"Spitting game" Vs. Being yourself

[joe]

When it comes to getting girls and finding relationships, where is your mind state? Do you play games designed to make the girl more attracted to you, i.e. spitting game, or do you just act like yourself and let whatever happens, happen.

I feel like I've had an inner struggle between these two elements my whole life. On one hand, I hate the idea of playing games, spitting game, or misrepresenting myself to get anything in life. But I also realize I've had success with girls a lot of times when spitting game. It actually makes me feel worse about humanity, that those kind of attitudes towards dating are rewarded.

[BRabbiT]

depends on the woman. some can't stand game. others don't respect a lack of game.

mix it up.

in general, spitting games helps to get their attention.

the latter keeps their attention.

[BlazerRed]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4xbO2QdmVwA

[Nick Young]

The game's the game

[fiddy]

being natural>>game

[PHX_Phan]

Depends on the girl and what my intentions are. It's not about 'spitting' game, it's about having game and knowing when to hold em and when to fold em.

If I'm at a bar and trying to take a girl back to my place, then I'm gonna say some bullshit and feed into whatever image is working for her. Some girls just want to **** and are not trying to be your best friend.

When it comes to girlfriend material, I just spend time and see if something develops. If you have to force it then it will never work out.

[East_Stone_Ya]

http://www.warriorpoet.us/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/neil+strauss+the+game.jpg

[Draz]

For the past few years I've been myself. Girls love the natural part of someone's personality. If you're looking long term of course you should always be yourself. Short term trying to get somewhere quick with her, then definitely spit game.

[fiddy]

http://www.warriorpoet.us/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/neil+strauss+the+game.jpg
**** that clown, didnt stop hating on Taylor Durden (Owen) the whole book.

[Rake2204]

I discovered long ago that trying to portray myself as being something I'm not usually results in an absolute disaster.

[LJJ]

I discovered long ago that trying to portray myself as being something I'm not usually results in an absolute disaster.

Yet this is the way most guys get girls.

[fiddy]

I discovered long ago that trying to portray myself as being something I'm not usually results in an absolute disaster.
Thats why its called game, you push too much you lose. Also doesnt work if you have long terms plans with your target

[highwhey]

Im a scumbag so idc lol

Ive never been good with hipster chicks tho. Probably bc I hate everything that is pretentious. Anyone nail hipster chicks as their specialty?

[Rasheed1]

In most situations you need some game.. gotta give them a reason to pay attention to you.. Pretty women get hit on a lot, and they just start ignoring men unless their interest is piqued.. If you have a lot of time show her your true self (like in an everyday work environment) then you don't need game. but meeting women in clubs, or out in public? you need to grab her attention and grab it quick..

game (when its done right) gets her attention

[OhNoTimNoSho]

Reading this thread is like listening to a bunch of handicapped people talking about playing basketball

[-p.tiddy-]

try to go 50/50 on it...you have to throw a little game out there, but not to the point it becomes obvious, there really is a science to this silliness

like someone else said, it depends on the girl...I can remember a couple of times in the past actually pretending to be nervous and intimidated because I could tell that the girl I was going for got off on the feeling that she could intimidate me...but to other girls that shit could be an eye roller

[bk33]

Game and being yourself are not mutually exclusive, they are not two ends of a continuum.

Be yourself is correct but may not be enough, you gotta be your interesting self.

[oarabbus]

If you're trying to get your d1ck wet at the club, spit game.

I don't spit game at coworkers/girls I actually want to date, just be myself (mostly) because sooner or later they're gonna realize you are who you actually are... and I prefer to date girls who are attracted to me, not the game I spit.

[TylerOO]

If im just tryna get some ***** that night, spit game.

