Why my dad is a loser

[Prometheus]

From the time I was born, he visited me every Sunday.

One day when I was 2yo, he just stopped. I have no memory of those days, so to me it is like he never existed back then.

Growing up (with no memory of him from when I was a baby), I would often get confused and ask my mom "Other kids have a mom and a dad... do I have a dad?" She said yes, and had one picture of him she used to show me, but she would never explain it beyond "he's not here." I knew he wasn't dead, but I was confused.

One day, when I was nine, my mom told me to get in the car because I was about to meet my dad. Apparently he decided he wanted to be in my life again - at the time I was only confused and excited.

Now up to this point, you're probably thinking he moved far away. I come to find out he had been living three miles away for all those years. No one ever told him he couldn't come see me anymore. He just stopped.

Can you imagine letting your only son grow from ages 2 to 9, living three miles away the whole time, and missing all of it? His explanation is that "your mother and I didn't get along, and I didn't want to put you in the middle of that". How f*cking lame is that?

And get this. Years later, he actually admitted to me that it was only under pressure from his wife (now ex) that he even came back into my life at all. She found out AFTER they got married that he had a son living one township away. And she basically told him she would leave him if he didn't reach out and come back into my life.

Pathetic.

I don't have kids yet, but it's gonna be soon. Nothing is more important to me than making sure I am not like him - making sure I am there for my children to see them grow, and to help them in every way a father should. Even if, god forbid, things don't work out between me and the mother. Nothing will stop me from being in their lives and experiencing their childhoods.

Shout out to all the stand-up fathers on ISH. I admire you. Thank you for not doing what my pitiful father did.

[SomeBlackDude]

Now up to this point, you're probably thinking he moved far away. I come to find out he had been living three miles away for all those years. No one ever told him he couldn't come see me anymore. He just stopped.

...

She found out AFTER they got married that he had a son living one township away.


yikes.

no offense but dude sounds like a grade-a piece of shit deadbeat. sounds like you dodged a major bullet not having trash in human form like that in your life. in the end, it was prob for the best.

[Edgar Friendly]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kkcbxjWG9Mc

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wEB29IXUbxQ

It's going to be ok bro.. :cry:

[Prometheus]

yikes.

no offense but dude sounds like a grade-a piece of shit deadbeat. sounds like you dodged a major bullet not having trash in human form like that in your life. in the end, it was prob for the best.

He was in my life from age 9 up until my mid 20s. The desire to have a relationship with him was really strong... it took a long time for me to realize that I was better off without him. And there were more key moments over those years which revealed his true colors. It would take a while to get into all of it, so I won't bother. The most important shit is in the OP.

[highwhey]

sorry to hear you have a bad father. you seem like a solid dude despite tho.

he sounds as neglectful as stalker, but at least he worked for a living.

[Shogon]

You call me an atheist, but now it makes sense, at least in part, as to why YOU are an atheist.

Our views on God/the idea of a god are almost always directly correlated with our parental relationships.

[Shogon]

sorry to hear you have a bad father. you seem like a solid dude despite tho.

he sounds as neglectful as stalker, but at least he worked for a living.

stalker doesn't seem neglectful whatsoever... he's always there... but he does seem abusive, teaching his kids about how great Kobe was, etc...

Clear brainwashing going on in the forlife household.

[1987_Lakers]

My parents also separated when I was 2, but my Dad would still come and pick me and my brother up around 3-4 times a week, he treated us well, he was the parent who would buy us new clothes/shoes, take us to get haircuts, take us out to eat, sleep at his house on Saturday nights, always reminded us that he loved us. He could do no wrong in our eyes.

It wasn't until I was around 10 when he got his green card taken away for drug dealing and he was deported to Mexico. I always wonder how different my life would have been if he was still in this country. I visited him in Mexico 3 times after he got deported as a teen and we got along good, but I haven't seen him in person in 10 years.

We still keep in touch, he calls me once in a while and I can hear it in his voice how much he misses us and how lonely he is. I just don't have the urge to visit him, not because I have any hate towards him, it's just like "Why bother?". It may sound cold, but it is what it is.

