Anybody ever been in a long distance relationship?

[ekosky]

If so, how did it go? How did you maintain it? How long did it last? Are you still in a LDR after many years? How often did you visit, and what did you do to make each other stay happy?

Any insight on this would be awesome. Thanks, bros.

[Vaniiiia]

When I was 13, I had my first love....
There was nobody that compared to my baby
And nobody came between us who could ever come above....
She had me going crazy, oh I was STARSTRUCK
She woke me up daily, don't need no STARBUCKS!.....
She made my heart pound..
I skip a beat when I see her in the street...
and at school on the playground..
But I really want to see her on the weekend!.....
She knows she got me dazing 'cause she was so amazing.....
And now my heart is breaking but I just keep on saying.....

[warriorfan]

you need to ask fudge about this him and budaddii have a great long distance relationship

[Vaniiiia]

you need to ask fudge about this him and budaddii have a great long distance relationship
:biggums:

Actually make a good point. Best homies from different countries.

Basically if the love is strong enough.. then the relationship will work. (like ours)

[ekosky]

:biggums:

Actually make a good point. Best homies from different countries.

Basically if the love is strong enough.. then the relationship will work. (like ours)
:cheers:

Love you, bro. Forever.

Real talk doe, I want some input on this. I left my heart in Toronto while i'm stuck in a different Province until March. :cry: :( :cry: :(

[Meticode]

It usually doesn't work out. Either one or both parties get tired of not being around one another and easily get their attention stolen by someone who is local. When it all comes down to it is if you're not being sexually satisfied on a regular basis, you'll start looking for sex elsewhere or notice it for the taking.

[Pushxx]

It's worth trying even if the odds are against you. Not much to lose. You will learn about life or yourself just like any other relationship, and maybe it even works out the way you want which certainly happens also.

Everybody functions differently in relationships and everybody wants something different long term. It's smarter to just experience it yourself so you know how you digest the situation.

[imdaman99]

Does NY and NJ count? :oldlol:

It depends on your mentality. Are you mature? Are you a guy who prefers your own hand down there as opposed to your significant other? :lol How long are you gonna be separated? I know I'm the kinda guy that hated speaking to my ex over phone or text or skype and preferred talking in person and eventually that took a toll on the relationship, and we were 'only' 100 miles away. I wasn't meant for it, but it doesn't mean you weren't. Good luck man :cheers:

[Batz]

Don't do it.

[Lensanity]

**** that shit

[ekosky]

It's worth trying even if the odds are against you. Not much to lose. You will learn about life or yourself just like any other relationship, and maybe it even works out the way you want which certainly happens also.

Everybody functions differently in relationships and everybody wants something different long term. It's smarter to just experience it yourself so you know how you digest the situation.


Does NY and NJ count? :oldlol:

It depends on your mentality. Are you mature? Are you a guy who prefers your own hand down there as opposed to your significant other? :lol How long are you gonna be separated? I know I'm the kinda guy that hated speaking to my ex over phone or text or skype and preferred talking in person and eventually that took a toll on the relationship, and we were 'only' 100 miles away. I wasn't meant for it, but it doesn't mean you weren't. Good luck man :cheers:
Your positivity is inspiring me. :cheers:

Definitely will try this out and see where it takes me/us. Really REALLY digging this girl.

[chosen_one6]

Waste of time and money

[KnittingRyu]

Just keep the long distance relationship until you find something better. If you fail to get laid in the mean time, you might get that couple times a year "Oh god I missed you" sex from her.

[Hamtaro CP3KDKG]

I never got long distance.......u need intimacy. How can u "be" with a chick that ain't suckin ur dck or giving u box :biggums: :biggums: what, y'all on Skype jerking itself off pretending they doing it or sum sht:biggums:

Seem like it only for betas, basement dwellers and cucks that sht is dumb

[warriorfan]

I never got long distance.......u need intimacy. How can u "be" with a chick that ain't suckin ur dck or giving u box :biggums: :biggums: what, y'all on Skype jerking itself off pretending they doing it or sum sht:biggums:

Seem like it only for betas, basement dwellers and cucks that sht is dumb

serious, why would you have a relationship with a chick while not getting the best part of the relationship :lol that shit is a no go

[Hawker]

Fine if it's temporary and you've already established a good "base."

My brother did it while he was living and going to school in San Fran while his two year younger GF finished her last year of undergrad. She moved to San Fran immediately.

[ekosky]

I never got long distance.......u need intimacy. How can u "be" with a chick that ain't suckin ur dck or giving u box :biggums: :biggums: what, y'all on Skype jerking itself off pretending they doing it or sum sht:biggums:

Seem like it only for betas, basement dwellers and cucks that sht is dumb
You need some love, bro.

Why have you been so negative lately? Do you know who you're talking to? It's Fudge, boy. Watch your ****ing mouth next time, mang. I love this girl!

[Batz]

Don't do it Fudge

[UK2K]

I've been in two. The first lasted four years.

The most recent one is still going on, although after a year we moved in together and have been living together for two years.

If its meant to be, it'll work out. Like any relationship, you only get out what you're willing to put in.

[riseagainst]

long distance relationship usually doesnt work.
I was with my ex-girlfriend of 1 year before she decided to move 3 states away in the hopes of getting a job. We decided to give it a try and I was hopeful but she was always doubtful of long distances. I tried very very hard but as soon as she went there she started to party and stay out late and sleep over at friend's house everyday/night. It was within a month before we broke it off. I was going to propose to her in just a week until she broke it off saying she just doesnt see how the distance would work out.
She prolly fcking other dudes anyway. But at the very least she told me that she already started dating two other guys within 2-3 weeks of our breakup.
Needless to say, I probably dodged a bullet....

just think of it this way. If she says you are her everything and you are the one she wants to marry, why would she want to do something that jeopardizes that?

[sammichoffate]

long distance relationship usually doesnt work.
I was with my ex-girlfriend of 1 year before she decided to move 3 states away in the hopes of getting a job. We decided to give it a try and I was hopeful but she was always doubtful of long distances. I tried very very hard but as soon as she went there she started to party and stay out late and sleep over at friend's house everyday/night. It was within a month before we broke it off. I was going to propose to her in just a week until she broke it off saying she just doesnt see how the distance would work out.
She prolly fcking other dudes anyway. But at the very least she told me that she already started dating two other guys within 2-3 weeks of our breakup.
Needless to say, I probably dodged a bullet....

just think of it this way. If she says you are her everything and you are the one she wants to marry, why would she want to do something that jeopardizes that?These hoes ain't loyal :(

[ekosky]

long distance relationship usually doesnt work.
I was with my ex-girlfriend of 1 year before she decided to move 3 states away in the hopes of getting a job. We decided to give it a try and I was hopeful but she was always doubtful of long distances. I tried very very hard but as soon as she went there she started to party and stay out late and sleep over at friend's house everyday/night. It was within a month before we broke it off. I was going to propose to her in just a week until she broke it off saying she just doesnt see how the distance would work out.
She prolly fcking other dudes anyway. But at the very least she told me that she already started dating two other guys within 2-3 weeks of our breakup.
Needless to say, I probably dodged a bullet....

just think of it this way. If she says you are her everything and you are the one she wants to marry, why would she want to do something that jeopardizes that?
Nah, I was on a trip in Toronto for a few weeks about two months ago for a music festival, then met her through a friend's friend. Clicked, sparked something, talked for the next two months, then came back to Toronto about a week and a half ago and shit became serious. Hung out with her and her friends for a good amount of time I was there. She's an awesome chick. Not the best looking one, but has the best intentions, has her head on straight and knows what she wants.

Obviously communication and trust is key, but what did you guys do to maintain it? Did you guys text all day everyday? Tell her where you are at all times, etc? Or did you just let it flow and let the trust build throughout the time you didn't see eachother?

