I am a loser and my life sucks. Can I turn it around?

[Heilige]

Fellow ISHers I am going to take a hiatus from ish and other boards for awhile. I really thought about my fukked up life for awhile and am wondering how to turn it around.

These following posters, if you are reading this thread can you help out/give advice?


Akrazotile, Im Still Ballin, nathanjizzle, Dresta, UK2K, DonDadda59, Back In Shape, DeuceWallaces, DCL, Nick Young, ~primetime~, NumberSix, KBlaze8855, and L. Kizzle



I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.

5) I am unemployed and broke.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.


I'm not saying you all are wealthy and successful and have your life together. I'm not saying you all are perfect and don't struggle in your lives. You guys all have your lives more together than me I would say. Lots of you all are intelligent. This isn't a troll thread. I know last time I asked for help/advice, Akrazotile said I was being a troll. I would still like for him to give me advice because I like reading his posts on economics and politics along with Dresta and NumberSix.

[Bandito]

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.


:biggums:

[Nick Young]

You can turn it around bro. Believe in yourself, envision the idealized version of yourself that you want to become, and don't stop working and fighting until you achieve it. You only got one life so make the most of it:cheers:

Start with simple goals and begin building good habits. As long as you are working to improve yourself and make positive change, you will start feeling better about yourself and slowly but surely all of the pieces will fall in to place.


ALSO, cut all negative influences and peers out of your life and start only associating with positive people who support you. You are who you hang out with.


This is the most important advice. Start exercising and eating more healthy. When your body is healthy and looks good, confidence comes naturally, and your mind will be healthier as well.

[Akrazotile]

Fellow ISHers I am going to take a hiatus from ish and other boards for awhile. I really thought about my fukked up life for awhile and am wondering how to turn it around.

These following posters, if you are reading this thread can you help out/give advice?


Akrazotile, Im Still Ballin, nathanjizzle, Dresta, UK2K, DonDadda59, Back In Shape, DeuceWallaces, DCL, Nick Young, ~primetime~, NumberSix, KBlaze8855, and L. Kizzle



I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.

5) I am unemployed and broke.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.


I'm not saying you all are wealthy and successful and have your life together. I'm not saying you all are perfect and don't struggle in your lives. You guys all have your lives more together than me I would say. Lots of you all are intelligent. This isn't a troll thread. I know last time I asked for help/advice, Akrazotile said I was being a troll. I would still like for him to give me advice because I like reading his posts on economics and politics along with Dresta and NumberSix.

J$ gonna J$

[Heilige]

J$ gonna J$


I'm not a troll man.

[Akrazotile]

I'm not a troll man.


Post a video of yourself singing "When....... the...... moon hits your eye, like a big pizza pie, that's... Amor

[oarabbus]

[QUOTE=Akrazotile]Post a video of yourself singing "When....... the...... moon hits your eye, like a big pizza pie, that's... Amor

[ace23]

I don't think OP is a troll. He posted something similar 3 years ago:

http://www.insidehoops.com/forum/showpost.php?p=8803584&postcount=65

[Heilige]

You can turn it around bro. Believe in yourself, envision the idealized version of yourself that you want to become, and don't stop working and fighting until you achieve it. You only got one life so make the most of it:cheers:

Start with simple goals and begin building good habits. As long as you are working to improve yourself and make positive change, you will start feeling better about yourself and slowly but surely all of the pieces will fall in to place.


ALSO, cut all negative influences and peers out of your life and start only associating with positive people who support you. You are who you hang out with.


This is the most important advice. Start exercising and eating more healthy. When your body is healthy and looks good, confidence comes naturally, and your mind will be healthier as well.


Thanks brah appreciate it.

[Heilige]

[QUOTE=Akrazotile]Post a video of yourself singing "When....... the...... moon hits your eye, like a big pizza pie, that's... Amor

[nathanjizzle]

I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.

5) I am unemployed and broke.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.


