Dealing with a stupid ass mother that is ****ing with my money

[russwest0]

First off, I just got bitched at because I don't have a "normal" sleep cycle as if this is some sort of issue :wtf: seriously wtf

if I wasn't above the bullshit my mothers ignorance could really be ****ing over my life.

this dumb bitch, right when I got out of high school tried to put me in 12,000 dollars debt by selling me her car

now she bitches to me about the stupidest shit. since our bank accounts are linked (anyone know how I unlink this ****?) and she's been seeing me bring in a steady income from both my job and online means now she's been trying to tell me she's in ****ing debt and shit and trying to get me to pay rent

she just borrowed 200 from me without even asking me, told me about it and said she would pay me back, but now she's trying to just tell me it's "rent" that I never agreed on :facepalm

what do I do in this situation?

[RoundMoundOfReb]

Move out

[russwest0]

Move out

I told her I was just like "alright, I'll move to grandmas then"

because my grandma has always been supportive and willing to let me live their for free through college

but then two days later I call my grandma to talk about it and she, being brainwashed starts talking about how I shouldn't move out just because I'm "mad" at my mom, blah blah blah, but says I can move in once I'm in college (out for summer atm) and now I need to pick up more hours and shit so I won't be "bothering" my mom by just chilling in my room when I'm at home

:oldlol: :oldlol: :oldlol:

my family is full of so many ****tards

my mistake was telling my mom of my intentions so she could call my grandma and feed her the bullshit to keep me at her house for the next 2 months, she just wants my money now, and she's going to get it for the next 2 months until college starts up again it appears

[russwest0]

and also the other day when I just walked upstairs to get a water bottle this bitch told me "eat those leftovers" and I was like "no thank you" and she ****ing HARPED on "you never try anything new! try it! how do you know you wont like it! just try it!... blabidy blah blah blah"

I don't know how I resisted but somehow I managed to not snap on her stupid ass :lol

[dilley]

shitty person with a shitty mom, I don't see the issue

[kurple]

you sounds like a shitty person

i would give my mom and sister every dime i had if they really needed it

and eat the ****ing leftovers you spoiled piece of shyt

[red1]

are you 18? free rent is not a right

[russwest0]

you sounds like a shitty person

i would give my mom and sister every dime i had if they really needed it

and eat the ****ing leftovers you spoiled piece of shyt

she doesn't need it...

she has gone through 3 cars in the past year and a half, all new, just because she goes to the dealership and trades in, usually resulting in like a loss of five-ten thousand dollars if i had to guess

her car is worth 30,000, who that is "struggling" would have an expensive car like that?

meanwhile I have a car with just 30,000 miles, from like 2002 and it's all paid off.

if she is all of a sudden struggling out of the blue, conveniently after I start making money and shit off the internet is that not a coincidence?

the bitch just sees my bank account and selfishly WANTS my money simply because she doesn't make responsible choices with hers like I do.

[russwest0]

are you 18? free rent is not a right

I'm 20.

And never said it was but "borrowing" 200 dollars from me without telling me and then trying to claim "well, this is just rent charge now" is a dick thing to do, no?

[red1]

I'm 20.

And never said it was but "borrowing" 200 dollars from me without telling me and then trying to claim "well, this is just rent charge now" is a dick thing to do, no?
Im not trying to troll you your post just rubbed me the wrong way. You've been fcking with her money for 20 years man. I get why you are mad but the only reasonable answer would be to move out.

[russwest0]

Im not trying to troll you your post just rubbed me the wrong way. You've been fcking with her money for 20 years man. I get why you are mad but the only reasonable answer would be to move out.

bro everyone you know will die someday anyways who cares about this "family" shit.

yeah she supported me for 20 years but don't have a kid if you don't want it :confusedshrug:

[red1]

bro everyone you know will die someday anyways who cares about this "family" shit.

yeah she supported me for 20 years but don't have a kid if you don't want it :confusedshrug:
you aren't going to think like this for long. trust

[russwest0]

you aren't going to think like this for long. trust

lol i was just trolling with my last post

but the problem is when she's being an irrational selfish bitch and then demanding I pay her money afterwards

the moment after a women is being irrational and stupid as hell, the last thing you want to follow that up with is taking orders from her, if that makes sense.

if she would have just approached me about paying rent with a logical perspective I would have agreed

[DukeDelonte13]

i kinda feel for OP here. I think that's very sh*tty of your mom. Even though she raised you she should be trying to help you out not f*ck you on sh*t.

