Just f*cked up a relationship, now entering deep chasm of depression

[CavaliersFTW]

Gonna treat this thread as my depressing break up diary and document how horrible I feel. About to get black out drunk cause that's always smart to do when u feel nothing. Went mountain biking today, my favorite thing to do all -time but it sucked dick and I felt nothing. Wait, no, I felt like quitting. The drive took forever. **** this gay earth and everyone on it.

[CavaliersFTW]

Also, haven't eaten in 24 hours, and yesterday I sat in silence for 16 hours.

[Rocketswin2013]

You have to elaborate some more OP.

[BlazerRed]

Bet it sucks to imagine her getting plowed by other dudes :(

[DCL]

didn't read.

wilt played in a weak ass era.

[kuniva_dAMiGhTy]

didn't read.

wilt played in a weak ass era.

cold blooded :roll:

[Rocketswin2013]

didn't read.

wilt played in a weak ass era.
I'm dying. :roll:

[Rodmantheman]

didn't read.

wilt played in a weak ass era.

:oldlol:

[dude77]

Bet it sucks to imagine her getting plowed by other dudes :(

:oldlol: yeah before you get all depressed just remember, she isn't and she's gonna be getting her ass worked by another guy soon enough if not already .. it's funny how guys tend to take shit like this harder than the 'weaker' female

[PHX_Phan]

didn't read.

wilt played in a weak ass era.

:lol

[CavaliersFTW]

U guys crack me up :oldlol:

Will elaborate on how beta the actual **** up was, and how I followed it up by back peddling and simpin to try and save face only to get ignored just after I get into a drunken stupor.

[PullupJay]

http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/get-over-here-bro.png

[DeuceWallaces]

This thread sucks ass. You didn't even provide a modicum of detail. I don't give a shit about your sad mountain biking.

[Cocaine80s]

Just remember... if Wilt was still alive he would be ****ing ur girl right now

[ROCSteady]

Unfortunately Im gunna have to agree with 2 Wallaces.

Pretty much zero insight. Thread is a D - until more is revealed

Sry tiger

[Patrick Chewing]

Just hit the gym bro. Gets your mind off of shit and you actually get to look good in the process.

http://cdn.arwrath.com/2/24702.gif

[Meticode]

What's the situation?

[GimmeThat]

Gonna treat this thread as my depressing break up diary and document how horrible I feel. About to get black out drunk cause that's always smart to do when u feel nothing. Went mountain biking today, my favorite thing to do all -time but it sucked dick and I felt nothing. Wait, no, I felt like quitting. The drive took forever. **** this gay earth and everyone on it.


Without being a d*ck. My best advice is actually that on your next relationship, practice the idea and thoughts of what would happen if she decided to break up with you. I'm not saying because of this you shouldn't trust her, but just know that there ARE possibilities that a relationship may not work out. And if you practice those thoughts and keep yourself in a healthy position even if lets say a "love accident" happened.

At least it wouldn't break your heart as bad as it did before.

It's possible to have two independent individuals relationship to be bonded by trust and faith, and not dependency.

[Rocketswin2013]

U guys crack me up :oldlol:

Will elaborate on how beta the actual **** up was, and how I followed it up by back peddling and simpin to try and save face only to get ignored just after I get into a drunken stupor.
:cheers: Let it out.

[NZStreetBaller]

lol bro basically when a break up happens it becomes a race to see who can find some one else first and a competition to see who is happier. suck it up brother!!! Get drunk and go out a chase some tail you gotta see this as a positive YOUR FINALLY FREE once your happy and getting some you'll be in the drivers seat.

the unfortunate downside to this is females naturally get laid alot easier especially if guys find out she's just become single and shes got the same im gonna go out and get laid idea.

Dont worry though you still got us dorks to talk to while she's screaming a 100db
orgasm with some guy shes lined up during your break up period....

[BasedTom]

At least you're smart enough to drink the pain away like a man.

This is what happens when you're from Ohio. Now is your chance to start over again and find a new lease on life. Don't be a bitch and man the **** up.

[MrC1991]

In the spare of a moment.

[nathanjizzle]

gotta man up brew.