1. dont worry about being a virgin. It doesnt make you less of a person.
2. you need to find a job. once you have one you will be on less.
3. And thats okay, you need to rely on your parents to become independent, everyone does.
4. Make it your first priority to get a license.
5. Find a job, and dedicate your self to it.
6. accept who you are. you do not need to be social and outgoing to be a valuable human being.
7. good for you. now be confident in what you know and find a job.
8. public speaking is a great skill that most people are not good at. I dont know how you have social anxiety but are a good public speaker.

[Akrazotile]

Why do you not believe this guy lol. No one is gonna say their life sucks like that for no reason.


Because J$ has a history of concocting various scenarios and asking people about them under the guise of advice, simply to learn more about every poster here for his meticulous personal archive.

Do you remember back on his VCDAPTW account he once claimed off-hand somewhere that rather than talk about his real life it was much more appealing to make up elaborate storylines to share? And then a few months later he claimed to have some relatively believable story about overlooking the east river as an accountant, and got exposed etc? Also he had a Raconteur account dedicated to stalking catzhernandez.

I think hes just a weird, sick dude. He keeps tabs on everyone here and wants to know more about them. Makes up weird shit on his alts to get people to talk about themselves and what they think.

But again, Ive been wrong before. If this guy posts a video, Ill eat my words.

[Heilige]

1. dont worry about being a virgin. It doesnt make you less of a person.
2. you need to find a job. once you have one you will be on less.
3. And thats okay, you need to rely on your parents to become independent, everyone does.
4. Make it your first priority to get a license.
5. Find a job, and dedicate your self to it.
6. accept who you are. you do not need to be social and outgoing to be a valuable human being.
7. good for you. now be confident in what you know and find a job.
8. public speaking is a great skill that most people are not good at. I dont know how you have social anxiety but are a good public speaker.


Appreciate the advice. See this is what I'm talking about. You actually gave advice but all Akrazotile does is call me a troll.

I am good at public speaking but have social anxiety because when it comes to talking to people in more intimate settings/one on one settings I feel worried about what people think of me constantly. When you are speaking in front of groups it is just different for me.

[Heilige]

Because J$ has a history of concocting various scenarios and asking people about them under the guise of advice, simply to learn more about every poster here for his meticulous personal archive.

Do you remember back on his VCDAPTW account he once claimed off-hand somewhere that rather than talk about his real life it was much more appealing to make up elaborate storylines to share? And then a few months later he claimed to have some relatively believable story about overlooking the east river as an accountant, and got exposed etc? Also he had a Raconteur account dedicated to stalking catzhernandez.

I think hes just a weird, sick dude. He keeps tabs on everyone here and wants to know more about them. Makes up weird shit on his alts to get people to talk about themselves and what they think.

But again, Ive been wrong before. If this guy posts a video, Ill eat my words.



I am not Jefferson Money and I'm not any of those accounts man.

[oarabbus]

Because J$ has a history of concocting various scenarios and asking people about them under the guise of advice, simply to learn more about every poster here for his meticulous personal archive.

Do you remember back on his VCDAPTW account he once claimed off-hand somewhere that rather than talk about his real life it was much more appealing to make up elaborate storylines to share? And then a few months later he claimed to have some relatively believable story about overlooking the east river as an accountant, and got exposed etc? Also he had a Raconteur account dedicated to stalking catzhernandez.

I think hes just a weird, sick dude. He keeps tabs on everyone here and wants to know more about them. Makes up weird shit on his alts to get people to talk about themselves and what they think.

But again, Ive been wrong before. If this guy posts a video, Ill eat my words.


Damn, that's ****ing weird. I think in a debate about Islam he said something along the lines of "killing someone [in this life] is not the worst thing you can do to a person" shit was really off-putting.

idk about this Heilige guy though. He doesn't seem like a troll, more actually asking for help. Although I'm not really sure why he singled out like a dozen accounts asking for advice, that's kinda strange. If he's telling the truth about himself though, he's not going to post a video of him singing, so you might want to offer him another way of verification.

[Heilige]

I Am Not A Troll For The Last Time.

