Forget clubbing and go ballroom, swing, jazz, etc. dancing

Friday night went to a swing dancing place for the first time (and jazz dance), and holy shit, that is the place to pick of girls. Unlike clubbing where guys often become creepers and disgust girls by their actions, dancing at these places are much easier to just go up to a girl and say "Want to dance?" It also isn't louder than shit, so you can have a conversation so you can really find an in. At a club, girls will avoid you frequently if you try to go dance with them. At a place like this, not a single girl said no to a dance, and then you have them at minimum for the rest of the song to strike a conversation.

You missed the most important part. You don't have to listen to shit music.

OP is a wise man indeed. :cheers:

I think a lot of people are just worried about being judged for not knowing how the hell to swing/jazz dance...and yes that includes me :lol

OP speakin the truth :applause:

[QUOTE=The Macho Man]Well did you pick up a girl?

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Yes. I actually hit it off quite well with 2, but one had a friend interrupt. I was going to try to get her number before she left, but next thing I knew I was dancing with the other one that I hit it off with, so never got a number from the 1st.

[QUOTE=sunsfan1357]I think a lot of people are just worried about being judged for not knowing how the hell to swing/jazz dance...and yes that includes me :lol[/QUOTE]

You know, I think in a small way it went to my advantage that I didn't know how do either dance. They had 45 minute classes that were split among experience levels before the dance. The moment I started dancing with a girl, I used a little self-deprecating humor about being bad at dancing and eventually they would ask how long I have been dancing those styles and I would say "Since today." If you can keep any beat at all even if you didn't know any fancy moves, they all pretty much seemed impressed. Also, by not being able to do anything fancy, that meant it was easier to stay face to face and talk, rather than constantly spinning around and only getting words in here and there.

right on man. i've been clubbing a lot more frequently lately and i just hate it. every so often i can get "in" with a girl by a sorta blind approach method, but it's always dark loud and crowded, all factors that i think work against my best features. i started looking for jazz clubs that weren't too 'loungy' in a gentlemans club sort of way a month ago but they aren't easy to find.... most tend to be membership oriented, which means exclusive and expensive. my city might not be as big as yours which isn't helping.

and as for the music, i can dig it every so often but there isn't a goddamn bar or club i've been to in this city (halifax, nova scotia) that doesn't play top 40 hip hop or combos of classic and indie rock.... typically its one or the other and is pretty much the difference between a club and a pub. i like some variety and its a goddamn blast shakin ur tailfeather to like big band music or swingin soul or anything like that.... shame there isnt much of a market for it.

best bet is keeping your ear to the ground for special events. there was a $10 prohibition themed party in like a giant auditorium that i really wanted to go to but had to work. hopefully another pops up soon.

[QUOTE]If you can keep any beat at all even if you didn't know any fancy moves, they all pretty much seemed impressed.[/QUOTE]
aha this is awesome. god bless the meathead for lowering everybody's standards so we all seem like tony bennett.

I'd agree with this. I only know how to two-step and that's pretty much only from watching people and going up blindly and trying it with random women.

Two-stepping is easy though. I usually only like to spin with girls that I know (usually friends) because I'm actually trying to have a conversation with girls I don't know.

[QUOTE=The Macho Man]Did you go alone?[/QUOTE]

I went with a meetup group. I only knew one of the guys (barely) before I went. More were supposed to go, but only 4 showed up (including me) and after the first 1.5 hours, we lost track of each other, so I spent the rest of the night only talking to the female persuasion.

I think it is also worth noting that I didn't go in planning on picking anybody up. I went to learn how to dance so that maybe in the future I could get decent and use it to my advantage. Little did I know that it would be so effective on day 1.

My thoughts on dancing are similar to the concept of running away from a bear. I don't need to be faster than the bear, I just can't be the slowest. With dancing, I don't need to be great, but if I'm adequate and better than some others, I will still look good.

