Was hoping for a boy but it's going to be a girl

[DCL]

I am going to be a father. It's my first one. Overall, I am looking forward to fatherhood.

But I need a little guidance or even some mental ass-kicking right now.

As the title suggests, I was hoping for a son, but I'm going to get a girl.

It's weird because I was imagining all these father-son scenarios before I even knew the gender of the baby.

Well, it's obviously a girl now. I am not disappointed or anything. But my excitement for the baby got toned down a little bit after finding out that it was a she. Before, the level was at a full high-as a-kite 100%; but now it's maybe 95% or 90%. Still very very happy, but just not as absolutely thrilled as before.

I feel like such a shithead because it should not even matter, but I don't know how to control what i feel. And I certainly hope I change my perspective by the time she's born. Will that come naturally?

There are a lot of fathers here. Have you experienced something like this, and what did you do to help change your outlook?

[FillJackson]

Congrats.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

You'll find ways to have fun with her. You'll learn a lot about yourself.

[Orlando Magic]

Stop assigning your baby a gender identity before it's even born.

****, it might end up deciding it's a boy. Damn bro, lay off the pressure.

[west_tip]

I wanted my first born to be a girl (Daddy's little Princess type of deal and all that) but we had a boy. On the day we found out the gender I was disappointed like you but was over it pretty quick. Then, my son was an awesome baby so if we had another kid I decided that I wanted another boy. Of course when my wife got pregnant again we had a girl so I was 0/2.

Anyway, you'll come to realize that this stuff is unimportant, the kid being healthy is the main thing. Also, I know fathers want sons to be a little mini me but a cautionary note, it doesn't always pan out that way. In terms of personality my daughter is a lot more like me (competitive, moody and high strung) and my son is more like my father in law, laid back and pretty chilled out.

That said, congratulations. :cheers: Nothing beats being a father, its the toughest but most rewarding thing in the world.

[DukeDelonte13]

I gotta 1.5 year old girl. It's fun. I mean in all reality you aren't going to be treating little kids differently based on their gender outside of how they dress. They are gonna play with the toys they want to and have the personality they have.


When that baby comes it will give the word "love" a whole new meaning.

[DCL]

thanks guys.

this is definitely a learning experience for me. thanks for sharing.

[UK2K]

Congrats! Kids just aren't for me (yet), but the thought of hearing the big news is always exciting.

I, like you, would prefer a boy first, but you've gotta be pumped no matter what. Soon, in a few months, that little girl will own you. :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:

[Annyong!]

Congrats.

[redhonda76]

Gratz. You won't be disappointed at all. I have a 9 yr old girl and a 7 year old boy. I was exactly in your shoes when I found out that my first born was going to be a girl. I was really hoping for a boy so I can dress him up, teach him sports, and do all the boys stuff.
As soon as my baby girl was delivered to my arms, I had tears coming out of my eyes because I have never seen something so beautiful and I was part of the process to make this happened.

Now that time passes, based on my experienced and my peers experienced..... typically girls are more quieter, faster learner, well-behaved, and caring.
The boys are the other hand tend to play rough, have endless amount of energy, and doesn't like to listen. Thinking back and also according to my mom, I was just like that too. :lol

[ISHGoat]

In this day and age, not having a Y chromosome doesn't prevent someone from being a man!

Gender equality!!!!

[Rolando]

Just wait until the baby is born.....Then tell us how you feel.

You'll see. You have no idea at this point. When you think back at the thoughts you are having now, you'll laugh.

[DCL]

good to hear all your perspectives.

you're all probably great fathers!

will join the club soon.

[~primetime~]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

[ISHGoat]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

Your nuts arent the only thing that your cable man is hitting ;)

[Richie2k6]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

[Orlando Magic]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

7 months and 3 years is still probably a little too young to say for certain, but I hate to break it to you partner... your kids behave that way because you allow them to. They are a reflection of your successes and failures as a parent. Now if one of them had a legit disorder, that'd be one thing... but just fyi...