[Draz]

I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.
That's perfectly fine. You kept it for so long, might as well give it to the girl you're in love with/marriage at this point. If not, hire a hooker. Do escorts, get laid 7 days a week.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.
Some people have their addictions or their "love". That's normal I guess as long as you place your priorities first (working 40+ hours a week, etc)

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.
Everyone has their struggles. Don't be so harsh on yourself. What matters is by next year or within 6 months or less you can change that. At this point, I think instead of moving out, it's time to tend for your mother. It's YOUR turn to take care of HER. This isn't about you anymore. It's about taking care of your family. She's getting old. She requires emotional, health, and financial attention.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.
You're ONLY 30. I know many people who don't have their license at 35+. If you live in a city/state that has public transportation, take advantage over it. People making over $60k don't own cars here in NY. They take the MTA. They save on car, car insurance, gas, tickets, repairs, etc.

5) I am unemployed and broke.
Make a resume. Go to a public place that offers help with resumes. Pay someone to help you if you truly can't find an alternative. Friends perhaps is a first choice. Use successful people to skim through what you have and make changes. At this point, you need to pretty much lie on your resume.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.
Perfectly normal. Not everyone has confidence. Majority of the people you meet and pass by on the daily are socially awkward. You need to start having a social life. Go to bars, take a drink or two once a week or every two weeks. As well as clubs, go to the bar there. Sit down. Chat away. You'll eventually stumble across someone regardless of gender and they'll have a story of their own to tell. Make friends. It's never too late.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.
Associates in SOMETHING is a good start. I was going to say you need at least some college degree to progress forward. You're already halfway there. Now it's time to work for anyone and at anything. Find a stable job. Work your hours. In the meanwhile apply elsewhere. Go through job interviews after job interviews (do your research before going on the interviews) and know your shit. Find the next STABLE job (no commission) that offers more money. Work your way up. Save for the next degree (BA/BS).


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.
This contradicts with no confidence and social anxiety. How can you be great at public speaking but the complete opposite at the same time? As for jobs in this field, I'd suggest salesman of any kind (cars, real estate, etc)

I'm not saying you all are wealthy and successful and have your life together. I'm not saying you all are perfect and don't struggle in your lives. You guys all have your lives more together than me I would say. Lots of you all are intelligent. This isn't a troll thread. I know last time I asked for help/advice, Akrazotile said I was being a troll. I would still like for him to give me advice because I like reading his posts on economics and politics along with Dresta and NumberSix.

Whether you're trolling or not, a lot of people are in these shoes. Living under the poverty line and living paycheck to paycheck. Good luck.

[Heilige]

I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.
That's perfectly fine. You kept it for so long, might as well give it to the girl you're in love with/marriage at this point. If not, hire a hooker. Do escorts, get laid 7 days a week.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.
Some people have their addictions or their "love". That's normal I guess as long as you place your priorities first (working 40+ hours a week, etc)

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.
Everyone has their struggles. Don't be so harsh on yourself. What matters is by next year or within 6 months or less you can change that. At this point, I think instead of moving out, it's time to tend for your mother. It's YOUR turn to take care of HER. This isn't about you anymore. It's about taking care of your family. She's getting old. She requires emotional, health, and financial attention.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.
You're ONLY 30. I know many people who don't have their license at 35+. If you live in a city/state that has public transportation, take advantage over it. People making over $60k don't own cars here in NY. They take the MTA. They save on car, car insurance, gas, tickets, repairs, etc.

5) I am unemployed and broke.
Make a resume. Go to a public place that offers help with resumes. Pay someone to help you if you truly can't find an alternative. Friends perhaps is a first choice. Use successful people to skim through what you have and make changes. At this point, you need to pretty much lie on your resume.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.
Perfectly normal. Not everyone has confidence. Majority of the people you meet and pass by on the daily are socially awkward. You need to start having a social life. Go to bars, take a drink or two once a week or every two weeks. As well as clubs, go to the bar there. Sit down. Chat away. You'll eventually stumble across someone regardless of gender and they'll have a story of their own to tell. Make friends. It's never too late.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.
Associates in SOMETHING is a good start. I was going to say you need at least some college degree to progress forward. You're already halfway there. Now it's time to work for anyone and at anything. Find a stable job. Work your hours. In the meanwhile apply elsewhere. Go through job interviews after job interviews (do your research before going on the interviews) and know your shit. Find the next STABLE job (no commission) that offers more money. Work your way up. Save for the next degree (BA/BS).


