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Chick I know posted this today:
I'm out- signing off of FB. Giving it a day if you want to reach out and exchange numbers like old times lol. When did life become this superficial world on a website; where people hide their real situations to uphold an image, share only what may appeal to others, and talk about themselves more than anyone ever should (narcissism at it's finest). This last month has shown me more about the meaningfulness of random encounters, picking up a telephone and spending hours mindlessly catching up, laughter that exceeds just an "lol" text, getting out into nature and letting it empower you... The most beautiful moments are spent offline living 100% in the moment with the people you absolutely love for all that they are, adore, and cherish whole heartedly. Facebook is an amazing networking site and I love that about it, but agree or not it's just not for me. Needless to say though; y'all are all awesome and proud of each and everyone of you for being you and doing you... Keep it up fo sure. ✌️ & ❣
Why? Why go through the effort to type that? If you're going to delete your account, just delete it and don't say anything.
Clearly, seeing other people's posts bothers you, which is odd because she's pretty hot. But really, if it didn't, you would just browse your news feed on the shitter like everyone else and once you pinched your last one off, you'd close your phone, wipe, and move on with your life like most people. It's not like it will expire if you don't check it every minute of every day. More or less, you either can't control yourself or people are having a good time and you hate your life.
Act like because you are deleting your Facebook you are enlightened or some shit. Like because you are more in tune with your spiritual side, and you want everyone to know. Like you can't use your phone to chat AND have a Facebook account. 'Oh ****, I'd love to go outside but I have a FB account so I can't enjoy the weather'.
I post things occasionally, maybe once a day or so (usually funny pictures or videos) but rarely do I ever communicate with anyone via FB unless its to throw a few jokes on an article or whatever.
Just delete your shit. You don't need to announce it.
Wally450
06-10-2016, 10:55 AM
Agreed.
You can live life and have a Facebook.
KyrieTheFuture
06-10-2016, 11:05 AM
I think this got to you a little too much based on this reaction
I think this got to you a little too much based on this reaction
This is one of my biggest pet peeves.
That, and people who post shit like 'can't believe this is happening! worst day ever!!1!' in the hopes everyone will ask 'oh what's wrong?'.
Plus, what I typed in the OP is what I would want to type on her status, if I were a dick.
~primetime~
06-10-2016, 11:09 AM
Whats wrong with her announcing it?...that way her friends know where she went.
Also she states she is giving a day to exchange numbers.
warriorfan
06-10-2016, 11:12 AM
whats more insane
someone telling their friends that they are not going to be on FB anymore
or someone making a thread about someone telling their friends that they are not going to be on FB anymore
the rent is free
:lol
If a lot of people contact you through Facebook it is just common courtesy to let them know you're not using it anymore.
Funny thing is that the rest of the message is textbook narcissism and humble-bragging. So this seems more like a cry for attention.
Whats wrong with her announcing it?...that way her friends know where she went.
Also she states she is giving a day to exchange numbers.
It's not the announcing part that stands out to me, I get that much...
Its this:
When did life become this superficial world on a website; where people hide their real situations to uphold an image, share only what may appeal to others, and talk about themselves more than anyone ever should (narcissism at it's finest). This last month has shown me more about the meaningfulness of random encounters, picking up a telephone and spending hours mindlessly catching up, laughter that exceeds just an "lol" text, getting out into nature and letting it empower you... The most beautiful moments are spent offline living 100% in the moment with the people you absolutely love for all that they are, adore, and cherish whole heartedly.
So for all you who do have FB, you don't enjoy laughter like I do.
hateraid
06-10-2016, 11:16 AM
I can see how it can be annoying to see an attention seeker running away from attention seekers. However people sometimes need that closure. People deal with it in different ways. Some can flat out drop it, some people need to get it off their chests.
Orlando Magic
06-10-2016, 11:17 AM
She's right. FYI... Facebook is about you putting forth a performance... your "best" self... at all times. It's a false representation of reality and it has more negative impact on society than it does positive impact.
Even on her way out the door she was still putting on a performance, lol...
