Could you be strictly friends with a hot chick and have not a single urge to bang her

[TheMan]

I got this thread idea from one thread sweggah made about a friend of his having a gf with a close guy friend...I have this theory, I came up with it by just being a guy and having female friends and knowing deep down I've wanted to bang each and everyone of them if the situation presented itself. Some I smashed, others I didn't but that little horndog inside of every male was always present.

Have any of you guys been friends with good looking girls and had absolutely no interest in banging them? I think it's not possible but that's why I'm asking. Men and women are so different, we like doing our thing and they like doing their thing. I really can't fathom being around a hottie, drinking some beer and watching movies and not want some carnal action, I really can't. That's why I have prohibited my wife from having guy 'friends' from work, I know how we think.

What say you? Are you cool with your girl having close male friends? Seems like an obvious answer but Macho Man apparently disagrees.

[RidonKs]

i am. i kind of think of her as a little sister now. there was a lot of sexual tension early on but she wasn't interested i accepted it and now i don't really see her as worth my sexual pursuit because the friendship is more valuable to me and there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

[TheMan]

i am. i kind of think of her as a little sister now. there was a lot of sexual tension early on but she wasn't interested i accepted it and now i don't really see her as worth my sexual pursuit because the friendship is more valuable to me and there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Ridonks, not trying to be a dick but you made a thread about how you made out with a gay neighbor. I'm just asking the straight guys here, no offense :cheers:

[Jailblazers7]

I'm strictly friends with a hot girl (she's not a 10 or anything but definitely someone I'd be interested in) and I don't really get the urge to bang her. There has never really been a ton of sexual tension for some reason and I like it that way. She's an awesome wingman and I find that others girls think it's cool that I'm capable of having platonic relationships with other women.

[ImKobe]

If you value the relationship, you don't try to go further (unless you know she wants the same and you're both available, obviously).

It's ridiculously tougher to do at a young age (say 15-20 years old). If one of you is in a serious relationship though, it shouldn't be a problem.

[sweggeh]

Hell no. I can hardly look good looking male friends in the eye.

[Bandito]

Hell no. I can hardly look good looking male friends in the eye.
:biggums:

Don't tell me you're about to step out of the closet too...

[RidonKs]

Ridonks, not trying to be a dick but you made a thread about how you made out with a gay neighbor. I'm just asking the straight guys here, no offense :cheers:
none taken lol

but i am straight and i do have hot chicks who are purely platonic friends.

jb... that's a good call. i gotta start inviting my cute female friends to the bar. i've been on a craze lately haha been chilling at this neighbourhood cafe/bar that's open late. in the past three days i've gotten three numbers, made eyes with a really cute waitress, and last night i was chattin with three girls for about 2 hours then they left and i found three more and chatted with them for about the same amount of time. didn't get anything out of it except a few potential opportunities in the future, but i think something will work out of it all haha

a few of em were smokin hot btw. not to brrrrag or anything :banana:

[b1imtf]

Nope.

[nathanjizzle]

nah. i could be friends with girls im not attracted to, but a girl im attracted too? even though i wouldnt want to be with her i will still give her sex vibes and not friend vibes.

[BrownEye007]

I was just friends with a pretty hot girl I worked with for a while. I found her attractive but never thought of trying anything only because I knew one of my best friends was into her. Otherwise no probably not.

[oarabbus]

Yes, it's possible.

If she's filled with STDs. If she's clean then no.

[riseagainst]

no, unless you are gay.

[Draz]

For all of the men here who have gorgeous beautiful girlfriends or wives, how do you feel about their male bestfriends? Knowing they would have the urge and would want to bang her if the situation presented itself?

It's the same question here.

[KyrieTheFuture]

For all of the men here who have gorgeous beautiful girlfriends or wives, how do you feel about their male bestfriends? Knowing they would have the urge and would want to bang her if the situation presented itself?

It's the same question here.
I'm jealous in general, but I tell myself that I'm retarded if I really think I'm the only man in the world interested in that girl so I usually get over it pretty quick.

[alenleomessi]

yes definitely
if she is your sister

[KobesFinger]

I have a friend who when I met her I wanted to bang but it quickly became clear that it wasn't going to happen. I still think she's sexy but I haven't thought about her like that since

[Hamtaro CP3KDKG]

There are 3 possible answers

-Possible if shes butt ugly
-Otherwise if u say its possible youre lying
-or youre a fakkit

[RidonKs]

No. What benefits are there to being friends with a girl, other than her introducing you to more women? If I want friends, I'll just go hang with some guys.
because women and men are different and you get different things out of different relationships/friendships with different people?

lol what a silly thing to say. it's like "why bother getting a dog, i already have an aquarium".