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.
This contradicts with no confidence and social anxiety. How can you be great at public speaking but the complete opposite at the same time? As for jobs in this field, I'd suggest salesman of any kind (cars, real estate, etc)

I'm not saying you all are wealthy and successful and have your life together. I'm not saying you all are perfect and don't struggle in your lives. You guys all have your lives more together than me I would say. Lots of you all are intelligent. This isn't a troll thread. I know last time I asked for help/advice, Akrazotile said I was being a troll. I would still like for him to give me advice because I like reading his posts on economics and politics along with Dresta and NumberSix.

Whether you're trolling or not, a lot of people are in these shoes. Living under the poverty line and living paycheck to paycheck. Good luck.


I am good at public speaking but have social anxiety because when it comes to talking to people in more intimate settings/one on one settings I feel worried about what people think of me constantly. When you are speaking in front of groups it is just different for me.

[Draz]

I am good at public speaking but have social anxiety because when it comes to talking to people in more intimate settings/one on one settings I feel worried about what people think of me constantly. When you are speaking in front of groups it is just different for me.
I was once here in HS. I was shy, didn't speak much. I had to do a presentation in front of the class and gave it everything. I blew the class away and everyone was amazed. I since then grew out of that. While you cannot get that type of response now since you aren't in that setting, I suggest getting a job that goes against your fears. As I mentioned car salesman, something that gives you the ability to confront your fears head on. Business Management was a dead end field, I knew to stay away from any "business administration/management". If you want to further it, expect to get rid of that and very soon. Start off at ANY job. Home depot. Retail. Best buy. In the mall.

[Back In Shape]

Start exercising, particularly running with music. It's amazing how much a little cardio will improve your outlook on life and motivation.

Get a girlfriend. The emotions that develop with her will help stop the self inflicted damage you are doing with your inward examinations. If you're shy and timid, just approach a girl that you think is a little below your level, so you're less nervous. I don't know where you live but if there is foreign born Asian or Latina women in your area, have a go at them. You'll get a lot of points with them just being a white guy and any akwardness in your speech won't be as obvious to a woman who's first language isn't English.

Get that license man ASAP if your mom has a car. Your options are severely limited not being able to drive.

[Pushxx]

Back In Shape and Draz with some good advice.

[LongBeachLakers]

I'm you're age. I didn't get my first job till I was 23, my first car and legitimate girlfriend till i was 24. I had the same issues you're going through now but it all changed when I got my first job and threw myself into the world.

I was able to save all my paycheck because at the time I was still living with my parents and didn't really have any expensive hobbies. Being in good shape and knowing that you look good will boost your confidence, so workout.

I started chipping away my social anxiety the more I worked with people. I knew I had it so I started searching online for self help programs.. My suggestion is to start by getting a job.

[Bosnian Sajo]

OP has been asking the same questions for years, wtf man. Wake up. You might not be a troll, but you are definitely doing this for attention. People have given you basically the same advice the last time you had a thread like this, you responded to all the post, and what did you do? Sat on your ass and jerked off 5 times a day.

Get up. Today. Go online, apply to every single job that you are qualified for, eventually one will respond. Go run, ride a bike, do something productive. I have no sympathy for people like you because you have all the resources in the world available to you here in America yet you'd rather sulk and do nothing.

Everybody has their own problems, just like you have problems. The difference between them and you? They make an effort to change and live a better life, while you sit and wait for it to come naturally to you. It will never happen, only you can better your life by GETTING UP and doing something about it.

You guys can't coddle people who don't at least try, you make them feel like it's all gonna be ok and that they aren't really missing out on much. Being nice is one thing (I'm not calling him any names) but lying to dude saying it's "normal" to be on message board 12-16 hours a day (looking at you, draz) is not helping him at all.