[cuad]

I'm sorry, OP, that your c0ck is way smaller than his. :((((

But look on the bright side. She's happy now, really happy.

[Bandito]

Just hit the gym bro. Gets your mind off of shit and you actually get to look good in the process.

http://cdn.arwrath.com/2/24702.gif
What is he doing?

[Meticode]

What is he doing?
He's not strong enough to pull the weight, so he's using his weight/momentum to pull it. In otherwords, completely useless form.

[BlazerRed]

What is he doing?
Gone full retard.

[Bandito]

He's not strong enough to pull the weight, so he's using his weight/momentum to pull it. In otherwords, completely useless form.
I know what hes doing, I am mostly asking why is he doing what hes doing?

[IcanzIIravor]

http://c1.likes-media.com/img/0d3f0f5ad462bf0f5d10dd37f51fd540.600x.jpg

I imagine this is how the conversation went.

[masonanddixon]

There's nothing stupider than giving away your happiness to a woman. They are the most easily replaceable and disposable commodity.

[VIntageNOvel]

waiting for nude picture of ex GF

[Eye Test]

bro, did she pull a lebron on u? like she ditched you out of nowhere? dont try to think bout where she took her talents to man

ull forget her in 1 month tops, or at least the pain will be minimal, 2 months, who is she? 3-4 months you'll be enjoying life even more than with her :applause:

[senelcoolidge]

Make another Wilt video, that has to get you out of these doldrums.

[East_Stone_Ya]

Make another Wilt video, that has to get you out of these doldrums.

lol

[ArbitraryWater]

Bet it sucks to imagine her getting plowed by other dudes :(

cmon now :roll:

[ArbitraryWater]

Just remember... if Wilt was still alive he would be ****ing ur girl right now

:lol

[fiddy]

Bet it sucks to imagine her getting plowed by other dudes :(
She probably got drunk afterwards and gangbanged by 2-3 dudes, probably few cumshots as well

[BlazerRed]

She probably got drunk afterwards and gangbanged by 2-3 dudes, probably few cumshots as well
Just a casual Tuesday night for this girl I bet :cheers:

[Magic731]

Being 100% serious, I feel bad for OP. This shit can seriously impact someone. Unfortunately for OP he hasn't thought and posted this topic on ish. Some of the posts here are not going to help at all. I hope he learns for next time not to post depressing shit on ish because people here are ruthless and nothing good will come of it.

[D-FENS]

Being 100% serious, I feel bad for OP. This shit can seriously impact someone. Unfortunately for OP he hasn't thought and posted this topic on ish. Some of the posts here are not going to help at all. I hope he learns for next time not to post depressing shit on ish because people here are ruthless and nothing good will come of it.

Nah, there's a 0.000000000001% chance that some Kate Upton type chick posts here and feels sorry for him and pity bangs him.

http://collegetimes.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/58669-so-youre-telling-me-theres-a-c-Sm9B.gif

[PistonsFan#21]

I know what hes doing, I am mostly asking why is he doing what hes doing?

because he's not strong enough to pull the weight, so he's using his weight/momentum to pull it. In otherwords, completely useless form

[GimmeThat]

getting drunk and banging random girls help, no doubt.

but for a more serious conversation

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7tEQLH25wA

[nathanjizzle]

OP, how about you tell us what happened since everyone has given you their sympathies

[AintNoSunshine]

Grandma probably dumped you because you talk about Wilt all the damn time you know

[CavaliersFTW]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:

[creepingdeath]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:

http://global3.memecdn.com/you-are-the-love-of-my-life-khaleesi_o_3144349.jpg

[Shade8780]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:
Bullshit.

No pics :facepalm

[CavaliersFTW]

I should mention when we first started dating, she had mentioned to me her schedule was a sensitive issue and usually causes problems in her relationships, that she's always going to be busy. I had been cool with it for the entire time never bringing it up she even told me once "this has not been a problem at all with you". She also had a stalker in the past, restraining order style, so clingyness of any kind is gonna drive her away. So from her end it probably looks like I just snapped about her schedule, and went full stage-5 clinger on her

:crazysam:

So yeah, going strong since Febuary, now starting to catch feelings for her, and f*cked up all in the course of a single il-advised text essay :oldlol:

[Meticode]

Sounds like she isn't too interested in keeping the relationship open. You haven't been seening each other a lot, you type that stuff out and she immediately has no questions or wants to talk about the relationship and wants to break up right away? Sounds like she feels like the relationship is just extra baggage she doesn't want to deal with.