[QUOTE=sunsfan1357]I think a lot of people are just worried about being judged for not knowing how the hell to swing/jazz dance...and yes that includes me :lol[/QUOTE]
take classes. I did and it was awesome. I met some cute girls there.

I wonder if Bladers has tried this

I always go to nice jazz clubs or lounges with live music. Unless it's a strip club, that's different though. Biches can't get down to no Thelonious Monk.

I'm a Swing dancer since 2010 and when you're good, the girls never stop to ask you to dance :rockon:

[QUOTE=QuebecBaller]I'm a Swing dancer since 2010 and when you're good, [B]the girls never stop to ask you to dance[/B] :rockon:[/QUOTE]

Note to self, don't get good at swing dancing.

[QUOTE=Myth]Note to self, don't get good at swing dancing.[/QUOTE]

No way. That means they know youre the man.

[quote=L.Kizzle]I always go to nice jazz clubs or lounges with live music. Unless it's a strip club, that's different though. Biches can't get down to no Thelonious Monk.[/quote]

Yeah I don't know what the hell OP is talking about. Dafuq are these jazz clubs with dancefloors?

:biggums:

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]I always go to nice jazz clubs or lounges with live music. Unless it's a strip club, that's different though. Biches can't get down to no Thelonious Monk.[/QUOTE]

This. Clubbing gets you generally low class girls. Essentially you need to get them without talking because you can't hear anything, and if you are getting girls without talking, they probably aren't A+ rank.

Swing is making a huge comeback and a lot of places are jumping on the bandwagon. It's 1995 right?

What a bunch of queers.

I go to clubs to hook up end of story. I want to finger bang the bitch on the floor, grab her tits and ass right there and then.

SMH @ the " low class" comment. You don't go to clubs to meet your lifamate, you go to F*ck.

Now if you want the best of both worlds, you go to salsa clubs.

ROFL@ swing

THE SPECTRUM from douche/moron to lame/puss

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This is definitely gonna help me out in the future :lol :cheers:

[QUOTE=MtMutombo]THE SPECTRUM from douche/moron to lame/puss

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Apparently wanting to get some ass makes one a douche

:rolleyes:


For the record, I've been to a number of jazz clubs. They're ok if you want to listen to jazz, not the place to pick up a bitch to **** (oh wait, wanting to pick up on bitches makes me a douche).

Tried a Swing club

i enjoy line dancing, great time.

i like going to country clubs on college night.. so many girls and OP is right these girls dont say no to a dance!!

[QUOTE=Myth]Friday night went to a swing dancing place for the first time (and jazz dance), and holy shit, that is the place to pick of girls. Unlike clubbing where guys often become creepers and disgust girls by their actions, dancing at these places are much easier to just go up to a girl and say "Want to dance?" It also isn't louder than shit, so you can have a conversation so you can really find an in. At a club, girls will avoid you frequently if you try to go dance with them. At a place like this, not a single girl said no to a dance, and then you have them at minimum for the rest of the song to strike a conversation.[/QUOTE]

People shit on me for saying this, but the best place to see girls is a coffee shop or bookstore. Then you know they can read.

It's not really like you can go up and ask them to dance, but it's not that hard to start talking with someone.

I'm tellin' ya...

-Smak

[QUOTE=andgar923]What a bunch of queers.

I go to clubs to hook up end of story. I want to finger bang the bitch on the floor, grab her tits and ass right there and then.

SMH @ the " low class" comment. You don't go to clubs to meet your lifamate, you go to F*ck.

Now if you want the best of both worlds, you go to salsa clubs.

ROFL@ swing[/QUOTE]

That shit is depressing, man. Cuz you know if it wasn't you, it'd be someone else. And that same bitch is probably there every night getting the same treatment.

I'm not a warm hole type. I know (or hope) you're trolling though.

-Smak

[QUOTE=ILLsmak]That shit is depressing, man. Cuz you know if it wasn't you, it'd be someone else. And that same bitch is probably there every night getting the same treatment.

I'm not a warm hole type. I know (or hope) you're trolling though.