[stalkerforlife]

The key to recovery is acknowledgement of your problems.

First step is done.

OP, you're flying like a bird...CAW CAW, CAW CAW.

I love you and I pray you get all the good things your heart desires in Jesus Christ's name, Amen.

[Bosnian Sajo]

The key to recovery is acknowledgement of your problems.

First step is done.

OP, you're flying like a bird...CAW CAW, CAW CAW.

I love you and I pray you get all the good things your heart desires in Jesus Christ's name, Amen.

That's not the key though, it's only the first step. The key is to ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING about it.

Yall a bunch of participation trophy winners, smh.

[Heilige]

Start exercising, particularly running with music. It's amazing how much a little cardio will improve your outlook on life and motivation.

Get a girlfriend. The emotions that develop with her will help stop the self inflicted damage you are doing with your inward examinations. If you're shy and timid, just approach a girl that you think is a little below your level, so you're less nervous. I don't know where you live but if there is foreign born Asian or Latina women in your area, have a go at them. You'll get a lot of points with them just being a white guy and any akwardness in your speech won't be as obvious to a woman who's first language isn't English.

Get that license man ASAP if your mom has a car. Your options are severely limited not being able to drive.


I'm not white. I'm mixed with black/latino/white.

[Heilige]

That's not the key though, it's only the first step. The key is to ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING about it.

Yall a bunch of participation trophy winners, smh.


You're right I should do something. What if I'm not good enough and stay a loser forever? You act like if I take action it is a guarantee I will be successful. Not trying to come off like a jerk. At the end of the day I have to do it, I'm realizing it. It is not fair for me to put my problems on other people.

[Doomsday Dallas]

Heilige... let me ask you this...


Have you gotten to the point where you have considered gastric bypass surgery?




let's address the real issue here... your weight.

[Heilige]

Heilige... let me ask you this...


Have you gotten to the point where you have considered gastric bypass surgery?




let's address the real issue here... your weight.


No, because if I don't fix the reasons why I'm fat the weight will just come back on. I am not going to resort to using gastric bypass surgery.

[keep-itreal]

I'm a bigger loser than you. Know why? I made this exact same type of thread and only got a couple replies:rockon:

[stalkerforlife]

No, because if I don't fix the reasons why I'm fat the weight will just come back on. I am not going to resort to using gastric bypass surgery.

Once they shrink your stomach, I don't think you can put the weight back on.

How much do you weigh?

[Back In Shape]

I'm not white. I'm mixed with black/latino/white.

My condolences. Hopefully you at least got a big dick out of the mix.

Advice still applies.

[Doomsday Dallas]

No, because if I don't fix the reasons why I'm fat the weight will just come back on. I am not going to resort to using gastric bypass surgery.

better fix them now while you are 30... and still have some youth.


otherwise you will never do it... gastric bypass will eventually be your last resort.




This needs to be your #1 priority everyday... weight loss

[Heilige]

My condolences. Hopefully you at least got a big dick out of the mix.

Advice still applies.

Nope, avg. size dick.

But thanks for the advice you gave.

[Heilige]

Once they shrink your stomach, I don't think you can put the weight back on.

How much do you weigh?


I weigh 275 lbs.

[Heilige]

better fix them now while you are 30... and still have some youth.


otherwise you will never do it... gastric bypass will eventually be your last resort.




This needs to be your #1 priority everyday... weight loss



Thanks man.

Well, I don't have any health insurance and am unemployed/broke at the moment.

[Doomsday Dallas]

when was the last time you ate fast food?


You need to focus on your diet... do some research...


Get your diet in order first... actually put effort into changing it...


Start out small so you don't overwhelm yourself with changing
every aspect of your life... just focus on the food. You are what you eat.



do this first... then focus on exercise when you feel like you've developed
so new eating habits.


Get plenty of sunlight this summer... (this goes for everybody really)

[Bosnian Sajo]

You're right I should do something. What if I'm not good enough and stay a loser forever? You act like if I take action it is a guarantee I will be successful. Not trying to come off like a jerk. At the end of the day I have to do it, I'm realizing it. It is not fair for me to put my problems on other people.

