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ElPigto 03-20-2007 12:54 AM

Underrated
 
I feel underrated as a poster.

That's it.

Spike Spiegel 03-20-2007 12:59 AM

Re: Underrated
 
Meh. If you don't post in every topic you can, that tends to happen.

I agree btw.

The_Masterplan 03-20-2007 01:07 AM

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thats what she said

haterofhaters 03-20-2007 01:07 AM

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There aren't any "poster ratings" last time I checked.

ElPigto 03-20-2007 01:10 AM

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I feel like posting a girl problem here, don't want this thread to be totally useless therefore I will just get some advice from the guys.

First of all, I think I'm asking this from ISH guys since I have only a few guy friends, all my friends are generally girls because I love being around women :D.

Anyways here is my problem:

I like this girl a lot. She currently lives in Houston while I'm living in Austin. She is about to leave Houston though, since her real home is in Mexico. She is a really sweet girl, and is one of those keeper type of deal. I talk to her, and she tells me she wants to keep studying in Houston, perhaps go to UH, but apparently due to some circumstance, that might not be possible right now.

I have not told her how I felt though, and she is going to be leaving in a couple of months. First of all, I'm not a coward, I usually am straightforward with a girl and let her know of my intentions (btw, I'm a virgin and I strongly believe in abstaining until marriage, so don't think I tell her "I want to have sex with you"). The problem with this girl is that since she is really pretty, therefore a lot of guys are after her. She tells me that when she tries to make a guy friend, sometimes they end up liking her and she always ends up dissapointed. I'm scared of upsetting her because I've become one of her best friends, even though we live in different cities. I go to Houston often so I try to take her out whenever I can, or at least see her. I know she really loves me as a friend. My birthday was two days ago, and she gave me a card saying I'm a very special person to her. I don't take this to literally though because Mexican girls are usually really sweet, and they seem to lead you on, when in reality they are just friendly.

Anyways, what should I do? Should I say something, or should I just be quiet? I'm really respectful towards girls, and I guess sometimes I'm so humble that I completely don't care about me, and I just care to satisfy them. I don't want to be thought of as a puppet though, so that's why I know I need to back off me being so dang nice.

Anyways, opinions?

Jabes 03-20-2007 01:21 AM

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It sounds like your pretty deep in the "friend zone" which means your probably ****ed. Plus she told you that she ends up disappointed when her guy friends like her as more than a friend, which could mean she's telling you she sees you as just a friend.

Regardless, you should tell her how you feel. It's pointless to go on being friends with a girl your crazy about since it will only cause you more suffering. What are you going to do when she meets someone? Do you really want to hear how johnny-big-dick was giving it to her all night?

ElPigto 03-20-2007 01:26 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Jabes
It sounds like your pretty deep in the "friend zone" which means your probably ****ed. Plus she told you that she ends up disappointed when her guy friends like her as more than a friend, which could mean she's telling you she sees you as just a friend.

Regardless, you should tell her how you feel. It's pointless to go on being friends with a girl your crazy about since it will only cause you more suffering. What are you going to do when she meets someone? Do you really want to hear how johnny-big-dick was giving it to her all night?


How do I avoid these situations?

I'm sick of ending up as a friend. I've tried so many different ways to avoid this, but somehow I end up as a good friend, and honestly I'm sick of it. How can I avoid it?

JSub 03-20-2007 01:29 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by ElPigto
How do I avoid these situations?

I'm sick of ending up as a friend. I've tried so many different ways to avoid this, but somehow I end up as a good friend, and honestly I'm sick of it. How can I avoid it?


Didnt you say you're a man and that you make your intentions clear from the get-go? If you practice what you preach, there's less chance of ending up on the friends list, since they know you mean business from the start.

Secondly, lets see a picture of her. Then I let you know if she's worth pursuing and we'll plan your course of action accordingly.

ElPigto 03-20-2007 01:31 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by JSub
Didnt you say you're a man and that you make your intentions clear from the get-go? If you practice what you preach, there's less chance of ending up on the friends list, since they know you mean business from the start.

Secondly, lets see a picture of her. Then I let you know if she's worth pursuing and we'll plan your course of action accordingly.


I'm sorry man, I'm not going to be posting a picture of her. Anyways, I do let them know of my intentions from the beginning, but for some reason it still ends up in a friend relationship, which isn't cool. There is a reason I have a lot of friends that are girls.

People tend to trust me a lot. Which is probably why I end up as friends with them, so I don't know.

ElPigto 03-20-2007 01:37 AM

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Recently one of my friends who wants to major in photography took pictures of me, here is one of them, I hope yall have fun mocking me since that's what happens when you post pictures of yourself.



Quick Facts:
-Picture taken at UH by Architecture building
-Grass was actually green, but my friend used photoshop in order to make the picture better therefore he made it a fall color.

JSub 03-20-2007 01:39 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by ElPigto
I'm sorry man, I'm not going to be posting a picture of her. Anyways, I do let them know of my intentions from the beginning, but for some reason it still ends up in a friend relationship, which isn't cool. There is a reason I have a lot of friends that are girls.

People tend to trust me a lot. Which is probably why I end up as friends with them, so I don't know.


That doesnt make any sense. If they know your intentions from the start, then there is no misunderstanding. If they're not interested and you're not interested in ending up on the friends ladder, then you cut it out before the relationship can progress.

ElPigto 03-20-2007 01:46 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by haterofhaters
There aren't any "poster ratings" last time I checked.


Doesn't mean I can't feel underrated.

B-Low 03-20-2007 01:49 AM

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I'd say just tell her how you feel. Like you said she might be leaving so if she doesn't feel the same way at least she won't be around much so it might not eat you up as much. And if she does decide she wants to see if there's anything between you guys then maybe it'll be a way to get her to stay longer. I've learned though it's always best to get you feelings out there and let nature take its course.

It's better to find out she's not interested and move on to someone else than keep it bottled in forever and wonder if something could be there. Believe me

Jabes 03-20-2007 01:49 AM

Re: Underrated
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ElPigto
How do I avoid these situations?

I'm sick of ending up as a friend. I've tried so many different ways to avoid this, but somehow I end up as a good friend, and honestly I'm sick of it. How can I avoid it?

It's pretty simple. When you see a girl you like, start flirting with her, and be a little aggresive. Ask her for a date early so she knows from the start that your interested in starting a relationship.

You're going to get rejected (we all do), and dealing with it is the hardest part, but if it only works 1 out of 10 times, then thats all you need.

Jabes 03-20-2007 01:54 AM

Re: Underrated
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ElPigto
Anyways, I do let them know of my intentions from the beginning, but for some reason it still ends up in a friend relationship, which isn't cool. There is a reason I have a lot of friends that are girls.

People tend to trust me a lot. Which is probably why I end up as friends with them, so I don't know.


If you let them know your intentions from the start, but still end up as a friend, then that that means they don't feel the same.


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