I'm going to school there in about 6 months, so this whole LDR thing is pretty temporary.

[ekosky]

I've been in two. The first lasted four years.

The most recent one is still going on, although after a year we moved in together and have been living together for two years.

If its meant to be, it'll work out. Like any relationship, you only get out what you're willing to put in.
:cheers:

You are a true inspiration, bro.

How often did you visit both girls while in the relationship? And how far apart were you guys? How often were you guys talking on a daily basis?

[KNOW1EDGE]

Cocksy are you even 18 years old?

What's the point of being in a long distance relationship with an ugly girl when your still in highschool?

[ekosky]

Cocksy are you even 18 years old?

What's the point of being in a long distance relationship with an ugly girl when your still in highschool?
Why are you so angry all the time? What did I ever do to you, man? :facepalm

[UK2K]

:cheers:

You are a true inspiration, bro.

How often did you visit both girls while in the relationship? And how far apart were you guys? How often were you guys talking on a daily basis?

The first girl was every few months. It was back in the day, and in hindsight we were too young to even try that sort of thing.

So I will reply mainly about the most recent one.

We had known of each other in high school. I was a basketball/football star at one school, she was captain of the cheer leading team at a rival school. I first met her because my friend's cousin brought her along somewhere. Ironically, I was 'dating' the first long distance girl at the time, so I wasn't really interested. This was, of course, years and years ago.

Fast forward to December 2012. I mentioned in another thread, her family is fairly wealthy. She had posted a picture of herself with her parents before a Toys for Tots ball, which her parents host and sponsor every year (it helps they are pro military, being a former Marine and all). She looked bangin, so I sent her a FB message (yeah, I did that). We started off through texting and yada yada we began talking on the phone. Before you knew it, we were talking every day, and we just kinda decided to 'date', or rather, not see other people.

At the time, we lived exactly 999 miles apart, per MapQuest. We basically called every night, and texted pretty much all day. We saw each other every 45-60 days or so. Sometimes more frequently, sometimes not. As I mentioned, her family is wealthy, which helped with costs, and I'm not poor either anymore, but I always drove wherever we went. We made it sort of a game, when we did see each other, it was always for a vacation. Instead of me coming to see her, or her coming to see me, we met somewhere. New Orleans, San Antonio, Corpus Christi, Nashville, Gulf Shores, wherever.

After about a year, I decided to transfer schools and move closer to her. Her lease was running up, so to save money, we kinda just decided to move in together. That was two years ago.

I will say that the long distance thing was tough, but as I said, you get out what you put in. The benefit was, she became my best friend before she became my girlfriend. More than that, we were forced to express ourselves verbally for months, which is probably why we haven't had a fight since we began dating. I shit you not, not one fight in the three years we've been together.

I think it helped we were both older (I was 23, she was 22) and we both had financial freedom (her more than I, but I still was able to drop $1000 here and there for vacations), but I think if its worth it to you, you'll do what you gotta do.

And if it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out. But I don't want to live with 'what if'.

We will probably get engaged soon, maybe, if she keeps bitching and my family keeps giving me shit, so who knows?

Memento Mori my friend. "Remember, we all die". Don't live with regret.

[mlh1981]

I was in one for almost 2 years, and I would strongly caution one NOT to get into one, unless there is a agreed upon "end game." Otherwise, it's just too frustrating.

[KNOW1EDGE]

Why are you so angry all the time? What did I ever do to you, man? :facepalm

Sorry I asked a simple question without calling you names or being rude. I will try to dumb it down for you next time so you can understand the question.

[Derka]

Not me, but my best friend met his girlfriend on Clash of Clans when she lived on the complete opposite end of the country. They did the long distance thing with visits when they could manage them for over a year and then she moved out here over a year ago and I'm fairly certain they're going to go the distance.

People tend to focus on the horror stories but it can work.