[-p.tiddy-]

don't be worried about a female "figuring you out" down the road, females are more guilty than males are at putting up a false front...they just do it with false physical appearances (make-up, bra making their chest look bigger, sexy dress, heels, etc)

First date/meet neither side is meeting the "real" person...that first meet is really all about physical compatibility..."do I want to fck this person?" NOT "do I want to settle down and have kids with this person?"...gotta make sure the romance works before the other stuff

[highwhey]

don't be worried about a female "figuring you out" down the road, females are more guilty than males are at putting up a false front...they just do it with false physical appearances (make-up, bra making their chest look bigger, sexy dress, heels, etc)

First date/meet neither side is meeting the "real" person...that first meet is really all about physical compatibility..."do I want to fck this person?" NOT "do I want to settle down and have kids with this person?"...gotta make sure the romance works before the other stuff
You take a paystub to ur first date with ur wife?

Jk lol

[mlh1981]

"Spitting game" is something best left to will smith on fresh prince, though I think if you are out on the town and looking to get laid, it could be fun to put on a persona and call it a day, see what works, etc, but putting up some sort of front while actually trying to get to know someone will get you exposed eventually.

[KobesFinger]

Spit your game, talk your shit
Grab your gat, call your clique
Squeeze your clip, hit the right one
Pass that weed, I got to light one
All them ninjas, I got to fight one
All them hoes, I got to like one
Our situation is a tight one
What you wanna do? Fight or run?

[Bosnian Sajo]

"Spitting game" is something best left to will smith on fresh prince, though I think if you are out on the town and looking to get laid, it could be fun to put on a persona and call it a day, see what works, etc, but putting up some sort of front while actually trying to get to know someone will get you exposed eventually.

This.

If you just tryina smash, then by all means, spit that game. But if you looking for a relationship, i.e a girl that will be around longer than just a hit and run, you gotta be yourself.

[-p.tiddy-]

You take a paystub to ur first date with ur wife?

Jk lol
My first meet with my wife was pretty short, we just had a coffee and a quick chat (neither of us drink alcohol). I have to say I don't feel like I really played any games with her, was just myself...we just had a little chat then went on our ways...followed it up with phone calls/texting and dates.

In my bachelor/drinking days I was much more about "game" though...would always try to figure out ways to girls to my condo because I knew my condo could do a lot the "spittin" for me, and it did. I had a high rise loft with a decent view. Taking a girl there made it go from "oh well I guess he's kind of cute" to "okay I'm fckin him"

[-p.tiddy-]

If a girl comes back to your place she's pretty much already made up her mind. The nice pad just helps with "oh maybe I can date this guy because I'm materialistic"

not that there's anything wrong with that
I mean, after the club/bar/etc if me and friends were with females then I would always try to get the "after party" at my place...it wasn't always a situation where it was just me and a female...because I knew that would up my odds

[Budadiiii]

I mean, after the club/bar/etc if me and friends were with females then I would always try to get the "after party" at my place...it wasn't always a situation where it was just me and a female...because I knew that would up my odds
Dude, Ive seen your picture....

the fact that you even attempted to have a social life is commendable.

usually ugly dudes suffer with confidence problems but you actually put yourself out there and didn't let it get in the way.

You mentioned having a wife too? Damn....

respect.

[-p.tiddy-]

true and having a nice place helps for sure but hooking up with a girl is just easier in that situation if it's your place regardless of it's nice
very true

unless you live in a real shit hole...

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_zfrM4PoU3nc/S4Sn3WDtxTI/AAAAAAAAAE4/0gh_4x9Msyw/s320/Coming+To+America+still.jpg

[highwhey]

My first meet with my wife was pretty short, we just had a coffee and a quick chat (neither of us drink alcohol). I have to say I don't feel like I really played any games with her, was just myself...we just had a little chat then went on our ways...followed it up with phone calls/texting and dates.

In my bachelor/drinking days I was much more about "game" though...would always try to figure out ways to girls to my condo because I knew my condo could do a lot the "spittin" for me, and it did. I had a high rise loft with a decent view. Taking a girl there made it go from "oh well I guess he's kind of cute" to "okay I'm fckin him"
I hate u lol.