I had very very strict immigrant parents. Whenever i would get pissed at their backwards DP ways they would say, "You want us to treat you like American parents? Start paying us rent money" :oldlol:

My parents have asked me to borrow some money here and there since i moved out and i'm always happy to help. They never tried selling me one of their cars either.

I'm not against the idea of kids paying their parents rent after they hit eighteen, but it's kinda sh*tty. If your kid is 28 and jobless that's one thing, but a 20 year old college student? c'mon...

Move the f*ck out OP.

[Balla_Status]

You can easily make a new bank account if you wanted and send your steady income to that one. Do you have a shared account or just linked to where she can deposit money?

I understand the family concept but I also agree with OP's side. Call the bank and see what your options are to unlink but it should be pretty easy to set up a new savings account either at the same bank or new bank and send your money there instead. She'll probably wonder why there's no more money in your linked account and then maybe then she'll be reasonable (probably cause a shit fight first though).

All that said, respect your mother and make sure you stay level headed. Don't start being an unreasonable dickhead because she's taking your money.

[Real Men Wear Green]

shitty person with a shitty mom, I don't see the issue
Basically. Op, get your own bank account dumbass. And if McDonalds is paying you all this cash you should move out anyway. Your mother (who has done a terrible job raising you, it's not entirely your fault) should not just take your money but if you can you should contribute something.

[russwest0]

Basically. Op, get your own bank account dumbass. And if McDonalds is paying you all this cash you should move out anyway. Your mother (who has done a terrible job raising you, it's not entirely your fault) should not just take your money but if you can you should contribute something.

there are a lot of layers to it, but I'm just gonna get my own bank account today regardless of how she'll react not being able to hawk my finances and see everything I buy and all of the income I acquire.


I'm sure she'll just refute with ignorant, self anger based, pulled out of her ass claims that I'm buying drugs or some shit :oldlol: and then she'll try to continue harping on it and tying it in with me going to sleep later when I don't work the next day as proof :oldlol: :facepalm

and the job is not a big deal. I used to have a 12/hr job with full benefits. It's all about college right now and I'm starting to make a steady income from affiliate advertising online anyways so I'm really not concerned about what "job" I have as long as they are willing to give me low hours whenever I ask for, which is what my current job will do.

[russwest0]

i kinda feel for OP here. I think that's very sh*tty of your mom. Even though she raised you she should be trying to help you out not f*ck you on sh*t.

I had very very strict immigrant parents. Whenever i would get pissed at their backwards DP ways they would say, "You want us to treat you like American parents? Start paying us rent money" :oldlol:

My parents have asked me to borrow some money here and there since i moved out and i'm always happy to help. They never tried selling me one of their cars either.

I'm not against the idea of kids paying their parents rent after they hit eighteen, but it's kinda sh*tty. If your kid is 28 and jobless that's one thing, but a 20 year old college student? c'mon...

Move the f*ck out OP.

lol that definitely is an "american" thing to do. make stupid ass choices with your money and then see that your kid is starting to sit on a couple hundred dollars from being smart with his money and then "borrow" it and then just claim it as yours and "rent" money :oldlol:

she's also trying to trick me in another way but I see through the bullshit there.

She's trying to tell me "the rent is only until I get caught up." so I follow up by asking her "how long will that be" and she says "I don't know."

she's trying to keep it as vague as possible so I won't realize it's a shitty investment and move out right away.

and just yesterday she yelled at me to go "change the ink" in the printer and I went and saw a catridge on top that obviously wasn't the right one and told her and she told me "can you go buy one" then she tried to claim she "didn't know how" to change the ink (and this was obvious acting here, using exaggerated helplessness body language) or "how to buy it" and all of this stupid shit basically playing dumb just so I could buy ink for her.

this is why I hate women, if you want me to buy ink for the printer that I never use, just tell me, don't play ****ing retard and act like I'm too stupid to see through your bullshit.

[GimmeThat]

I don't know your family, nor your family history

but I can only tell you that it seems like she is dependent on you emotionally.

which, in my opinion it sounds sad because it means that even when her child is full grown, she is still wanting/expecting memories that of her own desire and intention.

and since that's the last thing someone who grows pre-maturely compared to their peers need.


I hope you make it on your own soon. Because somehow, no one likes to be drown in sorrow all by themselves. Including you and I OP.

[hateraid]

First off, I just got bitched at because I don't have a "normal" sleep cycle as if this is some sort of issue :wtf: seriously wtf

if I wasn't above the bullshit my mothers ignorance could really be ****ing over my life.

this dumb bitch, right when I got out of high school tried to put me in 12,000 dollars debt by selling me her car

now she bitches to me about the stupidest shit. since our bank accounts are linked (anyone know how I unlink this ****?) and she's been seeing me bring in a steady income from both my job and online means now she's been trying to tell me she's in ****ing debt and shit and trying to get me to pay rent

she just borrowed 200 from me without even asking me, told me about it and said she would pay me back, but now she's trying to just tell me it's "rent" that I never agreed on :facepalm

what do I do in this situation?

With only reading this and not reading the rest I automatically think the OP is asian

[Droid101]

You can't unlink accounts without her help.

You CAN create a new account only in your name, and transfer all the money into it. Then close the old one.

I'd do that today if you can.

[Marlo_Stanfield]

OP reminds me of the movie 8 mile:roll: :roll:

[russwest0]

With only reading this and not reading the rest I automatically think the OP is asian

I'm caucasian if that helps.

[russwest0]

I don't know your family, nor your family history

but I can only tell you that it seems like she is dependent on you emotionally.

which, in my opinion it sounds sad because it means that even when her child is full grown, she is still wanting/expecting memories that of her own desire and intention.

and since that's the last thing someone who grows pre-maturely compared to their peers need.


I hope you make it on your own soon. Because somehow, no one likes to be drown in sorrow all by themselves. Including you and I OP.

that is pretty spot on.

I thought when my dad divorced her a few years back that it would be a wake up call but it wasn't.

at one point after the divorce I was at her house and I was laying down after school taking a nap and she let out a loud ass "oooooooooooooooh, I'm tired" (for some reason she makes loud ass moaning noises all the time) and I just said "me too" and then she for whatever reason got really ****ing pissed and tried to act like I was being disrespectful, she kind of liked jumped/fell (she's fat) onto my bed and grabbed my head and slammed it into the wall and starting screaming stupid shit and was foaming at the mouth so getting spit on me so then I shoved her off and she acted like she got hurt and was going to call the cops to "get me arrested"

I would not recommend growing up with such a stupid bitch but in my case I think it only made me more logical and emotionally stable than the average person.

[Balla_Status]

Wtf?

[#number6ix#]

Send me your address and I'll come thru and give your mom the d and she'll forget all about your sorry ass...

[robert de niro]

fake ur own death driving her expensive car, she will get insurance money from both u and the car directly to ur shared account, change name and transfer all the money to a new account, move to a cozy country and start pimpin out women

[russwest0]

today she was like "what time did you wake up at"

and I was like "a few hours ago" and then she was like "oh my god, you gotta stop this" and then I stood up and went ****ing apeshit on her, telling her I don't give a single shit when she wakes up or goes to sleep so why does she care about when I do. And then told her that I can take care of my ****ing self.

this woman is so attached to what I do it's ****ing stupid. yet growing up when I wanted to do anything productive that required the slightest bit of parent involvement and effort like say, play sports, nope, can't do that.

lol **** my parents.

[Jameerthefear]

op is a bum ass bitch

[Nick Young]

that is pretty spot on.