-Smak[/QUOTE]

Bunch of sensitive ass dudes in here.

So now it's depressing to get freaky on the dance floor with bitches?

No I'm not trolling, this was the norm back in the day. I'd go out, look for some bitch to ****, at times I was successful at times I wasn't. At times I got to rub and feel on ass and tits, at times I wasn't, that's how it goes down. And it wasn't like it was forced or anything, if any of you actually went clubbing shit just evolves into that.

Used to go to a salsa club because it was packed with girls but I stopped going because I cant salsa dance and I'm not about to pay for lessons and invest serious time into that just to get an in with girls.

It seemed to me that in order to get into this scene you habe to actually love the dancing aspect and I just can't get into it like that, dancing doesn't appeal to me. More power to those of you that do love it though, it does seem like a great "in"

[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]Used to go to a salsa club because it was packed with girls but I stopped going because I cant salsa dance and I'm not about to pay for lessons and invest serious time into that just to get an in with girls.

It seemed to me that in order to get into this scene you habe to actually love the dancing aspect and I just can't get into it like that, dancing doesn't appeal to me. More power to those of you that do love it though, it does seem like a great "in"[/QUOTE]

YOu don't really have to be a great dancer tho (I wasn't). Just know enough to get by. My main objective was to try to eventually get the girl really close to me, I didn't go there with the intention to 'dance'

[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]Used to go to a salsa club because it was packed with girls but I stopped going because I cant salsa dance and I'm not about to pay for lessons and invest serious time into that just to get an in with girls.

It seemed to me that in order to get into this scene you habe to actually love the dancing aspect and I just can't get into it like that, dancing doesn't appeal to me. More power to those of you that do love it though, it does seem like a great "in"[/QUOTE]
Salsa is not really easy for a beginner, Merengue is much easier for someone who can't dance or doesn't have any experience with it imo. That said, I'm pathetic at both, which really sucks when your gf is Venezuelan.

[QUOTE=andgar923]YOu don't really have to be a great dancer tho (I wasn't). Just know enough to get by. My main objective was to try to eventually get the girl really close to me, I didn't go there with the intention to 'dance'

[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]Idk, at the salsa club I went to you def had to know a little somethin

Salsa might be different though, some of the guys could do some seriously fancy shit...[B]I suspect the guys that were amazing at it were gay though lol.[/B][/QUOTE]

That's sometimes the case, but more even commonly it's the other way around. Latin women usually associate being good at dancing with being good in bed.

[QUOTE=Lebowsky]That's sometimes the case, but more even commonly it's the other way around. Latin women usually associate being good at dancing with being good in bed.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, understandable...lots of hip movement involved

[QUOTE=-p.tiddy-]Idk, at the salsa club I went to you def had to know a little somethin

Salsa might be different though, some of the guys could do some seriously fancy shit...I suspect the guys that were amazing at it were gay though lol.[/QUOTE]

Here's the trick

This is something I've been thinking about lately. I really want to learn ballroom. That's something that will come in handy down the road. I can't imagine being with a girl and at like 40 or 50 going to a night club.

[QUOTE=RoseCity07]This is something I've been thinking about lately. I really want to learn ballroom. That's something that will come in handy down the road. I can't imagine being with a girl and at like 40 or 50 going to a night club.[/QUOTE]

I say go for it.

I went back today because I had a free 1 on 1 lesson scheduled after last Friday. Danced for a little bit at the open dance floor, but left early due to work in the morning (and medical shit before work) and already having a date scheduled for Friday with the girl I hit it off with last time I went.

[QUOTE=ILLsmak]People shit on me for saying this, but the best place to see girls is a coffee shop or bookstore. Then you know they can read.

It's not really like you can go up and ask them to dance, but it's not that hard to start talking with someone.

I'm tellin' ya...

-Smak[/QUOTE]
I used to travel to LA a lot and i remember someone telling me to go pick up girls in Borders. It was true too, you could walk over and start talking.

damn, i need some wing-men like this.

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