[SomeBlackDude]

he sounds as neglectful as stalker

:no:

justin would never abandon his kids like that. put some respeck on that father.

[Prometheus]

You call me an atheist, but now it makes sense, at least in part, as to why YOU are an atheist.

Our views on God/the idea of a god are almost always directly correlated with our parental relationships.

I'm not an atheist though :confusedshrug:

[Prometheus]

My parents also separated when I was 2, but my Dad would still come and pick me and my brother up around 3-4 times a week, he treated us well, he was the parent who would buy us new clothes/shoes, take us to get haircuts, take us out to eat, sleep at his house on Saturday nights, always reminded us that he loved us. He could do no wrong in our eyes.

It wasn't until I was around 10 when he got his green card taken away for drug dealing and he was deported to Mexico. I always wonder how different my life would have been if he was still in this country. I visited him in Mexico 3 times after he got deported as a teen and we got along good, but I haven't seen him in person in 10 years.

We still keep in touch, he calls me once in a while and I can hear it in his voice how much he misses us and how lonely he is. I just don't have the urge to visit him, not because I have any hate towards him, it's just like "Why bother?". It may sound cold, but it is what it is.

I think the answer to that is that he earned it by being a good father when you were a child. You're being selfish - maybe it wouldn't change much for you in your own life, but paying him a visit once-a-year or so would probably being him more joy than you can imagine. He sounds like a good guy. You should help give him the fulfillment he deserves.

[highwhey]

stalker doesn't seem neglectful whatsoever... he's always there... but he does seem abusive, teaching his kids about how great Kobe was, etc...

Clear brainwashing going on in the forlife household.
you guys eat up whatever he says, so gullible :roll:

you think a dude who pours piss on himself and uploads a video of it to youtube is doing good parenting? i'm sure he volunteers at his school after he cleans up himself.

if i had a parent that didn't show me a good work ethic, i'd be neglecting parenthood. collecting welfare is neglect. poor kids. :(

[Shogon]

I'm not an atheist though :confusedshrug:

Saying that we are all God/the universe itself is God is basically the same thing...

[ROCSteady]

When I first started reading this, I thought it may be something like one of those Star Wars related hoax personal stories but then I’m like, damn. That sucks. Was your father paying child support for being that close?

That’s kind of like how Terrell Owens grew up except his dad lived like right across the street and TO didn’t know for years that was his biological dad

[Prometheus]

[QUOTE=ROCSteady]When I first started reading this, I thought it may be something like one of those Star Wars related hoax personal stories but then I

[Prometheus]

Not sure if it changes how anyone views this, but my parents were never married or even really together. She got knocked up while they were still in the "feel this shit out" phase. As soon as he found out she was pregnant, she didn't hear from him again until I was born. At that point, he said to her "you have no idea how hard these last nine months have been for me" (!!!)

My mom then ran into his ex wife Wendy, who told her that motherf*cker had been desperately trying to crawl back to her the whole time.

[BarberSchool]

Buncha homies of mine lived this exact same story. Easy assistance programs, the drug war (ex of mine's dad was "ghost" alexander cooper), and chronic unemployment, and last but not least, horrible decision making, have ruined many families I grew up around.

I respect when their sons I knew, made a very conscious decision to NEVER do the same thing, for ANY reason. Condolences for your childhood Prometheus, but props for vowing to NEVER repeat it.

[Prometheus]

Buncha homies of mine lived this exact same story. Easy assistance programs, the drug war (ex of mine's dad was "ghost" alexander cooper), and chronic unemployment, and last but not least, horrible decision making, have ruined many families I grew up around.

I respect when their sons I knew, made a very conscious decision to NEVER do the same thing, for ANY reason. Condolences for your childhood Prometheus, but props for vowing to NEVER repeat it.

I feel you. None of those things apply to my pops though... he wasn't poor, wasn't on drugs, wasn't on welfare, wasn't a criminal... he was a normal guy who just said "eh, **** it. Let the kid grow up on his own." Pathetic.

And thanks, dude. I'm sure my kids will resent me at some point (most likely as teenagers) for being too present. I'll take it.

[BarberSchool]

I feel you. None of those things apply to my pops though... he wasn't poor, wasn't on drugs, wasn't on welfare, wasn't a criminal... he was a normal guy who just said "eh, **** it. Let the kid grow up on his own." Pathetic.

And thanks, dude. I'm sure my kids will resent me at some point (most likely as teenagers) for being too present. I'll take it.Damn, nicca got no kind of excuse then.

TOO PRESENT. I like that.
My daughters ain't getting any dick until college, unless they want Dad to go to prison for murder.

[stalkerforlife]

I don't know what happened in your situation, but a lot of mothers are vile and use their children as weapons and bargaining tools.

It can get really bad.

[stalkerforlife]

stalker doesn't seem neglectful whatsoever... he's always there... but he does seem abusive, teaching his kids about how great Kobe was, etc...

Clear brainwashing going on in the forlife household.

:roll:

[Prometheus]

I don't know what happened in your situation, but a lot of mothers are vile and use their children as weapons and bargaining tools.

It can get really bad.

Yeah I know they do. My dad was actually a piece of shit though. It can go both ways.

[egokiller]

From the time I was born, he visited me every Sunday.

One day when I was 2yo, he just stopped. I have no memory of those days, so to me it is like he never existed back then.

Growing up (with no memory of him from when I was a baby), I would often get confused and ask my mom "Other kids have a mom and a dad... do I have a dad?" She said yes, and had one picture of him she used to show me, but she would never explain it beyond "he's not here." I knew he wasn't dead, but I was confused.

One day, when I was nine, my mom told me to get in the car because I was about to meet my dad. Apparently he decided he wanted to be in my life again - at the time I was only confused and excited.

Now up to this point, you're probably thinking he moved far away. I come to find out he had been living three miles away for all those years. No one ever told him he couldn't come see me anymore. He just stopped.

Can you imagine letting your only son grow from ages 2 to 9, living three miles away the whole time, and missing all of it? His explanation is that "your mother and I didn't get along, and I didn't want to put you in the middle of that". How f*cking lame is that?

And get this. Years later, he actually admitted to me that it was only under pressure from his wife (now ex) that he even came back into my life at all. She found out AFTER they got married that he had a son living one township away. And she basically told him she would leave him if he didn't reach out and come back into my life.

Pathetic.

I don't have kids yet, but it's gonna be soon. Nothing is more important to me than making sure I am not like him - making sure I am there for my children to see them grow, and to help them in every way a father should. Even if, god forbid, things don't work out between me and the mother. Nothing will stop me from being in their lives and experiencing their childhoods.

Shout out to all the stand-up fathers on ISH. I admire you. Thank you for not doing what my pitiful father did.

Because a loser is a loser, period. Don't ever let someone tell you some bullshit like "we are only as strong as our weakest link". Fvck that noise. He was a loser, and you already know to not do what he did. Do you know what they call that?

WINNING

But then again, you already knew that and I'm just re-affirming what you already know.

[Prometheus]

Because a loser is a loser, period. Don't ever let someone tell you some bullshit like "we are only as strong as our weakest link". Fvck that noise. He was a loser, and you already know to not do what he did. Do you know what they call that?

WINNING

But then again, you already knew that and I'm just re-affirming what you already know.

I love you, dude. I hope we can meet each other some day. You're one of like four posters on here I would actually hang out with.

[stalkerforlife]

Yeah I know they do. My dad was actually a piece of shit though. It can go both ways.

But even if a mother does do that, a father should just let the court mediate.

However, I have heard a story from someone I know that a false molestation claim was made as a threat to get rid of a father.

Father was told to go away forever or they would coach the child and make these claims.

Women can be the most despicable people on the planet.

They are obsessed with control of children.

[Prometheus]

But even if a mother does do that, a father should just let the court mediate.

However, I have heard a story from someone I know that a false molestation claim was made as a threat to get rid of a father.

Father was told to go away forever or they would coach the child and make these claims.

Women can be the most despicable people on the planet.

They are obsessed with control of children.

That's evil. Crazy.

Has nothing to do with me though. I think you want to believe that my mom is the one to blame here.

[stalkerforlife]

That's evil. Crazy.

Has nothing to do with me though. I think you want to believe that my mom is the one to blame here.

Not really.

