In a tax war with my mother, who is right?

[russwest0]

I'll try to keep this as short and simple as possible. I'm in a tax war with my mother who is trying to claim me on her taxes so that she gets around 4000+ more back.

I lived at her house for 7 months last year, paid rent for two of those months, and then lived on my own for the other 5 months of the year. During the course of this time I've paid for my own food (about half of my own food while I lived at her house), gas, and personal expenses.

Recently I went to her house to pick up my taxes which were mailed there but she had already opened them and sent them to her tax lady without my consent. She then lied to my grandma telling her that her claiming me doesn't change what I get on taxes, to try and get my grandma to guilt trip me all over me wanting to do my own taxes.

She's trying to claim me on her taxes and do mine for me, without my consent to either 1. open my mail, or 2. do them for me, and now is threatening that if I try to do my own taxes I will be burning bridges I don't want to or some shit.

Who is in the right here, should this situation ever get taken to a court level?

[sundizz]

Of course you are in the right. Are you really going to take your mother to court though? This is what you deserve for getting your mail delivered there (not like you didn't know something like this would happen).

Honestly though, it is your moms. Learn this as an inexpensive lesson that you need to establish financial independence. At her age she needs the money more than you do if she scrambling around like this looking for it.

[JohnnySic]

Let your mom have the cash. Go work and make it again.

[russwest0]

Of course you are in the right. Are you really going to take your mother to court though? This is what you deserve for getting your mail delivered there (not like you didn't know something like this would happen).

Honestly though, it is your moms. Learn this as an inexpensive lesson that you need to establish financial independence. At her age she needs the money more than you do if she scrambling around like this looking for it.

Lol she doesn't need the money more than me at all. She makes 70k a year and I make around 12k at the most while living on my own, supporting myself, and working a job and going to college which she hasn't once helped me pay for.

She keeps trying to act like I'm the one being greedy or disrespectful too, while every thing she has done are the acts of a desperate, greedy individual.

[russwest0]

Let your mom have the cash. Go work and make it again.

I was prepared to do that until she tried to badmouth me to the family for simply wanting to do my own taxes after living on my own half the year and paying her basically all of my paycheck in rent for two months of the other half.

She won't even tell me who is doing my own taxes ffs, she complained going to get them for me was too much of a hassle, so I offered to go get them myself and she ignored it as if I don't even have the right to know who is doing them.

[Demon Lizard]

Did she forge your signature? :biggums:

[Dresta]

She has no right to even open your mail. Taking your mum to court doe...

[russwest0]

She has no right to even open your mail. Taking your mum to court doe...

Looks like I worked out an agreement with her.

She'll give me a little more total than what I would have gotten claiming myself

[Demon Lizard]

Only take your mom to court if she has truly been horrible to you in your past and you are fine never speaking to her again.

[NoGunzJustSkillz]

Looks like I worked out an agreement with her.

She'll give me a little more total than what I would have gotten claiming myself
lol..i was gonna suggest this..

makes sense since she gets more money claiming you than you'd actually get if u claimed urself.

[russwest0]

Only take your mom to court if she has truly been horrible to you in your past and you are fine never speaking to her again.

Honestly whenever I lived with her all she did was verbally harass me all the time and act like all of this very small bullshit was always a big deal. My life overall got 10x better moving out on my own, wish I would have done it sooner.

She has legit bipolar disorder and is totally out of control with her emotions. She's been a borderline sociopath in the past with how she tries to get the whole family against me despite the fact that whenever I'm around them they end up talking about how nice and polite I am.

[NoGunzJustSkillz]

is your mother single?

[Andrei89]

9 out of 10.

I would hit.

[Jailblazers7]

Looks like I worked out an agreement with her.

She'll give me a little more total than what I would have gotten claiming myself

Nice. That is kind of the obvious solution. She makes you whole and even throws some extra cash on top and keeps the rest. Not like your tax refund would be very much anyways given your income.