[RidonKs]

Overall, who do you enjoy spending time with platonically, women, or other gay men?
you're so young and naive mr im so rad. not that i'm much older.

i know you're a) convinced i'm gay or b) pretending to be convinced i'm gay

i'm not gay, i'm straight technically speaking. and i like spending time mostly with girls i have a chance of fking. after that is a close tie between friends (male and female), family (immediate and extended), strangers (only the ones i like that i decide to maintain a friendship with).

gay men can be kind of annoying in the stereotypical sense. but they aren't all annoying. my roommate is gay and one of the most intelligent people i've ever met in my life and i like shooting the shit with him. i also have a bunch of straight somewhat homophobic jock like friends that i grew up with (my basketball buddies) who i drink and pick up girls with and like spending time with.

i forget why i'm writign all this

[red1]

the honest answer is no

[Jailblazers7]

No. What benefits are there to being friends with a girl, other than her introducing you to more women? If I want friends, I'll just go hang with some guys.

You do realize girls can be cool/funny/interesting right? Hanging out with dudes only is boring as hell.

[sweggeh]

You do realize girls can be cool/funny/interesting right? Hanging out with dudes only is boring as hell.

:oldlol:

[niko]

You can't so you get over it. :confusedshrug:

[Meticode]

Yes it's possible. Depends on the circumstances.

[LJJ]

I don't know man. When I was 18 I didn't think it was possible, but I'm starting to change my mind a little.

"A single urge" is a very strict condition though. My best girl friend would probably go a 7,5-8 on the scale. Arabic, cute, nice round ass. Purely based on looks she is my type. So to say I don't feel a single urge to bang her when she bends over in front of me to grab something from the table? Nah, I still like what I'm seeing.

However, I know her too well. I'm not romantically interested in her and I know she is batshit insane when it comes to any type of sexual relationship. She looks hot and she's a loyal friend and fun to be with, but I have no interest in hitting it.

[RidonKs]

Pardon my narrow-minded view, I've just always assumed that willingly engaging the same sex in a sexually physical manner indicated homosexuality, not that I care if you claim to be gay or not. It's just an observation.

Back on topic, I just have never encountered a female that had traits I like in friends that I couldn't find in men to an even greater degree. Oh a girl is funny? I know a guy that's 10x funnier. Oh she has a sense of sarcasm? I know a guy who has an even better sense of sarcasm that won't get offended when I make "misogynistic" jokes.

If I'm attracted to a woman, I'm not going to pursue just a friendship with her, mostly due to the aforementioned reasons, but also because I would only be doing her and myself a disservice by perpetuating a charade of wanting just friendship.
i do think you're narrow minded but at least you're talking about it

i have male friends who are extraordinarily lame/boring/stupid who i keep in contact with.... i have female friends who are 10x funnier and 10x smarter and 10x more interesting. i also have male and female friends who are 10x smarter/funnier/more interesting than those female friends.

sex really does have very little to do with it if you ask me

i mean if it feels like youre perpetuating a charade by trying to be friends with girls, i've got no problem with that and that's just a personal idiosyncrasy. but to ask why anybody might pursue a platonic friendship with a hot girl is kinda crazy imo.

[TheMan]

Do you guys have reputations as creeps for trying to sleep with any girl your friends with?
Dude, it's called being a guy. We're biologically hardwired to try to spread our seed. No different than in the animal world, of course we don't always act on it as rational beings but that urge to bang women we find attractve is always there, except if you're gay of course.

[TheMan]

You do realize girls can be cool/funny/interesting right? Hanging out with dudes only is boring as hell.
The only female friend I have is my wife and that's enough for me, I know other females, but I don't consider them friends as in I don't shoot the shit or hang out with them one on one. I demand the same from my wife and she complies and agrees with me on this.

[BlackWhiteGreen]

Nah.

[longhornfan1234]

You do realize girls can be cool/funny/interesting right? Hanging out with dudes only is boring as hell.
:roll: :roll:


I have never met an interesting girls. Girls are boring.

[dude77]

I was gonna write a more thought out response but that last part of the question makes it clear .. without a single thought or urge ? the answer is no .. if you say yes, then it's because you're turned off by her sexually for some reason(you know shit about her that others don't that's a turn off .. she has stds or she's a whore of epic proportions) .. or your hormones are fked up or you're a fggt .. otherwise you're lying if you say no .. the only other reason I can think of is if she's a very old friend and you see her like a sister or some shit like that .. that's possible

[Orlando Magic]

Not a single urge? Impossible.
Not dwell on it? Possible.
Not think about it much at all? Possible.

It also depends on how close you are... if you're close friends with a female that you're highly physically attracted to, yes, you are going to want to bang her unless her personality is a total turnoff in which case why are you friends in the first place?

It is *impossible* to be close(emotionally) friends with a girl that you find to be highly physically attractive and NOT want to bang her at one point or another.

