. It's harsh but its true. His other friends all feel this way too. He stopped hanging out with a lot of them because she throws little girl tantrums if he talks to or looks at other girls, or if he gets drunk. Every 4 days or so she manufactures some drama that makes him mope all day and cry in his room, until he desperately apologizes and she forgives him.

An example of the drama she invents is she made him "confess" to her what kind of porn he watches, because she thought porn was disgusting. He told her exactly what kind of porn he watches, she made fun of him then told him he wasn't allowed to watch porn anymore. Like a bitch, he said Ok. This guy used to not be a loser, but he's become close to the most desperate beta loser I can imagine. He used to be ambitious and organized.

In your experience what's the best way to help out p*ssy whipped friends? Should I try to intervention and tell him the honest truth about how he's throwing away his life to a 5/10 loser chick and becoming boring and ***** whipped, or is it better to mind my own business and let him fail at life and make his own mistakes?

[chosen_one6]

Does anyone have any advice for helping out friends who are ridiculously ***** whipped?

My flat mate and one of my best friends started dating this chick 7 months ago who is like a 5/10 at best and has the added bonus of looking 14 years old. Sometimes it looks like a dad walking with his daughter and he's only 22. Its a combination of her being flat, no hips, short, doesnt wear makeup and dresses like a middle school girl, but that's not the point.

The point is this dude used to be cool but now all he talks about is his girlfriend, they've been dating 7 months and haven't even had sex. She's a hardcore repressed Christian and instilling her will upon him. Already he's told me they've talked about getting married within the next year. This guy is throwing his life down the toilet for a 5/10 prude christian with a boring personality.

I used to do a business with him and my other friend, but since this girl came in 7 months ago he's effectively done nothing to contribute to the business at all. It's pretty much just me and my non-whipped friend with him still tagging on, but not really contributing anything. He's effectively been dropped and he doesn't even give a shit. The business is making money but he's just happy to dote on his girlfriend and work in a super market instead of reaping the rewards.


This guy used to be cool but now he acts like a limp dicked ****** who can't do anything without asking his girlfriend if it's ok first. It's harsh but its true. His other friends all feel this way too. He stopped hanging out with a lot of them because she throws little girl tantrums if he talks to or looks at other girls, or if he gets drunk. Every 4 days or so she manufactures some drama that makes him mope all day and cry in his room, until he desperately apologizes and she forgives him.

An example of the drama she invents is she made him "confess" to her what kind of porn he watches, because she thought porn was disgusting. He told her exactly what kind of porn he watches, she made fun of him then told him he wasn't allowed to watch porn anymore. Like a bitch, he said Ok. This guy used to not be a loser, but he's become close to the most desperate beta loser I can imagine. He used to be ambitious and organized.

In your experience what's the best way to help out p*ssy whipped friends? Should I try to intervention and tell him the honest truth about how he's throwing away his life to a 5/10 loser chick and becoming boring and ***** whipped, or is it better to mind my own business and let him fail at life and make his own mistakes?

If she makes him happy and causes no negative affects to him physically or mentally then let them be.

[Nick Young]

He is mentally definitely affected, his self esteem has gone to shit, and he used to work hard at our business and be ambitious but now he just gives up really easily and he's completely dropped it, and he used to be assertive and now just bends to her will. It is the most co-dependant shit I've ever seen up close and he's obsessed with her in a bad way, in that he puts every waking moment to her and she has got other shit going on and has life.

But you're right so far I've just been minding my own business so far, he's clearly flushing his life down the toilet but I guess that's just what happens in life, can't let that shit drag me and my business down, and have to come to terms that people change.

[KobesFinger]

He is mentally definitely affected, his self esteem has gone to shit, and he used to work hard at our business and be ambitious but now he just gives up really easily and he's completely dropped it, and he used to be assertive and now just bends to her will. It is the most co-dependant shit I've ever seen up close and they're obsessed with eachother in a bad way.