The ones that post negative shit just get largely ignored in the long run, fyi.
nathanjizzle
06-10-2016, 11:22 AM
typical righteous indignation. cringy. :facepalm
bigkingsfan
06-10-2016, 11:23 AM
Like
~primetime~
06-10-2016, 11:25 AM
I read a study a couple years ago that showed that FB causes more depression than happiness. And yeah, it is because everyone posts their best moments, giving a false feeling that everyone has a better life than you do.
People don't usually post their problems, but why would they? No one wants to read about our problems, so that is understandable. Of course we only want to share happy times. If you are on FB sharing only bad times and not good times that would mean something is wrong with you.
She's right. FYI... Facebook is about you putting forth a performance... your "best" self... at all times. It's a false representation of reality and it has more negative impact on society than it does positive impact.
Even on her way out the door she was still putting on a performance, lol...
The ones that post negative shit just get largely ignored in the long run, fyi.
I agree with that much, for the most part. I still see people put the most ridiculous shit on there ('power got shut off, SMH').
As for the rest of that sentence, that's based strictly on the individual. If you can't handle someone else's success, or you aren't happy with your own situation, that's nobody's fault but your own.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of this country are Charmin soft and seeing other people enjoy life brings them down because their own life blows.
ArbitraryWater
06-10-2016, 11:29 AM
dont see the issue, would like
ROCSteady
06-10-2016, 11:42 AM
So glad I don't deal with Facebook anymore.
Seems like a lifetime ago.
Such an irritating website. Drones gon drone.
Crown&Coke
06-10-2016, 11:58 AM
I've seen people do this, but it doesn't bother me unless they act like it is beneath them to be on FB. It has it's uses, but it certainly has gone to an extreme.
What does make me scratch my head sometimes, when a BF and GF will post on each others stuff like "I love you so much babe!!!"
It just seems a little weird that you can't text that to them? It makes me feel like they are doing it strictly so everyone else will see how happy they are together. I've hung out with a couple before and they will stare into their phones the entirety of the meal and the next day I will see how much fun they had during it. Really? I was there, looked like yal were pretty bored and not really interested. But based on the posts it sounds like you had the time of your lives and are endlessly in love.
Oh, and the bitching, I dislike the bitching. "OMG my coffee is soooo wrong, how will I finish the day!!! If you see me don't talk to me" (actual post from an entitled trust fund jizz gobbler)
Really, your coffee ruined your day? Seems like you are letting some petty shit bring you down. But to each their own. Good thing my internet persona is super duper awesome so I'm good
mlh1981
06-10-2016, 03:49 PM
If the majority of my family didn't live far away, I'd probably deactivate it. I only login out of habit. I rarely enjoy the content of what people post. It's just repetitive stuff. People with kids can be really annoying on there. I don't need every little update about what little Johnny did.
~primetime~
06-10-2016, 04:40 PM
If the majority of my family didn't live far away, I'd probably deactivate it. I only login out of habit. I rarely enjoy the content of what people post. It's just repetitive stuff. People with kids can be really annoying on there. I don't need every little update about what little Johnny did.
The problem is their family does care...and if you had a kid you would probably use FB to share what he is going through with family members who aren't near you.
~primetime~
06-10-2016, 04:43 PM
I feel like older people get the most actual enjoyment from FB...they get to see what their family from afar is up to, pics included.
For most younger people FB is probably just a massive contest to win the 'best life award' with everyone from their high school.
The older you get, the less you give a shit about winning that award.
mlh1981
06-10-2016, 04:55 PM
The problem is their family does care...and if you had a kid you would probably use FB to share what he is going through with family members who aren't near you.
Yeah, maybe. I mean, I don't have a kid, but if I did, maybe I would feel differently. I'm sure there are things I talk about on there that probably annoy the crap out of people. It is what it is.
Yeah, maybe. I mean, I don't have a kid, but if I did, maybe I would feel differently. I'm sure there are things I talk about on there that probably annoy the crap out of people. It is what it is.
A lot of my closest friends are from my time in the military who live all over the place so I use it to share stupid shit with them.
And my closest family member lives almost six hours away.
But honestly if you let your news feed put you into depression, you're probably a weak individual to begin with.
But yeah, someone sharing a photos of their kids in 18 different poses gets old. No, your baby isn't cute, and no, he's not that smart either.
But I get that they have family elsewhere.
rezznor
06-10-2016, 05:51 PM
attention whores. just like ppl who announce they are leaving ish
ROCSteady
06-10-2016, 06:24 PM
I'm not a jealous type of person AT ALL. No matter how I'm feeling about life at any given time, I would never get bitter about my peer's happiness, success or accomplishments. Not my style at all and I've proven that to myself a couple instances where I wasn't the person I had envisioned being at that time. I'm always glad for people who seem fulfilled no matter what voids I may have at particular seasons.
That all said, what drove me from Facebook for good was the uncomfortable realization of how BLAND most people are. Their opinions, their thoughts, what amuses them, their patterns of speech (or typing in this case), their choices, their general docile demeanor in heading down life's pre-approved package of existence only willing to show one side of modern day Americana.
People are gullible and naive. They buy into narratives without much thought or critical analysis based merely on the volume and frequency of that particular narrative. They think their personal opinion means anything to their peers and have a constant need for validation and acceptance. Habitual users often will seek meaning and purpose from the reactionary, en masse, manufactured posts from people they rarely see and who shouldn't mean shit to their existence or self-worth.
Facebook has devolved into a hotbed of surface level pandering and deception. There are some admirable causes that are significantly facilitated through it's use but the popularity of FB now that every demographic uses it exposes and confirms some very disappointing and awkward realizations about human interaction while also creating new dynamics to the disingenuous, vapid and superfluous ways in which interpersonal communications attempt to seek camaraderie in today's world.
TL; DR- Facebook is phony and insecure people have made it a toxic wasteland of cringe
highwhey
06-10-2016, 07:02 PM
I'm not a jealous type of person AT ALL. No matter how I'm feeling about life at any given time, I would never get bitter about my peer's happiness, success or accomplishments. Not my style at all and I've proven that to myself a couple instances where I wasn't the person I had envisioned being at that time. I'm always glad for people who seem fulfilled no matter what voids I may have at particular seasons.
That all said, what drove me from Facebook for good was the uncomfortable realization of how BLAND most people are. Their opinions, their thoughts, what amuses them, their patterns of speech (or typing in this case), their choices, their general docile demeanor in heading down life's pre-approved package of existence only willing to show one side of modern day Americana.
People are gullible and naive. They buy into narratives without much thought or critical analysis based merely on the volume and frequency of that particular narrative. They think their personal opinion means anything to their peers and have a constant need for validation and acceptance. Habitual users often will seek meaning and purpose from the reactionary, en masse, manufactured posts from people they rarely see and who shouldn't mean shit to their existence or self-worth.
Facebook has devolved into a hotbed of surface level pandering and deception. There are some admirable causes that are significantly facilitated through it's use but the popularity of FB now that every demographic uses it exposes and confirms some very disappointing and awkward realizations about human interaction while also creating new dynamics to the disingenuous, vapid and superfluous ways in which interpersonal communications attempt to seek camaraderie in today's world.
TL; DR- Facebook is phony and insecure people have made it a toxic wasteland of cringe
this is basically an accurate description of all social media.
i deleted instagram and facebook and have not looked back.
ROCSteady
06-10-2016, 07:14 PM
Yes but there's a different degree, in this case reaching a CRITICAL MASS for me, of lameness that comes with middle aged moms, dads, aunts, uncles, grandmas and stay at home moms spamming luke-warm opinions and perspectives in conjunction with our contemporaries also echoing uninspired shreds of humanity.
this is basically an accurate description of all social media.
i deleted instagram and facebook and have not looked back.
Spot on
ArbitraryWater
06-10-2016, 08:14 PM
I'm not a jealous type of person AT ALL. No matter how I'm feeling about life at any given time, I would never get bitter about my peer's happiness, success or accomplishments. Not my style at all and I've proven that to myself a couple instances where I wasn't the person I had envisioned being at that time. I'm always glad for people who seem fulfilled no matter what voids I may have at particular seasons.
