how you deal with friends and family deaths

[thefatmiral]

this is only the second time a close person to me Is going to die. my Grandma is slowly going out. its as bad as anything I could have imagined. What can I do. I want to help her care takers. thats all I can think to do. this thread doesn't make much sense but I just needed to vent. how did it go for yall what did you do

[gts]

There's no set answer... just follow your heart

[Cactus-Sack]

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[SupermanOnSteroids]

find support brah. hopefully we can help. if you need it let us know.

[D-FENS]

Yeah, support is key. Keep your body active, keep up routine where you can, and just make sure she knows she is loved

[MadeFromDust]

I mostly just ignored it for the most part. Just one funeral I was involved in for a close loved one, but at least 5 other deaths I didn't get involved. Seems pathetic but true it is what it is. I guess I was influenced by the verse in the Bible which reads, "...let the dead bury their dead...", and knowing there will be a resurrection so death is just temporary.

[MadeFromDust]

But to your situation, the one I got involved with relates more. I downloaded a bunch of comforting music and put it on an MP3 player so my loved one could listen to it all night long when we weren't there. I was bedside pretty much every day even when it didn't appear I was being heard. Holding of hands, tears, "prayer" if you will, words of comfort and love, etc.

It's unbelievable at times, the heart aches, it's surreal, but knowing what I know there is plenty of comfort

[Ratnik]

Im dead inside.... I pretend to be sad, but actually dont give two sh1ts...

[BigBoss]

My grandma died two weeks ago. I just look at the positives and celebrate her life. She lives through me and all her grandchildren now. Ultimately, leaving a legacy behind is a goal everyone needs to accomplish and she did that. It's time to take it to the next level with my generation.

[masonanddixon]

Through all out pure unadulterated psychosis.

[step_back]

The sooner people realize it's just part of normal life the better you'll feel about it. Sure you can feel upset but nothing will change. We all die, some get a decent chance at life like your gran, others go way before their time. I lost a friend of mine who had just turned 20 a few years back. It was awful and unfair but thinking life is fair and just is naive.

Over time you'll learn to live with it. Don't let someones death define your memory of them. Let their life define it.

[tmacattack33]

If the person died in old age, like it appears here, then you should find comfort in the fact that this person got to live out a full life. Your grandma was able to fully live out her childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, parenthood, and grandparenthood.

If the person died early that just sucks.

[thefatmiral]

thanks yall. I need to keep those ideas in perspective. but it just seems unfair. shes going out painfully and slowly. too have a long life with many children and grandkids. doesnt feel right.

[cuad]

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