how do mid 20s ISHers balance their social life and work?

[STATUTORY]

I get depressed when I realize that the people I speak to the most any given week are usually people from work. When I was in college I was pretty active outdoorsman and without using work as an excuse I definitely don't do nearly as much now as I did while in college. Is this a common experience? seems to be from conversations with people at work but maybe that's just the nature of our job.

how do y'all stem the tide of adulthood and perpetual responsibilities?

[sweggeh]

Im still at uni so I guess my social life coincides with my work. But in general, you are gonna have to sacrifice stuff if you ever wanna get somewhere in life. Its just one of lifes rules I guess.

[SupermanOnSteroids]

lemme give you a bit of advice:

1. work comes first. you make big bank.
2. gf comes 2nd. but you tell her she comes first and you just have to work a lot so you can buy her expensive stuff from all the money you make.
3. family comes third. but you tell them they come first but justify spending all the time at work to advance your career and all the time with your gf to get them a beautiful grandkid.
4. personal time comes 4th. actually far and few in between. you'll long for the days when you were a kid and got to do whatever you wanted. an early bed time was your punishment, but now i don't get to sleep because i gotta stay up to plow my girlfriend after Family Guy is over on Adult Swim so that she doesn't do off wandering to another guy and upset my parents because their hopes of a beautiful grand kid got dashed which would affect my work because of all the stress i'm having due to all of these problems.

very delicate life my friend.

[STATUTORY]

lemme give you a bit of advice:

1. work comes first. you make big bank.
2. gf comes 2nd. but you tell her she comes first and you just have to work a lot so you can buy her expensive stuff from all the money you make.
3. family comes third. but you tell them they come first but justify spending all the time at work to advance your career and all the time with your gf to get them a beautiful grandkid.
4. personal time comes 4th. actually far and few in between. you'll long for the days when you were a kid and got to do whatever you wanted. an early bed time was your punishment, but now i don't get to sleep because i gotta stay up to plow my girlfriend after Family Guy is over on Adult Swim so that she doesn't do off wandering to another guy and upset my parents because their hopes of a beautiful grand kid got dashed which would affect my work because of all the stress i'm having due to all of these problems.

very delicate life my friend.

that is basically the hierarchy of my life too and it is definitely the loss of personal time that I'm mourning. I can't imagine how much worse it will be once I am cohabiting with someone

[Jailblazers7]

So far my solution has just been to sleep less and every once in a while catch up on sleep during a lazy Sunday. It's a juggling act but it's a good problem to have.

[DukeDelonte13]

Work and family come first. With a serious job come serious responsibilities. I do not have the social life I had when I was in school. I work around 10-11 hours every day. By the end of the day i'm too tired to go out and I have to be in bed at a reasonable hour to get to my office by 7.

I'll have some fun on Friday or Saturday nights if I don't have to go to work on the weekend, and that's fine. That's enough for me.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

No point in asking this question.

Delegate time for recreation outside of work.

That does not mean surfing the internet, or doign anything.

That means actively going out with the intention to meet people.

Your boundaries strengthen.

[Levity]

Should be pretty easy while in your mid 20's. go to work, and when youre not working, socialize if you want. its when children get added to the mix, that it becomes a slippery slope

[L.Kizzle]

After work is over, go out. :confusedshrug:

[~primetime~]

Should be pretty easy while in your mid 20's. go to work, and when youre not working, socialize if you want. its when children get added to the mix, that it becomes a slippery slope
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Making time for friends wasn't that hard when I just had a full time job in my 20s. Throw wife and kids in the mix on top of a career and it becomes VERY difficult.

[BigBoss]

I have no social life. Look, to be successful it takes sacrifice. I'm either in school or I'm working on me--at toastmasters meetings improving public speaking, in the gym, etc. The finer things in life will come later when i'm financially secure and 100% independent. I realized a couple years ago that all my friends were losers. Only surround yourself with people on your level and you'll come to realize they are grinding 100% of the time too. 20's/30's one needs to stay focused and make a serious push to build something in their life before father time. Funny how people hate on NBA players for not being in the gym and partying like a JR Smith, but don't look in the mirror. The daily grind and sacrifice applies to all.

[STATUTORY]

Work and family come first. With a serious job come serious responsibilities. I do not have the social life I had when I was in school. I work around 10-11 hours every day. By the end of the day i'm too tired to go out and I have to be in bed at a reasonable hour to get to my office by 7.

I'll have some fun on Friday or Saturday nights if I don't have to go to work on the weekend, and that's fine. That's enough for me.

doesn't that depress you after a while? i know it depresses me when I'm stuck in the office and I see people I know from HS with no regular jobs taking impromptu hiking and skiing trips and definitely question the utility of gainful employment

[oarabbus]

doesn't that depress you after a while? i know it depresses me when I'm stuck in the office and I see people I know from HS with no regular jobs taking impromptu hiking and skiing trips and definitely question the utility of gainful employment


Relevant: http://www.theonion.com/articles/grown-adult-actually-expects-to-be-happy,19442/?fb_action_ids=10152418798792032&fb_action_types=og.shares

[JohnnySic]

How many hours do you people work anyway? A normal 40-50 hour work week should be no sweat for a young single person.

[STATUTORY]

How many hours do you people work anyway? A normal 40-50 hour work week should be no sweat for a young single person.

I do 50-70 depending on workload

[Stuckey]

No point in asking this question.

Delegate time for recreation outside of work.

That does not mean surfing the internet, or doign anything.

That means actively going out with the intention to meet people.

Your boundaries strengthen.

can you elaborate on this point? don't you mean your horizons broaden?

anyways... like mentioned before

work comes first because you need the bread to bring to the fam (1 kid thus far), I work about 20 hours a week so I get a lot of time with my family. Weddings are the funerals for friendships and I've had 2 so far.

then play on weekends if everything is done at home

[The_Yearning]

I have no social life. Look, to be successful it takes sacrifice. I'm either in school or I'm working on me--at toastmasters meetings improving public speaking, in the gym, etc. The finer things in life will come later when i'm financially secure and 100% independent. I realized a couple years ago that all my friends were losers. Only surround yourself with people on your level and you'll come to realize they are grinding 100% of the time too. 20's/30's one needs to stay focused and make a serious push to build something in their life before father time. Funny how people hate on NBA players for not being in the gym and partying like a JR Smith, but don't look in the mirror. The daily grind and sacrifice applies to all.

All that self improvement and you still don't know how to use paragraphs?

[Swaggin916]

Be as social as you want when you aren't at work or taking care of basic responsibilities... I choose to spend most of my time not being social but if I wanted to spend the majority of my life being social I could... even at the gym where many people are very social in between sets.

The real question is do you have the interest/energy to be social? I don't have the interest really. The only downside is a lack of sex otherwise I'm chillin