I thought when my dad divorced her a few years back that it would be a wake up call but it wasn't.

at one point after the divorce I was at her house and I was laying down after school taking a nap and she let out a loud ass "oooooooooooooooh, I'm tired" (for some reason she makes loud ass moaning noises all the time) and I just said "me too" and then she for whatever reason got really ****ing pissed and tried to act like I was being disrespectful, she kind of liked jumped/fell (she's fat) onto my bed and grabbed my head and slammed it into the wall and starting screaming stupid shit and was foaming at the mouth so getting spit on me so then I shoved her off and she acted like she got hurt and was going to call the cops to "get me arrested"

I would not recommend growing up with such a stupid bitch but in my case I think it only made me more logical and emotionally stable than the average person.
she sounds like she has borderline personality disorder and is possibly manic.

DAWG-get your money in to your own personal bank account ASAP.

It is easy and quick to open your own account.


See how much she starts flipping out.

Move out, if not to your grandmas then to a buddy's until you can find your own place.

Remove yourself from this situation. Yes she's your mom but she has issues and is only going to drag you down and hold you back, which is sad because a mom is supposed to do the opposite.

I'm giving you this advice as someone whose own mom sounds alot like yours, only not fat. I moved out as soon as possible, see her as little as possible and my life has since improved 10 fold.

When you do move also, dont fall for her guilt trip shit. Yes she's your mom but that doesnt mean you have to be her emotional crutch and take shit from her that you don't deserve. I'm speaking from experience here.

[Godzuki]

today she was like "what time did you wake up at"

and I was like "a few hours ago" and then she was like "oh my god, you gotta stop this" and then I stood up and went ****ing apeshit on her, telling her I don't give a single shit when she wakes up or goes to sleep so why does she care about when I do. And then told her that I can take care of my ****ing self.

this woman is so attached to what I do it's ****ing stupid. yet growing up when I wanted to do anything productive that required the slightest bit of parent involvement and effort like say, play sports, nope, can't do that.

lol **** my parents.


your moms supposed to do that :lol

she's probably going to be the reason why you're not in jail by 18, slinging drugs and hanging out your whole life, or smoking crack at some point. making sure you wake up and sleep normal hours is important in life. making sure you work is important. all that stuff you hate now is important to disciplining yourself, like it or not.

altho taking that $200 like that was fukked up on her part. i'll give you that.

[Rubio2Gasol]

What hustle you have going online?

Be careful with that affiliate marketing stuff.

[Andrei89]

OP is a *******

[ArbitraryWater]

At first I thought OP was trolling again, then I thought he should give his MOM so fuggin money, now I think his mom is just a huge bitch tbh... Lol I had a similar incident, she tries to take something from you in some way, you use self defense, and then she makes it seem as if you attacked her.. but thats all in the past, hopefully.. love her dawg

[russwest0]

At first I thought OP was trolling again, then I thought he should give his MOM so fuggin money, now I think his mom is just a huge bitch tbh... Lol I had a similar incident, she tries to take something from you in some way, you use self defense, and then she makes it seem as if you attacked her.. but thats all in the past, hopefully.. love her dawg

lol yeah she's had multiple moments like that.

my dads only done it once. he was pissy cause I wasn't giving him attention and attacked me in my sleep and started choking me. we had a scuffle for a few minutes and I whooped his ass. the best part about this though (and this is why guys are so much better than women): afterwards he told me he was proud of me for whooping his ass.

[kurple]

You can only imagine how many fights i've had with my mother about sleeping, as an European NBA fanatic

I'd still give my life for her. But maybe I'm just old fashion

Don't call your mom a bitch bro

[ArbitraryWater]

lol yeah she's had multiple moments like that.

my dads only done it once. he was pissy cause I wasn't giving him attention and attacked me in my sleep and started choking me. we had a scuffle for a few minutes and I whooped his ass. the best part about this though (and this is why guys are so much better than women): afterwards he told me he was proud of me for whooping his ass.

started choking you in his sleep???

sometimes i get the feeling every single one of you and budadiii's posts are trolling material... dont know what to believe :(

[ArbitraryWater]

You can only imagine how many fights i've had with my mother about sleeping, as an European NBA fanatic

I'd still give my life for her. But maybe I'm just old fashion

Don't call your mom a bitch bro

lol, i never had any fights with her about it, but she's not very fond of it either lol.. wouldnt call her a bitch, but who knows how she is to him.

[kurple]

Your father started choking while you were sleeping, because you wouldn't give him any attention when you were sleeping?

Now that's ****ed up

[Nick Young]

You can only imagine how many fights i've had with my mother about sleeping, as an European NBA fanatic

I'd still give my life for her. But maybe I'm just old fashion

Don't call your mom a bitch bro
not every mom treats their kids the same bro. And if your mom treats you like shit your whole life, steals your money and beats you, it is retarded to 'give your life' for her.

[kurple]

not every mom treats their kids the same bro. And if your mom treats you like shit your whole life, steals your money and beats you, it is retarded to 'give your life' for her.
Well we haven't heard her side of the story. Only this morons

I also bet there's a lot of future bad fathers in this thread

[Nick Young]

Well we haven't heard her side of the story. Only this morons

I also bet there's a lot of future bad fathers in this thread
you think its ever justified for a mom to beat on her kid or take her kids money without asking?

[kurple]

you think its ever justified for a mom to beat on her kid or take her kids money without asking?
Depends on the kid. What if he attacked her first? Or what if he had stole money from her wallet a week earlier

Not saying these things happend, but who are we to judge before knowing all the facts

[Nick Young]

Depends on the kid. What if he attacked her first? Or what if he had stole money from her wallet a week earlier

Not saying these things happend, but who are we to judge before knowing all the facts


Lol. You have to recognize that not everyone had wonderful loving mommies and cushy cozy lives with state-funded everything like you Snorwegians do.

Some mommies are abusive bitches towards their children.

their children should not be expected to 'give up their lives' for these types of mommies.


What if OP did none of the things you are needlessly hypothetically accusing him of? Kid talks about getting beat on by his mom and all you do is make excuses for her and basically blame the kid for doing something to deserve it. This kind of misandrist thinking and victim blaming absolutely disgusts me.

[ArbitraryWater]

Lol. You have to recognize that not everyone had wonderful loving mommies and cushy cozy lives with state-funded everything like you Snorwegians do.

Some mommies are abusive bitches towards their children.

their children should not be expected to 'give up their lives' for these types of mommies.


What if OP did none of the things you are needlessly hypothetically accusing him of? Kid talks about getting beat on by his mom and all you do is make excuses for her and basically blame the kid for doing something to deserve it. This kind of misandrist thinking disgusts me.

He does.. all hes saying is we dont know the full story yet, given op's suspect history on this board, i can understand when someone might question him a bit..

[kurple]

That's because I know this kid is a piece of shit

I don't know his mother

[Nick Young]

That's because I know this kid is a piece of shit

I don't know his mother
You dont know anything about this kid except what he posts on a message board.

There is no reason to blame him and imply he deserves the way his mom treats him, especially after he posts really personal shit about his mom beating him and emotionally abusing him.

What the phuck is wrong with you? Do you have no empathy?

Apologize to OP, son.

[russwest0]

Your father started choking while you were sleeping, because you wouldn't give him any attention when you were sleeping?

Now that's ****ed up

no I wasn't giving him any attention when I was awake and he was drunk and being an asshole so I went to sleep and woke up with him choking me but it really wasn't that bad. I woke up and whooped his ass and then we laughed it off later and he told me he was proud of me for it.

my mom isn't that way, she will harp on stupid shit that is usually her fault and keep pressing it for no reason. but if I bring up even one of the countless shitty things she's done as a parent she'll keep screaming "let it go!" until I stop talking about it.

[Nick Young]

no I wasn't giving him any attention when I was awake and he was drunk and being an asshole so I went to sleep and woke up with him choking me but it really wasn't that bad. I woke up and whooped his ass and then we laughed it off later and he told me he was proud of me for it.

my mom isn't that way, she will harp on stupid shit that is usually her fault and keep pressing it for no reason. but if I bring up even one of the countless shitty things she's done as a parent she'll keep screaming "let it go!" until I stop talking about it.
Dawg read this, she sounds exactly like a psycho chick I dated:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201210/when-your-mother-has-borderline-personality


What is borderline personality disorder? It's a pattern of intensely hyper-emotional responses, especially to situations that trigger abandonment fears. It's a pattern of demanding, critical and chaotic relationships instead of cooperative communicating. It's a pattern also of misinterpreting situations as hurtful that are in fact benign, with the misinterpretations ocuring either while the situation is happening, or in retelling the events later. It also may be a pattern of attractive and highly competent-appearing social functioning at times alternating with periods of intense and inappropriate anger, narcissism, and explicitly hurtful behavior (to themselves or to others).



