Should I have slept with her?

So here is the story/problem.
I am a happy married man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.

My life used to have excitement now it is rather mundane, this girl makes me feel young again.

So staff party was yesterday(wife was out of town) and she wants to slow dance with me in front of all my work colleagues, of course I said no and we had a big fight. She is leaving the office and I may never see her again.

I am in love with her and feel like a wimp for not sealing the deal, however there would be bad consequences if I did.

Do you think I made a mistake not sleeping with her?

You got a four year-old kid brah. Don't be an ass

Probably not now that you've dug yourself into a hole with the marriage and a kid.

[QUOTE=KingBeasley08]You got a four year-old kid brah. Don't be an ass[/QUOTE]
This.

Not sure why you got married to and had children. You clearly weren't prepared mentally.

I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.

It was tough and I still think of her. It just wasn't for the sex we had a intense relationship. As far as not being emotionally ready to merry that's not true. I love my wife and have been with her for 10 years, you can and just might fall in love with another women. It sucks, I am guessing this might be what they call a midlife crisis.

Thanks for the advice. Still doesn't make it any easier.

[QUOTE=Meticode]I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.[/QUOTE]
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And for those that judge, remember until you walk in another mans shoes try to keep an open mind.

Wow you're an idiot. Your wife's out of town... Wtf do you think she's doing? Your wife is clearly fcking another man, you should have just slept with your coworker :facepalm

[QUOTE=1987_Lakers]:roll:[/QUOTE]
What's so funny?

[QUOTE=SUNNYSIDEUP]So here is the story/problem.
I am a [B]happy married[/B] man with a great wife and a awesome four year old, but I want more. I have been working closely with an incredibly good looking 25 year who most would think is out of my league. She is ten years my junior. She wanted our relationship to go to the next level, I mean she describes what she wants me to do to her and the shit is crazy good.
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Are you really though?

[QUOTE=Meticode]What's so funny?[/QUOTE]

Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.

If you still love your wife and you love your kids, the moment you stick your p[COLOR="Black"]e[/COLOR]nis in that v[COLOR="Black"]a[/COLOR]gina that you're not married to and you finish, the very second you finish you're going to feel guilty as hell afterwards.

If you don't feel guilty you don't love your kids or wife.

[QUOTE=1987_Lakers]Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.[/QUOTE]
She is great, my actions were my actions alone. And what I did was a mistake. You wouldn't understand I suppose.

[QUOTE=Meticode]If you still love your wife and you love your kids, the moment you stick your p[COLOR="Black"]e[/COLOR]nis in that v[COLOR="Black"]a[/COLOR]gina that you're not married to and you finish, the very second you finish you're going to feel guilty as hell afterwards.

If you don't feel guilty you don't love your kids or wife.[/QUOTE]


I think you are right. This is why I opened up online, to get another opinion from someone who has been there already.

Thanks

Also agree with you Kaspah

So you are that close to ruining your marriage and the family environment that your "awesome 4 yo" could grow up in, for some sex.

You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place:facepalm

You got married way too early bro.

hmm .. iffy situation .. it could work if you knew the coworker wouldn't cause any problems .. but you never know ..

and lol@wife being out of town .. where did she go ? for all we know, she's getting plowed by some bbc while you're anguishing over this

[QUOTE=dude77]hmm .. iffy situation .. it could work if you knew the coworker wouldn't cause any problems .. but you never know ..

[B]and lol@wife being out of town .. where did she go ? for all we know, she's getting plowed by some bbc while you're anguishing over this[/B][/QUOTE]
Beat me to it :applause:

Someone needs to tell the OP that slow dancing ≠ sex.

I just went through the thread and....its official. ISH IS GAY.

you don't want that onus on you.

Besides, she's 25. I'm no cheater, but the rule of cheating is you always have to "cheat up". Don't cheat on someone who has far less to lose than you. This girl isn't married, she probably wouldn't think twice about f*cking your sh*t up if it all hits the fan.

you did good.

[QUOTE=DukeDelonte13]you don't want that onus on you.

Besides, she's 25. I'm no cheater, but the rule of cheating is you always have to "cheat up". [B]Don't cheat on someone who has far less to lose than you. This girl isn't married, she probably wouldn't think twice about f*cking your sh*t up if it all hits the fan[/B].

you did good.[/QUOTE]

ah this makes a lot of sense .. well said

Yes

GJ not slowdancing in front of everyone, be descreet, but if you could have gotten away with it without anyone knowing, you should go for it.

There is no Disney lala one true love bullshit. It is possible to love more then one woman at once. Just ask any mormon.

The guilt is all a personal belief thing. If it goes against your personal beliefs, you will feel guilty so don't do it. If it doesn't go against your personal beliefs, go for it and there will be no repurcussions as long as you don't let any nosy work gossip hos find out about it.

Don't stop yourself from doing something perfectly natural like this just because Disney lala PC society tells you it is wrong.

[QUOTE=Nick Young]GJ not slowdancing in front of everyone, be descreet, but if you could have gotten away with it without anyone knowing, you should go for it.

There is no Disney lala one true love bullshit. It is possible to love more then one woman at once. Just ask any mormon.

The guilt is all a personal belief thing. If it goes against your personal beliefs, you will feel guilty so don't do it. If it doesn't go against your personal beliefs, go for it and there will be no repurcussions as long as you don't let any nosy work gossip hos find out about it.

