how much support did you receive from your parents?

[RidonKs]

financial or otherwise?

i've probably sucked in about $5000 in the past eight years since graduating highschool

(and that's not including the fund my grandfather created for me worth about $15k)

[RidonKs]

Funds?

Man, I wish I had white (grand)parents.
it's really ****ing great lol

i've fallen into holes more times than i can count and without it... well i'd like to think i'd have clawed my way out from under. but i got nothing to support that.

if it makes you feel better, i don't have any grandparents left

[PHX_Phan]

Funds?

Man, I wish I had white (grand)parents.

Right?

If we're talking post high school / 18th birthday, then none.

[RidonKs]

damn yall are some independent ******

[FatComputerNerd]

Endless.

I was a fvckup when younger, was a late-bloomer, and sometimes wish my parents would have beaten the cr@p out of me...

In any case, they've always supported me both emotionally and financially...even to the extent of buying me a house in my early 30's when I was struggling financially. (I'm still gradually paying them back, but at only a 2% interest rate...)

I guess I'm blessed, and I do my best to remind them often of how thankful I am. Sometimes I feel shame/guilt for having had to rely on them so much.

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I wasn't left anything by the grandparents, other than many fond memories.

[hateraid]

I'm Filipino so it's pretty much all or nothing. I went the nothing route and built my legacy on my own

[MavsSuperFan]

To me embarrassment probably more than anybody here.
I went to school paid for by my parents. I work in the field that my dad does and although my current job didn't come from him, his recommendation was why i got my entry into the field.

Also I bought 31 units in an townhouse/apartment complex of which the majority of the funding came from a "loan" from my dad. I invested all of my savings and cash, and borrowed from banks as much as I could but i needed the money from my dad to close the deal

Also had help buy my house in texas from my parents (which I rent out now) and instead of paying my parents back I bought a property on auction.com which I rent out now. That money came in large part from the other rental properties and various mortgages, but not paying back my parents allowed me to buy it.

I owe an embarrassing amount of money to my dad.

[RidonKs]

To me embarrassment probably more than anybody here.
I went to school paid for by my parents. I work in the field that my dad does and although my current job didn't come from him, his recommendation was why i got my entry into the field.

Also I bought 31 units in an townhouse/apartment complex of which the majority of the funding came from a "loan" from my dad. I invested all of my savings and cash, and borrowed from banks as much as I could but i needed the money from my dad to close the deal

Also had help buy my house in texas from my parents (which I rent out now) and instead of paying my parents back I bought a property on auction.com which I rent out now. That money came in large part from the other rental properties and various mortgages, but not paying back my parents allowed me to buy it.

I owe an embarrassing amount of money to my dad.
nothing to feel embarrassed about imo as long as you're independent now. it's not like its going to stop with you. pay it forward and all that crap, to your kid or whoever else you see who went through the same shit you did.

[fiddy]

Got me through the first 3 years of the university, since the final year ive been on my own, so probably the equivalent of 8-9k $

[MavsSuperFan]

nothing to feel embarrassed about imo as long as you're independent now. it's not like its going to stop with you. pay it forward and all that crap, to your kid or whoever else you see who went through the same shit you did.
well it really depends on how you define independant.

If you ignore that I pay zero interest to my dad and zero of the principle money back to him, than yes I can meet my interest payments and other bills to banks and etc, off my salary and rental incomes.

But I dont really consider myself independent. Anyone that has burrowed as much money as I have really has no right to claim independence.

[stalkerforlife]

If parents don't want to help their kids, they shouldn't have any.

Some people just aren't successful human beings, like myself. My mother supported me financially all through my 20s, with the exception of times when I had a job. (I have never had a job longer than 6 months)

Now i'm 32 and on social security for depression, so my mother doesn't have to support me anymore.

[RidonKs]

If parents don't want to help their kids, they shouldn't have any.

true. that.

now we just have to figure out what help means.

[DonDadda59]

financial or otherwise?

i've probably sucked in about $5000 in the past eight years since graduating highschool

(and that's not including the fund my grandfather created for me worth about $15k)

I wish I had 'funds' created for me. 15K would go a LONG way towards reaching my professional goals.

You think you can let me hold about tree fiddy? :D

[outbreak]

I lived with them until 21 when I bought my house. They've never given money for things but my dad has built my front and back yard including a pergola. I helped of course but he did most of the work and actually knew what he was doing. My parents help alot just not financially (I make more money than they do)

[Draz]

They paid for my associates degree. So far I've raised $2 thousand in the past few months. I just got a job so my first month I should be here for a few months to a year enough to save up for a ba or a car.

they don't ask for rent or bills I'm going to save up a lot more.

