How to confront your jealous sibling? PLEASE HELP

[Taller than CP3]

This has been brewing for years.

Both of us are in our 20's. I'm older. We're 5 years apart.

Few years ago, my sister would mention how growing up, our mother always loved me more, always gave me more attention. Back then it didn't really affect her.

But now she's being passive aggressive. She's changed these past few years towards me.

We'll be having a Birthday Dinner for my Mom, and at the dinner table, she will hug my Mom right in front of me, trying to make me jealous. (I know it may sound silly, but it's what she does. I don't hug my Mom around her because I know it'll make her jealous. But she just rubs it in my face.)

Or when I cook, I will offer her food, and she'll say she doesn't want any. Then the next day, she will cook and try to one up me.

There's numerous of these little passive aggressive jabs......it happens every time we're both around our Mom.

I try my best to ignore it, because I know she's jealous of me. I don't even really help around anymore or show my expression towards my Mom and Dad, because as soon as I do, my sister starts hating on me.

She thinks I'm trying to make her jealous, when it's the complete opposite. I want to love my sister, but it's hard when she's always trying to compete with me.

What would you do in my situation? Sorry for the long rant. This is really bothering me. I'm thinking of confronting her about it. What's the best way to go about it?

[SugarHill]

Sounds like the plot for a quirky Wes Anderson film

[Taller than CP3]

Me and my sister are best friends when we love each other.

But when she's jealous, she's ruthless and conniving.

I just can't believe my own sister is like this towards her brother. It hurts me to see her acting like this, but it also pisses me off.

I've bit my tongue for too long. My patience is running thin. I need to let her know what's up.

[Taller than CP3]

Sounds like the plot for a quirky Wes Anderson film

Have any siblings?

Heard of sibling rivalry? I didn't believe in it until now.

Like I said, it's been going on for years and I've just been ignoring it.

But something needs to be done. I just don't know what. I'm thinking of texting her and calling her out on her bullshit.

[BigBoss]

Next time you hug your mom grab her azz and wink at your sister. Let me know if she tops that.

[SugarHill]

Have any siblings?

Heard of sibling rivalry? I didn't believe in it until now.

Like I said, it's been going on for years and I've just been ignoring it.

But something needs to be done. I just don't know what. I'm thinking of texting her and calling her out on her bullshit.
There is a very obvious solution here. Make sure your sister is not around and then go to your parents house. Immediately murder them and dismember their bodies. Do it cleanly. You watch Dexter? Learn about the it there. Behead them. Put your parents heads on the table but cover it up. Tell your sister that your parents are doing something very special for you guys and they told you to wait. When she gets annoyed at their absence, tell her it's time and then uncover the heads. Yell out "I always loved you". You should bond now.

[BigBoss]

If serious,


Stop crying like a little bitch for starters. Who cares how your little sister is behaving. Maybe she did get less attention and it effected in her ways that you can't wrap your brain around. The point is, is that she is entitled to feel whichever way she chooses and that siblings do not always get along. Most importantly, in your 20's you should be focusing on yourself. These are the final years your family will be a unit before you guys each go your own way minus your parents. Focus positively towards career, if not already, living your life, and starting a family one day. How your sister behaves should not matter to you. Again, stop being a little bitch and just let it be.

[Taller than CP3]

If serious,


Stop crying like a little bitch for starters. Who cares how your little sister is behaving. Maybe she did get less attention and it effected in her ways that you can't wrap your brain around. The point is, is that she is entitled to feel whichever way she chooses and that siblings do not always get along. Most importantly, in your 20's you should be focusing on yourself. These are the final years your family will be a unit before you guys each go your own way minus your parents. Focus positively towards career, if not already, living your life, and starting a family one day. How your sister behaves should not matter to you. Again, stop being a little bitch and just let it be.

Thanks for the advice bro, it means a lot.

That's exactly what my Dad said when I talked to him about it tonight. He told me to focus on my own life and not worry about my sister.

I guess it's just hard to accept her acting this way when I've done my best to try and improve our relationship. I know I can't control her, but I just wish she was a better person inside instead of trying to make her own brother feel like shit.

[BigBoss]

Thanks for the advice bro, it means a lot.

That's exactly what my Dad said when I talked to him about it tonight. He told me to focus on my own life and not worry about my sister.

I guess it's just hard to accept her acting this way when I've done my best to try and improve our relationship. I know I can't control her, but I just wish she was a better person inside instead of trying to make her own brother feel like shit.

Trust me man and listen to your pops. My sister and I DID NOT GET ALONG. We used to physically fight all the time as kids then it turned into verbal welfare in our teenage years/early 20s. We had a sibling rivarly for years too and we lost years in our relationship. We're both older now and get along again because our priorities have changed. I'm doing my masters and shes engaged. We haven't lived together in years. I'm sure the same will happen with your sister. Sibling relationships evolve. At the end of the day deep down she loves you and thats all that matters. Focus on yourself and don't sweat the small shit that you can't control. You both need to just grow up. its normal. Good luck!

[GimmeThat]

ask your mother/parents why she/they can't be nicer to your sister right in front of your sister

[Jailblazers7]

Things I would do:

1. Stop changing how you act toward your parents. You should feel the need to suppress your affection for them because your sister might interpret it he wrong way. Tell your parents that you think they should be more loving with your sister because you think she feels under-appreciated.

2. Tell your sister you feel uncomfortable with the tension and that it you are unhappy with the competitive relationship. It might help change her behavior to know that your relationship with each other is going sour.

3. If 1 & 2 don't work just act oblivious to the situation and let her stew in her own misery.

[cuad]

Wow, this is serious. OP, it looks like the only way to fix this is to kill her or to have sex with her.

[waseem780]

Thanks for the advice bro, it means a lot.

That's exactly what my Dad said when I talked to him about it tonight. He told me to focus on my own life and not worry about my sister.

I guess it's just hard to accept her acting this way when I've done my best to try and improve our relationship. I know I can't control her, but I just wish she was a better person inside instead of trying to make her own brother feel like shit.
Don't listen to that ****** , all he cares about his himself and money , you'll never be truly happy if you live for the money you'll die by the money.

Family relationships are important and yeah break it to her tell her whats up and if she gets pissed give it time , time heals everything.

[dkmwise]

OP,

I may have missed it but have you talked to your sister about this? And do you think she has a point about favoritism growing up? Not that it matters that much, it can't be changed but just good to look at it from her point of view, but perception is reality for her and if that's what she really thinks it may be hard to get past. I would talk to her about it and your mom about it if haven't already. The problem is that while this might be a slight issue now, just wait until you both have kids and she thinks that your kids are getting preferential treatment over hers, that could become a much larger issue so try and fix it now.

[enayes]

is your sister having regular sex? she might just need to get laid

[DeuceWallaces]

she's ruthless and conniving.

Hugs and home cooked meals; how diabolical.

[Bandito]

That happened to me too mate. I just stopped talking to her.

[iamgine]

This has been brewing for years.

Both of us are in our 20's. I'm older. We're 5 years apart.

Few years ago, my sister would mention how growing up, our mother always loved me more, always gave me more attention. Back then it didn't really affect her.

But now she's being passive aggressive. She's changed these past few years towards me.

We'll be having a Birthday Dinner for my Mom, and at the dinner table, she will hug my Mom right in front of me, trying to make me jealous. (I know it may sound silly, but it's what she does. I don't hug my Mom around her because I know it'll make her jealous. But she just rubs it in my face.)

Or when I cook, I will offer her food, and she'll say she doesn't want any. Then the next day, she will cook and try to one up me.

There's numerous of these little passive aggressive jabs......it happens every time we're both around our Mom.

I try my best to ignore it, because I know she's jealous of me. I don't even really help around anymore or show my expression towards my Mom and Dad, because as soon as I do, my sister starts hating on me.

She thinks I'm trying to make her jealous, when it's the complete opposite. I want to love my sister, but it's hard when she's always trying to compete with me.

What would you do in my situation? Sorry for the long rant. This is really bothering me. I'm thinking of confronting her about it. What's the best way to go about it?
How do you know she hug her to make you jealous. Or cooking to one up you.

How does she hate on you?

This might all be in your head dude.

Also, it might be best to have your mom be the one talking about it to her. I suspect your mom knows how to say it better than us men.

[sweggeh]

Are you a chick? Cause you are acting like a real bitch now homie. Who gives a **** about this kind of stuff? This is how I know you haven't got any real problems in your life, when you are worried about this trivial stuff.

[BrooklynZoo]

how are we going to answer this if we don't even know how she looks? post a picture bro, stop being gay

jkjk

[CelticBaller]

just humble yourself and eat her butt

[red1]

This has been brewing for years.

Both of us are in our 20's. I'm older. We're 5 years apart.

Few years ago, my sister would mention how growing up, our mother always loved me more, always gave me more attention. Back then it didn't really affect her.

But now she's being passive aggressive. She's changed these past few years towards me.

We'll be having a Birthday Dinner for my Mom, and at the dinner table, she will hug my Mom right in front of me, trying to make me jealous. (I know it may sound silly, but it's what she does. I don't hug my Mom around her because I know it'll make her jealous. But she just rubs it in my face.)

Or when I cook, I will offer her food, and she'll say she doesn't want any. Then the next day, she will cook and try to one up me.

There's numerous of these little passive aggressive jabs......it happens every time we're both around our Mom.

I try my best to ignore it, because I know she's jealous of me. I don't even really help around anymore or show my expression towards my Mom and Dad, because as soon as I do, my sister starts hating on me.

She thinks I'm trying to make her jealous, when it's the complete opposite. I want to love my sister, but it's hard when she's always trying to compete with me.

What would you do in my situation? Sorry for the long rant. This is really bothering me. I'm thinking of confronting her about it. What's the best way to go about it?
the ****?

[enayes]

Are you a chick? Cause you are acting like a real bitch now homie. Who gives a **** about this kind of stuff? This is how I know you haven't got any real problems in your life, when you are worried about this trivial stuff.

true dat, maybe if you get cancer or something you'll find the meaning of life and forget about your imaginary problems

[ace23]

true dat, maybe if you get cancer or something you'll find the meaning of life and forget about your imaginary problems
:roll:

[Swaggin916]

Are you a chick? Cause you are acting like a real bitch now homie. Who gives a **** about this kind of stuff? This is how I know you haven't got any real problems in your life, when you are worried about this trivial stuff.

You say that like it's a bad thing... like having real problems is cool

And yea I'd say I agree with those who say it might be all in your head... chances are it's a mix of both.