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    Learning to shoot layups Groovy Kat's Avatar
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    Default Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Things haven't felt right in a while. I feel like I try and she keeps on hating me no matter what. I think that I love her but it honestly feels like I would be better off single. We have a daughter together and that's the main reason we dont really consider divorce. I keep hoping it will get better but I'm starting to lose hope.

    She won't even kiss me really anymore. She just says she's not really into it anymore. I'm not happy but I want to be happy with her for the sake of our daughter and we really did have something at first.

    She says that's she's depressed and she really hasn't been the same since she had our daughter a little over a year ago. I dont know if I should just give up or what. Anyone have any advice or personal experience with this?

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by ProfessorMurder
    You could talk to her.
    or you could talk to a bunch of strangers on a basketball message board

    Smh OP

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    I can help you. Just answer these questions first:


    Is she fat or ugly?

    Did the birth of the baby make her fat? If so, have you touched her less?

    Are you good in the sack?

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    My parents seem like that too. Hope it gets better for you OP. Don't really have any helpful advice though.

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    WE MISS U CHALMERS :( JerrySteakhouse's Avatar
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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Sounds like before you met each other you guys weren't happy with your own lives. Then you met each other and tied your happiness to your relationship, once things cooled down that happiness faded and you come to a realization that you were just infatuated about being a certain way with this girl and it didn't materialize so you're disappointed. You gotta be happy with yourself and your own life as a person before someone joins it. Just be you, do what makes you happy and she will find you more attractive. Stop supplicating to her needs because you see it slipping. The dating/relationship game never stops, you can't let yourself go. You gotta be the type of guy who is happy being himself. If you WERE happy before you met her, then be THAT guy again.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by JerrySteakhouse
    Sounds like before you met each other you guys weren't happy with your own lives. Then you met each other and tied your happiness to your relationship, once things cooled down that happiness faded and you come to a realization that you were just infatuated about being a certain way with this girl and it didn't materialize so you're disappointed. You gotta be happy with yourself and your own life as a person before someone joins it. Just be you, do what makes you happy and she will find you more attractive. Stop supplicating to her needs because you see it slipping. The dating/relationship game never stops, you can't let yourself go. You gotta be the type of guy who is happy being himself. If you WERE happy before you met her, then be THAT guy again.
    I don't really know who I was before I met her. We were both young (I was 19 she was 18). I feel like Ive changed quite a bit since Ive gotten a real job and matured. I'm not happy when I spend time with her because its just forced.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by ProfessorMurder
    You could talk to her.
    Tried that a million times. Always turns into an argument about who's doing what wrong ect.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by Groovy Kat
    I don't really know who I was before I met her. We were both young (I was 19 she was 18). I feel like Ive changed quite a bit since Ive gotten a real job and matured. I'm not happy when I spend time with her because its just forced.
    Honestly, I don't know the whole marriage thing but I know a girl needs space/freedom so they can miss you, just saying. And life doesn't have to be so serious, if you aren't happy, change it. The goal of life is happiness and the only way you achieve that is by doing what YOU want, be selfish but also have a sense of right/wrong. I think you know what you have to do, but just want some clarity because you're on the fence...

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by Groovy Kat
    Tried that a million times. Always turns into an argument about who's doing what wrong ect.
    what's wrong with having an argument about such things?


    if you're both annoying each other in subtle ways then it's going to come out somewhere. a big part of marriage is about working through that stuff, or so they say... listening well and finding mutual solutions.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by Groovy Kat
    Things haven't felt right in a while. I feel like I try and she keeps on hating me no matter what. I think that I love her but it honestly feels like I would be better off single. We have a daughter together and that's the main reason we dont really consider divorce. I keep hoping it will get better but I'm starting to lose hope.

    She won't even kiss me really anymore. She just says she's not really into it anymore. I'm not happy but I want to be happy with her for the sake of our daughter and we really did have something at first.

    She says that's she's depressed and she really hasn't been the same since she had our daughter a little over a year ago. I dont know if I should just give up or what. Anyone have any advice or personal experience with this?
    "rather be from a broken home than in one" - Dr Phil

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Quote Originally Posted by Groovy Kat
    She says that's she's depressed and she really hasn't been the same since she had our daughter a little over a year ago.
    Having a child changes everything. What is your dynamic as far as who works and who watches the child? She could be resentlful you're not doing enough with the child or she may feel bad about herself that she's not being a good enough mother. Could also be a hormone imbalance, pregnancy can take a huge toll on a women's body.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Are you fat?

    Is she fat?

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Fat has a way of ruining marriages.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Fat people problems.

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    Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

    Couples therapy. Do it.

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