[Draz]

I lived with them until 21 when I bought my house. They've never given money for things but my dad has built my front and back yard including a pergola. I helped of course but he did most of the work and actually knew what he was doing. My parents help alot just not financially (I make more money than they do)
At 21 you have a house? Amazing. What do you do?

[RidonKs]

None besides a roof over my head and food to eat. Never met my dad. I didn't even get an allowance as a kid, that still kinda irks me lol. My mom and whoever was the father figure at the time just didn't care much. I was also never encouraged to do well in school, take up learning an instrument, etc.
damn. encouragement in education is huge. you've done pretty well then.

i'm tryin to figure out whether or not i was spoiled. like i got a guitar one christmas and occasional video games and i think a snowboard and some other shit. but i dunno, in other ways they were pretty stingy especially with sweets.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Much more than I would like to admit.

[BigBoss]

Absolutely nothing. I had lazy parents who half azz everything. I raised myself. Now they want my help because I get $hit done. I've literally become the parent and i resent them for that.

i.e. my mom never brushed her teeth when she was younger, now needs serious care but doesn't know how to get dental insurance, so she asks me to do it for her. Like are you kidding me? The most basic $hit they're clueless.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Absolutely nothing. I had lazy parents who half azz everything. I raised myself. Now they want my help because I get $hit done. I've literally become the parent and i resent them for that.

i.e. my mom never brushed her teeth when she was younger, now needs serious care but doesn't know how to get dental insurance, so she asks me to do it for her. Like are you kidding me? The most basic $hit they're clueless.

I was spoon fed a lot by my parents so moving to a different city is how I was forced to grow up and do things. My parents do well for themselves and have provided me with plenty of opportunity. The only downside is I feel pressured that I have to be as successful as they are. Obviously nothing to complain about but I guess both of us are in opposite scenarios.

I do know of a few people who grew up in very bad areas and ended up doing very well in their schools, become doctors/lawyers/successful businessmen and now support their aging parents.

[shlver]

A place to sleep, food to eat, and a car to drive for 23 years in terms of financial support. Of course they also bought me almost every electronic device I wanted, so I was pretty spoiled. Now I save all my money and don't really buy anything. Eliminating basic needs allowed me to save up almost everything that I have made in the last 5-6 years.

[RidonKs]

A place to sleep, food to eat, and a car to drive for 23 years in terms of financial support. Of course they also bought me almost every electronic device I wanted, so I was pretty spoiled. Now I save all my money and don't really buy anything. Eliminating basic needs allowed me to save up almost everything that I have made in the last 5-6 years.
excellent man good work. is this all for med school?

[BlkMambaGOAT]

Aside from the typical roof over head and food, they're paying 1/2 of my college tuition and depending on my marks, possibly graduate school.

[BigBoss]

I was spoon fed a lot by my parents so moving to a different city is how I was forced to grow up and do things. My parents do well for themselves and have provided me with plenty of opportunity. The only downside is I feel pressured that I have to be as successful as they are. Obviously nothing to complain about but I guess both of us are in opposite scenarios.

I do know of a few people who grew up in very bad areas and ended up doing very well in their schools, become doctors/lawyers/successful businessmen and now support their aging parents.

That's true. At the end of the day you and I just need to do what's best for ourselves and not worry about anyone's expectations. That's good you dont harbor ill feelings towards your parents and they were an overall a positive force for you. That's something I need to resolve within the next few years otherwise it'll hold me back from being the husband/father that I want to be. I think at the end of the day parenting is just a hard job so i should chill out and forgive.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Aside from the typical roof over head and food, they're paying 1/2 of my college tuition and depending on my marks, possibly graduate school.

For me they are thankfully paying for my overpriced undergrad (Why did I go here :facepalm :facepalm. On top of being very expensive, I'm pretty unhappy here but only a few terms from graduating :rockon:). Graduate school, I promised my parents I would pay for it all even though they won't mind paying it. I feel I have to make my own way in the world at some point.

[chips93]

they've paid for all 4 years of college, so about 10 grand ( ~ $15 grand).

its pretty rare for students to pay for their own college in my country, so they definitely wouldnt expect me to pay them back.

ive worked through college, and lived out of the home for only one of the four years, so they've provided food and shelter, other than that i havent gotten anything else off them.

i wont have a job this year though, and i dont want to have to eat into my savings, or get money off them, so ill have to live pretty modestly this year.