She probably will never change but atleast you can start to understand her better why she is the way she is.


In addition, you would see narcissism, that is, inability to attune to others' needs, including her child's. Instead of attunement to the child's needs, whatever happens would be experienced as 'all about her.'

You might alas also see abusive behavior. In fact if it's the man with borderline tendencies, that is, if it's the dad who is difficult, his bpd pattern is likely to be labeled abusive personality.

Here's a classic example of a borderline parent in a situation that most dads or moms would react to with an easy hug. Mom and child are walking on the sidewalk. Child falls. Mom erupts in fury. "How could you fall like that here where everyone can see you? You are making me look bad!" The child's concerns would be irrelevant. The mother's reaction to the incident would be all about Mom.

[russwest0]

it seems like most people who had a shitty childhood that I talk to, growing up their dad was an ass and their mom loved them and then when they became a teenager the roles changed.

I remember once when me and my bro were near the fridge and our dad was going to spank us and he swung the belt so hard (literally all of his strength) but he missed and put a huge ass dent in the side of the fridge with the metal part of the belt.

he then threw the belt on the floor walked away and didn't really **** with me again besides that one time where he tried to choke me out.

I think women like kids, men hate kids, and women hate young adults and men like young adults.

[russwest0]

Dawg read this, she sounds exactly like a psycho chick I dated:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201210/when-your-mother-has-borderline-personality



She probably will never change but atleast you can start to understand her better why she is the way she is.

Damn, she sounds just like that.

Crazy enough that also sounds just like a chick I almost dated and ****ed around with and wasted about three years of my life on.

[ArbitraryWater]

I think women like kids, men hate kids, and women hate young adults and men like young adults.

of course a bit exaggerated, but thats a damn smart and true post :applause:

[russwest0]

of course a bit exaggerated, but thats a damn smart and true post :applause:

lol thats why I roll my eyes when these dumb bitches be like "awh, I love kids!"

they are basically saying "when you turn 13 I no longer give a shit"

[ArbitraryWater]

lol thats why I roll my eyes when these dumb bitches be like "awh, I love kids!"

they are basically saying "when you turn 13 I no longer give a shit"

this is what I meant by exaggerated.. I dont think its this drastic, but I do see the connections.

You will get along with your mom at an early age, and with your dad when you start to become a man.. while in the other times, you will probably go through some problems with them.

[kurple]

men dont like kids?

[russwest0]

men dont like kids?

no

like how are we even supposed to interact with them?

[kurple]

i feel sorry for you

[stalkerforlife]

First off, I just got bitched at because I don't have a "normal" sleep cycle as if this is some sort of issue :wtf: seriously wtf

if I wasn't above the bullshit my mothers ignorance could really be ****ing over my life.

this dumb bitch, right when I got out of high school tried to put me in 12,000 dollars debt by selling me her car

now she bitches to me about the stupidest shit. since our bank accounts are linked (anyone know how I unlink this ****?) and she's been seeing me bring in a steady income from both my job and online means now she's been trying to tell me she's in ****ing debt and shit and trying to get me to pay rent

she just borrowed 200 from me without even asking me, told me about it and said she would pay me back, but now she's trying to just tell me it's "rent" that I never agreed on :facepalm

what do I do in this situation?

1. Move out

2. Get your own bank account

3. Be nice to your mother until then and be even nicer once you move out

4. You only have one mother and you better damn well appreciate her

5. No one should have to tell you this

[ArbitraryWater]

Damn, she sounds just like that.

Crazy enough that also sounds just like a chick I almost dated and ****ed around with and wasted about three years of my life on.



i feel sorry for you

yep, op/russwest has always caught me as one of these psychos ala of the Elliot Rodger kind.. along with euroleague.

[riseagainst]

unlink it and move out.....