That all said, what drove me from Facebook for good was the uncomfortable realization of how BLAND most people are. Their opinions, their thoughts, what amuses them, their patterns of speech (or typing in this case), their choices, their general docile demeanor in heading down life's pre-approved package of existence only willing to show one side of modern day Americana.
People are gullible and naive. They buy into narratives without much thought or critical analysis based merely on the volume and frequency of that particular narrative. They think their personal opinion means anything to their peers and have a constant need for validation and acceptance. Habitual users often will seek meaning and purpose from the reactionary, en masse, manufactured posts from people they rarely see and who shouldn't mean shit to their existence or self-worth.
Facebook has devolved into a hotbed of surface level pandering and deception. There are some admirable causes that are significantly facilitated through it's use but the popularity of FB now that every demographic uses it exposes and confirms some very disappointing and awkward realizations about human interaction while also creating new dynamics to the disingenuous, vapid and superfluous ways in which interpersonal communications attempt to seek camaraderie in today's world.
TL; DR- Facebook is phony and insecure people have made it a toxic wasteland of cringe
god damn.. love the way you can express yourself :applause:
Graviton
06-10-2016, 08:19 PM
I only post on ISH, it's somehow the least fake message board out of them all.
Only good thing about Facebook is connecting to old childhood friends. But the false validation people pursue on Instagram, FB, Snapchat etc. seems so pointless. Have they even seen 90% of their "friends" in person? :oldlol:
Technology keeps advancing but people drift apart even more, get caught up in the hashtags, likes and tweets. Did they forget how to have a real conversation with a human?
I only post on ISH, it's somehow the least fake message board out of them all.
Only good thing about Facebook is connecting to old childhood friends. But the false validation people pursue on Instagram, FB, Snapchat etc. seems so pointless. Have they even seen 90% of their "friends" in person? :oldlol:
Technology keeps advancing but people drift apart even more, get caught up in the hashtags, likes and tweets. Did they forget how to have a real conversation with a human?
Instagram is the worst. I don't have IG or Twitter but I see their posts on FB that links to their IG.
99% of it is either them in the gym or the food they're eating.
ArbitraryWater
06-10-2016, 08:35 PM
I only post on ISH, it's somehow the least fake message board out of them all.
Only good thing about Facebook is connecting to old childhood friends. But the false validation people pursue on Instagram, FB, Snapchat etc. seems so pointless. Have they even seen 90% of their "friends" in person? :oldlol:
Technology keeps advancing but people drift apart even more, get caught up in the hashtags, likes and tweets. Did they forget how to have a real conversation with a human?
yes.. Yes.. YESS!! PREACH
LBJ 23
06-10-2016, 08:48 PM
I'm pretty sure my brother visits many music festivals and concerts out of the country(Europe) just so he can post pics and brag about it on FB, and not because he would actually enjoy that kind of music or event. What's even worse is that, that somehow became his ''trademark'' on FB(visiting those concerts) so people are asking him about where to sleep, how to get there etc,... so he has to go every year now and absolutely make sure everyone on FB knows about it 2 months before, 1 month before, 2 weeks, 3 days,...
What a fail of life :facepalm
I'm pretty sure my brother visits many music festivals and concerts out of the country(Europe) just so he can post pics and brag about it on FB, and not because he would actually enjoy that kind of music or event. What's even worse is that, that somehow became his ''trademark'' on FB(visiting those concerts) so people are asking him about where to sleep, how to get there etc,... so he has to go every year now and absolutely make sure everyone on FB knows about it 2 months before, 1 month before, 2 weeks, 3 days,...
What a fail of life :facepalm
Which directly relates to the OP...
That feeling of being wanted. Which is the same reason people post 'I can't believe this is happening...' and then sit back to wait for people to ask what's wrong.