Did your mom get married? Ever have BF while you grew up?

[Prometheus]

Not really.

Did your mom get married? Ever have BF while you grew up?

she had 2 relationships in my childhood, both of which failed after a few years. then when i was 13 she met the right one, they got married in 2005 and have been happy together ever since.

he's a dorky lil dude but my mom is a dorky lil woman so it works. they treat each other like gold and they're both boring as shit

[stalkerforlife]

she had 2 relationships in my childhood, both of which failed after a few years. then when i was 13 she met the right one, they got married in 2005 and have been happy together ever since.

he's a dorky lil dude but my mom is a dorky lil woman so it works. they treat each other like gold and they're both boring as shit

My mom had numerous boyfriends while I was growing up.

I used to fantasize about killing them when I was a teenager.

I'd hear them having sex and it made me hate her.

Come to find out, one of them that she was with for a long time was convicted of molestation and after they broke up, he was arrested for showing porn to his daughter's preteen son.

He had these pills that would knock you out and he said I could have them whenever I wanted them.

For some reason, I went to sleep for what seemed like days once and when I woke up, my ass was sore.

Not sure if anything happened, but it wouldn't surprise me.

[Prometheus]

My mom had numerous boyfriends while I was growing up.

I used to fantasize about killing them when I was a teenager.

I'd hear them having sex and it made me hate her.

Come to find out, one of them that she was with for a long time was convicted of molestation and after they broke up, he was arrested for showing porn to his daughter's preteen son.

He had these pills that would knock you out and he said I could have them whenever I wanted them.

For some reason, I went to sleep for what seemed like days once and when I woke up, my ass was sore.

Not sure if anything happened, but it wouldn't surprise me.

:(

I'm sorry. You had it hard growing up. Very hard.

[Shogon]

:(

I'm sorry. You had it hard growing up. Very hard.

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[Spurs m8]

sorry to hear you have a bad father. you seem like a solid dude despite tho.

he sounds as neglectful as stalker, but at least he worked for a living.

We all know stalker is a great father.

You're just angry he called you out for that creepy video you posted of yourself when you got your first and only blowjob in life
And he was right to do so....if he didnt call it, I would have, shit was gross and wrong

[stalkerforlife]

We all know stalker is a great father.

You're just angry he called you out for that creepy video you posted of yourself when you got your first and only blowjob in life
And he was right to do so....if he didnt call it, I would have, shit was gross and wrong

And a felony.

Only a desperate creep posts a hooker giving him head without her knowledge to impress dudes on a message board.

It was so cringe and sad.

[stalkerforlife]

:(

I'm sorry. You had it hard growing up. Very hard.

Pun intended.

[Prometheus]

Pun intended.

If that story was true, then damn. I really can't fathom that kind of trauma. Hopefully someone cut that guy's throat.

[AirTupac]

Why would your dad want to be part of something so loser-ish? He made the right decision nerd :roll:

[Prometheus]

Why would your dad want to be part of something so loser-ish? He made the right decision nerd :roll:

Damn. You and your words have hurt me deeply.

[egokiller]

Why would your dad want to be part of something so loser-ish? He made the right decision nerd :roll:

You missed the part where he said he first left before he could walk. No 2 year old kid is a loser because they can’t be judged that young.

You slippin son. Gotta go back and read my early posts from 2016 if you want to get that troll game back up to speed. Oh wait, Jeff deleted them.....

[AirTupac]

Damn. You and your words have hurt me deeply.


Its too bad you ended up a failure. You could have showed your dad up for making a mistake. He's probably thinking "thank jebus i didnt stick around for the dweeb"

[Prometheus]

Its too bad you ended up a failure. You could have showed your dad up for making a mistake. He's probably thinking "thank jebus i didnt stick around for the dweeb"

Ouch! Stop bullying me. It hurts and I can't take it.

[ArbitraryWater]

My mom had numerous boyfriends while I was growing up.

I used to fantasize about killing them when I was a teenager.

I'd hear them having sex and it made me hate her.

Come to find out, one of them that she was with for a long time was convicted of molestation and after they broke up, he was arrested for showing porn to his daughter's preteen son.

He had these pills that would knock you out and he said I could have them whenever I wanted them.