I'd just break up and move on if I were you. See each other that often isn't healthy for a relationship anyway, and at least on her side of things a relationship is like one of the bottom things on her list she's worried about. She probably saw your text and thought, "WTF? I ain't dealing with this shit every 1-2 weeks. Just going to drop it and move on with my life"

Just move on.

[CavaliersFTW]

Sounds like she isn't too interested in keeping the relationship open. You haven't been seening each other a lot, you type that stuff out and she immediately has no questions or wants to talk about the relationship and wants to break up right away? Sounds like she feels like the relationship is just extra baggage she doesn't want to deal with.

I'd just break up and move on if I were you. See each other that often isn't healthy for a relationship anyway, and at least on her side of things a relationship is like one of the bottom things on her list she's worried about. She probably say your text and thought, "WTF? I ain't dealing with this shit every 1-2 weeks. Just going to drop it and move on with my life"

Just move on.
I am moving on, to another bottle of scotch

[Meticode]

I am moving on, to another bottle of scotch
I hope you're not serious. You're drinking over a 4 month long relationship where you saw each other 1-2 a times week or two?

[PHX_Phan]

You took the L the moment you sent that first text, and then took another L when you continued trying to talk after she blew you off (not literally).

People read too much into relationships. It's really as simple as if she wanted to be with you more, she would be. If she doesn't then find a girl who does and let the other one go have fun with her hobbies.

[Rocketswin2013]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:
Beta :coleman:

[CavaliersFTW]

I hope you're not serious. You're drinking over a 4 month long relationship where you saw each other 1-2 times week or two?
Yeah, I started to catch feelings for her, for whatever reason, don't know why I just did.

Last serious relationship I had been in was almost 5 years ago, normally I'm perceived as apathetic in relationships because clingers and moving fast drives me away. Most girls I'll see a few times than just stop seeing them and not care, or I'll date for a couple of months and still not care. I liked this girl because things were moving along much closer to my pace, and she liked doing the things I liked doing, most people tell me I have too much energy for them. She has more energy than me, it's unusual and it's probably why I was catching feelings, she had been an interesting new challenge with a lot of things in common with me. This of course was only a few months thing but it's the only girl I probably started to care about and wanted to pursue a relationship with since my last long term relationship.

[PHX_Phan]

So yeah, going strong since Febuary, now starting to catch feelings for her, and f*cked up all in the course of a single il-advised text essay :oldlol:

Nah man, shit was ****ed up before that and you just didn't see it.

Girls claiming their too busy with shit in their lives for you is the first sign that she isn't taking shit so seriously. If she constantly acted busy, then she only wanted to string you along as a possible option.

If she wanted you, you can get away with a lot. If she stopped talking because you wrote her a novel through text, then that's exactly how much she thought of you.

Being an emo bitch about it is only selling yourself short. Don't drink to get over this broad. There's not a single broad on this planet all that more special than the next in the long run.

[johndeeregreen]

Yeah, I started to catch feelings for her, for whatever reason, don't know why I just did.

There will be others dude. Acting like this over a relationship that was never even really a relationship is childish. The first step here is to pull yourself out of the "feeling sorry for myself" zone and stop fishing for sympathy. NO ONE FEELS SORRY FOR YOU, and nobody is going to, so stop with this nonsense about drinking your sadness away. I know the zone you're in actually feels comfortable right now, because you now have given yourself carte blanche to do whatever you want in life with no consequences in the name of "being hurt," but this is not the way to deal with it.

You basically have two choices, continue to pathetically mope around, or man the **** up and get past it.

[Smook A.]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....

[johndeeregreen]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
:oldlol:

If true, that's awesome.

