Is there ever a point in relationships it becomes not okay for opposite sex 'friends'

[CavaliersFTW]

I'm not talking about friendliness I mean friendships where solo hanging out happens like going to concerts and meeting up for drinks and what not. And I mean with opposite sex members that are heterosexual.

Say a man or woman gets into a relationship, is there a point where these friendships become an issue?

[Cocaine80s]

Your wife is "out with a friend" right now ain't she?

[CavaliersFTW]

Your wife is "going out with a friend" right now ain't she?
Not married :oldlol:

And my personal opinion is I think opposite sex friendships do become inappropriate though I don't quite know when any line would be drawn I've never given it much thought. Thus I was inquiring.

Assuming one was in some sort of established relationship it'd be inappropriate in my opinion because no heterosexual dude is ever legit "friends" with a woman, they only do that because they can be nothing else at that given moment and are waiting for a crack in the armor to make their move.

[Jameerthefear]

It's definitely not okay for a woman to be hanging out with men.

[BasedTom]

these things are never concrete. it depends on the people involved

[Smook B]

It's definitely not okay for a woman to be hanging out with men.

Why did you banned?

[GP_20]

No I don't think that point should ever occur. If the person you are in a relationship with is really yours, then you should trust them and give them the freedom to live their life as they choose. Don't be controlling. Not allowing them to hang out with the "opposite sex" shows your insecurities nothing else.

[CavaliersFTW]

No I don't think that point should ever occur. If the person you are in a relationship with is really yours, then you should trust them and give them the freedom to live their life as they choose. Don't be controlling. Not allowing them to hang out with the "opposite sex" shows your insecurities nothing else.
I mean, to be fair I wouldn't be controlling.

I'd just choose to stop dating someone who keeps around a bunch of guy friends that they hang out with solo all the time :oldlol:

[dude77]

if your bitch is doing that, you've already lost control and I would question her loyalty to you .. a female won't even think of doing that if she has any respect for you as a man and as her bf/husband/etc etc .. the fact that shit is even being asked, from a male's perspective, is pathetic .. that's some feminine shit .. hanging out in groups is ok though obviously

[CavaliersFTW]

if your bitch is doing that, you've already lost control and I would question her loyalty to you .. a female won't even think of doing that if she has any respect for you as a man and as her bf/husband/etc etc .. the fact that shit is even being asked, from a male's perspective, is pathetic .. that's some feminine shit .. hanging out in groups is ok though obviously
Chill, if you'd read my second post you'd know that I basically agree. Since there's nothing to be combative about I'm curious of your opinion 'when' you feel such behavior becomes inappropriate. Immediately upon dating someone? When you 'officially' start referring to someone as a girlfriend? Do you even choose to date someone who has a lot of male friends?

[UtahJazzFan88]

You shouldn't be controlling who they can and can't talk to, but I certainly there is an issue with your relationship/loyalty to the other person if the S.O. is hanging out with somebody of the opposite sex.

[dude77]

Chill, if you'd read my second post you'd know that I basically agree. Since there's nothing to be combative about I'm curious of your opinion 'when' you feel such behavior becomes inappropriate. Immediately upon dating someone? When you 'officially' start referring to someone as a girlfriend? Do you even choose to date someone who has a lot of male friends?

my bad .. I wasn't talking about you specifically but just people in general .. I would say as soon as you two are supposed to be 'exclusive' .. makes sense .. if you're not exclusive you can't really expect someone to not hang out with other dudes ..

as for dating a chick who has a lot of male friends .. I don't know about that .. I guess it depends .. some may be just actual buddies .. but a lot of times those types have banged all their 'male buddies' or a good portion of them at some point .. they're basically exes or ex fk buddies/flings/whatever else you want to call it that became a 'friend'(no she won't always admit that to you .. she'll introduce him to you as her platonic buddy) .. but if she's not hanging out with them solo while with you, then I guess technically she's not really doing anything wrong but that'd make me uneasy if she's buddy buddy with some dude who she used to bang .. that looks foul ..

I agree with utah that you can't, shouldn't control anyone like that .. that should be coming from her, of her own accord .. assuming she's not one of these loose, straying hoes, she won't want to be hanging out solo with other guys if she's really into you and respects you .. so you'll know what's up

[TheMan]

I don't know how you whiteys run shit in your relationships but it's a given among Latinos that once a relationship becomes exclusive, having friends with the opposite sex is over. You can hang out as couples or as a group, but your girl going out with her male friend by themselves, GTFOH. That's some beta ass shit, staying home watching the Tonight Show while your bitch is out there "having a drink with her pal". We as men know what's the deal, to pretend otherwise is just bullshitting yourself.

[ArbitraryWater]

I don't know how you whiteys run shit in your relationships but it's a given among Latinos that once a relationship becomes exclusive, having friends with the opposite sex is over. You can hang out as couples or as a group, but your girl going out with her male friend by themselves, GTFOH. That's some beta ass shit, staying home watching the Tonight Show while your bitch is out there "having a drink with her pal". We as men know what's the deal, to pretend otherwise is just bullshitting yourself.

ugh, this doesnt read like its coming from an adult.

[TheMan]

ugh, this doesnt read like its coming from an adult.
AW = ***** whipped

My wife agrees with me. I don't hang out with women by myself, she doesn't hang out with guys by herself. It's a form of respect more than anything.

[iamgine]

In some circumstances when you are not available it is okay. For examples:

- Maybe they work together and have lunches within work context.
- Maybe he's gay.
- Maybe he's disabled.
- Maybe he's one of these pathetic guys who no woman would ever go for but is nice to help bring groceries?
- Maybe it's your own close family member.
- If Pulp Fiction is to be believed, it's also okay to ask your lackey to take your woman out so that she's not lonely.

[RidonKs]

lol

opposite sex friendships

i think most people just call those "friendships"

[imdaman99]

I've been in more than 1 relationship where the girl I was with was insecure about me having any female friends. I didn't feel right about doing it, but I had to slowly but surely cut off contact with them because heaven forbid I get a text from another female while I was with her :roll: The difference was I was ok with her chilling with friends regardless of their sex. I was tired of being the only one she wanted to complain about her life and problems to.

The relationships didn't end well and everyone is better for it :oldlol:

Point being, it's fine if the SO is ok with it but not cool to keep her insecure about you doing so. Obviously I don't think you should let your girl hang out with another guy if the guy think it's a date.

[LJJ]

Usually there is some sort of sexual tension involved and one party would like to take it further if the opportunity were there. That's just human nature. Does that mean it's never okay for your girl to have a friend? No, as said it depends on the people involved. But I would be sceptical.

By and large I wouldn't date a girl who has a bunch nondescript male friends anyway.

[sd3035]

I'm not talking about friendliness I mean friendships where solo hanging out happens like going to concerts and meeting up for drinks and what not. And I mean with opposite sex members that are heterosexual.

Say a man or woman gets into a relationship, is there a point where these friendships become an issue?

If you're not invited