[iamgine]

One day a stupid boy is gonna take your girl away.

[UK2K]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

:lol :lol

[redhonda76]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

Exactly.:D

[HenryGarfunkle]

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt.

:djparty :dancin :hammertime: :banana:

[~primetime~]

7 months and 3 years is still probably a little too young to say for certain, but I hate to break it to you partner... your kids behave that way because you allow them to. They are a reflection of your successes and failures as a parent. Now if one of them had a legit disorder, that'd be one thing... but just fyi...
My son is in school already, this is the main difference between toddler boys and girls. Generally speaking boys are rowdy, girls are not.

Him punching me...that's because we wrestle a lot. And yeah he needs to know what is appropriate and what isn't. But him just being rowdy in general? That's every little boy.

[Dr Seuss]

7 months and 3 years is still probably a little too young to say for certain, but I hate to break it to you partner... your kids behave that way because you allow them to. They are a reflection of your successes and failures as a parent. Now if one of them had a legit disorder, that'd be one thing... but just fyi...

so we can thank your parents for the shitty person you grew up to be?

geez....

[Orlando Magic]

so we can thank your parents for the shitty person you grew up to be?

geez....

Yes.

[insidehoops]

thanks guys.

this is definitely a learning experience for me. thanks for sharing.

Hi, I'm not a dad (that I know of, ha) but I know lots of people and the general consensus is that lots of people feel the way you do at first... but the second the baby exists and is yours, all that stuff goes out the window. And she'll be the best little tiny person in the whole world that you've ever met.

--Jeff

[highwhey]

Hi, I'm not a dad (that I know of, ha) but I know lots of people and the general consensus is that lots of people feel the way you do at first... but the second the baby exists and is yours, all that stuff goes out the window. And she'll be the best little tiny person in the whole world that you've ever met.

Jeff
(founder of Inside Hoops)
You're our dad in sort of a way.

[DCL]

Hi, I'm not a dad (that I know of, ha) but I know lots of people and the general consensus is that lots of people feel this way... but the second the baby exists and is yours, all that stuff goes out the window. And she'll be the best little tiny person in the whole world.

Jeff


thanks jeff,

hey, you know i always make fun of this place

but all jokes aside, your community is amazing.

[insidehoops]

You're our dad in sort of a way.

:lol

:cheers:

:eek:

:facepalm

:(

...

:roll:

[FreezingTsmoove]

This thread makes me wish I never abandonned my son

Sike :lol

[Trollsmasher]

Hi, I'm not a dad (that I know of, ha) but I know lots of people and the general consensus is that lots of people feel the way you do at first... but the second the baby exists and is yours, all that stuff goes out the window. And she'll be the best little tiny person in the whole world that you've ever met.

--Jeff
OP's kid blessed by Jeff:eek:

gonna be a special kid:applause: :applause:

[Orlando Magic]

You're our dad in sort of a way.

Yeah and since we act like a bunch of trolling assholes, what does that say about Jeff's parenting? lol.

[ISHGoat]

Yeah and since we act like a bunch of trolling assholes, what does that say about Jeff's parenting? lol.

It says that Jeff is fking terrible admin

[senelcoolidge]

Congrats. Be happy with what you're given and be the best father that you can be. I have two boys and wanted two boys..I'm lucky. My wife is pregnant again and I'm actually kinda hoping for a girl this last time. No more kids..3 is enough. The way I see it boys are a lot of work early on (high energy) and girls are a lot of work later on (boy crazy, possibly being whores, pregnancy, etc).

[TheMan]

I have two kids and both are boys :rockon:

Like primetime says, boys are a handful when they are little, energetic af but it's fun wrestling with them and doing guy things. I'm looking forward to teaching them about sports and all that other good stuff.

My wife doesn't want girls, she says that girls tend to be more rebellious and hard headed as teens than boys. For parents, the teen years for girls are much more stressful than for boys, they need more protection than boys, according to my wife.