[PHX_Phan]

Im a scumbag so idc lol

Ive never been good with hipster chicks tho. Probably bc I hate everything that is pretentious. Anyone nail hipster chicks as their specialty?

I always go for them hipster broads lol.

Not trying to wife any of them, so I don't care about how they act or the dumb shit they say. I'll listen to a 10 minute rambling about illuminati symbolism if I get to smash on a sleeved, tight bodied piece. I pretty much expect it, so it works into my thing for those types.

Girls are just as fake as dudes and half of those 'hipster' girls are just using the scene to fit in and get attention.

I get the ones who grew up in white suburbia and the only Mexicans they knew were the landscapers, so the idea of a gangster Mexican dude is exciting and new to them. I'm not even like that at all :lol When it comes to a quick hook up, people would rather have sex with an idea than get to know the person.

[riseagainst]

Dude, Ive seen your picture....

the fact that you even attempted to have a social life is commendable.

usually ugly dudes suffer with confidence problems but you actually put yourself out there and didn't let it get in the way.

You mentioned having a wife too? Damn....

respect.

:roll:

[PullupJay]

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[highwhey]

I always go for them hipster broads lol.

Not trying to wife any of them, so I don't care about how they act or the dumb shit they say. I'll listen to a 10 minute rambling about illuminati symbolism if I get to smash on a sleeved, tight bodied piece. I pretty much expect it, so it works into my thing for those types.

Girls are just as fake as dudes and half of those 'hipster' girls are just using the scene to fit in and get attention.

I get the ones who grew up in white suburbia and the only Mexicans they knew were the landscapers, so the idea of a gangster Mexican dude is exciting and new to them. I'm not even like that at all :lol When it comes to a quick hook up, people would rather have sex with an idea than get to know the person.
This is why im asking, some of these broads are hot and aching for some dick but i cant stand their dumb convos.

Keep preying on them tho lol, ive always want to anger bang one. I get the whole idea though, seems like the idea of someone like that can up your points a lot more than "spitting game"

[BRabbiT]

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:lol

[Lamar Doom]

I'm embarrassed for most of you. Spitting game? I pray you're all 20 or younger. Quality women in the real world aren't trying to hear some dumb shit contrived bravado.

[TylerOO]

no one is talking about quality women you sap

:oldlol:

[kurple]

depends on the woman. some can't stand game. others don't respect a lack of game.

mix it up.

in general, spitting games helps to get their attention.

the latter keeps their attention.
this

[Jailblazers7]

I never "spit game." That shit is just too exhausting and tedious for me. Sure, I try to change up my energy to match the situation but I've never done anything that most would consider "spitting game."

I honestly don't think I could do it with a straight face. I have done a satirical version of that type of behavior to illicit laughs but never as a serious thing.

[-p.tiddy-]

I never "spit game." That shit is just too exhausting and tedious for me. Sure, I try to change up my energy to match the situation but I've never done anything that most would consider "spitting game."

I honestly don't think I could do it with a straight face. I have done a satirical version of that type of behavior to illicit laughs but never as a serious thing.
you've never gone out of your way to impress a female?...that is all it is to me..."spitting game" might be an immature way to say it, but that is what it is IMO

I think when most men first meet a female they know they are interested in it is just human nature to act a bit differently than you normally would...

[PHX_Phan]

no one is talking about quality women you sap

:lol

[Jailblazers7]

you've never gone out of your way to impress a female?...that is all it is to me..."spitting game" might be an immature way to say it, but that is what it is IMO

I think when most men first meet a female they know they are interested in it is just human nature to act a bit differently than you normally would...

It might be a heightened version of my own personality but I never do anything that feels like I'm selling something that isn't me. Obviously I try to put my best foot forward but when I think of "spitting game" (and the way its being talked about in here) it is stuff that is shamelessly over the top or false just for the sake of a one night stand. That type of stuff just never seems worth it to me.

[longtime lurker]

If you want to just get laid be someone else, if you're looking for a relationship then be yourself. Either path still requires a certain amount of game though.