Question for Muslim Posters

[hateraid]

When it comes to relationships why do Muslims bully the significant other to convert? Of all the relationships I know that has involved a Muslim individual and a non-Muslim it virtually always has the non-Muslim converting

Do you not believe in couples finding their own path? Is love not bigger than the religion you follow? Is the way to convert people to follow God is by example and not forced?

Sorry I'm coming off as aggressive but I've had a few friends date Muslims and regardless if they were Christian, Catholic, Agnostic....they convert for their partners and never the other way around. Just want to know your views on that.

[LeCola]

Because islam is the last abrahamic religion.

[Charlie Sheen]

When it comes to relationships why do Muslims bully the significant other to convert? Of all the relationships I know that has involved a Muslim individual and a non-Muslim it virtually always has the non-Muslim converting

Do you not believe in couples finding their own path? Is love not bigger than the religion you follow? Is the way to convert people to follow God is by example and not forced?

Sorry I'm coming off as aggressive but I've had a few friends date Muslims and regardless if they were Christian, Catholic, Agnostic....they convert for their partners and never the other way around. Just want to know your views on that.

Likely a coincidence they converted to muslim. Perhaps each of those friends was searching for something to belong to or a place to fit in.

[imdaman99]

Well if she loves me, she will convert for me :cheers:

But on the real, if conversations about being married are being had, the other side has to know that the only way to get married is she/he has to convert. I used to go out with a non-muslim girl and she was convinced she was going to marry me and said she would convert for me since she had done her research. I was hesitant on her converting for me... what happens if it doesn't work out? What was the point? I told her if you want to convert, do it for yourself and not me. Suffice to say, we broke up eventually. I didn't want the headache of being this girl's entire world (especially since she had a lot of issues mentally, was a dime though :lol )

If you wanna hold that against Islam and Muslims, that's on you. At least now you know why.

[hateraid]

Likely a coincidence they converted to muslim. Perhaps each of those friends was searching for something to belong to or a place to fit in.

Most were Catholics. But converted because their partner's family forced it upon them and said they couldn't date because they weren't Muslim. They did it mostly for their partners.

I just find this hard to accept as I was Catholic and my wife is Evangelical and I was never forced and did so voluntarily after years. I was never pressured to follow their form of Christianity.

I would heed anyone who dates a Muslim to be a red flag. The pressure is real.

[hateraid]

Well if she loves me, she will convert for me :cheers:

But on the real, if conversations about being married are being had, the other side has to know that the only way to get married is she/he has to convert. I used to go out with a non-muslim girl and she was convinced she was going to marry me and said she would convert for me since she had done her research. I was hesitant on her converting for me... what happens if it doesn't work out? What was the point? I told her if you want to convert, do it for yourself and not me. Suffice to say, we broke up eventually. I didn't want the headache of being this girl's entire world (especially since she had a lot of issues mentally, was a dime though :lol )

If you wanna hold that against Islam and Muslims, that's on you. At least now you know why.

Your personal account on it doesn't validate the masses. I have had several couples in that situation and all were converted to Muslim. The other way around wasn't an option. TBF the majority faked the conversion just to stay with their partners. But still Muslims put a lot of pressure on the couple.

[Charlie Sheen]

Most were Catholics. But converted because their partner's family forced it upon them and said they couldn't date because they weren't Muslim. They did it mostly for their partners.

I just find this hard to accept as I was Catholic and my wife is Evangelical and I was never forced and did so voluntarily after years. I was never pressured to follow their form of Christianity.

I would heed anyone who dates a Muslim to be a red flag. The pressure is real.

I hear you, but I think you're missing the pressure your friends put on themselves to convert. Loneliness is a powerful motivator.

[hateraid]

I hear you, but I think you're missing the pressure your friends put on themselves to convert. Loneliness is a powerful motivator.

True. Although they aren't really given an option. It's convert or don't be together. Not really a choice. To me that's bullying.

[imdaman99]

I hear you, but I think you're missing the pressure your friends put on themselves to convert. Loneliness is a powerful motivator.

This. Be with the one you've fallen in love with a little changes in your life via conversion... or let go of someone and risk missing out on your lobster because you wanna stick to something you cared very little about in the 1st place :lol pick your poison.

[Charlie Sheen]

True. Although they aren't really given an option. It's convert or don't be together. Not really a choice. To me that's bullying.

I kinda agree with this. It is a lot easier to look at these things rationally when I'm not personally involved. When I'm deep into a relationship the option to leave doesn't really feel like an option. :cheers:

[hateraid]

I kinda agree with this. It is a lot easier to look at these things rationally when I'm not personally involved. When I'm deep into a relationship the option to leave doesn't really feel like an option. :cheers:

Very much so. Which is why I think Muslims are very dated and close minded to have this approach.

[hateraid]

This. Be with the one you've fallen in love with a little changes in your life via conversion... or let go of someone and risk missing out on your lobster because you wanna stick to something you cared very little about in the 1st place :lol pick your poison.

Little changes in your life? Converting to Muslim is a little change?

You're doing a bad job justifying it here.

[iamgine]

When it comes to relationships why do Muslims bully the significant other to convert? Of all the relationships I know that has involved a Muslim individual and a non-Muslim it virtually always has the non-Muslim converting

Do you not believe in couples finding their own path? Is love not bigger than the religion you follow? Is the way to convert people to follow God is by example and not forced?

Sorry I'm coming off as aggressive but I've had a few friends date Muslims and regardless if they were Christian, Catholic, Agnostic....they convert for their partners and never the other way around. Just want to know your views on that.
afaik they don't bully but they are forbidden to marry other religion. If they have to marry someone non muslim, then clearly that's not the path meant for them.

It's not "love not bigger than religion". They'd think of it as love for God is bigger than love for human.

[Patrick Chewing]

Well if she loves me, she will convert for me :cheers:

But on the real, if conversations about being married are being had, the other side has to know that the only way to get married is she/he has to convert.


Where does it state this in the rule books of life?

[Kungfro]

I just find this hard to accept as I was Catholic and my wife is Evangelical and I was never forced and did so voluntarily after years. I was never pressured to follow their form of Christianity.

I would heed anyone who dates a Muslim to be a red flag. The pressure is real.

I don't think Islam is the issue, more the difference in core beliefs. Whether it's Christianity, Hinduism, Islam or atheism, religion plays such a big role in people's lives that not being on the same page inevitably causes issues. The problem is getting into a relationship expecting that these issues will just work themselves out.

I think it's a lot easier for catholics and evangelicals to coexist since they're not all that different at their core, but I know plenty of evangelicals that would be uncomfortable with an atheist. Convert or end the relationship.

[n00bie]

When it comes to relationships why do Muslims bully the significant other to convert? Of all the relationships I know that has involved a Muslim individual and a non-Muslim it virtually always has the non-Muslim converting

Do you not believe in couples finding their own path? Is love not bigger than the religion you follow? Is the way to convert people to follow God is by example and not forced?

Sorry I'm coming off as aggressive but I've had a few friends date Muslims and regardless if they were Christian, Catholic, Agnostic....they convert for their partners and never the other way around. Just want to know your views on that.

I grew up in a Christian school and went to church every sunday for most of my childhood.

They use to always tells us never to marry outside of your religion because you'd have to choose between God or your significant other.

Pretty much all religions teach you to either marry your own, or make sure they are converted before you marry them.