Knowing your girlfriends sexual past, good or bad idea?

Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?

[QUOTE=LongBeachLakers]Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?[/QUOTE]

80 men before my c0ck? :facepalm

80 men? Jesus christ that's a lot. I don't know, if the number was that high it would probably be an issue.

You've spent 3+ years together and feel strongly enough about her to at least think of a life together.

You seem to have no thought that she's cheated on you during that time.

WTF would you worry about ancient history as opposed to the opinion you've developed of a person you know and care about?

Life is easy. People make it difficult.

her pu[U]ss[/U]y must be looser than laffy taffy

That probably means the actual number is around 200 or so

I have a few male friends that have slept around that much, so the only way the math makes sense is if there are also women that have slept around that much as well...



that's rough if you really like her, idk...tough call

its a good thing to know within the first few months before you get serious because it can hurt in the long run finding out. If she slept with many men and you aren't as equal to with woman you'll feel a bit strange. 80 men? she tryna break a record?

[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]That probably means the actual number is around 200 or so

I have a few male friends that have slept around that much, so the only way the math makes sense is if there are also women that have slept around that much as well...



that's rough if you really like her, idk...tough call[/QUOTE]
This is true, it's like they said in American Pie II, for boys divide their number by three to get the truth, for girls, multiply it by 3.

So if she says 80, it means more like 240

Wilt's sister?

Only date virgins.

It depends.. Only advice I ever give to other dudes on the subject is

"Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers"

If you can handle it? go ahead and ask


If you can't? acknowledge that and don't ask.. If you trust her, then that's what is important.

When you cant' handle it, you f*ck your own head up by finding out thing s you don't need to know.

Women do things.... don't doubt it.. but you don't always need to know everything

Honestly if you care about her that much, that number shouldn't mean much to you. But just know that your girlfriend is a h0, you can't take the h0 out of a woman...ever

I don't know. It's funny how true the statement "ignorance is bliss" really is. I'd rather not know the woman I'd contemplate spending my life with has slept with so many men.

I think in the long run, that would be a deal breaker for me. I can understand some people saying, "Well, the past is the past." But no. I don't like to think that way unless it's minuscule matters. A woman sleeping with 80 men isn't a small problem to me.

If I have slept with a woman I think I can get a decent gauge on how many men she has been with without her telling me a damn thing...

It's usually pretty obvious when a girl has been around...



If you really "know" her then it should be fairly obvious I think

[QUOTE=LongBeachLakers]Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?[/QUOTE]

Don't know if that's a real question or a hypothetical one, but for in case:
Usually a girl doesn't go from 80 cocks to a single one. So either it's made up or the feelings are that strong that cocks don't matter anymore.

So in case it's about you, if she was true to you after having that much **** you're probably special to her. It might hurt, but think about that. Even if you didn't know she had that much she always had 'em, but that's the past. She didn't change, she didn't cheat on you. Maybe talk about it why she settled down.

If it's hypothetical, I would want to know but it should be clear that history shouldn't come up that much. I wouldn't want that 80 cocks be rubbed into my face all the time. Neclecting the past is way worse though. Things might accidently come up late or at the worst moments.

[QUOTE=The Macho Man]I don't think it would bother me too much though. I just wouldn't want to know who the guys were. If she banged a dude I knew that'd be really weird to me.[/QUOTE]

Even if you don't know the names it's gonna depend on how good you are at letting stuff go. If you are paranoid about it you're gonna find yourself sitting in movie theaters, sporting events, etc. knowing that odds are pretty good at least one guy in there has had it in with your girl at some point.:banghead:

When I'm having sex the last thing on my mind is who else ****ed this chick. If you're thinking about other guys while you're having sex then you're probably gay.

if she was a mad ho, there will be some signs before the 3 yrs.

and her "friends" who are secretly jealous of her will probably tell you some dirt a time or few.

I am not one to ask for a number, but I'm not looking for a long term thing right now either. but if she's been around the block a few hundred times I don't think i would be able to handle that. I would rather play the fool and not know

What do you do with a girls number? Is it ever honest? Some like to make you jealous and say more, some don't want to seem slutty and say less, others are just honest and say the actual amount.
I take it all with a grain of salt. If you want to be together, that is all that matters.

man you rather not know. it will mess you up i promise.

There is absolutely nothing good about knowing the number, unless she is a virgin. Any number greater than zero is gonna piss you off.

You guys are picky. I would rather sleep with a whore than a virgin. At least I'll have fun, right?

[QUOTE=LongBeachLakers]Let's say you started Dating a girl. You really like her and she's really great. You ask her about her sexual past and she tends to avoid that conversation hinting at the fact that she's had a few shares of co.ck. youu don't know how many, but whatever you dropped the convo. Fast forward 3 years and you really like her and contemplating spending your life with her. She drops the bombshell 3 years later that she had a slutty past and slept around with 80 men. Would you rather know this or not? Would you continue on with your relationship with her or is it too much to handle?[/QUOTE]

Is this a real scenario for you, or just a hypothetical situation? My first thought is: I believe a strong relationship is built on communication, so I would want to have a conversation about previous experiences, and this would take place WAY before 3 years has passed. Second, if she avoids such conversations, I would want to know even more and CERTAINLY wouldn't wait 3 years. Third, if a girl I'm with dropped a bombshell within a couple months that she has f*cked 80 guys, that would bother me, but if the girl makes me happy, she isn't pumped full of diseases, and that portion of her life is over, then I would work to get over it because at that point it is my issue and not hers. Hopefully, I could get over it. Finally, if a girl led me to believe that she had an average sex life previously or just a bit more than average, and then reveals that she had misled me for 3 years and had f*cked 80 guys, that would probably be a big enough deception for me to never trust her again and I would more than likely leave her. Not for sure, but my instinct says "what else does she keep from me?"

