Is it right to record your arguments behind your significant others backs?

[hateraid]

I find it invasive. I find a lot of white people do this. I just heard a conversation shared by a female friend sharing an argument. It was completely one sided of course as the woman wasn't going to say anything to put herself in a bad light. I felt bad for the dude even though he sounded like a raving madman. But that feels like entrapment.
In this day and age you need to watch your back.

[Charlie Sheen]

No. Definitely not right.

Not about watching your back though. This dude is allowing it by staying in that relationship.

[Joey Turnbuckle]

It's wrong if you're planning to stay in the relationship. I don't know why you'd do that behind your partner's back if you claim to love them.

If they are abusive and you're trying to divorce a wife or evict a girlfriend, then it's okay. Because you're trying to get them out of your life and aren't pretending like you love them. Showing a judge proof will help you.

[FultzNationRISE]

No. Definitely not right.

Not about watching your back though. This dude is allowing it by staying in that relationship.

Pretty much.

If relationship problems cause you to sound like a raving madman, that's probably a bigger issue than whether or not you're being recorded.

[hateraid]

Pretty much.

If relationship problems cause you to sound like a raving madman, that's probably a bigger issue than whether or not you're being recorded.

To be fair I felt for the guy. He was duped into saying what he said. It's a whole different conversation when only one person knows it's recorded. You can manipulate that conversation easy. I wanted to ask her what did you say to trigger the guy that wasn't recorded. None of my business. It was uncomfortable and unnecessary to share.

[scuzzy]

Easily one of the worst ways to ever trust somebody again.

I had one of my worst relationships take a picture of her arm that had got bruised when she swung at me while i was driving and blasted the steering wheel instead with a left hook.

She kept that shit and other weird material on her cell as some form of exit plan material of whatever the end game insurance was. We were in a higher point of our relationship when I saw it too so it was rough. She slipped by asking me to look at what pics she like of us on her cell. I had to execute a whole deuces strategy that involved my family, my boss, fake illnesses and days off work just to get out of that situation. She could keep the TV and cat and chrismas tree, idgaf

One time I picked her up from work when her car was in the shop. I was just killing time and chopping it up wither her coworkers until she got off shift. This chick ended up saying "i'll just get a ride home from ______, don't worry" 30 min later i'm at home chilling, cop knocks on the door with her and her friend. You're gf says she's scared for her safety and would like grab some of her things, we have to watch you outside Sir while she gets her posessions and stays at a friends house a while"

The reason.... She was convinced I kissed one of her co-workers in the 15 min I was waiting for her to get off work. :biggums:


One of the worst 2 years ever and I sacrificed so much sanity just to keep things financially for me stable. I'll probably do it a couple more times down the road too. Love is the worst

[hateraid]

Easily one of the worst ways to ever trust somebody again.

I had one of my worst relationships take a picture of her arm that had got bruised when she swung at me while i was driving and blasted the steering wheel instead with a left hook.

She kept that shit and other weird material on her cell as some form of exit plan material of whatever the end game insurance was. We were in a higher point of our relationship when I saw it too so it was rough. She slipped by asking me to look at what pics she like of us on her cell. I had to execute a whole deuces strategy that involved my family, my boss, fake illnesses and days off work just to get out of that situation. She could keep the TV and cat and chrismas tree, idgaf

One time I picked her up from work when her car was in the shop. I was just killing time and chopping it up wither her coworkers until she got off shift. This chick ended up saying "i'll just get a ride home from ______, don't worry" 30 min later i'm at home chilling, cop knocks on the door with her and her friend. You're gf says she's scared for her safety and would like grab some of her things, we have to watch you outside Sir while she gets her posessions and stays at a friends house a while"

The reason.... She was convinced I kissed one of her co-workers in the 15 min I was waiting for her to get off work. :biggums:


One of the worst 2 years ever and I sacrificed so much sanity just to keep things financially for me stable. I'll probably do it a couple more times down the road too. Love is the worst

Holy shitballs that's physcotic

[scuzzy]

Holy shitballs that's physcotic
Extremely manipulative. Some people are really good at hiding these features until your deep into the relationship. She was sexy little 100 lb chick that made me terrified so bad that it turned ME into a manipulative shitbag in my following relationships with others.

It's the worst when you finally catch on to the patterns and try to first reason with them, because you want to help and maybe they'll change. Because love and you believe in the good girl deep down. Only to learn their behavior is so hardwired by taboo upbringing that no amount of 'lets work on some thing' is worth the long effort.

Her reasoning with me was just another layer of calculation and role play. Really shook me up because you instantly realize how little attraction they truly have for you while spending the previous 6 months head over heals for them.

[hateraid]

Extremely manipulative. Some people are really good at hiding these features until your deep into the relationship. She was sexy little 100 lb chick that made me terrified so bad that it turned ME into a manipulative shitbag in my following relationships with others.

It's the worst when you finally catch on to the patterns and try to first reason with them, because you want to help and maybe they'll change. Because love and you believe in the good girl deep down. Only to learn their behavior is so hardwired by taboo upbringing that no amount of 'lets work on some thing' is worth the long effort.

Her reasoning with me was just another layer of calculation and role play. Really shook me up because you instantly realize how little attraction they truly have for you while spending the previous 6 months head over heals for them.

Women are capable of anything. They have the edge when it comes to perception too as recorded evidence will get the man ending up in jail. I couldn't imagine going through that

[scuzzy]

Women are capable of anything. They have the edge when it comes to perception too as recorded evidence will get the man ending up in jail. I couldn't imagine going through that
Eh, I don't think manipulation is really gender specific. Sure they have some leverage in rape and child custody cases. But even though 2 cops showed they immediately saw something was off from what she told them and how I presented myself. For one I was sober, in my work attire, eating dinner in a clean cut house without a lick of ounce of booze in sight. She told them I was loaded on pain killers, acting violent all day and wanted to get "her stuff'. Cops see enough domestic violence to know patterns and what fits the model. The house was in my name, the cars were my name, my criminal background has no violent offenses. After she showed them her entire one small bag of household possessions they made her cavalry of friends leave and started running their plates. She actually tried to take the dog until the cop realized she didn't own a vehicle or property to care for it. It was such a W bro move.

That was one of her final performances because at the end of it I was fleecing her at her own games.

Like anyone that's known and cared for an addict. They can be sober for months and feeling level headed, but the tornado that they created in your world is still spinning. That relationship made me paranoid of unordinary petty things in all my future ones since. It's not fair to them

So when people start recording you, that means they're already preparing for blackmail and to use as leverage. The only circumstance I can see this fitting is in cases of child custody. Or, employment compensation. IDK how it is in other states but here in OH you have to have a good amount of proof that you were wrongfully let go or fired to be approved Unemployment Insurance. If you're illegally told to work more than you should, record that shit.