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My GF is getting too fat
I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years. I really think I want to marry her and I told her so. Well now she is getting a bit too comfortable in the relationship.
The other night, we were getting it on, and the bed f*cking broke. The next morning, through a bit of digging, I found out she weighs over 200 pounds now. Keep in mind, she was a sexy 140 when we dated.
So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight. That was like a $400 bed set and I can't afford buying new beds. That's as bad as the time when I bought the first set of Xbox 360s and they would only last for a couple of months.
How do you tell a girl to lose weight without offending her. She knows she's fat, I know she's fat, all her friends know she's fat, heck, even her dead auntie is visiting her in her dreams telling her she's fat, but it's just a topic of conversation I just can't bring up directly.
I still love her, but damn, she needs to lose a few pounds because that love is going to dwindle when another expensive bed set is broken. Sorry if I sound superficial, but this is a serious problem in our relationship.
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200 muthaf*cking pounds? :roll:
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200 pounds? U can't be serious. Show us a pic of before and after
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LMFAO 200lbs? Holy shit.. You should go for runs and suggest she comes with you. Or start going to the gym and make up some shit about how it would be fun if she went with you. Do things together and it'll help encourage her.
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whoa when I read the title i was gonna say something along the lines of "youre a douchebag, you shouldnt care blah blah blah" but gaining 60 lbs is crazy.
Do you weigh a lot? maybe she feels like she can get away with it.
The best way is to offer to do a "couples fitness/yoga/pilates" course together or something, like make it seem like you want to spend more time with her. I'm sure if you can find out a way to find out her weight then you can figure out a way to ask her :lol
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If you are dating someone for seven years and not married ditch them and start over. SEVEN YEARS?
Aside from that tell her the truth. She's getting big and it's unhealthy and you're not going to stay around to watch her get sicker and sicker.
:lol OP is a chubby chaser...
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if you dont already have a gym membership, get 2 of them. tell her she needs to work out.
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[QUOTE=IamRAMBO24]I have a situation. I've been dating this girl for 7 years.
So how exactly do I tell her to lose weight.[/QUOTE]
after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.
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[QUOTE=Riddler]after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.[/QUOTE]
+1
talk to her about it. tell her it's on your mind. plant that seed.
i was in a similar situation in my last relationship.
i ended up hurting her feelings. we broke up soon afterward.
but i had to say something. i started to resent her. i'd cringe every time she overate.
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Just tell her that she's overweight but don't tell her she's fat though. Or heck just tell her that you're both getting fat and you both need to go to they gym and eat healthier because you want to spend more time with her when you both get older.
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how big are you?
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Narrow all your doors by a foot, then pretend everything is normal. She should work it out.
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[QUOTE=Riddler]after 7 years,... you should have no problem telling her straight up.[/QUOTE]
Bullshit :oldlol: That would be the most awkward thing ever.
Do you guys have a mutual friend you both are close to? If so, there is your key to help get this situation fixed. Talk to her about it, don't just be like "shes fat af and it needs to change", be real genuine about it. She might even work out with her to give her that extra motivation. If you guys don't have that mutual friend well...still try talking to one of her friends you know a little better :lol
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LOL thanks for the laugh op. One of my buddies had to deal with the same issue, they started working out together and now she is in much better shape. Just gotta join the gym together and start eating healthy at home, the bitch will love you even more if you help her get in fit.
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lmao i like girls with a little bit of meat on them, but 200lbs dafuq hahaha, i would suggest taking jogs or hikes together. damn 200lbs
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Dude, 140 is still pretty damn big girl unless she's 5'10+
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Do you think of Winter Pierzina in your head when boning her?
Anyway, I think this thread is bogus. You found out she's 200 lbs. through a "bit of digging"? That's not something you need to dig around to find out. 140 lbs to 200 lbs should be plain as day from a visual standpoint.
Or is love really that blind?
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My friend had a girl like that was thick but still attractive than gained 50-70 pounds over 2 years time. He married her anyway. Not sure if I'm happy for him he's not superfiscial, But damn she ballooned.
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I started a thread with a similar issue except.. I dunno what happened to the thread, i put it up in the fall..
Anyways to make a long story short, I started dating this girl and she weighed approx. 165 @ 5'5.. when we first started dating.. she was one of those girls that was really self conscience about her weight but hid it very well, but when I got to know her better I could tell she wanted to lose weight really bad. One thing she had going for her was that she was very smart (med school) and she had determination and strong will. She took criticism very well so I was very blunt with her. I saw the way she lived and I told her I would help her lose weight cuz she has diabetes history in her family and i used that to help me mask the real reason she needed to lose weight in order for me to pull my pants down and give it to her. I turned her world upside down. From everything to upping her temp of her place to 75 degrees (she had it at 68 and had a ceiling fan on 24/7) I went through her fridge and threw away everything fat, carby, and bad. I played tennis with her 4-6 hours per day 2-3 times a week and also went to the gym with her. She was really into cross fit (it seems to be the trend right now) but I told her cross fit is only good when it's used in small intervals to shock her body in between long cardio work outs. She really really needed cardio which she hated to do...
Now 7 months later she's at 132 now and she's aiming to reach 125. I told her if she hits 125 I would make her my official gf and she agreed and uses that as her motivation. She's also very young 22, I'm 32, but her confidence level has shot through the roof. She now admits she was fat, when in the beginning I used to see her eyes tear up if someone hinted that she was over weight. She also changed her major to pharmacy from MD, and I totally called her out saying that since she lost her weight she doesn't feel the need to justify being fat and become a doctor (I was kidding of course) but she looked at me and smiled and goes.. yeah maybe your right. Only problem she had was that she lost so much weight drastically so fast she had a hormonal imbalance which we had to taper off dieting till they got back to normal.
All in all, I am so proud of her and she is just glowing in confidence and self esteem. I also got a future gf that treats me great and looks good, which btw she is head over heels about me since day one but even much more so today cuz we went through a lot during this process. A skinny girls bod but a fat girls personality.. isn't that every mans dream? She can also cook up a storm which is a huge plus for me and she's into healthy cooking now, it's funny cuz I've gained weight myself since being with her and she tells me that I have to start working out.
Wow I've written a novel.. But to help you out bro.. just be dead honest and put the weight towards (no pun intended) it being a future health issue/hazard. Also make her feel that she's not doing it alone and you got to support her as much as you can. There have been times where I would be starving (she lived right behind a popeyes chicken mind you) but it would be too late for her to eat so I starved with her together. You have to make sacrifices with her.. hope this helps out.
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Op is a tank driver!:oldlol:
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[QUOTE=Kaspah]Man. You fcked up.
As the man you set the tone in the relationship.
I remind my girl probably once a week to stay fit. I don't let her eat junk food, and if we're out to eat she can have good food obviously, but I won't let her order soup, an appetizer, entree and dessert. I tell her how I don't tolerate that and won't have a fat girlfriend. It's in her head now.
i refuse to be one of those dudes in public with his girl, and she eats more than me, or just course after course of already super fat restaurant food. Females are tiny dude, all they need is a salad with some chicken in there. Anything else is over eating.
Girls want to look good for their men but if you ain't laying the law down or making her feel sexy, this is what happens.[/QUOTE]
Yea you are right, I slipped a bit. When you are in a relationship with someone for a long time, they are just like a blank slate to you. You don't really look at them; they are just like an object that you put your ***** in. I don't mean to sound like a douche about it, but I guess that's just my way of accepting her for who she is.
There were hints I should of picked up early on: she was very sensitive when she was gaining weight; she would cry and always ask me if I thought she was pretty and all this stuff and I would usually just shrug my shoulder without ever really looking at her. I know I should of noticed how much she was eating, but it never really crossed my mind [B]HOW MUCH[/B] weight she was gaining. If we go to Jack in the Box, I would usually order a Jumbo Jack with 2 tacos and she would get an ultimate bacon cheeseburger combo (over 2,000 calories) and she would finish it faster than me and ask for one of my taco.
As a good man, I like to see my GF happy, and when she's eating she seems very happy.
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[QUOTE=nathanjizzle]if you dont already have a gym membership, get 2 of them. tell her she needs to work out.[/QUOTE]
This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.
When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm
Man this is going to be an uphill battle.
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It's a conspiracy man I tell ya, 70% of the Americans are overweight (36% obese such as your own gf), how the hell can you do that to people? I dunno man...
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I've learned a lot in this thread. There are a lot of insecure men masking it under the guise of "I'm the man and I put my foot down". What a bunch of bullshit. You're the biggest p*ussy of all if you have to put a weight restriction on someone you supposedly love.