Not at all, no where did I give you a receipt to be successful. Success is a very loose term, success is determined differently depending on the person. I'm telling you that if you want something, get up and do things that will get you to your goal.

On the flip side though, sitting around and doing nothing absolutely 100% guarantees that you will amount to nothing and will be forever a loser.

You keep looking for an easy way out, something that doesn't exist. Life is hard, you either deal with it, making the best out of it, or don't and remain irrelevant.

[Im Still Ballin]

David and Goliath

The most famous story in the Bible, especially amongst children, is the story of David and Goliath. David is first told of as a shepherd and the youngest of eight boys in 1 Samuel 16 when he was anointed the new King of Israel by Samuel. David’s encounter with Goliath, a giant, is found in 1 Samuel 17. Goliath was a Philistine warrior who was fighting against the Israelites and stood about 18 feet, 6 inches tall. He challenged the Israelites to send a man to fight him saying that if he was defeated, the Philistines would be servants to the Israelites.

One day David’s father sent him to take food to his three oldest brothers who were serving in Saul’s army fighting against the Philistines. David saw how afraid the men were of Goliath and asked who this heathen Philistine was that shamed Israel and defied the armies of the living God. David’s brothers heard this and became mad at him and told him to go home to tend the sheep. David responded by asking what he had done and if there was not a cause, referring to the importance of the matter that someone do something.
Soon, King Saul heard of David’s words and sent for him. David told Saul he would fight against Goliath, but was told that he was nothing more than a boy. David responded by telling of the wild animals he had killed while tending to the sheep and how he would do the same to the giant. King Saul then agreed to send David to fight. David refused to wear the king’s armor and instead chose to go with nothing but his staff and a sling. David chose five smooth stones from a brook and went up to confront Goliath.
Goliath belittled David and was insulted that the Israelites had sent a small boy to fight. Goliath threatened to kill David and feed him to the birds and animals, but David replied that although Goliath threatened him with a sword and a spear, he was going to fight Goliath in the name of the LORD and the God of the armies of Israel, whom Goliath defiled. David then took a stone and slang it at the giant using his sling and hit the giant in the forehead. The stone killed the giant and David took the giant’s sword and cut off his head. Upon seeing this, the Philistines fled.

No matter how big an adversary, God empowers us to do all things through the power of Christ (Philippians 4:13). This gives us courage even when it seems like the whole world, including our family, tries to discourage us. By standing for what is right and just in the name of the LORD, God will enable us to do great things (John 14:12-14).

[Doomsday Dallas]

Not at all, no where did I give you a receipt to be successful. Success is a very loose term, success is determined differently depending on the person. I'm telling you that if you want something, get up and do things that will get you to your goal.

On the flip side though, sitting around and doing nothing absolutely 100% guarantees that you will amount to nothing and will be forever a loser.

You keep looking for an easy way out, something that doesn't exist. Life is hard, you either deal with it, making the best out of it, or don't and remain irrelevant.


This is the key really...

You have to want it.


Do you want it? How bad? Bad enough to start making some sacrifices?




Here's another potential road block... Don't get discouraged with how much
you have to do/change. Baby Steps.... even crawling in some cases.
No matter how slow the progress is... just make sure it's real progress.
It's real easy not to do $hit because you feel like it's "too late"



also..... listen to this song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DiZym5nqyc
Stic.Man - I Believe




I think my work is done in this thread.

(good posts Bosnian Sajo)

[Doomsday Dallas]

[QUOTE=Im Still Ballin]David and Goliath

The most famous story in the Bible, especially amongst children, is the story of David and Goliath. David is first told of as a shepherd and the youngest of eight boys in 1 Samuel 16 when he was anointed the new King of Israel by Samuel. David

[Heilige]

Not at all, no where did I give you a receipt to be successful. Success is a very loose term, success is determined differently depending on the person. I'm telling you that if you want something, get up and do things that will get you to your goal.

On the flip side though, sitting around and doing nothing absolutely 100% guarantees that you will amount to nothing and will be forever a loser.

