Have You Ever Gotten Seriously Heartbroken?

[fsvr54]

This is probably the wrong place to post this, but phukk it. It's an interesting conversation and an outlet.

How did you cope/deal with it? How long did the pain last? Did you go full no-contact for good? Did they come back? How did it change you and your approach to relationships going forward? Were you married?

This happened to me a little over a month ago, and it still sucks. I've improved surely, but there's times where it still hits hard. You think you finally found the right person...were together a year.

At 30, I'm at a point where I don't even feel like seeing anyone seriously anymore, it feels so risky. A woman telling you "I love you" has lost meaning. Any little friction and they run, that's not how anything real can ever last...millennials don't want to work through even the slightest issues. My parents have been together my whole life and I saw first-hand what a loving union can get through; it will never be all flowers and rainbows and people have to recognize this.

[highwhey]

This is probably the wrong place to post this, but phukk it. It's an interesting conversation and an outlet.

How did you cope/deal with it? How long did the pain last? Did you go full no-contact for good? Did they come back? How did it change you and your approach to relationships going forward? Were you married?

This happened to me a little over a month ago, and it still sucks. I've improved surely, but there's times where it still hits hard. You think you finally found the right person...were together a year.

At 30, I'm at a point where I don't even feel like seeing anyone seriously anymore, it feels so risky. A woman telling you "I love you" has lost meaning. Any little friction and they run, that's not how anything real can ever last...millennials don't want to work through even the slightest issues. My parents have been together my whole life and I saw first-hand what a loving union can get through; it will never be all flowers and rainbows and people have to recognize this.

i'm 29 and i feel the same way about the dating scene, but there are women out there in our age range that are looking to be serious and not just a casual hookup, they are the minority however.

you're right, for the most part women in our age bracket are not looking for any commitment and will flee at the sight of anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. sticking it out should be a good indicator of someone worth pursuing though. if they don't want to be vulnerable, you won't ever develop a meaningful relationship with that person. that's such a fundamental component of any relationship.

you're probably going to want to talk to women that grew up in a stable household and have parents that are still together.

[Doomsday Dallas]

This happened to me a little over a month ago, and it still sucks. I've improved surely, but there's times where it still hits hard. You think you finally found the right person...were together a year.

If you don't have kids with this woman, don't have the same mutual life long friends, and you don't work with her.... you should be fine, and you should absolutely go no contact.

[Doomsday Dallas]

It's really hard to give advice about heartbreak... everybody's situation is completely different.

I've had it 3 or 4 times, and it can f*ck you up good if you let it.

I'll say this... today when I look back at all the times I was heartbroken I can honestly say I was being a little bitch about it,... so really the only advice I can offer is to man up & move on.


there are good youtube videos out there that can be helpful:

[SouBeachTalents]

Time heals all wounds. No matter how devastating a relationship ending may be, give it enough time and the pain eventually subsides.

The more depressing aspect of a break up to me would be entering the bleak dating world. The majority of the good options are already off the market, and the competition for even the most marginally good looking ones is absolutely ridiculous.

I agree with what the other posters in this thread have said that in this day and age, people will run at the first sign of trouble in a relationship, men and women alike. Idk if it's due to unrealistic expectations from movies, the facade of the "happy" couples all posting their wonderful moments online, or the insanely easy access to countless dating apps where you can find somebody else in an instant. In regards to the latter, I guess when you have so many options at your fingertips, you're much less likely to work through that problems that will arise in every relationship.

[Chick Stern]

If you are sad, that means she initiated the break up.
It means she is likely already on another guys jock.
There is nothing good from being “friends” for you. She would just want to see that you are broke up over her.
She’s going to be more interested if you ignore her.
Move on. Go out and get some rebound tail.
Find a Halloween party with some slutty costume women attending.

Leykis 101
Rules ALL men should live by:

- NEVER, and I mean EVER...date a single mother.
- Follow the "three strikes and your out" rule. Which means if he/she hasn't put out in the first three dates, dump them.
- Never pick up your phone Friday through Sunday. Screen all of your phone calls.
- No cuddling after sex. You kick their *** out in time for Sportscenter.
- Always wear a condom. Even if she is on birth control. No exceptions.
- Never spend more than $40 on a date. And if she pays, all the better.
- Pick out the women with the lowest self esteem. The lower the better. Beautiful women normally have a very low self esteem.
- Get in touch with your "inner A-hole". Women are drawn to ********. If your a nice guy(*****), you won't get laid. She'll categorize you as her "friend".
- Women are attention ****** and will do almost anything to get it. So keep that in mind when you see some woman dressed to kill.
- Men, never have coffee or lunch with a woman unless you want to be "friends". Women have dinner with the men that they bang, not lunch or coffee.
- Women, you have no male friends. Every male you call a friend wants to bang the living **** out of you. If you don't believe me, then as a test...tell any one of your male friends that you want to sleep with them and see if they turn you down.
- Stay away from any women who says the words "All my friends are guys". That is trouble and should be avoided at all costs.
- If the person you are dating stops putting out, "Dump that bitch".
- Men, the reason why you are friends with a woman with the exception of having a past relationship with her...is that she doesn't find you attractive. The truth hurts. Move on.
- Men, the more confidence you show the better chances you have of getting the girl. Women smell a *****(figurative term for a man with no self esteem) a mile away and they can also smell confidence. Women are attracted to confidence almost more than anything else.
- Don't ever tell a woman you love her unless you really do. Don't do it especially just to get in her pants. The consequences are many and get you in to big trouble.
- If your girlfriend or boyfriend is spending a lot of time with a "friend" of the opposite sex, dump that bitch.
- Do not get married until you are at least 25 years of age.
- Do not buy her flowers until the second year you are married.
- Don't do anything in the beginning of the relationship you wouldn't normally do later in the relationship. Because her expectations of anything you do for her will cause you problems later.
- Never hold her purse. Unless you are a ***** or have a *****, you shouldn't be holding a purse.
- Always become unavailable during the holidays. Never pick up the phone close to holiday seasons. Especially Valentine's Day or Thanksgiving.
- Do not go to a concert with a woman if she invites you. Especially if she has backstage passes or has a friend in the band she is going to see. It just means she is there to **** the other guy. She probably just used you for the ride there.
- Never buy a woman a drink. It's just another way of a woman getting something she wants for free while the man thinks she's interested in him. (applies outside of relationships)
* Eat before you go out on a date. Purpose is that a woman normally wouldn't be caught dead eating more than her date. So this results in a lower costing date by the end of the evening. You tell her that you are trying to eat healthy.
* Do not order a bottle of wine. And the reason you don't when she asks is because you want to make sure you get her home safely. And to ensure this to the best of your ability, you don't want to drink any alcohol.
* If your date picks up their cell phone, silently get up and drive off without them. If they wouldn't give you the lack of respect to pay attention to you on the date, you don't give them the respect of driving them home.

[SATAN]

I'll say this... today when I look back at all the times I was heartbroken I can honestly say I was being a little bitch about it,... so really the only advice I can offer is to man up & move on.

Sums it up. She probably already has your replacement in mind or is out looking for him. Stop wasting your time obsessing over her. It's been a month. Enjoy your life.

[Stephonit]

Everything you need to know about life you learned in kindergarten.

[Axe]

About a long-time crush since teenager days, yes.

[Kobe_Bryant]

it only happens when you're a kid. after the 3rd or 4th girl sleeps with you and gives you an inflated ego because you no longer have a need of approval you start to only think of women as objects and partners. love is just your own insecurities showing. that's why the people who are most obsessed are jealous types. that feeling you get in your stomach is just your body telling you that you're a *****. it can come back later on in life if you're ever rejected because you begin to have self doubt. its why some couples force themselves to fight and women start useless arguments. they read in magazines that fighting helps build a relationship. but it only works if the guys a moma s boy. if he spites his mother and doesn't trust women because he had a deadbeat dad growing up then he will be driven away by fighting. it turns them off.

that's why things become boring over time. some men never recover from rejection or loss but you immediately forget about the woman prior. some guys take 2 years to move on cause they never go after a new woman. these guys become incels and let themselves get fat and ugly. and some guys end up going on a killing spree like Elliot Rodger because they never get that need of approval. but if he just got laid a few times he wouldn't be so angry with women and question himself. love isn't real. it's an endorphin. and even with all the best fights and jealousy it will eventually end after a few years because like any drug the body becomes used to it. the older you get the more you become addicted to porn and less likely to chase after women. I believe a healthy supply of testosterone supplements can help keep that desire strong. most men dont know that they're slowly turning into females over time. it's mother nature telling us that we shouldn't have kids anymore. don't let this happen. order a supplement kit today or you're gonna end up just jacking off your limp dick to porn every day after the age of 30. or cheating on your wife for needed extra excitement to get stimulated

[Manny98]

Nope never even been in love with someone yet

[j3lademaster]

Nope never even been in love with someone yet

you were a very mature teenager then. When I first started dating as a teenager I thought I was “in love” literally every time until I actually figured shit out.

[highwhey]

Patrick Chewing was quite sad when he heard the news about twinkies would no longer be made.

[j3lademaster]

Patrick Chewing was quite sad when he heard the news about twinkies would no longer be made.

twinkies are overrated. The rice crispy with the chocolate and caramel, the oatmeal cookie sandwich with the… were they marshmallows in the middle, and zebra cakes are way better.

[highwhey]

twinkies are overrated. The rice crispy with the chocolate and caramel, the oatmeal cookie sandwich with the… were they marshmallows in the middle, and zebra cakes are way better.

Interesting. I will pass this information to the Fat boy patrickchewing.