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[QUOTE=BRabbiT]+1
talk to her about it. tell her it's on your mind. plant that seed.
[B]i was in a similar situation in my last relationship.
i ended up hurting her feelings. we broke up soon afterward.[/B]
but i had to say something. i started to resent her. i'd cringe every time she overate.[/QUOTE]
Didn't you break it off with a fat roommate a few days ago. Something you want to tell us? :yaohappy: :yaohappy:
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[QUOTE=DeuceWallaces]Dude, 140 is still pretty damn big girl unless she's 5'10+[/QUOTE]
huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.
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[QUOTE=IamRAMBO24]This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.
When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm
Man this is going to be an uphill battle.[/QUOTE]
Damn, you sound like a nice guy. What's your motivation for her losing weight? Do you still find her attractive?
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[QUOTE=All Net]huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.[/QUOTE]
Taking into account women being generally a few inches shorter, if not more, and much lower muscle mass 140 is a good sized girl unless she's fairly tall.
There is no way any girl under 6' is "pretty damn skinny" and weighs 168. Lol.
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[QUOTE=All Net]huh? 140 is not big at all...hell my friend she is 168 and she is pretty damn skinny.[/QUOTE]
:coleman: How tall?
Full grown men weigh 168....
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Yeah, listen to this dumb somofabitch.
Lol, Google Image "170 lbs woman" and get back to me.
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my girl is about 5'7 and a buck 60. some would call her average, but i think she's skinny. im trynna plump her up some mo'.
ain't nuttin wrong wit dat mean, son. op, fukk your bed. u should have acted like a man, and punished her by getting balls deep!
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[QUOTE=DeuceWallaces]Yeah, listen to this dumb somofabitch.
Lol, Google Image "170 lbs woman" and get back to me.[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=DeuceWallaces]Taking into account women being generally a few inches shorter, if not more, and much lower muscle mass 140 is a good sized girl unless she's fairly tall.
There is no way any girl under 6' is "pretty damn skinny" and weighs 168. Lol.[/QUOTE]
Maybe skinny is too strong a word but she certainly looks good..thinks shes about 5'8 but saying that she does go gym and does weights. like bench for example so maybe that explains alot.
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[QUOTE=Rubio2Gasol]:coleman: How tall?
Full grown men weigh 168....[/QUOTE]
Yeah they are, small and skinny men who rarely lift many weights.
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[QUOTE=IamRAMBO24]This morning we went for a walk; I asked her if she wanted to walk the dogs, which we don't usually do because they get their exercise in the yard. About 15 minutes into the walk, she was already complaining about the weather and wanted to go home because "we haven't ate breakfast yet." I got mad and told her we were already out at the park and we should stay a bit longer, and then she got mad at me and said I should just walk the dog myself and then went to the swings and sat down, so I said f*ck it, let's go home and eat some breakfast.
When we got home, I wanted to cook something light and simple, so I suggested only eggs (no yolk) with toast and a bowl of cereal with berries. 2 hours after breakfast, she said she was hungry and wanted lunch.:facepalm
Man this is going to be an uphill battle.[/QUOTE]
It's normal to be starving 2 hour after breakfast bro. Instead of eating candy just eat fruit like grapes or an apple. You are supposed to eat 3 meals a day with 3 snacks a day. It keep your metabolism running and helps you lose weight. Of course what you eat in those meals is what makes you either lose or gain weight of course.
No candy, no fast food, no pork and eat a lot of fiber. Eating some protein as a snack (like yogurt) helps losing weight.
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[QUOTE=All Net]Yeah they are, small and skinny men who rarely lift many weights.[/QUOTE]
i am 192 5'11'' man. I was 160 when I didn't lift weights.:roll:
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[QUOTE=ProfessorMurder]1. How f*cking full of yourself are you? You won't make her your girlfriend until she reaches an arbitrary weight? Like you're some great incentive to do something for...
2. 10 year age gap, and exerting this kind of control over a young, most likely inexperienced girl.
3. And you're on board with her changing from med school to working in a pharmacy?
Way to screw up this bitch's life. I'd rather have a chubby doctor with a need to prove something than an in shape chick filling pill bottles and getting railed by an old guy with an inflated ego.[/QUOTE]
ether, the shit that make ya soul burn slow :applause: :roll: