Is it bad to approach a girl too often?

[waseem780]

So I'm into this chick , pretty sure she likes me back but we only talk if she sits next to her friend who sits next to me. Today a different girl sat next to me so I didn't get to talk to her. She was alone for a few minutes after school and I approached her and said hey what sup.

My question is , if I go up to a girl too often and start a conversation out of the blue like "hey how are you" "whatsup" is that too clingy/desperate or is it good for getting chciks

[Meticode]

Spread out your meetings with her 2-3 days apart. Don't do it every single day. Keep it short. Just say hi, or hello. After 3-4 times of this try to take notice in something she has and compliment her on it or show you're interested in it as well. Keep a short conversation, but the important thing is to initiate some kind of conversation here. Try to get her to smile, you'll have to figure that out. Then the 5th or 6th time you've talked to her just straight out tell her, "You seem a pretty nice and I was wanting to know if you'd want to go out to a dinner and (event, movie, ballgame, etc.). Try to get dinner in there, that way you can talk and connect.

If she totally turns it down, there's no chance. Turning down would be considered no, or if she makes an excuse of when's she's not sure to hang out. Move along.

[#number6ix#]

It depends on how she response to you... If she seems comfortable with you you're good... If not you'll come off as a stalker

[Nick Young]

Spread out your meetings with her 2-3 days apart. Don't do it every single day. Keep it short. Just say hi, or hello. After 3-4 times of this try to take notice in something she has and compliment her on it or show you're interested in it as well. Keep a short conversation, but the important thing is to initiate some kind of conversation here. Try to get her to smile, you'll have to figure that out. Then the 5th or 6th time you've talked to her just straight out tell her, "You seem a pretty nice and I was wanting to know if you'd want to go out to a dinner and (event, movie, ballgame, etc.). Try to get dinner in there, that way you can talk and connect.

If she totally turns it down, there's no chance. Move along.
THis is bad advice.

She senses your neediness bro. If she was interested, she'd come up to you and make more of an effort to start conversations with you.

[Meticode]

THis is bad advice.

She senses your neediness bro. If she was interested, she'd come up to you and make more of an effort to start conversations with you.
This is bad advice. Not everyone starts conversations with people who they are interested in. Shyness takes over, embarrassment takes over, being rejected takes over. If you're not going to get your foot wet and step up to the plate in the risk of just being turned down, then you shouldn't be talking to girls anyway to go out with them.

[waseem780]

It depends on how she response to you... If she seems comfortable with you you're good... If not you'll come off as a stalker
she's the type of girl that would respond well to anyone

[waseem780]

THis is bad advice.

She senses your neediness bro. If she was interested, she'd come up to you and make more of an effort to start conversations with you.
She is shy at that,,, well at least she is now.. since we've been only talking for a week maybe I should build a friendship by talking to her first till she gets comfortable to talk to me?

[imdaman99]

How old is she? I'm assuming you're in high school?

Try to get her and her friend to hang out with you and a friend. When you're all together it makes it easier. Make sure your friend knows you have laid claim to her :oldlol: It makes things easier when you're in a group, especially if you can find time to chill and talk with her alone while the other 2 do something together. That's how you break shy girls in.

No shame in just small talk everyday. Maybe tell her something interesting that happened to you. Ask her about some TV show lol

Good luck, keep us posted bro :cheers:

[Nick Young]

This is bad advice. Not everyone starts conversations with people who they are interested in. Shyness takes over, embarrassment takes over, being rejected takes over. If you're not going to get your foot wet and step up to the plate in the risk of just being turned down, then you shouldn't be talking to girls anyway to go out with them.
If it takes you weeks before you even ask her out and you struggle to make basic conversation with her, it aint gonna work out, unless both parties are undesirable anti-socials.

Your advice is the bad advice here dawg, just look at what your relationship with your wife wound up becoming dawg, Im just being real.

[SunsN07BookIt]

If you can't or won't read her body language, most of this advice is going to be worthless

[waseem780]

If you can't or won't read her body language, most of this advice is going to be worthless
What should I look for in her body language?

[#number6ix#]

she's the type of girl that would respond well to anyone
Oh ok just ask her out then bro...

[waseem780]

How old is she? I'm assuming you're in high school?

Try to get her and her friend to hang out with you and a friend. When you're all together it makes it easier. Make sure your friend knows you have laid claim to her :oldlol: It makes things easier when you're in a group, especially if you can find time to chill and talk with her alone while the other 2 do something together. That's how you break shy girls in.

No shame in just small talk everyday. Maybe tell her something interesting that happened to you. Ask her about some TV show lol

Good luck, keep us posted bro :cheers:
she's 16 , and thanks

[waseem780]

Oh ok just ask her out then bro...
I don't wanna go on a date with her , that's not how it works anymore , its more like we get to know eachother and have a flirty friendship , i ask her to be my girlfriend then we go out to movies/resturant etc haha

[#number6ix#]

I don't wanna go on a date with her , that's not how it works anymore , its more like we get to know eachother and have a flirty friendship , i ask her to be my girlfriend then we go out to movies/resturant etc haha
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[waseem780]

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Haha people date before they're in a relationship occasionally nowadays. but not that much

[bigkingsfan]

Rape her and get it over with.

[Nick Young]

Haha people date before they're in a relationship occasionally nowadays. but not that much
So you saying people get in to relationships BEFORE they know eachother through dating like activites? I think you are the one who doesnt know how it works these days breh.

[waseem780]

So you saying people get in to relationships BEFORE they know eachother through dating like activites? I think you are the one who doesnt know how it works these days breh.
Depends where you know her from , If she's a chick you met at the mall then you date her. If she is a chick who you met at school you become friends first then just get into a relationship.

[waseem780]

How do you "approach" the same girl more than once? You get her number (or don't) and try to meet up someplace. If she doesn't give you any play initially then forget her.
Im talking about inside school , we have a class together

[niko]

Spread out your meetings with her 2-3 days apart. Don't do it every single day. Keep it short. Just say hi, or hello. After 3-4 times of this try to take notice in something she has and compliment her on it or show you're interested in it as well. Keep a short conversation, but the important thing is to initiate some kind of conversation here. Try to get her to smile, you'll have to figure that out. Then the 5th or 6th time you've talked to her just straight out tell her, "You seem a pretty nice and I was wanting to know if you'd want to go out to a dinner and (event, movie, ballgame, etc.). Try to get dinner in there, that way you can talk and connect.

If she totally turns it down, there's no chance. Turning down would be considered no, or if she makes an excuse of when's she's not sure to hang out. Move along.
This is like "guide to friend zoning". It's endless inaction. What horrific advice.

You've talked to her? I'm assuming you want to move to "chance of physical contact" stage? Ask her to go somewhere. Say it will be fun. Don't say too much. People get sensitive to rejection and start with the "it's just for fun, not a date, i won't do anything". If she hates you, she won;t go, you move to girl 2.

Just don't listen to Meticode, his wife friend zoned him.

[waseem780]

This is like "guide to friend zoning". It's endless inaction. What horrific advice.
haha what do you think I should do then?

[niko]

haha what do you think I should do then?

This is the problem, if she likes you, then you can ask her out now. If she doesn't like you that way, she won't like you that way after 10 more meetings. If she does like you now and will go out with you, after you hedging for a month she'll think you're a ***** and afraid to ask her out, which is pretty bad.

I'm 5'5'', ok looking (not super handsome) but I always did ok with girls because I'm not afraid. The worst thing you can do is procede like failure is this awful thing, it makes you prepare and be nervous or do nothing. This is no big deal. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. Do you look like a giant fat pig where her dating you would be a huge favor?

If you want to halfway it ask her to go study but that needs to be followed up right quick with another move or you'll be friendzoned.

[GimmeThat]

I don't know

just remember

whether you've asked a few hundred girls out in your life time
or you've only asked less than ten girls out in your life time


one in a million
is still one in a million

[niko]

I don't know

just remember

whether you've asked a few hundred girls out in your life time
or you've only asked less than ten girls out in your life time


one in a million
is still one in a million
:rolleyes:

[niko]

Just don't listen to meticode and don't listen to people who want you to treat her like a club hoochie whose drunk and you'll be fine.

[niko]

I thought they separated? That's why he spent about a week or two lashing out at everyone because he was sad about her leaving.
All i know is he treated her in that same ***** way he wants dude to treat this girl. Meticode told me once some supermodel was ugly but his wife was gorgeous. "Nothing compares to her". :facepalm I love my wife but if I start telling her that she's the most beautiful girl in the world she'd know either I was full of shit or a *****.

Girls of course want to be treated nicely but you can't treat them nicely in this vacuum because it essentially translates to you being a resource they can use without giving it up.

[waseem780]

Same thing applies. Just get her number, text her, ask her out somewhere, and take it from there. If she's not responsive then don't bother. That's just the general overview though.
Date would be awkward since I have no ride. I don't have a license, man shits embarrassing in high school without being able to drive

[niko]

Remember, girls are competitive. If you are spending time on her and not expecting anything, it means she has no competition, which means you aren't worth much.

[waseem780]

Remember, girls are competitive. If you are spending time on her and not expecting anything, it means she has no competition, which means you aren't worth much.
Yeah I got that

[TheMarkMadsen]

yes it is..

you have to demonstrate your value to her..

talk with her friend when you guys are all in the same class & be casual but kind of flirty.. make people around you laugh

trust me,, this will work... especially in HS

[dunksby]

Ask her out already, you are young so don't make a habbit of fawning over girls too much.

[IamRAMBO24]

Naw don't be self conscious.

[waseem780]

Today she came and sat next to her friend and me , but she seemed VERY shy , like she would only talk to her friend

[Fudge]

Of course. You're suffocating her, bro. You're making yourself too available and out there. If she keeps seeing you always attempting to get her attention or whatever, she'll think you're just another easy niga on her list.

Sit beside a different girl next class. Flirt with her and make sure the chick you like sees it all. I've mastered these high school girl mind games during my time.

[mr beast]

I don't wanna go on a date with her , that's not how it works anymore , its more like we get to know eachother and have a flirty friendship , i ask her to be my girlfriend then we go out to movies/resturant etc haha


LOL looks like you already got it all figured out . if you think she likes you, strike the iron while it's hot. i think you've want to be aggressive and try to get her rather than being a lil ***** and never say anything and before you know it, she already got with someone else.

[niko]

In college in a class this one girl came to talk to me before class everyday. And we talked. I wondered if she liked me. Total OP moment, thinking. Last day of class I asked her out.

Went well, we hooked up, and she said one day "how long exactly were you going to wait, i came to talk to you 100 times?" :facepalm

Girls either like you or they don't, and if they don't sometimes the "push" toward them helps you to change that. Waiting passively will never help change anything.

[rezznor]

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[Random_Guy]

In college in a class this one girl came to talk to me before class everyday. And we talked. I wondered if she liked me. Total OP moment, thinking. Last day of class I asked her out.

Went well, we hooked up, and she said one day "how long exactly were you going to wait, i came to talk to you 100 times?" :facepalm

Girls either like you or they don't, and if they don't sometimes the "push" toward them helps you to change that. Waiting passively will never help change anything.
this, they either like you or they dont
and its not the end of the world to get rejected bro although youre still young

[BigBoss]

I don't wanna go on a date with her , that's not how it works anymore , its more like we get to know eachother and have a flirty friendship , i ask her to be my girlfriend then we go out to movies/resturant etc haha

You listening to too much Drake

[riseagainst]

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:roll:

[StephHamann]

I don't wanna go on a date with her , that's not how it works anymore , its more like we get to know eachother and have a flirty friendship , i ask her to be my girlfriend then we go out to movies/resturant etc haha

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[dunksby]

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[sweggeh]

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[CeltsGarlic]

I left this one girl hangin, after she responded to my 3 msgs with one word...

after 3 days of nothing from me she texts me if i could show her my new car.. thats whats up :lol

[ILLsmak]

If you can't or won't read her body language, most of this advice is going to be worthless

These guides make me laugh. This is true, though. You look at a girl and you read what happens. Sometimes, you might be confused or she might blow you off just to be hard-to-get, so you look at her again. Once you get her attention, the answer is there.

Beyond that, to me... I'd say if you see a girl always, then greet her. Maybe something basic, too, like, "wat u doin." Etc, and let her be the first to break the first barrier, then go all in and ask her out. Or if she is curt with you greeting her, then give up. Don't go up and start forcing her into conversation. Most people will deal with it, but you can make people hate you if you push beyond where they want to go.

Some dude is gonna come in like NAH NAH... U GOTTA DO THIS, but whatever. Shit is easy. The hard part is all of the drama that comes with personal relations.

-Smak

[KobesFinger]

Its bad if you like her and you approach her all the time without flirting. It looks like you just want to be friends. If you actually do want to be friends then fine

[Random_Guy]

Its bad if you like her and you approach her all the time without flirting. It looks like you just want to be friends. If you actually do want to be friends then fine
hey wassup man havent seen you around in a while, still on BS? i froze my account until season starts lol

[LJJ]

Spread out your meetings with her 2-3 days apart. Don't do it every single day. Keep it short. Just say hi, or hello. After 3-4 times of this try to take notice in something she has and compliment her on it or show you're interested in it as well. Keep a short conversation, but the important thing is to initiate some kind of conversation here. Try to get her to smile, you'll have to figure that out. Then the 5th or 6th time you've talked to her just straight out tell her, "You seem a pretty nice and I was wanting to know if you'd want to go out to a dinner and (event, movie, ballgame, etc.). Try to get dinner in there, that way you can talk and connect..

:facepalm

Good grief.

[riseagainst]

:facepalm

Good grief.

:roll:

[LJJ]

You know he is dead serious about it, that's the worst part.

[NuggetsFan]

Don't complicate things. Just go for it. She's 16 and your in HS so as long as your realistic than shouldn't be too hard. I'd talk to her, maybe get a number, suggest hanging out and doing whatever it is people in HS do nowadays and find the perfect time to go in for the kiss/make out. Be confident, outgoing and direct.

All I did in HS and it worked like a charm :lol

[sweggeh]

You guys make these things seem like you are dissecting a brain or something. Its pretty simple. Talk to her and ask her out. Be direct with it. If you arent experienced I suggest you talk to girls outside your school in the street or whatever and practice on them. When you get confident try it in your school.

[stalkerforlife]

The worst is not approaching her at all and never knowing.

Put yourself out there and at least you'll know either way.

Don't live with regret, bitch boy.

[sweggeh]

The worst is not approaching her at all and never knowing.

Put yourself out there and at least you'll know either way.

Don't live with regret, bitch boy.

:roll:

[Fudge]

The worst is not approaching her at all and never knowing.

Put yourself out there and at least you'll know either way.

Don't live with regret, bitch boy.
:roll:

[niko]

:facepalm

Good grief.
:lol

[BigBoss]

Bump.

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[jaybee682]

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[waseem780]

Bump.

Check my dp op!
Lol ok