OP, congrats, your next kid could be a boy but the most important thing is that the baby is born healthy. :cheers:

[TheMan]

Congrats. Be happy with what you're given and be the best father that you can be. I have two boys and wanted two boys..I'm lucky. My wife is pregnant again and I'm actually kinda hoping for a girl this last time. No more kids..3 is enough. The way I see it boys are a lot of work early on (high energy) and girls are a lot of work later on (boy crazy, possibly being whores, pregnancy, etc).

Exactly the way my wife sees it, hence she doesn't want any girls. We aren't planning on any more children so it looks like she got her wish. I'm perfectly ok with my two boys.

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

That's actually a HUGE BLESSING man.

I am an eldest male, and if I was the BEST big brother in terms of guidance, protection, education, character; I still could not reach the potential upside that a female at her prime could.

You are likely a stern, no-nonsense kind of man, so a daughter's gentleness will naturally balance you out man. THIS IS GREAT NEWS. REJOICE :rockon:
http://theparentcue.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/father-and-daughter-silhouette-494x329.jpg

Following is sound advice meant MEANT for all of mankind, not just Muslims.

A book I can safely recommend for English speakers
https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51vm4spIX8L.jpg
written by a woman.

Cliffs:
- You are her first hero
- You are the one she sees as guardian, teacher, guide
- Affection and attention constantly
- Teach her self image to be tied to real skill, intelligence, morality and human actions and she'll never see herself as sex object
- Veer on the side of playful
- If you are strong, wise, and strongly bonded to her; she's going to compare her first crushes to you. They are likely not going to stand a chance. What the HECK is some immature juvenile bad boy dweeb compared to a real father? NOTHING. NOOOOTTHIIINGG.

I know four first born daughters and they are all nurturing mother figures, to their younger siblings and respectful towards their fathers (for the most part). Later in life she can slide into the mother role, and develop into the grandma that keeps the whole family in tact. The glue of the team. "Women are champions of compassion,".


And in general the best Dad-Daughter relationship that comes to mind is the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and Fatima (RA).

A few things he would do is

Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) immediately took it from his hand, and said, "Anything given as alms is forbidden to us." (Ibn Hanbal, Muslim)
Teach her from a young age not to take any kind of hand-outs or take advantage of other men's finances. Strong manual labor will keep her far away from the gym and places where sketchy people work.


As soon as Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her), the daughter of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), entered the room where the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) was, he (peace and blessings be upon him) would stand, take her hands, and make her sit where he (peace and blessings be upon him) was sitting. He (peace and blessings be upon him) would ask about her health and family, show his paternal love for her, and compliment her.
These moments are precious.


Prophet Muhammad ﷺsaid: ‘He, who brought up two girls properly till they grew up, he and I would come (together) (very closely) on the Day of Resurrection, and he interlaced his fingers (for explaining the point of nearness between him and that person)’.
It's no easy task, and it's no small reward, either.

“If anyone has a female child and does not bury her alive, or slight her, or prefer his children (i.e., the male ones) to her, Allah will bring him to Paradise.”
The just always get rewarded. :applause: Already on the right track, DCL :pimp:

If anyone has suffered at all respecting these girls and treats them well, they will be a covering for him from Hell.”

Daughters have this affect on their fathers in the Hereafter.



This is an extremely serious subject, as there was a time of great evil.


"And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision." (An-Nahl 16:58-59)

“Those will have lost who killed their children in foolishness without knowledge and prohibited what Allah had provided for them, inventing untruth about Allah . They have gone astray and were not [rightly] guided.”(Quran, 6:140)

"…If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good." (An-Nisa’ 4:19)


Peace

[ArbitraryWater]

I could type pages and pages in here on this subject...I have 2 boys, a 7 month old and a 3 year old. I was also hoping for boys and was lucky enough to get 2 of them.

