whats the point of even trying?

[MavsSuperFan]

honestly maybe go after less attractive girls just to build up your confidence a little.

[BurningHammer]

So.... this is you in real life?

[treadster]

i try so hard to be cool to have social interaction all that bullshit you guys tell me to do and i still fail. i try to have fun and stuff but i dont. i have a crush on a fvcking freshman too and i can't even get that. my life sucks i want to kill myself.

I have a similar problem back when i was in middle school, trust me wanting to kill yourself isn't going to solve anything. Talk to someone you trust about your problem and they will try their best to help you.

Do what you think is fun and find people with similar interests as you.

Life is not exactly a smooth sailing, there is always obstacles, you just have to have the will to move past past that, your life will always get better.

[Bandito]

You must be like the wind, just go where the flows take you; don't try to force your way through. Just try to be yourself...

[Jameerthefear]

thanks for the nice comments guys (you too Rose) i feel a little better now since i woke up

[Jameerthefear]

i just realized jeff posted in one of my threads. Jeff is the GOAT mod

[MetsPackers]

That's your problem.

Sounds like a cliche but [COLOR="Blue"]just be yourself[/COLOR]. You may not realize it now in high school, but life is just beginning 'after' high school.

Just do your own thing and you'll eventually find others with similar interests and personalities. As far as getting some poon, theres girls that dig all sorts of guys, again just be yourself. If you're awkward there'll be girls that like awkward geeky guys, like I mentioned… there's somebody for everybody.

As you mature you'll begin to find yourself and be comfortable with who you are. But the last thing you want to do is try to be something you're not.

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If you have to front like you're someone you aren't to impress a girl then she's not even the right girl for you anyway. I can how from what you see around you in high school you may think you need to act a certain type of way to attract women, but being yourself and being comfortable with that will help you get a girl who likes you for you and you can have a real relationship with. Be patient young jameer. If you just be yourself, that woman will make herself known in your life and that's when you swoop in. Trying to rush life to happen will only stress you out and make your depression worsen.

Just do stuff for yourself, such as working out (even if its just pushups at the crib), playing ball with friends, chillen with friends, doing well in school, whatever. It ties in with what Jeff said. Women like a guy who is happy with himself and is bettering himself and has a smile on his face because of it. Girls aren't looking for depressed guys who are insecure (very few women are). But when you do whats good for you you feel better about yourself and believe me the girls will come. Tv and high school would have you believe you need to be mad slick spitting game all day in order to get girls, but the truth is that if you ain't got it you ain't got it. And believe me dudes of all types, interests, looks, whatever are bagging girls all across the world because they have accepted who they are.

High school is not real, but most people don't realize till afterwards and then you've already wasted the whole experience. You're only what, a sophomore? You've got plenty of time, just don't beat yourself up and move a little bit forward each day and the things you desire will come

[DukeDelonte13]

Don't give up on social interaction. It's important for your future.

[christian1923]

Join a sports team dude. You gain 70 friends just being on the football team. No one cares if you suck

[Kblaze8855]

i try so hard to be cool to have social interaction all that bullshit you guys tell me to do and i still fail. i try to have fun and stuff but i dont. i have a crush on a fvcking freshman too and i can't even get that. my life sucks i want to kill myself.

Hard to tell in high school with a gang of other people doing the same thing you are and trying to be like "everyone else".....but I assure you...there are many people just like you.

You just have to get out into the real world and it works itself out. College helps a lot.

Get thousands of people finally free and you weed out a lot of the idiots in HS lowering the bar.

You start meeting women who like the same movies you do instead of girls you try to change yourself to suit.

You find people in classes you thought would only appeal to you and find out that only 20% of the people who wanted it signed up in time. You end up on some beach at a bonfire at 3am in the summer and run into people wearing clothes from your school and end up friends for 10 years. You get a part time job and become friends with half your coworkers.

All thats holding you back is being a kid at the moment. You and the kids your age are afraid to be who you are. Life will annoy you to the point you quit caring and drop the front then you will find 200 people a lot like you at the same conventions, in line for the same releases at gamestop, buying the same shoes, going to the same movies, and getting excited when the same song comes on during a night out.

We arent nearly as alone as being a kid in a high school can make someone feel. Just seems that way because so many are trying to be something none of them know how to be.

Some have a head start and stand out from the jump. For most....you are a mix of parental shaping and society telling you what to be at 15.

When you are what you decide to be on your own...you will see how many of you there really are.

One of my best friends is currently dating a woman he wanted since high school. Im talking 15 years ago. Had him tongue tied when she was trying to get him to vote for her for some student body office.

He runs into her in a store near my house and hes much more prepared to deal with it now. Just got real with her and...next thing you know...

You have barely lived. You only became fully self aware in like 2006. And half the memories you have now will be a blur by 30.

You have no idea what life will be till you go live it. Being in the 10th grade is not living. Its doing what your mom tells you and being required by law to listen to poorly designed lessons you dont care about.

Life has not even started for you. If I could go back to your age id cherish it. Youth really really really is wasted on the young. You have the gift of time. And nobody who doesnt have it can go get it.

You have the shit for free.

Think long. Today only matters as much as it helps tomorrow.

[christian1923]

Hard to tell in high school with a gang of other people doing the same thing you are and trying to be like "everyone else".....but I assure you...there are many people just like you.

You just have to get out into the real world and it works itself out. College helps a lot.

Get thousands of people finally free and you weed out a lot of the idiots in HS lowering the bar.

You start meeting women who like the same movies you do instead of girls you try to change yourself to suit.

You find people in classes you thought would only appeal to you and find out that only 20% of the people who wanted it signed up in time. You end up on some beach at a bonfire at 3am in the summer and run into people wearing clothes from your school and end up friends for 10 years. You get a part time job and become friends with half your coworkers.

All thats holding you back is being a kid at the moment. You and the kids your age are afraid to be who you are. Life will annoy you to the point you quit caring and drop the front then you will find 200 people a lot like you at the same conventions, in line for the same releases at gamestop, buying the same shoes, going to the same movies, and getting excited when the same song comes on during a night out.

We arent nearly as alone as being a kid in a high school can make someone feel. Just seems that way because so many are trying to be something none of them know how to be.

Some have a head start and stand out from the jump. For most....you are a mix of parental shaping and society telling you what to be at 15.

When you are what you decide to be on your own...you will see how many of you there really are.

One of my best friends is currently dating a woman he wanted since high school. Im talking 15 years ago. Had him tongue tied when she was trying to get him to vote for her for some student body office.

He runs into her in a store near my house and hes much more prepared to deal with it now. Just got real with her and...next thing you know...

You have barely lived. You only became fully self aware in like 2006. And half the memories you have now will be a blur by 30.

You have no idea what life will be till you go live it. Being in the 10th grade is not living. Its doing what your mom tells you and being required by law to listen to poorly designed lessons you dont care about.

Life has not even started for you. If I could go back to your age id cherish it. Youth really really really is wasted on the young. You have the gift of time. And nobody who doesnt have it can go get it.

You have the shit for free.

Think long. Today only matters as much as it helps tomorrow.

Worddd

[DonDadda59]

Our little man has just discovered existentialism. They grow up so fast

I think in about 10 years, when you're dealing with actual grown man problems, you'll long for the time when your biggest worries were trying to be cool and getting a girl to notice you. I know you can't see beyond yourself, self absorption comes with the territory of teenage-hood (not really a word, so what?). Feels like you're the center of the world and it's caving into itself. But the truth is, you live a relatively charmed life. You have a roof over your head, parents who care enough to whoop dat ass to make sure you don't grow up to be a weird 50 year old who spends his free time at anime porn conventions. I'm assuming you're generally healthy, don't have to worry where your next meal is coming from, No one's shelling your neighborhood with grenades.

If not being able to pull off 'cool' is your biggest issue, then you're way ahead of the game homie. Suck it up stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop trying to fit in and start being the person you are. Dumb kids might not respect that now, but people will eventually come to appreciate you not putting up any fronts. Being rejected by girls is a bitch, but it's a right of passage virtually all men had to go through (and still do). You learn from your mistakes and eventually you'll figure it out to some degree.

Hope that helps

[Jameerthefear]

Hard to tell in high school with a gang of other people doing the same thing you are and trying to be like "everyone else".....but I assure you...there are many people just like you.

You just have to get out into the real world and it works itself out. College helps a lot.

Get thousands of people finally free and you weed out a lot of the idiots in HS lowering the bar.

You start meeting women who like the same movies you do instead of girls you try to change yourself to suit.

You find people in classes you thought would only appeal to you and find out that only 20% of the people who wanted it signed up in time. You end up on some beach at a bonfire at 3am in the summer and run into people wearing clothes from your school and end up friends for 10 years. You get a part time job and become friends with half your coworkers.

All thats holding you back is being a kid at the moment. You and the kids your age are afraid to be who you are. Life will annoy you to the point you quit caring and drop the front then you will find 200 people a lot like you at the same conventions, in line for the same releases at gamestop, buying the same shoes, going to the same movies, and getting excited when the same song comes on during a night out.

We arent nearly as alone as being a kid in a high school can make someone feel. Just seems that way because so many are trying to be something none of them know how to be.

Some have a head start and stand out from the jump. For most....you are a mix of parental shaping and society telling you what to be at 15.

When you are what you decide to be on your own...you will see how many of you there really are.

One of my best friends is currently dating a woman he wanted since high school. Im talking 15 years ago. Had him tongue tied when she was trying to get him to vote for her for some student body office.

He runs into her in a store near my house and hes much more prepared to deal with it now. Just got real with her and...next thing you know...

You have barely lived. You only became fully self aware in like 2006. And half the memories you have now will be a blur by 30.

You have no idea what life will be till you go live it. Being in the 10th grade is not living. Its doing what your mom tells you and being required by law to listen to poorly designed lessons you dont care about.

Life has not even started for you. If I could go back to your age id cherish it. Youth really really really is wasted on the young. You have the gift of time. And nobody who doesnt have it can go get it.

You have the shit for free.

Think long. Today only matters as much as it helps tomorrow.

thanks old man i don't think i would even try to kill myself. i'm too ***** for that shit anyways. guess i got to live it up

[Swaggin916]

Well you have 2 choices man. You can accept where you are on the social hierarchy and forget about being cool, or realize that the hierarchy is a joke, find humor in it, and do what you want not caring about how you are viewed.

[gigantes]

Well you have 2 choices man. You can accept where you are on the social hierarchy and forget about being cool, or realize that the hierarchy is a joke, find humor in it, and do what you want not caring about how you are viewed.

i'd say hierarchy has a lot of direct health benefits for those who excel at that system.

the main alternative that i know of is social grooming. if i'm nice to you and make you feel appreciated, you hopefully turn around and do the same thing back. we gain greater health benefit via that method than by playing the alpha game well.

anytime you have a system of friendly, peaceful folks, however, some baboon comes along sooner or later to hijack it via system A.


but IMO, coolness is worthless unless it is put to the test. if it fails, it was only just pretend-coolness. pretend-coolness can kiss my ass.