Has Tinder made cold approaching chicks obsolete?

[ArbitraryWater]

Everything you say makes sense and I agree with.

My notion wasn't that day approaches aren't worth it. Quite on the contrary. Like you said approaching women gives you freedom and access to the entire market. However these days I can get a nice decent trickle of matches on Tinder and it's just easier. Less time and energy invested per date per lay or however you wanna quantify it.

In terms of my looks I've been told I'm good looking. I'm 6 feet, pretty fit, and dress better than most guys. I wear a lot of nice designer shit and chicks compliment me on my style sometimes lol With that said I'm not using professional photos on Tinder and I'm far from being Brad Pitt.

I see cold approaching more as a habit than a skill. Talking to women all the time like every day is crucial because at some point you see a hot chick and you automatically open her before your mind has a chance to paralyze you. For example, a few weeks ago I opened this stunning Japanese girl in the mall and in a very spontaneous way. I saw her and opened within 2 seconds. I asked her out for coffee right on the spot, she was really into it and and even though I kind of ****ed it up later, the approach was great and I'm proud of that. When I see a girl if my mind starts thinking "Oh she's got earbuds in." or "She is walking kind of fast." or whatever else I will probably do a very weak approach or talk myself out of approaching altogether. That's why staying on the edge as you call it is important. See the target and approach right away. What killed the warrior? Hesitation...

Thats a very good point. Now that you mention it, I dont feel that anymore. Being struck right when you wanna walk up. The most I get if its early in the day is my heart beat raise but nothing too serious, I'll walk up and its gone.

And yeah, just doing it is good. Putting yourself out there. Also foreign chicks are easier^^

earbuds, fast walking, dont matter. Only thing that leaves me a little unsure is when they're on the phone but cmon, cant pass up a woman you like because theyre on the phone.

I believe you i just dont trust your definition of dimes. Nikkas be saying the most mediocre b1tches is dimes these days.

True but I'm being serious here. Like these are desired girls. Trust me. No holding back. One was walking around a very known spot here in Berlin and I saw people's heads turning for her. She was white/blonde, fit, slim, yet big ass and chest, young... like #1 pornstar shit if she would be, for comparison sake. I waited for my moment and approached her.

I'm not saying I'm some kind of playboy. It didn't end up in anything.

But as I said, you just gotta put yourself out there. Live with no regrets. Me and this chick were on the subway for a couple stations, talked and laughed, we got out and she damn near told me where she lived, then she hugged me for really no reason, and once we texted on insta she ghosted the convo after one message of hers.

Sometimes you'll have these experiences. Girls often dont really know what they want. Shortly after she posted a story with a template that was like "when your love language is physical touch but your toxic trait is avoidance" I was like yea i noticed that shit

[highwhey]

im lucky i found a great girlfriend. sweetest girl ever, hot af, smart af. i met her back in november and my cousin reminded me "remember what you told back then when we were at the airbnb? you said she'd be your girlfriend". he doubted me too, shit, i doubted me

[hateraid]

I don't know how I'd survive in today's dating pool. I met my wife organically over 25 years ago. I'm lucky to be with her because the woman today seem to lack morals and self respect. Online gives women power over those traits. Hard to find a woman like my wife

[fsvr54]

Easily the most rewarding and real interactions there are.


Nothing better than making an acquintance out of a stranger you find attractive.



Read that as "most chicks I like like how I look",

in that case, probably an illusion.

People tend to tell themselves "it works fine because most girls I like luckily like me/give me signals", but thats just because girls showing you affection become more attractive/sympathetic to you. If other girls you hadnt previously considered would wink at you n stuff, then you (not necessarily you per se) would be up for them also.

I don't understand your points? my point is girls who actually give signals are interested, duh. Cold approaching is approaching someone who gives zero signals. I'm a a handsome dude and get more attention than any average guy would.

[ArbitraryWater]

I don't understand your points? my point is girls who actually give signals are interested, duh. Cold approaching is approaching someone who gives zero signals. I'm a a handsome dude and get more attention than any average guy would.

props, i guess

cold approaching isnt just for zero signals, its for girls who might not have seen / noticed you.

everyone is game.

it opens up your possibilities.


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on a semi related note, just started speaking with this girl in the subway (she was with her friend), we got out and it turns out we are damn near neighbors lmao.

[MrFonzworth]

https://voca.ro/1f6mAI4cg6sm

This is the guy giving advice about picking up girls

[AlternativeAcc.]

This is the guy giving advice about picking up girls

Sounds like a cool dude. That was genuinely funny

[MrFonzworth]

Sounds like a cool dude. That was genuinely funny

Monotone limp wristed dudes with no conviction are the coolest!

[Gohan]

Everywhere i go hoes say im fine so i dont use tinder and would never pay for it. But always remember dont trust hoes they say they love you when you know they dont and they wishy washy as hell

[ArbitraryWater]

Sounds like a cool dude. That was genuinely funny

you come here and the beers are set ya hear me?


we can go hit some bars or watch harden playoff clips

[AlternativeAcc.]

you come here and the beers are set ya hear me?


we can go hit some bars or watch harden playoff clips

You have some serious talent bro. "You know fonzworth... whatever the **** your name is called.. " and then proceed to tell him to leave his house in a charming way. That was a very smooth and classy roast. I can definitely see you doing stand up, you're a natural.

I'll let you know when I'm in the area my boy

[dankok8]

ArbitraryWater definitely knows what he's talking about when it comes to picking up chicks. His mentality is spot on. He and I disagree on a lot of sports topics, basically root for different players but he's a cool dude and pretty smart too.

[Manny98]

I hate online hookups because I have been catfished so many times.

Luckily as a university student I am in a environment where I don't even have to use dating apps

I feel like it's easier to pickup girls irl than on dating apps, unless you're really good looking you're not going to get matched up with anyone besides the odd desperate chubby girl or a 7/10 here and there

They're girls that I have pulled on nights out that would instantly swipe left on my profile on Tinder

[Manny98]

Tough past 24 hours for little Fonzy

[8Ball]

Last time I hit on a girl while single she sat down next to me in public and I started talking to her soon after.

8 years later she's my fiance.

I prefer in person interaction than text messaging back and forth over apps.