From what I have seen, little girls and little boys are actually very very different. In fact I might even go as far to say that the biggest difference between boys and girls is at the toddler stage. They have different brains entirely, little girls develop mentally much faster on average, usually girls are speaking full sentences before they even turn 1, most boys are not like that. Girls are also MUCH more tame usually, and well behaved. I have a coworker with 2 little girls, and I went out to eat with him and his family once. His little girls sat at the table the entire meal without making a single sound. I was shocked. My little boys would completely fck shit up, I can't even take them out to eat or it would ruin the experience for the entire restaurant. they are always yelling and punching and throwing shit, and it doesn't matter how much you tell them "STOP". They can't sit still, they always have to be moving.

Everyone says little boys are easier, to be honest I don't see that yet. Boys wreck shit, and they are LOUD as fck. I literally can't make a phone call in my house, I have to leave the fcking house. Once I went out front to talk on the phone, was just pacing on the side walk talking, my 3 year old busted out the front door and started yelling "WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD???!!!! DAAADD!!! LOOK AT MY TOY CAR DAD!!!" So I was like "fck hold on" and started walking down the block, my kid starts chasing me yelling shit while I'm on the phone. I couldn't escape his yells. It was really stressful actually lol.

Just a couple days ago he punched me directly in the nuts for no reason at all. I was looking at some mail, reading a bill, so I was already getting hit in the nuts from my cable provider. My son just walked up to me and punched me as hard as he could in the groin. It hurt. I yelled at him till he felt bad. He'll probably do it again one day. We wrestle a lot so I guess he feels it's okay to punch me just whenever, I need to fix that.

Anyway, I'm just ranting shit, but that's what you'll be missing.

:roll: :roll: :roll:

[ArbitraryWater]

OP's kid blessed by Jeff:eek:

gonna be a special kid:applause: :applause:

oh wow :applause:

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

Prime, that is certainly not true for even a majority of males. I can not imagine mlh or ridonks at youth to punch their fathers in the balls. People are born with a pure nature to be gentle, it's only through imitation, conditioning, etc. that destructive behaviors are imitated.. Sons have tremendous curiosity about the world around them, (just like you) and are keen in learning about the world, the astronomy, nature, how their bodies work etc. We aren't all aggressive bullies by nature, and if perchance we are that beast is to be tamed to defend, protect, and preserve. They just require an elder male, charismatic, knowledgeable guide to gently keep them from becoming wayward.

A responsibility I was entrusted with and had forsaken in lieu of selfish distraction. Disgusting, abhorrent, mindless, unethical choice of mine.

And do not let those brains be influenced by the trash we see on TV. And disclose the reason why things are a certain way with impeccable logic.

Please teach your children to learn and love to fear God, perhaps move them out in the country side (guys like Gregory Peck, cowboys and Hollywood actors used all that bundled up male energy to do productive farm labor from a young age), and stay the heck away from excessive meats/sweets, and those abhorrent TV commercials. Integrate reflective talk etc.


http://image.shutterstock.com/display_pic_with_logo/3473/3473,1133023467,2/stock-photo-two-little-farm-boys-in-harvested-cornfield-one-boy-munching-on-wheat-757299.jpg


The farming, rural village life does good to preserve the sound morals that turn boys into men unlike the corrupt godless cities and spoiled suburbia which has wreaked havoc upon the happiness and welfare of families. That and knowledge. Knowledge is key.

You guys look at Asian kids, immigrants, and evangelical Christian kids well behaved and attribute their behavior to things like "race, and genetics" but the truth is there's an element of Divine Justice written in our fates, and the scales are surely being balanced. We didn't guard ourselves against evil. All of us have absorbed a helluva lot of celebration of self-destruction and borderline idolatry in basketball, be they in Neizschean philosophy, "cool" films like Fight Club, rap music, and even silly, meaningless verbiage like "sick" and "dope", rather indiscriminately. We get the kids we deserve and the ones that are ultimately the best for us. Subhanallah.

If we disobey Him, we suffer the consequences in the Hereafter, and in this world, either sooner or later. And of course, we only have ourselves to blame for our mishaps, and only God to truly thank for the countless mercies and blessings bestowed upon us.

Without sounding like a cruel bastard, we reap what we sow. There's an element of justice, hence why past days of self-destructiveness reaps future days of self-destructiveness.

Past days of irresponsibility, and failing to impart knowledge, has resulted in me becoming a "prisoner of my own device." Eagles, Hotel California (1981). And thus I can only gently remind you guys to remember Him.

With that out of the way, I am deeply sorry that the current trial you are facing involved you enduring this much pain and frustration. No doubt testicles are nothing to be tampered with. I hope things get better and I know if you call on God, He alone can help. And may He grant you the wisdom to channel your son's energies in positive pursuits.

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I hope that this Insidehoops community liberates themselves from the traps of dehumanizing self-destruction and seeks a higher life.

Peace

[Jameerthefear]

>having a kid in 2016
zoo wee mama

[~primetime~]

J$ like I said him hitting me is just a result of him continuing our wrestling sessions (which are very healthy for boys) past me being done with them. It's not trash TV, I make a huge effort to limit my sons TV time. Me and my wife are both nuts about being perfect parents, all he eats is organic, we are constantly reading articles and studies. My son is actually extremely advanced for his age, he was walking at 8 months which is very rare and talking before 1 which is rare for boys. We've been talking about putting him in a "gifted" school.

If donks or mlh had boys they would likely be rowdy. I've been to numerous toddler parties recently, play grounds, chuck E cheese, etc. I'm around toddlers all the fcking time, little boys are naturally rowdy, it's in their nature. They are NOT designed to sit still. They ALL yell when the talk.

If I see a well behaved boy that is quiet and not rowdy? That's more suspicious of poor parenting IMO. Little boys should not be taught to hold everything in, that's unhealthy, they need to be free and wild.

[$LakerGold]

Congratulations, sir.

[TheMan]

J$ like I said him hitting me is just a result of him continuing our wrestling sessions (which are very healthy for boys) past me being done with them. It's not trash TV, I make a huge effort to limit my sons TV time. Me and my wife are both nuts about being perfect parents, all he eats is organic, we are constantly reading articles and studies. My son is actually extremely advanced for his age, he was walking at 8 months which is very rare and talking before 1 which is rare for boys. We've been talking about putting him in a "gifted" school.

If donks or mlh had boys they would likely be rowdy. I've been to numerous toddler parties recently, play grounds, chuck E cheese, etc. I'm around toddlers all the fcking time, little boys are naturally rowdy, it's in their nature. They are NOT designed to sit still. They ALL yell when the talk.

If I see a well behaved boy that is quiet and not rowdy? That's more suspicious of poor parenting IMO. Little boys should not be taught to hold everything in, that's unhealthy, they need to be free and wild.
Exactly, great post.



J$, God bless him, he seems to be a well intentioned guy but everything he posts eventually leads to him sermonizing about his religion.

[~primetime~]

As far as "God" goes.

My kids will decide that on their own as adults. At a young age you can not make that decision, you can ONLY be brain washed. I'll show them what is out there, I'll let him know what I believe, and I'll let them know they are free to believe whatever they want.

Spiritually is a VERY personal thing. It shouldn't be decided by parents. That is something that we all need to find on our own.

[senelcoolidge]

So true about boys they wreck stuff and are so loud. I have to lock myself in a room sometimes just for quiet time. My boys are behaved when we go out, but at home they are crazy. My first son from the time he was a baby I knew was high I.Q. So advanced and smart. He gets straight 100%'s in school and loves to learn. He's also really good at drawing for a 5 year old. My second son I believe is a late bloomer. At 3 he is just beginning to talk more..he'll catch up. Kids are a blessing. Being a father is the best. I don't miss my single days.