ROCSteady
06-10-2016, 09:07 PM
god damn.. love the way you can express yourself :applause:
Appreciate it bro :cheers:
Just an opportunity to explain to myself even why I felt compelled to abandon something that many, even most people, use daily. Lots of ppl I feel are pressured to still use FB because to them, it's like being a part of society electronically when in reality, it's really not. Just a corporate brand that has been so popularly utilized that people are conditioned now to feel like being on FB is like being part of 'it.'
oh the horror
06-11-2016, 12:59 AM
If anything all I'd say would be mentioning that I'm deactivating it for a bit. Not sure how long but I'd post my number and give it some time for those to take it down and then just bounce. There's no need for social commentary or a long tyrade about the why. Just exit.
~primetime~
06-11-2016, 01:12 AM
If anything all I'd say would be mentioning that I'm deactivating it for a bit. Not sure how long but I'd post my number and give it some time for those to take it down and then just bounce. There's no need for social commentary or a long tyrade about the why. Just exit.
That's all FB is though... Social commentary... voicing opinions
There is no need to be social on social media?
FB is an outlet for people to communicate with friends/family, and some of you are getting on to this girl for explaining to her friends and family why she is leaving. I mean, come on.
Nanners
06-11-2016, 01:47 AM
Writing an announcement when you leave FB is almost as ******y as writing an announcement because you are leaving ISH
If you want to leave then just leave, no need to write a ****ing retirement speech.
~primetime~
06-11-2016, 02:08 AM
Writing an announcement when you leave FB is almost as ******y as writing an announcement because you are leaving ISH
If you want to leave then just leave, no need to write a ****ing retirement speech.
Not really
FB is your friends and family
ISH is a bunch of strangers
oh the horror
06-11-2016, 02:13 AM
That's all FB is though... Social commentary... voicing opinions
There is no need to be social on social media?
FB is an outlet for people to communicate with friends/family, and some of you are getting on to this girl for explaining to her friends and family why she is leaving. I mean, come on.
Yes but a long paragraph basically commenting on your disdain for the status of Facebook before deactivating your account? It's the equivalent of a person storming out of the party because they're not getting enough attention.
Nanners
06-11-2016, 02:19 AM
Not really
FB is your friends and family
ISH is a bunch of strangers
Yeah really, if you want to stop using it then just stop using it, people will figure it out.
I havent posted a status update or photo or anything on FB in years, but I still maintain an account to keep track of friends and relatives and stuff.
Meticode
06-11-2016, 05:42 AM
OP just mad because he never got with her.
Rake2204
06-11-2016, 09:45 AM
I only post on ISH, it's somehow the least fake message board out of them all.
Only good thing about Facebook is connecting to old childhood friends. But the false validation people pursue on Instagram, FB, Snapchat etc. seems so pointless. Have they even seen 90% of their "friends" in person? :oldlol:
Technology keeps advancing but people drift apart even more, get caught up in the hashtags, likes and tweets. Did they forget how to have a real conversation with a human?I really, really struggled with Twitter and Snapchat (never tried Instagram). I just... for me personally... I didn't see the point of creating posts. I usually never felt I had something compelling enough to type out and tweet. It always felt stunted and awkward; like, why am I even saying anything, what's the point? Why does this need to be typed?
I will say, Twitter is very good for breaking basketball news though.
As for Facebook, I've always enjoyed having it around. Maybe it's partly nostalgic. The website hit while I was in college, when it was kind of just a college thing that college people did (college, college).
Now, I absolutely see aspects of the site I don't care for (someone's always attacking a controversy, it seems). And I regret to say there are definitely times where I scroll through my feed and I'm like, "Why... am I doing this?"
But on the other hand, it's been fascinating and fun to keep up with close friends that don't live near, friends that do live near, old friends I've stopped hanging with but still care for, and casual friends I never really hung with a lot but have potential if we happened to meet up in the future.
I've been traveling a fair bit, and Facebook's been a wonderful tool in that regard, and it's led to some pretty cool re-connections, and even connections where there never was any prior.
Lastly, my other guilty admission is that Facebook absolutely fulfills that dopamine response at times. I really like pictures and hence, I like sharing pictures. And, say, when I share a picture of my family standing with my brother who'd just graduated, it feels good when that gets a good response.
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