[B]Don't stop yourself from doing something perfectly natural like this just because Disney lala PC society tells you it is wrong.[/B][/QUOTE]


What Disney lala PC stuff are you talking about? The guy is married with a kid. I think OP cares more about f*cking his family up that what general societal expectations are. It doesn't matter what society thinks, what matters is explaining to your kid that mommy and daddy can't be with each other any more because daddy had to f*ck some office ho. OP doesn't want his kid and the mother of said kid resenting him for a lifetime.

[QUOTE=DukeDelonte13]What Disney lala PC stuff are you talking about? The guy is married with a kid. I think OP cares more about f*cking his family up that what general societal expectations are. It doesn't matter what society thinks, what matters is explaining to your kid that mommy and daddy can't be with each other any more because daddy had to f*ck some office ho. OP doesn't want his kid and the mother of said kid resenting him for a lifetime.[/QUOTE]
If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.

[QUOTE=Nick Young]If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.[/QUOTE]

This is exactly why our society will never function the way it should. :facepalm

[QUOTE=Meticode]I cheated on my wife after almost 5 years. We're still together (which I'm thankful for), but please take my advice. If you're simply bored and the things in the relationship are fixable, don't cheat. And even if they aren't fixable, don't cheat. End this the right way if they need to be ended then move forward.

It's not worth the pain you put your wife and child through. I was lucky.[/QUOTE]
WTF man you used to be obsessed with her and even mentioned her in every post on this message board.

Are you living proof that life long married monogamy is not healthy or natural for humans? Even a man as in love with his wife as you are even cheated on her.

[QUOTE=Nick Young]If no one ever finds out, and he doesnt feel any personal guilt from doing it, he won't f*ck up his family.[/QUOTE]


that's true, but that's also a big time gamble. It doesn't matter if OP goes about everything perfectly, it's the office girl that can make everything come down. Scary sh*t if you ask me.

[QUOTE=eriX]This is exactly why our society will never function the way it should. :facepalm[/QUOTE]
Sorry it's just the truth. If you expect everyone in society to have integrity and do the "right thing" all the time, you are naive and hopeless.

That's why all socialists/communists are naive and hopeless morons.

[QUOTE=DukeDelonte13]that's true, but that's also a big time gamble. It doesn't matter if OP goes about everything perfectly, it's the office girl that can make everything come down. Scary sh*t if you ask me.[/QUOTE]
Exactly, even if he does everything right, if the young woman goes nuts and catches feelings she can bring everything down. However its up to the OP to judge whether she's legit. Most chicks who get in to this kind of thing in the first place are nuts, but others are probably cool with it. Maybe office ho has done this loads before and would just f*ck him and peace out.

If that were the case, if I was OP I'd bang office slut if given the chance 10 times out of 10.

But again you're right, she's the wildcard here.

[QUOTE=Kaspah]This nick young guy has absolutely no idea what he's talking about[/QUOTE]
You could learn alot from this Nick Young guy

you did tha right thing man. Especially since u have a kid and wife. I can relate to how pissed and hurt when my parentz divorced when i was 5 mainly cuz my mom found out that my dad cheated on her with a so called friend, I was young but I had a feeling something was wierd about tha situation when he always was with her all tha time had me watching ninja turtles in a room by myself while he and her went to tha other room by themselves. Yea man you did tha right thang, cuz that would of hurt your marriage and tha kid if your wife found out. I know u say you dont get that much excitement out of tha marriage, but try spicing it up man, do something extra special for her and she will return tha favor. you'll never know man.

[QUOTE=ProfessorMurder]Thank God! I've spent years in therapy because I though I f*cked my aunt at a wedding.[/QUOTE]


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[QUOTE=1987_Lakers]Not trying to bust your balls but I find it funny how you always use to post about your wife and how great she is then you ended up cheating on her.[/QUOTE]
I think he used to do that because she was likely spying on his posts here :roll:

At least I hope so! At 1 point or another, I figured out my ex was googling my nick. I know she was checking my hotmail... I barely used that shit and she found out some shawty from another country was coming here to visit and wanted to chill (JUST AS FRIENDS). That shit was unhealthy and I eventually got the f out of it. It came to me having to filter my thoughts because she was googling everyday. I HOPE that's why Meti was doing it... lol although that shit ain't healthy :oldlol:

she works with you, that is too close to home (although I do not believe you should cheat on your wife)

Think about it, how easy would it be for someone to spill a couple beans and the whole house comes crashing down.

The simple question is, is it worth it?

That will answer your question, no one else can

had you slept with her you would have felt awfully bad and guilty the next day, and the day after it too, 3rd day tho all guilt is gone, works like a charm

Some very interesting replies, lol at the slow dance with the aunte.
If I slow danced with her in front of all the other wives people would be talking.

Another fact to think about is my marriage would survive regardless of a fling I might get caught for. It would be a little messy but it would survive.

She is not the type to go crazy and start yapping to the wife about anything.

Here is the kicker, she is going travelling in two weeks and will be gone for a long time. So the only repercussion would be on my conscience. However, I am not a liar and if my wife asked me straight up I would tell her the truth.

Shits not gonna happen anyways, just mulling it around in my head.lol

If you're the type of guy that loves giving away half your money and only seeing your kids on the weekend then yeah you should have banged her.