[shlver]

excellent man good work. is this all for med school?
I'm in my third year currently. I took a deal where I practice in Nevada for five years, and they would cover all tuition and I get a little extra to save as well. I got into other med schools, but my parents convinced me to stay here with them. A little overbearing but they gave good enough reasons that I stayed.

[BlkMambaGOAT]

they've paid for all 4 years of college, so about 10 grand ( ~ $15 grand).

its pretty rare for students to pay for their own college in my country, so they definitely wouldnt expect me to pay them back.

ive worked through college, and lived out of the home for only one of the four years, so they've provided food and shelter, other than that i havent gotten anything else off them.
:biggums: :biggums: :biggums:
Where do you live?

[NumberSix]

I've never borrowed money at any point in my life. Not saying there anything wrong with that. We all need help here and there.

[shlver]

For me they are thankfully paying for my overpriced undergrad (Why did I go here :facepalm :facepalm. On top of being very expensive, I'm pretty unhappy here but only a few terms from graduating :rockon:). Graduate school, I promised my parents I would pay for it all even though they won't mind paying it. I feel I have to make my own way in the world at some point.
You can leave. If it's expensive and you're not happy there, why not transfer credits to another university and save your parents some money?

[BlkMambaGOAT]

You can leave. If it's expensive and you're not happy there, why not transfer credits to another university and save your parents some money?
If he goes to a top-tier (and usually pricey) uni, then it might be worth staying since the name could make it easier to land a job/go to graduate school.

If he goes to a low-tier(but still pricey) uni, then he needs to GTFO.

[shlver]

If he goes to a top-tier (and usually pricey) uni, then it might be worth staying since the name could make it easier to land a job/go to graduate school.

If he goes to a low-tier(but still pricey) uni, then he needs to GTFO.
He is not going to a top tier if his parents are paying for his education.

[BlkMambaGOAT]

He is not going to a top tier if his parents are paying for his education.
his parents could be filthy rich:confusedshrug: :confusedshrug: :confusedshrug: :confusedshrug:

If his parents are super-rich I can understand why he'd try to make it on his own.

[~primetime~]

He is not going to a top tier if his parents are paying for his education.
?

lots of students at high rep unis come from rich families...one of my in-laws just graduated from Harvard, it was paid for by her parents

[NBAplayoffs2001]

If he goes to a top-tier (and usually pricey) uni, then it might be worth staying since the name could make it easier to land a job/go to graduate school.

If he goes to a low-tier(but still pricey) uni, then he needs to GTFO.

I'm not at a high tier school. It's a top 100 school on the rise but I only have two more semesters left and I had a lot of scholarship. So it wasn't TOO expensive for me

[NBAplayoffs2001]

his parents could be filthy rich:confusedshrug: :confusedshrug: :confusedshrug: :confusedshrug:

If his parents are super-rich I can understand why he'd try to make it on his own.

My parents are not filthy rich, just well off.

[shlver]

?

lots of students at high rep unis come from rich families...one of my in-laws just graduated from Harvard, it was paid for by her parents
It was a bad generalization. I'm sure there are cases like this, my experience have been with phd students who were accepted to top tiers that have had full scholarships and stipends included.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

It was a bad generalization. I'm sure there are cases like this, my experience have been with phd students that were accepted to top tiers that have had full scholarships and stipends included.

I get you and also I'm also trying to pursue medicine (keyword: trying). Don't think I will get in anytime soon but I'm still pretty young at 21 so I'll keep trying :cheers:

[shlver]

I get you and also I'm also trying to pursue medicine (keyword: trying). Don't think I will get in anytime soon but I'm still pretty young at 21 so I'll keep trying :cheers:
Start getting A's in those classes. Also load up on science classes in one semester and work your ass off. If you can show you can take a rigorous courseload and do well, then that's an excellent indicator of success in med school. Start your volunteering at hospitals NOW. It's never to early to start making a network with healthcare professionals(letters of recommendation). Do research as well. Just email a lab that's doing interesting work and show you can work in a lab setting voluntarily and maybe in time it can serve as a long term job while you get through school. Also, there should be a medical school club for undergrads, should network there as well. A lot of hot girls that are intelligent go to those things.
The thing is you need to stop saying you're trying and just do it.

[BlkMambaGOAT]

any grad school vets here (excl. law/med/business) school?

