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[QUOTE=Myth]So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.[/QUOTE]
It doesn't concern me in the sense that it has nothing to do with what her and I have going on. So therefore in my mind what happened with her relationship history is irrelevant. However when it has been brought up, then yes I do start to get a little weird but I try to fight it off. For me, it's natural and it lets me know I truly do care for the girl.
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I don't really try and get into that but that goes both ways in the relationship for me because it can lead to the more inexperienced partner feeling insecure. But when it gets down to it you should always be able to tell if your girl is inexperienced, experienced, or a downright slut.
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Don't ask if you can't handle it. No doubt there's part of every girls past that the guy would rather believe never happened. If you like the person in front of you today then it shouldn't matter.
...but 80 dudes? I'm pretty good about putting a girls past out of mind but that would be a deal breaker for me. That is not a normal past.
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80 dudes? I've met some freaks that slept around and didnt come nowhere near that number. At any rate, dont ask what you cant handle. Thats the bottomline. If after 3 whole years nothing is wrong with the relationship stuff like that is something that shouldnt derail you two being together imo.
This topic smells like an exagerration. How many did your girlfriend tell you she actually slept with OP?
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[QUOTE=Scholar]I don't know. It's funny how true the statement "ignorance is bliss" really is. I'd rather not know the woman I'd contemplate spending my life with has slept with so many men.
I think in the long run, that would be a deal breaker for me. I can understand some people saying, "Well, the past is the past." But no. I don't like to think that way unless it's minuscule matters. A woman sleeping with 80 men isn't a small problem to me.[/QUOTE]
So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.
So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.
What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.
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[QUOTE=GOBB]So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.
So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.
What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.[/QUOTE]
you're right in that he should've never probed further into it .. let the past stay where it is, the past .. he liked everything about her .. great .. but he did find out .. it's done .. now he knows .. now he knows what most guys would dread knowing .. it's out in the open .. you don't have a problem knowing that your bride to be has had 80+ cocks in her snatch, mouth, ass ?
and how do you know she hasn't cheated on him .. her reputation says otherwise ..
his 'lady' has been used and abused like a cuum rag .. like an escort .. that's what his gf basically was before him .. an escort .. no, she was worse than an escort because she probably didn't get paid for each of those encounters :oldlol: .. would you marry an escort ? if you would, props to you for overlooking that .. but most men wouldn't
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[QUOTE=Myth]Is this a real scenario for you, or just a hypothetical situation? My first thought is: I believe a strong relationship is built on communication, so I would want to have a conversation about previous experiences, and this would take place WAY before 3 years has passed. Second, if she avoids such conversations, I would want to know even more and CERTAINLY wouldn't wait 3 years. Third, if a girl I'm with dropped a bombshell within a couple months that she has f*cked 80 guys, that would bother me, but if the girl makes me happy, she isn't pumped full of diseases, and that portion of her life is over, then I would work to get over it because at that point it is my issue and not hers. Hopefully, I could get over it. Finally, if a girl led me to believe that she had an average sex life previously or just a bit more than average, and then reveals that she had misled me for 3 years and had f*cked 80 guys, that would probably be a big enough deception for me to never trust her again and I would more than likely leave her. Not for sure, but my instinct says "what else does she keep from me?"[/QUOTE]
But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother?
I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.
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[QUOTE=lakers_forever]But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother ?
[B]I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys[/B], much less one of the others scenarios.[/QUOTE]
amen .. most guys would agree with that .. that's fkn insane .. the only guys I can see overlooking that are guys who are absolutely desperate and longing for companionship [I]from anyone[/I]
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It's not relevant unless it's something that will come up in the future (like it's a guy who is always around and you'll find out, or she has a kid, etc.). You can't worry about that past. And note: Guys want these virginal partners because they were never touched and they were jealous, please note that everyone gets curious. I'm not sure it's a good idea to be the first and only, as they'll be with you when the thought crosses their mind of what they missed.