[CavaliersFTW]

http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6aaicG0Ub1r9y14to1_500.gif

C'mon man. You really couldn't have saved your text and re-read it an hour later when you were less angry?:roll:

You totally did that to yourself. She told you that she's sensitive to her schedule in a relationship, and you played along until you blew up. That makes you look like someone that can't stick to what they said.
no shit, I fully accept all responsibility for the beta, backpeddling, and simpin that ensued

:lol

I am starting to feel better today I think. Guess the other posters are right, it wasn't all that serious. Yesterday and Friday I was depressed and pathetic looking as hell tho :oldlol:

[Shade8780]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
Wow. OP, man the **** up.

[Shade8780]

Btw, why did she keep you waiting all morning to send, "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"? :facepalm

[KingBeasley08]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:
damn brah you went full beta. repent to budaddi and you may still be able to salvage some alpha

[Rocketswin2013]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
:facepalm

[Cactus-Sack]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....



:roll: :roll: :roll:

[Reef]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....

:biggums:

[Rocketswin2013]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
Smook that was terrible. That might even top my business center incident. :biggums:

[Shade8780]

Smook, did you kill Jerome?

[Shade8780]

How often do you go mountain biking, OP? I would like to do it sometime.

[Le Shaqtus]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....

Thats one cold bitch

[CavaliersFTW]

How often do you go mountain biking, OP? I would like to do it sometime.
Twice a week usually. Are you a road cyclist or trail runner or anything like that by chance?

[CavaliersFTW]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
That sounds awful :wtf:

[ballup]

Dam Smook. That was one cold cut bitch.

[reppy]

That sucks, man. But you should at least try to do something positive besides just getting drunk.

[Shade8780]

Twice a week usually. Are you a road cyclist or trail runner or anything like that by chance?
Damn. How many trails are there near you, or do you go around the country?

Neither, I'm gonna try and cycle some more on the road during the summer though. The European Mountain Bike Championships this year are gonna be at Ballyhoura here in Ireland, so I wanna cycle there sometime.

[Milbuck]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

[fiddy]

That sounds awful :wtf:
and fake

[Just2McFly]

Also, haven't eaten in 24 hours, and yesterday I sat in silence for 16 hours.
what did you do after the decision?

[Just2McFly]

be honest op, how old are you? cause aint no grown man gonna be this soft, crying and send emo blocks of texts to his woman about this foolishness. dawg you are too needy, woman hate that. get your life together. smh

oh and screen shot that text fam, its 2014 if you have a smartphone(which you probably do, post up a screenie)

[zoom17]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....

:biggums: :roll: :roll: :roll:

[nathanjizzle]

dude, you should get drunk and hit the trails, im sure that would make you happy.

[oh the horror]

I will say this. It becomes manageable after awhile.


I haven't seen my ex in almost a year. I think about her almost every day. I met a new lady friend and had two very nice dates. I dig her but there's that little sliver of me that remembers my ex. Sooner or later you just start living and the memory isn't as painful although it does stay with you.



My ex and I had issues and she has a lot of BS baggage but I do miss her. It is what it is. Ultimately before you know it the situation will lead to growth within you that will manifest down the line.


I spend a good amount of time just hitting up a local spot and having some drinks and reading to myself. Talked to a lot of people. It was chill and got my thoughts together. You have to establish what's next in terms of your own plans.



Best advice is go against what you'd like to do. Which is isolating yourself. Get out there even if it's to hit up spots alone. Be around people even if you don't want to. Don't sit alone and stew. Occupy your time.

[Smook A.]

Smook, did you kill Jerome?
When I was in New York he texted me that he was moving, I asked him where and he didn't reply. Im 100% sure my girlfriend, the one who dumped me in the worst way, went with him when he moved.

After all the dump drama I had when I came home from New York, I went on Facebook and searched his name. I couldn't find him. Then I made a new account and searched him again. Same story... I couldnt find that bastard. Thats when I knew he deactivated his account. Right now, I honestly don't know where they are, but they're probably living a good life if my ex is still with him. Jerome was extremely smart. He's probably sitting in a pool of money right now.

Its sad my friendship with Jerome and relationship with my ex-girlfriend had to end the way it did but im over it now. Right now life is good. Been with the same girl for 5 years.

[GimmeThat]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....

Talk about Professor Murder doing work.

I mean...