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Start getting A's in those classes. Also load up on science classes in one semester and work your ass off. If you can show you can take a rigorous courseload and do well, then that's an excellent indicator of success in med school. Start your volunteering at hospitals NOW. It's never to early to start making a network with healthcare professionals(letters of recommendation). Do research as well. Just email a lab that's doing interesting work and show you can work in a lab setting voluntarily and maybe in time it can serve as a long term job while you get through school. Also, there should be a medical school club for undergrads, should network there as well. A lot of hot girls that are intelligent go to those things.
The thing is you need to stop saying you're trying and just do it.

Don't turn this website into SDN network please... I know what I have to do, don't need a reminder. But thanks anyway. Also I do all those things, all I need is awhile to bring up my GPA.

[shlver]

Don't turn this website into SDN network please... I know what I have to do, don't need a reminder. But thanks anyway.
Well, people who use the try word tend to fail. If you are not taking all those measures, you're not trying; you're putting up a facade.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Well, people who use the try word tend to fail. If you are not taking all those measures, you're not trying; you're putting up a facade.

well with my statistics, I'm being realistic about my chances at the moment. It's reality, I can try to get into medical school but maybe at this point it isn't in my books to get in.

[~primetime~]

So much of how we turn out as adults comes from our parents. Makes me wonder how I'd have turned out if I had parents like that instead drug addict, alcoholic parents who gave just enough of a fvck to not have social services take me away. That's life though, I'm still better off than a lot of people.
true

always someone out there that is more fortunate than you are
always someone out there that is less fortunate...



although I suppose there has to be one of each human who is the "most fortunate" and the "least fortunate" ...so the above statement holds true for every human but 2 :lol

[shlver]

well with my statistics, I'm being realistic about my chances at the moment. It's reality, I can try to get into medical school but maybe at this point it isn't in my books to get in.
I'm not going to ask you for personal details, so good luck on whatever you plan to do.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

I'm not going to ask you for personal details, so good luck on whatever you plan to do.

Yes, thank you. Same to you.

[chips93]

:biggums: :biggums: :biggums:
Where do you live?

ireland

it used to be even cheaper, about 5 years ago all you had to pay was a registration fee each year, of about 300 euros, so like $450

[NBAplayoffs2001]

ireland

it used to be even cheaper, about 5 years ago all you had to pay was a registration fee each year, of about 300 euros, so like $450

I've heard in the UK, the motivation to go to a top school was that it tends to be cheaper. I wish the US was like that.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

5 to 7k

I sacrificed a shit load of my time and energy during teens and had no allowance though.. Were talking 10 hour days helping pops apartment and 2 to 3 hours helping facilitate mas career. Had shitty useless siblings though. Hate to sound ungrateful but would much rather been raised in a western environnent. Would have made me a smarter better man

I personally think Ridonks DESERVES to have support because his consciousness can contribute to the world. He actually has something to say unlike the idiotic premed chicks I've dated who claim to be independent and have nothing to offer but complaints moaning narcissism and being hungry and horny

[Kblaze8855]

Virtually nothing since I was 17 or so. Hell 16. My father wanted to buiy me a car at 16 and i wouldnt accept it. He no longer lived with us. I always figured...if you talk shit on a man you have no right to have your hand out to him.

Ive taken care of myself most of my life.

[NBAplayoffs2001]

And as other people mention it, I didn't have much emotional support from my parents either. It's not like I really cared about it though. I was content just being left alone and having a video game to play. As far as school, they never really encouraged me to do well because they didn't have to. I was always a straight A student because it just came easy to me. As far as secondary education though, they only encouraged me to do it because "it's just what you're supposed to do". I dropped out of college after going to about 2 classes. Still doing well for myself though all things considered.

There are about 3 kids I know who dropped out freshman year. One dropped out because he had a business idea and moved to Europe. Have heard he's been pretty successful. One kid dropped out because he simply couldn't get off probation. Same with another kid but both of them differentiated in why they struggled. One kid played video games all night (incredibly annoying neighbor, kid would be gaming until 5am next door and I would be trying to sleep for my 8am midterm). The other kid really did try hard in school but he just couldn't handle his major. I heard he moved back home and has been working for 2-3 years doing part-time university in his hometown.

[Godzuki]

i got a lot of support, actually rather spoiled. I couldn't even come up with a figure if you're counting support $ from childhood to college...i had friends more spoiled tho and some not.

I always thought the parents who didn't give their children support or what they could give were selfish and bad parents. still do to a degree. there is teaching lessons but then there is general greed and selfishness, which i see pretty often in some people, namely some adults. u can give your kid nothing and they might learn the best, hardest lessons in life to save/horde and look out for themself, but there is a fine line between that and being a non caring or greedy selfish shitty parent. parents IMO should WANT to give their kid everything they have, if not much of it to make their kid happy...to see smiles on their faces, to provide....thats love.

i'm actually surprised at how many people here grew up without much support, if any, and in some rough situations. just reinforces the inequities of life being so random. u might be better people for it appreciating having things more or saving money, but i bet with more parental/personal issues.

not to say i didn't grow up without challenges or issues and shit. like my parents fought 24/7 when i was young, and its tough growing up in America asian IMO since there is so little representation or role models(all of my role models were black like Pele, high school soccer star dude i watched as a kid, etc)....but all in all i do realize i was rather fortunate. also azn parents(or mine) are so strict unrealistic to every other american kid.

[outbreak]

At 21 you have a house? Amazing. What do you do?
Network Administrator/Systems Admin whatever you want to call it. I started working full time at 18 though and never really spent money on expensive holidays and the like. It's only in the last few years I've really stopped saving and started splurging on luxury items. I have friends who would have spent what could have been a deposit for a house just on overseas holidays a fancy car they don't really need.

[netsfan549]

Network Administrator/Systems Admin whatever you want to call it. I started working full time at 18 though and never really spent money on expensive holidays and the like. It's only in the last few years I've really stopped saving and started splurging on luxury items. I have friends who would have spent what could have been a deposit for a house just on overseas holidays a fancy car they don't really need.

i am actually trying to find a job in that field

[red1]

None since adulthood ie since the age of 18. Wouldn't have it any other way.

[Milbuck]

A lot. Way too much support for me to be the complete asshole I was to them for so many years. Only hit me when I was 18-19, seeing so many people in my graduating class go nowhere after high school, that I realized how ****ing lucky I was to have two financially stable parents who cared more about my life than I did.

[CelticBaller]

My mom had me work for everything i owned, she does help me with my college books and my car payments from time to time

[BigBoss]

Do you guys think our parenting is the reason why we're all on ISH?

[NBAplayoffs2001]

Do you guys think our parenting is the reason why we're all on ISH?

It's the only entertainment I had this whole summer besides hanging out with my friends for only 3 nights. We are all getting older. Some of us are working and some of us taking classes during the summer. I wish I was in high school again when I used to ball everyday with my crew :(

[shaq2000]

Quite a bit. My dad bought me a new car when I was 17. Kept it for a good 10 years and never had a car payment. They also helped a lot with tuition for my B.Sc.

[christian1923]

Hmm they give me a roof over my head, pay my phone and food. I pay for everything else I have for the most part. But my dad is always willing to give me money if I'm in a bad situation. I'm lucky

[Akrazotile]

it's really ****ing great lol

i've fallen into holes more times than i can count and without it... well i'd like to think i'd have clawed my way out from under. but i got nothing to support that.

if it makes you feel better, i don't have any grandparents left


That does make me feel a little bit better man, thanks.

[JohnFreeman]

0.0

[Le Shaqtus]

They pay for my schooling, so a lot.

[RidonKs]

That does make me feel a little bit better man, thanks.
:lol


glad this thread worked out

[DeuceWallaces]

A few hundred dollars over the past 15 years. Like maybe 50 bucks on my birthday some year.

[nightprowler10]

No idea. We have a system where everyone put their money together for the family's goals. I've been giving all my money to my family since I started working at the age of 16. I wasn't really ever happy with the situation but it has allowed to do a lot more than what we'd been able to do if I went my own way.

[RidonKs]

No idea. We have a system where everyone put their money together for the family's goals. I've been giving all my money to my family since I started working at the age of 16. I wasn't really ever happy with the situation but it has allowed to do a lot more than what we'd been able to do if I went my own way.
this is the way i'm looking at it now and its the way my dad looks at it and his father before him haha

[nightprowler10]

this is the way i'm looking at it now and its the way my dad looks at it and his father before him haha
The problem with this system is that there is no financial independence or decision making power whatsoever, which is especially frustrating if you're actually decent to good with money. I've been the primary paycheck of the household for close to 10 years I think, yet my parents were apparently "buying me" a car, or a TV, etc. even though without my paycheck we would still be living in a 2 bedroom apartment without a bed.

I didn't have much of a say until I grew some balls and said **** it and decided to move out on my own. Now that I have a family of my own and have to take care of them I am gaining a lot more control, but it's still frustrating that I don't have the metaphorical keys to everything.