For some reason, I went to sleep for what seemed like days once and when I woke up, my ass was sore.

Not sure if anything happened, but it wouldn't surprise me.

gawd damn, fcking brutal stuff


you've made it out okay considering the upbringing

[egokiller]

you've made it out okay

Damn right he made it out okay. Was there ever any doubt?

He's a goddamn legend and the realest baller to ever lace them up on ISH. :applause:

[BlakFrankWhite]

Middle class America....worst scums on the face of the earth.

[egokiller]

Middle class America....worst scums on the face of the earth.

As opposed to ghetto America or a shit hole country? :roll:

Swing and a miss

[nathanjizzle]

these hoes out here very disloyal

[AirTupac]

Cries about his daddy gone on ISH. What. A. Life.

[Prometheus]

these hoes out here very disloyal

what

[Prometheus]

Cries about his daddy gone on ISH. What. A. Life.

hey cutie

[AirTupac]

Daddy gone. Son's a loser :lol

[Prometheus]

I kinda wanna see what else you come up with

[stalkerforlife]

Daddy gone. Son's a loser :lol

May be part of the reason he alluded to me molesting my daughter; a man with a strong father presence knows you never go there.

A good father instills certain boundaries.

My father died and I had to learn the hard way.

Women talk shit all day with immunity most of the time.

[Prometheus]

May be part of the reason he alluded to me molesting my daughter; a man with a strong father presence knows you never go there.

A good father instills certain boundaries.

My father died and I had to learn the hard way.

Women talk shit all day with immunity most of the time.

You got me confused with someone else, buddy. I said some f*cked up shit to you, but I never said anything about you molesting your daughter.

[stalkerforlife]

You got me confused with someone else, buddy. I said some f*cked up shit to you, but I never said anything about you molesting your daughter.

You said "let him come back so he'll have less time to molest his daughter."

That is a fact.

You must drink or do drugs. Or statements like that are normal for you.

Wish I knew what thread it was.

[Prometheus]

You said "let him come back so he'll have less time to molest his daughter."

That is a fact.

You must drink or do drugs. Or statements like that are normal for you.

Wish I knew what thread it was.

Bro, I have said some very f*cked up things on these forums. I won't lie. I told Mask I would cut his throat in the wild. I told masonanddixon to kill himself (and I was being serious). And I said really shitty things to you. I have no problem admitting to the things I have said. But I'm not gonna sit here and pretend some shit that I never said. Idk who it was, but you straight up have me mistaken for someone else. Don't know what else to say about it. I would understand if you never forgive me for the shit I DID say. But I never ever said anything about you molesting your daughter. That was not me.

[HylianNightmare]

Pretty much the same thing happened to me I knew my dad until i was 2 he lived in the same state, but could never be bothered to actually show up I am down 29 and I have a 6 year old that I'm raising without his mother and his life but I wouldn't change anything for the world. I do hope that someday I can meet someone and have a family so that my son can have a stepmom but I do not know when or if my son's actual biological mother never be back in his life and she lives in the completely different side of the country way to Seattle as opposed to Florida. One of my ex's for had a pretty long relationship with the kid's dad wasn't around and he literally lived one town over just like the situation you're describing even made time spent with his other kid but not with the kid that was living with me it's crazy how big a piece of s*** some people can be to just walk out of a kid's life

[ArbitraryWater]

Pretty much the same thing happened to me I knew my dad until i was 2 he lived in the same state, but could never be bothered to actually show up I am down 29 and I have a 6 year old that I'm raising without his mother and his life but I wouldn't change anything for the world. I do hope that someday I can meet someone and have a family so that my son can have a stepmom but I do not know when or if my son's actual biological mother never be back in his life and she lives in the completely different side of the country way to Seattle as opposed to Florida. One of my ex's for had a pretty long relationship with the kid's dad wasn't around and he literally lived one town over just like the situation you're describing even made time spent with his other kid but not with the kid that was living with me it's crazy how big a piece of s*** some people can be to just walk out of a kid's life

Hang in there bro.

May your wishes come true

[Turbo Slayer]

damn. that sucks. God bless you in your future endeavors. Peace out.