But you're right so far I've just been minding my own business so far, he's flushing his life down the toilet but I guess that's just what happens in life, can't let that shit drag me and my business down, and have to come to terms that people change.

Take him to a strip club or a party with easy girls

[chosen_one6]

He is mentally definitely affected, his self esteem has gone to shit, and he used to work hard at our business and be ambitious but now he just gives up really easily and he's completely dropped it, but you're right so far I've just been minding my own business so far, he's flushing his life down the toilet but I guess that's just what happens in life, can't let that shit drag me and my business down, and have to come to terms that people change.

If he has allowed himself to let another person affect him that much, then shame on him. All you can do as a friend is voice your opinion and hope that he takes it into consideration. You can't get involved with other people's emotions, it gets too messy.

[Budadiiii]

Those guys are always disappointing.

Just the type of dudes you cant rely on. I've seen it happen so many times, a dude catches feelings and becomes a slave to the girl. Just lose their drive, their manhood. They turn into drug addicts or some shit. They NEED that girl.

I've always been independent, a leader, an 'alpha' so to speak. Had plenty of girls on my dick throughout schooling, never phased me. I continued to live in the moment and take care of business. Kept pushing forward, never got consumed by the temporary satisfaction of having a mate, didn't get attached, or distracted.

Which is why I consider myself to be better than mostly everyone else. Self reliant and mentally strong and well rounded.

GOAT material.

[Nick Young]

Take him to a strip club or a party with easy girls
LOL I tried that last month, had a house party with a bunch of Scandinavian and romanian girls from my work last month, even was hyping up to him that one of the girls was really into him so he knew there'd be an easy lay. I wasn't lying this girl has met him a few times and told me she wants to f*ck him. An easy 7.5, and upgrade on his prude plain jane girlfriend. His girlfriend wasn't around but he just had one drink and went to bed at 10 to call his girlfriend, hardly even looked at or spoke to any of the girls. It's just gotten to the point where I've completely lost faith in this guy, not just as a friend but as a business partner. He chick is a goddamn Yoko, but whatever if its what they both want I guess I got to let them be.

[chosen_one6]

Those guys are always disappointing.

Just the type of dudes you cant rely on. I've seen it happen so many times, a dude catches feelings and becomes a slave to the girl. Just lose their drive, their manhood. They turn into drug addicts or some shit. They NEED that girl.

I've always been independent, a leader, an 'alpha' so to speak. Had plenty of girls on my dick throughout schooling, never phased me. I continued to live in the moment and take care of business. Kept pushing forward, never got consumed by the temporary satisfaction of having a mate, didn't get attached, or distracted.

Which is why I consider myself to be better than mostly everyone else. Self reliant and mentally strong and well rounded.

GOAT material.

When you're done jerking yourself off into your mouth please join us in conversation, but brush your teeth first.

[ballup]

Sounds like someone is jealous because his man was stolen away from him.

[Nick Young]

Sounds like someone is jealous because his man was stolen away from him.
LOL maybe. This guy was a good business partner when we were starting up, now he is useless and dead weight.

[Budadiiii]

When you're done jerking yourself off into your mouth please join us in conversation, but brush your teeth first.
What conversation? This is a beta thread. I don't want to be involved in whatever beta jibber jabber you guys are engaged in. Not my forte.

Asking how to get your 'old friend back' because n*gga done found something new to live for, he found some new sense of comfort and excitement, and this n*gga doesn't like it. He wants his old friend back. He doesn't want to share him with sum bitch.

That's beta talk. LOL, I aint about to join in and give my advice. Sometimes its good to post about yourself, for yourself, instead of talking about random people. I know its hard for someone that lives vicariously through another man, ala you and LBJ. But get some balls and actually be your own man and stop with the beta jibber jabber for once in your life.

[chosen_one6]

What conversation? This is a beta thread. I don't want to be involved in whatever beta jibber jabber you guys are engaged in. Not my forte.

Asking how to get your 'old friend back' because n*gga done found something new to live for, he found some new sense of comfort and excitement, and this n*gga doesn't like it. He wants his old friend back. He doesn't want to share him with sum bitch.

That's beta talk. LOL, I aint about to join in and give my advice. Sometimes its good to post about yourself, for yourself, instead of talking about random people. I know its hard for someone that lives vicariously through another man, ala you and LBJ. But get some balls and actually be your own man and stop with the beta jibber jabber for once in your life.

Right, because being a fan of a sports figure clearly means I live vicariously through them.

You're obviously too self-righteous to indulge in conversation about things that happen to people in the real world. Back to your dungeon you go, sucking yourself off. Have fun Mr. Alpha. I'm sure your skin will be extra silky smooth from all of the extra protein it'll be receiving shortly.

[Budadiiii]

Right, because being a fan of a sports figure clearly means I live vicariously through them.

You're obviously too self-righteous to indulge in conversation about things that happen to people in the real world. Back to your dungeon you go, sucking yourself off. Have fun Mr. Alpha. I'm sure your skin will be extra silky smooth from all of the extra protein it'll be receiving shortly.
LOL dude, seriously? It's that easy to get under your skin? haha, wow.

I was saying all that in jest, not really taking myself too serious, and this is the type of beta response I get? :facepalm

Dude, you're a freaking beta. There's no doubt about it. You want real world? 7 strangers living in the same house?

*punches chosen_one6 in the gut*

Real enough for you?




"organized sports are so fatuous, it makes me sick" :biggums:

Infiltrate the dealer, find the supplier. :facepalm

You = beta.

[Bandito]

Right, because being a fan of a sports figure clearly means I live vicariously through them.

You're obviously too self-righteous to indulge in conversation about things that happen to people in the real world. Back to your dungeon you go, sucking yourself off. Have fun Mr. Alpha. I'm sure your skin will be extra silky smooth from all of the extra protein it'll be receiving shortly.
http://www.roxanegay.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/lol-why-you-mad-tho.jpeg

[Dresta]

You really can't do anything.

Just give him up as a lost cause and then wait until the whole thing falls apart, which it eventually will.

[I<3NBA]

**** his girl and then tell him what you did. you might lose him as a friend but i can guarantee he'll definitely leave the girl.


or not - if he's a bigger bitch than i thought.

but that girl sounds like a real bitch. she definitely needs to be taught a lesson.

[YouGotServed]

Sounds like someone is jealous because his man was stolen away from him.

This. Why you all up in his business? Quit worrying about another man's life like a f*cking loser and mind your own business. He's a grown man, he doesn't need your advice.

[Nick Young]

This. Why you all up in his business? Quit worrying about another man's life like a f*cking loser and mind your own business. He's a grown man, he doesn't need your advice.
Cus not only is he a friend he used to be a productive business partner and now he doesn't do jack shit, just rots and moans. Because the guy is one of my flat mates, I hear him moan a lot, I even just started leaving the room when he starts to moan and he follows me in to the kitchen to complain about some bullshit, or to brag about some boring bullshit his girlfriend did. You're right though, can't let negativity drag me down anymore, gotta move on and drop the dead weight.

[niko]

You really can't do anything.

Just give him up as a lost cause and then wait until the whole thing falls apart, which it eventually will.
This.

[1987_Lakers]

I was in a similar situation.

I have a friend who was extremely p-whipped and the worst part of it is she was/is a complete bitch. She would disrespect my friend's parents (my friend's sister hates her), he would never hang out with us without her presence. She wanted him all to herself, over-attached type of girl. There was a time when I didn't hang out with him for a 6 month period because she caught him cheating, my friend's whole family dislikes her and my friends think she's a total bitch. The final straw was when she caught my friend smoking weed and she overreacted BIG time, she started cusses him out, disrespecting him and moved out the house. Seriously, who the f*** acts like that over some weed? She told my friend that she would get back with him, but he has to stop smoking weed and he has to change his number and never talk to his friends again.

Me and other friends pulled him aside and told him straight up that's not a healthy relationship, you can't let her control you like that. And he finally took our advice and she moved out.

OP have you at least pulled him aside and told him how you feel?

[1987_Lakers]

In your experience what's the best way to help out p*ssy whipped friends? Should I try to intervention and tell him the honest truth about how he's throwing away his life to a 5/10 loser chick and becoming boring and ***** whipped,

Do this, in a respectful way of course, if you can tell other friends to join you, that would help.

[KobesFinger]

Do this, in a respectful way of course, if you can tell other friends to join you, that would help.

:lol how do you respectfully tell your boy his chick is ugly and a bitch?

[Swaggin916]

Those guys are always disappointing.

Just the type of dudes you cant rely on. I've seen it happen so many times, a dude catches feelings and becomes a slave to the girl. Just lose their drive, their manhood. They turn into drug addicts or some shit. They NEED that girl.

I've always been independent, a leader, an 'alpha' so to speak. Had plenty of girls on my dick throughout schooling, never phased me. I continued to live in the moment and take care of business. Kept pushing forward, never got consumed by the temporary satisfaction of having a mate, didn't get attached, or distracted.

Which is why I consider myself to be better than mostly everyone else. Self reliant and mentally strong and well rounded.

GOAT material.

Typical sterotypical male afraid to connect with anyone other than himself and those who will help him.

[niko]

:lol how do you respectfully tell your boy his chick is ugly and a bitch?
You don't. It won't work. I've had people drop off that you tell over and over what is going on, either they ignore, or they blame you, or they turn on you since you are against the great love of their life.

It's a lost cause.

[Swaggin916]

Nick Young tell your friend he is doing this girl a real disservice and being selfish for disillusioning this girl about how the world works. I have seen this same thing with my friend and his girl is so delusional about how life works and totally dependent on others to do anything. She gets depressed when she's on her own and cut her wrists a few weeks ago. She takes days off from school that others are paying for and probably will lolly gag when it comes to getting a job. I just hope she will get a job and the employers have patience. She needs to learn.

That's the type of person your buddy is creating. If he doesn't care then just let him be and help him out when the shitshow falls apart. He's going to need it. I just hope he doesn't get her pregnant... That just makes things so difficult.

[Nick Young]

I was in a similar situation.

I have a friend who was extremely p-whipped and the worst part of it is she was/is a complete bitch. She would disrespect my friend's parents (my friend's sister hates her), he would never hang out with us without her presence. She wanted him all to herself, over-attached type of girl. There was a time when I didn't hang out with him for a 6 month period because she caught him cheating, my friend's whole family dislikes her and my friends think she's a total bitch. The final straw was when she caught my friend smoking weed and she overreacted BIG time, she started cusses him out, disrespecting him and moved out the house. Seriously, who the f*** acts like that over some weed? She told my friend that she would get back with him, but he has to stop smoking weed and he has to change his number and never talk to his friends again.

Me and other friends pulled him aside and told him straight up that's not a healthy relationship, you can't let her control you like that. And he finally took our advice and she moved out.

OP have you at least pulled him aside and told him how you feel?
We told him a few times you arent doing jack shit in the business because you're spending all your time with that chick, he then works hard for like 2 days and goes back to doing nothing and being whipped after that. We told him he doesnt do anything anymore and he just says "I know." and starts moaning about how hard his life is. Where he used to stick up for himself, nowadays when confronted he just bitches out looks down at the floor and apologizes.

Or he makes a shit load of p-whipped bitch excuses, how he has too look after his girlfriend, how he has to go to church with her (dude was a hardcore atheist before dating this girl), how he has to lay in bed all day with her all weekend cus she's sad or some shit, etc. I just dont get how do you lay in bed all weekend with a chick you aren't even boning. I would not deal with that shit. He basically worships this low quality bitch as if she was a god and my business and finances are suffering because of it.

Never told him before this chick isnt worth the effort and how whipped he's become but deep down I am pretty sure he knows it, he has no confidence at all anymore and is boring to hang out with, dude is a lost cause.

The business is still going without him. Just kind of hard to write him out of it Zuckerberg style, but it seems if things keep going like this thats going to have to happen.

[Jailblazers7]

:oldlol:

If my GF asked me what porn I watch I think I would just laugh in her face.

But honestly, it doesn't sound like their is much that you can do unless you are a really persuasive personality. It seems like a toxic relationship that either needs to get better over time or just end. At some point the dude will realize it but it could take a while.

[macmac]

You do realize that selling hand drawn comic books on the streets of Europe to passerbys who feel better about themselves this holiday season after helping someone they deem destitute and probably mental ill, isn't really considered a business right?

[Nick Young]

You do realize that selling hand drawn comic books on the streets of Europe to passerbys who feel better about themselves this holiday season after helping someone they deem destitute and probably mental ill, isn't really considered a business right?
Thats not the business but i make decent money from doing that. I dont sell comics in the street, only at conventions, in stores and online. I think I'm 2 years away of hard work on improving my skills of being able to do that for a living though.

Until then though, I got the other business with my friends, it's just small time right now but atleast in the green finally and slowly growing.

[ace23]

Pics of the chick?

[HarryCallahan]

Pics of the chick?

She sounds fvck ugly, why do you want pics?

[ace23]

She sounds fvck ugly, why do you want pics?
To properly analyze the situation.

[HarryCallahan]

To properly analyze the situation.

Is that a euphemism for jerking off?

[ace23]

Is that a euphemism for jerking off?
No

[Budadiiii]

No
Dude, shut the **** up. :facepalm

[OhNoTimNoSho]

You can help your friend by minding your own damn business

[Nick Young]

You can help your friend by minding your own damn business
ok I'll take all yours advice on here and stop worrying this. I just kept wondering in my head if there's something I can do to sort this shit out but you guys are giving good advice. Mind my own damn business and dont get dragged down by it. Cheers yalls, happy xmas doe

[niko]

ok I'll take all yours advice on here and stop worrying this. I just kept wondering in my head if there's something I can do to sort this shit out but you guys are giving good advice. Mind my own damn business and dont get dragged down by it. Cheers yalls, happy xmas doe
Hey, you thought it through and saw what you could do for him. That's being a friend. Sometimes you can't do antyhing.

[JimmyConway]

LOL I tried that last month, had a house party with a bunch of Scandinavian and romanian girls from my work last month, even was hyping up to him that one of the girls was really into him so he knew there'd be an easy lay. I wasn't lying this girl has met him a few times and told me she wants to f*ck him. An easy 7.5, and upgrade on his prude plain jane girlfriend. His girlfriend wasn't around but he just had one drink and went to bed at 10 to call his girlfriend, hardly even looked at or spoke to any of the girls. It's just gotten to the point where I've completely lost faith in this guy, not just as a friend but as a business partner. He chick is a goddamn Yoko, but whatever if its what they both want I guess I got to let them be.

listen to this bro!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaCKKHcpf0w

[Mr. Jabbar]

Those guys are always disappointing.

Just the type of dudes you cant rely on. I've seen it happen so many times, a dude catches feelings and becomes a slave to the girl. Just lose their drive, their manhood. They turn into drug addicts or some shit. They NEED that girl.

I've always been independent, a leader, an 'alpha' so to speak. Had plenty of girls on my dick throughout schooling, never phased me. I continued to live in the moment and take care of business. Kept pushing forward, never got consumed by the temporary satisfaction of having a mate, didn't get attached, or distracted.

Which is why I consider myself to be better than mostly everyone else. Self reliant and mentally strong and well rounded.

GOAT material.

:applause: