walking behind a woman late night =/

[diamenz]

so i hopped off the train the other night along with a handful of other people. i swing into the short line of them heading home running my usual route. further along when i'm eventually alone, i approach a street corner where i turn onto the next street, and this attractive college age white chick in skimpy, tight shorts pops out and is heading down my route. so i turn the corner and i'm walking behind her a couple of car length's behind. now, obviously anyone would feel a bit uncomfortable with someone walking behind them at night, especially a woman being tagged by a man. now i'm not an imposing person - average height and athletic build... im half white and half oriental. dressed in jeans and a long sleeve shirt with ear buds minding my business.

anyway, bullshit aside, i can tell that this chick is getting uncomfortable and i'm starting to feel awkward myself. it's been a city block now, and i get to thinkin'... is it my social duty to cross the street, slow down, or take a longer route home? pass her? but in the act of speeding up and passing her i'd spook her even more. what if she's spooked and maces me? now the paranoia is setting in wondering if anyone sees us and is thinking 'i gotta white knight' this chick because that guy might be on some shit. i eventually broke into an alley and took a piss.

i was trippin'. obviously this happens to all of us, but like i said this chick was good looking, showing some serious thigh and ass and it's almost midnight. what would u do? what should u do? am i just buggin'?

[Ben Simmons 25]

Start a conversation... or just wait a few minutes for her to get far ahead. Or rush ahead.

Don't keep pace at an even distance away from her... then again, she's out at midnight by herself, she knows the risk, let her over analyze it and freak out... not your problem if you don't do anything.

[diamenz]

Start a conversation... or just wait a few minutes for her to get far ahead. Or rush ahead.

Don't keep pace at an even distance away from her... then again, she's out at midnight by herself, she knows the risk, let her over analyze it and freak out... not your problem if you don't do anything.

i'd think about starting a quick convo, but at the same time think to myself this girl doesn't wanna be approached or bothered this late by some stranger.

or like u said, wait for her to get a lead on me, but at the same time **** that - i wanna get home.

i hear u though - i was the one that ended up over analyzing it, and buggin' out. those awkward life situations, man.

[Vino24]

Just ignore people like that. Literally look through them like they are not there or pass them. It

[Proctor]

Slow down and keep a safe distance, then at the next cross, plow past. Or cross the street right off the bat and avoid all together, with the option to cross back once you're ahead.

I'm taller than most and walk fast as fvck, and don't like being caught behind people regardless of gender anyway.

[MrFonzworth]

[QUOTE=Vino24]Just ignore people like that. Literally look through them like they are not there or pass them. It

[JEFFERSON MONEY]

You bring up a very important topic. Your life can be ruined if she misinterprets you.

You are right to take extra extra precautionary measures. I'd just go extra slow and like start talking/texting on my phone until she walks away out of sight.

You don't want allegations against you.

[bladefd]

i'd think about starting a quick convo, but at the same time think to myself this girl doesn't wanna be approached or bothered this late by some stranger.

or like u said, wait for her to get a lead on me, but at the same time **** that - i wanna get home.

i hear u though - i was the one that ended up over analyzing it, and buggin' out. those awkward life situations, man.

Pick up the phone and act as if you are loudly talking to your wife or something in kind tone.. "Darling, sorry I didn't call earlier. I was working late. I am on my way home now. I am just a few blocks away. Let me pick up my pace and get home faster" and start jogging past her while loudly fake talking on the phone. It would calm down the girl and you can also pass by her fast to get out of the situation.

I wouldn't talk to her. It would just frighten her.

[dude77]

run really fast towards her and pass her




seriously though, women never learn :facepalm .. that chick has a death wish

[Jasper]

I live in the country , but have lived in Milwaukee as well as Chicago.

I know when I was in that situation , I felt like I was a stalker.

I would cross the street and give the gal a break.

If I knew the gal , I would pass her and just say hi.

These are the animal instincts that reside in a city environment.


:roll: :oldlol: :roll:

[rufuspaul]

now the paranoia is setting in wondering if anyone sees us and is thinking 'i gotta white knight' this chick because that guy might be on some shit.


Lay off the weed dude.

[dunksby]

Just slow your pace, if she's paranoid about your presence she'll be walking at a much quicker pace and in a few moments put a safe distance between both of you.

[Meticode]

Just slow down a little and put some space between you. No big deal.

[Rolando]

Happens all the time.

I usually try and pass the girl. Also, as I come up behind I make sure that my steps are loud and obvious and not directly behind her. Dragging you steps slightly works well.

Just by the way you are walking and your position behind you can give her a sense that there's no danger. These are subtle things that you have to have a nack for.

Otherwise just get across the street...Again, let you foot steps be loud and obvious....it's a way of communicating.

[ArbitraryWater]

[QUOTE=Vino24]Just ignore people like that. Literally look through them like they are not there or pass them. It

[Draz]

I'm so smacked rn reading this I laughed the Fck out.

This shit happens to all of us don't it?

Used to come home from work at 11pm and walking behind people in general is annoying. They can hear me walking and shit. I'm also always looking back once and a while to know who's behind me if I had earphones to be alert.

Normally I maintain my distance then speed up past them. Or cross the road.

I'd sometime fake cough or clear my throat as I'm passing her to let her know I'm in proximity and I'm allowing her to know I'm letting her know I'm approaching and yielding

[Long Duck Dong]

Let people be them. Most of the time you can't change what people have set in their minds anyway.

In high school I remember this pretty blonde with a good body and a young child rushing up to me while I was working at a retail store, and whispered to me, "I think that guy over there is following me!". I look over there, and there's this Mexican guy in his 40s minding his own business, completely oblivious to us, checking out some baseball equipment. I told her someone could escort to her car, but there really wasn't anything else we could do. She told me she had been raped before and she knew when she was being followed. At that age I really didn't know how to process that information she was laying on me, I had never seen this woman in my life. Luckily my manager overheard us, and escorted the lady out of the store himself. I was watching the Mexican guy, IMO he had no idea the lady even existed and just wanted to buy some shot and leave. The lady may have been raped before but she was clearly fvcked in the head now because of it.