And if you start finding out way too much (like you run into a guy every other day) then yes, she might have been a hoe and i don't think it's wrong if that changes your opinion on the woman.
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if she only had a few, cool.
if she opened up for half the army, best not to know.
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you should pretend to be confident and saying:
'80, ah, it doesn't matter,eh, 'cause I am gonna own your 1 inch deeper ****** which 80 men have never explored'
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Sleeping with 80 dudes is more than some Porn stars careers. Sleeping with 80 dudes means she has some serious problems relationships. It means she cant stay in a relationship but cant live with out one. I had a female friend who slept about 34 guys and she was about 19 at that time. She was batshit crazy.
The number of girls/boys someone says multiply/divide it by 3. If its a guy, take the number of girls they said and divide it by 3, if it's a girl take the number of guys and multiply if my 3.
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80?
[IMG]http://i.imgur.com/XNhfI.gif[/IMG]
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Stupid thread. Who cares? I have been with over 40, and it's not an issue. If both parties are just upfront about this, it shouldn't be an issue. If one person has an issue, then move on. I wouldn't want to be with someone that is petty and cares about stuff like that.
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[QUOTE=Myth]It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.[/QUOTE]
Exactly.
And why some women can't understand this simple concept has always baffled me. Men have to compete with one another to get picked as a mate or sexual partner. They have to display that they have the best genes or the most value. Women have to compete to with one another, but only for the BEST male. They can have sex any time they choose and can pick any mate they want, just not always with the best choice. However if they were to lower their standards as men have to do, they would get to pick from a long line of men. "Getting laid" is not something that can happen every day for the average guy. He has to navigate the maze of a women delicately in social situations to convince her he's the best pick. If a woman goes to a bar, night club or even a dating website looking for sex, and only wants sex, she will have ZERO problems getting it. Therefore, over time, women have gained negative connotations, because they are not "beating anyone" or doing anything remotely impressive, they are simply manipulating basic human biology for sexual gratification. And thus, terms such as "slut" and "whore" were manifested. I didn't even need to go into this long winded rant to make my point- think female prostitution. Is there a reason the porn industry is so huge but only for the male population? Is there a reason female prostitution is a global epidemic, but you don't hear problems about male prostitution? Why a female prostitute/female escort can make quite the living, while male prostitution isn't very profitable for the average guy?
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[QUOTE=DropStep]
The number of girls/boys someone says multiply/divide it by 3. If its a guy, take the number of girls they said and divide it by 3, if it's a girl take the number of guys and multiply if my 3.[/QUOTE]
Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.
80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.
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[quote=Overdrive]Don't know if that's a real question or a hypothetical one, but for in case:
Usually a girl doesn't go from 80 cocks to a single one.[/quote]
You could argue the other side you know.
That a girl who has been around knows what she wants, while a girl with very limited experience will start to get the hunger.
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[QUOTE=Raz]Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.
80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.[/QUOTE]
wow :oldlol:
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[QUOTE=Raz]Yes, listen to the guy that relies on American Pie 2 for knowledge.
80 isn't that many if you travel and never commit. I would expect a chick that is 28 that has never been in a serious relationship to have many partners. Maybe not 80, but who really cares what the number is. As long as they were safe, it's all good fun.[/QUOTE]
Are you serious?
80 isn't that many for a 28 year old chick?
Anyways... I guess if you've been with the chick for three years and your dick hasn't fallen off yet...
it might not be such a big deal, but before you enter into a serious relationship... you might want to do a little interrogating.
I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...
Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.
I usually work my way into the "NUMBER" question... I don't just flat out ask "HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU F*CKED?"
it usually goes something like this:
"Ever been with a black guy? Ever hooked up with a chick? Do you still know the exact
number of guys you've been with (if not, can you give me an estimate)?"