[LJJ]

Do you guys have reputations as creeps for trying to sleep with any girl your friends with?

As a guy who is friends with a lot of creeps who consistently fail with women, this just depends on how you do it.

Creepiness really just stems from not picking up social cues and not understanding how the game is played. When you become friends with a girl under false pretenses and then suddenly after a long time make some kind of big "I wanna be more than friends" gesture after no flirting at all? That's how you get that reputation as a creep.

If you actually know how to do social interaction though? No it's not creepy to try and bang your friends. Most guys and girls become friends through some initial flirting and sexual attraction anyway.

[RidonKs]

It's just a matter of experience. I've never encountered women I think are funny. And most bitches I meet aren't interesting in the least. But that goes for most guys I encounter as well.
:lol well there you have it then

[cuad]

Yes, if you are gay.

[sick_brah07]

not a chance on earth for me

[jaybee682]

Hell No. Ive got enough friends.

[Jailblazers7]

I was gonna write a more thought out response but that last part of the question makes it clear .. without a single thought or urge ? the answer is no .. if you say yes, then it's because you're turned off by her sexually for some reason(you know shit about her that others don't that's a turn off .. she has stds or she's a whore of epic proportions) .. or your hormones are fked up or you're a fggt .. otherwise you're lying if you say no .. the only other reason I can think of is if she's a very old friend and you see her like a sister or some shit like that .. that's possible

Yeah, the "without a single urge" condition is impossible but being friends and not pursuing anything is easy.

[BasedTom]

After a ridiculous amount of time, sure.

But there will always be that lingering feeling. Always.

[GimmeThat]

you can be friends with an opposite sex and never bring up the subject of sex

but then, you'll be the guy that others ask
"I thought you two were friends"
"yes, but then she got a boy friend"


if you can tolerate that.

[ace23]

I don't want to say I couldn't, but I haven't.

[Fudge]

no, unless you are gay.
:cheers:

[L.Kizzle]

This is a dumb question. I want to have sex with every chick I see and know. Well besides family (no ace23.)

[TheNaturalWR]

Thought it was possible last year when I was doing it(close friends for a year) but eventually I gave in. Went out for 2 months and shit was a disaster. Don't even talk anymore and it's just straight up grilling each other when we run into each other. :oldlol:

[bluesteel2010]

What about being friends with ex-gf's that are hot?

Im trying that atm, and although I thought I didn't want to bang her, I got plastered and I did, so that didn't work out too well.

[L.Kizzle]

What about being friends with ex-gf's that are hot?

Im trying that atm, and although I thought I didn't want to bang her, I got plastered and I did, so that didn't work out too well.
I'm still friends with all my exes. Never bite he hand that fed you. And, I might wanna eat again.

[Le Shaqtus]

I can be friends with a hot chick easy, but I'll always secretly wanna put it in her butt.

[GimmeThat]

What about being friends with ex-gf's that are hot?

Im trying that atm, and although I thought I didn't want to bang her, I got plastered and I did, so that didn't work out too well.


good to know you'd probably bang a chick from tinder if they were hot and available too huh.

[JohnnySic]

Platonic male-female relationships where the chick is hot dont really exist. It happens because the guy is trying to get something out of it (either wear her down or access to her circle of friends).

[mlh1981]

I feel like in these scenarios, someone always wants a little bit more, whether they are willing to admit it or not.

[Draz]

How do you guys feel about growing up with a girl you considered bestfriends with for about 10 to 20 years. Do you stay away from anything flirty to avoid a breakage in friendship? I tend to stay away because it's not worth losing a friendship over. Too many females out there that can be used for sex.

[n00bie]

I've been friends with a chick that was probably a 9.. however she was one of the most boring people I've ever been friends with. Her stories always puts me to sleep. She was also really into cars.. which is a big turn off.

I've never had any urges to bang her. I always imagined sleeping with her would be similar to humping a pillow. :sleeping

[niko]

:roll: :roll:


I have never met an interesting girls. Girls are boring.
Good thing you're gay then. Don't let anyone find out or you'll get kicked out of the party.

[niko]

How do you guys feel about growing up with a girl you considered bestfriends with for about 10 to 20 years. Do you stay away from anything flirty to avoid a breakage in friendship? I tend to stay away because it's not worth losing a friendship over. Too many females out there that can be used for sex.
I always tried not to think about things too much. I feel like once you start considering options that puts thoughts in your head anyway. I think that's one thing in life that makes it easier not to want to cheat in marraige (i'm married), don't focus on girls. You can look when they are there, but don't focus on them when they are not.

I've never had a situation with a woman where thinking it through in detail when they were not there helped very much with hitting it or avoiding problems.

[niko]

More anti gay hate speech that niko continues not to be banned for
Is pointing out a person is gay anti gay? That's confusing.

:bowdown: i thought we were cool, i'm a big fan...