Im 30.. why do people keep telling me to "WAIT" on having a kid?

[unbreakable]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good

[Im Still Ballin]

Shes 20 though

[kurple]

why do you live with your dad?

[unbreakable]

why do you live with your dad?

hes a single man in his late 50s and i like being there for him.. i still have all my freedom to do as i please

[Theoo]

hes a single man in his late 50s and i like being there for him.. i still have all my freedom to do as i please

not when you have babby . also i think your girlfreind is fk**ing your dad otherwise there no way woman want to be with somone living with there dad

[unbreakable]

not when you have babby . also i think your girlfreind is fk**ing your dad otherwise there no way woman want to be with somone living with there dad

i understand what youre saying about living with my dad but hes got a cool little house .. as for me , im a ton of fun and got my pick of girls

[hateraid]

You aren't not ready because you're thirty. You're not ready based on your conditions
Settle in with a woman first before you decide to have kids. Or in the condition you are right now you want a kid? Adopt

[alenleomessi]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up (with or without her permission.. she been letting me hit raw lately, and i been nutting in her)

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good
go see a doc you could be sterile

and why ruin the body then?

[Demitri98]

Put a ring on her finger before putting a baby inside her.

[cuad]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up (with or without her permission.. she been letting me hit raw lately, and i been nutting in her)

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good

>45k at age 30
:roll: :roll: :roll:

Btw, at your age, your kid is twice as likely to come out retarded. :lol

[hateraid]

I had my first son when I was 28. My wife was 27. But we were also dating for 7 years before that. We also lived together. Our combined income was roughly 110,000/yr at the time. It was a big responsibility then.

Like I said, you don't sound like you have the stability to have children just yet. But if you're interested, adopt. I'd go with a kid who's passed the years where they are 100% completely dependent on you and realistically easy to manage with your salary. Maybe a 4 year old? You'd be doing society a favor to by giving a home to an orphaned child

[DeuceWallaces]

Based on that post it has nothing to do with your age and everything to do with your intelligence, maturity, and stability of your relationship.

Plus you still live with your Dad.

[sweggeh]

Damn. You couldn't have sounded more like a loser in that post if you tried.

[dunksby]

Your one post was enough proof that people around you are right.

[unbreakable]

mexican families are known for living with their parents so idk whats the big deal about living with my pops.. its just us like a bachelor pad

[hateraid]

mexican families are known for living with their parents so idk whats the big deal about living with my pops.. its just us like a bachelor pad

That's more of a cultural norm. I the kids have their own children everyone pitches in and provides help.

[BigBoss]

If its ok with your girl them by all means jizz in and remember that ol Big Boss gave his blessing :cheers:

[BigBoss]

You want children?
You will to when you grow up.

[Inactive]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up (with or without her permission.. she been letting me hit raw lately, and i been nutting in her)

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys goodWTF? Wait until you have a stable relationship with someone who wants kids, and is prepared to raise them with you. I can't understand where you're coming from, at all.

If you don't want to **** up your child's life, you need to be more mature, have a stable career, and a stable relationship, before you reproduce.

[oarabbus]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good


I think you sound incredibly immature and people probably tell you to wait because they don't think you're fit to properly bring a child into this world. If you are a student at the least you should finish that up before having a kid.

Damn, never thought I'd consider myself mature compared to someone who's 30 but there it is.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Do It.

We need more unbreakable PEOPLE in this world :)

[dunksby]

Sooo...youre gonna try and knock her up without her permission or am I misunderstanding you?
Lizard brain compulsion.

[SpecialQue]

Fill her up.

[dkmwise]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good

I don't see in any of your posts you mention if you or your girlfriend want kids or feel you are ready for kids. Being able to afford kids is not the same as being ready.

Everyone nowadays tells everyone to wait and it's just stupid advice thinking that it's now normal to have kids at 40+. You are at a fine age to have kids and don't even worry about the money thing, it's all about if you and you're girlfriend are really ready for them.

[dkmwise]

I had my first son when I was 28. My wife was 27. But we were also dating for 7 years before that. We also lived together. Our combined income was roughly 110,000/yr at the time. It was a big responsibility then.


Almost the exact same situation with my wife and I. I feel like it was a very good age to have kids, although when I go to stuff with the kids now I feel like all the other parents are either in early 20's or 40's

[SunsN07BookIt]

Why the world, particularly the western world, is doomed:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=icmRCixQrx8

[SCREWstonRockets]

Why the hell do you want to ruin things right now with a kid? Seriously. Your life will completely change with a kid. All the things you like to do now, say goodbye. Your sleep schedule? Say goodbye. Any free time you had before to just **** off, those are long gone.

You live at home and are still paying off student loans. Don't put yourself in a deeper hole. Having a kid is a life changer and you ain't ready for it. If you really like this chic and don't want to F things up, wait on the kid.

[BigBoss]

I didn't want children even when I was growing up. I want them even less now that I am grown.

:roll:

[stalkerforlife]

Having your own child is the greatest thing a human can experience, IMO.

45 thousand a year is PLENTY of money. I have a daughter and I could only WISH to make that one day.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

right. kids don't have to be expensive. there are many many many ways with time and attention you can give them the fun/stimulation they need

[stalkerforlife]

right. kids don't have to be expensive. there are many many many ways with time and attention you can give them the fun/stimulation they need

Exactly. And the great thing is, time spent teaching and loving a child is worth way more than any dollar value. To you and the child.

I don't have much money, but I do know how to read. I read my soon to be two year old daughter books all the time. Mainly Dr. Suess right now. Once again, I don't have much money, but I can walk and I live right by a big natural history and art museum. It is free and there is a huge play room full of learning toys for kids. Etc.

[LJJ]

So your girl is 10 years younger than you and is 20. She is basically a kid herself.

I can guarantee you she'll want to be with a different guy in three years, because in three years she will have matured a ton but you will still be the same guy. I wouldn't really want to add a kid to the equation until I'm very sure my relationship is build to last, but that's just me.

[iTare]

Kids are stupid

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Exactly. And the great thing is, time spent teaching and loving a child is worth way more than any dollar value. To you and the child.

I don't have much money, but I do know how to read. I read my soon to be two year old daughter books all the time. Mainly Dr. Suess right now. Once again, I don't have much money, but I can walk and I live right by a big natural history and art museum. It is free and there is a huge play room full of learning toys for kids. Etc.


Can't help but love a man taking his parental investment seriously.

Can already see her being brighter than her peers with better drive, ready to do good for this world.

Bless you man.

[stalkerforlife]

Can't help but love a man taking his parental investment seriously.

Can already see her being brighter than her peers with better drive, ready to do good for this world.

Bless you man.

Thanks.

God bless.

[DeuceWallaces]

Being able to support a child is not about buying them PS4's or taking them to Disney World. It's about giving them basic needs, providing them with a good education, and good neighborhood to grow up in.

If you can only hope to make 40K one day what's gonna happen when you lose your shitty job? What kind of education are they getting in your neighborhood? How will they go to college?

[stalkerforlife]

Being able to support a child is not about buying them PS4's or taking them to Disney World. It's about giving them basic needs, providing them with a good education, and good neighborhood to grow up in.

If you can only hope to make 40K one day what's gonna happen when you lose your shitty job? What kind of education are they getting in your neighborhood? How will they go to college?

God says to focus on today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may not come.

I don't want to suffer from neurosis. And anyone can go to college, especially if they're poor. Pell grants, loans, etc.

[Swaggin916]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good

Shit I hope I'm where you are at when I'm 30... 20 year old gf sounds great and that would mean my stepmom would be dead.

[BlackWhiteGreen]

Things it doesn't appear you have considered:

- Whether or not your girl wants a kid
- Whether or not your kid would be affected by his parents not being together (she's 20, you saying "I have my pick of girls")
- Whether you are happy living off $45k for the rest of your life (whilst its not impossible, career progression will most likely be stalled)

[Bandito]

So when did 45k a year became so little? Its not a goldmine but its not a little either. Unless you are one of those that buy a 1000$ cellphone every 6 months coupled with clothes made by famous names with an BMW. Kids dont need the latest PS4 or iPhone! They need nurture, love and discipline. Just make sure your girl wants the kids OP.

[BlackWhiteGreen]

So when did 45k a year became so little? Its not a goldmine but its not a little either. Unless you are one of those that buy a 1000$ cellphone every 6 months coupled with clothes made by famous names with an BMW. Kids dont need the latest PS4 or iPhone! They need nurture, love and discipline. Just make sure your girl wants the kids OP.

It's not like it's a small amount (or at least through converting it into

[Dresta]

Being able to support a child is not about buying them PS4's or taking them to Disney World. It's about giving them basic needs, providing them with a good education, and good neighborhood to grow up in.

If you can only hope to make 40K one day what's gonna happen when you lose your shitty job? What kind of education are they getting in your neighborhood? How will they go to college?
Oh noez.. they won't get to waste a load of money on a below-par education :lol .

[GimmeThat]

I'm pretty sure they are just telling you they are not going to help you raise your kid.

[stalkerforlife]

So when did 45k a year became so little? Its not a goldmine but its not a little either. Unless you are one of those that buy a 1000$ cellphone every 6 months coupled with clothes made by famous names with an BMW. Kids dont need the latest PS4 or iPhone! They need nurture, love and discipline. Just make sure your girl wants the kids OP.

:applause:

[ace23]

Oh noez.. they won't get to waste a load of money on a below-par education :lol .
Yeah, if you major in communications or philosophy at a shit school

[n00bie]

i just graduated and got a decent job making 45k/yr , with good benefits.. im thinking about knocking my girl up

what do yall think? i live at my dads so not much bills and spend 300 a month on student loans.. i think i could afford this

im not getting any younger and my girl is 20 so her bodys good

Why knock up before you get married? What happens if you guys break up?

People probably tell you to wait because you have an 18 yr old's mentality. If you can't man up and buy a ring, you definitely aren't ready for a kid. :facepalm