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let's do the math .. 80 by the age of 28 .. that's 8 every year since age 18 .. that's ****ing 1 guy about every 1.5 months for 10 yrs straight .. na not much at all
this 18 yr old told me she had fked 12 guys in the past year(she was a virgin the year before) .. so that actually means about 20 guys in a year .. that's more than one guy every month she was fking .. and then she told me this gem .. she said she wanted to fk 100 guys by the age of 32 .. said she wanted to 'have fun while she was still young' .. say you're in your 30s and you meet this girl after she's done with her 'adventure' .. you'd be proud to bring that home to mama raz ? :oldlol:
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I try to hook up with chicks that have been in long term relationships...
If a woman's (age 25-35) longest relationship is only a year or two...
something is probably wrong with her, and more importantly...
it usually means she's slept with a lot of dudes.
If you're hooking up with chick that's been in a 7-8 year relationship...
Unless she's a cheating scandalous whore, it usually means the number
of guys she's slept with is pretty low.
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[QUOTE=dude77]let's do the math .. 80 by the age of 28 .. that's 8 every year since age 18 .. that's ****ing 1 guy about every 1.5 months for 10 yrs straight .. na not much at all
this 18 yr old told me she had fked 12 guys in the past year(she was a virgin the year before) .. so that actually means about 20 guys in a year .. that's more than one guy every month she was fking .. and then she told me this gem .. she said she wanted to fk 100 guys by the age of 32 .. said she wanted to 'have fun while she was still young' .. say you're in your 30s and you meet this girl after she's done with her 'adventure' .. you'd be proud to bring that home to mama raz ? :oldlol:[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't care. It depends on the person they are today. I know I have been with quite a few people, so I can't judge. If I could erase some of them, sure, that would be great. However, it's all a learning curve - helped me to be the man I am today.
8 people a year is not that many.
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[QUOTE=Riddler]Are you serious?
80 isn't that many for a 28 year old chick?
Anyways... I guess if you've been with the chick for three years and your dick hasn't fallen off yet...
it might not be such a big deal, but before you enter into a serious relationship... you might want to do a little interrogating.
I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...
Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.
I usually work my way into the "NUMBER" question... I don't just flat out ask "HOW MANY GUYS HAVE YOU F*CKED?"
it usually goes something like this:
"Ever been with a black guy? Ever hooked up with a chick? Do you still know the exact
number of guys you've been with (if not, can you give me an estimate)?"[/QUOTE]
yeah I agree, the "number" is bound to come up in conversation one way or another just due to talking about sex and past sexual experiences with a girl...it's kind of unavoidable unless you just keep that subject hush hush altogether
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[QUOTE=The Macho Man]You sound like an insane person.[/QUOTE]
okay? :confusedshrug:
Let me clarify:
On the dating website that I use to go to...
The profile would state what the woman's longest relationship has been.
For example:
[IMG]http://i613.photobucket.com/albums/tt216/Doomsday2036/Screenshot2012-08-16at111000AM.png[/IMG]
This chick is 29 years old and the longest relationship she's been in is under a year.... I'll pass.
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[QUOTE=The Macho Man]You sound like an insane person.[/QUOTE]
He also sounds insecure.
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If she's sticks around after sleeping with 80 doods you must be a champ in the sack. Just make sure she's not targeting 80 more.
Personally I'd rather know that detail than finding out she had slept with a close friend before I had met her.
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[QUOTE=Raz]He also sounds insecure.[/QUOTE]
how is that?...he is making perfect sense to me
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[QUOTE=Riddler]okay? :confusedshrug:
Let me clarify:
On the dating website that I use to go to...
The profile would state what the woman's longest relationship has been.
For example:
[IMG]http://i613.photobucket.com/albums/tt216/Doomsday2036/Screenshot2012-08-16at111000AM.png[/IMG]
This chick is 29 years old and the longest relationship she's been in is under a year.... I'll pass.[/QUOTE]
yeah she is insane or weighs 300 lbs...one or the other
if she had her shit together she would have been a few long term relationships...