Ive not wanted to know for many years. Gotta leave questions like that in your teens. care about hers when you want her to care about yours.

Make it even. Sleep with about 80 women.

80 means more like 120 or like someone else said 200 .. but it's definitely more than 80 .. which means that she's an ultra whore .. best of the best .. they always downplay the number ..

I'd have more of a problem that she told you this 3 yrs later .. she lied to begin with by being evasive about the topic .. that means she felt shame over that and she was being already being deceptive at the beginning ..

what else has she lied to you about ?(that you don't know about of course) that stud coworker she's been blowing at lunch break ?(remember sex comes easy to her .. she doesn't need much/if any at all emotional attachment) ..

if she's banged that many, that means she has absolutely no qualms about fking any guy .. I highly doubt she's suddenly going to retire her pssy and give it solely to you .. unless you're some holy god that we don't know about which in that case props to you .. but otherwise, that's not realistic from chicks like this .. she'll 'get hers' even if/when you're married .. even if not at the beginning .. she'll get that itch eventually .. I'd have a huge problem with this

Don't ask, don't tell, don't pursue.

I don't talk about the dirt that I did when I was single and I don't want to know what my girl did. No good can come from this conversation.

[QUOTE=dude77]80 means more like 120 or like someone else said 200 .. but it's definitely more than 80 .. which means that she's an ultra whore .. best of the best .. they always downplay the number ..

[B]I'd have more of a problem that she told you this 3 yrs later .. she lied to begin with by being evasive about the topic .[/B]. that means she felt shame over that and she was being already being deceptive at the beginning ..

what else has she lied to you about ?(that you don't know about of course) that stud coworker she's been blowing at lunch break ?(remember sex comes easy to her .. she doesn't need much/if any at all emotional attachment) ..

if she's banged that many, that means she has absolutely no qualms about fking any guy .. I highly doubt she's suddenly going to retire her pssy and give it solely to you .. unless you're some holy god that we don't know about which in that case props to you .. but otherwise, that's not realistic from chicks like this .. she'll 'get hers' even if/when you're married .. even if not at the beginning .. she'll get that itch eventually .. I'd have a huge problem with this[/QUOTE]

Exactly.

[QUOTE=LA_Showtime]You guys are picky. I would rather sleep with a whore than a virgin. At least I'll have fun, right?[/QUOTE]
This :oldlol:

How do you **** 80 dudes, though? That's ****ing crazy; props to her.

[QUOTE=ace23]This :oldlol:

How do you **** 80 dudes, though? That's ****ing crazy; props to her.[/QUOTE]

It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.

80 other niggehs? :yaohappy:

[QUOTE=Myth]It's a lot easier for a girl to find 80 partners than a guy. A girl could go out to a club any night and get f*cked if she wants.[/QUOTE]


This.

I know how some women can be. I've had sex with a good amount of women (won't say the number because it really doesn't matter) and it was incredibly easy to get them into bed. Even got it in within hours of first meeting them. It could be my looks, personality, or their willingness to sleep with a guy they barely know, I'll never find out the reason. It doesn't matter though.

My dad always told me, "If a girl wants to have sex, she's going to have sex. There's nothing you can do to stop her." And it's true. If you're not giving her the d***, then some other dude is. This can cause some men to become incredibly insecure because this is always in the back of their head. (I know because I've been there before)

To answer the original question, I never ask and I've rarely had a girl ask me. When they do, I lie about it if I care about them (which I think the majority of people do.) What they've done in their past really doesn't concern me, because if I really care about her I only care about the present and the future.

[QUOTE=chosen_one6]
What they've done in their past really doesn't concern me, because if I really care about her I only care about the present and the future.[/QUOTE]

So if you were with a girl you loved, you wouldn't be curious about her childhood even?

[QUOTE=Nick Young]This is true, it's like they said in American Pie II, for boys divide their number by three to get the truth, for girls, multiply it by 3.

So if she says 80, it means more like 240[/QUOTE]

In this case, I doubt it. If its something that she was hiding and it was bothering her that much, I would think she would just tell the whole truth instead of half-assing it. 80 is alot already, but 80 vs. 240 is a smaller difference then 20 vs. 60 for example, not mathematically but in how a person would react.

[QUOTE=Myth]So if you were with a girl you loved, you wouldn't be curious about her childhood even?[/QUOTE]

That statement was really meant more for relationships and sexual history. I didn't make that clear though so that's my bad.

:biggums: 80 men holy shit. How does it fill sticking you're dick in there it must be like trying to stick it through a hooley hoop

[QUOTE=chosen_one6]That statement was really meant more for relationships and sexual history. I didn't make that clear though so that's my bad.[/QUOTE]

I was just teasing. But I always ask out of pure curiosity. When I'm with a girl that I love, I want to know all about her life, the good and the bad. It gives me a better understanding of who she is, just like knowing about her childhood would.

[QUOTE=Myth]I was just teasing. But I always ask out of pure curiosity. When I'm with a girl that I love, I want to know all about her life, the good and the bad. It gives me a better understanding of who she is, just like knowing about her childhood would.[/QUOTE]

I like it when my girl is open but when they start talking about history with the opposite sex it always pushes a button that I don't like to be pressed. It's weird, I feel like a little kid that sees his crush talking to another guy.

rather know, everyone has a past, doesn't change the person you love today.

that's what i tell myself but in reality the past drives me craxy

[QUOTE=chosen_one6]I like it when my girl is open but when they start talking about history with the opposite sex it always pushes a button that I don't like to be pressed. It's weird, I feel like a little kid that sees his crush talking to another guy.[/QUOTE]

So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.