I dated this girl 5 years ago and we were off and on friends up until 2011

[NBAplayoffs2001]

After that, we pretty much stopped talking as a whole.
She has moved on and I think is dating or has a boyfriend at the moment.
Would it be weird to ask her to meet up for coffee? I want to get a few things off my chest and I really miss her as a friend (I blew my chances but I still think she was really cool to talk to, etc).

[russwest0]

Don't do it kid

[fiddy]

After that, we pretty much stopped talking as a whole.
She has moved on and I think is dating or has a boyfriend at the moment.
Would it be weird to ask her to meet up for coffee? I want to get a few things off my chest and I really miss her as a friend (I blew my chances but I still think she was really cool to talk to, etc).
just move on

[longhornfan1234]

Move on. Things never go back the same.

[IcanzIIravor]

After that, we pretty much stopped talking as a whole.
She has moved on and I think is dating or has a boyfriend at the moment.
Would it be weird to ask her to meet up for coffee? I want to get a few things off my chest and I really miss her as a friend (I blew my chances but I still think she was really cool to talk to, etc).

It has been 3 plus years and she hasn't tried to contact you. You'll just come off creepy and a bit desperate if you do this. Move on.

[Le Shaqtus]

I actually hung out with an ex yesterday. We grabbed lunch and stuff, we dated for a year and a half and the break up didn't go too well, we were apart for 8 months and just hung out for the first time yesterday, it was like nothing changed.

[ZeN]

Whatever has kept you apart will be lingering all over that date. No good can come from meeting up with her. Accept the inevitable.

Find a new girl to make a connection with, so that you can move on from the limerence you have with this old one. She's not into you, stop feeling bad about yourself, create new opportunities.

[Myth]

What things do you want off your chest?

And it is only weird depending the type connection the two of you have. I have one ex where that wouldn't be weird, and several that is would be.

Also, based on the timeline, I'm wondering if the "friend" period was the two of you staying in contact as other feelings slowly faded and you prepared to move on. It appears you have not talked longer than you were friends post breakup, so I'm thinking she may have really moved on and not wanted to reconnect.

I'd say test it out with a Facebook convo if you really want before jumping straight to "Let's meet up" or "Let's meet up, I have something I want to get off my chest."

[ArbitraryWater]

After that, we pretty much stopped talking as a whole.
She has moved on and I think is dating or has a boyfriend at the moment.
Would it be weird to ask her to meet up for coffee? I want to get a few things off my chest and I really miss her as a friend (I blew my chances but I still think she was really cool to talk to, etc).

Um this part is kinda important..

[BigBoss]

Meet her.

Get stuff of your chest because "she's cool to talk to"

Get friend zoned.

Feel like an idiot.

Learn from your mistake.

Help the next brother out who has no game.

[nathanjizzle]

as long as shes willing to meet up, then you can tell her the things you have to. dont force it on her or you end up losing. If she doesnt want to meet up then just let it go.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

I'm still contemplating contacting her but I am leaning towards not doing so. The last time both of us were talking often was the 2011. I did hit her up a few times in 2012 when I was bored and out with friends on weekends.

I think she is dating someone seriously right now so I guess it would be awkward. She visited my university this past semester but visited all her former high school classmates and not me (she was slightly younger). I guess that should have been a clear cut sign that it's over, friendship.

Also the last time where she showed signs of "interest" in that "way" was probably in 2010. I need to get over her...

[LJJ]

Also the last time where she showed signs of "interest" in that "way" was probably in 2010. I need to get over her...

Normally I think it's fine. I've reconnected with old exes and friends before, nothing weird about that. Sometimes you want to reminisce with someone who used to be a big part of your life, you want to know how they are doing now, etc, it's a natural thing and the other person probably feels the same way.

If that's your intention just send a quick email/message.

But from the way you type, "I need to get a few things off my chest", "I blew my chances" and "I need to get over her" it sounds like you still want the honey. Like the other guys are saying, no good can come of this.

[Le Shaqtus]

I'm still contemplating contacting her but I am leaning towards not doing so. The last time both of us were talking often was the 2011. I did hit her up a few times in 2012 when I was bored and out with friends on weekends.

I think she is dating someone seriously right now so I guess it would be awkward. She visited my university this past semester but visited all her former high school classmates and not me (she was slightly younger). I guess that should have been a clear cut sign that it's over, friendship.

Also the last time where she showed signs of "interest" in that "way" was probably in 2010. I need to get over her...

Yeah dude, it's 2014. It sucks, it really does. But you gotta pull up your big boy pants and get over it, it's what we all gotta do.

Someone else will pop up, in the mean time that's what tinder is for.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Yeah dude, it's 2014. It sucks, it really does. But you gotta pull up your big boy pants and get over it, it's what we all gotta do.

Someone else will pop up, in the mean time that's what tinder is for.

Going to check out tinder after graduation and when I have more free time. But yeah, no one in college has really caught my attention. They may be attractive physically but not mentally compatible.

I wasted a lot of time chasing after this girl. Some girl was hinting she liked me senior year of high school in 2011 but I thought I still had an outside chance at this girl. Blew a chance at a pretty good looking girl :facepalm

College = eh, the hookup scene is just too common at my university. I don't like that mentality that a lot of my college friends have (guys and girls).