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so raz you'd be ok with marrying a porn star or an escort .. taking her as your beloved wife .. that's crazy shit .. to each his own
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[QUOTE=Raz]He also sounds insecure.[/QUOTE]
what part of my post made me sound insecure?... please explain.
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[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]how is that?...he is making perfect sense to me[/QUOTE]
It's clear he has issues with how many d[COLOR="Black"]i[/COLOR]cks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.
Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.
A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.
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[QUOTE=Raz]It's clear he has issues with how many d[COLOR="Black"]i[/COLOR]cks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.
Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.
A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.[/QUOTE]
has nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the chick having self respect .. if she doesn't have any self respect as a lady why should I respect her ? in fact, that's just it .. I won't respect her if I know she's stuffed 80 different cocks into her mouth .. bitches who go around sucking every guy's dick are trashy and not worthy of being made into a wife .. of course though .. there will always be some sucker out there who will marry them after they've been used up like a cuum rag ..
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so what's the story op .. is this person you or what's the deal
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[QUOTE=Raz]It's clear he has issues with how many d[COLOR="Black"]i[/COLOR]cks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.
Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.
A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.[/QUOTE]
there is nothing insecure about wanting a girl that doesn't have a damn sex addiction...
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[QUOTE=Rasheed1]It depends.. Only advice I ever give to other dudes on the subject is
"Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers"
If you can handle it? go ahead and ask
If you can't? acknowledge that and don't ask.. If you trust her, then that's what is important.
When you cant' handle it, you f*ck your own head up by finding out thing s you don't need to know.
Women do things.... don't doubt it.. but you don't always need to know everything[/QUOTE]
Reminds me of that Chris Rock joke: "No matter how many she says, to us it's always going to be too many. "TWO! Well I guess that's how you were raised"
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[QUOTE=Raz]It's clear he has issues with how many d[COLOR="Black"]i[/COLOR]cks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.
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I'll admit that I might feel a little insecure if the girl I'm with has f*cked 80 black guys before me... Maybe then I'll be a little worried if I "measure up".
Also... I remember learning about STD's in High School... You must have skipped class that day. (That's the main reason I want to know my partners
sexual history).
And most of the women I date want a serious relationship... I'm the one
that's trying to keep things casual...
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[QUOTE=dude77]has nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the chick having self respect .. if she doesn't have any self respect as a lady why should I respect her ? in fact, that's just it .. I won't respect her if I know she's stuffed 80 different cocks into her mouth .. bitches who go around sucking every guy's dick are trashy and not worthy of being made into a wife .. of course though .. there will always be some sucker out there who will marry them after they've been used up like a cuum rag ..[/QUOTE]
Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?
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[QUOTE=Raz]Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?[/QUOTE]
I personally do. To give an arbitrary number of what's more acceptable, perhaps 20-25 at most for me - this applying to both guys and girls.
Not to say that I hold sex sacred or overly value sex, but to me a girl (or guy) that's slept with ~80 guys DOES make me uncomfortable. Whether it be because of fears of measuring up, uncomfortable with the idea she's just straight up been with so many guys, jealousy.
I think it's perfectly reasonable for any guy (or girl) to feel like that when a prospective girlfriend/boyfriend has been with 80+ people, it feels like that they don't hold at least some sort of standard for giving it away and that they don't value their bodies somewhat (not saying that this is the case, but human nature would incline most to feel this way).
Since you're so liberal on the idea of sexual partners - would you be the kind willing to date/marry porn stars and prostitutes or is that a different scale.
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I think for me at my age for a woman
1-10 partners = inexperienced
10-20 partners = normal
20-30 partners = a little more than average
30-40 partners = "been around"
40+ = will likely cheat on you eventually, possible sex addiction
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[QUOTE=Raz]Do you hold the same standard to men? [/QUOTE]
why would I feel the need to ?
you liberals/feminists crack me up ..
contrary to what y'all have been brainwashing the masses with for decades now .. men and women are not [I]equal[/I] .. not the same .. not anything .. so we are not going to have the same [I]standards[/I]