You keep looking for an easy way out, something that doesn't exist. Life is hard, you either deal with it, making the best out of it, or don't and remain irrelevant.


Ok man, I see what you mean. I appreciate your advice you have given.

[poido123]

Fellow ISHers I am going to take a hiatus from ish and other boards for awhile. I really thought about my fukked up life for awhile and am wondering how to turn it around.

These following posters, if you are reading this thread can you help out/give advice?


Akrazotile, Im Still Ballin, nathanjizzle, Dresta, UK2K, DonDadda59, Back In Shape, DeuceWallaces, DCL, Nick Young, ~primetime~, NumberSix, KBlaze8855, and L. Kizzle



I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.

5) I am unemployed and broke.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.


I'm not saying you all are wealthy and successful and have your life together. I'm not saying you all are perfect and don't struggle in your lives. You guys all have your lives more together than me I would say. Lots of you all are intelligent. This isn't a troll thread. I know last time I asked for help/advice, Akrazotile said I was being a troll. I would still like for him to give me advice because I like reading his posts on economics and politics along with Dresta and NumberSix.



There is already stiff competition for ISH's biggest loser, you sure you're up to it?


Must provide video evidence of your pathetic life while exposing your chest udders for us to see(stalker did) to determine your sincerity.


You sound a hell of a lot like Simon. Is that you Simon?

[HeatFanSince88]

I'm not white. I'm mixed with black/latino/white.

let me take a wild guess....

you got the black ancestry from the non-existant father figure in your life.....

[ArbitraryWater]

You've been asking the question for years, you had plenty advice, apparently, you can't

Edit: sry, too harsh

[Heilige]

You've been asking the question for years, you had plenty advice, apparently, you can't

Edit: sry, too harsh


What did you delete? Go ahead and post what you were going to say.

[ArbitraryWater]

What did you delete? Go ahead and post what you were going to say.

Didn't delete anything, that was it, lol

[IcanzIIravor]

What did you delete? Go ahead and post what you were going to say.

Set yourself a small goal each day to start out and achieve it. Even if it is spending 1 less hour online, set it. Give yourself some bigger goals that can be reached too. Getting your license should be one of them. Putting together a resume online should be another. Getting out of the house and going for walks each day can be another. Slowly build up your goals. At some point you just have to start doing.

[Velocirap31]

You probably need to get in shape or at least to a point where you feel comfortable with your body. My guess is that your social anxiety stems from you thinking that people think you're a fat loser before they even know you, so you probably avoid meeting new people altogether.

If you can get to a point where you feel comfortable with the way you look, then you'll have the confidence to meet new people. This is important because you aren't going to be getting a job or even an interview if you're afraid to meet the person hiring.

1. Feel better about yourself
2. Regain confidence
3. Secure a new job
4. Network among coworkers and make new friends there
5. Live a better life

I should mention that my cousin was where you are now just a year ago. He is 34, never had a job or a girlfriend. He's always lived with my grandma who won the lottery in '96 so he's never felt like he had to do anything. He did P90X last year and lost 50 lbs. Now he is working full time and bought a new Civic SI. He still lives with my grandma and will never move out, but I'm sure he's happier.

[DCL]

you already know what you have to do.

so why aren't you doing it?

you need to change your whole mindset right now.

nobody can help you if you keep procrastinating and refuse to give any effort. or things will just continue to pile on or get even worse.

you need develop a sense of urgency and attack the problems because they don't go away by themselves. some are easy fixes; some require time. but you have to do it.

this is what everybody goes through. not just you.

so what other motivation do you need? just ask yourself, "are you sick of this shit???"

if you really are, go do what you need to do.

[UK2K]

Akrazotile, Im Still Ballin, nathanjizzle, Dresta, UK2K, DonDadda59, Back In Shape, DeuceWallaces, DCL, Nick Young, ~primetime~, NumberSix, KBlaze8855, and L. Kizzle


Sure....


I am 30 years old at the moment. Wrap that around your heads first. Here are my issues:

1) I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I fap 5 times a day and look at porn constantly. I am very addicted to it and don't know how to deal without it.

