Originally Posted by usa hoops
Be available for your kid, and be consistent with discipline.
Discipline should be the last resort; teaching should be the first. If you teach your kid well with enough incentive to motivate him to keep on doing what he is doing, then there should be no need for discipline since he will be incline to do it anyway. There should be a distinction between positive discipline and negative discipline. You can't just beat the living hell out of your kid and expect him to know what is right or wrong, you have to teach him and then encourage him to keep on doing what is right. Discipline is just an easy cop out and not true parenting (this is hard for many people to accept as true).
You got to teach if you want them to learn. Beating and punishment should be the last resort, not the first. If you fail as a teacher, then of course, you will have to discipline the child, but it is your failure that is the cause of the discipline, not the child's inability to learn. Big difference. Many parents today fail to take responsibility for the failure of their kids.