Good things to do after getting dumped?

[LJJ]

I don't know the deal, but it sounds like a familiar story you know. Lose your job, broke, girl graduates and gets new chances. A lot of women "suddenly" lose that spark when the relationship dynamic changes. Those are not the kind of women you want to be with.

Personally, rather than jumping feet first into the online dating game in the first days, if I were you I would hang back and relax and not worry about particular women for a bit. Play the same game you can expect the same results, maybe you need a change of pace if you want a different kind of woman. My life really changed for the better when after my last break up I just took a break from hunting and thought about what I really wanted rather than just roll from relationship to fling to relationship.

[Doomsday Dallas]

OP start a list of things you want to do , as well as clean out your mind of her....
Concentrate on you for a while , then find a girlfriend... go slow bro

I've always found that getting laid after a breakup is the best thing to do.

Doesn't matter if it's an upgrade or downgrade... just find a way to get laid.
(and not through means of prostitution)

and this is only if it's 'officially-official'



Strip Clubs will only make the pain of getting dumped worse...

but if you can find a woman that likes you enough to do some
some crazy things in the bedroom... this would be a good remedy.

Internet Dating too soon can be depressing as well.

[KyrieTheFuture]

I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that she dumped you and isn't moving out. Who the **** dumps someone but says they're still gonna live together a few months? She couldn't suck it up until January before calling it off?

[Doomsday Dallas]

I'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact that she dumped you and isn't moving out. Who the **** dumps someone but says they're still gonna live together a few months? She couldn't suck it up until January before calling it off?

$hit... I had to live with my ex-wife for a few months after we split.

We had a big enough house to where it wasn't too bad, but I couldn't
imagine having to put up with that kind of mess in a small apartment.

It happens to a lot of couples.

[KyrieTheFuture]

$hit... I had to live with my ex-wife for a few months after we split.

We had a big enough house to where it wasn't too bad, but I couldn't
imagine having to put up with that kind of mess in a small apartment.

It happens to a lot of couples.

That's divorce in what I would guess is a home you owned? This seems like an entirely avoidable situation (not for the OP, he got screwed over)

[~primetime~]

Every man needs to get their heart stepped on good at least once in life. It hurts like hell, but you grow from it as a human. You learn not to take women you care about for granted, and you learn how important and rare love is. It matures your soul.

For men, when a woman comes along and falls for us, at first they'll do anything we say, we own them. It's very easy for us to forget that they won't act like that forever, and when they stop doing backflips we get upset, like "wtf apparently you forgot I was God!" Then they leave and we are left in the realization of how good we had it, and how shitty we were to them.

[Long Duck Dong]

Every man needs to get their heart stepped on good at least once in life. It hurts like hell, but you grow from it as a human. You learn not to take women you care about for granted, and you learn how important and rare love is. It matures your soul.

For men, when a woman comes along and falls for us, at first they'll do anything we say, we own them. It's very easy for us to forget that they won't act like that forever, and when they stop doing backflips we get upset, like "wtf apparently you forgot I was God!" Then they leave and we are left in the realization of how good we had it, and how shitty we were to them.

I don't know if that's true for most of us. Any woman who tries too hard to please a man quickly turns to smothering, even boredom. In lots of relationships women try HARDER to please their man as time goes on but lots of guys get ancy when that happens. Same goes for women. If one partner tries too hard, that means the other is the one in control. Many really don't want that responsibility of being in control and find it burdensome. Might different if you are married with children, I wouldn't know.

[nathanjizzle]

man, my first love was a girl i started dating when we were 16, up until her college freshman year she left me. she instantly had a new boyfriend. i was a loser back then, not going to school and a miserable part time job. Young to 21 so the world was still an odd and unknown place and these feelings were new. it was the worst time of my life, very painful and dark. worst part lasted about a year and lingered for another. It can last that long if you mentally hold on to something and not put effort into moving forward. but i learned and grew from it and im as happy as ever and ive learned how to manage pain very well.

[Doomsday Dallas]

she left me. she instantly had a new boyfriend.

This is why I recommended getting laid asap.

The feeling of getting dumped is bad enough...
but the worst feeling ever is knowing your
ex-girlfriend is out banging some other guy
and you're all alone jerking off.

[Doomsday Dallas]

it was the worst time of my life, very painful and dark. worst part lasted about a year and lingered for another. It can last that long if you mentally hold on to something and not put effort into moving forward.

Pep Talk

[highwhey]

I don't know if that's true for most of us. Any woman who tries too hard to please a man quickly turns to smothering, even boredom. In lots of relationships women try HARDER to please their man as time goes on but lots of guys get ancy when that happens. Same goes for women. If one partner tries too hard, that means the other is the one in control. Many really don't want that responsibility of being in control and find it burdensome. Might different if you are married with children, I wouldn't know.

why is that? for all my relationships i never really tried much and ended getting dumped by the girls. my latest relationship, i actually tried but it was too late and got dropped like a rock.

i'm the coldest person i know though. i guess everyone is scared of compromising.

[SupermanOnSteroids]

dude this is what you do

contact yasir arafat

tell him you need to excavate her va gina

yasir arafat excavates her va gina

you keep it in a jar in your basement and finger it when you feel lonely.

[GimmeThat]

So I was dumped 10 days ago, I won't go through all the details but it was pretty awful. Anyways, since then I've been running 8 miles a day, reading a bit, and submitting a lot of job applications. I'm down to 200 lbs from 212, which is great. Just trying to keep my mind on other things. I've started the ol' online dating and have a few coffee dates set up and I've reached out to an old fwb for the obvious. The worst part is we have an apartment together and the lease doesn't expire until March, but she graduates college in December, so hopefully she bails at that point. Was curious if anyone has any good suggestions on things to do to keep busy. It's been tough. Thanks

either you don't know how to break up with someone, or porn just isn't working in your area it appears

I suppose there is the possibility of you calling the wrong type of fwb and am now regretting it. but you know, that's someone to pay rent for you, unless rent money also isn't an issue now as well.

but then, why not just pay for porn from the beginning?

[Jasper]

Fos pawned us all.

[highwhey]

i find that dating younger girls than before helps and makes the ex's jealous.