[Eye Test]

Okay so I been seeing a girl who I clicked with since Febuary, a girl who Mountain Bikes which some of you know is my thing, a long side basketball it's what keeps me happy. She's is a "busy" person, incredibly motivated, she races all over the U.S., just got her masters, works all the time etc. I liked that, it motivates me to also be incredibly fit and active. I liked it all the way up until Friday, when while having a bad day at work I looked at a calendar saw when our last two dates were, and when our next potential opportunity to get together was (17 days apart, and 19-25+ days apart depending if she's busy on one of her off days) and got pissed and went full beta. Typed out a f*cking essay via text in the form of an ultimatum about how I can roll with such infrequent opportunities to go out from time to time, but not on a regular basis. I seem to be happy with once every week, to week and a half. But 2 and a half and three and a half weeks doesn't fly.

I didn't proof read and hit send... went back to re-read it after I sent it and scrolled... and scrolled .... and scrolled... :biggums:

Knew I ****ed up right at that moment, long ass-essay giving an ultimatum. This bitch had really done nothing wrong up to this point, and here I am outta nowhere suddenly melting down on her phone. So I immediately follow up with a backpeddle text "That sounds worse than it is, call me".

Now I'm really in trouble. I laid in silence for the next few hours waiting for a reply of some sort contemplating all sorts of damage control methods. Finally get a reply at like 11:30 that says "got your text, but its late, gonna reply in the morning" :( :banghead:

Did not sleep at ALL. Just laid in silence. Realized the reason I sent it was because I'm starting to actually fall for her and want to see her more often. So my depression and anxiety over the situation intensifies. At 6:30 she sends a text that says "sounds like an ultimatum and my schedule is what it is, let's just call this whole thing off"

I IMMEDIATELY respond cause I've been up all night and say, no not an ultimatum, can you call me! <-- yes with an exclamation point :facepalm it was an honest typo I meant to hit the ? which was right next to it but now I'm looking full beta. Then I start to confess It's because I'm getting feelings for her that I overreacted and I start retracting and apologizing for the ultimatum. Dump about 4 more big paragraphs on her over the course of that day. Also asked when she's gonna call me. Haven't heard back since. :oldlol:

Got piss ass drunk yesterday on 60$ worth of scotch and guiness. Not even hung over today like a champ so I started drinking again. I feel like a million bucks. Nah wait, def feel like shit. Just sent another text, "are you just no longer interested?" The simping continues. The depression deepens. It's also raining out so mtb trails are closed. Nothing to do but dwell today :oldlol: ... :cry:

my man, you went full beta, you never go full beta.. this is like that cleveland kid who broke into the court with the "come back lebron" t-shirt, and got in front of lebron, the two greatest betas ever just 2 feet away from each other, but forget that, im going off topic now. thing is now this girl would rather die a virgin than sex with you, forget her and no more of these mistakes, youll be all good ina few weeks. :cheers:

* it also looks like you never had much of a chance to begin with (judging by her replies/no call) so its in the best interest for you this blew up fast

[GimmeThat]

Its sad my friendship with Jerome and relationship with my ex-girlfriend had to end the way it did but im over it now. Right now life is good. Been with the same girl for 5 years.

It's why I've learned to keep my friendship with my male friends casual/professional. Because I know that at the end of the day, we all got sh*t we need to go home and deal with, and it is better that my sh*t at home has got nothing to do with them, then it does.

Cutting out the drinking helped.


I think of the only time I thought about one of my friends ex was only after they broke up and even then, I was still hesitant about it. Because it would be weird until their relationship had completely changed first.

Fact is, it probably needs to get to the point where he absolutely did not care about who she dated. Which all happens with time as your post suggested.

It's the agenda but with time, became the lack of.