So? One of my best friends was a virgin until he got married last year at 27. Religious thing or whatever, it is what it is. Who cares? And if you're fapping 5 times a day, I'd suggest keeping yourself occupied. Idle hands are the devils playground, so I've heard.

2) I am on message boards 12-16 hours a day.

Because you don't have a job. Get a full time job, then you will only spend two hours a day on message boards, which is still entirely too much, but other than the occasional annoyance on here, I think its time well spent. You learn a lot.

3) I live with my 60 year old mother who provides for me.

Better than being homeless.

4) I only have a learner's license and no car.

Get a license, buy a car. Solved both of those issues.

5) I am unemployed and broke.

Lots of unemployed people are broke. From what I am gathering, living on welfare seems to be pretty awesome (from the people I know who collect it) so start filling out those forms. Apply for it all, even if you don't think you deserve it, because this is America and why the hell not? Everyone else is cheating the system, go ahead and get you some too.

6) I have no confidence and social anxiety problems. I am very timid. No social life. I am sort of introverted so don't mind not having a social life that much.

I'd suggest joining a club, or group that shares in your interests. Facebook is easy... just type in 'Fapping (whatever city you live in) and I am sure there's a group out there.

7) This past December I graduated with a two year degree in Business Management. I am still unemployed.

I don't even have that yet, so you're ahead of me. But I also didn't let the 'no degree' thing keep me from getting a job. I make right at the median household income without anything past high school, and the work I do is easy, laid back, and stress free. All you have to do is keep grinding until you find something you enjoy, then its not work anymore.


8) The only thing I would say I'm good at is public speaking but can't think of any careers I can do regarding that/how to parlay that into making money.

You have an associates in BM, that will transfer to a 4 year degree. Get your degree in marketing and you can publicly speak all you want. Also, I hear that degree is cake (GF has one) so it shouldn't be all that difficult.



Normally I'd charge for my services, but ISH gets the friends and family discount.

Remember this:

You'll never get to where you want to go if you don't start sometime.

Meaning, if you want to be successful at whatever in life, you'll never get there if you don't start working towards it. If this is what you really want in life, today is as good a day to start as any.

[Heilige]

Sure....



Normally I'd charge for my services, but ISH gets the friends and family discount.

Remember this:

You'll never get to where you want to go if you don't start sometime.

Meaning, if you want to be successful at whatever in life, you'll never get there if you don't start working towards it. If this is what you really want in life, today is as good a day to start as any.



Thanks for the advice man. What career/job do you have and how did you get it?

[UK2K]

Thanks for the advice man. What career/job do you have and how did you get it?
Supply/Procurement/Logistics.

I got an unrelated job, worked it for about 6 months, got promoted, and about 6 months after that this job opened up (with the same company) so I applied. When I went in for the interview, I more or less told them I'm not a dumbass, and *poof* I got the job.

You don't need a degree to land a job. Anyone can teach someone how to do a job. The degree just gets you an interview, but if you can get an interview without one and show your competent, you'll get hired.

[~primetime~]

Follow these steps in this exact order if you want to crawl out of your situation. Don't skip around or it won't work.

1) start a work out routine and diet.
2) get your driver's licence
3) get a job, any job (putting that degree to use would be nice)
4) get an apartment
5) get counselling help for your anxiety and porn addiction (if you can afford this before getting a job start along with #1)
6) get laid (for you this will probably require prostitution but that is okay, at 30 you need to have sex before you can find a real girlfriend. Go out and purchase a hooker, do it multiple times even. Frequent strip clubs, do what you need to do in order to be confident around real life females otherwise you'll come off as a serial killer)
7) start online dating, anyone can do it. If you think you are a '4' then search for girls you rate as a '4'. Somewhere the female equivalent of you exists, find her.


All this may take about 5 or so years to accomplish...but it's what you need to do. You'd be 35ish with your shit together finally.

[KyrieTheFuture]

Everyone knows this is Kraz right?

[Lebron23]

Loss some weight, and start playing basketball again.