[ekosky]

I was in one for almost 2 years, and I would strongly caution one NOT to get into one, unless there is a agreed upon "end game." Otherwise, it's just too frustrating.
What's an end game?

[ekosky]

Not me, but my best friend met his girlfriend on Clash of Clans when she lived on the complete opposite end of the country. They did the long distance thing with visits when they could manage them for over a year and then she moved out here over a year ago and I'm fairly certain they're going to go the distance.

People tend to focus on the horror stories but it can work.
:cheers:

[niko]

What's an end game?
that you'll be together in place A or B at some point agreed upon. Me and my wife were long distance for like 6 months and decided it was stupid and we got married a few months later and she moved to NY.

[MJ(Mean John)]

Your positivity is inspiring me. :cheers:

Definitely will try this out and see where it takes me/us. Really REALLY digging this girl.


$5 says it ends up not working out,
then you end up being depressed about it for a little.
you bang a new chick, you start to forget, then you hear a drake song, you are reminded, and you get sad.
you miss her.
then you miss the other chick that you banged. hit her up. Bang her again.

Rinse, repeat. You'll end up later on in life, wondering "WTF was I thinking, tripping about her like that"

[ekosky]

$5 says it ends up not working out,
then you end up being depressed about it for a little.
you bang a new chick, you start to forget, then you hear a drake song, you are reminded, and you get sad.
you miss her.
then you miss the other chick that you banged. hit her up. Bang her again.

Rinse, repeat. You'll end up later on in life, wondering "WTF was I thinking, tripping about her like that"
Get some help. I am praying for you.

[mlh1981]

What's an end game?


An agreed upon time and location to reunite. Me and my ex never had that. I never wanted to settle in her hometown (though I lived there for a period of time, and that's how we met), and vice versa. The result was this state of "limbo," and though we tried to come up with compromises, we never could. I don't think she ever had any intentions of moving away from home, period.

[Derka]

never played the game, but can you actually like, chat and interact with other people on there? How would you know that person is really who they say they are?

Good for them tho! :applause:
Yeah, there's a Global chat channel that tries to put you with people who speak your language and then when you join a clan you get a chat channel just for your clan too.

I can speak to dozens of healthy, successful relationships I've encountered that began long distance, usually in MMOs that I've played over the years. I've made some lifelong friends in there...people I started out killing bosses in Zul'Gurub along side, we now exchange Christmas cards and I get pictures of babies and dogs and all that normal "life is happening" stuff. Even visited and been visited by several of them.

But as someone mentioned earlier, the successful ones have to have an end game; there has to be some plan in place where two people say "Okay this is worth getting serious about and at some point in the near future, this physical distance has to be closed." Its a pretty heavy commitment to make long distance.

[ekosky]

An agreed upon time and location to reunite. Me and my ex never had that. I never wanted to settle in her hometown (though I lived there for a period of time, and that's how we met), and vice versa. The result was this state of "limbo," and though we tried to come up with compromises, we never could. I don't think she ever had any intentions of moving away from home, period.
Ahh, gotcha.

Yup, this whole thing is temporary. Just really stumped at what I should do and how to handle this considering this is my first LDR. My plan is to move to Toronto (where she resides atm) in March to go to school, and maybe after graduation, I might call it home, if all goes well.

I'm all in for it. I'm digging this girl and I think she's worth it in the end.

[riseagainst]

Ahh, gotcha.

Yup, this whole thing is temporary. Just really stumped at what I should do and how to handle this considering this is my first LDR. My plan is to move to Toronto (where she resides atm) in March to go to school, and maybe after graduation, I might call it home, if all goes well.

I'm all in for it. I'm digging this girl and I think she's worth it in the end.

good for you man. But just don't invest too much of yourself into it. You will end up miserable if something bad happens.

[ekosky]

good for you man. But just don't invest too much of yourself into it. You will end up miserable if something bad happens.
:cheers: