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Old 04-12-2014, 07:17 AM   #46
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Yep, stop being a p*ssy bro. Life isn't that long and do you really wanna go through this for the rest of it. It sucks thinking about it but once you end it, it'll feel like a burden got lifted off you

Sorry man but a year has gone by and you're still in this horrible relationship. Stop being a pu$$y and get on with it! Just say to her "I hate being in this relationship, it's over between us and I don't want to see you again".

If you want I'll do it for you?
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Old 04-12-2014, 08:20 AM   #47
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I was in a very similar relationship. Man, it was just hard to break up because me and this girl had not much middle ground. We were ethier really happy or fighting like crazy. Was with her for 2 years and gotdamn, she annoyed the shit out me at times. Always F.ucken bitching about some shit is not nice enough (like a decent hotel or bar simply to watch a game) when I'm the one paying. It's like c'mon bitch. We are In Vegas to ****en enjoy shit and be out not stay in the f.ucken hotel. And we would stay at nice hotels, it just wasn't the top notch expensive AF ones. I saw no point. Were there for 3 days, we just need... Nvm. This is about you.


Bro, you need to just take a shot of alcohol before you tell her. It sounds like you're suffering from "there's a good moment every 2 weeks" tjat gives you hope and shit that you'll continue with This bullshit. I was in your shoes, you know how f.ucken much happier I am to NOT deal with this crazy annoying manipulating B!? F.uck man it's a new world. Never enjoyed being single so much and banging all types of chicks!

Do it man. Enjoy being 22. You'll hit 25, then 30 and be married with regret soon
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Old 04-12-2014, 08:26 AM   #48
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We've had so many fights in the past and I have talked about a lot of this. We pretend everything is fine and move on when it's really not. She has no respect for me at all. Literally cusses at me and gets upset at everything. I just don't understand man...I do so much for her. But there's my problem. I'm not assertive and end up taking the flak. Sometimes she will go on a tirade about how much she hates me and wants to break up...that can't be normal? I just wish I had some balls.
Dawg she's probably borderline personality disorder. They just irrationally hate people for no reason, or irrationally idealize them and will never change without loads and loads of behavioral modification therapy. They have no concept of middle ground, or any concept that something might be their fault.

Does she avoid blaming herself for things? Does she ever take responsibility? Does she go back and forth and random from irrationally hating someone to liking them? Do you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her in fear of her blowing up irrationally?

Rip this chick off like a bandaid and dont contact her. Just cus you been together 2 years you dont owe eachother anything. If she is making you feel bad about yourself its not a good relationship to be in. Talk to her, tell her why you're breaking up with her, delete her number and facebook.


Next comes the hardest part, she will come to you asking to get back together, acting very sweet and probably dressed in a short skirt. At this point you must be strong and tell her no.

That will likely bruise her ego enough to not contact you anymore. If you do hook up with her when she comes back begging, you will fall back in to the same pattern.
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Old 04-12-2014, 08:35 AM   #49
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It's not that I'm afraid to be single. I guess I have become very attached...barely ever hang out with others anymore. I really do care about her feelings and her emotions though. It would probably kill me inside to think that she's heartbroken or what ever.

The problem is that she doesn't think she's wrong. She has a major ego problem and doesn't even know it. It's just so sad that I've invested so much into this. But I wouldn't want this for the rest of my life.
yep shes very likely borderline personality disorder. This bish is never going to change. I dated a girl like this once, sounds exactly like your one, only difference is I would call her out on bullshit when she tried to blame me for things I didnt do and I wouldnt be her bitch. But yeh everytime I tried to do something nice for her, like get her dinner somewhere nice or take her somewhere cool she'd just find some bullshit to complain about, and rarely said thank you as if she was entitled to shit.


I stayed with her longer then I should have because she was really hot and I tried very hard to convince her to get help, because I realized about a year in there was something messed up about her. But the fact she was hot and sex was good made me stick around a year too long, wound up dating that ho for 2 years sheeeit..

GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN BRO! Its hard but its the right thing to do. There's no reason you should make yourself miserable just to appease this one psycho chick.
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Old 04-12-2014, 08:44 AM   #50
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Appreciate all the replies. I would definitely call her verbally abusive, not to mention all the psychological pressure. I do think I'm probably holding on to the thought of what ideally could be with us. But again, we moved way too fast. Met all of her family and know them like they're my own..doesn't make it any easier.
dont let this ho guilt trip you or emotionally manipulate you. She's shone her true colours the past years, she's not going to change, she is happy who she is and doesnt see any problems in herself.

Yeah her family might call you or whatever, but just stop hanging out with them. Also you should tell them their daughter has psychological issues and needs treatment if they press you why you broke up with her.

GET OUT! GET OUT AS SOON AS YOU CAN MAN! I'M TRYING TO HELP YOU HERE! Imagine a girl who doesn't yell at you and blame you for bullshit, imagine a girl who does nice things for you even 2-3 years after you know her, imagine a girl who doesn't put you down at every opportunity. There are millions out there, and loads of them are hotter then your current girlfriend. Go meet them bruh, but yeah be single for awhile first and play the field
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Old 04-12-2014, 08:51 AM   #51
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Ugh. One year later. Same old story.

It's so difficult, man. Even harder to break up now because of living together and have pets together as well. I can't live my life this way...if it's this bad now...wtf would the future be like?

Could use some more encouraging words, fellas. I need to end this somehow someway...and soon.
holy shit asshole what are you doing! I didnt realize this was an old thread. SHEEEEIT SON! What the phuck were you thiking?!
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Old 04-12-2014, 11:07 AM   #52
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D-Rose, do you even have any friends anymore? I can't imagine anybody would want to be friends with a dude in such an unhealthy relationship. Probably can't stand to be around your gf.
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Old 04-12-2014, 11:34 AM   #53
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D-Rose, do you even have any friends anymore? I can't imagine anybody would want to be friends with a dude in such an unhealthy relationship. Probably can't stand to be around your gf.
Not too many, honestly. But that may also have to do with being so busy at school. Any free time would be spent just relaxing.
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Old 04-12-2014, 11:59 AM   #54
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2015 thread: how do I divorce her?

End it right now bro, all the attachments you claim - her family knowing you well/living together - those are easily broken off. You really think her family wouldn't turn on you in an instant if it came to choosing sides?
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Old 04-12-2014, 12:04 PM   #55
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Not too many, honestly. But that may also have to do with being so busy at school. Any free time would be spent just relaxing.
what the phuck is wrong with you? Are you content being miserable with the woman who is supposed to love you? Do you feel like you deserve this kind of abuse or something? Are you afraid you wont be able to find someone better? Holy shit just do something already, hell do it today. Just tell her its not working and to get the phuck out.

Otherwise you're gonna marry this abusive ho and live a life of MISERY. Is that what you want? You're only like 22. SHEEEIT.
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Old 04-12-2014, 12:07 PM   #56
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2015 thread: how do I divorce her?

End it right now bro, all the attachments you claim - her family knowing you well/living together - those are easily broken off. You really think her family wouldn't turn on you in an instant if it came to choosing sides?
The chick is going to give a one sided point of view that paints her as the innocent victim no matter what, and the family will believe her. The chick thinks everything is A-OK and it probably will come as a genuine shock when/if you actually do grow a pair of balls and tell her its done. She will try to paint OP as a guy who just left her out of nowhere, and herself as a poor victim. SO PHUCKING WHAT? GET OUT OF THERE OP! THIS IS YOUR LIFE! Do you want your life to be dedicated to appeasing some abusive psycho bitch who will probably start cheating on you if she hasnt already?
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Old 04-12-2014, 12:17 PM   #57
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Give her a reason to dump you.
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Old 04-12-2014, 04:40 PM   #58
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Young Sushi dropped a bunch of truth in this thread. Fix your life up now so you don't have to bump this thread again in a year saying that you're gonna get married and you're miserable
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Old 04-12-2014, 04:52 PM   #59
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ok bro, i was actually in a similar scenario. Im currently in a serious relationship like you, and a while back i just couldnt stand it anymore, so i let my girlfriend know how pissed off I was, and bascially I told her she either changes, or its over. That's my recommendation, if you two are fit for each other, then she will change for you. I think I am one of those conservatives( may be the only one, seeing as everyone seems to be pimps here :) that believes in true love, and that women are not all bitches. And well if she, after hearing you out doesnt give a ****, then theres no problem in ditching her.
edit:she changed and our relationship is amazing
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Old 04-13-2014, 03:58 PM   #60
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i dont want to jump in ending your relationship because i think if you are really tired you would have done it last year. I think you just dont like the fact that she controls you. A healthy relationship doesnt mean everything has to click when you want it to be. Ive been married for 10 years now and until now my wife and i would argue even on the smallest things. But doesnt even affect neither .

Talk to her i am sure you know when is the best time to do so. Try to lay down your cards if she really loves you then she would change but we cant force people we love to change but like what ive said if she loves you she would change.

If your only way after this is to break up and cant say it straight . pack your things when she is out everything that was given to you leave it to her. write a letter and go to a friend's house or a family member where she cant find you .
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