[Lonely_Sandberg]

That sucks bro. A little advice for moving on...
http://media3.giphy.com/media/cNsUSbTHD8Ygw/200_s.gif

[Magic731]

my man, you went full beta, you never go full beta.. this is like that cleveland kid who broke into the court with the "come back lebron" t-shirt, and got in front of lebron, the two greatest betas ever just 2 feet away from each other, but forget that, im going off topic now. thing is now this girl would rather die a virgin than sex with you, forget her and no more of these mistakes, youll be all good ina few weeks. :cheers:

* it also looks like you never had much of a chance to begin with (judging by her replies/no call) so its in the best interest for you this blew up fast
:roll: :roll: :roll:

[RoseCity07]

I remember in high school this happened to me. I pretty much felt like I wanted to die when I saw pictures of her having gotten back with her ex. Man it f*cking sucks. The only way I survived was eventually hanging out with friends and meeting new people. Basically just let this shit burn as that Usher song says. Watch Forgetting Sarah Marshall or something. Then start doing sh*t to improve your life. Workout or go to school. If you have a job start thinking about your next vacation.

[NoGunzJustSkillz]

Without being a d*ck. My best advice is actually that on your next relationship, practice the idea and thoughts of what would happen if she decided to break up with you. I'm not saying because of this you shouldn't trust her, but just know that there ARE possibilities that a relationship may not work out. And if you practice those thoughts and keep yourself in a healthy position even if lets say a "love accident" happened.

At least it wouldn't break your heart as bad as it did before.

It's possible to have two independent individuals relationship to be bonded by trust and faith, and not dependency.
:applause:

[Scoooter]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
:roll: :roll:

God damn...

[KingBeasley08]

When I was in New York he texted me that he was moving, I asked him where and he didn't reply. Im 100% sure my girlfriend, the one who dumped me in the worst way, went with him when he moved.

After all the dump drama I had when I came home from New York, I went on Facebook and searched his name. I couldn't find him. Then I made a new account and searched him again. Same story... I couldnt find that bastard. Thats when I knew he deactivated his account. Right now, I honestly don't know where they are, but they're probably living a good life if my ex is still with him. Jerome was extremely smart. He's probably sitting in a pool of money right now.

Its sad my friendship with Jerome and relationship with my ex-girlfriend had to end the way it did but im over it now. Right now life is good. Been with the same girl for 5 years.
Damn I was hoping you were kidding. Your girl was b*tch and your boi deserves to get popped

[Smook A.]

Damn I was hoping you were kidding. Your girl was b*tch and your boi deserves to get popped
Damn right she is a bitch.

I wanna pop that dude Jerome so bad but I don't know where that bastard is now.

[dude77]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....


:eek: cold blooded .. I'm assuming you didn't do anything to her to trigger that type of thing ? ..

if not, she will probably meet karma one day

[Smook A.]

:eek: cold blooded .. I'm assuming you didn't do anything to her to trigger that type of thing ? ..

if not, she will probably meet karma one day
I did nothing wrong. I don't know why that bitch left the way she did. I got over it after after a month. I won't be surprised if I found out she and Jerome broke up and after that she became a prostitute.

[PHX_Phan]

It's not a bad idea to keep an 'ace' in the pocket. Keep in touch with girls you might want to try shit out with. If your relationship goes south, you'll always have options available and, at the very least, will have some interesting company to keep your mind out of the gutter.

When I was 21 I went with the 'planting seeds' method. Started talking to as many different girls as I could. After a while I had tons of options in my phone and it always became about the next girl, not one I could see myself in a relationship with.

All of that changed my view of women and relationships. In a ****ed up way I started seeing them for who they are rather than let myself get lost in my infatuated view of them. It sounds cynical, but it worked out for the better. I stopped getting so depressed after a breakup and could actually go out with friends and have fun, rather than just think about that person no matter what I did.

Once you start meeting more girls, you realize it's just a waste of time to lose sleep over one that didn't pan out.

[Doranku]

In 2008 I was with a girl who I really loved. We were together for 5 months. I went to New York for 1 week in the summer and when I came back there was a note on my apartment's front door.

It said "Read the note on your kitchen table". My heart started beating fast.

I came inside and I found a note and an envelope. I read the note and I remember it said this: "While you were away I ****ed your friend Jerome. Im breaking up with you. Delete my number, delete me on your Facebook friends list, and change your Facebook status to 'single'. Goodbye." ... I started crying. I opened the envelope and I found a used condom in there....
:roll: I'm dying.

You guys are missing the biggest thing that gives this away as being fake. Who the f*ck leaves someone a note telling them to read another note that they wrote? :oldlol: