have you ever fell in love with.....

[riseagainst]

a woman solely for her inner self and not be physically attracted to her?

Props to whoever has. I'm shallow and ashamed of it.

[dr.hee]

a woman solely for her inner self and not be physically attracted to her?

Props to whoever has. I'm shallow and ashamed of it.

no

[ForeverHeat]

no

[D-FENS]

Once, a long time ago. But I was also too shallow and just couldn't bring myself to go there. She actually turned out to be quite attractive when she lost all the weight - but I have heard since she had a kid it all came piling back on.

Don't be fooled by fat girls. Check the ankles, the ankles never lie.

[Clyde]

Don't be fooled by fat girls. Check the ankles, the ankles never lie.

:oldlol: So true

[CelticBaller]

yes

then i realized how much of a beta i was, catching feelings for a 6 smh

[pinhead]

Yes. She was horrible to look and had a hairy mole on her nose but was such a nice person. But I am not shallow like most.

[glidedrxlr22]

"fallen in love"

[Duderonomy]

Yeah I knocked boots with a 6/10 due to her awesome personality.

[CeltsGarlic]

well, she is stunning, but has the best personality. I guess those 2 often get along :lol

I havent even checked below 7/10 girls tho.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

No because falling in love requires lust.

However I do love (in the philia sense) like I do men, certain virtues in others most notably strength and selflessness.

So yes, I do love many, many, many women. Such as Rosie the Riveter, Marie Curie, Queen Rania of Jordan, Marge Thatcher and many local girls just looking to get by.

[OhNoTimNoSho]

a woman solely for her inner self and not be physically attracted to her?

Props to whoever has. I'm shallow and ashamed of it.
no, its impossible

[TheReal Kendall]

So y'all can love a person that's a 10/10 with a shitty personality?

[Rasheed1]

fall in love? No

become great friends with? Yes

love requires a combination of many things..

Integrity
Honesty
Physical attraction
Loyalty


a female has to meet all criteria for me to feel like I "love" her

[9erempiree]

People don't just fall in love with a person because of their personality.

They fall in love due to lust and physical attraction. Having sex with someone is as close a person can get with another. That is how love happens.

I fell in love once in my life and I don't think I can fall in love again. In my opinion it happens once. Even thoug I believe it to happen once but if there is a second time, it will be different but will be better.

I consider the next serious girlfriend I have to be the luckiest person in the world because I have learned from the past of my wrong doings, therefore, the next one will get a better version of me.

[9erempiree]

Reads like cliche advice from a badly acted friend character in a shitty romcom.

:oldlol:

Says the guy that uses the term "romcom"

[b1imtf]

yes

then i realized how much of a beta i was, catching feelings for a 6 smh
:roll: :roll:

[CavaliersFTW]

:oldlol:

Says the guy that uses the term "romcom"
http://img.pandawhale.com/post-31463-Clint-Eastwood-crying-gif-crin-JLWO.gif

[Derka]

No.

[Thorpesaurous]

Against my better judgment, I'll relay something I'm dealing with right now.

I've mentioned before that I'm coaching my buddy's kids in basketball. He also coaches soccer. And though this is our second year at hoops. But his soccer kids love him, and several requested us as coaches.

As I've come to find, this was as much due to the parents as it was the kids. Two in particular have gotten extremely close with his wife. These three hang out all the time. The two couples, and the third single. It's a horrible story that I haven't fully gotten to the bottom of in part because I don't want to know, but her husband died about 5 years ago.

She's an incredibly sweet girl. Smart. Clever. They were drinking one night and started texting me to bust my chops. Not uncommon, but first with this group. Since she's initiated a number of playfull texts. She's a smart girl. Her and I have a common "cleverness", I'll say, that causes me to engage more than I'd like. Thing is, she's just not that attractive. She's a bigger girl. And while I feel bad about it, nothing is going to happen.
But I just can't avoid her. The coaching, my buddy's wife. I'm always invited to everything. Now she's coming to other stuff through the kid. My buddy's wife has put out feelers, and it's very hard to say that I'm just not attracted to her. And at the same time if she engages with me I can't seem to keep myself from responding. I say I'm just not being an asshole, but I also worry I'm giving her the wrong idea. I've hoped my delicately letting my buddy's wife know will make things clear. But I think she has a fantasy of all of us going out for dinners, something she wouldn't do with most of the company I keep.

[DeuceWallaces]

:oldlol:

Says the guy that uses the term "romcom"

Says the guy who's full of shit.

[I<3NBA]

yes. she was pretty though. i just did not lust after her.

[AKA AAP 23]

I consider the next serious girlfriend I have to be the luckiest person in the world because I have learned from the past of my wrong doings, therefore, the next one will get a better version of me.

You don't know much about life other than propping Kobe blindly. You think a girl looking at you while you are giving a speech in your community college class is thread worthy. :facepalm

Maybe you need to get deported back to your parent's country so you have less exposure to Kobe, and maybe you can start progressing in life.

[Bandito]

You don't know much about life other than propping Kobe blindly. You think a girl looking at you while you are giving a speech in your community college class is thread worthy. :facepalm

Maybe you need to get deported back to your parent's country so you have less exposure to Kobe, and maybe you can start progressing in life.
Respect him as he is a full fledged Chef with credentials:roll:

[Bandito]

Against my better judgment, I'll relay something I'm dealing with right now.

I've mentioned before that I'm coaching my buddy's kids in basketball. He also coaches soccer. And though this is our second year at hoops. But his soccer kids love him, and several requested us as coaches.

As I've come to find, this was as much due to the parents as it was the kids. Two in particular have gotten extremely close with his wife. These three hang out all the time. The two couples, and the third single. It's a horrible story that I haven't fully gotten to the bottom of in part because I don't want to know, but her husband died about 5 years ago.

She's an incredibly sweet girl. Smart. Clever. They were drinking one night and started texting me to bust my chops. Not uncommon, but first with this group. Since she's initiated a number of playfull texts. She's a smart girl. Her and I have a common "cleverness", I'll say, that causes me to engage more than I'd like. Thing is, she's just not that attractive. She's a bigger girl. And while I feel bad about it, nothing is going to happen.
But I just can't avoid her. The coaching, my buddy's wife. I'm always invited to everything. Now she's coming to other stuff through the kid. My buddy's wife has put out feelers, and it's very hard to say that I'm just not attracted to her. And at the same time if she engages with me I can't seem to keep myself from responding. I say I'm just not being an asshole, but I also worry I'm giving her the wrong idea. I've hoped my delicately letting my buddy's wife know will make things clear. But I think she has a fantasy of all of us going out for dinners, something she wouldn't do with most of the company I keep.
Happened to me once and I ended it the worst way possible by f*cking her:facepalm

She wasn't chubby but she was full of tats and I am not attracted to girls with tats.

[sundizz]

Definitely a combination of inner and outer. There are girls that aren't great..like girls I wouldn't hit on at the club...that i become attracted to because I spend time with them. I do sometimes fantasize about fat girls that I have a great connection with (well fantasize about them losing weight and then me dating them haha).

Unfortunately, for me I've pulled a 9 (looks to me) with about a 4.5 in pure non physical chemistry. We completely love each other but definitely I know she's not my true "soul mate" when it comes to the type of personality I look for in a girl.

Don't get me wrong...this girl has a great personality, loving, strong, caring, loyal etc. It's just that I let the "one" get away so I always know how high the bar is when it comes to that personal connection.

[kobebeangoat]

So y'all can love a person that's a 10/10 with a shitty personality?
yes

[red1]

People don't just fall in love with a person because of their personality.

They fall in love due to lust and physical attraction. Having sex with someone is as close a person can get with another. That is how love happens.

I fell in love once in my life and I don't think I can fall in love again. In my opinion it happens once. Even thoug I believe it to happen once but if there is a second time, it will be different but will be better.

I consider the next serious girlfriend I have to be the luckiest person in the world because I have learned from the past of my wrong doings, therefore, the next one will get a better version of me.
you make me sick

[ItsMillerTime]

You're not "in love" with a person that looks 10/10, but you also get annoyed being around. Need a perfect balance of good looks and personality. Everyone has a different style, date around for a while until you find someone that you click with on both levels.

[Random_Guy]

Yes and no. Put it this way, Id much rather have a 8/10 with a great personality than a 10/10 asshole who thinks she deserves everything. And I like conversation, I used to date a 10 once but the dates were HORRIBLE except in the bedroom. We couldn;t keep up conversation and the only time she seems remotely interested is when she was talking about new clothes and shit. Theyre nice to keep around but not good marriage material. Put it this way, unless you are thinking of divorce every 15 years, there is no point in dating a hot chick. Looks go away, intelligence dont

[I<3NBA]

So y'all can love a person that's a 10/10 with a shitty personality?
****, yes. love, no.

you have no idea how unbearable a shitty personality can be. it's almost impossible to love someone with a shitty personality. you have to be a saint to be able to do it.

****ing however, does not require love.

[tpols]

People don't just fall in love with a person because of their personality.

They fall in love due to lust and physical attraction. Having sex with someone is as close a person can get with another. That is how love happens.

I fell in love once in my life and I don't think I can fall in love again. In my opinion it happens once. Even thoug I believe it to happen once but if there is a second time, it will be different but will be better.

I consider the next serious girlfriend I have to be the luckiest person in the world because I have learned from the past of my wrong doings, therefore, the next one will get a better version of me.

This isnt really true at all.. some girls are really hot but just downright annoying and you want them gone after a fvck.

If a girl matches your personality type youll want to spend more time with her, forge deeper connection.. I dont think you know what you're talking about

[Done_And_Done]

Anyone who asserts that physical attraction is not a vital component to a relationship is just outright incorrect in my opinion. There is nothing shallow about enumerating that as a necessity or requirement while sussing out your love life. With that said, I am of the belief that a vibrant personality, intelligence, wit, and a great sense of humor can enhance ones perceived physical attraction.

That theory comes with a counter-effect as well. I've interacted with a f*uck ton of 10's in my day who after a short bit of conversing become less attractive to me based on the fact that their personality is likened to that of a fly hovering over a lump of dog excrement.